Welcome back to the Speak in Flow Podcast with your host, Melinda Lee! In today's episode, we dive deep into the realms of corporate success and personal growth with our esteemed guest, Michelle J Kim. Michelle is a renowned executive coach and author, specializing in empowering individuals to break through barriers and thrive in their professional lives.
1. **Overcoming Imposter Syndrome and Self-Doubt:** Michelle shares her insights on navigating the treacherous waters of imposter syndrome and conquering self-doubt. She offers practical tips and strategies for silencing that inner critic and embracing your true potential.
2. **The New Rules of Executive Presence:** Drawing from a recent Harvard Business Review article, Michelle unpacks the evolving landscape of executive presence. She highlights the critical shifts in mindset and behavior necessary to command attention and influence in today's corporate environment.
3. **Climbing the Corporate Ladder with Executive Communication:** Communication is key to success in any leadership role. Michelle delves into the nuances of executive communication and reveals how mastering this skill can propel you up the corporate ladder.
4. **Strategies for Being Seen and Heard:** In a world filled with naysayers and skeptics, it's essential to find your voice and stand out from the crowd. Michelle shares invaluable strategies for making your presence known and amplifying your impact, even in challenging environments.
5. **Conquering Fear and Embracing the Uncomfortable:** Fear can be a paralyzing force that holds us back from reaching our full potential. Michelle discusses the importance of embracing discomfort and stepping outside your comfort zone to foster personal and professional growth.
**Article Reference:**
During our conversation, Michelle references a thought-provoking article from the Harvard Business Review titled ["The New Rules of Executive Presence"](https://hbr.org/2024/01/the-new-rules-of-executive-presence). This insightful piece offers valuable insights into the changing dynamics of leadership and provides practical guidance for cultivating a powerful executive presence.
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Melinda Lee is a Presentation Skills Expert, Speaking Coach and nationally renowned Motivational Speaker. She holds an M.A. in Organizational Psychology, is an Insights Practitioner, and is a Certified Professional in Talent Development as well as Certified in Conflict Resolution. For over a decade, Melinda has researched and studied the state of “flow” and used it as a proven technique to help corporate leaders and business owners amplify their voices, access flow, and present their mission in a more powerful way to achieve results.
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Welcome to the Speak In Flow podcast where we
dive into strategies, techniques to change the way this world
communicates for the better. I have an amazing leader I can't
wait for you to meet today. Her name is Michelle J Kim. She's a
Reb ops leader, as well as the director of sales strategy and
operations at Zendesk. She also started her very own podcast,
breaking the tech ceiling. I'm excited for you to meet her. So
I dive right in and ask her how does she get herself into the
tech world? Anyways, here we go.
Michelle J Kim: When I was in college, I was like many people
trying to figure out like, what is it that I want to do? What's
my passion? And it was 2008. So part of the you know, there was
an economic downturn at that point. And I had a dichotomy
right out two roads diverged in the woods, as thick as Robert
Frost would say. And I went to DC to see if I could get a job
on Capitol Hill. But then I also had alum in my Korean
traditional drumming group, whose sister was looking for
sales reps. So it was either it's two hands, a hand a bird in
the hand or two in the bush, right? So at that point, you
know, just with my kind of my upbringing and my personality,
more at that time, I would say, I decided to go with a bird in
the hand versus two in the bush, and gotten an introduction to
Director of Sales at a tech company named Irene Chang.
She's, I love her, she's my mentor, she's been my sponsor, I
just can't say enough good things about her. And everyone
feels the same about her. And so I interviewed with her. And, you
know, I definitely was bad at negotiating at the time, and
speaking up for myself. But you know, she didn't get solid and
was like, Michelle, no, that's not how much you need to get
paid more than that. So, you know, I don't think she'll get
in trouble 15 years later from now, but like, she really has
shefford shepherded me through the early part of my career, she
has been someone that I go to Time and again, for career
advice, and for, you know, help whenever I have a situation at
work, or my career that I need some mentorship on. But really,
you know, I've learned over the years that I can't just rely on
this, go back to the same wall over and over again. So I try to
give her a reprieve and try to connect with her whenever I can.
But that's how I got into tech. And just for just for everyone
to know a little bit about me. It wasn't just sales. So I
started my career in SAS software, hardware sales. And
then I went into marketing, and I did programme management. And
then I did CS or customer success operations. And then
I've been at Zendesk now for over four years doing sales
strategy and operations. But I will say that it's been a very
common theme through my life and my career to have been this is
very rare, like not a lot of women executives that I talked
to have had mentors and sponsors in their career that look like
them. And and in the regard of I've had several Asian and Asian
American women leaders in my career, I've been very, very
grateful for that. And it actually stems into or I guess,
ties into kind of the theme of my life, I grew up in the bay
area with 10 aunts, blood relative aunts, my mom is one of
10 kids, she has eight sisters, my dad had two sisters. And, you
know, we were a very, I've been very lucky to have grown up in a
very family oriented environment, we would get
together for barbecues and dinners at my house. And you
know, another avenue you just, you just never know, with your
family. I never really never really clicked for me, but I
actually have an aunt, who is was an SVP at Samsung for many
years. And so, you know, like, I never really talked to her about
career pathing when I was younger, so I really encourage
listeners to think about who's in your environment who's in
your network, because you just never know, like the people who
are your you know, if you're a parent, you know, your soccer
camp, other moms, other dads, you know, like making those
connections and finding out like, kind people and finding
those people who, you know, contribute to the world in a
positive way. I think it's, it's really part of what excites me
in life. Right?
I mean, it just sounds like you were able to
capitalise know who the people in your circle are your
community and it's true. I think that sometimes people
underestimate how in people they do really know. I mean, they
don't like Think it's they don't mean just to do that exercise is
sit down, who can I reach out to or who's in my circle whose
mind, maybe they think about the immediate circle, or never
there's probably a tonne of people outside the broader
circle. And people nowadays I feel like are willing to help
are willing to especially if you are someone that is just genuine
lying to people, you know, we just to be surrounded by these
type of people, and to know who to call to I think people are
just willing to do that to route. Yeah, I mean, look, we
use your really relationships to get in the door for work, and
also learn and have a mentor, which is
Michelle J Kim: rare. Yeah. And I mean, it was really kind of an
accident. I mean, I don't think I was very intentional about it
when I was starting out in my career, but, you know, they say,
I think I had a Berkeley UC Berkeley professor, say, like
your six degrees? Or maybe it's like six degrees away from Kevin
Bacon thing. Yeah, you know, so like, you just never know
who to who never know, especially
Michelle J Kim: the cousin of the doctor, you know. So, yeah,
you
want social media and just say, Hi, how are you
doing? And you just connect? What are your degrees of
conviction? So tell me so what it sounds like you have a
fascinating industry, tech, career journey in the tech
industry, you went through a lot of different different roles,
and you climbed a ladder in the, in the tech industry. So what
are the hardest was one of the hardest things in that industry
as a minority woman leader.
Michelle J Kim: There's two things I'm going to call out
that have been a challenge for me personally. So I think in
general, one of the hardest things about being confident in
the workplace for myself is self doubt. And I don't know if
you're familiar with the different types of imposter
syndrome that exist. And I don't I actually even don't even like
that expression of imposter syndrome, because I don't think
it's, it's not a syndrome, it's something that, you know, many
people feel as a result of, you know, what, pressures we that
are expected, you know, expectations of us. But, you
know, I, I have a lot of, quote unquote, impostor syndrome
around like, not being not knowing enough not being an
expert. But, you know, I know a lot. I mean, there's a reason
I've changed roles I've been promoted at Zendesk, I've been
here, for four years, I got promoted twice within the first
few years. And so you know, it's not, it's not for nothing. But I
would say that, as a female, as a Asian American. in tech, it's,
it's really hard when I have that self doubt, and I'm doing
everything I can to build my confidence to build my
competency, so I can feel more competent, because I'm confident
because that's, you know, where my, where my, where my
challenges are. But I think two challenges, specifically one is,
and this is just the case, it's not me calling out good or bad.
But the majority of leaders that I work with, are white men. And
I already doubt myself enough. But when there are white men in
the room, who start to doubt me in a public forum, that's really
hard. And I take it kind of personally, and I really, I work
with an executive coach that got mentors, but that's something
that's been really hard for me to overcome. And I try my best
to just shake it off, right, dust off your shoulder, get up.
And don't take things personally. But you know, when
people question your expertise, and you have to constantly
reinforce and reiterate that you are the expert, that you have a
lot of the domain knowledge that you have information that they
don't, that is exhausting. And then I say the second thing
that's really hard, is just constantly being interrupted and
talked over. And I don't think people realise, at least in my
personal experience, and I can only speak to my experience,
right? I grew up in a culture where you're not supposed to
speak over people. You're not supposed to speak back to your
elders, and it's taken 15 plus years of experience in the
corporate space to realise you know what, unfortunately,
sometimes I do have to talk over people, because otherwise I
won't get heard. And so, you know, I've been told like, I was
really surprised because I'm someone who's quite vocal, and I
will share my opinions. And so I've tried very intentionally to
do less of that sometimes because sometimes it's not
warranted. But you know, What's conflicting? Right? Because when
we're the theme is executive presence, you need to speak up
and be heard. But what's the balance right? When you have
people who are constant interrupters, people who just go
on and on and on, it's really hard to get a word. And so I've
really been intentional about trying to choose my words
wisely, take pauses, give people time to react, take some time
before I react. And before I say something, and obviously, I'm
not perfect, but those are two challenges that I've faced, just
from like a, you know, my personality and how I have shown
up in my life prior to gaining more confidence, I would say.
And just like from a cultural background, right, like, even
though I'm very much a Americanized person, I was born
in the United States, my parents immigrated here they met, and
they had me I was born in the Bay Area. But I'm gonna
reference Jane Hans book, breaking the bamboo ceiling
where she talks about, you know, cultural assimilation, which I
am very much an American. But it takes generations to get past
the value, values assimilation. So it'll always be hard for me
to it's not hard, necessarily, but it always will feel a little
weird to me to kind of like speak over people or like, you
know, just because I'm not getting a chance to be heard. So
I think that all plays into executive presence and
communicating with executive presence, because there's a
degree of forcefulness that has been traditionally been marked
or identified or treated to executive presence that I think,
really thankfully, as I'm seeing more, you know, millennials more
Gen Z, or people, younger people enter the workforce, that's no
longer really acceptable. So I'm actually very excited for that
time when I won't have to force myself into the conversation.
Yeah. Oh,
my gosh, thank you so much for sharing that. That
really means a lot. I mean, I think that it's very inspiring,
because when I met you, but we were at the same conference, we
kept you know, we hit it off, had a great conversation, it was
a great conference, and I was one of the speakers. And then
Michelle and I met, we got a chance to talk and you just
exude so much confidence, you have you, you're a leader in
your industry. And then so to hear this backstory, it just,
it's so inspirational, because we all have this, so it does, it
helps us not feel alone. Because we have all been there where
we're trying so hard, we're doing everything that we can
know, you know, to be the expert in the industry, and then to be
put on the spot to be able to, to where people are addressing
or asking you questions to make you seem like you don't know
things, it's so it can be very tough, and to not be spoken
over. And so thank you so much to share that so that we
everybody can all have a connection that way. And so can
you share what what like any tips, any advice? What are some
of the techniques that you learned along the way?
Michelle J Kim: So I would really figure out, what is it
that stopping you from being confident? Or I guess that is it
because you just don't know enough? And that could be valid,
right? Like there are times when you just don't know enough to
study up, you need to learn, you need to research you need to
interview people. So for me, I've always like the
stereotypical, I've always been an excellent student, I learned
really well in classroom settings. I'm an auditory
learner. And so, you know, and obviously, like, application is
important too. But I've been very blessed to have a learning
style that allows me to learn not necessarily by doing so
finding out your own learning style and figuring out like, is
it because I don't know enough? Is it because I'm not
comfortable with the material? So whatever it is that you're
not feeling confident in pinpoint? Why is it like
question yourself, stop yourself. And I'm really proud
of myself because I would say that for most of my life, I had
a lot of negative self talk. And it was really unwarranted. Like
I said, I was like, top of my class, I went to UC Berkeley,
very successful, outwardly successful person, you know, had
multiple jobs at like companies like Seagate, LinkedIn, but I
just never had that confidence in myself. I sat back and I
asked like, what the heck why?
Right. So this is a clear discernment, right? Is it
that you don't know enough because sometimes it is the lack
of knowledge. But then there's other times where you're
studying and studying and then you just have to stop that.
There's just so much more that you can continue to study and
then at They're knowing and having that discernment of I
know enough for today, and then deciding whether okay, even now
that I know enough, is it still that I have the lack of
confidence? Yeah. And I think what
Michelle J Kim: I really learned is, I'm very confident in my
ability to learn and figure it out and get, right. So find out
what your strengths are, find out what will help you shine
best. What do you enjoy? I think, you know, there's this
preconception or idea that, you know, maybe it's society, maybe
it's media, it's like, we have to be all, we all have to be so
well rounded, we have to be good at everything. No, it's fine to
like what you like, and it's fine to do more of what you're
good at, because that will help build your confidence. And I
really challenged myself to go out of my comfort zone, and try
different things like how the heck am I supposed to create a
podcast? Like, you know, this, it really came out of me taking
a class because my my friend was starting one. And I was like,
why? No, I've spent a lot of time in the in the fall like
working really hard at work. And I just decided I want to
dedicate two hours a week for just a few weeks on how to learn
this new thing. And that's, that's what started that
podcast. And like, I just didn't know, and you don't know things
from at least like I said, for myself, I don't have as much
confidence. But once I learned, like, Oh, this is this is all
you need to do. I can do it. And you just try it and you put
yourself out there. And you know, just in the case of my
podcast, it's really opened a lot of doors for me. And it's
really more than that I get messages from strangers, saying,
oh my gosh, thanks for doing this. This has inspired me or
like, you know, this was really helpful. So that's really all I
want to do. I you know, I am very lucky to have found a
career and a space that I'm thriving in. And so what can I
do to give back and help others feel that same sense of
achievement and success? Because it's available to all of us if
we can access it? Yeah,
yeah. Yeah. So like, you're stretching
yourself, putting yourself out there. When you're doing
something fresh, new, you have knowledge you do the studying.
But once you have that, than just continuing to do yourself,
the favour of stretching yourself taking the risk, yes,
it's gonna be uncomfortable, like your podcasts in the
beginning, it's a little uncomfortable, what am I doing?
And then eventually you get there, and then the confidence
builds, and then you're like, oh, okay, I figured that's how
you do it. It's not too bad. It's very uncomfortable in the
beginning with anything that we're learning anything new. And
Michelle J Kim: there's, I think, I just cannot remember
her name. But she's actually the the, there's a woman, I think
she's maybe the founder of Girls Who Code, I can't recall. But
just, I think for women, we as children, specifically, at least
the United States, we're kind of conditioned right to just be
perfect to, like, get good grades to be polite. And
sometimes boys are more encouraged to try and, you know,
be encouraged to try you know, and so I think that's part of
how I was conditioned, not necessarily through any fault of
my mom, or my dad or anything, it's just like the way society
is. And so for myself, like I said, I've been successful. In
my academic career, I've been successful in a lot of ways. But
many times I just always had this fear of failure. And you
know, what, one day I just decided, like, I need to just
try to fail more, if that makes sense, because I don't if I'm
not failing, am I really growing? So, you know, just keep
you got to keep at it. You got to keep trying new things. And,
you know, it's a balance of trying to do the things that I
love that I like that I'm good at, and but also pushing myself
to do things that I haven't ever done before. or learning about
things that I don't know about. And just approaching things with
curiosity rather than worry or fear is something I continue to
challenge myself to do every day.
Mm hmm. Oh, I love that. Very inspirational. And a
good reminder, a good, good reason to step out and look at
not be so afraid of failure. And want to revisit back the the
conversation you were just mentioning when people talk over
you or there had been meetings or people would talk over you
any tips on what would you do in that situation?
Michelle J Kim: I'm going to cite a person that I learned a
lot from in terms of executive communication. I used to work
with Jamie buss who was the SVP of sales North America sales
Zendesk when I started and she has since moved on. She has a
CRO now, which is amazing. But I learned from Jamie, that pre
socialisation is really key. So if you and as an addition, I was
a programme manager. So you know, running meetings and
figuring out like power dynamics in the meeting is very important
and you need to be aware of those things. But if you can set
yourself up for success in a meeting, so that you've already
pre socialised with the potential naysayers, you know,
there are certain people you know them who are going to speak
up or disagree or be, you know, have grumblings So figuring out
how can you neutralise that almost not threat, but like
situation in advance, and be helpful? If you can find your
allies, like, you know, certain people agree with you, your
manager is going to be on the call with you? How can you work
together to reinforce the message? You know, figuring that
out? I think that's a really good practice to try and do I
know, we're all so busy that it seems like how do I find the
time to meet with this individual person before the
group meeting? But when you're in a group meeting, airtime is
very valuable? And if you haven't sorted out in advance,
like what is the purpose of the meeting? What is our goal? What
is the expectation of the people in the meeting? Are they there
to contribute ideas? Are they are we there to make a decision?
