Pivotal Moments Where Your Trajectory Changed – The Lessons Learned

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:04

We believe life is precious. This is it. We've

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:08

got one shot at this. It's on us to live life to the fullest to

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:13

maximize what we've been given and play the game of life at our

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:16

full potential.

John Mitchell: 00:00:18

Are you living up to your potential? Are you

John Mitchell: 00:00:20

frustrated that despite your best intentions, you just can't

John Mitchell: 00:00:24

seem to make the changes needed to take things to the next

John Mitchell: 00:00:27

level. So you can impact your career relationships and health.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:32

If this is hitting home, you're in the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:34

right place. Our mission is to open the door to the exceptional

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:38

life by showing you how to play the game of life at a higher

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:41

level. So you're playing at your full potential, rather than at a

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:45

fraction as most people do. We'll share the one thing that

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:49

once we learned it, our lives were transformed. And once you

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:53

learn it, watch what happens. Welcome to think it via the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:00:59

podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield.

John Mitchell: 00:01:02

Hey. And I'm John Michell. So Kelly, let's, let's

John Mitchell: 00:01:07

do something interesting today. Yeah, for something interesting.

John Mitchell: 00:01:11

Always I know, you all know you are. So think about your life,

John Mitchell: 00:01:17

and think about the pivotal moments in your life. And that

John Mitchell: 00:01:22

really changed your, your trajectory and think of in terms

John Mitchell: 00:01:26

of what led to that moment. What was the change, and now from a

John Mitchell: 00:01:31

perspective standpoint, the impact of that, that change, and

John Mitchell: 00:01:35

I'm thinking you do one, I'll do one, and we'll go back and

John Mitchell: 00:01:39

forth. But I think the value to our audience really is, is

John Mitchell: 00:01:45

really understanding how you evolve in your life. And

John Mitchell: 00:01:49

sometimes that that evolution is a function of, of being

John Mitchell: 00:01:54

disgusted with your existing life. And, and what it takes to,

John Mitchell: 00:01:59

you know, get to that moment where things actually change. So

John Mitchell: 00:02:04

with that as a preview, let's launch into it.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:09

Okay, sounds good. And what you just said

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:11

reminds me of like, the people are either either moving away

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:14

from pain, or towards pleasure. You know, and so this the, did

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:20

you want to go first with your story? Or do you want me

John Mitchell: 00:02:23

to I'd rather interview you? Okay.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:27

Okay, perfect. And I think for me, the story

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:30

that I will share is about moving away from pain, you know,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:36

and at the same time, the outcome is a pleasurable one,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:42

although it was a painful, a painful journey. So, for me, I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:47

think one of the pivotal moments that stands out, you know, in my

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:53

adult life, would be my decision to leave a job that I had worked

Kelly Hatfield: 00:02:59

out for nearly 14 years, and start my own business. And

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:03

really, where I was at in my headspace, was I'd always wanted

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:08

to be an entrepreneur. I mean, you know that I was in a DECA

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:11

competition in high school. And, you know, when entrepreneurship

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:15

and like, I knew I always wanted to be an entrepreneur, but I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:18

fell into this great job after school, and just fell in love

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:24

with it. Well, like many things, we talk about this all the time

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:28

with being on autopilot. I blinked my eyes and 10 years had

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:31

gone by, and I wasn't an entrepreneur, you know, and I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:35

still talked about, oh, I really want to do this. I you know, and

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:38

I've shared that story. And some people may have heard this

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:41

already, but about a mentor of mine, who said, You keep talking

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:45

about this, you know, like, well, what if you were however,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:49

you and I were having the same conversation that we've had 20

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:52

times already, three years from now, how would you feel about

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:55

that? And I said, disappointed. And he said, Well, you better

Kelly Hatfield: 00:03:59

get to get and, you know, if you're going to make a change in

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:02

your life, you know, and so it was that cold glass of water I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:05

needed first of all, that I was saying stuff that I wasn't

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:10

following up on. And I'd had this dream and everything. And

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:14

then a couple of pivotal things happened in the actual role

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:18

itself with the ownership. That was I knew, I was like, I got I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:25

had great ideas. I really was excited about growing somebody

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:29

else's company, at that time, still getting pushed back, you

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:33

know, and then they made a couple of really poor decisions.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:36

