Have All The Tools, Know What To Do, But Still Can’t Change?!

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

Some of you a lot of the things I've talked about might not be new to you, you may have so many different tools. And you may know what you need to do to change. But some hill is still covered. And I know that frustration so much because there's been so many times in my life, I'm like, Man, how much more do I have to know in this space, and I've still feel like I'm stuck. And what I've learned is that one of the key elements that you need to have integrated with the knowledge and the tools is the structure. Because without structure, you can find yourself dragged in all different directions. And having a structure for a whole lot of different areas of your life, I guess it's going to be most beneficial from how you do your best on any given day to how you do your best on any given circumstance. Full stop. So do you know what structure works best for you? Are you the sort of person that needs more space to ad lib to freestyle? Are you someone that needs much more defined? Clear step by step structure? That's me for sure. In everything I do, I get my best results when I have structure. It's why I seek out other people in that space who can teach structure for the different things I'm working on. It's why when I'm communicating with the most important people in my life, I say, Well, if you give it to me in this structure in you, you'll help me get the result that you want from me, from partner to children, to other family members, to colleagues to to clients, like, Give me whatever you're asking for, give me the structure, and I'll give you the absolute best that I can. I've also spent a fair bit of my life without that structure, from not getting the guidance I needed. Because, you know, like most of us parents wired differently to how we are growing up. People who don't get us teachers that don't get our unique way of learning. And that's frustrating, then going fast forward into corporate and having funnily enough managers who were similar to me that needed structure to and we're really good at passing it on. So I spent a fair bit of my years in corporate teaching myself structure with particularly as I went through more of my, my growth time after dad's passing from 2005. It's like how can I bring in more structure to get better results? How can I make my life better. And it wasn't going into less structure in a more structured and not restrictive structured structure, there's still opportunities for spontaneity and flexibility and creativity in the structure, but I know where the boundary is now. So I don't get caught drifting into places that I don't want to I don't get caught jumping from one thing to the next thing to the next thing because I've got very clear structure and what I'm doing. You may have when in my field of work and some of you may be familiar with this too is that you get people reaching out over time with this new amazing opportunity and wanting to share it with you. Right say the same thing these days like really clear focus for what I'm doing now. So if I ever need the help of this other thing that you offer, then then I'll myself be curious and look around and see what I find. You trying to push your solution down my throat is not what I want or need But that's because I have clear structure of clarity on who I am, what I'm doing, and what I want to achieve. They will know when something appears it's within that structure and fit this sets to sell and dismiss everything right. But given the right the right circumstances and the right piece, then I'll that will actually that is intriguing Case in point was a project I've been working on recently. And that's the new website, which haven't advertised it openly. But if you go into the website, now, you'll see it's significantly different upgrade. It'd be more to come about that. And that came from a client sharing with me a book around brandstory. And, and a different look at what I read node that actually made so much more sense. So I'm not dismissing everything that comes my way. But because of a clear structure and a clear path and where I'm heading, then I can tell fits on and that fitted, and it worked. And I loved it perfect. So if you're finding that you've got that frustration, because you feel like you've done all the staff and you've got the tools and you know what to do but you're still not getting the results. And my question to you is, what structure do you need? What parameters the parameters do you need, what self imposed boundaries and framework do you need to put in place to allow you to climb and to grow your foundations so that when we'll if a storm comes that your foundations will be solid and high and keep you above the high watermark. Because you've had the structure, you've had the framework and you've continued to build and develop within that structure.

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