How To Manifest A Life That Feels As Good As It Looks with Leah Brathwaite
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How To Manifest A Life That Feels As Good As It Looks with Leah Brathwaite

What if the life you’ve been trying so hard to manifest isn’t actually the life your soul wants for you?

Kate welcomes soul advisor and manifestation teacher Leah Brathwaite back to The New Truth for a conversation about creating a life that feels as good as it looks.

Together, they explore the difference between manifesting from fear, conditioning and control versus allowing your soul and intuition to lead. Leah shares how building the picture-perfect life ultimately left her disconnected from herself, and what changed when she stopped forcing outcomes and began trusting what felt true.

They also unpack surrender, detachment and why embodying the feelings behind your desires may be more powerful than chasing the external result.

This conversation is an invitation to release the script, trust yourself more deeply and leave room for life to surprise you.

In This Episode We Explore:

  • Manifesting from your survival self versus your soul
  • Why getting what you want may still leave you unfulfilled
  • How to recognize the way your intuition speaks to you
  • The connection between control, attachment and lack
  • Why the feelings beneath your desires matter
  • Becoming an energetic match for what you want
  • Letting go of old identities as you expand
  • Allowing life to unfold beyond what you planned

Your Practice for This Week:

Notice where you’re trying to force or control an outcome.

Ask yourself what you believe having it will allow you to feel, then find one way to embody more of that feeling now.

Pay attention to the quiet yeses, noes and nudges that follow. Choose one and trust yourself enough to act on it.

About the Guest:

Leah Brathwaite Cooper is a bestselling author, soul advisor, spiritual teacher, and the founder of the Free Soul Collective. Her work helps ambitious women reconnect with who they truly are, manifest what they deeply desire, and create lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside.

Blending spirituality, manifestation, identity work, and grounded self-leadership, Leah teaches a different approach to creating a beautiful life—one rooted in alignment rather than achievement, and in becoming more of who you already are rather than constantly trying to become someone better.

She is the author of A New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation From Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul and host of the Live Free Lifestyle Podcast. Leah lives in Malibu, California with her husband and believes that true freedom begins when you stop living the life you think you should want and give yourself permission to create the one you actually do.

LINKS

Instagram: www.instagram.com/leah.brathwaite

Free Masterclass: https://www.thelivefreelifestyle.ca/masterclass

Free Soul Collective: https://www.thelivefreelifestyle.ca/freesoulcollective

40 Days of Devotion: https://www.thelivefreelifestyle.ca/40-days-of-devotion-the-heart-1

Website: https://www.theunscriptdwoman.com/

About the Host:

Kate Harlow is the founder of The Unscriptd Woman, the creator of The Expanded Love Coaching Method, and host of The New Truth podcast - ranked in the top 1.5% globally. With over 15 years of experience teaching, coaching and facilitating transformational retreats worldwide, Kate has helped hundreds of thousands of women break free from outdated relational patterns, old patriarchal ways of thinking and unspoken rules to live by.

Her infallible methods guide women to release the deeply ingrained scripts that keep them stuck- empowering women to step into their highest, most magnetic, and fully expressed selves. Through her coaching, retreats, podcast and upcoming book The Unscriptd Woman, Kate is redefining what it means to be an empowered woman in today's world, showing women how to stop waiting for permission and start creating a life and love that aligns with their deepest truth.

Known for her rare ability to see exactly where women are out of alignment with themselves, Kate offers a path back to unwavering self- trust, meaningful joy and true fulfillment. Her work is a revolution - one that liberates women from societal expectations and invites them into a life of radical authenticity, thriving relationships and unshakable self-worth.

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When I say manifestation, and that's what I teach, it's coming from a

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soul-led place where you are on that highest

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frequency and most authentic aspect of yourself. And

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that is aligning you with all of the deep desires of your heart. So the

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big love, the income that feels spacious

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and supportive, the freedom that you desire, all of those things

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live on a high-level frequency. And you can't

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create them from that survival self if you're continuing to

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force and push and hustle. Like, your soul, has a bigger plan than you can

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ever imagine. It is limitless. It is infinite. It's connected to your purpose

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and to the universe and to all of the magic that is meant for you

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here. And unless you tap into it, you are going to be fighting through

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life. You're going to be controlling things. You're going to try to manipulate your way

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to what you feel is probably meant for you, but there's just a bit of

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distortion in how we're going about it.

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Hello, beautiful. Welcome back to the New Truth

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Podcast. Hi, Leah. Hello,

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Kate. So excited to have you back. on The New Truth.

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So for those of you who've been following my travel journeys the last

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couple of months, Leah is my bestie who I was

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visiting in Malibu, California a few weeks ago. I don't

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think I recorded a podcast from there, but I've definitely, pretty sure I

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definitely spoke of our time together on one of the episodes. So,

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um, it was magical. It was so good to have you here. And you, oh

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yeah, that was so magical. And oh, I definitely talked about it 'cause I remember

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sharing that I had no idea I was gonna see you. I was going, even

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going to California and You were, and Leah is

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a manifestation teacher and a spiritual teacher and a soul advisor.

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And she was leading a 40 days of devotion. Um, you can chat

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more, you can talk more about that, but I was there witnessing it and you

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were teaching about manifestation and we're sitting there like, we

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didn't even know that this was happening. Oh, we manifested this. Yeah. Yeah, exactly.

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Exactly. So I'm so happy to have you back. I think this is your

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third time on The New Truth, maybe fourth. Yeah, I think it's the

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third. If I'm not mistaken, I think it's 3rd.

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Yeah. Yeah. So excited to dive in and

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explore all this conversation about manifestation because, uh,

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the New Truth diehard listeners know that I have, and you

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also know that I have funny feelings about how most people teach and

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utilize, uh, use the word manifestation. And it feels, and this

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is actually perfect timing because last week I did an episode about letting go of

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control or the illusion of controlling your life. And so I think a

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lot of people are manifesting from control, but I love how you teach

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manifestation and it feels really aligned with the, the

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essence of what I believe is our co-creation

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with life. So, and I know you have a big masterclass tomorrow

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happening, so we'll talk about that too. Yeah. But this conversation about how

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to, how to actually create a life that feels as

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good as it looks, because so many people have even

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manifested quote unquote Their dream life, but like don't even

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feel good inside of it. Totally, totally, totally. I love that you

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mentioned also like at the outset, like the relationship that

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you have with the word manifestation, because I have that same relationship with it.

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And I'm like, ah, do I really want to be known as like a

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manifestation teacher when there tends to be

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a whole context around it that is sometimes misunderstood?

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So I think that's first and foremost the thing that I would like to kind

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of set the record straight about is like, what that word

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actually even means and like how we are constantly

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always manifesting. Like, it is the most natural state of our being. We

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are created as creators in the image of the Creator.

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Whatever that means to you, whether you use the God language or Source or

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Spirit or Universe or Divine Presence, however you want to

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speak it, we are constantly translating energy

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into form. I already have goosebumps. How do you say that? Oh,

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right off the jump. For like the whole time you've been

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talking, I'm like, this is it. We are. That was such a, so

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beautifully stated. Oh my gosh. Okay, carry on. So

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I think manifestation in the

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context of like people who kind of roll their eyes at it, they think it's

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like this magical fairy tale thing where you literally just sit on your couch and

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you're like, I asked the universe to drop thousands of dollars or the man of

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my dreams into my lap and you do nothing about it. That is

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not how I teach it. That is not how I experience it.