And, and so I'm like, I if I'm gonna do this, I've just got to

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:41

do it. And I've got to jump, you know, so I started the whole

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:43

research prop process, you know, to make that move and do it, but

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:47

it was painful. I gave a month notice. These people were like,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:51

family, they, you know, I'd been with him for 14 years. I was 22

Kelly Hatfield: 00:04:55

when I started there was a baby, you know, and you know, and I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:00

I've learned some valuable lessons through that process. So

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:02

first of all, just the pain of of making a change and losing

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:06

all stability, you know, from a six figure job at the time,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:10

which for me was was, I slowly, you know, climbed, climbed the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:14

ranks and was six figures to no money I'd been saving. But, you

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:21

know, it was so that was super scary. And then I got a cold,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:27

hard dose of reality in understanding that businesses

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:33

business, you know, and what I thought were like loyalty, the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:38

reason why I stayed was this deep sense of loyalty, I felt to

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:41

these people, only to find that that really wasn't returned. You

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:47

know what I mean, it wasn't straight. Exactly. I got some

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:50

life lessons as far as that was concerned. You know, and I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:53

think, the best decision of my life, you know, but there's

Kelly Hatfield: 00:05:58

something that's interesting that happens when you make a

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:00

major change like that, even though like, I made the move

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:04

away from pain, because I could do the job in my sleep, I wasn't

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:08

challenged, I was so disappointed in myself that I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:10

wasn't living up to the expectations I had for myself

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:13

for making the impact I wanted to make. So that was a painful

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:17

place for me. But then something really interesting happened that

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:20

I wasn't expecting, which was when I made that move from being

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:23

a W two employee, to being a business owner. And sitting in

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:27

my own office, like literally after doing the exit interview,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:31

I now I'm sitting in office space that I leased that

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:34

afternoon, me and my business partner, and looking at each

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:37

other you know, but you we wrapped so much of our identity

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:43

up in our profession, in our in our career, and I was the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:46

expert, like, I knew how to do everything. And then all of a

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:49

sudden, I don't know what to do. So this journey for the next

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:54

three years of business, starting one in the depths of a

Kelly Hatfield: 00:06:56

recession was a painful, was a painful journey. But what was on

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:03

the other side of it by just having that grit and

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:05

determination, resilience to keep picking yourself up,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:09

dusting yourself off and moving forward. You know, was, I mean

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:14

the best, it was the best decision I ever made.

John Mitchell: 00:07:18

Right? So So back. When you when you did

John Mitchell: 00:07:22

this, had you been telling yourself that, that I'm going to

John Mitchell: 00:07:26

be an entrepreneur?

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:27

Yes. Like for years. Yeah, I've been like, I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:31

want to own my own business, I want to I love this work. I want

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:34

to do this for myself or something, but I want to work

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:39

for myself, right? And be an entrepreneur,

John Mitchell: 00:07:41

so So did you feel like you weren't doing what

John Mitchell: 00:07:43

you were, say, saying you were gonna do

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:46

100% I felt like I was letting myself down. But I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:49

wasn't keeping my word. I kept saying I was gonna do this. And

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:53

that's why again, that whole glass of water from that mentor,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:56

which was like, we keep talking about this, and you're not doing

Kelly Hatfield: 00:07:59

anything, you know, and that called out to me, too, and said

Kelly Hatfield: 00:08:04

out loud and reflected back to me felt awful. Yeah, you know,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:08:09

not congruent with who I am as a person, you know what I mean? So

Kelly Hatfield: 00:08:12

I was totally out of congruence, and, and aligned and out of

Kelly Hatfield: 00:08:15

alignment.

John Mitchell: 00:08:16

You know, that's a, that's an interesting thing,

John Mitchell: 00:08:19

in that an outsider had to smack you upside the head, basically,

John Mitchell: 00:08:23

you know, and I think that's, that's how change happens is

John Mitchell: 00:08:28

either reality slaps you upside your head, or a person does. And

John Mitchell: 00:08:35

that's, that's powerful, because you're so into your own head,

John Mitchell: 00:08:40

that, that you can't see the forest for the trees sometimes,

John Mitchell: 00:08:43

when they

Kelly Hatfield: 00:08:44

when we talk about the subconscious all of

Kelly Hatfield: 00:08:46

the time, and our autopilot. And our and that's why I said

Kelly Hatfield: 00:08:49

literally, if 10 years went by, like a blink of an eye, you get

Kelly Hatfield: 00:08:53

into that onto that treadmill. And, you know, all of a sudden,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:08:58

it's like, oh, another weeks gone by six months have gone by,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:09:00

and here I am. And you know, at that time, I'm 32 I think, and

Kelly Hatfield: 00:09:05

I'm like, All right, the clock is ticking, you know, so so that

Kelly Hatfield: 00:09:10

that was a major pivotal point for me. How about you?

