Episode 280 - New Stuff For 2023 - Overcoming What’s Holding You Back

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the end Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

Hey, hey, yo, are you having a good week? Has it been a good week? Today, I want to talk about some things that are going on in 2023. For me, in fact, it's already started, had a session, a training session that, as always 75% of the people come and my clients and they will happily come and and continue to do anything else that I've got, because I know the impact of it. But I've also had a chunk of people who haven't worked with me directly before and are interested in this training. And so that's what I'm going to be putting on every month is a new training every month. Like a proper training. Our minimum teaching whatever comes through at the time, whatever. If I'm speaking to three people about a particular issue, then there's 100 People experiencing it probably within my circle, because that's just how it rolls. So that those those training, so I'll make sure I mentioned them here on the pod. But also if you haven't followed me elsewhere, yet, make sure you do that. Follow me on whichever your preferred platform is either just my name a Ian Hawkins orient Hawkins coaching and you'll get an instant notification when or not an instant one but you if you follow me, you will you will get notification when their next trainings on. And yeah, it will allow you to do some of the things that I bang on about a lot prioritize you work on you become the role model in your life of change, or trying to change other people switch from control to self control, self determination, to find more of that personal freedom to make choices based on what you want in your life and what other people want for you what you are what you think society wants of you. Now, often, we get to this adult age and and we don't even know what we're supposed to do anymore what our behaviors supposed to do. suppose to be how we're supposed to act? Are we offending this person? Are we offending that person? And it's like, sometimes it's like, what, who am I allowed to buy anymore? I guess that confusing? Well, guess what you get to choose to be you. And if other people are offended by that all then honestly, fuck him. That doesn't mean that we go around there being an asshole. But if you are being new, and you are coming with love and compassion and understanding, but you're still prioritizing you being the highest version of you, yes, some people are gonna react negatively to that, because they had like, you changing who you used to be. And I don't like when something projects back to them, somebody they know that they need to do but that they're not. And that may create a frustrated reaction from them. But again, that's their stuff. But how long will you continue to play it small or tiptoe around certain things for other people's benefit? That might stop everyone from hating you. But it'll just mean you hate you. And you can continue to not really either to connect the kind of connections you want or really kind of get the the deeper, meaningful conversations that that actually lie you up, just more surface level stuff. We're not even sure if people actually really interview or not or whether they design that. You think of how many times someone says oh hey yoing and you give them an answer and you ask them and then they go into This whole conversation and you're just left asking questions of them for the next hour and you're thinking, man, what that was one sided. That comes from that attitude of just trying to keep everyone else happy, being everything to everyone else instead of actually prioritizing you and what your needs are. Because that will say you're free. And the best bit is, you can be even better for those people in your world. When you prioritize you, you will be infinitely better partner, parent friend, family member. Again, not everyone's liking, but you'll know in your heart that you're being absolutely the best version that you can. And that's enough. That's all it needs to be. So enjoy. I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief, let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins coaching.com You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins coaching.com forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform