THINK SOMETHING NEW

Karen, Hey, welcome to the Karen Kenney show. I wasn't sure if I was gonna record a podcast right now, because I just recently got back from the dentist, and

while I did have a good cleaning, I also had a shit ton of shots of Novocaine and some two fillings done. So my mouth is still numb on the left side of my face. So if you're

watching this and you're like, why is she doing that weird thing with her mouth, I can't feel half my face. Oh, what is going on? Okay, and I'm back. I'm going to give it

if I drool. I just anybody watching this on YouTube, I just apologize in advance. But I want to get this sucker done. I want to get it done before the weekends. I think I'm

just going to dive in and do it. Okay? I don't know how long this one is going to be. I feel like I maybe don't have a ton to say, but it still feels really important, like my

spiritual teams been like, you know, talking to me about this, and I'm not even sure what I'm going to call this thing. Maybe I'll call it, you know, when you get married and

they say something like, where something old and something new, something blue and something true. I don't know whatever it is. And this is I've been thinking about old

things. I've been thinking about these old stories and these old beliefs and these old patterns and these old habits and these old ways that we think about ourselves and these

old stories we tell and the identities we carry and the beliefs that we have and the limitations and all the stuff, and I don't know, I'm trying to remember exactly, I want

to pinpoint exactly when this thought kind of floated into my head. But on some level, it doesn't even matter. But I remember I either went to say something or a thought

like floated across my consciousness, right, like it floated across my awareness, and I thought to myself, I'm kind of tired of that thought. I talk about it sometimes, like, I

talk about like, sometimes you know you're ready for, whether it's a coach or a mentor or spiritual mentoring or personal development or therapy or whatever, you know

that you're you're starting to bump up against a time when it might be a good idea to get your ass some help when you start to get that feeling, when you wish you could

just, like, literally unzip yourself from your own skin, because you're so sick of your own bullshit, you just want to get away from yourself. So sometimes I have a thought

or whatever, and I'm like, no, like, I'm so sick of this old habit, or this old conditioned or, or this old way of being, and I just want to leave it like, I just

want to, like, release it and, like, let it go. And then all of a sudden I had this thought, and this was the thought that I was thinking, and it went something like this, I

really just want to think something new about something old. I want to think something new about something old. And this, to me, is part of the work that I do. And I

remember on one of the nest calls, one time somebody was talking about, because stories come up a lot, right? So I have, like, this four step process, and it's not always

linear, but kind of, I'm going to explain it in like, a linear way, the process of, like, your story to your glory. And it starts off with us having some sort of a story, and

it's, it's a story about, like, maybe what happened in our childhood, or some betrayal, or some awful thing, or some trauma, some drama, some some stuff that went down right?

And it's like, you know, we gotta, we gotta tell that story to somebody we need to have. I really believe this, that in order for the the releasing process, or the reconciliation

process, or even just the maybe shifting our mind about it, whatever, feeling maybe slightly differently about it, whatever the thing might be. Call it healing, call it

whatever, that we have to have a compassionate witness. And I think if we just walk around carrying the burdens of our youth, carrying the burdens of our whether

it's our parents trauma or the shit that just rolled downhill onto us because maybe other people didn't have good skills, or they were predators or whatever happened,

right? And I think that in order to be able to start to shift the way that we relate to the things that happen to us, that the way we think about those things, first, we need

to start with having a. Passionate witness. We need somebody to say like, I'm so sorry that this happened, or I believe you, or tell me more, to be deeply hurt and deeply

listened to, can be very healing for those younger parts of ourselves. So number one, we gotta tell that story, whether we write it down, whether we say it in therapy, what

we say to our spiritual mentor, whatever the thing is, right? And then the second step is being able to be willing. Be willing, and that's the key word, be willing to release

the story, to let go of the story, because if we hold on to it too tight, right, like we can't, we can't quite do anything with it. What I always say love doesn't happen in

