Your Unknown Grief Is Not The Horrific Event You’ve Created In Your Head

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the end Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

Time and again, I have conversations with people. And because they're in a state where they've got so many different challenges going on, they assume that something terrible must have happened to them to have the different thought processes that they have going on in their head. And I want to reiterate what they say to them to all of you that is not the case, that the horrific thing experience that you've created in your head just hasn't happened. It's natural to have that doubt. Because there's so many challenges that that are making you have different thought patterns or behaviors or reactions to different things where you makes you think what why why am I reacting like this? Why am I behaving like this? What is really going on, is it's events from your youth, which pretty much to everyone else that was involved nothing. And even to you it wasn't a major event, it was like often just a conversation that was had, or something that you that you witnessed a certain behavior. And as a one year old, two year old three year old, you did your best to react in a way that was going to help you usually a safety thing, whether that's from or generally for mental and emotional safety standpoint. And you react in a way that's best for a child that young, right? where the problem comes, is that a pattern then is created and further gets reinforced by similar experiences, which then repeats into your adult years. And you're left in this state thinking, why do I think like this? Why do I behave like this? Why can't I make this habit stick? Why do I keep running this same pattern? Why do I keep getting sick at the same time of the year? Why do I keep having this chronic something or other that continues to come back? It's not your fault? How could that possibly be your fault? It's something that's happened from quite a young age. And it's not that horrific thing that you've built up in your head that that is what you've created. That is all you can do to explain what's going on.

It's common to have different thought processes that if you if you were to speak it to someone, they'd be like, are you crazy? Or like a? Well, that's what you're thinking anyway. Right? What would the reaction be if the if those deepest innermost thoughts I actually told them to someone. It doesn't mean it's normal. And you can change them. And it's about resetting, bringing in a circuit breaker so that you can start to change those thought patterns. So you don't have to be at the mercy of these patterns that are these behaviors, these ways of speaking to other people to yourself that to your detriment. So if you're at that point where you're like, I kind of know I need to take some action towards this, but I'm scared of what I might find. Then just be just know that it's not what you think it is that there are certain patterns or patterns that that can be changed that we can actually bring in that circuit breaker for you too. So we create all new patterns that actually serve you and allow you to be free of all of those other thoughts that that have you wondering, I wonder what it was. And that's where you start to bring in so much more enjoyment into your life, you're able to relax more properly, switch off and build robust patterns that are going to help you be your best and perform at your best and in Yeah, really get the most out of your life, which is what we all want. We are designed for improvement and human nature is we're always looking to feel better, we're always looking to do better. If you haven't already, then have a look at my new ebook, The Grief Code framework, you can find it either pinned to one of my social media platforms or on my website and Hawking's coaching forward slash The Grief Code. And you can download the framework which is going to help you identify what the pattern is that's going on for you what's playing out for you what might be the most pressing thing for you to change and there's information in there about how you can change that pattern as well. And for those of you who are watching this on one of my socials, make sure you go and check out my podcast as well. The Grief Code podcast where there's more episodes like this, and more information like this that are going to help you navigate the day to day and really be able to move forward with your life in the best way possible in a way that is best for you. And it's best for your family best for the most important people in your world and, and allow you to decide life on your terms. We'll leave it there for today. Have an awesome one and I'll speak to you soon.

I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief. Let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins coaching.com You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins coaching.com forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform