How to Overcome Loneliness and the Deep Ache For a Relationship

The first step to overcoming the feeling of

loneliness or the ache for partnership, first things first is

meet the feeling, but don't make meaning of it. So if you feel

lonely all the time, you are attached to an identity

and a story that your life, that what you're experiencing currently is wrong

and that there's something else you should have to feel better and that you need

that thing in order to complete something in yourself or in order to feel a

certain way or in order to succeed or in order to have, you know,

checked all the boxes or have everything you want. It doesn't matter matter how deep

your desire for partnership is, if you are

lonely, you are disconnected from yourself.

Hi, my loves. Welcome to the New Truth. Kate Harlow here.

I first want to start off with just sharing

like appreciation for having a podcast. I was just like

really feeling the gratitude and, you know,

love for being able to just share

my truth. And like, maybe we all have

places where we feel, where we

feel aligned to share our truth. And if you have a message inside

of you, I highly recommend a podcast. I had

what, maybe one of my biggest interviews I've had on

the New truth. My favorite YouTuber, Amrit

Sendhu, who I told you about, inspired evolution, is his YouTube

channel. He's just such a love this guy. Oh my God,

he was like a soul brother. I love him so much.

He's a phenomenal astrologer. I've had two astrology readings with him in the

last month, six weeks. Like, I had a reading in April when I was

in Santorini, and then I had a birthday

reading with him at 6:30am on my birthday. And that

was such a cool way to start a birthday. A solar return reading. He's like

telling me what I'm moving into, what's happening, what's coming the

next year, what are my focal points. And he said this

year the biggest things for me are deepening in my spirituality,

my connection to my divinity, my spiritual practices,

and growing my community, which feels

so true already. I look at 2027,

I'm going on a 3A collaborative retreat with two of

my friends. There's three of us facilitating in Okinawa,

Japan and Kyoto, which I didn't even know how

spiritual these places were. Okinawa is

extremely spiritual. It's also a blue zone where people live the

longest. They call it the Hawaii of Japan. And

Kyoto is where I just found this out, is where

Reiki energy healing comes from. I'm a frickin Reiki master and I didn't

even know that. I've never even Been to Asia, and this was not

on my radar. And this retreat in Japan

absolutely came so divinely. I never planned on

taking people on international retreats like I do the immersion

every year in Greece, which is an awakening. You hear me talk about it

a lot. It's not a retreat. It's more of an intensive. And then once I

moved to Kenya, we. Well, not once I moved to Kenya. I guess it was

retreats that brought me to Kenya. But I started doing collaboration retreats that

turned into me leading retreats in Kenya. And now I'm leading

retreats in Japan, which is a deeply spiritual place with

two amazing healers, energy practitioners, yoga

teachers, Barhad and Akiko. I'm actually having them on the

pod next week. So if you're curious about that. And we're going to talk all

about up, leveling your frequency and all about spirituality. So that's going to be a

really, really powerful episode and conversation you're going to want to

tune. But then this magical trip to

Egypt came out of nowhere. I've been invited on the exact

same trip to Egypt three times in the last year and a half. I am

not kidding you. Three nights or two nights at the

Al Madeira Hotel in Luxor, and then five

nights cruising down the Nile on a luxury yacht, going to

all the sacred temples. Egypt wasn't even on

my radar. I'd been invited three times on this trip. Two

of the times were totally for free, which is crazy. Like, one was for a

friend's 50th birthday. Someone had canceled and she

offered me the spot, but I couldn't take it because my mom and dad were

in Greece. It was like fall 2024. And then I got

invited again to go. Mariana, my bestie, did a retreat there

with a bunch of women I love and know very well. And I almost

went last minute, but I wasn't able to pull it together. Or there was

some, like, flight delay and it didn't line up. And also it was in between

two of my other retreats, so it didn't work out. And then I got invited

by my friend who's a travel writer, to be her plus one on the exact

same trip. I'm not kidding you. Three times. What are the chances of

that? Okay, talk about divinity. And then

I get invited to lead a retreat there,

basically in a divine conversation with a heroine, one of the women that I'm working

with right now, through a magical conversation we had.