a contracted state like this, and I'm balling up my fists. It happens like this, when the hands, when we open and we're willing, we're just willing. And this is I

always say, Oh, this is all that spirit needs, all that Holy Spirit, or spirit your inner teacher needs, all the divine intervention needs, is like a tiny bit of

your willingness. That's step two. And then step three, as we get to rewrite the story, we get to edit the story or reimagine the story, right? And we do this along with the

help of a spiritual practice and and training our brain and shifting our mind and kind of dwelling in the realm of possibility. And this is where a lot of the

tools can come in. A lot of the tools can also come in in the second step as well, right? And then from there, from once, we reimagine and we have new perspective, and

we shift from fear to love and all these things, and we get to live our glory, and that's the whole story. To your glory, right? You go, get to go back out into the

world, kind of renewed and reborn, and to be reborn, meaning we're not still dragging our past and that that pain and that shame and that blame and all that stuff like into our

future. Okay, so I was thinking to myself about whatever it was, and I literally can't even recall it right now, but I know some part of me was annoyed with another part of

me, and I just thought to myself, I just want to start thinking something new about something old, like, I want to have a different way of thinking about this thing.

And it could have been about myself. It could have been about a belief that I had about somebody else, like whatever it was. And how often do we do that? Let's think

about this, and it's coming into my mind also because I'm trying to think of who it was. It might have been somebody who was in at my day gig recently. And I'm hyper aware

about the way that people talk about themselves, and I can usually tell pretty quickly when somebody has a habit of talking to themselves like shit, when they use a lot

of language that is not just because I can be self depreciating and make fun of myself and Haha, right? I'm not being necessarily mean to myself. Sometimes it's just true we

have quirks, or we're weird, or this habits that we have, and we can poke fun at ourselves and laugh, but not not in a cruel way. But I can also tell when somebody tends

to talk to themselves and and an unkind way, or a berating way, or they're just not even hearing what comes out of their mouth, right? They're so habituated with these old

things, these old beliefs, and a lot of times those things are not as to begin with. There. There's something that somebody else said to us at some point, and they said it

enough times that it got recorded onto our subconscious, and now we just regurgitate these things and parrot these things and say these things. We repeat these things when I

often say, like, I think I said it on the last episode. It wasn't even mine to begin with, this internal voice, this critical voice that I had. It wasn't mine. It

belonged to somebody from my childhood who kind of imprinted it on me during those eight, those years from zero to eight, like when you're really, really impressionable

and kind of hypnotizable, right, when you're really able to be conditioned. So I guess what I'm trying to say is, how often do you pause and stop when you hear yourself say

something or think something or do something that is patterned or habited or conditioned, or just this is the way we've always done it, or whatever. You blurt something out.

How often do we slow down, first of all, long enough to hear what's coming out of our mouth or to bear witness to the thing that we're about to do, or did or doing. It's

like, Man, I want to have a different relationship with fill in the blank. I want to be able to think something new, as easy as even like, especially like, if you have a

long standing, let's say you have a long standing condition, right? Maybe a physical condition for the longest time, you know, like, let's talk about, we

can say irritable bowel syndrome, right for me, and now I like to really think about for a long time, I didn't know I felt like I would be inflicted with this my whole life.

And look, maybe I will be. Maybe there will. Always be flare ups. Maybe there will always be times when I have to rush to the bathroom or like whatever, you know, but I like to be

able to have and that's certainly something that I would love to continue to have new thoughts about old things, right? I would like to be able to think something new about

something old, and whether that's a relationship, whether that's a condition, whether that's a like, I said, like a belief or a story. And the way that we can do that

is through pattern interrupts. And if you've never seen Bob newhat, just Google, like Bob newhat therapist, or just Bob new hat. Stop it. I love this video so much. I was talking

about it on the nest. Call the nest is if you're new to the show, first of all, welcome if you don't know what the nest is. The nest is my spiritual mentoring community

