Being A Conduit Of Learning – A System

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We believe life is precious. This is it. We've

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got one shot at this. It's on us to live life to the fullest to

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maximize what we've been given and play the game of life at our

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full potential.

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Are you living up to your potential? Are you

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frustrated that despite your best intentions, you just can't

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seem to make the changes needed to take things to the next

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level. So you can impact your career relationships and health.

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If this is hitting home, you're in the

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right place. Our mission is to open the door to the exceptional

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life by showing you how to play the game of life at a higher

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level. So you're playing at your full potential, rather than at a

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fraction as most people do. We'll share the one thing that

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once we learned it, our lives were transformed. And once you

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learn it, watch what happens. Welcome to think Be it the

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podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield.

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And I'm John Michell. So today, we've got a

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topic that I think you guys will find interesting. You know, life

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is all about growing, and, and evolving intellectually. And so

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my, the topic today is really, do you have a system for

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growing? And do you have a system for reviewing what you've

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learned in the past. And with that, as the subject I'll share

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with you, sort of my system, and Kelly, then utilise yours, but

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you know, so I have a system where I pick basically three,

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three podcasts that I follow, you know, that are relative to

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entrepreneurs and, and to sports coaches. And so I have three

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different podcasts that I follow. And every Monday, I look

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and see what episodes what new episodes are there. And I pick

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two specific episodes out of those three different podcasts.

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And I listen to the episodes during the week. But, and that's

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how it evolves every week for me. And I, I send myself an

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email, those episodes that I'm going to listen to on Monday, so

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that I really start listing, Monday at lunch, and then

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through the end of the week. But the other thing I am big on is,

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is recording what I'm learning. And I have a place that when I

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like read a book, I'll take notes, and then I'll record the

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notes in this particular file that I have. And so I'm tracking

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what I'm learning. And, and lately, I've been tracking what

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I've been learning every week by looking at what I'm writing in

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my thinking tablet, which is this technique of thinking two

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times a week. But that's how I do it. And so Kelly, tell us how

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you do it. And then I want to talk a little deeper about why,

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you know, reviewing what you're learning is important. So how do

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you how do you do it.

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So I've got part of what I do each week. So I

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have a review that I do each week, and it's part of my

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planning session for the following week. So um, whatever

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I listened to, as far as the you know, whether it's a podcast, or

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whether it was a specific training that I did, or, you

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know, we've got a monthly learning team learning growth

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session that we do. And so it could be the download from that.

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But basically, I'll use voice notes while I'm listening to it.

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Because a lot of the time I'm doing something like getting

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ready in the morning, or I'm on the treadmill. So something

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really like jumps out at me. I'm like, Okay, I need to, I need to

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be thinking about that more deeply. I'm using I'm putting it

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into my thinking session, you know, it might even be an

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episode that I will go back. And because I'll timestamp it like,

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Okay, I need to come back to 10 minutes and 30 seconds, because

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everything from there for the next five minutes was like

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really the essence of what I want to be thinking more deeply

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about. Right? And so I go through that process during the

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week and then on Sunday, I'm looking at okay, when I did my

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thinking session, were there any like what action items were

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there? You know, what were my takeaways do any of those need

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to go on to my calendar for the next week, as far as planning is

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concerned? Or so I'm looking at it. I haven't been looking at it

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specifically in terms of what did I learn? It's more so okay,

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like what were my key takeaways? And then if there were any

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action items as a result of this thinking sessions, am I moving

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this project forward or what I learned forward? Or how do I

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move it forward by getting it on Mike? calendar and making the

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space for the following week. So that's kind of my process.

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Right? You know, I think probably when people

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hear how we do it, they're like, whoa, that's, that's way too

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complicated for me. And but it doesn't have to be, you know,

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you're listening to two people that are serious growers, you

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know, but you do have to have a simple system, quote, unquote,

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system to grow. Such as, you know, setting up what you're

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gonna grow, what you're gonna listen to, at the start of the

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week, and then listen to it. By the way, that's pretty simple.

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And that's powerful. But one of the things I've sort of see,

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though, is that once you learn something, oftentimes you'll

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forget it unless you go back, and, and read it again. And so

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that's the next iteration to growing is, is capturing those

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really powerful things you're learning and review them. And,

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and it sticks in my head, this idea that, that it's better to

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read one great book 10 times than 10, good books. And, and

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I'm big believer in that. And so along that lines, you have to,

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you have to record those things that you're learning so that,

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you know, like I do it once a quarter, the first week of the

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new quarter, I'm gonna go back and review all the notes I had

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for the past quarter, and probably for the past year. And,

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and it's pretty powerful. And I was and as we launched into this

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whole idea I was this week looking at what I learned last

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quarter, and I think the most powerful thing I learned was

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what we had a podcast episode on this a while back, where you

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have to tune in to reality. Because reality is the the most

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efficient way things work. And so if you, you know, don't tuned

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in or reality, let's, let's say you're in a business, and you're

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sort of going along, but you're oblivious to are we getting more

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sales are? Are more and more leads coming in? Or is the

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opposite having happening, fewer leads are coming in, you know,

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you've got to tune in to reality, and see, what is it

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telling you, you may not like it. But the sooner you tune in

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to reality, and adjust your behavior so that the results

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that reality is giving you are more favorable, you're always

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going to struggle, and I never, I never really got this as deep

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as I do today. What do you think was this past? Say, since the

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start of the year? What do you think, is the biggest lesson

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you've gotten?