So all of a sudden, it opened at the possibility of doing a retreat in

Egypt in 20. Next thing I know everyone

signed up. It came, like, they all came magically into my sphere.

It's all women I've already been on a really deep journey with,

and it came out of nowhere. It's already full. So if you're interested in Egypt,

we can talk about it in the future for sure, but it's like, talk

about a more spiritual place. Okay, fast forward to Sunday.

I have a healing session yesterday with this woman who

came out of nowhere, happened to be in town. A bunch of women at my

gym knew her. She's a Japanese healer who. Not the one that I

am doing my Japan retreat with, but another one who lives in

Lamu, this magical healer that everyone was raving about.

So I had this soul. It was called a soul retrieval session. And I'm, like,

game for all healing sessions. I'm always hungry for a healing session.

Not from a place of, like, I'm desperate, I need help, help

rescue me, but from a place of, like, ooh, what else is there? Like, what

more expansion can I experience? So I go have this healing session. It was so

profound. I think I went to 12 different dimensions. I was, like, on

another planet the whole time. It was so beautiful. I wish I could remember

everything that happened in the session, but I really was in different places.

I get out of the healing session. This woman knows nothing about me, and she

shares all her, like, basically psychic downloads that she gets

during the healing session. She says to me as I'm

coming off the table, coming to sit down and discuss it with her. She

says, kate, wow, you are so

connected to Egypt. You are meant to go back to Egypt.

It is calling so strong, strong you. And then she's talking about a past

life. She said, you were once a mummy. You were mummified in Egypt. And

I just did a whole session around breaking you out of the casing around you

so you could shine your light brighter. She doesn't even know what I do. She

knows nothing about me, let alone that I've spent the last three

days deep in Egypt, conversations with all of these women who are

coming on this journey with me in 2027.

And then circling back to Amrit's reading about how this next year is all

about spirituality. And it's like, now I'm going to Japan. I'm going to Egypt. I

this healing session. And she predicts the whole Egypt thing. She

also told me I meant to heal people through the sound of my voice and

doesn't know I have a podcast. And she said, you know, it's

time to. To. To Grow bigger. Like, your time. It's time to

be more dynamic. So anyways, I share all these

magical updates with you because I was in

meditation this morning just thinking about how

brainwashed we are every time we turn on our phones. Like, every time

I go on Facebook, all I see is like, people have died.

Different people have died, and there's crisis is

happening in people's personal lives and all over the world. That's literally all Facebook

is. It's like bad news central. Then I go to the.

No, I don't go to the news, but if you have the news on your

phone or if you watch the news or read a newspaper, what is that? Bad

news central? I mean, go to social

media and it's like, here's what you should look like. Here's how your life should

be. Here's the fantasy of even spirituality. It's like just a bunch of

fucking fantasy. Everything is programming

us to believe we should be afraid. We should. To

keep us separate from ourselves. And as I was in

meditation before recording this episode, I was connecting

so deeply with divinity and magic. And like, I just shared the fastest,

shortest version. Actually recorded this episode yesterday, although it was still

slightly high. Kind of want to share that one too. It was, like, high

from the healing session still. And I told the story, and it was too

long and convoluted, so I was like, I'll just do a shorter version today.

But there's so much more magic I experienced this week that I can't even

summarize. Amrit and I, when we

recorded our episodes, the longest episode I've ever done,

it was basically two and a half hours, but I had to go to the

bathroom halfway through. And so I told. I paused it and said, I'm so

sorry. I gotta go to the bathroom. I know we're gonna be talking forever. So

I went to the bathroom, came back, and I pressed start again

and started a new episode. Basically, the first one was

1111 hour, 111 minutes. So if you know about

divine numbers. And the second one was 1, 2, 3. One

hour, 23 minutes. Are you kidding me? You

can't make this stuff up. And so what I'm as

exciting announcement is in alignment with what this

healer said after our session, that this is time to take this work and

reach it. Reach out in a bigger way or

what did she say? Diversify it more. It's been on my

heart for a very long time to start a YouTube channel to bring the new

truth to YouTube. I only watch podcasts myself.

I do not Listen to podcasts ever. Never, ever, ever.