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That is not, um, I think it's sometimes an

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oversimplified explanation of what it truly is.

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But I think at the outset, it's so important to know that

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we are constantly creating in our lives. Like, we are

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constantly, we ourselves are a manifestation. Like, the

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very first manifestation of our being on this planet is our body. It's the

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thing that our energetic self, our soul, our

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pure essence has formed so that we can

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maneuver in this 3D reality and play the

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game of creation, have the experience of the

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full range of the 3D world, the highs, the lows,

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all of it. So I see

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manifestation really as just a natural

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process that is Constantly happening. I think there's different

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ways to do it. There's consciously or unconsciously.

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I think the majority of us, until we know that there's a different way to

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do it, are manifesting unconsciously. We're manifesting through

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our programming, our conditioning, the things that we learned, our fears,

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our limiting beliefs. But there's another way to

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do it. And that comes back to that conversation around a life

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that feels as good as it looks, because a lot of the women that come

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into my world, they are high achievers. Same with you. Yeah.

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They know how to get shit done. They've got, like, careers that they've maybe worked

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really hard for. Or maybe they do have a relationship,

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and they've created things in their lives, but they're like, this

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isn't exactly what I thought it was going to be, or this doesn't feel the

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way I want it to, or this job, this career that I've worked so hard

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for is actually sucking the life out of me, or this relationship

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that I'm, like, fighting for is draining me constantly.

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So it might look good, on the 'gram to be able to post like some

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of those external metrics that manifestation is known for, like the money, the

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house, the car, the— everybody's got like the G-Wagon and the Chanel purse on their

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vision board. The handsome husband. Yeah, exactly. Like all of

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those external metrics that we

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think that we need to do more and work harder for versus

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how that actually feels to have it. I have been one of those women

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who had everything on paper that looked perfect, and inside

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I was like, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically

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bankrupt because I didn't realize that I was manifesting

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from that unconscious part, or what I call my survival self, the one

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that was like built to survive life through like

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people pleasing and perfectionism and like achievement and pushing and

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forcing and controlling, versus when I

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learned how to realign to my truth, to my soul, and

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I let my soul lead the way, that is when I started to have—

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even more epic manifestations, but they felt almost effortless. They were

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like just a natural progression of the way life was evolving, kind of like

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the way you ended up in California and like coming to, to visit us in

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Malibu was like, we could have planned and forced and tried to like arrange our

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schedules and like done this really strict itinerary for you to make it

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happen versus it just happening

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organically and naturally and being a really beautiful experience for both of us. So

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that's what I mean. When I say manifestation, and

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that's what I teach, it's coming from a soul-led place where

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you are on that highest frequency and most

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authentic aspect of yourself, and that is aligning you

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with all of the deep desires of your heart. So the big love,

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the income that feels spacious and

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supportive, the freedom that you desire, all of those things

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live on a high-level frequency, and You

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can't create them from that survival self if you're continuing

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to force and push and hustle. Like, your soul has a

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bigger plan than you can ever imagine. It is limitless. It is

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infinite. It's connected to your purpose and to the universe and to all of the

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magic that is meant for you here. And unless you tap into it,

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you are going to be fighting through life. You're going to be controlling things. You're

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going to try to manipulate your way to what you feel is

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probably meant for you. But there's just a bit of distortion,

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um, in how we are going about it. So. Yeah, I was

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thinking like, as you're talking, when, when I was in my

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20s and I was like really in my scripted self-survival,

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self-saboteur patterns, I was trying to

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create the life that everyone else was creating at the time. All my friends were

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getting married. There was 11 weddings in like the span of 2 or 3

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years. I was a bride, no, I was a bridesmaid 11 times. There was probably

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more than 11 weddings. Wow. But they were all getting married. They were all

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buying houses. is they were all staying in North Vancouver, which is wild. I'm in

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North Vancouver right now and like, I wanna throw up everywhere imagining

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living here and having not left. And, you know, I remember at

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the time, like I made vision boards and I was trying to manifest the life

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that they all had. But until we know our own soul,

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mm-hmm, which obviously we'll talk so much about today, until we get

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to know our own soul, like you, you don't know the life. I didn't, I

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wasn't like manifest living in Africa. Like

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what? You would've been like, ew, no, that's weird. Why would I?

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Exactly. Not remotely. Like my mind would've pushed that

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away. Yeah. So it, it, like, we think we know what we

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want. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. But, but there's so much we're meant

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to experience that. Yeah. So what do you have to say about that in terms

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of manifesting? And yeah. 'Cause I was that girl in my 20s. Yes. I was

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like, okay, this is, how do you be happy? Well, everybody says you

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go to school, you get a good job. and then you get married and then

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you buy a house and then you have babies. And that's like the script. Like,

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yeah, this is what you're talking about. That's the program. We do the same thing.

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We work at the same job for 30 years and then maybe in the last

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like back end of our life, we may be able to get to enjoy some

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of our freedoms if we've done everything right and we followed all the rules and

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we like did the right thing. So I'm very— But that's

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when you have health issues, so you don't get to enjoy it. Exactly. So you're

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like, you just hope, knock on wood, that you, you're still in good shape

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back by then. Um, but I had that same

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script handed to me. And on top of that, I had a huge

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religious indoctrination programming about being a good person and what it meant

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to want things and to what it meant to be a good person and what

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you were supposed to quote unquote do so that you could live

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forever and, and all of that sort of stuff. So I was

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very much one of those people that

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had this very strong desire to be a good girl. Like

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I wanted to be accepted. I wanted to be right. I wanted

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to be good. I wanted to feel

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like I was belonging and appreciated and that I was doing a good job.

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So I took that and was like, okay,

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let's fricking go. And I was like, I'm gonna be the best in church. I'm

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gonna be the best in school. I'm gonna be the best, la la la la

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la. And so by 21, was it

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21 or 23? In my early 20s, like 21 or

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23, I had gotten engaged. I had bought my first house. I had

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bought my car. I had gotten the job. I had completed all of these things.

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I was checking all of these boxes and I was like, I'm doing it.

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I'm the good girl. Crushing it. I'm crushing it. I'm like, oh, look at that.

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I'm like the first one married. I'm the first one buying a house. Look at

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all my other friends. Like I'm winning at life. And I had

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all the things that I was supposed to have. I'm like, husband, check. Houses, check.

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Cars, check. Dog, career, all of those things.

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And it was slowly killing me

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because like you said, until you know your soul, you don't actually know what you

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want. I thought I wanted all of those things. I thought I was supposed to

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have all of those things. And so I thought I was supposed want those things.

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And so I went after them, and I was a driven woman. I'm still

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a driven woman, but when you're driven by the wrong part of you, you

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will drive yourself into or off of a cliff. Like, I

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drove straight into a brick wall, and

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we had just completed the construction of our second

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home. We had a rental property with the other property, and I was

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standing in this dream kitchen that I had like— Forced and

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controlled and like picked everything out, like the fridge that I wanted,

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the grout color, like everything was controlled and like

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manifested to my specifications.

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And I was in the kitchen on a random Sunday putting away

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groceries, just opening the fridge door, and all of a sudden it

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came crashing in. It was like, not for another second. And I was like,

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excuse me? Like, what is happening here? Who's speaking?

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Not what for another second. And it was like, not This for another

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second. And I was like, what the hell is happening? Because I could see like

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these 2 parts of myself. It felt like an out-of-body

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experience, but a very deeply present experience at the same time. It was like I

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was watching myself. And that was like the voice of my soul

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waking up and being like, girl, wake up,

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not for another second. And as I'm looking around this perfect

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kitchen in this beautiful home, that was like the dream.

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I felt like nothing. I felt empty. I was like, how did I

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get here? Like, this doesn't feel like my life. This

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doesn't feel like any of it is mine, but

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I had made every single choice. Like, I got myself into this

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situation. Like, what is happening here? And

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that was like a moment of awakening where I had had many moments

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previous to that where I was given the opportunity, like, are you

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going to choose your truth? Or are you going to choose what you're supposed to

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do? Are you going to choose the should? Are Are you gonna choose making somebody

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else comfortable? Are you gonna choose what your parents want for you or what your

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church wants for you or what society wants for you? Or are you gonna choose

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yourself? And that was the very, one of the very first moments where I

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decided I'm gonna choose myself. And I'm like, okay, I'm

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listening. This is like messing with me so much that

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I'm like, I'm listening. Something is happening here. So when

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my now ex-husband at the time came into the kitchen

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and saw me kind of like having a moment with myself, like,

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looked a little discombobulated because I was like, something's happening. He's like, you okay?

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And instead of doing the thing that I always did, which was like, yeah, I'm

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fine, I'm fine, I'm fine, I said, no, I'm not. I think there's

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something like wrong. I think I maybe need to see a therapist,

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but I don't think I'm okay. And just saying that, just admitting

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that I am not perfect, my life is not perfect, I'm trying to hold

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everything together and it's cracking inside, like I am deeply anxious,

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I'm battling depression, not even knowing that that was what was

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going on, 'cause I was so oblivious to my own internal

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world. I was so focused on the outside world, the perception

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of others, doing the right thing for what other people would judge as the right

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thing, that I had no idea how to really listen to myself. And so that

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first moment of listening to myself and then voicing that

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was truly life-changing. Like, it set in motion a series of

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events that catapulted me into a completely

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different timeline that helped to actually start manifesting from my

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soul and creating a life that has all those same things. Still

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have a new husband, have a new dog, have a new house, have a new

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career, all of those things, but they feel so deeply fulfilling.

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They feel so aligned. I feel present and alive

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and inspired by my life. And it's also

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100 times better than what I had hustled and grinded and like forced

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myself to create in the past. So, When I say,

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like, my core belief is that when you connect to the truest part of

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yourself, which is your soul in my language, and you set it free to

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guide your way, you let it lead you to the places like

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Africa that feel kind of crazy, or like to these decisions that are

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like, oh my God, this feels out of the

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ordinary almost. It will lead you to a life beyond your

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wildest dreams. But if you continue to stay in that prescriptive

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box of logic, there's only so much that your logical wee little

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human mind can conceive of. And it's like, A plus B equals

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C. It doesn't take into account that you have the entire backing of the

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universe energetically conspiring to support

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your energy. And when it's only limited to, like, what you can

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see or what you know or what you've been told you should want,

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you're missing out on, like, the grand spectrum of so much more of

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your life that is available to you. Yeah. Oh my gosh.

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And as you're talking, I'm like remembering all the moments that

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you sh— when we met in 2020 and you were talking about how,

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and then I was called to go to Thailand and I just like went to

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Thailand. And then I was, the voice told me like, go to Vancouver. And I

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was like, Vancouver, why Vancouver? So I packed up everything and I moved to

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Vancouver. And then like a week into living there, or however many, however many days

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into living there, you meet me and Kel— well, you knew Kelsey already, but

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met me. And then we instantly became besties. And then Andy,

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and then the, the, like all the thing, like all the aligned

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conscious, you know, relationships that then led you to that

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beautiful home that you had here in Vancouver. Yeah. And then that

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led you to like, and that led you to meeting Christina. And then we were

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in LA for your 40th birthday where you had a date with Brock, your husband.

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Like it was just like you kept following. You can't plan this stuff. Yeah.

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Like you can't plan it. You can't plan it. Yeah. And I think, I think

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you, you, because at the time, I was definitely connected to

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my soul and living for my soul as much as I could in my work

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and my practices in Vancouver. But I think that

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unconsciously, you really gave me permission to follow those weird

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feelings that were like, wait, why am I saying yes to this thing? Okay. And

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I'm just going over here. And I meant to move

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to Kenya. I felt that the second day being there. I went, and

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I didn't go there on purpose, didn't know I was going there, got called

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to go there on a retreat. Oh, wow. And I was the first or second

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day, like, oh my God, I think I wanna live here. And I didn't know

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that was actually gonna happen. And then when the moment came where it was like,

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you should move to Kenya, and it just was like, oh, okay. And it,

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I didn't even question it, you know? And it's like, okay, just trusting that. And

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yeah. And so, yeah, I think you really liberated me in a lot of ways

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just from witnessing how you were doing your journey. Thank you. And how you were

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like, nope, this place is wrong. Gotta move. Got like, you would, as soon as

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something was out of alignment, you'd, you'd shift. Yeah, I had

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like a very low tolerance at that point. Yes. But it was like small steps

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that built up to that. And it's not to say that it takes a long

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time, but if you don't know yourself, like how can you trust yourself?

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And if you don't know yourself, how do you know what you want? How do

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you know what a yes is? How do you know what a no is? So

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that's a lot of the work that I do with my clients. It's very similar

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to some of the things that you do with your clients of like getting them

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reconnected and attuned to what is that voice for

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you? Like how do you hear it? How do you feel it? Can you think

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of times where you've heard it you listened and something

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magical happened, or you've heard it and you didn't listen, and then you like

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had a world of hurt after it. Mm-hmm. Like, I can think back to

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so many moments where I had that same voice

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that was telling me to do something, and I was like, well, that's inconvenient, or

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that's kind of weird, or I feel afraid to do that, or it doesn't make

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any sense, I don't understand. And I didn't listen to it, only to

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find out that hindsight is 20/20, but sometimes hindsight really

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hurts your Like, it hurts when you're like, I knew that there was

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something not right, or I knew that this wasn't quite the right

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thing. And then you find out, like, time will

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prove your intuition or your soul correct. But the

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reason why I was able to listen to all of those

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things of like, okay, you're moving here, you're moving here, you're doing all these crazy

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things, you're driving across the country during COVID like, as provinces

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were shutting down, I'm like driving from Toronto to Vancouver to move there.

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And it made no sense, but— It, it,

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it just was such a knowing. It was such a truth. And that's like

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the level of power that we all have that has like

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such a strong resonant internal guidance system that is like,

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go here. And your intuition isn't going to explain like, so that

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eventually you're going to meet this girl Kate and you're going to like find your

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soul family in Vancouver and it's going to be the best 5 years of your

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life and you're going to have all these connections that are going to lead to

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this. It's just like, go here. And you have to be able to trust that

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in that unfolding, that as you're moving towards where you're being

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called, everything is organizing and orchestrating itself around you.

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Because there's going to be a global pandemic and you're going to need your soul

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family around you to go through the pandemic with.

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Um, so as you're talking, I just want to speak

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to not everyone has a voice. I'm sure you speak to this. So you have

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like, go here, do this. And so I don't have that. I just have

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yes and no feelings in my body. And it's interesting too, 'cause this will be

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on YouTube. We're just, we're just launching the YouTube channel soon. And so it,

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this will be up on YouTube, but for those of you that are listening on

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audio, it, you, every time, like, as you're talking about your scripted

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self, you're pointing to your head. And as you're talking about your soul, you're pointing

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to your body. So it's interesting, like psychosomatically. Yeah. We

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like your, for those who don't know how to listen to the

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compass, my experiences and everyone's different. And I think we all have like

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clairaudient, clairvoyant, clairsentient Sentient, whatever. But for me, it's like,

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it's a kinesthetic feeling in my body of like a yes. And

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almost immediately after, my mind's like, no, here's all the reasons why you shouldn't do

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that thing. Or it's a strong no. And my mind's like, here's all the reasons

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why you shouldn't do that thing. Yeah. Yeah. And I,

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I think that's a really important thing to talk about. I mean, it's one of

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the reasons why I actually love human design, um, because it, it

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lets you know that we're all Differentiated, meaning we're all different. We

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all have different ways of like listening to our inner

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authority or inner voice. So some people will have more of an

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audible sound, but we have like,

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without going too far off, because I can go into the whole spirituality and like

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the energetics of like our 10 bodies and how like we have these 10

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levels of being of our bodies, like the etheric, the spiritual, the

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mental, 3 of mental bodies. Like there's so much that

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That we do not physically see with our senses that we are

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constantly perceiving. And so the entirety of your soul is

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not just like limited to inside of your body, it's outside

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of your body. You have an auric field that extends like up to

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6 feet around you, and sometimes more, that is

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constantly energy that's interchanging with your

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environment, with like the people that you're around,

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with the field. And that is like

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the really subtle sensation that starts to pick up

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information. And then the stronger or the closer it gets, the more it filters into

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you being able to really sense and hear it. So for some people, like you

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said, it will be just like a knowing that doesn't make sense. You're just like,

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I know that this is the right thing to do. For other people, like I

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have both like audience vision and like

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sentience. Like I feel it in my body. I sometimes hear and I

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can see. Um, imagery. I'll get flashes of

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scenes of things that I'm like, I don't know what this means. Like

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the story about my husband, like I, in a meditation, I just saw this

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image of who I thought was, um, John

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Legend. It was like an album cover of John Legend. And it's just like the

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silhouette, silhouette of his face. I can't remember the name of the album,

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but I saw that in my mind and I felt it in my

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body that that I was somehow married to this person. And I was

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like, am I gonna marry John Legend? I'm trying to like piece it together. And

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I'm like, how the hell am I gonna make that happen? Like, that's weird.

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Um, and then I think this was actually even a few years before I

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met Brock. And then years later, I find this guy,

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I look at his Instagram profile, he's got that exact same, like, it looks

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so identical to like that silhouette of John Legend.

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Like, from that very peripheral, if you squint a little bit, they kind of look

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like the same person. So I was like, oh, okay, that makes sense. So we

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all have different ways of seeing and hearing and feeling things, and that's part of

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the process of like learning yourself. How does your intuition speak to

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you? Does it feel like a knowing in your gut? Does it feel

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like something that you can hear? Does it feel like imagery that you

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see? Is it like a physical sensation, like you were saying?

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Learning how to differentiate those things and think back to moments where you had

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like just a weird moment where you're like, I just knew something. Yeah. something was

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going to happen, or I just sensed something, or I saw that,

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or I felt it. Look for those clues.

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And the more that you can get in touch with your inner world— this is

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why I love 40 Days of Devotion so much. It's because it brings you into

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a relationship with yourself so you can be in

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relationship and in observation and in connection with yourself

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for these 40 days that we do This Kundalini practice, and

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it lets you hear what is constantly being

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broadcast internally, but the outside world is just so loud,

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we don't often pay attention. Or our

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intuition is like, girl, you need to go this way, and you're like,

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no, I'm really committed to going this way because it looks better that way. It

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makes more sense. Like, I can see how that could eventually

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potentially work. But our minds are not predictive. They're really just

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a pattern and a programming that is running on just our history.

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So it's trying to project our history onto everything,

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imagining worst-case scenarios or imagining what can happen,

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but it's not an accurate predictive processor,

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whereas your soul, your intuition, your energetic field is constantly

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in communication, picking up on subtle things. So it's a better way

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of navigating than trying to do it through your mind. Yeah. And

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there's 2 things that are coming up as you say all that. One, that your

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mind is always going to like want the logical reason for something. And

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logic is like programming and how like

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usually the soul choices don't make any logical sense.

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How, how am I going to afford that? How am I going to make that

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happen? How do I legally live in Greece? How do I like, it's not

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going to make logical sense. So if you're trying to figure out a lot

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logically, like you're You're most likely gonna take yourself

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out. And then the other thing I wanna say is like the willingness to

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surrender all what you think you desire, right? Mm-hmm.

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And to like, to connect with perhaps the feelings that you imagine will

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come with those desires or that are attached to those desires. Because

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when I was in, uh, at the lake last week, it was so interesting. I

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had 3 people say to me, did you always know you didn't wanna have

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kids? 'Cause they just see me leading this unscripted life that's not

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like anyone else's. I live in Africa. I'm, you know, like they, they,

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I'm like a wild animal to them. They have no idea how I'm doing what

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I'm doing. Yeah. So they think like, oh, I'm one of those women that's like,

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I don't wanna have kids. Like I'm just gonna live my free life. And I,

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I look at them and I'm like, okay, I'm 45, but I'm like, I still

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don't, like what? I, I never made that. I still didn't make that decision. I'm

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like, I'm si— I'm living my life with my palms open and whatever I'm meant

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to experience, I'll experience. So it's so interesting that from the conditioned self. Yeah.

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People think like, oh, I have to figure it out. I have to make a

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choice. I have to do this or that. And yet when we're in

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soul, in my experience, it's like more of just hands open and like

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responding to the present moment and the yeses and nos in the present moment. And

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then life's leading us on this magical adventure that we don't even know how it

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looks or what. You might know the feelings you desire, but actually we don't

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know. So the willingness to like let go of everything you think you want. Yeah.

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Totally. And it doesn't mean you have to necessarily give up that

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desire, but there is like that openness that is so important and

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so hard. Like, I'm not pretending that this is easy,

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especially for like the Type A, high-achieving, like driven women

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that we are and that I know and that I work with.

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But there is something about being open to how it all unfolds.

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And one of the greatest examples that I have of this is like meeting

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my husband because I got

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Divorced in 2014, and I didn't meet him until

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2020, end of 2023. But I was like,

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where's my person? Like, it's so, like, my ex moved on very quickly and

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like was in relationships very soon after we

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split up. And I'm like, am I the problem? Is it me? Like, why, why,

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where's my person? Why can't I have that thing? But I say this

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time and again that you can't create a soul-level desire from a survival level.

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From a survival self place. So there has to be a rise in your

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consciousness. There has to be a rise in your identity and

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even in an understanding of what your desire actually is. So while I

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had relationships between now, between when I got divorced and when I

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met him, they were all teaching me all the places where I

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wasn't yet willing to let go and where I was really trying to control things.

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And it got to a point where I had gone on like a

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few dates with somebody and turn out to be like, I mean,

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I knew on the first date that this, I was like, this is a negatory.

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This is like a no. But I was like, but I mean, maybe I can

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take that red flag and like put in the washing machine and it'll turn out

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green or something. Uh, but after the third date, I was like, absolutely

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not. Which is so great because in the past I would've like waited

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not 3 dates, but like 3 months or 3 years. So we were making big

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progress and I made a decision. I was like, What I really

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want is this. I had the whole list. I knew exactly what I wanted,

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but I also knew like, I'm trying to control it. I'm

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like trying to go on apps. I'm trying to find my person. I'm trying to

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make this happen. I'm trying, trying, trying. And that trying energy

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is like your survival self being like, if I don't do it, it's not gonna

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get done. So I need to try harder. It's never gonna happen. Like the fear

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that it'll— you'll never get to have the thing. So you constantly try and control

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the thing, which actually is the thing that's stopping you from having the thing. Exactly.

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Yeah. So it's like when you are in that place of like

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desperation of needing something to happen, of wanting to make it happen in this

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particular way or in this like very limited timeline,

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that's when you are in control. You're trying to be in control,

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but what you're actually doing is like you're manifesting from that

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energy of control and that energy of lack. So you're really just creating more of

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the same thing. So it was in 40 Days of

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Devotion. I think actually what happened was I was doing like my

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own practice and it was like, I really wanna

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find my person and I realize I'm in control and I'm in lack around it

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because I'm noticing that he's not here and I'm trying to fill that thing. So

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I was like, I gotta let this go. And what came through was like, focus

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on your friendships and focus on your business. And I was like, okay.

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And that was very hard because I really wanted to find my

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person. But I was like, yeah. But I was like, you know, I'm

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gonna have to just like surrender because that's the thing that feels the

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most alive to let it go, to focus on my friendships, to focus on my

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business. So I launched 40 Days of Devotion, did it

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as a group experience. I dove even deeper into my friendships. I mean, my

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friendships were one of my main priorities, but I was like, even more so,

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I'm going to say yes to more things. I'm going to make that the priority.

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And so when our mutual friend Christina was like, come visit me in

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California, I was like, yes. The timing isn't great.

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There's so many reasons why I shouldn't. I'm doing this 40-day thing where I'm waking

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up at like 6:30 every day and leading people doing this live meditation, but I'm

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going to do it. So I was focusing on my business, I was focusing on

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my friendships, and it was through that that the most serendipitous,

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unplanned, like magical manifestation of this man

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came into my world that I could never have controlled. Here I

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was in Vancouver, like, where's my person? He needs to be in Vancouver. He needs

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to be location specific. I had all these like parameters around it.

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Turns out he lives in Malibu, California, and I'm gonna meet him in this magical

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way that lets me know the universe has my back, that lets me know that

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my soul is leading me. on this path. So if we are

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able to open our palms a little bit and say like, okay, I really

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want this thing over here, but the more I focus on the

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want of it or the lack of it or the fact that it's not here,

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the more I'm kind of pushing it away. So what else feels like alive

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and vibrant in my life? Where can I focus my energy that feels

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good, that I'm focusing on abundance, that I'm focusing on things that

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really light me up? And as you focus on those things, the universe is like,

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okay, we got your order, but you're the one that's trying to go back behind

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the kitchen and like cook it for yourself. Like, we're working on it.

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So you sit, enjoy, like,

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pretend you're at a restaurant. You've placed your order. The waiter's got it. He's taking

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it to the back. The chef is preparing it. You're enjoying your meal with your

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friends, and it will come around. But

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that's the hard part of like trusting

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ourselves, trusting our knowing, and trusting that there is something

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greater that is holding us in this experience of our lives. Yeah. That

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it's not just us muscling our way on this

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planet. There is so much more than

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what we're able to sense or see for ourselves, but it is

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always in support of the energy that we are putting into things.

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So that's why, like, in the manifestation rhetoric, it's

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like, be a match to what you desire.

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You can't create something of abundance if you're

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trying to create it from a place of lack or from a place of need

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or from a place of desperation. And if you do end up creating it, it

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doesn't last, or it's got this funky energy around it. It's like people that win

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the lottery and then can't keep the money. It's because your beliefs

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contradict what you desire. And so, because you're in your small

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self versus your soul. And as you're talking,

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I'm like, and telling your story, I'm like, didn't you say a year before

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meeting Brock that you like, maybe I'm gonna end up in California. Maybe I'm gonna

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live in California. You said something like that. Yeah. When I went to

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visit, um, Christina, it was me and Andy and Christine. We went for a walk

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and all of a sudden it was like, I just had this feeling.

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Yeah. And I was like, I think I'm gonna live here. Yes. And they're like,

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oh yeah, wouldn't that be so cool? Like we could just come and like, and

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then Andy and I were talking about like, well, maybe we can get like work

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visas because we're Canadian. We can't just like move to the States. So

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we were like, maybe what, like I could get like a work visa and I

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could just be here for like 6 months at a time. And logic starts

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to try to figure out how to make that happen. But my soul had a

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knowing of like, you're, this is going to be home for you. You're going to

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be living in Southern California. And I'm like, how the hell is that going to

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work? Because I have no real

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reason to move here. And most

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people would be like, Donald Trump's the president. How will you get a green card?

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You got a green card in like 5 minutes. It was like 3 months. So

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fast. Yeah, exactly. So, so it, because it was all

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soul alignment versus trying to control, and I'm just I was thinking like,

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okay, let's talk about wanting kids because I feel like so many women,

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that's— they try and manifest that and there's so much attachment

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and control. And yeah, maybe talk about that a little because

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that— it's like, I mean, it's, it's the same, it's the same

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answer for everything we desire. Yeah. But, um, for

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any women that are listening that are like, I know I want kids and like,

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what if I miss the window? What if I don't meet the person? What if

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I— like, all the fear that comes Well, I mean, this is

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just a fun fact that I love for myself 'cause I'm also in my 40s

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and I don't yet have children. But statistically,

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there are more women having children in their 40s now than there are

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teens having kids for the first time ever, like in history. So

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there is like, the timeline is a made-up

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construct. But what I would say to that

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is, I, I think it's important to

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understand why we want the things that we want. Like when I was married in

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my first life, I say, um, I was like, okay, well we have the houses.

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We've been married for like almost 7 years now. We need to start like thinking

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about kids. I wanna have kids. I need kids. Like that's the next thing on

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the list. We need to have kids. And thank,

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like, praise be that my partner, my husband at the time

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was like, you know, like originally that was the plan. We're gonna get married, we're

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gonna have kids. He all of a sudden was like, I don't think I want

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kids. And I And I was like, excuse me? And I was like, well, if

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I don't have kids, then what is the point? Like, who, like, who am I?

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So I very much had this identity attached

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to, it's the thing that you're supposed to do. You need to have children.

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Like, there's no other point to your life if you don't. And

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when we got divorced, I was like, ooh. At first I was like, okay, well,

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I need a person so that we can have kids. 'Cause I'm like, now in

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my, I, I'm 30 now, I feel Like, my window is closed.

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But what I've learned for myself is the reason that I

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want children is to have an experience

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where I can be like a good steward to them, where I can

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have myself tested so that I can grow, but I can also

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help usher in a conscious being

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that understands their power, that knows how to create, that can have a

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completely different experience of life because I've

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taken the time to learn myself and figure out how things work, and I can

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share that with them. Some of the things that I didn't necessarily get from my

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parents, who didn't know any better. So

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I think the reason why is an important thing to look at, but

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I also think that in anything in your life, whether

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it's your career or marriage

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or children or the place that you live in,

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if you are able to release the

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need from it— and this is like, there's steps to it. I know that it's

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very hard, especially when We've got biological, like, things

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happening within us that are like, I need this thing now. If you can

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move up the ladder and be

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in the embodiment of what that thing means to you, because we don't

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ever want the thing because we want the thing. You know what I mean? Like,

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you don't want a million dollars just so that you can have a million dollars

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in your bank account. That million dollars means something to you. It

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means maybe freedom, or maybe it means impact, or maybe it means choice.

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Maybe it means power. Like, you don't want a specific

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car, like the G-Wagon on your vision board, you don't want it

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just to drive a hunk of metal. It means something to you. Same as

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like that Chanel bag. It means something, whether it's status or style or whatever.

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Children, what does it mean to you? And how can you start

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embodying that meaning today? Like now, instead of

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waiting for that thing to let you

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have those feelings, how can you start to bring that into your world

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now? So it starts to diminish that I need that thing so that I can

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feel this thing. You can start to feel it now. You can start to be

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it now. You're starting to be in the energy of it, and that is the

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magnetic force that starts to attract things around you. So back to the

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story of me manifesting my partner, when I'm in the need of something,

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that's the energy that I'm putting out. Mm-hmm. It's like a lack. It's, it's not

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a match to the thing. But when I'm in joy and I feel fulfilled and

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I feel happy and I love my life and I have so much love

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in my life because I'm nurturing all these other things, Then I become a match

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to that deep soulmate love that I want. So there's an energetic

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component to it. There's a consciousness component to it. And I teach

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this process called the Free Soul Formula that walks you

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through how to become the energetic match for it so that

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you're living as it now. And that's what helps to create

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things faster. But I also think that there's

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just infinite numbers of ways that things can happen.

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Miracle stories, Like there's just so much, especially when it comes to children.

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I've been looking into this stuff myself. I'm like, okay, so what is it like

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in your 40s to have a baby? There is a plethora

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of information and stories that confirm the

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belief that it is possible, but you will also find a

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plethora of stories that will confirm the belief that it's not possible.

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So which belief do you choose to hold as your

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creative path? Because wherever you focus your attention— And

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that's where your energy is going. That's where your creative force is going. So

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if you want children, I would say, look for the beliefs and the

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proof and the evidence that it is possible. Hold yourself in

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that energy of possibility and potentiality and

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become a match for that. And watch how fast things

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happen in your life. It's wild to see. And the

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willingness to let go of how we think it's gonna look, because it's like, you

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think, oh, it's gonna be me. It has to come from me.

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And it has to be like, You may— might end up

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becoming— even as you're talking about your desire, it's like you're doing

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that for all the wounded women's inner children already. You're already

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being an usher to all these wounded little girls that you work with and

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who are operating from small self still, and helping them expand into

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their sovereignty and raise their consciousness and vibration in the world and heal the little

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girls inside. So you're already being a divine mama in,

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in a different way. Yeah. You know, and it's like, because Because the

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reality is sometimes what we think we want is not

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what we're actually meant to experience. But the thing that I

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know to be true is what we're meant to experience is always 10 million

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times better in your body and in the

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feelings. So coming back to the title, The Life That Feels as Good as It

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Looks, it's like we've been all programmed about what the life is supposed to look

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like. This is the next thing, this is what I'm supposed to do. But how

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it feels like. But actually, yeah, it might be so unexpected.

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I have always loved kids and been amazing with kids, so I was never like,

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no, I don't want kids for sure. I went through a phase where I'm like,

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oh God, I'm a projector and I don't think I have the energy for it

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and to do my work in the world. But now I've got, I'm

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sponsoring Elijah and I, this little boy in Kenya.

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Yeah. And, you know, watching him grow and change and like helping him and who

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knows where that's gonna go. And like, it's just like, oh, I'm kind of

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doing it in a different way. And there's just, and you know, the, the saboteur

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ego mind is gonna be like, nope, it's gotta be like this. And it's gotta

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be with the picket fence. It's gotta be with the, man with blonde hair and

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blue eyes like me. So we have another, like, it's gotta be these, this

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exact thing. And actually what your soul's here for

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often doesn't look how we think it's gonna look. I think some people who are

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visual might have a really clear picture and then that comes true.

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But sometimes, and also I'm a, in human design, a nonspecific manifester.

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Mm-hmm. So it's just a feeling. I don't, it's, I don't have clear visions.

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Yeah. I just have feeling and I just follow my yeses and nos in the

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moment. And then life keeps getting richer and more meaningful and more beautiful. And

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it's like, So sometimes whether it's kids or partnership or whatever,

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like all our souls are here for different experiences. I think of the women, I

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know 4 women who have fallen in love with a

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woman and never, and none of them are lesbians.

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Mm-hmm. 4 different couples, 4

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friends of mine who none of them are lesbians. They still don't identify as

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lesbian. They fell in love with a woman and are now in a very

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beautiful, harmonious, amazingly growth-based

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relationship with a woman. So it's like that, that might

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freak your saboteur out if you're like, that's not me. But it's like, I share

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that story because it's like, let life surprise you because what you're

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meant to experience is better than what you think you're supposed to have.

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Totally, totally, totally, totally. I think back to

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like, if I would have, I mean,

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if I would have met Brock, my husband,

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when I was like fresh out of my divorce and I was like, I'm ready,

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where's my person? Like, I definitely would've screwed that up. Yes. Because I was

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not prepared for it. And if I, there's so many

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things in my life, if things would've gone the way that I thought they were

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supposed to, or the way that I wanted, or the way that my brain was

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like saying, this is how it's supposed to be, I know that I would be

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miserable because I am so happy now. And I know

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that there's no other way that the magic that is in my life now could

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have happened. And if I had like forced what I thought I was supposed to

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have like happen back then. So it really

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is like, we think of these things as like destinations that we need to get

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to. I need to get married. I need to have a baby. I need to

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like, but our whole life is a journey. Like we know the final

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destination for each and every one of us. It's the end. We bounce. We're out

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of here. Like our soul is like, okay, that was a great

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incarnation. Good job. We've got some Notes for next time. Yeah.

