Trust The Process

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the and Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of his work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

In my later years at playing any sort of decent football, I was always looking for ways to improve my performance to find more consistency. And of course, it's pretty normal that you find different strategies and techniques in later life, that you look back and go, Oh, I wish I wish I'd known this back when I was faster, more athletic, all of those different things. But one of the things that really stood out for me when I was doing research around this was the sports psychologists put it this way. When we get focused on outcome, then we bring a level of tension and stress to our performance, which takes us out of our best performance. When we have a process and we seek to process and detach from the outcome, then we are far more likely to get better results. When performance dips, go back to process. Now, I remember watching 2014 I think in a row grand final when South's won their first premiership and 43 years in the NRL. Every single player, when they were interviewed afterwards, talked about trusting the process. And it really struck me because I'm someone who has always watched sport through that lens of the people psychology side of things, how the teams are connecting, how they're getting along how they're getting the best out of each other, because that's been a space that just has always interests me. And also, it's kind of the role that I played in different teams as well. Probably what it was was feeling responsible for other people's stuff is how it was really playing out from a grief perspective. But it's also given me so many gifts. And I watched as they all getting interviewed afterwards talked about this, we just trust the process. And I'm like, oh, clearly, they all had a really set plan and it was so drummed into them to trust the process that they did, they got the result. But it was so ingrained that even in the interview afterwards, it was still at the forefront of their mind. So how can you apply this through the rest of your life? Well? Do you have a process? Do you know what works for you? One of the best ways to do that is to have a think about a time in your life where things have gone. Well, an area of life where you do find consistency might be some thing, pretty basic. That might be something to do with work. But there's always an area where we're getting success, even if we can't recognize it. And then it's going through the steps of like, well, why's that? Is there something that you do beforehand, a preparation part? Is there something that triggers you to get started? So like there's a point that we look at golf, right? What's your trigger? What's your trigger moment.

Once you get started, what's important that you do what needs to be in place. So you can see just by unpacking something that you're already doing and looking at how it works. You can see how you've got already got processes in place. Now for areas that you then aren't necessarily going fantastically. How can you apply that same sort of process because generally how we do one thing is how we do everything. How can you apply that same success, process success principles to these other areas that you aren't having to Access and build a process that you can repeat. I remember working with my coach Paul must be gone back four years ago now. And not my current coach. It was someone I worked with briefly, briefly, and we were going through, like, my daily, like my morning process, how do I get the best results. And that's something that I still have. Now, what's interestingly, what's interesting is I don't have to go back and refer to that process. I did initially, but my days in my business, pretty much follow that same process. But that happens organically now just happens because I am so familiar with it and know how much it works. And this is what's possible in other areas of your life to then you can stay out of that stress and anxiety around outcome, and just come back to process. And when you do that, you give yourself the best possible opportunity to win, to get the result that you're after to have success, and to feel better about how things are going. So create the process, and trust the process. Trust the process that you've already got working in another area of your life. How can you replicate that into an area where aren't going so well? Having the courage to stick to the process and seeing what else you can shift into a more positive place going forward. Enjoy.

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