Oct. 11, 2022

Are You Mastering Your Time or is it Time to Check-in with Yourself? - Ace Doligosa

Are You Mastering Your Time or is it Time to Check-in with Yourself? - Ace Doligosa

Unplug from the world and plug-in!  

Join Jackie and Instagram influencer Ace Doligosa, as they delve into the topics of time, money, and community.

Ace is the author of the book series, Master Time.

Listen in as they discuss the value of your heart and soul, your mindset, and your vision in being your business best.

It’s check-in time . . .

[04:50] Managing and mastering time

[05:45] How entrepreneurs can structure their day

[06:15] Balance and balancing energy

[07:24] Bending time

[09:18] Reading minds and keeping up

[10:30] The Divine “Pause” button

[12:15] Stop buying into the BS of not having enough time

[14:15] The power of “a little bit of interest”

[15:45] Hacking linear time

[17:30] Distracting from fear

[18:15] The cultural connection of time and money

[22:00] The money hack

[22:30] Specific resources you’ll need

[23:30] Sustaining money

[24:00] A vision that outlasts your lifetime

[28:45] How to become an Influencer

[32:00] Taming the terrible task master    

[34:15] How to schedule everything

[34:45] List making 101

[38:45] Sources of inspiration and encouragement

[43:30] Celebrating vision

Ace Doligosa’s Links:

LinkedIn

Facebook

Website: The Empress Collective

Books: Master Time Vol 1

             Master Time Vol 2

Other Links mentioned:

Shawn Achor’s TEDx Talk - "The Happiness Advantage: Linking Positive Brains to Performance"

Jackie Simmons’ Links:

Click here to get Jackie’s Master Class on “How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Get What You Want Faster”

LinkedIn

Facebook

Website: JackieSimmons.com

Website: The Teen Suicide Prevention Society

Books: Make It A Great Day: The Choice is Yours Volume 2

Enjoy! 

About Jackie:

Jackie Simmons writes and speaks on the leading-edge thinking around mindset, money, and the neuroscience that drives success.

Jackie believes it’s our ability to remain calm and focused in the face of change and chaos that sets us apart as leaders. Today, we’re dealing with more change and chaos than any other generation.

It’s taking a toll and Jackie’s not willing for us to pay it any longer.

Jackie uses the lessons learned from her own and her clients’ success stories to create programs that help you build the twin muscles of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence so that your positivity shines like a beacon, reminding the world that it’s safe to stay optimistic.

TEDx Speaker, Multiple International Best-selling Author, Mother to Three Girls, Grandmother to Four Boys, and Partner to the Bravest, Most Loyal Man in the World.

https://jackiesimmons.info/

https://sjaeventhub.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourbrainonpositive

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Transcript
YBOP Intro/Outro:

Welcome back to your brain on positive. All the love and support you need is residing inside of you. And we're going to make it easier to turn it on.

Jackie Simmons:

I'm delighted that you're here. Welcome to your brain on positive and my special guest ace Dolorosa, wonderful thing about AES, the first thing I want to point out is just that her name is pronounced exactly the way that it's felt. And in this day and age, that's a true gift to my mood, which is what positivity is all about. The lack of positivity in my mind is a mood disorder. And part of our journey today is going to be talking about how those disorders played out in aces life. But first, ah, let's start with where you are and who you are. Welcome to the show. Thank you so much for being here.

Ace Doligosa:

Thank you. Thank you so much for having me. I'm currently in Los Angeles. And I am an influencer entrepreneur, artist as well as other.

Jackie Simmons:

Well, there we go. All in a nutshell. Now, I'm just going to ask you said you've recently moved and where are you move now has better energy,

Ace Doligosa:

what makes the energy better? So I was living on the border between West Hollywood and Hollywood, and at the same time, two people passed away on my floor. Yeah, within like the last four months, so just the energy was pretty intense. Um, and because I'm sensitive to those types of energies. I didn't know what was happening. But I knew I needed to leave. And now we're in a better place.

Ace Doligosa:

Well, there we go. Cool. You said now we're in a better place is is that you and multiple people, or you are multiple people,

Ace Doligosa:

myself, and as well as my colleagues and one of my friends. So I'm really happy that I get to also be in a good space, not just for myself, but for others around me as well. Oh,

Jackie Simmons:

awesome. And that is so so critical that we have a village that we are part of, I don't know, we're gonna go off on a slight tangent because I'm a big follower of Sean Aker, the happiness professor from Harvard. And in one of his books, it would be for happiness. He'd said, they'd ask the wrong question in his first book. And in the first book, they were trying to gauge people's positivity, people's success rates, based on how well they were supported by their communities. Yeah, they were doing a lot of research on Harvard. So how well the community was supporting that. And they realized that didn't give them any indication, there was no correlation. And they did the research again, but they reversed the question, and they started asking, What are you doing to support your community? What have you who have you supported, and there was a big direct correlation between those who saw themselves as contributing to a community and those who thrived and went on to success? That's what I just heard you say, is that you see, you get this this community that move with you, which is really, really cool.

Ace Doligosa:

I love Yeah, definitely thinking in regards to how there's a there's this law of simultaneity of cause and effect that I live by. And I understand that when we give, as long as we allow we can we receive the same in return. And knowing that I had these limitations and weird, energetic fog around me, I knew that I wasn't able to contribute to those communities, nor the people around me. So being able to take myself out of that situation. And understand that I could be a better part in that way. That's brought everything up and energy up and the elevation of my own spirit. So

Jackie Simmons:

we'll bring up your energy and the elevation of your own spirit is really key. And I am delighted. Good invite you to lean in a little bit to your microphone, just so that we can catch every word that you say

Jackie Simmons:

is something really wonderful about what you've been up to and what you are up to that I want to make sure that we share because you've written a couple of books of your app. So what's the story behind each book? Because no book it's written without story.

Ace Doligosa:

Yeah, I love that and Volume One and Volume Two, it's out on Amazon of master time. So these books are essentially the way that you can construct At a balanced time management and when I think about time management, I'm not really thinking about managing time, but managing your activities within the hours of the day. And understanding the small little hacks to help you really embrace the potential of every minute, every second, every hour. So,

Jackie Simmons:

oh, I love that. And we're gonna get to some hacks. What prompted you, though, to write that first book? What is the story behind it? What put you in so much need of the skills that you went out and learn them? And then decided to

Ace Doligosa:

share? Right? So that's a two fold question. And I love it. The first part was, so I left a nine to five job when I started influencing, and my followers are growing. So it was like, I can do this full time. Let me just leave the nine to five and then go for it. And then when I did, I realized, Oh, the nine to five was structuring my day for me. Not me, I had to actually figure out how to do that on my own. And I hired two life coaches, I believe, one, and then, you know, you try to find the right fit, of course, and the first coach who was wonderful and great at helping me construct my morning routine. And then the second coach after he was more of like, Alright, let me balance out that feminine energy with masculine energy that I know you have. So, thankfully, I had both of them to really ask the questions I need to ask for myself to understand how, what's important in my life, what is a balanced, daily routine? What are the things that I need to decide on first in the morning, and how that will lay out the rest of my day and I was really hoping to grasp that and then I came across this article by SGI Buddhism's the world Tribune. It's about essentially, it's called Master time that SOCO Keita, president of SGI spoke about this in regards how you really can harness every second. And what seems to take five hours or five weeks can actually take up.

Jackie Simmons:

All right, I like time bending things. And that's what this sounds like, to me. It's like, ah, we get to bend time. So what made you decide to write the book to put it into a book? So I was, it was the pandemic, and the what

Ace Doligosa:

it was during the pandemic, beginning of the pandemic, oh, god, okay. And I was overhearing a conversation with his partner at the time. And he was talking to a professor, the professor was mentioning how like, nobody really knows how to do this. They don't know how to manage their own time, because think about it. After the pandemic, people lost their jobs, they couldn't go to school, and there was all this free time that was causing anxiety, depression, some sorts of PTSD. And I was like, Oh, I know the answer to that. Let me just create the structure because I really wanted to give that to my communities. And know that, like, if that's really causing all of this anxiety, ooh, I have something that's simple and easy to follow. That will help you understand and refine your own your own personal goals, but at the same time, also be able to manage that time in a structure that's available to you and format.