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But the endgame that we're all

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like pretending doesn't exist is that we are no longer here. So

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while we are here, what's the richest, the deepest,

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the most magical, the most meaningful, the most fulfilling

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experience that we can have? And it really is when you are

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in the present moment and you recognize that you are

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co-creating every single moment by the thoughts that you choose to

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think, by the feelings that you entertain, by the people that you have around By

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the things you say yes to. Every decision that you make is

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shaping your destiny, and it's giving you the opportunity to

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be happy, to be fulfilled, to be

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yourself, to be like what you came here to be. There's nobody

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else that's ever going to do Kate Harlow. There's nobody else that's ever going to

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do Leah Brathwaite again. So how can I be the most me

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that I can be, and what is aligned

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with that. And truly, it is everything on your soul frequency that is

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the deepest desires of your heart. So the more that you can

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project that truth of yourself out into the world, the more you will be

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met with the things that you deeply desire, whether it's like

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soulmate girlfriends, or a soulmate partner, or

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work that lights you up, or hobbies that

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make you feel alive, or places in the world that you get

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called That you get to experience yourself in new ways.

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All of that lives inside. Like, it's such a cliché, but

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everything that you need is already inside of you. The feelings that you want, they're

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already inside of you. Hmm. Like, you get to access them, and

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you get to find that alignment. I think it's the coolest thing that we

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have our physical bodies that help us know when we are in resonance

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and when we are in dissonance, because we can feel that. If it feels

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like shit, it's dissonant. It's not your truth. It's not aligned.

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If it feels good and alive and expansive and like a yes, that is in

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harmony. That is aligned. And when you, you

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said something earlier, how you get like a knowing

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and it feels good in your body. And then immediately your mind is like, ah,

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but, but, but, but, but, but, and all of the but what ifs and what

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if the hows and all of that is because your mind, your logic is coded

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for survival. It is meant to keep you alive, and it's meant to

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keep you safe, and it's meant to keep you comfortable,

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really. That's what a comfort zone is. It's all the things that you know that

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are safe, even if you're not happy in it, they're safe and they're known.

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Any desire that you have is outside of that. If you don't already

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have it, it's outside of your comfort zone. So it's going to require you

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to stretch yourself. It's going to require you to be more of yourself, to express

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yourself in a new way, to show up in a new way, to

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adopt a new identity. of yourself, a new

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self-concept. And that will feel a little bit uncomfortable, and that

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will feel like this doesn't make sense, this doesn't feel safe. And

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that dissonance of like, this isn't okay, this isn't safe,

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is not the truth because it feels like crap. So start doubting

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your doubt. Like, start like— Hmm. Doubting the doubt that

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comes up. Like, what if this is just an old version trying to stay

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safe? What if this is just my old self, my

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survival self, trying to keep me comfortable. You can

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see it, you can accept it, you can love it, you can thank it, and

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you can say, and still, we rise, we grow, we

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move. Because your soul, like I said, it's infinite.

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It's connected to this power, this potential that you don't even

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know how much you have because we haven't been able to

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fully exercise it. So it's going to call you to the edge of that comfort

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zone every single time. It's going to ask you to surrender an old version of

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yourself to adopt a new new version of yourself and to expand into

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who you were meant to be so that you can have all the things that

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you were meant to have. But it's a balance of

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getting to know yourself and then letting go of that old self over and

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over again. Like, you will die. I can't remember who said it, but if you're

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living right, you will die multiple deaths along the way because you are

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constantly letting go of these old versions of yourself.

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Totally. And yeah,

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it's so powerful. And it's so like, I always think

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like it's when I'm the most afraid, I know that that's where I'm meant to

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go because it's like that, the comfort zone, the misery

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zone, the depression zone. It's, it,

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that is exactly where we're meant to go to be more of who we are.

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And the funny thing is, it's like we're chasing all of these things. I wanna

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have my person. I gotta have it. If it's coming from that place of, I

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need this thing to feel good, you'll never feel good. You'll feel good for an

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hour, for a day, for a week, for a month. but you'll never feel good

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versus like, as you said, everything's already inside. You

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start to cultivate those feelings internally and live from that place as

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if you already have the greatest love and the most intimate intimacy. You

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walk through the world with your heart open, following your yeses and

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actually taking those courageous steps. You feel so good that you

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actually don't need anything. See, irony, you don't need any of those things

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anymore. Exactly. And, but that's when you become magnetic to them. But actually you're

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like happy without them. the person or without the thing because you're,

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you're home and you're connected to, to all that you

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are. So that's the irony. It's like the moment we

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actually don't need those things anymore, that's when we become magnetic to them. But

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also we then aren't in that place of small, like, I need this

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thing. Yeah. And then you're not attached in the same way. So now you get

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to actually fully experience it. That's exactly it. That's the law of

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detachment. It's like one of the universal principles of manifestation. The law of

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detachment is like, if you are attached to something and you need it because you

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think there's power that's coming from it, you are not a match for it. Hmm.

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And so when you're able to, like, remove that need and you're like, oh, I'm

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already it, that's when it's able to be like, oh, she's already it.

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Let's connect. But until you're able to come to that

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realization of truth within yourself,

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I mean, then you're always putting your power out to something else.

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That person will always have power. That bank account number will always have power.

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If it changes, then you lose your sense of self. You lose your sense

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of, okay, And I truly believe that the

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whole point of anything that we want or we want to manifest,

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like I said, it's not because we want that thing, but it's because we believe

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that there's a reflection of ourselves in that thing. That's what this whole

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experience is like. Can you experience yourself? Can you

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recognize that you are powerful, that you are abundant, that you are worthy,

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that you are love, that you are magnificent? This 3D

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world is constantly giving us the opportunity to see that for

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ourselves and to create more of that for ourselves. Yeah. And at the same

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token, we can also buy into the story that we're not enough, that we're always

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going to be comparing ourselves to others, that we're judging all the things that are

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happening in our lives as like bad or wrong because it

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should be different. But when we're able to

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come to a place of recognizing that we get to create the

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experience that we desire to have through our perception, through

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our consciousness, through taking ownership and control

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of our mind, instead of letting our mind run the show and

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like come up with all of these like imagined scenarios of

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demise, then we get to see like, it really is

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much more simple than we've made it out to be. And it really is much

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more magical than we ever even knew. Yeah,

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totally. Exactly. And like, look, I just think, okay, we're

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magnetic to women who are doing the same thing. That too, like, because you just

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become a magnet to what you are. So I think like all my friends have

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these magical, epic who are up to the most amazing, extraordinary things, who are

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so on purpose, love what they do, have amazing love, have amazing

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lives, have deep, meaningful relationships. Like it, I'm

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surrounded by people like that because I'm living it and the embodiment of it. So

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the more we become embodied in it, the more like everything in your life reflects

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that. Totally. But that's the hard part because it's you that has to

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go first and then you do the thing. Yes. Yes. But most people are like,

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well, I'm waiting for the universe to give me the money so then I'll feel

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abundant. Or I'm waiting for the man to show up and then I will feel

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worthy. We gotta reverse it. You go first, the universe

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responds. It is constantly giving you a reflection

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back of what you believe about yourself and the standards that you hold for yourself.

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Like, both you and I have high standards for the relationships that we bring into

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our lives, and it's because we've made that our standard.

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We've chosen that for ourselves. It's not somebody else who has said, you know, I

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think you only deserve to have people who are

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mature and emotionally regulated and purposeful

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and inspiring. It's like, no, you become that first, and

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then that is what becomes your experience.