John Mitchell: 00:09:13

You know, I, I'll tell I'll tell basically this

John Mitchell: 00:09:16

story when I became an entrepreneur, too. I you know,

John Mitchell: 00:09:20

as is, as I may have mentioned, I started out as a CPA and, and

John Mitchell: 00:09:25

by the time I was like, 27 or 28 Well, I didn't want to be an

John Mitchell: 00:09:29

accountant all my life and but it was a good, good background.

John Mitchell: 00:09:35

And so I remember getting hooked up with these, these three guys

John Mitchell: 00:09:43

that were sold tax shelters to CPAs. And they were they were

John Mitchell: 00:09:48

players. You know, they were they were true salesmen but they

John Mitchell: 00:09:51

and they were in their 40s and 50s. And, and ultimately, I go

John Mitchell: 00:09:55

to them and tell them hey, you know, I don't want to be a CPA

John Mitchell: 00:09:58

anymore. Uh, in an hour, I, I knew that I had to be an

John Mitchell: 00:10:03

entrepreneur to really have control of my life, didn't know

John Mitchell: 00:10:07

what that exactly look like, but I knew Stan as a CPA was going

John Mitchell: 00:10:13

to be the path. So I evolved to telling him, you know, let's let

John Mitchell: 00:10:19

me come work for you, because you're looking at all sorts of

John Mitchell: 00:10:23

tax deals, and you need somebody that can tell you whether they

John Mitchell: 00:10:27

will fly from the tax code standpoint, and whether they

John Mitchell: 00:10:30

will fly economically, again, by these guys are, there are our

John Mitchell: 00:10:36

salesmen and polish salesmen. And so they said, Sure, come

John Mitchell: 00:10:42

come work for us. You can office with us, we'll pay you what

John Mitchell: 00:10:47

you're making as a CPA, which is like, you know, literally 30,000

John Mitchell: 00:10:52

a year at the time, which shows you how long ago this was. And,

John Mitchell: 00:10:58

and so I, I do that, and don't know where it's going and, and,

John Mitchell: 00:11:04

you know, I can sort of do my own thing on the side, whatever

John Mitchell: 00:11:07

that might be. And to make a long story short, I find a deal

John Mitchell: 00:11:12

on my own, not through their sources. And I show it to them,

John Mitchell: 00:11:17

they say, Boy, this would be great. We could sell the heck

John Mitchell: 00:11:20

out of this, it was a real estate development deal around a

John Mitchell: 00:11:23

tax shelter, building, basically apartments. And they go, Well,

John Mitchell: 00:11:28

you know, boy, we could sell this, but we're not developers.

John Mitchell: 00:11:32

And so I'm like, Well, how tough could it be, you know, you find

John Mitchell: 00:11:35

the land, find the Arctic, find the builder, and make a long

John Mitchell: 00:11:38

story short, I put it together. And then right before it was

John Mitchell: 00:11:43

about to, to launch, I get fired. And, and because I didn't

John Mitchell: 00:11:48

bring any financial strength to the equation. Of course, all

John Mitchell: 00:11:52

this was done on a handshake. Because I didn't have the, the,

John Mitchell: 00:11:57

you know, sometimes deals are just done on a handshake,

John Mitchell: 00:11:59

because that's how it is like, you try to have to trust people.

John Mitchell: 00:12:03

And into that inning, it ended up that they they screwed me.

John Mitchell: 00:12:09

And after I pounded around for literally three days, on the

John Mitchell: 00:12:16

third day, I get out and like, go screw them, I'll do it again.

John Mitchell: 00:12:19

And truly, by the grace of God, I was able to do it again and

John Mitchell: 00:12:24

create my own deal. And that launched me for the rest of my

John Mitchell: 00:12:28

life as an entrepreneur. And, you know, I look at what's so

John Mitchell: 00:12:32

what's the takeaway from that? First of all, like, like, you,

John Mitchell: 00:12:39

you know, you think everybody has the same sort of ethics and,

John Mitchell: 00:12:44

and, and sense of right and wrong, that that you do, and,

John Mitchell: 00:12:49

and they don't. And that's just the cold, hard world. And I look

John Mitchell: 00:12:56

back now, and I'm like, boy, best thing that ever happened to

John Mitchell: 00:13:00

me, you know, best saying that they screwed me because, you

John Mitchell: 00:13:05

know, I, I picked myself up and dusted myself off. And even in

John Mitchell: 00:13:12

my visualization today, I think about it every day. Because I

John Mitchell: 00:13:16

exhibited three characteristics at that point, because of that

John Mitchell: 00:13:20

happening. I was courageous to, to embrace being an

John Mitchell: 00:13:25

entrepreneur. I was ambitious, wanting, wanting more. And I was

John Mitchell: 00:13:32

resilient, to pick myself back up and that experience of, of

John Mitchell: 00:13:40

getting essentially fired. And, and all that best thing that

John Mitchell: 00:13:46

ever could have happened to me my life. You know, from that

John Mitchell: 00:13:49

point on, I was always an entrepreneur, never never went

John Mitchell: 00:13:53

back being an employee. And I'm so thankful for that, even

John Mitchell: 00:13:58

though at the time it was pretty much of a nightmare.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:03

No, and I love to, you know, like you Okay, so

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:06

there were some things that you learned, by going through that

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:09

experience, just as I did, either, whether it's about

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:11

people, whether or not everything is fair, whether

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:14

it's, you know, that you as a result of going through that.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:20

There's a tremendous, there's lessons around every corner and

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:24

what you went through, you know, about yourself, about other

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:27

people about how maybe you will treat other people and go into

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:30

deals because I know, one of your, you know, pieces in your

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:33

visualization is that you will always be fair, and do the right

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:37

thing. You know, and I think you've become a better business

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:41

person and, you know, human as a result of having interactions

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:46

with people like that, or going through some of those things

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:49

were like, Okay, I just was, I just saw an example of how I'm

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:52

not going to show up, you know, in the world, you know, that's

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:56

exact opposite of how I'm going to do business or whatever the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:59

case may Be?

John Mitchell: 00:15:01

Yeah, you know, I tell you, this may be a man

John Mitchell: 00:15:03

thing. But every once awhile I threw all out the years, I'm

John Mitchell: 00:15:07

like, you know, I drive down to Dallas and just kick their ass,

John Mitchell: 00:15:12

kick their friggin ass. But I'm like, you know, wait a minute,

John Mitchell: 00:15:16

they did me the greatest favor ever. Right? But they still

John Mitchell: 00:15:20

disrespected me. So they carve out the time to go kick their

John Mitchell: 00:15:26

butt. So, so tell another on you.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:15:29

I think the next one that just comes to mind, you

Kelly Hatfield: 00:15:33

know, that guy, there's so many things along the way. But I when

Kelly Hatfield: 00:15:37

I think of pivotal, something that was really life changing,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:15:41

and I'll stay along this idea of, of entrepreneurship, but it

Kelly Hatfield: 00:15:49

was with you and I need him. Yeah, it was with doing having

Kelly Hatfield: 00:15:53

you as a guest on the podcast, and learning and understanding

Kelly Hatfield: 00:15:58

more about the subconscious how it works. I mean, I've talked

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:02

about this so many times, where it was just such a relief, I was

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:06

like, oh, you know, now I get why, you know, I keep kind of

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:11

hitting my head up against a wall or a ceiling, you know,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:15

with and not being able to move beyond it. And so, you know,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:18

backing up where I was at, in that point in my life was that I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:22

built a successful business, you know, eight figures from a

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:26

revenue standpoint. But we just kept my business partner and I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:31

kept having the same problems, same issues with with leadership

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:35

with team size, with just not being able to reach that next

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:40

level within the business. And so I was frustrated, you know, I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:46

knew that what got us to where we were working wasn't going to

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:50

be the same things that got us to the next level. And then I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:53

was going to need new tools, I was going to need new knowledge.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:16:57

And it was going to it was going to take something different,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:00

obviously than then what we had been doing. And, and then, you

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:05

know, so I started that journey of okay, well, I'll do the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:07

podcast for a few different reasons, you know, it had a

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:10

business, you know, to bring in leads, but it also was selfish

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:13

in the respect that I got to interview brilliant people,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:17

