Needing To Be Right Is Keeping You Stuck

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

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needing to be right. On this one about 11 years ago, and man had a profound effect was realizing how often in different situations I wouldn't give any ground because I was sure that I was right, then I wasn't prepared to listen to other opinions. Shut up a lot, my relation, my wife, my parenting arguing with people. Cuz I didn't want to admit I was wrong. And I read apologizing, that wasn't gonna happen either. You're certain things in your world, that you're sure you're right. You may believe that for a long time. You may have plenty of evidence to back it up. But usually what happens is from a place of confirmation bias is that we continue to seek out information and evidence to support what we believe to be true. That we are right. Only to find out later that perhaps we're not. How often do you actually not admit that you actually keep that to yourself? I remember one of my mates actually sent me one point down. What do you mean, you knew that you said this, this, this and this? And like that was years ago? My beliefs and thoughts and ideas are changing. Sometimes by the minute. Man, yeah, I might have said something, I might have acted a certain way at a certain time. Until I learned there was something different. This will accelerate your growth. Being able to say that perhaps you weren't right about certain things, that perhaps there were certain things going on that either you weren't prepared to look where you knew you'd find the answer. Or you can see it but you were sure that the alternative was right. And you continue to find evidence to support your old thought process. And as you heard a quote, in a podcast, it was people would rather be die, they would rather die and be right. And it's true. People don't want to admit that they're wrong or admit that there might be another way of doing something that perhaps, is better. So they stubbornly hold their ground. And you might, you might recognize times where you do this, but you also might recognize people in your life that do this. And maybe you're thinking you don't do it, but you are thinking about other people in your world. And there will be there will be places where you still are. And that is like with anything. Whenever you're letting go of something you think you've done all the work on it. And then something else shows up. So have a think about where you need to be right? Where you're not giving ground where you're not accepting that maybe there is two ways to look at something. Where are you determined to be right when perhaps it might result in a perceived losing face or losing control or losing power or upper hand in some situation? To the greatest power is being able to say I'm open to new ways of looking at something. Maybe you were right. Maybe Maybe I didn't get that one cannabis head row. You don't give up power there. He or she take it back. You take self responsibility, self control self power. Neither determine your destiny. sticking to your guns or stubbornly Thinking you're right or not prepared to budge. It will keep you stuck some of the solutions, new ways of thinking opportunities, right realities have come to me in the most unexpected ways. And the more open I am to dismissing everything I ever learn, and learning new things, the more of these amazing solutions show up and be prepared what you'll be surprised what you're actually able to achieve what you're able to overcome. Or you're able to see how you're able to see the world in a completely different way when you change this thinking. So start having a think about at the moment where you might be in needing to be right. And come with a more open mind with a more flexible approach.See you

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