Rethink Emotional Eating | 101

How do I stop emotional eating? This is a question that comes up every single week in my office hours for the 60 day reset, and it's always a really constructive conversation for the whole group, because we are all emotional eaters, whether we're aware of it or not. And when we can look at our food

choices just with a gentle curiosity and take the judgment out of it. It helps us understand what drives our choices, so we can develop a relationship with food that feels balanced and joyful, where we feel in control of our food choices and feel good about those choices, instead of

feeling like a slave to them and feeling guilt and shame about them. And then we can have freedom and joy with food, no matter what we're eating and no matter who we're eating with. So how do we get there? That's what I'm talking about today. So let's dive in.

We are all emotional eaters, and it makes complete sense that we are because food is woven into the fabric of our everyday lives, we are eating multiple times a day, either alone or with friends and family, work colleagues, in social groups, out in public with a bunch of strangers at a restaurant, and

we're thinking and feeling beings, and that energy flows through us while we're thinking about food and while we're eating food, and so the way that we think and feel is always going to be connected to our food choices. We eat at celebrations, at birthday parties, at engagement parties,

weddings, funerals, graduations, work parties, vacations, holidays like Christmas and New Year's. For our birthday, it's a tradition where our family might make our favorite meal, or we might pick our favorite restaurants, or we feel like we're treating ourselves and we're celebrating by eating

something that makes us swoon. Food is linked to key memories in life, and we use food to comfort and control if we've had a stressful day, I'm going to eat that donut because I want the day to end well, and I deserve it after everything I've been through today, maybe

you struggled with your weight your whole life, and your mother has conditioned you to watch what you eat, or you'll gain weight, you'll get fat, or maybe put you on a diet when you were 12 years old. So now you feel guilty about eating treats because you might, you know, gain a few pounds or undo all

the hard work you did on that diet. You know, maybe you don't want to do it, but you keep doing it because it's sort of an act of defiance, a way to feel in control and exercise your own autonomy, whilst at the same time feeling really guilty and out of control about it.

We use food to remember maybe you're missing your grandma, who passed away and she baked your favorite chocolate cake that you used to make together. So you make it, and you remember licking the spatula together when you were four years old. The smell of freshly baked bread conjures up a memory of doing

the crossword with your dad, you know, while your mum was making breakfast when you were a kid. There's so many examples of this, and there's good memories, and maybe painful memories.

Often the fear and the regret and the guilt and the shame around food eclipses the joy, and it can keep us in a situation where we feel like we're a slave to our food choices and the constant noise around food, whether it's about weight gain or, you know, weight loss, weight management, or

whether it's about health, high cholesterol or diabetes, or whether it's you can't fit into your clothes, or whether it's just you you think that you shouldn't be eating that because it's bad for you, or whatever the reasons are. There's a lot of noise and a lot of narratives and stories that we have around

food

that we pick up from our family, from society, from relationships, from other things that have happened in our lives.

So I want to offer you a shift in perspective that I give our clients in the 60 day reset that really helps people move into an empowered and balanced and joyful relationship with food. So instead of thinking about emotional eating as a disorder or a problem that needs to be cured, or a habit that you need

to feel ashamed of, a weakness, I'm

going to encourage you to celebrate that you are aware that your emotions are tied to your food choices, just like everybody else, so that awareness is really something that we can work with, because awareness is very powerful. There are a lot of people walking around right now that

are not thinking that they're an emotional eater, but we know that they are, because everybody is so the fact that you know that let's work with that, let's work with it, as opposed to against it. And you.

Use that awareness as an invitation to look at what drives your choices in every part of your life.

So as a coach, that awareness gives me a lot to work with, so a lot of people will enter our program and feel very embarrassed about that and that they've got to be fixed. So it's a puzzle, it's not a problem. And so awareness is always a really, really rich, juicy place to start to work with anything.

And so as a coach, I use

your relationship with food as a portal of discoverability to help you understand all of your choices so that you can control them instead of them controlling you, because how you choose to nourish yourself or not is a direct reflection of how you think about yourself in every part of your life. It's

connected to your self esteem and self worth and what you believe that you are capable of. So after coaching 1000s of people now with what over 30,000 people have done our programs at this point, but 1000s of people have done our 60 day

reset, I have never seen an example where this is not true, where we can look at the relationship with food and see how it directly correlates to other parts of life. So as I said before, when we choose to look at our relationship with food with with curiosity and not judgment, we can create a path

towards freedom with our food choices, and, by extension, all of our choices. So this is what's really exciting for me as a coach in our program, that we get to sort of zoom out together and then zoom in when we want to, and really look at the whole picture and how your relationship with food fits in

to your relationship with other things in your life, and that's when we can really start to develop a cohesive plan to find that lovely place where food exists in your life, so that it is fun and joyful, so Just gently pay attention to your food choices that's mindful eating. And mindful eating is

the path to peace and control with food. And the term mindful eating has really been distorted, particularly in wellness circles. It's often sort of synonymous with this idea of, well, I only eat healthy food. I would never eat a donut or a piece of pizza or or a glass of alcohol, like it's

just that's just bad for your body. I don't think that's sustainable. I don't think it's much fun. I think it's too extreme. I don't really know what to do with that, because I want to lead a full, rich life where I get to experience a bit of everything. You know, I don't want to limit my choices like

that. And I don't encourage any of our clients to limit their choices like that. That's not realistic. So the definition of mindful eating that my dietitians and I embrace and teach in our program is the act of paying attention to your eating experience without judgment. And the without

judgment piece is the key to all of it. We are so hard on ourselves, we judge ourselves, we have a mean girl voice in there, and we're so much harder on ourselves than we are on anybody else, and that's something that we get taught as well.

So using the relationship with food becomes a very powerful self awareness tool. So I came to this, this way of coaching people through my own personal experience. So I've been there, I've been an extreme person with a very unbalanced relationship with food. So I grew up in a very conventional meat and three

veg family where we were omnivores with a dilemma. Before Michael Pollan made that fashionable with his book, my mom cooked very healthy meals from scratch, and we ate everything, and I had a very joyful relationship with food. I was very fortunate that I didn't have parents that, you know,

taught me to diet or worry about my weight or limit my choices in that way, and I know not everybody has that. So I had a very good foundation with the way that my parents modeled their relationship with food and relationship with food in general.

So I sort of ate and didn't really think much of it. I just enjoyed food. And then when I was a teenager, I was diagnosed with Epstein Barr Virus. I just had extreme lethargy and and I won't go into too much detail with my personal story, because I talk about this in episodes 123, and four of the podcast. If

you want to hear in detail my personal story and my coaching philosophy and how it came to be, please go and listen to those four episodes. But I'll just give you the the cliff note version. So I.