John, who, you know, where I could learn, you know, and learn

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:22

from people who blazed the path before me, or who'd been through

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:26

or who are, are where I want to be and pick their brains. And so

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:30

that's when you and I met, and I learned that technique. And life

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:35

just got easier. I know what I mean, and better and less

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:40

stressful and more focused. And, you know, I just started making

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:45

real leaps in games, personally and professionally. You know, so

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:50

and it did more than I ever thought it would, you know, I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:53

was initially like, Okay, I'm going to break through to the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:55

next level in my business. And I was really focused on netting a

Kelly Hatfield: 00:17:58

million and, you know, but what happened on the path to getting

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:03

there, and who I have become and becoming still evolving, as a

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:10

result of that is, I mean, was just super pivotal for me. And

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:16

so for me, that wasn't, there was pain associated there. But

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:19

we were in good shape, I was making a really great living.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:22

And for me, that was moving toward pleasure. But also I was

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:28

at another pivotal point in my life where I felt like I was

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:31

disappoint. I was letting myself down. Because I knew I had more

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:34

gas in the tank. I knew I could make a bigger impact. And I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:38

wasn't doing it. I was I got comfortable again. And so it was

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:43

that next tool that I needed in my arsenal to get to that next

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:51

phase. Does that make sense?

John Mitchell: 00:18:53

Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, I suspect that part of

John Mitchell: 00:18:58

it was because you had an immense sense of control over

John Mitchell: 00:19:02

your life in a way that you hadn't had before. Right.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:05

Yeah. I mean, that was definitely one of the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:08

pieces for sure. And that immense sense of control. I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:11

think one of the things that I didn't expect, because I was

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:14

frazzled. You know, I again, working harder, and then but,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:19

but the profit was the same, you know, revenue was going up,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:23

profit was staying the same and like, What the hell is going on

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:25

here? I'm exhausted, I'm sacrificing all the that these

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:29

other areas of my life, you know, and so

Unknown: 00:19:34

I, so, the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:37

gaining control and then also, as a result of

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:40

that, reducing stress, which you don't realize the degree to how

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:46

much energy being stressed takes up. I mean, no

John Mitchell: 00:19:50

stress is pure control. Exactly. The feeling of

John Mitchell: 00:19:53

lack of control.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:54

Exactly. So so yeah. 100% would agree that the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:58

you know, gaining control over my life to a level beyond what I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:20:02

ever experienced before, like, I didn't even know that that level

Kelly Hatfield: 00:20:04

of control existed. You know, I'm and I'm in control, you

Kelly Hatfield: 00:20:08

know, I like to control things.

John Mitchell: 00:20:10

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I noticed I'm like, Oh wow, this

Kelly Hatfield: 00:20:13

is like I'm superpower.

John Mitchell: 00:20:16

Right, right. I know. Well, you know that that

John Mitchell: 00:20:20

is on my head that reminds me of, you know, when I was 50 and,

John Mitchell: 00:20:24

and being dissatisfied with 20 years of making low six figures

John Mitchell: 00:20:29

a year and, and then, you know, deciding, I look back and I see

John Mitchell: 00:20:33

how the pure power this to find the top book in the world on

John Mitchell: 00:20:38

success and apply that book literally word for word my life,

John Mitchell: 00:20:42

which is thinking Grow Rich read by 100 million people. And you

John Mitchell: 00:20:47

know, I didn't anticipate that when I was gonna do this, that

John Mitchell: 00:20:50

it would say there's a secret to success, but he's only gonna

John Mitchell: 00:20:53

give you half that secret. And, and you know, so I, you know

John Mitchell: 00:20:57

mope around for a little while and, and just then man up and,

John Mitchell: 00:21:01

and immerse myself in the book, read it 20 times, probably over

John Mitchell: 00:21:05

two months. And, and, and create this 12 minute day technique.

John Mitchell: 00:21:12

And, you know, now I look at it. And I'm like, This is so friggin

John Mitchell: 00:21:17

simple. And I always, you know, throughout my life always saw

John Mitchell: 00:21:21

it, there has got to be a success formula, that if you

John Mitchell: 00:21:26

just do this, it'll work. And you'll be successful. And I knew

John Mitchell: 00:21:31

it had to be simple. I just intuitively knew it had to be

John Mitchell: 00:21:35

simple. And I also saw that, where would be the most likely

John Mitchell: 00:21:41

place to find it? Well, maybe a book that is the top of the

John Mitchell: 00:21:46

world on success by a factor of 10. You know, the, the law of

John Mitchell: 00:21:49

large numbers tells you there's something there. And, and so

John Mitchell: 00:21:55

once I figured it out, and then I'm like, I step back now, and I

John Mitchell: 00:21:59

go, of course, it's simple. So you create this immense clarity

John Mitchell: 00:22:03

about your life, you know exactly the person, you want to

John Mitchell: 00:22:06

be exactly what you want to accomplish, and precisely going

John Mitchell: 00:22:10

to how you're going to achieve your clearly defined goals. So

John Mitchell: 00:22:13

you take that clarity, you feed it to yourself every day, of

John Mitchell: 00:22:17

course, it impacts your daily actions. And then those enhanced

John Mitchell: 00:22:22

improved daily actions creates the life you want. Like, wow,

John Mitchell: 00:22:26

this thing doesn't get any simpler. And, and and I'm, I'm

John Mitchell: 00:22:31

always amazed at people. What are you not getting here? You

John Mitchell: 00:22:37

know, but but that's people. Yeah. And, and so I'm good. If

John Mitchell: 00:22:42

you don't, if you don't get it, that's fine. But if you do get

John Mitchell: 00:22:45

it great.

Unknown: 00:22:47

Yeah, there's just there's a better way. For sure.

Unknown: 00:22:50

Right. Brian, my gosh,

John Mitchell: 00:22:52

and I, you know, I'm so blown away about how it

John Mitchell: 00:22:55

impacts my marriage and my, my health as well as my career and,

John Mitchell: 00:23:00

and, you know, like, like you, you know, I started you know,

John Mitchell: 00:23:05

making, you know, multiple millions. And, and that was

John Mitchell: 00:23:10

great. And but I saw the, the just being able to play the game

John Mitchell: 00:23:15

of life at a higher level. And at my full potential. Boy, that

John Mitchell: 00:23:21

was the joy and is the joy for me. And but I see again, you

John Mitchell: 00:23:27

know, the, the wisdom for both of you may had to come from

John Mitchell: 00:23:32

somebody else, you know, I had to give it to you, and thinking

John Mitchell: 00:23:38

Grow Rich had to give it to me. You know, and I think that's the

John Mitchell: 00:23:42

lesson for our our audience today is, is figure out whatever

John Mitchell: 00:23:48

the challenge is in your life that you want to go to the next

John Mitchell: 00:23:52

level at, and then go find somebody else to help you do it.

John Mitchell: 00:23:59

Because you can't do it. If you could do it. You'd already have

John Mitchell: 00:24:03

done. Absolutely. So So you know, it's got to come from an

John Mitchell: 00:24:08

outsider's perspective. And so I think that's the lesson for the

John Mitchell: 00:24:14

day, right?

Unknown: 00:24:15

I love it. No, I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:16

think absolutely seek out, you know, those

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:18

mentors seek out that knowledge, you know, somebody who's been

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:22

where you want to go, you know, you talk to the most successful

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:26

people in any field or in any lot in life. And that's exactly

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:30

what they've done. They didn't do it alone. They talked to

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:34

people who blazed the path before them and there's no need

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:37

to reinvent the wheel. There's people who've done it, you know,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:40

you can make it better by but that's the lesson here is seek

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:44

that knowledge out and, and there is a better way, a better

Kelly Hatfield: 00:24:49

way.

Unknown: 00:24:50

Right. So,

John Mitchell: 00:24:51

you know, maybe maybe we'll we'll do another

John Mitchell: 00:24:54

episode on this. I you know, one of the things I would talk about

John Mitchell: 00:24:57

is, is deciding to get a I'm married to the ginge that was,

John Mitchell: 00:25:02

you know a big, a big thing. Maybe also how I found the

John Mitchell: 00:25:08

reverse mortgage business, which was really guy just looking down

John Mitchell: 00:25:12

on me and going, I'm going to help this poor slob. He's having

John Mitchell: 00:25:16

trouble. I don't know you think about a couple more on your end.

John Mitchell: 00:25:22

We'll do it. Maybe next. Next episode. Sounds good. We'll do

John Mitchell: 00:25:26

look okay. Okay, until next time, we'll see you.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:25:32

Thanks for listening today. If you've had

Kelly Hatfield: 00:25:35

your own aha moment from today's episode, send me or John an

Kelly Hatfield: 00:25:39

email. We'd love to share your epiphany with our audience. So

Kelly Hatfield: 00:25:44

email us at Kelly@thinkitbeit.com or

Kelly Hatfield: 00:25:47

John@thinkitbeit.com. In the meantime, live the exceptional life