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I would think and listen, I know, I knew this,

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you know, but common sense isn't always common practice. Right?

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So, um, you know, one of the key things for me, is really, I've

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been able to exponentially change and I've got a great

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mindset. But you know, honestly, um, you know, with everything

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that's been going on in the world, and with, you know, just

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all of this uncertainty, and, you know, we know that our, we

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naturally are fearful, you know, our brains are geared for that.

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And so, for me, it was, I got rid of every news, social media,

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app, anything on my phone, I limit my intake of the news,

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because I want to stay informed, doesn't need to be on in the

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office, it doesn't need to be on in the background, filling my

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brain with anxiety and everything, even though maybe

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I'm not really listening to it, your brain is yeah, there. You

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know. So I think turning that off, being very intentional

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about how I consume those things, and at what time of day,

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and like really dialing that in, because the life, the role of an

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entrepreneur, of a business owner of it, like it's all a bit

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what's happening in your mind, in your mindset. And so really

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protecting that protecting what you're allowing the input that

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you're allowing into your life and into your, you know, your

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brain. And so, and I again, I knew these things, but you just

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fall into some old patterns. And, you know, so back into my

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visualization it went so that I could correct some of that

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behavior that was just fine on autopilot. And it made a huge

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difference.

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Yeah, that's, that's great. I completely agree

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with you. I mean, it goes back to what we were talking about a

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while ago, you know, life is a state of mind. Yep. And so how

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are you controlling your state of mind? Yep. You know, the

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other thing that I noticed that was a big one for me last

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quarter was that just the pure power of doing what you say

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you're going to do, and how, as you and I have learned, and

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coaching people, you know, everybody says they do what they

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say they're going to do. And then when they when you really

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sort of dig a little deeper, oftentimes, you see that they're

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doing it, maybe 40% of the time. And, and this is such an aha

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moment with people. And it's sort of a good or a bad thing,

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you know, they discover that they're not doing it, and they

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feel bad about it. But then, you know, you teach them how that if

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now you're conscious of doing what you say you're going to do,

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it'll make them way more conscious about what they say

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they will, they will do, and then they'll actually do it.

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And, and, of course, it's easy to articulate this in our life

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GPS template, and that, you know, I do what I say, I'm going

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to do both with myself and other people. But I see that when

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people really embrace this, they typically get twice as much done

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from just that mindset shift. Right?

Kelly Hatfield: 00:11:30

Absolutely. Well, you know, we talk about

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how precious life is, you know, and, you know, so when you're

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very intentional, you know, about and having a sense of

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urgency about life, about what you say yes to, and this goes

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back to what you were just talking about the things that

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you commit to doing and following through and doing them

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the thing, you know, you begin to filter everything through

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that, like, Hey, listen, is this aligned with you? No, no, can I

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really get this done in the time limit? No. So So you start

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editing, the things you're saying yes to, and then watch

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what happens as far as momentum, if you're really have a lot of

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clarity around what your goals are, what you want, you know,

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what you want to achieve, how you want to show up, you know,

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and then you start planning and acting in alignment with that,

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and then keeping your word to yourself, the momentum, you

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know, it just happens so quickly, and you get so much

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more done. Because you're not doing all that fluffy stuff that

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you shouldn't have said yes to to begin with. And then you're

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not diluting any of your energy by being stressed about the fact

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you've committed to something that you really aren't going to

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do, you know, or you haven't done and you've let somebody

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down, and there's this whole cascade that happens that just

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shifts your energy and slows everything down. And so when you

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do this, the way you just get on with that keeping your word to

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yourself, oh my gosh, right. It's just everything.

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Right? You know, using our technique, one of the

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things I noticed is, is, of course, I feel big time guilt.

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If I don't do something I say I'm gonna do, which is great.

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You know that guilt is a powerful thing. And so I'm glad

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it's there. But if if I actually see that I didn't do something I

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said, I'm going to do, I'm going to by God do it the next time.

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And if I see that I it doesn't happen again. I'm going to

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change the wording in my visualization in terms of what

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I'm how I'm saying it, because evidently, my subconscious mind

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doesn't like how I'm saying it or doesn't appreciate the

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importance of whatever it is.