I went, my mom took me to a naturopath, which was considered very hippy dippy back then about, you know, gosh, over 35 years ago now, and he suggested that I'd make some changes to the way that I was eating. So I went gluten free, dairy free, sugar free, and I started eating fermented foods and really

looking at the quality of what I was doing. And within a matter of days, I felt so much better. And so that was really the impetus into a revolution in the way that I ate, where I recognized food as medicine, and food is a very powerful tool for healing, and that I had the power to control how I felt in

my body. So that was really the seed of my coaching philosophy and how I thought about food. But then I went into the extremes. I was going to master the art of my own health and find the perfect test diet that was going to bring me to optimal health no matter what.

Ooh. So I really bought into the dogma and the preachers and the this diet and the that diet, and I really became one of those annoying people that found the answer every six months, and then tried to recruit everybody that they knew I was like a food evangelist, and really fell into a bit of restriction. And, well,

not a bit, quite a bit of restriction. And oh, I'm not going to eat this, and I'm not going to eat that, and oh, it's going to make me tired and all the things. And then on my 18th birthday, we had been dreaming of going to this really incredible restaurant in Singapore, and my parents made a

booking, and it was a big treat, you know, again, food as a treat, we're going to go to this amazing place, this super expensive restaurant that we normally wouldn't go to. And I was really excited, and we sat down, and the waiter came over, and you want to hear about the specials? And then I launched

into, yes, yes, yes, but I just need to let you know that I'm gluten free. And my dad said, could you just give us a minute?

And he turned to me and said, You know I love you, but I got to tell you some things that I've been wanting to tell you for a while, and you're 18 now, and I know that you can handle it. We are sick of watching you starve yourself, restrict food, tell everybody what you can't have and spend five minutes

ordering around the menu, and food should be fun, right? It's one of the great pleasures of life. Don't you want it to be fun? Because you love food. Food is awesome. So why would you restrict the possibilities for yourself?

And it was a very, very key turning point in my life and my relationship with food, because I knew that he was right, he was right, and that's when I recognized that flexibility, rather than rigidity, were the keys to happiness and a joyful relationship with food. And then that really led into my

philosophy of food when I wrote the blender girl cookbooks where I was using different notes and flavors and philosophies and cultures and blending them to create the test diet, where I embraced bio individuality and I embraced a fluid approach, not a static approach to food that could change according to my

needs as I aged and so all of those things really informed my approach to food, and it is the approach that I teach all of our members now, is that we're not chasing static goals. And I stopped tying my identity to dietary preferences and thinking about food in all the way, all the things that I couldn't do.

Instead, I started putting my lens over all of the things that I could do, and all of the ways that I enjoyed food and all the ways that food fed possibility in my life and fed joy in my life, and that's what I'm encouraging you to do.

So

as I said, my coaching approach is really born out of my personal experiences, just like all of of what we do feeds everything else that we do.

So if you're thinking that being a vegan or being vegetarian or pescetarian, omnivore, low carb, gluten free, keto, whatever it is, people introduce themselves that way. And I'm not really sure what to do with that, except feel a little bit limited and pinned in by it. So I don't know how you feel about that,

but

and other people will. Another thing people tend to do is introduce themselves a you know, I'm a person who did it, did it? Did it? Fill in the blank.

We tend to identify ourselves by our habits and our choices, instead of just by our desires or by our character or or what we like. Let's just leave it at that, what we like, and maybe not identifying or putting ourselves into any box. Just Oh yeah, that sounds good today. What about just for today and

not actually cementing anything unless, of course, we have a food allergy or an intolerance or a health issue where we need.

To be doing something. Of course, those things are all valid and very real, and I'm not negating those by any stretch, but just in general terms, it just feels a lot more free. There's just a lot more possibilities to play with, and not a lot of limitations. Again, unless we have severe food

allergies or needs.

I'm an Enneagram seven, so I'm very much driven by freedom, you know, and and not wanting to be limited. But I do think that it's a beautiful place to be dwelling in possibility, where we don't exile any of our choices, we own, all of them, even the ones that might make us feel a little bit uncomfortable,

that might be, perhaps forming habits, the things that we're doing over and over and over, just resisting that urge to feel shame about them and just kind of going well. That's what I did. That happened. I made that choice. What am I going to learn from it?

So giving every part of our self a seat at the table, and I've told this story quite a bit on the podcast, but I'll tell it again within the context of this conversation where you conversation where, when I went to my somatic therapy, my somatic therapist, Pete Coles, who I've had on the podcast, he

said to me, oh, let's give everything at the seat at the table. And and he said, What does your table look like? And it was really interesting. I went right into hierarchy, and my table was this kind of long, rectangular table, kind of in this medieval castle was sort of how I was imagining. It was very

draconian, and

all the things that I was proud of were all at the head of the table, getting all the best food, and all the things that I wanted to shun, and I was embarrassed about myself. We're all at the end of the table. I couldn't all even almost see them or hear them, and they were all eating the crumbs and had

none of the food.

And so Pete said to me, what about putting everybody at a round table where everybody has a, you know, equal access to everything? There isn't any hierarchy. There's no good or bad or judging any of it. It's just all there. It's all part of you.

And that really changed a lot for me.

And so I offer that to you, to just put everything at a round table, and everything has value, and everything has a right to be there,

so our choices don't define us, they refine us. That's another adjustment I'll offer. So instead of looking for this generic diet that maybe is out there and is being offered to you, what about looking for the you way of eating that works for you today? So I'm always thinking about the test the test

diet, or the test way of eating that's working for my body at this phase of life, so allowing your food story to be fluid and evolve and be personal to you and your needs and your desires and lifestyle, just paying attention and collecting the data, listening to what makes you feel Good and what doesn't

make you feel good

so often during my office hours every week, people will be really amazed at the insights that I'm able to offer with an initial conversation or a relatively brief conversation. And yes, my intuition is very strong, and I trust it, and I do hear things and I am guided.

But really, what's guiding me the most is I am listening to your story, the choices that you're sharing with me, and the words and language and phrases that you use to express yourself. So I could choose to tell the same story 100 different ways with a lot of different words. There's a lot

of paths to telling a story, and I find that it's very, very illuminating the language that we choose to use. So I'm using your lens on your life as my primary guide to understand you better, so that I can help you hold yourself with more love and care and grace.