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So that's the hard part in manifestation, taking that responsibility and

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ownership and the assumption, holding that, being that, you

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being it first before you have evidence around it. And then the

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evidence comes and then you're like, yeah, of course. Like, yeah, because it's who I

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am. Yeah, exactly. I love it.

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So I love how you teach this and it's so

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expansive and inspiring, and I always love how articulate And eloquent you are.

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And yeah, just love. I've learned so much from you over the years,

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and I would love for you to share like how, if someone

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like who, I'm sure many women wanna go deeper with you, tell us all the

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ways. Well, there's a multitude of ways. I

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have a lot of free offerings. So if you

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are on Instagram at all, I'm @lea.brathwaite on Instagram. You can get a

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free copy of my book. It's called A New Way of Life. If you are

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just starting to figure out like, how do I connect to my soul? It's a

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guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul. So

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getting yourself in touch with you, understanding how to live free, how to

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free your soul, and start to hear the whispers of your soul. I also have

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a free masterclass that I am teaching on Wednesday. This

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is called How High Achieving Women Manifest a Life That

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Feels as Good as It Looks. So I take you through the behind the scenes

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of your survival self and your soul, and why maybe manifestation

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hasn't worked for you in the past, and how this one

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shift can allow you to start creating and calling in things

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from a different place. And then I also have my

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6-month manifestation mentorship ecosystem called the Free

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Soul Collective, which is a deep dive into this work. So you are

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doing the embodiment work, you are understanding your mechanism of how

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to do this, how to upgrade your consciousness, and how to become the

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identity of your next-level self, how to clarify your desires, how to

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reprogram your subconscious, and how to be the embodied expression

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of what you desire to manifest. And it's truly

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I think more and more, I've been doing this work for the last, gosh, well,

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personally with myself since like 2014,

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but professionally since 2019. And the more

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I do it, the more refined I get. And the Free Soul Collective is by

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far my favorite experience because it's a culmination

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of all of this work that I've done, like all of the spirituality, all of

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the meditation, the metaphysics, the energy, and— Design. And

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Human Design. And to see these women manifesting the most

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epic shit. is like, yeah, we all get to do

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this. Like, this is our natural state. This is our natural way

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of being. We just have to remember that, or we just have to relearn it

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because we've been told that it's hustling, it's grinding, it's working

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harder, it's proving your worth, it's people pleasing, it's trying to be perfect.

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We've been told that that's the way, like doing more to get more. This is

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about being more of you to receive more of what is meant for you.

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And it's my favorite thing in the world to do. So. And doing it in

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community. And doing it in community. And collaboration and celebrating each

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other and celebrating. Like, I, I think how many women, the other version that you

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just described is like everyone's alone in that, thinking they're alone. Like there's no

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universe, there's no guides, there's no angels. Just alone and competing. Do it

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alone and competing and comparing versus this way is

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in community. Everyone's celebrating each other. Everyone's sharing. So even

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if like someone else is winning, you are winning because it's like

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a representation of, of we're all doing this together and now Look what,

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what, look what we're experiencing. Yeah, exactly. It's just such a

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beautiful thing. And for somebody who for very many years had

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a hard time with community because of the religious community I was

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raised in, that's a whole other story. Um, it's so beautiful to

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see what happens when aligned souls are all in a collective

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together and the relationships that are

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forming. And it's not like we're doing any cheesy, like, relationship-building things, but like,

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people are hiring other people to do their astrology readings or to do

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breathwork or It's just a really beautiful space

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that I feel so proud of and so obsessed with.

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So those are the ways. Oh, and

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yeah, 40 Days of Devotion is the meditation practice that we do

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inside of the collective. So you can get like an example, like a taste of

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some of the work that we do in there. I think the next one will

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be in October. I think it'll be in October.

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I'm waiting on the full download for that one. But so

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those are the ways that we can go deeper into this Amazing. We'll

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link it all below this episode. And yeah,

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I would love to share, for you to share any final

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words you have about living a life that feels

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aligned rather than just looks good,

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that feels as good as it looks. I love this question. And

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I think what I would say is like, your soul already knows,

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like if you are a woman that is looking around your life and you're

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kind of like, how did I get here? Or you feel like a heavy feeling

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of frustration, or you know that there is like

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something else that you're meant to be doing, something else that you're meant to be

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experiencing. There's more for you out there. That is your truth.

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That is your soul speaking. And

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I don't say it lightly, but it's like your obligation

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to follow Follow that. Like, there's nobody else who's going to live

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out the potential that you came here with except you. So

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follow those nudges, follow those whispers. Like, start to look for

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evidence that there is more available for you. Look for people who are

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doing what you want to do. Find out how they're doing it.

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Get in touch with people. Find yourself in a community where

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there's inspiring conversation, where people are uplifting each other, where there's not

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this competitiveness nature, or just complaining all the

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time, or like a cutthroat kind of dog-eat-dog kind

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of thing. There's enough of that in the world. We need more women who have

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come alive with their truth, who are in their power, who are

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creating their lives in alignment

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with love and inspiration and abundance and

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worthiness and power and— Fun! And fun!

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Like, I think that's how we're going to change the world. I don't think it's

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through anything other than like getting in touch with ourselves, living the most

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fulfilled life that we can, and being the ripple effect in the world, letting

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other people see that. Beautiful. Love it so

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much. Thank you, my love, for all your brilliance and wisdom.

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Love having these juicy conversations with you. And I

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highly recommend joining Leah's extraordinary community.

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I've done your 40 Days of Devotion multiple times. I did it by myself once.

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And then did it in community, although I was in a different time zone, so

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I did it at a different time of day. But it was so amazing.

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And mornings are just as good. Oh my gosh, 'cause you teach wisdom

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every day and do the devotion, and it's so beautiful to have that. I know

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so many women, when they start working with me, it's like building that practice

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of ritual and connecting with self

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first thing in the morning is so abnormal for most

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women. And so it's so beautiful that in your programs, like, that's built in

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teaching. And when you commit to 40 days, It

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like, and I, I know that that part isn't coming up to the fall, but

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it's part of your, your program. And there's recordings of the past

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ones. And recordings of past ones. Yeah. So even if you do it on your

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own or with other women from the group, like, hey, who wants to do a

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40-day and you, or with friends, whatever. And you do it. Um, like

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having that, like every time I've done it with you, I've ended up doing 90

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days. I started with 40 and then I ended up doing 90. 'Cause it's like,

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oh God, this feels so good. Why would I ever stop? Yeah. There's women in

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the collective who like, we do one every, um, season and they'll do one and

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they're like, well, What am I doing until the next one? They just keep doing

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it, or they pick one from the archives. And I've had clients who've

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like, I'm like, they're well past a year of doing it daily because it becomes

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such a powerful anchor. So I love it. I don't

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talk about it enough, but 40 Days of Devotion is truly,

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it changed my life. So it's really beautiful practice. It's amazing. And what a gift,

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like how insane that we don't connect with ourselves first thing in the morning, and

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with our hearts and souls and bodies and energy. Like, it's crazy

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that we don't. So yeah, love it. Thank you so much for all your wisdom.

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Thank you for having me. I love you so much. So much.

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