Jackie Simmons:

Books. So the birth of a book. All right, now we're going to talk about real time bidding from concept to publishing process. What was it like to manage that time? It was

Ace Doligosa:

i i was a little I was a little overconfident and thinking that I could publish 12 books in one year.

Unknown:

Okay.

Ace Doligosa:

That was that was a really fun one. I so for the first I did publish one book in a month and the second book into within that two month frame. And then I'm sure realizing you need a team around you. That doesn't always work as fast. That doesn't always what doesn't always work as fast as you know, as the mind the thoughts going through your head, as they're also trying to figure out how to put two and two together with your vision.

Ace Doligosa:

Oh, you mean, you haven't found the team that could actually read your mind and keep up with the activities as fast as you could think of them?

Unknown:

No, I don't know if that's.

Jackie Simmons:

That's not always fair. Yeah, it's really not I get this. It's really not. And wouldn't it be nice? It would be

Ace Doligosa:

nice And it's understanding that you know, many in body and one mind type of situation where everyone, and then everyone is on the same page. But that doesn't always mean like people's egos will get in the way, Murphy's Law, all these different aspects that could possibly come in and derail you. And it's, it was good to understand and learn. But then, you know, in divine timing, there's a reason why there's a stop to something, right?

Ace Doligosa:

Always, there's always a reason that something comes along to push my pause button.

Ace Doligosa:

Exactly. And it's usually because there's a piece of wisdom that you didn't receive yet, there's a tool that you didn't learn yet, there's something that's coming in, and you have to learn, so that you have the best books out there, instead of it just being fluff. So the third, fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh digital book series, books, I have it all laid out. And there, I'm inputting all the wisdom that I'm receiving every day. But I am noticing that the reason why I couldn't do three or four, in that amount of time was because there are certain aspects that I need to learn, in order for that to make the perfect fit in those books, if that makes sense. So I'm letting that come as you go. I'm allowing myself to receive what I need when I need it.

Jackie Simmons:

That's a beautiful gift of giving yourself back a lot of time, because we could spend a lot of our time worried about things that are really not yet ours

Ace Doligosa:

to worry about. Exactly. It keeps your sanity. And as that's the one thing that I really, really, really would love to keep intact for the rest of my life.

Jackie Simmons:

There you go. Yeah, it sounds like a plan. All right. So keeping your sanity. Boy, I remember there's a lot of commercials and things around this, there was a whole series of craziness. Decades ago, people trying to stop what they thought was the insanity. And now, jeez, we're talking 3040 years later, we are dealing with something that wasn't even conceived up back then. And none of us had the skills we needed to manage stress, which is another aspect of managing time for me. Because I've found out watching myself learning about myself is that if I really want to get stressed, all I have to do is buy into the belief that I don't have enough time to get something done. Yes. And that belief system, that was one of my big triggers for a really long time.

Ace Doligosa:

Now I've got my own

Jackie Simmons:

ways of working with my belief system to walk in that particular elephant. When it comes to time management. And this whole journey that you're on that you take your followers on.

Ace Doligosa:

What's the biggest myth that people have that they have to give up in order to actually implement what you created, which is so elegantly simple.

Ace Doligosa:

There's a really beautiful quote, that

Ace Doligosa:

somebody said to me once, actually, I don't think they sent it to me, they saw a movie,

Ace Doligosa:

or TV show called arcane.

Ace Doligosa:

This girl in the story is talking about if only I could have done this, at that time, only I did this. And that is the fastest way to drive yourself nuts. If you're like, because you can't go back in time to do anything, but you can do something in the present. If only if only if only you're spending time and moments in regret, when what you should be doing is seeing what it is for what you know exactly what happened. And then in that moment, seeing the resolution understanding okay, this is this is where I went wrong. This is how I can go right now, how do I do that with a little bit of interest?