So instead of restricting your choices, we can open up more possibilities. So that's what we work on together in our 60 day reset. So this is this, this relationship with food piece is a really big part of why our program is so successful for so many people, because it's a holistic approach. So yes, you

get the nutrition education. You get access to the dietitians and the medical practitioners who help you develop a custom eating plan that fits your dietary preferences, your budget, your needs, your lifestyle. You'll get all of the recipes, you'll get the meal plans, you'll go all that concrete stuff, but the

mindset piece, and looking at your relationship with food and how it fits into your life is a huge and critical piece of the puzzle, and I think that's what's missing from most diets, programs, approaches, because.

Is, if we don't address that piece and make healthy living and eating joyful, then it's not sustainable, because we're not addressing the root cause of the emotional eating, of the food choices of you know what we're doing, so when we do that piece of the work, then we're able to lose weight, reach our goal

weight, maintain our weight, sleep through the night, have energy, lower our blood pressure and cholesterol, optimize our blood sugar and hormones, whatever our goals are, but ultimately,

the goal is the same, to reach optimal health, reach our goals and feel good about what we're doing. That's always the goal for everybody. That's the common goal. And so that's why the community aspect of doing the program in community with other people is such a vital piece of it as well. Going through the

program with other people and getting on the live coaching calls and hearing what other people have to say, and hearing other people's stories and questions helps us understand that we're not alone in our struggles, that we're all grappling with the same issue. How do I love myself and take

care of myself and feel good about what I'm doing so that I can have a happy life? If I had $1 for every person in our program that writes an email or says on one of the calls, I feel like you're talking to me when you're talking to that other person,

I'd own my own island and invite you to have this conversation in person. We don't become who we are in a vacuum. As a co creation aspect of identity, we live together in this world. We don't do it alone, and we need to know that we're not alone, and we need to be reminded that we're not alone. So

when you're looking at your relationship with food, look at it with love and kindness, like you're helping your child or your partner or your parent or your best friend, we always talk to others much more gently and kindly than we do to ourselves. So that's an exercise that I give to a lot of our members. I

want you to talk to yourself the way that you would talk to the person you love the most.

It shifts things, the timbre of our voice, the language that we choose. We're a lot more mindful in the way that we express ourselves and tell the story, because we don't want to hurt the people that we love. So why do we we don't seem to have any problem hurting ourselves, torturing ourselves, being nasty

to ourselves. Often, our inner voice is a real bitch, which is very, very cruel. So again, just looking at your food choices with a gentle curiosity. Why? Why do I do that? Huh? Oh, that's interesting. Sort of that approach.

I mean, I love personality tools like the Enneagram, Myers, breeds true colors and all that kind of thing, but I've really built a system in my head as a coach for using our relationship with food as an awareness tool, and it is a very, very effective way of working. So here are some of the questions that I ask some

of my clients all the time, who is the dominant voice in your head, it's always apparent, and are the stories that that voice is telling you? Are they actually true? Are they yours? Are they relevant to you now at this phase of life, do those stories help you be the best version of yourself? Help expand

the possibilities for you and help you make you feel like you can do anything and be anything, or do they hold you back and keep telling you, no, you can't. No, no, you don't deserve that. No, that's not for you. Don't you dare go near that.

So often that voice is in there. So Whose voice is that? So being aware of that can really, really help to help in this

development of a healthy relationship with food is that old adage of our family knows how to press our buttons because they installed them.

So we come out with hardware, our genes, and then everything else is software, and we can upgrade the software at any time. So this family conditioning is a very big piece of our relationship with food. We get taught what is good and what is bad by our parents and grandparents and aunts and

uncles and other family members. We get taught the family way what's acceptable in the family, the way that we do things. We learn where food sits in life from our family. We pick it up. We pick up constant dieting. If our mother was always on a diet and always restricting and controlling and stressing about

food, we pick up on that. If your parents always cooking from scratch and going to the farmer's market and valuing fresh food and playing with flavors, we pick up on that too,

feeling guilt and shame about food. Ooh, don't do that. You're going to be fat. We pick up on that. And then we have societal conditioning. So we have diet culture. We get conditioned that the only way to be skinny and sexy is to control and restrict and and eat less and diet. And then we have all the advertising

for all the products and all the influences in social media. You know.

Beauty and fashion and films and TV shows and ads and and food products, diet products, medication supplements. We're just flooded with this messaging that we need to be restricting and we need to be on something in order to get results.

One of the big reasons why I called our program skinny 60 was because I really wanted to reframe the way that we think about weight and where weight fits into the equation and our relationship with food. So if the name skinny 60 brings up diet baggage, like it does for many people, it's meant to

that restriction, that perfection, that punishment, that judgment, that is around food, that is not what we're about. In skinny 16 in our program, we're interested in the whole story, the whole food story, and then how the food story intersects with the bigger story, not just your weight, not

just about what you can and can't eat. So skinny 60 is not about shrinking your body. It's about expanding your life. And we get the skinny, the information on what makes your body run better, so when you know how to nourish your body strategically and efficiently in a joyful, expansive way. You're

not thinking about food 24/7, food cravings don't rule your life. You're not worried about every single thing that you eat. You're not afraid to eat out or go on vacation because of the food choices. You're not stressed about opening your closet because nothing fits. And you're not stressed about your

weight and your health all the time. You can finally lose weight, maintain a healthy weight, and have freedom and joy with food.

So it's an interesting exercise to think about.

Do you think in terms of good or bad with food? There's good foods and there's bad foods. Who taught you that parents, family, also society. We get taught that all the time. Oh, well, potato chips are bad, but they're really yummy, but, but, you know, a salad is good. Some people are taught, you know, a

lot of different things and what's good and bad. Again, I think that's very restrictive

in terms of food, you know, it's very black and white way of thinking about it. So if you do fall into that, where does that black and white thinking show up in other parts of your life, and how does that feed into your thoughts about food?

I prefer to just think of them as foods. There's just lots of different foods that are available to me, and what am I going to choose to eat today?

There's a lot more freedom and fun with that. So just thinking about, does that make me feel good? Does that feel good to me today? Does that is that something I want today?

Another question is, do you live in extremes? So you're either on the wagon eating really, really well, or you're off the wagon, off the reservation, indulging yourself and comfort eating.

Again, it's sort of this, this or that, like to the very extremes. And I think that it's much more constructive to be finding ourselves in the middle somewhere of the story. So if you're extreme with food, where else are you extreme?

And how can we just find a little bit more gentleness and flexibility with things? Are you into cancel culture? Like, do you go on vacation? Let's say you're going on your dream trip to Paris, and you know, you're eating the crepes and the pastries and the croissants. I mean, why wouldn't you I do that

when I'm there too. I mean, my goodness, you can't go there and not eat all that yummy stuff, right? But are you stressing the whole time, thinking that you've undone all of the stuff you've done on that diet or that program, or whatever you've been doing at home by yourself now that you've done that, and

you're thinking about it all the time, and it plays a huge part in the narrative around this, this dream holiday? Well, I may as well. I may I may as well just eat and eat and eat and just do it when I get home, because I've ruined everything anyway.

Are you a score keeper?

Do you count calories? Do you count macros? Do you do you track every little thing that you're doing? And it's kind of like a system of checks and balances. Are you more interested in numbers on a spreadsheet or patterns, feelings, experiences, just noticing the whole story. We

don't exist on a page. We are not our numbers. So again, interesting. Maybe that's a safe way to look at things, because it's tangible, it's predictable. It's something you can get your head around, rather than the intangible, the overwhelming nature of emotions and the you know, the infinite possibilities

around those intangible parts of the story.

Are you a withholder? Do you withhold things from.

Yourself and others, as punishment, as restitution, as as a do over, as a as something that can help reframe the story so that you feel better about it. Is restriction and punishment a strategy so that you can feel like you're in control. And where else does that play out?

Are you an all or nothing person, or an either or person or a both and person? I love both and because I don't think it needs to be either or the salad or the pizza. It doesn't have to be that I'm on the diet or I'm not on the diet, I think that it's both. And I think that we can find a place for all of

the things in balance. So can you allow yourself to eat all of the foods that you enjoy in balance? Find that balance of self care and fun. I believe you can have your cake and eat it too. You just can't do it all the time every day. We know that sugar causes inflammation, and it's at the root of all disease

in large quantities, but we can find an appropriate and joyful place for the cake. We can enjoy a piece of cake when we choose to, and enjoy it and not feel any guilt about it. We can also eat the salad on this in the same day and enjoy that too.

So if me suggesting both and brings up anxiety and fear in you all, I can't do that because I can't just have one piece of cake. I've got to have all the cake. Or if I eat one piece, I'm going to keep eating it.

I think that's a limiting way of thinking about what you're capable of, I think that if you think about it, in your life, you have been able to stop at one or go when or say enough in other parts of your life. So you could absolutely develop that skill in this part of your life. And when you start to to nourish

your body strategically and effectively and regulate your blood sugar, food cravings disappear anyway, right? So it's all part of the biggest strategy anyway. But if you don't believe that you can have both why who installed that button in you that you don't believe that you can, I choose to feel zero guilt

and shame about food. If I'm embarrassed, I'm eating whatever, right? But I'm also having the salad, and I'm also going for a walk, and I'm making sure I'm hydrated, I'm doing it all. I'm not missing out on anything.

So I invite you to come along with me. Just enjoy food, you know. And again, obviously, I'm adept at this, because I've been I know about food and nutrition, and I teach this stuff, and I know how to find that balance, but it is a skill that you can acquire, too.

And again, what do we get good at? What we practice, what we do a lot. So you just start doing it, and you get better at it, right? And so if you think I don't eat a donut every once in a while, I do. If you don't think I don't eat cake and potato chips, I do. I just don't do it. Every day. I eat a lot of

healthy food and when I'm celebrating with friends and family, or maybe on a random Wednesday, just because I have those other things too. So we just find our place for everything.

Are you a rule follower? It's another interesting thing. I like to ask people, do you like a plan? Do you respond well, with clear parameters and someone telling you what to do. So if you have a meal plan and recipes and you're told what to do by a dietitian, do you feel comfortable and confident that

you know exactly what to do and it makes you feel safe?

Or are you a rule breaker? Do you want more freedom? Do you want to you don't want to be penned in by someone else's plan and like a, you know, a set thing. You want to be able to riff and and you want to be the lead dog and make all the decisions. I don't think there's a right or wrong. It's just

acknowledging what makes you feel safe and what makes all what makes you feel like you have the freedom to be who you are. So just being aware of what your personality is and what you respond to, and what makes sets you up for success is a really key part of this.

Are you rigid or flexible? I think that we're both depending on the parts of our lives, but we're we tend to be dominant in one can you allow yourself to go with the flow, or do you like to put things in cement? What makes you feel safer. Are you open to new ideas? Do you like to experiment? Do you do you give

yourself permission to riff and go off script, Off Plan? Do you trust yourself to do that with a recipe or with social plans? Are you a yes and person or a no but person?

Do you discount things before you've even tried them? People do that a lot with food. No, I don't like that. Well, how do you know you haven't tried it? Oh, God, actually, I do like mushrooms when they're cooked that way.

So we tend to have fixed ideas about what we like and don't like. So that's that's very.

Very interesting to look at, too in terms of food and how that plays out and in other parts of your life.

Or are you open to just, okay, I'll give that a try. Having one bite. That was what I was taught as a child. Well, you are absolutely within your right to say you don't like that food, but you got to try it first, Just have one bite, and then we got to revisit it next year, you know? And it really, it really

set me up. Well, you know, I could not stand tomatoes when I was a kid, and now I absolutely love them. Same thing with mushrooms. Oh, my goodness, I would die if I couldn't eat mushrooms. I love them so much, right? But as a kid,

that was like poison to me. There's no way, you know. So we can't. And physiologically, our taste buds change, and they change pretty quickly. So that's another thing that happens a lot in our program. People learn to love things that they've never eaten before or didn't think that they liked or previously

didn't like. I mean, that happened, that continues to happen to me. I don't really feel like that for a while. Six months, 12 months might go by, roast doesn't feel good, and then I'm I'm back into it. So allowing ourselves to have that, that fluid, changing relationship with with

ingredients, with different foods as well. Are you a creature of habit? Do you eat the same breakfast and the same few dinners all the time? Does routine make you feel safe, or does routine suffocate you and what's the pace of your eating, we also get into habits about that, right? Like, are you? Do

you like to pick? Do you like to graze? Do you are you binging? Is it all or nothing? Are you starving yourself and only eating one meal a day or two meals a day?

