When The Weekend Escape Is Never Long Enough

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the and Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

You know that feeling you get when? Sunday afternoon and suddenly it dawns on you the weekends nearly over and thoughts turn to work and then dread. It's awful. And then sometimes even when you go on holiday, or just have a long weekend and you like to I'll be sweet. After this break, everything will be good. When the same thing happens. You get towards the back end, you're like oh, gotta get back to work. starts impacting impacting you mentally. You can feel emotionally that that feeling wash over you that impacts you physically. Maybe somebody some anxiety that plays out frustration. Mainly what it is, is it's a lack of fulfillment that we get from work that leaves you feeling like that. The stress, the relentless nature of what it is more of those times where you're not making the most of life, although that's what it feels like. Sorry, or at least that's what it feels like. Just feel like you're wasting time wasting yourself I want you to close your eyes unless you're driving. But even if you're driving, just allow your mind to wander. When you can get the end of a weekend in genuinely genuinely be looking forward to getting back into work the next day because you love it, because it gives you joy because it fills you up because it energizes you are going to be honest, I had that for a lot of years and Fox Sports. Because sports television right as a sports fan, like what could be better until the fulfillment went. And that's when everything changed. Because I'm actually not getting anything out of this. Now we're not not getting anything but I'm not getting it to the level where it's filling me up. I was getting to Sunday's and going oh, God, here we go. Got to get back into that place. The result was unfortunately I fell out of love with sport for a couple of years. Just start watching it a different times it was it's tough. So much of that is actually a perception of what's going on not necessarily reality reality. It's often linked to not getting the recognition that you deserve from your work. It's often linked from knowing that you deserve recognition, not getting it not getting the credit you deserve.

Or, you know you're not putting in enough to deserve any recognition you end up in a place of self doubt. You're not really sure how to move forward is an exact conversation I had with a client this week. They'd been for a long weekend. And it just reminded him how much work was impacting every year of their life. They weren't able to fully switch off then went back into a place where they weren't getting the credit they deserve even though they knew they were delivering in so many different areas. So I'll get you to do the same thing I want him to do. Make a list of your credentials. Now, I don't mean your university degrees, the courses you've done, the awards you've got, the accomplishments that you've made. I'm talking about your personal strength credentials. When you walk into a room, what do people know about you? What do they say about you? Where do you know, without a shadow of a doubt that you bring value? You know that if given the opportunity, that you'll be able to make some magic happen. Now, if you look at your work, and you're thinking, I don't think there's anything when that happens at work, turn your attention to an area where it does. Give a hobby of sport, a place where you help others. Helping others a great one, think about what the people that you help would say about you. Think about what your family would say about you. What do they love about you? They are your personal strength credentials. And they'll tell you they'll remind you of what you already know. And once you've got that list together, then you've asked other people as well. We look at your job a little differently. And think if I brought that to my week, 80% of the time those things which I do very well like that, and which people value me for and I know I get so much fulfillment out of showing up that way. That's why they noticed it because it actually lights me out when I do it was if you spent your week doing that, for ABC at a time. How much better would work well, I want to give you another tip is that your results will go through the roof. People will start giving you the credit the use of B because you understand just how strong you are just how valuable you are an aid delivering it tenfold a hundredfold instead of just doing the day to day, prioritizing what someone else's agenda is, all them menial tasks instead of prioritizing this part of you, that actually creates the most value. That 8020 rule 80% of your value comes from the 20% of the time. But what if you spend 80% of your time doing that which you bring so much value to the table? What could you then accomplish? How would it feel to go to work? What would your satisfaction and fulfillment levels be like? How much more would you be able to switch off at the weekend?

Don't miss the Step? Write it down. Write down these personal strength credentials. prioritize them. Let me know. If specially if you're the sort of person who loves accountability and loves to celebrate these things, because I love hearing these things, you sent it to me I'm going to be excited for you. I guarantee it will speak to you soon.

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