Ace Doligosa:

How do I do that with a little bit of interest? unpack that sentence for me.

Ace Doligosa:

I went to financial grammar there. So essentially, like let's say I wanted to be a model at one point. Right? I thought it was, you know, for if only I had this only I started classes early, if only I'd right. But then I got an modeling opportunity like that when I became an influencer and a little bit of interest. I actually walked in the front of the runway for three designers in the show. Basically bringing in not just only being a model and like, let's say doing a runway show once. I was able to be like a fret Lender of the show and that was like a little bit of interest.

Ace Doligosa:

Being open to the fact that it doesn't have to look the way you thought it was gonna walk. It was Part of what I'm hearing?

Ace Doligosa:

Yeah, never usually is, a lot of people think that we, a lot of people are like, alright, so you have to have this, you have to have that you have to, these are the requirements. Here's the report card. You know, this is where this keeps me in good standing as a human being. And then here's the track that I can go on that air quotes is linear. That's not really, it's not always gonna go that way. And it's okay, if it doesn't.

Jackie Simmons:

This concept of hacking linear time, I absolutely love because I think you've hit upon it. People forget that we really don't. And maybe I'm, this is my interpretation of what you've been saying. We really only have now we have an illusion of past and future, because they're not real. And we spend a lot of our time arguing with what is real, which is our now. So if we were going to give people a quick way to get themselves back into just being present and out of the past and out of the future and being present where they can actually be open and take a different action. What would you tell them?

Ace Doligosa:

So a big part of understanding time and managing one's own activities comes with self reflection. really reflect in silence as to what has happened in the past 24 hours or the amount of time. And don't beat yourself up over it, just really look at it as it is. If you need somebody to guide you through that, a therapist, etc. Do that. Seriously, do it. Yeah. When in doubt, get a guy. Exactly. And then find out exactly which parts, you're like, Oh, I could have let's say, instead of playing video games, I'm overly playing video games, I think playing video games sometimes is actually helpful. But instead of being in fear of something, and then distracting with this, like a video game, substances, etc. You have that moment, right now to really shift and choose something different. Cool. Now learn what that is. And once you do, everything else falls away. All right, that's

Jackie Simmons:

a lovely way of expressing that. You know, a minute ago, you said you fell into financial lingo. And my brain went, Oh, yeah, there's this

Ace Doligosa:

cultural connection between time and money. So let's take a whack at that. Ooh, okay, this

Ace Doligosa:

is fun. All right, let's do that. I have like a really cool experience about that, to

Jackie Simmons:

take us into the story, because I love to be told a story I never grew up, it's like telling me a story.

Unknown:

Oh, I love it. So

Ace Doligosa:

you know, I learned recently, there's like this little hack when it comes to being able to manifest money like that, you know, how millionaires billionaires a movement, that they lose money, but just as they lost it, they can receive it in no time at all. And that's a big contribution to being a millionaire, a billionaire is that one hack, and it's, it was so interesting, because I did grow up with like, you know, school of hard knocks, like, Hey, you earn money by this, you spend amount of time here, this is how much money you're gonna get. You spend enough time here, this is how much you're gonna get, depending on the value of your work, put an hourly rate on that, that's how much you should receive. I don't know if that's a student is really going to work anymore. Because it's putting people into these essentially imprisonments of being a slave to money for a certain hour and being locked into that back is back to

Jackie Simmons:

the story. I want to know what that was like for you. What were you doing? How many hours were you working? Who was what were what was that jail like for you?

Ace Doligosa:

Thank you. So I was working. I was working a corporate job and TV development and another corporate job also in finance and accounting, but for talent agency. And I remember sitting there getting my work done. Like I remember they tried to overload me with a bunch of tasks at once. But then time management skills were there. And I was able to essentially take what used to take somebody two years

Unknown:

to complete to

Ace Doligosa:

two hours in on a Monday.