Snacking gets a bad rap, because often we're snacking on potato chips and candy bars, but we love snacking. In our program, if you're snacking on quality foods, is actually really, really great way to regulate your blood sugar. Is eating every every three hours or so. So we're big on meals and snacks

and not limiting when we can eat and how we can eat. It's also a much more fun way to eat, by the way. I don't know about you, but I love food, and I want to eat what I want to eat. So when we learn how to eat strategically. We've got the freedom to do that, and we don't have to worry about putting on weight, because

we know exactly what's working for our body and what

isn't. So how does your pace of eating match the rhythm and cadence of your work, your relationships, your internal reality, your life? I find that when I'm coaching people and I'm thinking and looking, thinking about and looking at what they're eating, it always it pattern forms in their life and

their approach to things. So just pay attention to that and see, see what happens when you when you look at that,

how are your choices affected by the choices of others. This comes up a lot in in our office hours.

Well, I'm worried, because when we sit down and we watch TV at night, my husband likes to eat ice cream, and, you know, he doesn't put on weight, and can just do it, but I can't do it, and it's making me put on weight. And I just, you know, he makes it for me, and I feel like I've got to eat it or, or

another example I can think of is people will say, Well, when I go out, you know, everyone's having a glass of wine, so I feel like I have to have a glass of wine. And they're all having the buffalo wings and the French fries. And, you know, I don't want to do that. Okay, so paying attention to how that plays out

in other parts of your life, like, how do other people's choices inform your choices? And why do you have to do what everybody else is doing? Why can't you just say, Oh, you enjoy it. You know, none for me, thanks. I'm just going to have, you know, as buckling water or whatever it might be. You're

allowed to do that. And if other people have a problem with that, that's about their self awareness and their journey and their choices. It's actually not about you and their reaction about it's not about you. So taking that on is something that we learn to look at as well. So again, how your awareness

extends to your awareness of other people's awareness, right, without judgment, again, but that's their journey.

So what is your investment in you?

This extends to the relationship with food. Do you feel guilty about spending time and money on you, on your self care? Is that a value to you? So I get this a lot. Oh, I'm cooking just for me. So what's the point? What do you mean? Just for you? You're the most important person in your story. Relish the

opportunity to cook for you. So cook it in your favorite, your most beautiful pan. Get out a wine glass and put your your drink in a wine glass, you know,

set the table and have eat it out of your favorite pottery. Make it an event for you, and that that shifts things. You know, where the event can be just for you, not just for you. You know that the way that we approach.

Which our own self care is indicative of our regard for ourselves. You are the leading character in your story. Self care is not narcissism. They are not the same thing. We can practice self care and also be interested in the care of others. We can do both. But self care, I would argue, is a non

negotiable part of life. It has to happen, and we can actually give more to the people in our lives when we're showing up as the best version of ourselves, as the full version is the healthy version is the strong version. So it has to happen.

So what is worth spending time on? That's another big part that feeds our relationship with food. Oh, I don't have time to eat healthy. I don't have time to make that a quick salad. I don't have time to roast those vegetables, to grill that piece of fish, as opposed to, you know, going through the

McDonald's takeout window or something.

Time is,

it is an obstacle that we put in the story a lot as an excuse for a lot of things in life, but particularly with health and nutrition. I see it all the time that we choose to see ourselves as time poor. Now I'm not suggesting for one second that you may not be extremely busy with work and with kids and with

family or volunteering or whatever it might

be, but we we choose where we spend our time,

and so a lot of us are spending a lot of time scrolling on our phones on Instagram or Tiktok or Facebook or, you know, sitting at home and watching TV and all these things. Well, we could be doing that while we're make spending 15 minutes making a salad or something. So we can do both.

So what is worth spending your time on? You get to decide. I think spending some time on self care is a really good use of time, because a minute takes 60 seconds to pass, no matter what we do, but the way that we experience that time is absolutely dependent on how good we feel. If we're not feeling

good, we're not going to have as much fun as we would have when we're the healthiest version of ourselves, so we take time now to take care of ourselves, so that we buy time later, meaning that we don't die sooner than we need to, because we get a disease because we didn't take care of ourselves.

So where do you choose to experience your hard and where do you choose to experience your easy? So a lot of people are front loading, easy and front loading, yeah, front loading, easy and back loading, hard. I go for front loading hard and back loading easy, meaning everything is easy and

everything is hard. I could say this about absolutely anything that you presented to me. So an example, let's go with the McDonald's example again. So driving through McDonald's and picking up takeout is easy. You don't have to buy the vegetable or the food, you don't have to shop at the grocery store, you

don't have to cook, you don't have to wash up the dishes. You don't do any of that. So you save time, and you front loaded your easy and you got the McDonald's. But then the hard comes in because it's hard to digest. And then if we do it all the time, life gets harder because we get high blood

pressure and cholesterol. I mean, anyone that's watched the Super Size documentary knows this, right? What happened to that guy was unbelievable, right? His health just continued to decline because he ate fast food all the time, right?

And then your body bounces back really quickly when when you start to nourish it. So life gets hard, it's harder to digest, and then life gets a whole lot harder when we get a disease. Conversely, if we front load our harder, where we go to the grocery store, we spend the time on making making the

healthy meal, and we wash off the dishes, yeah. And then it gets easier because it's easier to digest, and then life is easier because we're strong and healthy and we're not getting diseases, and we don't have nuclear don't have niggly aches and pains, and we don't have to say no to things because of our

health. Never let your health be the reason why you say no to anything. They've got to be your yeses and your nos on your own terms. And our health determines the yeses and nos that we're able to give in life.

So

choosing where we experience our heart and our easy and I think it's a mixture of all. You know, I eat out at a restaurant and and eat easy things and then cook at home. I do a mixture of all of it. It doesn't have to be one or the other, but we get to choose.

So if you're limiting your choices, your food choices, where else are you limiting the possibilities for your life? If you're not taking care of yourself, you're limiting your possibilities.

And are you focusing on quality or quantity? I think that we can focus on both, by the way, but I'm always going to go for quality first. So do you obsess about your portions? Is there a cap on how much you're allowed to have on the plate. Are you paying attention to the quality on your plate as well as the

quantity? Are you paying attention to the quality of your relationships, of everything that you're consuming, your food, drinks, ideas, influences, political leaders, relationships, content. How do those things affect you?

How do they feed into your philosophy about everything? How do they change you? How do you allow them to change you?

With food cravings, particularly sweet cravings. A lot of people have salty cravings too, like, I just want potato chips, you know, at night when I'm watching TV or something. But most people it's sweet cravings. I just want sugar. My God, I think about sugar all the time, like I just want something sweet. And the

question I always ask is, what is it that you're actually craving?

And again, I've never seen an example where this isn't true. When somebody has sugar cravings, most of the time, they're craving sweetness in their life. They're craving attention, love, acknowledgement, validation. They want to be seen and heard. They're lonely a lot,

is what I see.

So what are you actually craving? And I'm not saying that blood sugar doesn't absolutely affect sweet and salty cravings in our health status. That's a physiological thing in the body absolutely but as I said before, when you learn how to nourish yourself strategically, your blood sugar and your hormones

are regulated. Your gut health is good, your digestion is good. All the things that we do in the 60 day reset, food cravings start to go away. It's kind of miraculous. People are amazed at how it works. So it's very much a chemical thing as well, but often it's an emotional craving.

Do you actually want that or do you want that over there? What is it that you're actually wanting?

Are you interested in the ingredients or the outcome?

Do you focus on process and progress and celebrate that, or are you only focused on outcome? Where's the attachment?

So I love focusing on process and progress and finding ourselves and acknowledging that we're always in the middle of the story. We're never done. Done is dead, and I'm in no hurry to get there. I don't know about you.

Are you careless with your body and your life? Or are you careful? Carelessness is being modeled by world leaders in some very high profile places, and it's ugly and horrible, there is a carelessness with which we hold life and our health and our regard for ourselves and each other.

I'm inviting you to uplevel

your care and to be careful, mindful, as opposed to careless and mindless.

There's a reckless, casual disregard for consequences in a lot of parts of life.

There's a lack of consideration for the impact that our choices have on ourselves and others.

So I'm just inviting you to think things through. This is an exercise that I give a lot to to our clients. Is the power of the pause,

just taking a minute to pause just think things through and go, Oh, I'm going to think before I speak. I'm going to think before I shove that donut in my mouth and not even taste it and not even remember eating it,

just going to think about whether I actually want that. It's going to take a breath, and then I'm going to

decide

another exercise that I give is playing the movie all the way through. So when you've got a food craving, you're thinking you want that. You think you're going to not go and chop up the vegetables and roast the ones that you bought at the grocery store a few days ago that are sitting in your fridge at home.

You're just going to drive through the drive through, because you're exhausted, thinking and playing the movie all the way out. Okay, well, yeah, you know what? I'm really tired, and I don't, I don't actually feel like doing that, so I'm just going to drive through McDonald's.

Oh, well, you know what? It's going to be easier, and I'm going to eat it, and it's going to feel probably tasty or maybe not, for a few minutes, and then I'm going to feel gassy and bloated, and then I'm going to get constipated, and then I'm going to feel guilty that I did it, and then I'm not going to

sleep through the night, and then I'm going to be tired when I wake up. And

huh, do I really want all of those consequences? Actually, I don't. So sometimes that's an effective exercise, and sometimes you go and do it anyway, and who cares, right? It's just a choice. You learn from it. You live with the consequences. You move on. Tomorrow's a new day. I mean,

you know, no judgment again, but I do think that it's, um, it's an exercise that that is useful.

When you're eating, do you stay present? Do you? Do you taste the food? Do you smell the food? Do you chew the food? Do you remember what it tastes like? Do you? Do you recognize?

The textures and the flavors, or are you shoveling it into your mouth as a secondary activity while you're on the phone, while you're in the car, while you're watching the news, watching a movie,

very often we're eating as a secondary activity.

So

being present and eating and eating as a primary activity can really change your relationship with food and your food cravings and your propensity to to eat foods

out of an intention to comfort, placate and hide, rather than to nourish and celebrate.

Are you stuck in the past or projecting into the future, being present, right, chewing your food and noticing everything and having it be a full sensorial experience is is an act of presence.

So being in the present moment and focused on what you're actually doing savoring things. I don't think we savor things enough, and I'm guilty of this myself, too. If I don't redirect myself in the moment, I find myself where I I need to remember the last few bites I took because I'm off thinking

about something else or talking or watching TV or whatever on the computer. I mean, I do it just like the next person.

But there's something about having a dimensional experience with something where you savor it you there's a there's a nuanced experience that you can have with things when you're fully present with them, whether it's eating, whether it's in a relationship, in a conversation, whatever it is.

So how are you using food in your life? Are you using it to comfort, placate, hide, torture, abuse yourself, or are you using food as a source of nourishment and power and joy and life and energy, vitality, connection, love? I think we do a mixture of all the things at different different times, and I think it

all can have a seat at the table, and we don't have any judgment around the so called shameful things. I mean, come on, I've absolutely used food to comfort this week, this month, you know, I'll probably do it later today, you know? I mean, I think, gosh, if pleasure is comforting, isn't it, I don't

think there's anything wrong with that. I think that it's when it's out of balance, is where I think we get into trouble and where we're relying on that as a crutch, as a tool, you know, as our only source of comforting ourselves. I think that's where, where it can get really out of balance and out of

control.

So again, looking at it all without judgment and just learning, taking the lessons from it. So when it comes to making changes about your food choices, Are you a person that's like, I'll do it later. I'll do it when the conditions are perfect? Are you waiting for the perfect time to make changes?

And really look at this relationship with food that you feel needs to be changed, or you want it to change, because it's holding you back in your life.

If you're waiting for the right time, you'll be waiting forever, because the right time is when you decide that it's time. That's the right time when you decide it's time. I want change, and I'm going to put in the work, and I'm going to get help to do it, and I'm going to just listen and take it one step at a

time. That's how change happens one step at a time.

This whole perfectionist thing comes up every single day in our program, and I would tell you that I would identify as somebody that has a propensity to be a perfectionist, absolutely.

So there's a mantra in our community, good, better or best, not perfect. That's the mantra in our community. A lot of people shorten it to good, better, best, and it's a really beautiful way to move through the world, that we're not aiming for perfection. It doesn't exist. We're just aiming to make

the next choice. I'm not even going to put a good or bad in of that. I'm not going to put a qualifier on it. We're just aiming to make the next choice and learn from it,

and that those lessons and that data informs the next choice and the next choice and the next choice. And how do we form habits? It's the things that we do repeatedly. So we make that choice, we make that better choice, and then we make another better choice and another better choice, and we become the sum of

those choices. And before we know it, our blood sugar and our hormones are regulated, our gut health is better. And then all of a sudden, we're not craving sweets all the time. We're actually craving those healthy foods. And this, I see this every single day.

This happens to people every single day, and then all of a sudden, that place for that donut or that piece of cake finds a natural, balanced place in your life, because you learned that those foods just make you feel like shit if you eat them every day, and that you don't want to go back after

you've experienced how incredible it can feel in your body when you feel light and.