Amoret's podcast is on YouTube. That's why I'm obsessed. It is my favorite

podcast, Inspired Evolution. I highly recommend it. I also highly

recommend astrology readings with him, but you're going to hear him on the New Truth

soon anyway, through our convers. He's like, you've got to get on

YouTube and have big names like me on the. On YouTube collaborate. And

then you get to grow your audience really quickly. And so

I'm going to launch YouTube with Amrit's

episode. So it probably won't come out till the end of June, beginning of July.

We've got to be lined up and ready for it. But that's really exciting news.

So probably I'll have on some really cool guests now that we're going to be

moving to YouTube. Of course, we'll still be on all the other platforms if you

prefer to listen to podcasts. But I am so excited

about that. Anyways, coming back to my med meditation this morning.

So at. Not this morning, this afternoon, as I was about to record, I was

in meditation, feeling this episode, feeling this conversation, feeling

all of you and this. This path of following our hearts, following

our truths, going our own way, and not buying into all the

bullshit programming which we are so,

like, indoctrinated with. It's so hard to escape. So that's why it's

so important to listen to podcasts like this that expand you

beyond what you see, what you believe to be true, expands you

bey, beyond limitations. Because if you're only consuming things that

feed fear, it's keeping your system dysregulated, it's keeping your

small self in charge, and it's stopping you from realizing how

powerful you are. We are so powerful beyond

measure. It is unbelievable. And when I tune into

that, when I experience it, my thought today in meditation was like,

imagine how we would all feel if we only

heard about the miracles. Like, every time you tuned into social

media, every time you tuned into your TV or

a podcast or the radio

or anything, any consumption, any

external voice, even the people you surround yourself with,

imagine everyone you heard

was only sharing stories of miracles, of magic, of

synchronicities, of. I thought that thing and I saw that person. I had a desire

and then it showed up the next day. Of all the magic, of all the

possibilities, possibility of all the synchronicities. Like this healer woman

telling me I meant to go to Egypt and I was a mummy, apparently. But

like, what? She doesn't know anything about my life. I'm

literally immersed in Egypt and she's telling me I've got Egypt

written all over me. Like how could she possibly know that? Because

we live in a miraculous world because of the quantum field,

because everything is possible here on planet Earth, but we've been

brainwashed to believe nothing is possible and that we have to be afraid and we

have to be in scarcity and we have to be in lack and we have

to um, my God, struggle

and suffer. And how many people are just in struggle and

suffer every day because all they're consuming is fear based messages.

Their nervous systems are so dysregulated and then they

keep reinforcing it in the stories in their mind over

and over and over again. It's heartbreaking. So

I'm so excited to have this conversation with you today about

overcoming loneliness and the ache for partnership. And of course,

as always, every episode's relevant to everyone, whether you're in

that, in that frequency or not. But I'm going to apply everything I'm talking about

to this. So the first step to

overcoming the feeling of loneliness or the ache

for partnership first actually I'm going to say first things first is meet

the feeling, but don't make meaning of it. So

if you feel lonely all the time, you are attached to an

identity and a story that your life, that what you're

experiencing currently is wrong and that there's something else you should have to feel better

and that you need that thing in order to complete something in yourself or

in order to feel a certain way or in order to succeed or in order

to have, you know, checked all the boxes or have everything you

want. It doesn't matter how deep your desire for partnership is.

If you are lonely, you are

disconnected from yourself and wherever

you go, there you are. That's a book title.

That's not my quote, but I say it all the time. Wherever you go. I

don't think I even read that book, but it could not be more true. Wherever

you go, there you are. So the lonely little girl inside is

going to be like, I just want a partner, I just need a boyfriend, I

just need to have someone. And then she's going to get that thing and then

she's going to need something else and she's going to need something else. She's looking

for a security blanket, right? What she actually needs is the divine mama

in you to show up for her and to pour love into her and to

let her feel the loneliness by like my. I've told this story before,

you know, breaking out in Song singing all by myself or you are

not alone by Michael Jackson or some sort of song about being

lonely and afraid. Let her go big.

Let her perform her loneliness, let her cry, let her feel

her loneliness. Like hold space for her loneliness, but

don't feed the story or let her stay there.