Unknown:

Woohoo, and just

Ace Doligosa:

sit there and then all of a sudden, because my systems were in place and I was sitting there all I had to do was essentially be at work maybe three days of the work out of the out of the week to get things done. instead of the full nine, was it, I think it was 930 to 630 is a week where I started feeling more and more miserable. And I was making more money when I wasn't sitting at that desk. Um, it that that was like, it was mind bending. And I really didn't enjoy that. And I saw people just feeling and looking miserable. Like, they don't have enough time to do XY and Z cuz I have to go to their job they have to provide for the family. And what was really interesting was recently, I spoke with somebody about a guide

Unknown:

about what I've

Ace Doligosa:

been able to do in two to three weeks. And I was like, in a bit of a slump, and I didn't really know how to get out of it. And they're like, wait, you were able to manage past $30,000 In three weeks? And I was like, Yeah, but it was like, connected to, they're like, no, no, no, you don't understand you helped manifest $30,000 In three weeks. And I was like, yeah, yeah. And it took some building to get up to. And that hack was essentially remembering the vision of where you're going, what you want to see in the world, and allow them to align. And then I think right after I shared my vision with this individual, right after the call, somebody said, Hey, I have $15,000 that I think you said you need for something. And I went, Oh, yes, I do need that. Wow. Okay. And then, of course, you know, closing the deal was another part of it. But understanding like, it doesn't take long, it takes a mindset, and it takes a vision or it takes something that really is part of your heart and your soul, and what you need to bring into this world to really understand why you need these resources, not a nine to five.

Jackie Simmons:

Understanding why you need the resources, money, I think, likes to have a purpose to come into my world sometimes. So understanding the purpose of money in your world, I think is a really useful hack in and of itself. You also said something about visioning. And there's a huge cry, in my mind, for people who can craft a vision. Well, there are a lot of people who are good at the Mission side, the goals, the steps, but not at the why not a few not, they can figure out how to make $1,000. But if they don't know why they're making it, I think it goes just as quickly as it came.

Ace Doligosa:

Exactly. Because then you don't find the sustainability aspect of it. And if it's not a lifelong vision to work towards,

Ace Doligosa:

then the money will slowly dissipate as well. So what does a lifetime vision look like? It's a lifetime vision that's actually past your lifetime.

Ace Doligosa:

Okay, tell me more now. I'm intrigued. Okay, time vision that's actually past my lifetime.

Ace Doligosa:

Yeah, exactly. So it's not. So when you start with your vision, I believe that you should begin with, okay. There's something that I'm good at. And then there's something that I want for the world, right? And not for not my job, not just my lifetime, but from my kids, for my kids, kids for like four to seven generations into the future. That is what I want to create that is so strong in the present, that it will last those generations. And that's the vision that I'm saying that I'm I'm sharing the idea that you have the foresight that what if I do this right now, what if I build this within the next nine months, so that it launches, and then launches into the future for seven generations, based off of the impact based off the wisdom based off of everything that I'm about to deliver? Is it a presentation? Is it a movie? Is it a book, and then the resources come? So we're

Jackie Simmons:

going to have to unpack that one just a little bit more. Can you give us an example something concrete because I'm a big believer that I've got the concept of a generation of a seventh generation vision? Can you give me a concrete example of one? Yes, so I

Ace Doligosa:

wrote a speech for a rally in New York City Queens during the stop Asian break before stop using hate became the nonprofit that everyone went to, to end the VI the acts of violence towards Asians in the United States, especially during the pandemic, and there was a lot going on in regards to thinking that We were the virus, instead are the people. And some of us didn't even go to China start to receive. So we were essentially a lot of people were being blamed for the virus. And that was bringing out a lot of violence, especially in New York City. So what I remember doing was thinking about how I wanted my mother, my nieces, might not view my potential grandchildren or generations past to feel safe living in the United States. Then I wrote a speech, and then writing the speech, giving that speech in Queens, New York, right after that, delivering that sending those words to some of my mentors, Gillian Flynn, Susan Davis, and then that sparked the flame of the conversations, you saw it all in the press, you saw stop agent, hashtag stop, you should hate everywhere. And now there is an understanding of what is appropriate. Although the acts are happening, we started the ripple. And I know that it's the cases are dwindling every day.