Sleeping through the night, and you don't have mood swings. You don't have hot flashes anymore. You're not getting up to pee every night. You've got energy when you wake up. You don't have the mid afternoon slump, and you know, you don't have acid reflux anymore. All your blood levels are coming back. You don't have

inflammation and aches and pains. I mean, all of these things happen to people when they start eating strategically so and improving their gut health.

So

this good, better or best, not perfect, the time is now kind of yes and philosophy, I think, can really help us with our relationship with food. The quick wins, looking for the magic bullet, the one thing that's the magic pill that's going to fix everything and make everything fall into place. If

you're looking for that, you're also going to be perpetually disappointed, because it doesn't exist, and anyone that's selling it is selling snake oil. It's just not how it works. So we're playing the long game in life. We're doing the research, we're putting in the work. We're taking things step by step.

We're learning, we're finessing, we're fine tuning, we're looking at the data, we're listening to the lessons, and we're making the next choice. That is how it works. One of the biggest mistakes that I see people making is thinking that one isolated strategy will be the answer to all of their weight

and health issues. Oh, that medication or that supplement, or going gluten free or dairy free, or sugar free, or swearing off alcohol, or reducing my carbs, going keto, intermittent fasting, the next workout craze. There is no one thing that provides all of the answers. I see this a lot with HRT. Now I'm

not anti Hi t, I'm on HRT, and I'm also looking after my gut health and being strategic with my nutrition and my exercise, my sleep hygiene, all the things, right? And I do other kinds of therapies, you know, to make sure that I can show up like this. So it's a holistic approach to health. So I see

this a lot, where women go on HRT and think it's going to be the answer to be the answer to every single problem that they have. And they may they might sleep better and have more energy and not have hot flashes anymore, but they've still got gas and bloating, they still can't manage their weight. I

mean, there's always something right, so we've got to put all the different pieces together, and the pieces of the puzzle are going to be different for you compared to your friend or your neighbor or even your sister,

that's why buy a bio individual approach is really the only thing that really, really works to get results and maintain them, is a custom eating and lifestyle plan that fits your personality, dietary preferences, lifestyle budget,

and is realistic for you in your life.

So that's why the holistic approach is what we do in our program, is pulling all these elements together.

The other thing that that I see that holds most people back, I think it's the biggest thing, is actually believing that it's possible to actually have a different relationship with food and be in control of your food choices and be in control of your health. That is the biggest thing that I see, particularly

in women over 40. Oh, well, it's all downhill from here. This is just your age. Welcome to 50. Welcome to menopause, or you're 70. This is what it's like. Actually, it's not we help women in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s, sleep through the night, have energy, feel in control of their health. You know, they

feel like they dove at the clock, and they feel 10 years more alive. You know? I mean, it absolutely is possible. I see it every single day, and I experienced it in my own personal story, which I talk about in episodes one to four.

We don't do things alone. We always need help. Asking for help is a strength. It's not a weakness. You don't need to feel ashamed that you don't know what to do. We're actually not taught this stuff about health and nutrition, and most doctors only get half a day or a day at most of nutrition training in their

entire medical degree. That's why I work with dietitians, because they're the medical practitioners that train in hospitals, and they're the experts in how to use food as a tool for better health. They're the experts, just like you would go to a cardiologist about your heart health. So everybody's got

their specialty, and that's why dietitians work so well with doctors. So when you have your annual checkup every year, it makes complete sense that you would go and see a dietitian and go, here's what my blood work looks like. Here's what I'm doing. Here are my healthy shoes. What should I be eating?

What's going to support my health goals? A dietitian is who you go for that. And so in our health and nutrition program, it makes complete sense that it would be run by dietitians, because they're the experts, and it's very important that everybody in our program is under the care of someone with a

medical license. There's just too many people out there advising people about their health who aren't actually qualified to do it. So that's why I stay in my lane. I work on the mindset, making it delicious, making it doable in your life, and I leave all the medical advice to medical

practitioners in our program.

The other thing that I see a lot is the overwhelm. There's so much conflicting.

On information about health and nutrition, that it can be really and, you know, you've tried this program and that program and all these big, you know, big promises that don't deliver, and you just feel burnt, and you're like, I don't know what to believe or who to believe. So that's another thing that I see

a lot of people coming in, going, I just, I just, this makes sense to me, but I'm so concerned, because I've thrown money at diets and they haven't worked. And, you know, I'm, I'm, I've got a kind of body that doesn't respond like, we call it the unicorn myth. I've met a unicorn yet, right? When you

learn how to, you know, nourish your body at this phase of life, and all the pieces are there, then your body just does, does what it's meant to do, right? You work with your body, as opposed to against it, but the overwhelm of what we call info, BC we've all, we've all got so much information, information is

not our problem. It's the implementation and the appropriate nature of the approach, that's the issue, right? And that's why we have exports expert support, so don't be ashamed. Oh god, why I get this all the time? Oh my god, I can't believe I didn't know that. Well, why would you know

that

this science based staff that is for medical practitioners? That's why you go and see experts and they help you do it. You know, you wouldn't rewire the electricity in your house on your own. If you're not an electrician, you'll probably burn the house down and electrocute yourself. So we are

not taught this stuff at school, this higher level stuff about nutrition and strategic nutrition.

Yeah, that's why it was it was so important to me when I,

you know, reversed all the stuff that was happening to me during menopause, when I was in my mid 40s, during perimenopause, I just went, Oh my God, I've got to help other women do this, because we're just not taught this stuff. So it's kind of like a light bulb goes off for everybody. They're like, I can't

believe that, that I actually am in control of my body and I control, you know, how I feel when you when you realize that that's possible, it's pretty extraordinary. Life changes pretty quickly. Just because you don't know how to do something doesn't mean it's not possible.

So just keep looking at science. Going to people that are using undeniable, irrefutable science, embrace bio individuality. Listen to the signs in your bodies. Make sure you're working with really good medical practitioners. The only thing that I have seen that works is custom, custom, custom bio,

individual solutions tailored to your specific needs and lifestyle. So that's why, you know, we have these questionnaires. Everyone does a member questionnaire, and we get to know our dietitians and and me, we get to know you and your lifestyle and what you like to eat? How it's going to work on a

Tuesday night when the kids are screaming after soccer practice, going, what's for dinner and you don't want to cook two meals, how do you make it work?