and group, right? And so we have calls twice a month. We have, you know, bi weekly calls. And we were on the call last night and somebody was talking about, like, you know,

the way that their mind was kind of getting away from them, and we just kind of talking about the habits of the mind and stories we tell and all this stuff. And I said, Yeah,

so sometimes we need to have a pattern interrupt. And there's a so in, like, in neuroscience, right? So I always combine the spirituality with science. We actually have

a part of our brain that is literally like wired for spirituality, which I find fascinating. And we're learning more and more and more. I mean, we've known for about

at least, and maybe I'll do a whole podcast on this. At some point, we've known for at least, I think, 10 to 12 years now, that or even longer, maybe that, like, 12 minutes of

focus prayer or focus, meditation, right? Literally changes your brain. So it's a pretty powerful thing. So, but we were just talking about how, you know, the brain

starts to go down like, like habit Road, as I call it. Is driving along on habit road. It's about to do its pattern or its habit. And one of my my teachers, Melissa t as my

hypnosis teacher, and also my one of the most brilliant teachers and hypnotists that I know, but she talks about like, you know, you're kind of going down, you're driving

down, about to do that same old pattern, and what we need to do is have a pattern interrupt. So if you're watching this, you can see what I'm doing with my hands. But if

you're listening, imagine my hand is like a little car and it's driving down the street, and my other hand is kind of coming up like a stop sign and going like, nope, right? And

what happens is, is when you interrupt the pattern that you're doing, it forces your brain, it forces your brain kind of into like neuroplasticity and doing something

different, doing something new, and that's what we want to do, because over time, Rick Hansen says neurons, neurons in your brain, neurons that fire together, meaning they

habitually communicate, right? They fire together, they end up wiring together, which means they start to build bonds. And that's that, like you could have a bond, right?

I'll call it a bond. That's my name for it. You can have a neurological connection on tying your shoes because you've tied your shoes so many times. You can pretty much do

it without even thinking, because there's those neurons are so wired together because they've fired together so many times. It's just like driving. For many of us, you can

drive and just let the subconscious drive because it's so wired into you. But sometimes some things that are not helpful, some things that are not loving, some things

that are not kind, some things that are not compassionate or even helpful anymore, get in there as well. And so we have these old ways of thinking about ourselves and what's

possible for us and who we are and what we're capable of. And you see it a lot of times. You know when people know that it's time to start doing some work, right? Or

they know it's time to maybe get some help around an issue, right, whether it's physical, emotional, spiritual, mental, and they'll start to question whether they

should make that investment in themselves. And a lot of the times, yes, maybe it's about money, but really, another big part of it is there's a struggle going on underneath

the surface of, Am I good enough? Am I worthy? Do I deserve this? Will I really do this? Do I really, you know, do I really deserve to be happy, etc, etc, etc, and so I

really love to help people have new thoughts about old things. That's part of what I do as a spiritual mentor and a hypnotist and integrative change work and a life coach, a

yoga teacher, etc. I'm really in the transformation business. I'm really in the business of of helping people to possibly feel different, to think differently, and

that's what a miracle is, is a shift in perception, in your mind. For. Fear to love and being able to think something new. I mean that to me, is miraculous, right? That,

to me, is a really big deal when we can stop the chatter in yoga, we call it the Chitta. The Chitta the chatter in the mind, the thought fluctuations in the mind, to be able

to slow it down, to still it long enough, and whether you're using your breath as a pattern interrupt, or EFT tapping as a pattern interrupt, or bilateral stimulation

as a pattern interrupt, or shifting your your peripheral vision out right, like whatever it is, is 1000 tools. But to be able to get to the tools first, you have to

be able to slow down enough to recognize that you're doing the same old thing. You're thinking the same old thought, you're into the same old patterns and habits, and you're

running that racket on yourself again and again and again and double Amen hands. If you know what I'm talking about, that there's something in your life that is old,

and, like I said, whether it's an old belief, an old identity, an old pattern, an old way of thinking, an old way of talking to yourself, an old way of an old way of

relating to somebody else in your family. I see this a lot. You know, in the episode that I did on the small building cages. Stop building cages. This happens a lot in

families where certain members of the family build cages around other people and they refuse to see them differently. They refuse to see them as an adult, or no longer that

kid, or no longer that teenager, or whatever. They have a really had time envisioning their sibling as a doctor or as a, you know, a successful artist or somebody

who could actually write or do well, because they insist on holding on to their old thoughts and their old vision and their old interpretations and their old meanings and

of that person, and we never let people we don't have new thoughts about old things. And it's so it's a fucking shame, is what it is, because it's so limiting, and it makes

things feel really small and contracted and and tough, and it doesn't allow for the life force of change to come through. It doesn't allow for divine intervention. It doesn't

allow people to grow. And we know, and John overdurf has this quote, but it's also very A Course in Miracles. Z, right? And the basic premise is, is that people can only be

as good in your presence as they are in your mind. First, how you perceive somebody or see somebody or hold their vision of them in your mind is going to affect how they appear

or seem in person. And if we don't allow people, if we do not have new thoughts about old things, then what a what like man, that's depressing to me like that's just so

it's such small living, it's such fearful living, you know, and so I kind of want to be able to swing open the doors of my mind and have a new thought about myself, or a

new thought, and we see it a lot right now, right, going into an Election like right now, right, all the different candidates and patties. Like, you know, it's, it's been

really fascinating seeing people who used to be on one quote, unquote side, right, start to endorse a different candidate. Like, I'm just like, this is I love, I love that

people are allowing them, some people, a lot of people on a lot of people that are going around with the same old racket and rhetoric and bullshit, but some people are willing to

say, you know, and expand their mind and open up into look look upon things with new eyes, with fresh eyes, to have new thoughts, to be thinking something New about something

old. And How fantastic is that? So this is my invitation to you that again, whatever it is, it might even be a story you tell yourself about, like, I'm not good with

money, I'm not smart enough to invest I can't do that. As soon as we say those words, it's like we're just repeating and we're keeping ourselves so stuck and limited

and small, and I just want to kind of swing like I said, swing open the window, open the windows, open the doors, roll up the garage, whatever

it is, and allow just you have to just start with being willing to think something new, and whether it's about yourself, whether it's about your parent, your partner, your

kids, the government, whatever it is, I think if we, if we choose to hold on too tightly to our opinions, to what we consider, uh, quote, unquote, facts. From

the internet, like whatever, oh, we're in a world of trouble. I think we're just more we're more interesting and complicated, and we have the ability to hold to opposing

things. Is possibly true. You know what I mean? Like, I think there's so much more nuance and richness, but if we insist on keeping things locked down, cemented in,

quote, unquote gospel truth. It's just not, I don't think it's good for us, because we are continually evolving beings. I change every single day. That's why I always say on

this podcast, like every however many episodes, I'll say, hey, look, this is what I think right now. I might be better, smarter, older, more wise, whatever, 20

minutes from now, never mind. 20 days, 20 months, 20 years from now, 20 weeks from now, right? I might do this and then later find out something new, and go like, Oh,

I've changed my mind. So the thing about a podcast is it's just documenting where I am right now in this point in time, and I reserve the right to change my mind. I

reserve the right to change my mind. I reserve the right to make mistakes. I reserve the right to retract something I said when I know better and learn better and

be better and do better. You know what I mean? So this is an invitation from my heart to yours. Let's start to think something new about something old. And if you're if you're

comfortable sharing, I always say, like, I love to hear, look, it's always nice. It's always nice to hear from people that they loved the show, or they love this episode.