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It's John, it's so interesting that you say that

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because in my life, GPS or visualization, I change the

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wording to be I'm deliberate. And intentional about what I say

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yes. And what I say no to. Yeah. So like, now I've trained myself

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that in the moment, I rarely will give somebody an answer. I

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slow down because my, my autopilot that 95% subconscious

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happens subconsciously would be to just right in the moment.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:14:16

Right? Well, that gets me nowhere. So by saving that

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space, then I'm able to slow down and say, okay, here are my

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goals. Here's really let me get a realistic picture. Is this

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aligned? Does this make sense for me to, to commit to this?

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And then I can circle back with the person and say no,

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graciously, you know, I agree to do it. But I'm deliberate and

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intentional. And by using those specific words, those words work

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for me. You know, so I love that just again, those little nuances

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where you can shift something and it makes all the difference

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in the world.

John Mitchell: 00:14:51

Right. You know, one final thing that that that

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that's interesting that I observed about life is how

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beneficial, the wisdom of other people can be relative to your

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life. And I was thinking I was watching this new show on on

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Apple TV about Boris Becker remember, Boris Becker, the

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tennis player, you know, he ended up, you know, when he won

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Wimbledon a couple of times, and he, but he ended up going to

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jail for tax fraud. And, and it's an interesting story. But I

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remember and I don't know if I've ever told you this. But,

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you know, my claim to fame in high school was, I won the

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district's singles title in tennis, three years in a row,

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which nobody, nobody had had, of course, this is for Texas,

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Catholic high schools, which you know, means, you know, probably

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any public school school kid could beat me, but, you know, I

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wanted three years in a row the district and was second in the

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state. And, and, you know, I never really took tennis at all

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that serious, I was naturally good at it. Because when I was

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in seventh and eighth grade, a friend of mine, and I just

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played all the time, and we were just, we just got good. And my

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main sport was football. But I'm watching this Boris Becker

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thing. And I'm like, Boy, I tell you, you know, I would have

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loved or somebody in my life to come to me and say, Now, John,

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how it first of all, how important is tennis to you. Let

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me point out something to you, you're going to be as good as

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you make yourself good is not going to be how talented you

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are. It's how hard you work to be good at tennis. That's what's

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gonna determine it. And I know if if I heard that I would like,

John Mitchell: 00:16:52

well, I thought, I just thought some people more gifted. Know

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that, that is generally not the case. It's who's working the

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hardest. And, and, you know, I also would have probably told

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myself, that, look who your coach is, he's the algebra

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teacher. And he's Tom, really, you're not really a, you know,

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tennis coach, if you're serious about this, get a real coach.

John Mitchell: 00:17:17

And, and I see how transformative sort of those two

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little piece of his pieces of advice would have been. And I

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would have been a much better tennis player than I was, but

John Mitchell: 00:17:30

also see how that plays out in people's lives. Like what you

John Mitchell: 00:17:34

and I teach people. And we've, we've seen it, you know, once

John Mitchell: 00:17:38

they get it, it's like, Whoa, it's a whole new perspective, a

John Mitchell: 00:17:43

whole new level of, of happiness and success from doing this

John Mitchell: 00:17:48

thing that somebody teaches them to do, that they had to learn

John Mitchell: 00:17:52

from the top book in the world on success. But you know, the

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point of it, is that the wisdom of other people can change your

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life. So,

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:01

absolutely, no, I think it's so important.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:04

There's no and there's no need to reinvent the wheel. And the

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:07

cool thing is, is that we live in a time now, where you got

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access to like, anything you want to learn. And, like, you

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can get advice from the people at the top of their game, you

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:19

know, by Googling, you know, and doing some search searches and

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:23

starting to get that input of, you know, mentorships and

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:27

mentorship from afar and again, the wisdom of others. So no, I

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:30

love this, John, it's such a great, it's so important to, you

Kelly Hatfield: 00:18:34

know, understand that.

John Mitchell: 00:18:36

And I'll also say chat GPT is going to change the

John Mitchell: 00:18:40

world. I say that with 100% confidence. I just had been

John Mitchell: 00:18:46

learning about chat GPT through Darren Hardy, and I'm giving it

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to the 17 head coaches at the University of Texas. And

John Mitchell: 00:18:55

justice, just what you said, you know, you can Google it. Well,

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the next evolution of googling it is using chat GPT to learn

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things. So buckle up, because it's, it's coming on strong.

John Mitchell: 00:19:09

With that said, we'll see you next time.

Kelly Hatfield: 00:19:15

Thanks for listening today. If you've had

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your own aha moment from today's episode, send me or John an

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email. We'd love to share your epiphany with our audience. So

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email us at Kelly@thinkitbeit.com or

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John@thinkitbeit.com. In the meantime, live the exceptional