That's what I do in the program. How do you make things work in your real life? And another thing I'll say is emotional eating is not about willpower. That's a fake muscle in the body that we think exists. It just doesn't exist when, when you are in control of your food choices, you know what to do, and you

feel comfortable what to do, and it fits in your lifestyle and it's doable for you, willpower doesn't even play a part, because when you eat something that you think is delicious and feels really great and you crave it, then you actually don't even want those other things when your gut health and your blood

sugar and hormones are all regulated, right? The science and the physiology of it takes care of it too, right? And then when emotionally you crave something, that's why we're going to arm you with all these other tools, right, some of which I've shared today, right? The power of the poor is playing

out the movie. And I could, I could go on about a lot of other tools that I give people, but there are lots of practical things that you can do where you put guardrails around yourself, but not nasty guard rails. You just put parameters and you set yourself up for success. And again, I don't think that we do

that alone. It's kind of like expecting that you're going to be able to read the outside label from the inside. It's not possible. We need an objective eye on things, you know, so that we can see in our blind spots the things that we don't want to look at. That's what a good coach does. You know? That's

what good good practitioners do. They help you zoom out and see things from a different perspective. So it's not a weakness. Asking for help is a strength.

So do you believe that you deserve the very best? I think that feeds our relationship with food, or are you just going to keep eating the crumbs and the poor quality stuff, because that's what you think you deserve? I think another thing, and this is something I ask every single person I work with,

is, what are your superpowers? What are the things that you do really, really well that you've got figured out and that other people come to you for. We've all got them. We've all got them.

And sometimes we need help from people that that we love and trust and that see us objectively and with a loving eye. We need help to discover it. So you know, I'll tell you some of mine. I.

I can put extraordinary flavors together. I just my I really can cook, and so that's why everybody loves the food so much and says it's the best food they've ever eaten. I suppose that's why I've sold hundreds of 1000s of cookbooks, but it's fun for me. I love putting really dimensional, beautiful, nuanced

flavors together and making healthy food really, really mind blowing leaves, literally delicious. I attract incredibly beautiful, awesome, generous humans,

and I make people believe that they can do anything. Those are my three big superpowers. And my friends and family helped me see that.

And when somebody says, I don't know. And

so if you're sitting there going, I don't know what mine are, why don't you know? Why aren't you giving yourself permission to own the really extraordinary parts of yourself? Because they are there. I promise you, they are.

Who told you that there aren't any if that's the case? So I always push back on that as a coach, I go, No, no, tell me something. Because when you're changing the way that you eat, or you're uncomfortable, or you're feeling overwhelmed and you feel like you can't do something anchoring yourself to

the things that you do really well, and you know you're not a hot mess in every part of your life. You just want to pay attention a little bit more and learn how to do it over here, but over here, you've got it really figured out. So anchoring yourself to that knowledge that, yeah, I got some shit figured

out in my life, it helps you to hold the learning curve of the things that you don't have figured out in balance, and remember that our superpower is our Achilles heel. We're not held in balance. Can actually be a liability if we're not holding all the parts of ourselves in balance. So

what is your medicine? Your superpower as a medicine for you and other people. Often, we're using our superpowers on other people and sharing it, but we're not using it on ourselves. So what is your magic? What is your medicine? What is your power? Are you using it on yourself and just gently collecting the data

from every choice and just having an intention to learn from it. As Mary Oliver said, attention is the beginning of devotion, and anything that involves an act of devotion becomes a sacred act. You're engaged in something that has profound meaning. You're engaged in your self care and that has

profound meaning and profound consequences. The practice of paying attention to yourself and the world opens up a path of hope.

And in the smallest moments, the day to day moments that food choice, that food choice, that beverage choice,

there's healing in every choice is an opportunity. We are the we're with every food choice, whether we're the feeding disease or we're fighting it.

There's always lessons with every choice, if we're present enough to notice the lessons.

So being in your body is an immediate way to start releasing yourself from going inward. You're going outward, you know, you're putting the focus on looking at things, as opposed to obsessing internally about why they're terrible for you. Every observation that you make has an element of hope in it, if you

and the clarity of the Divine, if you choose to see it that way, you can seek it out every single day. It's a choice, it's a mindset.

And once you make that choice, once you choose to see it that way, it becomes hopeful. And hope and Self Love is the answer to to making changes, you know,

making changes that are sustainable, I'll say, and feeling really good about that without judgment.

And I know that

when you feel like you you're in a rut with your food choices, it can feel very overwhelming. But how do we eat the whale? One bite at a time, one choice at a time, one step at a time, and when you've got people to hold your hand every step of the way, which is what we do in the 60 day reset, then it actually

becomes easy, because you don't have anything to be afraid of, because there's a safety net, there's there's a support network every step of the way, you can ask as many questions as you want, share what's going on for you. Listen to what other people are sharing, and it will be relevant to you. Or at least

that's what our members always say. So

you are in control of your food story, your health story, your quality of life, your genes are not your destiny. You choose how you age. You choose what your health looks like. You choose how you feel in your body.

You know, unless you have a terminal illness and it's it's too far gone for the majority of people, we can always turn it around. I mean, we have seen people with chronic heart disease, diabetes, cancer, all kinds of autoimmune conditions. I mean, I could go on and on and on, and what happens in 60 days?

Is extraordinary. We're going to go through two hormonal cycles, which, which is inextricably linked to your blood sugar, your metabolic health. It's unbelievable how we can start to reverse some of these, these symptoms of disease and disease, step at a time, step at a time, step at a time. I'm not saying

that it's all done and dusted in 60 days, but my God, do you lay a really strong foundation and get some extraordinary results, and then you just keep going from there? So

it

is, you know, gosh, again, you know, if you look at any of the video testimonials of our program, everybody talks about how they thought they were coming in for a food program, and they actually got a whole lifestyle reset that it flowed on to every other part of their lives, the good better or best

philosophy, the care, the attention, the mindfulness, noticing how the relationship with food affected their relationship with other things.

Those of you that are you know members of our community, you know all too well, if you have not done our 60 day reset, go and go and watch some of the videos, even if you never join our program, just to latch on to that hope and possibility of what you can do when you learn how to eat strategically and put

the pieces to the puzzle pieces together in a way that works for you. And that's what our dietitians do. They'll get to know you. They'll help you make a plan to reach your health goals that fits your personality, your lifestyle, your dietary preference. And my job as a mindset Coach is to

help you implement it, implement your plan in your everyday life and actually enjoy eating with family and friends while you're doing it again. It's not an either or thing, it's a both and thing. So if you want to join the next group, please go to it has to be me.com/reset

I'd love to, I'd love to talk to you and hear about your relationship with food and help you get where you want to go. So let me know in the leave a review or leave a leave a post in the Facebook group and let me know what resonated with you from this conversation. Do.