If you are stuck in one feeling that

is painful for a long period of time, you, my friend,

are in a story. And I want to say you're letting your

little girl, you're like keeping her in captivity because

you're letting your saboteur or run the story that keeps that

wounded little girl stuck in that feeling, whether it's depression

or loneliness or anxiety, that is

not natural. What is natural, like a feeling is

simply an energy. It's energy.

Feelings are not stagnant. They are not. You watch a three year old,

they get to the bottom of their feelings and then they move on and they

come back to joy and back to lightness and back to pleasure. And that's our

natural set point. So if you feel

loneline and if you feel the ache for

partnership, this is not to negate your desire. But hey, when you

have a desire, here's a way better way to handle it, okay?

You can feed the story of being a victim because that's what loneliness is.

I want a partner. Come on, Kate. I had clients like this. Come on,

Kate, say this to me all the time. No, I just know I'm meant to

be in partnership. I know. Okay, maybe you do on some soul level. But hey,

if you're arguing with reality and thinking your life is not what it should

be right now and you're missing the fate that you're in. Like, how many

single women hijack their entire single years, their

entire entire years of all this beautiful time? Like, if

you single women go have a conversation with married

women who have children and talk to them about how they wish

they could have one day to themselves, right? You have all the days to

yourself and you're wasting it on wishing you didn't, on wishing

you had the family, on wishing you had the partnership, you're going to regret that

later. So lean in right now. To

what extent? Spirit. Even if you've been single for 10 years, if you

desire partnership, sister, I celebrate that. I, you know,

I, I'm excited about love, my next level of love. When it's

ready to reveal itself to me, I can feel that I've evolved

so much and I'm so excited to, to meet the next

partner that I attract. The next level of love. I get to Experience. I

can feel it in my body. I can feel the expansiveness of the

love that I will experience when the time is right. But I feel it in

my body and I hold it in my heart. That's right.

When it's need, when I need a partner, I need

love. I need to find someone. I'm longing for it. I don't have this

thing that's discord. Now you're disconnected from

your heart and soul, right? I know I'll have love

again. I know I'll have epic adventures. I know I'll have

amazing camping trips in the wild in Africa. I know I'm going to experience

more countries beyond these countries that have just popped into my sphere that I

never knew I was going to go to. I know I'm going to have a

lot of life full of amazing experiences in

my heart. Because I follow my heart and I say yes

to courageous decisions and I

follow my truth. I know that that's desire. It rests inside of

me. But when I am in longing or I'm missing

something, something is not here. And I need that thing to feel better.

Or I need that thing to complete my life or I need that thing to

be where I'm supposed to be on the timeline. You are in

separation consciousness. You are in ext energy. You're in

victim mentality. And my love, wherever you go, there you are. You're

going to attract the perfect partner, possibly. And you won't be able to receive

it. You'll either push it away or you will

check the boxes, get all the things with that partner and you'll wake up one

day crying in your closet because you have everything you ever wanted and it's still

not enough. That's what happens when the script is driving us,

right? So it doesn't mean the desire is wrong and bad. Hold that desire

in your body. Give it to the universe. Say thank you so much,

angels. Thank you for taking my desires and

bringing them to me when I'm ready for them. When I can actually receive

that level of love that I'm craving. And thank you for showing me how

to feel it in my body now and then. You keep cultivating

that energy. Live as if you already have that partner. Become

that partner to yourself. Become that partner

to yourself and start to feel the

frequency of this expanded life and love you

desire. What would it feel like? How would you

carry yourself and treat yourself if you had that love and that

life? Start to treat yourself that way now. Talk to yourself that

way now. Date yourself. Write love letters to yourself.

Take, make courageous choices and start to create a

life that you love so that when the partner comes

along, you're not this empty vessel. Like fill me up. I'm

dead inside and I need you to make me feel good

versus baby. I'm so juicy and alive and free

and full of life. Do you want to share it with me? Do you want

to dance with me? Like which one of those sounds more appealing?