Are we there to be informed? I think making a very clear
purpose for the meeting, if it's yours is really important. So
those are just some some tips. I would say if you are the meeting
attendee and it's not your meeting. I think it's hard, it's
the best you can do is really like if I employed this a few
times, even just today, you know, if so many people are in
the meeting, and no one's giving you a chance to talk. I put it
in as the Zoom chat. Mm hmm. Hopefully, you know, usually
there will be someone who's like keeping an eye on it. And
hopefully the most senior person in the room or the meeting owner
or someone will look at that and acknowledge that. And so that's
like one way to kind of make your voice heard. And I think as
a leader, as leaders, yes, we need to set that example, too.
Because if I'm going on and on and on as a leader, the most
senior person on the call, and I don't check the chat, or I don't
notice people's like facial expressions, and I just go on
and on. Like, you're just what's, what's the whole point?
That's not executive communication? It's like doing a
monologue. Yes. I don't know if that's like one tactical helpful
tip. I think just getting mentorship, I mean, it's all
just experience, like I'm a really huge proponent of
mentorship, a part of a free community called Women in
revenue. And we have, they have a mentorship programme that's
free. But just talking to people who are good at that, like not
being talked to her is another tactic, getting some mentorship,
like if you notice, like you're in a room, Zoom Room with 10
people. And you know, someone gets talked over and you notice
that they handle it gracefully. talk to that person, ask them
for Hey, can I buy you a coffee? And can I chat with you about
how you dealt with that situation? Because, man, I would
really love to be able to do that myself. I think that's
another kind of tactical tip that you can employ as well
finding a mentor someone in your organisation and your company in
your team that handles those situations. Well,
right. I think actually, your tips are so
powerful, too. I mean, I think that there are key and anyone
who's listening who's struggling with this, just staying in touch
with what Michelle just said and committed to it. I think we'll
go it just meeting with the people the pre networking, the
pre socialisation before any with the naysayers, and then
also find your allies. Those are huge. And then again, if you're
still not feeling heard, you can use the chat and then reach out
to a mentor.
Michelle J Kim: Yeah, and if it's happening to repeatedly
Yeah, you know, it could also be just an indication of the
culture. Right, the culture of the company. Like I'm very
grateful because Zendesk has a great culture. But yeah, there
are times you know, to be frank and when that does happen. But
yeah, really being conscious of like, what environment are you
in? On a day to day basis? And are you okay with this? Yes.
And, you know, are people aware, their self awareness is such a
big part of being a leader and executive presence. They can't
self diagnose, like, oh, shoot, I made that person feel really
small by saying things this way. Like that's, that's something
that, you know, is really important to be cognizant of.
And You know, what does executive presence mean to me?
Well, I'm still figuring out but one thing that I want to point
our listeners to is a Harvard Business Review article called
The New Rules of executive presence, where they did a
comparison, it was a study, I think they must have done
surveys back in 2012. And they did the same kind of survey 10
years later in 2022. And back, then, you know, I think they
kind of have a couple of categories, grab a toss,
communication, and appearance. And things have shifted, like,
in a good way, you know, 1010 years ago, like, I think
confidence and decisiveness are still very important parts of
gravitas, but 10 years ago, pedigree like where you came out
of school, like that was really important part of your gravitas.
And now, I'm so excited that this is part of, you know, how
things are moving. inclusiveness and respect for others are
actually have replaced Marvel three. And that's important, I
think, you know, in addition to gravitas, your communication,
then it was, you know, like I said, being forceful or joking
or bantering, you know, jokes and banter. And those have gone
out of trend. And now it's more presence on Zoom. Like, how can
you communicate well on Zoom effectively with Zoom? Yeah. And
how do you are you listening to learn? Or are you just like I
said, it's like, is it forceful? Or are you there to receive and
actually listen and give your opinion and thoughts on the
matter in a way that is reflective of actual active
listening, right. And then, in addition to grab a toss and
communication, appearance, so like, I just thought it was so
fascinating, because 10 years ago, people ranked physical
attractiveness, tallness, slimness as high factors for
contributing to like, this is what executive presence looks
like. And I was so happy to see like, 10 years later, that's
those are not on the list at all. It's actually more
authenticity. And surprisingly, not just your ability to show up
in person. But your online presence, like your social media
presence is also another indicator of executive presence.
And so I all credit, finding this article through Peter on
who is a tech sales coach. And yeah, after he shared that
article, I just was like, wow, this is such a positive thing,
right? To show that it's evolved so much, even just in 10 years.
So, you know, that's, that's kind of what you know, I'm
figuring it out. But I'm really glad to see out in the world
that things are moving in a direction where it's less what
is the right word for this less old traditional old school?
Yeah.
Cold knowledge. Like yes, you it's great to have
the pedigree and the expertise but I think it just without just
with that component alone is not sufficient. Absolutely. No.
Yeah. And I love the authenticity part is in there,
that's awesome.
Michelle J Kim: I would say it's kind of a tough spot to be a
millennial, because you kind of still like the people who are my
managers and VPs are still there older than me generally. And
they might still have the older perception of executive
presence, right executive communication, they might still
have that there are definitely a lot of great amazing leaders
I've worked with who are actually trending more toward
like this new this new definition of executive
presence. But it's it's a balance of like, okay, how
authentic can I really be with this person? You know, like,
because I'm a pretty off like I'm very authentic. It's hard
for me to hide who I am and I'm so grateful to work with the
younger generation of Gen Z alpha who are just like they
love it. They want to be real they want people who are real
with them in a real be real Yeah, it's a line down so
yeah, to answer that I mean, reflecting back on
your career and we don't have that much more time but I just
have so many questions for you we could probably do a part two
but just Michelle you're you bit your success and you grow you've
expanded in your role and adopt a new roles like work could you
credit, your expansion your development, your growth, your
new climbing up the ladder to is competence or executive presence
a part of that?
Michelle J Kim: Yeah. So I always say that Competence and
Confidence go hand in hand like they really do like for me, you
cannot, there is no reason you should be confident if you have
no credibility. Right. Right. So and it's a question of like,
well, how much is enough? Michelle? And yeah, it's you
just always have to have that shoshan That beginner's mindset
always willing to learn and grow? Yeah. So I think for
myself, even
okay, even as you're beginning to learn and
grow, still having the confidence. Yeah.
Michelle J Kim: Which is like, like I said, I've discovered I
really, I am confident in my ability to learn, yes. So
figuring out like, what is it you're good at? And how can you
develop in those areas in like a safer, quote, unquote, safer
way? Yeah. But really, I will say, of outside of the podcasts,
which I just said, ended my season one of breaking the tech
ceiling, where I interview VP and sea level woman and go to
market tech roles about how to get from director, Senior
Director to VP, from VP to sea level, in revenue roles. And
after talking to not just those women, but they almost probably
100, plus tech executives across many different functions. You
just don't advance your career unless you're intentional about
it. And for me, so I do strategy and operations. So thinking
about my life and my career from a strategy and operations
perspective, what's the end goal for me? And what are the steps
for me to take to get to those points. And sometimes you don't
always need to have like an end goal in mind, maybe it's fine to
stay where you are, maybe you don't need that promotion. And
maybe there are other ways to enrich your life, but only you
can decide what is right for you. So a big part of what I do.
