The Gift In Your Grief

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

When you experience loss of any kind, from the small moments where an opportunity is lost, or maybe even a game of something, to the big stuff. Someone passing away relationship write down your own loss around your own pain. Whatever that might look like. We don't even know what it is. You're left questioning why. Why did this happen to me? Why do I feel like this? And then you may turn to the one what what could I have done differently? What did I do? What do I do to deserve this? Normal questions where I want to tell you is is that the more that you heal, the more that you make peace with a loss, the more you can find the positives. Because it's okay for there to be positives off the back. It's okay for there to be a sense of relief. It's okay for you to laugh, to smile at different things about it. Because while loss creates pain and often thinkable, consuming pain, there's always a duality, there's always positives. Always. Now, I'm a believer that everyone gets what they need, even if it's not what they want. And sometimes when you haven't seen or recognize the signs of loss throwing at you. Life will throw even bigger lessons at you. When you believe in God, the universe, your higher power, the lessons will come. And on the other side of that, when you ultimately do learn the lesson of whatever part of the circumstances that you can control. You find the gift. Now this is not to say that being moments of loss happen because you've done anything wrong, or that some sort of karmic retribution or punishment. But rather, the tapestry of life allows us all to get what it is we need. Even when it seems like was happening to us in a really negative way. We're all having in your own experience and yet it just intertwines in just an amazing way. That's nature. And like I said, the more you can make peace with what's been and find the positives, you'll come to the realizations. Like I remember the moment with my dad when I was reconciling the positives that have come out of my life since he passed, and of course I'd love to have him back here to give him a hug and to talk to him and spend time with him. But also celebrate all that my life has been harder to come because of his passing and then the A staff member that I lost about 2014 I think it was 15 having that same moment, and for him, it was like maybe he just had everything he wanted in his life, maybe there wasn't anything more for now, you know, I can't make sense of all that and I can't I don't know the, the truth of all that I just know how the journey I've been on, to, to reconcile to make sense to process everything. And when you do, you can find the gift you can enjoy the gift. And yet you can still be sad. It can be both. So whatever you know, you're still working through whatever still makes you cringe whatever brings you down. When you think of the past annoys you frustrates you, whatever it is, the more you can find peace. More you can let go. Release shift the energy the better things will get and the more you'll be able to free up your future. See, keep finding ways. That's your that's your homework, if you will keep finding ways to come to terms with the loss. keep finding ways to process to reconcile. And you'll know what's still there because of different emotional reactions in different situations. So if Yeah, if you're reacting in a way that you don't like in certain situations, then that's a good path for you to follow. Follow the nudges.

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