Not Everything Is As It Seems

Ian Hawkins 0:02

Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

Been doing a lot of running this year, three times a week, loving it. Not necessarily running or it's growing on me. But the what it does for me, just in terms of how good I feel and processing. Mentally there's that has been caught up with a mate just while I was out walking a dog this morning, who I've played football with for many years, and I'm not playing this year, but he's still playing. And we're just talking about our you know, this is usually the fittest time of the year, and then you start playing football and your body slowly deteriorates over the year. And by the end of the season, you're actually undefeated yet, which is completely Gary counterintuitive. But that's what happens when you're playing sport, enlightened to your 40s or 50s. Generally. Still more pain and stuck stuff for us to release. Even me right, there's still things there. And with the running, it's got easier over time, and I've been able to improve my times getting not quite back to where I was when I was running regularly, five, six years ago, but getting close. And what's fascinated me is the times, there have been times where I'm like, oh, man, this is gonna be fast today. Feels so good, feels light. And then you get back or you get the update from your phone. Or I have mindset so I can actually hear at a after each que. Kilometer for those in the US mile you would use give me an update of how fast I was traveling. And the amount of times it's completely opposite of what I think it is. still amazes me. So it feels really easy. And yet the reason it was easy as I was going slow. I just felt like I was going fast. And then the opposite is often true as well. Feel like I'm just gonna be no good today it feels such a struggle. And then it turns out I was actually going quite quick. Same used to be true for school exams, come out of the exam go I nailed that was so easy. Yes, stuff that up. And other times where I thought it was such a struggle, did quite well. So sometimes things aren't as you as they seem in your head. And it's not getting caught in always trying to judge a situation based on a moment in time working towards whatever you're working towards. Because there's going to be times where it's a little bit easier, a little bit harder than others, there's going to be times where things don't flow as well and others where they do and the results will be mixed. Not getting caught on what you think it should be. But instead just being open to going through the process and the result will be what it will be. I reckon I say this once every couple of weeks by the sports psychologist say your performance dips come back to process. Now when you talk about performance and just moving through life can make the process some days it's going to feel good some days not so good. You stick to your process. Some days you're going to get better results than others and that's okay. The most important thing is to not track your judgment judge. Judgment check your progress. Minute by minute or hour by hour even. Sometimes not even day by day. that over the course of a period of time, because you're making incremental changes. That's how you get the best results. What Jim Rohn used to talk about taking a personal inventory, to the end of the day in your journaling, what went well, what needs attention, at the end of the week, going back through your journal, seeing the week for what it was, the amount of times when I was in corporate, where I get into the week, I wasted so much time wasn't a good week. But then when I started journaling, and I was able to see the week for what it was, and every single day I would have the good things that I've done, how much value that I'd added. And then get to the end of the week and go wow, actually, that was quite a good week. Stop getting stuck in the feeling stop getting stuck in the or that was a hard week. That was an easy week, that was whatever I was kept making progress. And you can do the same. Keep making progress. Not by judging. Not by buying too much into the minute by minute, hour by hour, in the moment, sense of how well you're going. Whether that's from a physical feeling, from a thought process, how you feeling emotionally, whatever it is. Just keep moving forward. Acknowledge the progress, so you can look back every day and every week. Seeing for what it is and enjoy the ride.

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