And what I'm passionate about, is professional development and
goal setting. And I literally have some I have a F in front of
me, I have it with me always. It's called the purpose planner,
I have a planner that I live and die by. And what's really helped
me I used to have a lot of negative self talk. And I've
helped quiet that because I write things down. I don't want
to keep things in my brain, we need to save our brain capacity,
like processing capacity for important things not, you know,
I have to remember to pay, do my taxes, I need to remember, like
these are all things that you can schedule. So I'm I'm very
much a proponent of planning out your life and your career. And
this is not for everyone, like really not for everyone. Some
people hate that. My husband and I are very opposite. He doesn't
like to have a plan. He won't even tell me when he's coming
home for dinner. So it's like, someone who's like, I want to
know what meals I'm having the rest of the week. So it's, you
know, just it's different for everyone. But for me, that's
what's worked. Yeah, absolutely. Trying to figure out what can I
learn. Last year, I had a goal to be a better speaker, public
speaker. And I took Stanford continuing study classes at
Stanford Continuing Studies class, a woman named Amy Eliza
long, she's amazing. And that was so powerful, and like doing
all these other things. In addition to that, that I won't,
I won't go into too much detail here. But you know, culminating
to going to your workshop, Melinda, and you had us all do
an exercise in small groups. And, like, share, like what was
like a one minute, like something you're passionate
about, do one minute little, you know, chat on what you're
passionate about to your small group. And everyone gives
feedback. And I was just so proud of myself in that moment,
because I nailed it. I killed it without any sort of preparation.
And so, you know, that just really made me happy to be in a
spot in my life in a skill area that I concentrated on improving
and seeing it pay out in that way. So yeah, so I really I
really believe in that the power, right of intentionality
of planning, like I said, all of those executives that I've
worked with, when I asked, How did you go from it? Was it an
accident? No, it was never an accident. There's a lot of
things that need to go right, in order to go from a director,
Senior Director to a VP from a VP to sea level. And you know,
there's different things required at different levels.
And it's not just going to happen to you can't just sit and
wait around and pray that you're going to get that promotion.
I agree. I agree. I love that. Yeah, I have the
intentionality. What are the things that I need to do? How
can I stretch myself? How can I fail fast and learn Quickly get
feedback, get a mentor, and move up and not be afraid of those
things. And then you'll watch yourself just when you focus on
something like you like, focus on the speaking. And as soon as
you focus yourself, of course, you're gonna make mistakes along
the way. But then once you do that, then you can expand and
then you you look back and you say, oh, my gosh, I did it. And
now, now we can move on to something else. Yeah,
Michelle J Kim: and I want to say one, one thing, I, I really
am a proponent of mentorship. But as I mentioned, at the
beginning of this conversation, like I don't go to my mentor
anymore for every single thing, because it's not sustainable. I
highly recommend people who are serious about career
progression, find yourself a career coach, find yourself an
executive coach, and have that person, be your or even find a
group coaching, right? Worst case go to a better is a better
a better prop. No better up as a teaching a coach, you got it.
Got it. That's the worst case study, you can find coaches. But
if you're serious about career growth and career progression, I
really recommend finding a coach that will hold you help you hold
yourself accountable, yes, to do everything for you. But like,
you know, just for me, that was another big shift in my career
journey. When I was sponsored for a career career coaching
programme at Zendesk, it was very lucky for that. Thankful,
and I'm thankful for it. Because dedicating it was a 30 minute
call every two weeks. And I always prepared 10 minutes
before like, it wasn't even like, you know, a long time it
wasn't an advanced was just literally 10 minutes before that
call, I sat down and I wrote down, what is it that's going on
in my career in my role in my life that I want to talk to
about this coach. And that really helped accelerate things
for me. You know, it's not, I always talk about mentorship.
But it's not enough. Like if you really want to invest in
yourself, it'll pay off into this now. Yeah, first that
I totally Yeah, because it gets it out of the
head, you have so many bounced, you know, somebody you trust
that you can bounce ideas off of, and just support you along
your journey along the obstacles and kind of overcoming them. And
so, I love that. Thank you so much, Michelle, I had so much
fun with you. Thank you, lots of great insight. I learned a lot.
I trust that the listeners got some really good golden
takeaways. And so really appreciate your time, Michelle,
your leadership, your expertise and helping us grow. Think about
executive communication and how to break that glass ceiling,
whether in the tech industry or whether in any industry, I think
that you've got some good nuggets from Michelle today. So
thank you,
Michelle J Kim: thank you so much for having me. Yeah, I
really, really thoughtful. And I really hope people become
intentional about how they want to spend their time on this
earth. And it doesn't have to be your career. Just Just know that
just figure out what it is that's right for you in this
time. To change you can change your mind. But you know, don't
stress out so much. This is kind of like the parting advice that
I would give
to what are the memories that you want to have
hold for yourself? Yeah, to take away. Oh, thank you so much. And
thank you, dear listeners for joining me until the next time I
see you Take care. Bye bye