But you know, what's even better is when you give the kind of feedback that I would call gateless feedback. So I'm a gateless writing instructor, but I would really love

specifics. I would really love to know when you share or if you share about the show, what exactly landed for you, like, what resonated for you, what got you thinking,

like, what did this bring up for you? What like? What is the something old that you want to think something new about? So specificity is a delight for those of us who

are writers and storytellers and communicators, right? So, yeah, so that's just my invitation to you. Let's create a little more wiggle room, a little more

freedom, a little more possibility in space for change, for transformation, for healing, for surprise, for delight, for awe, whatever it is to sneak in, but that can't help

happen if we insist on being right about things that maybe are no longer true or no longer applicable or no longer helpful, or no longer meaningful, or just shit you've

been repeating because your mother used to say it, because your auntie used to say it, because your grandmother used to say it, because her mother used to say it, or vice

versa. Or I vote this way because my family's always voted this way, or I still go to this church because that's just how it was. Well, no, you get to question things. I

really feel like, if we're not questioning things, we're kind of dying a little bit. You know, that's me, though. I love to be curious. I love to I love to change my mind,

especially when I'm wrong about something or somebody. I'd love to change my mind. So here's an invitation to maybe change your mind too. And you know, like I said, Go

Google. Like, if you want a pattern interrupt when you find yourself going down some old, old road, just go Google again. Bob newhat, stop it, because stop it. Just

the word stop it is a really powerful pattern interrupt that you can do to yourself and maybe on you can also go back. I don't know. I think I did a thing on 478,

breathing, I'm going to have to go look my own shit up. But there's lots of different ways where we can interrupt our habituated thinking process. And when you catch

yourself saying something out loud or about to do something, or when you catch yourself, but the key to catching things is slowing down. One of the ways that we can slow down

is to start to have a DSP and a meditation practice so that we can start to train our brain. We can start to train our mind. Do it with pranayama, with some good, deep, slow

belly breathing, right? Starting to slow down the nervous system, down, regulate the vagus nerve, start to drop into our body, be a little more present. We slow down the

body, we slow down the breath, we slow down the movement of the brain, and then we start to become more conscious of, in a way, of what we actually say, think, believe and do,

and the stories that we repeat and regurgitate, you know. So I hope this has been helpful in some way. I can't wait to think something new about something old. And

one of the ways we do this is we get to question and ask that question, is this true? You find yourself saying something, I'm so stupid, like, you make a mistake, and

you're like, I'm so stupid and I. Stop, and I'll ask myself, is that true? And I'll say, No, you're actually not stupid and and on top of it, you are allowed to be human and

make mistakes. So there's that, you know what I mean. But for a long time, I think I had, like, a deep subconscious belief about some things about myself that got implanted

there, you know, by other people from from my younger years. And if I never questioned it, oh, my God, if I never questioned these things, I would probably never have opened a

yoga studio. I wouldn't have done it. I had a TV show. I wouldn't have started a podcast, right? If I didn't start to question some of the, some of the, some of

the, like, basic, baseline bullshit, boring things, right? And they're just boring because they're old to me now, things that were said to me as a child, I would have

been too terrified to do anything in life, you know? I would have been too afraid to be seen, to be heard, to step forward, to grab the mic, to get on stages, to be a speaker,

to be a storyteller, to write a book, to do these things, right? Because I am an introvert, right? I am an introvert, hardcore, but I make myself do extroverted

things. And what allows me to do that is I started to have new thoughts about old things. And that old thing was me that those old things were the stories that I was

telling and the things I was repeating in my head. And I may not even have a relationship with some of those mothers, right, who said those things to me, but somehow they got in

there. So I want to encourage you to question, to question a question. Let's pinky swear I'm pinky swear I'm right now I'm holding my pinky up to the camera. Let's

pinky swear that we're going to just be willing. We're going to be willing, right to start thinking new about something old. Let me know how it goes. Alright? Thank you so

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asses out there and vote. Use your voice, right? It is our right. Let's not take it for granted. Okay, wherever you go, may you leave yourself and the animals and the

planet and all the creatures and beings right better than how you found it wherever you go, may you and your presence and your quality of attention and your love be a

blessing. Bye. Bye.