Before Divorce Consider Marriage Crisis Management
In this episode of The D Shift, I have the privilege to welcome Dr. Becky Whetstone, a marriage and family therapist who brings a wealth of personal and professional insights into managing marital crises. Known for her candid approach, Becky’s unique perspective is shaped by her own experiences, having been married four times, and her dedicated research to understanding what makes or breaks a marriage.
Dr. Becky talks about her new book, "I Think I Want Out – What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage," which is aimed at helping individuals navigate the rocky path from doubt to decision with clarity and confidence. She shares insights into how crucial the initial response is when one partner expresses doubt about the marriage. This response can set the tone for how amicably— or not— things might proceed.
In our discussion, we explore fundamental questions that troubled couples should consider along with the typical stages a deteriorating marriage might go through. Becky's approach is about slowing down, considering all options, and sometimes exploring trial separations to test the waters before making any permanent decisions.
We talk about how vital it is to have a managed process during these times, emphasizing the value of therapy in maintaining civility and focusing on mental wellness for the entire family. Becky's goal is to guide couples through this transformation with the least possible emotional damage, whether they choose to work on their marriage or part ways.
For anyone standing at the crossroads of potentially ending a marriage, this episode is full of, relatable advice and insightful strategies to thoughtfully tackle one of life’s more challenging transitions.
About the Guest:
Becky Whetstone, PhD, is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach specializing in marriage crisis counseling. Based in Arkansas, she developed Managed Separation (MS), an intervention guiding separated couples with purpose and timelines.
Inspired by her own marriage crisis, Dr. Whetstone created tools to help couples navigate turmoil. A former journalist, she has authored the book, “I (Think) I Want Out”, aiming to reduce marital chaos and foster healthy relationships.
To connect with Dr. Becky:
Website: https://marriagecrisismanager.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshipcrisismanager/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/doctorbecky/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/becky-whetstone-ph-d-33866211/
Medium: https://medium.com/@doctorbecky
About the Host:
Mardi Winder-Adams is an ICF and BCC Executive and Leadership Coach, Certified Divorce Transition Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS®) and a Credentialed Distinguished Mediator in Texas. She has worked with women in executive, entrepreneur, and leadership roles, navigating personal, life, and professional transitions. She is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and host of Real Divorce Talks, a quarterly series designed to provide education and inspiration to women at all stages of divorce.
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Connect with Mardi on Social Media:
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4women
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinderadams/
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Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4women
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