You have everything you're looking for

inside of you. You can tune into that right now. You can

live from that desire. In fact, the best manifestation

teachers on earth are teaching that manifestation is about becoming

the vibration and the frequency of what you desire and then you're a match to

it. Otherwise it's just trying to fill a bottomless pit that can

never be filled from the outside because it's a wounded little

girl trying to get that thing and a saboteur rather than

your aligned self, your sovereignty, your soul,

your heart. So that's the first thing I have

to say about loneliness and ache for partnership.

The second thing that I want to talk about is connected

to my opening all about how freaking divine this

planet is and can you fucking imag how we would feel if we were all

celebrating miracles and spreading the good news of all

the extraordinary connections and intimacy

and love and generosity and magic and

mysteries and synchronicities and divine moments that are

happening all over the world in every moment. Can you imagine if

that was our programming? We would feel so different. We would

believe, right? But we're taught to not believe in

the magic. We're taught to not believe in the

synchronicity. People that hear my story about the woman in Egypt,

they try and like find some logical way to break it down. It's like

that is the quantum field. There is so much science

that proves that everything we desire is possible

here and that we literally co create our

reality with the universe. And yet most people are creating

hell on earth instead of heaven, right? Hell isn't

some place we go to. It is what's created on earth. When

all you do is consume fear based messages, have fear

based conversations with people, gossip and complain,

be a victim, blame other people for your pain. If you don't

learn how to take responsibility for your life and how to actually

live from the magic of who you are and plug into that divine

part of you so that you can experience the miracles of life, you are

going to be suffering. And that's one version of the human

experience. But let me tell you, there is a whole

nother version of the human experience. That's available to you so

you can, you know, even this type idol, it's like victim mentality. Like,

I'm lonely. It's like, if you're lonely, k feel it, sing

it, dance it, scream it. Like, move the energy of

loneliness that will alchemize so fast, that feeling will become something

else. And as it morphs and changes as you dance and sing and chant

and breathe and do all the things to move the energy of the

feeling, you'll come back to the present moment and realize you have everything you

could ever need. It's all inside of you, right? The power

was within you all along. It wasn't in the wizard of Oz. It was

in your soul, right? You're longing. That's. That's the sad

thing is when I hear women longing for partnership, I feel

so bad. I feel like this heartbroken feeling.

I'm like, if you only knew, sister, come on the journey

with me. Because let me tell you, you are only longing for your own

soul. That's it. And when you're living from your own

soul, you magnetize the most extraordinary life and peace, people

and souls into your experience. That is my life. That

has been my life. And I was the single girl in my 20s

and teens jumping from relationship to relationship. He's the one.

He's the one. He's the one trying to find someone to make me

feel good about myself, right? Buying into it in the first

six months, being like, oh, my God, I got the love of my life. Now

I'm worthy. Look at me succeeding at life. Look at me with this

amazing man on my shoulder who adores me and worships me.

Me. And then one day, what would happen? Regina, my saboteur,

would creep in so loud, and she'd be like, probably, he's

cheating on you. You are not safe here. You. Oh, my God, look at him

talking to that other woman. And I would go crazy in relationships because I

was so insecure. And it was that wounded little girl trying to feel safe.

I remember my. Oh, my God. Heartbreaking. My relationship with Charlie.

Like, I made him not talk to women. I made him stop being friends with

his female friends. And it wasn't me. It was my saboteur. Regina was

ruthless. I don't even know if I've ever told anyone that before. I

controlled the shit out of my boyfriend when I was in my 20s

because he loved me so much and he hated seeing me in

pain and he wanted me to feel safe. And he was such a good guy,

but I was so insecure. That I tried to control

safety, right? That's the saboteur. Most

human saboteurs are in charge of the relationship relationships.

So the second. Actually I'm going to get to the. I'm going to

tie the beginning to the last point. I'm changing up my points here. So

the beginning and all the magic and all the divinity, we'll come back to that.

The second most important thing is to notice

where you're in misaligned pattern ships

versus relation brackets. All

ships, relationships. Pattern ships versus I just wrote this today.

It just came through. But new material. Pattern ships versus relationships.

Most of us are in pattern ships, right? If it is the wounded

little girl who's like trying to get love to make her feel better, like a

blankie in the night or a bottle when she's a

baby, like if that is the part of you that is dry. And there's so

many ways this shows up. It doesn't always seem needy. Sometimes it's. It's

very sneaky and it seems like stealth and perfect and controlled.

It can look so many different ways. But if you don't deeply understand your

patterns, most likely you are in pattern ships in your relationships.

So I have a masterclass coming up. The page is still not available

yet, but I will change that very soon. So

you will be able to sign up soon on my website. I'm going to be

posting it every week on the podcast. I will also do a

commercial so you'll remember about it. But it's. It's expanded love

masterclass. It's different format. It's going to be so

next level. Teaching the five saboteur archetypes over three

days. It's going to be the. I think it's the 19th or the 21st of

June, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, two hours each morning. Apparently

it's Father's Day, but your father or your husband or whoever is

the father in your life will appreciate this. Because you

understanding your patterns in your saboteur, it will be a game changer for

your partner. So having pattern ships

is only going to keep you longing for

more, right? Because if you're even pattern ships in your

friendships, right? If you are in your friendships

and you are not fully in alignment and you're not bringing your

deepest truth, not your complaining, not your dramatic

stories, not your bonding through gossiping and complaining,

but actually the depth and core of your pain and your

excitement and your joy and your expansion, you're not around women

who are inspiring you to grow, who are taking

responsibility for themselves. That's why the Heroine community is so powerful

and everyone becomes so close to all the women inside of the community

become so close so fast because they're all speaking the same language and

have the same level of self awareness. If your friends

aren't self aware and they're not aware of their patterns and their soul and they're

not making courageous steps and going their own way and following their

hearts and they're just following the script and trying to get you to follow the

script, that is a pattern ship and my love, that's going to keep you

aching for partnership and lonely as. Why?

Because if you're around other people's patterns, you're in yours. And when

you're in your pattern, you're going to feel so lonely. Why? Because you're not home.

You don't feel lonely because you don't have aligned friendships and

aligned partnership. You don't have those things because you're not home.

And then you feel lonely. You're not home. You're not rooted in your

soul. You're not living from the truth of who you are. This

is the new truth. You are here because you are devoted

to living from the truth of who you are are. And you are not

living from the truth of who you are if you're in your patterns. So

join me at Expanded Love meet weekend June 19th to 21st.

Everyone comes back and does it over and over again. It will be totally different

this year. It's always evolving. But this year it's going to be all five

archetypes in three days, plus a little Q and A so we can go a

little bit deeper into it. We'll be on Zoom. It'll be amazing

women. It'll be $22, the best investment you ever made. You'll understand

yourself and your patterns and your saboteurs so well. And that is the

first step to awakening. Becoming the heroine of your life.

You cannot become the heroine of your life and live a life from the

truth of who you are if you don't know your saboteur intimately. Because let me

tell you, those survival patterns are slick.

They are strong, they are powerful and they will lead the

way until you know them intimately and have the self

awareness and the tools and the support system to be able to break free.

So this is an amazing place to meet other women who are on the path.

You will meet women who've been on the journey with me a long time. You

will meet women who are brand new to the journey. Maybe I'll have the page

ready by the time this episode comes out. But I don't think so. But it

will be out very soon. If you're interested, maybe just send me an email or

a message somewhere and let me know that I will. I will

splash it everywhere. I will send it in emails. I will.

It'll be linked under every episode coming between now and that

weekend. And the page will be ready very, very soon. I'm in the process of

hiring a new va, so she's going to help me get it all. Sent that

up. Very exciting stuff. So

misaligned pattern ships. Love this new word. Maybe it

already exists. I've never heard it before, but it came through today. And

relational ships, right? Relationships is where people are relational. They're

sovereign. They're self aware. They take owner ownership of their triggers,

ownership of their projections of their pleasure. They celebrate you

going your own way instead of telling you what to do. They're inspired

by you stepping outside of the box rather than. Than feeding your

fear. Right? These are such different relationships and they're everything.

There's no way I would have the life I have and be doing everything

I'm doing if I wasn't surrounded by deep

relationships. Women who are sovereign, women who are up

to amazing things in the world, going their own way and following their hearts and

celebrating the shit out of each other, I would not be here without

them. So that is everything. And if you feel lonely, it's because

you're in your patterns. So whether you feel lonely in your situation single, or

you're that married woman who's lonely and desperate for not new

love because your husband ain't giving it to you anymore, or you're

lonely inside of your friend groups, or you feel,

you know, like you don't belong, you don't fit in. All

of this means your patterns are at the helm. That's it. That's all. It's

indicating that the feeling of loneliness only comes when we're in our

patterns. When you are home, you are not lonely. I'm always

alone. Always. Also, I'm single. And I never identify

with that word. I'm me and I'm. I'm like with myself

here in the cottage in a fricking jungle,

totally alone. But I never feel alone because I'm with myself

and I'm with my angels and I'm with the universe and I'm with all of

you. And I'm with every Uber driver I meet. And I even got

a proposal the other day from my Uber driver. It

was funny. He was very serious. It was a second wife position. I'm Like, I

don't even know if I'm open to a first wife position. So second, probably not.

But thanks for the offer. Polygamy's going strong here. Still in a

Africa starting to die out. But he was, I think in his 50s, so he

was still representing the generations that are still rooted in

polygamy. But I'm never alone. Anywhere

I go because I'm home, I don't even notice. I'm with my, like by

myself, I don't notice. And at a party with a bunch of couples,

I wouldn't even notice because I'm with myself. So if you

ever feel lonely, you are not with yourself. You

are by yourself, next to yourself,

disconnected from the truth of who you are. Which leads me to our last

and final point. When we are lonely and

aching for something we don't have, we're disconnected from our

divinity. You're disconnected from your soul, but also

from your divinity, from the synchronicity, from the magic of

life, from the interconnectedness. You are

so divine. Everything is possible for us here.

But like I said at the beginning, we are so bombarded

with fear based messages that keep us so fucking small and

controllable. Like the powers that be are doing a great job

keeping everyone tiny and afraid and with dysregulated

nervous systems. But that is just your

small self. There's also this sovereign, solid

whole part of you that is divine that is

plugged into the interconnectedness of this lifetime, many

lifetimes. Your soul, soul beyond, way beyond this world

in the universe and all the galaxies and all the, all the,

all the possibilities, all the different timelines of life. Like you

have this infinite soul inside of you. Your soul.

This is trippy to think about. Your soul is never born and it never dies.

It comes in and out, right. If you watch near death experience

videos, if right now you're not spiritual, okay, that's a huge rap red flag.

If you are not spiritual, if you're not connected to your divine self, go on

a journey to discover it. Because if you've experienced

synchronicity before, that's what that is. It's not a

coincidence. Your logical mind will tell you otherwise. Because it's been programmed to

believe. None of this is true. But we are spiritual first

and foremost. Everyone is. Religion, actually, mostly

separates people from the truth of their spirituality, which is

infinite, which is infinite possibility, which is pure love. Love. Pure

love is at the core of every single one of us. But we've been brainwashed

to believe, oh, you have to be a good Girl in order to get to

some good place over there. That is such bullshit.

The good place and the bad place are here and now. And

you are so divine. And if you are disconnected from

your spirituality, you are working guaranteed way too hard at life.

You're stressed out all the time. You are. There's a book

called Power vs Force. This explains it perfectly. It's like

you are accessing your forcing to do things.

You might have created a lot of success. This is a lot of women I

work with. They've built a life that's very successful on the outside,

right? But it took a lot of force to get there. And they're fucking exhausted

and they're burnt out and they're. They're at the end of their rope

and they feel lonely and disconnected because they're doing it alone.

The universe is like, seriously, why are you lifting that weight? I could help

you. I could make that way easier for you. Like, why are you

working so hard to create your career when, like, I have this magical

purpose waiting for you and I could guide you the whole way and you don't

even have to work for it. You just have to be courageous and show up

and say yes to your yeses and what lights up your soul. But okay, you

can work your ass off and stress out and be anxious every night and worry

and create ulcers and constipation and cancer. Like, sure, that's an

option. Or you can tap into this quantum universe

and you can tap into this divine matrix and this like infinite

potential of what we have access to, to here. So if you are unaware

of this, like, start listening to Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Bruce

Lipton, what's his name? Greg Braden, Amrit Sandhu.

Everyone he interviews start to geek out on astrology. Like, there's

so many resources out there. Know

Thyself podcast is another good1 on YouTube. There are so many

amazing resources out there to remember, to remember to remind

us of our infinite selves. It's all available. But if

you are only consuming fear based messages and hanging out with people

who are in fear, who are brainwashing you with fear

and shaming you for not following the collective,

then you are suffering, right? So those are misaligned pattern ships.

You're disconnected from your divinity and not taking responsibility for moving

the energy of the feelings when they're there. These are the keys. This

is a magical life. You hear me say this every week, but I am

proof of it. And so are all the women I work with. I mean, I

cannot tell you If I only could summarize the endless magic that I

experience every freaking day. Do I feel amazing in every moment? No. But

when I don't, I meet myself there. I love those younger parts of myself.

I move the energy of the feeling. I relate to them because I'm relational.

I'm in a relationship with those parts of myself. I don't blame

other people for how I feel. I take responsibility for it. And

I fully ham it up, amplify it, move the energy till I

come back to that centered, sovereign place. And then I make choices from

that place. This is possible for every single one of

us. And when I do, synchronicity, magic, universe,

life, I don't have to work, I don't have to try, I don't have to

figure it out. It is

unbelievable. And the soulmate relationships that are out there

for you, not just with one person, like, how boring. You're not going

to get everything. I said this in last week's episode. Like, every woman is

trying to get everything from one man, which is such a fantasy, like some

unicorn. Not to say there aren't amazing men out there. There are, but you're

still going to need sisterhood more than anything. We need women more than we

need men, but not women who are in pattern ships. We

need relationships where women are rooted in their

souls, in their sovereignty. And the soulmates you

will collect, I mean, God, the women that come to the immersion and the soul

relationships they build and then that they build with every woman they meet

at the other experiences that they come to or the online

forums that I do like. It is magical to watch them.

They're all soulmates. Why? Because they're home. We attract

soulmates everywhere we go when we're a mate to our own souls.

So if you are lonely and aching for something outside of yourself, it's because you're

not a mate to your own soul, my love. And when you are, the universe

will shower you with soulmate relationships. Romantic ones, when they're. When

you're meant to. Loverships. Loverships. When you're meant to experience that.

And soulmate sisterhood and soulmate brotherhood. Like Amritset.

He's my new soulmate brother, right? And I've had so many more

soulmate brothers show up in the last couple years, as I did some deeper healing

around stuff that I still had with men and in

friendships even. And so I've done all the healing around that. Now

I have soulmate female relationships. So many

soulmate male relationships. Oh, my gosh. My new friend Alex

is A soulmate friend. Amrita is a soulmate

friend. I have all these. My friend Thespis

Farhad, who I'm doing the Japan retreat with. Like, I'm just attracting so

many soulmate relationships everywhere. And because of

that, I'm like, oozing with love. So I'm not aching for

something else that I don't have right now and am able to really

deeply experience this phase of my life where it's just me and

I'm not in partnership. And when partnership arrives, I'll be ready for it

and I'll be hungry for it, and I'll be but so

satiated already that we can just dance together and play together

and grow together. And I don't need that person to give me space. Something

like, what a horrible way to start a relationship. You are responsible

for making me feel good. And the moment you don't, my saboteur is going to

flip from giving you all the credit for making me feel good to blaming

me for making me feel bad. That's the dance of the pattern

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episode to every woman you know who needs to hear this message.

It's so important that we keep spreading the word of the new truth. Truth

that so much more is possible when we take responsibility for our journey.

That's what this whole episode and every episode is about. But

remember, this is a magical universe. And if you are

listening to the call of your soul, if you are saying

yes to those aches in your heart and no to those

squishy feelings that are just like, something's off. It doesn't make sense, but it's off.

Listen to that. And life will lead you on the most

magical adventure you could ever imagine. I promise you. Love you so much.

And if you want support on the journey, journey, as always, I am available for

you and we can have a conversation about what that would look like. Love you

and we'll talk to you soon. See you next week.