Jackie Simmons:

So your vision was for the current generations and the future generations to feel safe living in the United States. And from that vision came the words of the speech, where did the opportunity to give that speech conference.

Ace Doligosa:

So I am an alumni of apex. It is a nonprofit in Washington, DC regarding Asian representation in politics, and how to support them. We support individuals who want to run for office. And one of my one of my colleagues, I graduated at the same time as I did, she was hosting a rally in New York City, she told me, I was like, Hey, if you need a speaker, I'll be there.

Jackie Simmons:

What you've just laid out is something that a lot of people don't understand. When you're in alignment with what's important to you, when your actions have meaning like belonging to that organization, where you all were both involved because it was meaning is continuation of a relationship, the meaning of what you're doing them, you know, has to be there. And what we're learning more and more is that for learning, meaning has to be there. So I'm delighted with the story because it illustrates so many of the things that you represent what you believe in this idea of influence through meaning and shared meaning. I think that feeling safe living in the United States is a shared meaning. I'm imagining that it is something that if we did a poll and a survey, everyone who lives here would like to have that experience. Yeah. Back when I was studying mediation, it was the commonality between the warring tribes in Africa the the ladies, I studied with these little white women that went and mediated between the warring tribes in Africa, let me tell you the bravest people I've ever met. And what they discovered is that the commonality between these tribes was that they each wanted to feel safe. They each wanted their, their tribes and their families, their communities to feel safe. And from that commonality, they were able to come to peace. When we think about it in the United States, if we could get down to that bedrock commonality, this is one thing we all share. We all share, not all of us have lived feeling that we weren't safe. And some of us have. But all of us desire that both for ourselves and others. And I think it's just a universal concept. The same way that time is a universal concept. And money is a universal concept. As what would happen if we could bring those three things together, that we've been talking about

Ace Doligosa:

strong movement.

Jackie Simmons:

I love for starting a movement. Yeah, I mean, I've already got one because I'm on a mission to end teen suicide, which is always, always rock, the bedrock and not feeling safe. And so we've hit upon a keynote that I hadn't even thought about, and I would love to continue the conversation with it. Where does this go for you? You delivered us speech that has had ripple effects, you written two books on the topic of time being something that it can actually be mastered, you can master your activities in time, you can sort of bend time by mastering systems and expectations.

Jackie Simmons:

And now we've added the financial piece. And I realized that if we manage all of those, there's a sense of safety that comes with that. Like, I'm never going to run out of time, because I've got systems. Oh, that sounds like fun.

Jackie Simmons:

Alright, so now I'm gonna have to read the book.

Ace Doligosa:

Yes, I love that.

Ace Doligosa:

Yeah, I mean, because that's just in and of itself. And I've read a bunch of time management books.

Ace Doligosa:

What I get from you that I have been missing, was this understanding that linear time is a terrible taskmaster? Did I get that? Right?

Ace Doligosa:

Yeah, I look, I know, it works for some people. It does. It really works well, for some people. Okay. But not everyone. And I think I see that it works for some people. Or it used to work for some people and a decade ago. Understanding the times and understanding what people need now is what's really important. I think that if you go down that linear path that was given to you a while back, it's a nice recommendation, but you shouldn't be using it as law.

Ace Doligosa:

What used to be law are now guidelines to explore whether or not they fit. Exactly for the person who understands their own cell,

Ace Doligosa:

I think it's so important for us to understand exactly what we need. And if something doesn't help you under help or support your needs. It's okay to have a conversation to make sure it does.

Jackie Simmons:

Okay, to have a conversation to make sure it does or doesn't. Yeah, and then find what will. So that's a big piece, okay? I'm gonna just unpack that. Because there's so many moments in time where we're like, this doesn't work. And we don't go back and check in. We just react and move on. And sometimes we give up things that actually were functioning. We just hit a bump in the road. Yeah, yeah, I was actually ranting about that this morning for my tic tock channel. There are just some basics that people are forgetting in their daily routines. So basics for a daily routine that would set people up for successfully maneuvering in time. Ace, what? What are your go twos? I go to recommend. Yeah,

Ace Doligosa:

thank you. Oh, I love that first thing, schedule your mealtimes? Oh, really? When it comes to Yeah, I think a lot of people are like, Oh, I did all this work. And I'm doing especially now that everyone is like on the run and doing a lot. Schedule your meal times note you need to eat make sure you feel up because like you can't think on an empty stomach as much as you hope try and push for doesn't work.

Jackie Simmons:

So we'll come back to scheduling mealtimes because I got a question about that. Go ahead. What's the second one?

Ace Doligosa:

And the second one is, a lot of people start getting into this weird moment of like befuddlement, and then they get nervous about all the things that they have to do that day, right. Sometimes you don't have to do all of that that day. So the best thing to do is write down all those tasks within the first like, hour in the morning, write it all down, and then try to hit as many tasks as possible. Knowing that it's okay, if it spills over into the next day, as long as it doesn't hit it. Hit the wrong deadline. Essentially, we'll be late for what you need to do and have it spill over and be like, okay, so sorry. It's a lot to do for this because like that, that's That's all right. Yeah.

Jackie Simmons:

So so maybe you want to prioritize things that actually have hard deadlines that other people are dependent on. Exactly. We'll call that be a good team player with your time management has up. Exactly,

Ace Doligosa:

yeah. And, but also an understanding being a good team player, you have to know what you need. Do you need four hours to reset? Before you start your work week? Do you need to go outside every day and get some vitamin D which is something that we're starting with on the East Coast sometimes. That's why I moved to the West Coast.

Jackie Simmons:

Well, whoa, hold it. They'll be knocking US East Coasters you

Ace Doligosa:

know that winter is hard. I didn't want to go outside in that hole. But yes, yes? Or do you need to call somebody? Are you the type of personality that needs to call three people a day to feel connected to people and not alone? Do you need that these are the things that people should really understand. So that they know that if they don't have this, they're off balance for the rest of the week. That's really

Jackie Simmons:

key, I love bringing it back, I recognize something this morning. And that for me to set up for my day, I need to feel like I've accomplished something before I get started with my day. And so I've put together a short little list, and it's just doing the things that I know are good for me. And you're doing whether it's journaling, or whether it's meditating, or whether it's using some of the tools that I have, whatever it is, really being able to check off, I got something done before I actually go to do something that involves brain power, sets my brain in motion in a very positive way. And you just described that really, really beautifully. Figure out what you need, because going might be very different than what I need. So anyone going to themselves first, what do I need to be successful? You mentioned connection, which I think is really key. What do you need to feel connected, I'm on the other end of the spectrum, I can go for long periods of time without anybody talking to you. I'm good with that. And then when I have an idea, I need a bouncing board, I need somebody to talk to and I need it, then. Self awareness has saved a lot of time. For me. I love it. Cool. All right, we got scheduled meals, write down your list in the first hour. Knowing that it's okay if things will Overmind your deadlines and team responsibilities and really get to know what you need. Those are four really cool steps. Anything else before I bring you back to this whole schedule mealtime conversation?

Ace Doligosa:

I love that. I think you know, when it comes to managing your time, another piece of information is a lot of people think you just need to get your basic needs met, you do need a source of inspiration and encouragement. So wherever you can find that be that a YouTube video of a motivational speech, you know, religion, prayer, go there. Definitely bring that in so that you have not just physical fuel, you have spiritual, emotional and let encouraging fuel to understand that you're human. But at the same time somebody else has done exactly what you want to do. And then it keeps driving you towards your end goal.

Jackie Simmons:

I love that you brought that up. I'm a firm believer that since our brains can't tell the difference between what's real and what's imagined. I realized that my brain will accept as evidence if someone else has done something that I want to do. So if I look for people who've already accomplished what I want, then a quiet that part of my brain that thinks it's so scary. Exactly. Cool. Cool. Cool. All right, bringing you back to the thing about scheduling meals. Okay. I've had a lot of people lately telling me that they are doing so much better in life now that they are doing something called intermittent fasting.

Ace Doligosa:

And I'm like, Okay, where do these two conversations stop colliding. So what do they?

Ace Doligosa:

Yes, intermittent fasting? All right. So it's still in my opinion, it depends on what your body needs. A lot of people have tried it. I've tried intermittent fasting, I actually do it without thinking sometimes, because I can't eat sometimes I don't have an appetite. But if it's not working for you, and you feel me, like when I mean weak, I mean, like you you didn't get the the amount of nutrition that you really need to process and be healthy. That's where I'm like, Okay, maybe not for you.

Unknown:

But you

Ace Doligosa:

can essentially every day every week, understand these are my meal times. I don't have to eat like you don't have to force yourself to stick to those times if your body doesn't need it. But in the moments that you understand, if I do this,

Unknown:

I will

Ace Doligosa:

feel better, I'll have more strength of mind, I will need to bulk up things like that.

Jackie Simmons:

What I'm hearing is that there might be more than one kind of food or nutrition in play. Employee mealtimes might be just really about scheduling the time to Become aware to put some attention some focus on what you need, not just physically, but maybe you need some fresh air and some inspiration, whatever you need to feed your enthusiasm. Or even a nutritionist, or even a nutritionist.

Ace Doligosa:

Yeah, just just to really understand your body. The fasting was really I've actually tried it. And it was interesting because now I can't eat hard food in the morning. Or well, like a good today. But in the past, like in the past, like week or two, I had a really hard time and I started noticing I can only drink smoothies or something. But I knew I needed to eat something. And those little paradigms in your mind. Sometimes it like,

Jackie Simmons:

felt like that's part of what alerted you to the fact that the energy was so wonky, and maybe it was time to move

Ace Doligosa:

100% I can meet. And that was a Filipino.

Ace Doligosa:

Yeah. All right. So we've covered a wide variety of topics and a great deal of information for people.

Unknown:

Thank you, thank you,

Jackie Simmons:

thank you for that very clear, concise and compelling ways to check in with yourself around time, around money, and around community and connectivity. So all three of those I think are really, really necessary. And I love the guidance that you bring into the world ace, thank you so very, very much for being willing to share that. Now before we go. I gotta know what's coming up for you that you are celebrating. Besides moving, maybe unpacking?

Jackie Simmons:

That could take awhile. But yeah, but what are you celebrating? What else? Are you celebrating? What

Jackie Simmons:

has got your brain on positive today?

Ace Doligosa:

I'm celebrating the fact that I had this wonderful vision. I mean, don't get me wrong, I have small visions here and there the next three years, four years, but this I had this really large, beautiful vision for not just like one sector of my life, but also just my life all aspects and

Jackie Simmons:

bring it on share more. Uh, yeah.

Ace Doligosa:

It's essentially, I wish I could say more there. It's an event that I'm going to be creating very soon. And with a bunch of people that I do know, and I'm excited to share a stage with Jackie who I know, based off of what I saw, and that's been bringing me in such a good place because I felt directionless for a little bit after I was completing a bunch of other little visions. Now this bigger one. I'm really stoked

Jackie Simmons:

and excited. All right, so timeline before you could share any information with the public, I know you're going to share information with me cuz you just invited me to be there. I heard you. So yeah, so So when can we break the news to the world?

Ace Doligosa:

That is a very good question. I believe the launch date for the event should be nine months from yesterday.

Unknown:

Whoa,

Jackie Simmons:

well, you guys. You heard it here. First. There's

Jackie Simmons:

something being born in nine months. How cool is that? All right.

Jackie Simmons:

That's a very time honored timeline.

Unknown:

Yeah. I love it. I love it. I

Jackie Simmons:

love it. All right. So more will be revealed. And ace, Yo, come back. And we'll talk more about how all of these things are tying together and changing the world. Thank you for being you.

Ace Doligosa:

Thank you so much for having me, Jackie. And thank you so much for being you as well. This was wonderful, such a great shared space.

Jackie Simmons:

Thank you. Your work. Alright, if you want

Jackie Simmons:

more, subscribe. Otherwise, we'll see you on the next episode of your brain on positive.