How The Power of Words Can Transform Our Reality - Donna Fairhurst

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Hello, everyone. This is Monica Ramirez, Warrior of Love. And thank you for being back in Soul Talk. And today, we have a special invite. Her name is Donna. I hope it is a right because you know, English is not my first language. Ah, Fairhurst.

Very good.

Great. And Donna we're gonna be talking about something very interesting. But before we start in our talk, I would like to donate it does know a little bit more. What does she do and how she worked with people. And those would keep a coach it is.

Thank you. I am an intuitive life and soul transition coach. I'm a Reiki Master, a psychic medium, an empath and an angel in orange chakra intuitive channeler. I'm also a best selling author of some personal transformation books. I was born nearly blind, I survived polio three cancer scares, three near death experiences, a lot of failed relationships, bankruptcy, you name it, I've done it. And I've traveled the world while I was doing it. I say I have a PhD in life. And I'm writing a book about that called yo yo to God, you're not alone. I've studied spirituality for 40 years. And in my coaching practice, I combine psychic and healing abilities with scientific or imaging. And I empower my clients to pivot powerfully through any transition or challenge to create soulful solutions in their life and reach their highest levels of personal awareness. With balance and clarity and coherence. I am so grateful to be here with you. You are a beautiful Shining Soul and you inspire me.

Thank you so much. It is very interesting what you do and what I was reading and your topics that we were mentioning before, there is nothing enough people that talk about the presence of AI. And that is very, very interesting. That was one of the first things that I learned when this was starting to study metaphysic and the power of the IAM persons. And I'm so glad that you chose that theme.

Oh, thank you. It is the very very first thing that I work on with my clients. And it's something that if people are aware with it, we're aware of how they work with their dialogue in their language, your voice, your language is the energy that is all we are all part of infinite unity we are all the I Am. And you know in ancient Vedic and and Jewish principles in the old texts, the name of God, there's 72 names of gods in that text. And essentially, what it tells us regardless of which name it is, is that we are God guarding, we are the godness within having a human experience and we are connected to all that is through how do we express that experience with our words, when we say I am, we are bringing in three powerful things every time we say I am the i in i M stands for i The God Gotti that that's intention, you're saying intentionally that is you this specific energy that is sending a message that begins with I am so the I status for attention. When we're speaking about something as an I am we need to have infinite awareness that what we are going to declare next is going to be exactly the energy of what is brought towards us. So the A stands for awareness. And the M stands for manifest. You've now had intention. You've brought your awareness to it. And you are about to manifest either a miracle or a mess, depending on what your words are. So if you say I'm feeling great Today, even though you're not feeling that way, you are bringing the intention of feeling great the energy of feeling great to you. And the positive experiences that you need to bring you from where you might be feeling less than that to where you really want to be expressing yourself. When the flip side is, when you say I am, and you declare something, that is not what you want to be like, I am sick, I am tired, I am lonely, I am broke, I am abandoned, whatever you declare that the universe is saying, I like to say, think of this as a cheerleading squad. When you say I am all of your angels and your guides and God, everybody says it goes, here she comes, here he comes, they're going to tell us exactly what we can do to help. Right? We're going to bring it to them, we're going to bring it on. And then you say I'm feeling so stuck and tired. And the angels go, oh, dear Lord, here we go again. She's still feeling stuck and tired. I wish she'd get off this stick. Or he'd get off the stick and do something about it. But okay, let's Let's help her with what she want, what she's feeling and what she's declaring herself to be. So you're going out the door, you can't find your keys, because you're, you're sick and tired. And you don't want to go out the door. So you've declared that you can't find your keys. The kids are late for school, you forgot to pack the lunches, everything is falling apart, you get out the door, you've got a flat tire. Now all you can do is go in phone, your boss and say I'm sorry, I'm feeling sick and tired and I can't come in. You didn't say feeling in the beginning. You said I am sick and tired. So you then brought to you all of the energy. So I tell all of my clients and anybody that will listen, if you're going to say I am, declare it as your highest good if it's a positive thing, if you're going to say I am and it's not a positive thing, declare it as a feeling. Because feeling is our ability to feel through a physical, mental emotional experience without creating a spiritual Boomerang, energetically. Does that make sense?

Yes, it's a index that works with a law of attraction perfectly. Of course, he's missing some parts that you need to believe that you deserve it. It needs to, you need to actually embody what you want. But the words are so important and people is misled. That thinking that our words are not important.

Yes, every single letter in every single word that we declare has a specific infinite energy. Our words are not accidents are words that were not created by accidents. And it doesn't matter what language you speak what script to write, what religion you may or may not be. It is simply the power of our words, embodies is a body is a great word I love that embodies the mental, physical, emotional and spiritual soul that we carry. Our body is just a vehicle to carry our soul around. And our soul is where we bring energy to us.

When I was studying a long time ago, and I was working with people about 35 years ago, or something like that, we use a lot of term of I am. But for other reasons, not necessarily for using with the law of attraction. And that's the part that no one talks about the I am persists because that is everybody talks about the law of attraction and more after the secret. And because everybody wants to find the secret recipe behind that. That's the one you mentioned. But the I Am Presence, the protection side, the connection, the the real behind scenes ways the I Am Presence is the one I would like to talk with you.

When you string the words together, I am in a lot of spiritual in spiritual context from the energy that I work with. I don't say I am when I'm declaring something I say I Am that I Am. And that in the middle is actually the presence of God Creator Source Energy, whatever that is to you. So when I'm meditating or when I'm working on manifesting something, or I'm I'm working with energy that is chaotic or incoherent. And I'm wondering Move the chaos in the incoherence, I always declare with, from the fullness of my heart, I Am that I Am. And that that is far more important than the I Am and the I am on either side. That is what connects us to the universe.

That is a true, and the power and protection that comes with it, because we're invoking, in a way, the presence of the same source, we are in that moment, because he is I am, or she or he or whatever you want to call it, in reality doesn't matter. But that presses that source. It is that,

That you just said that it is that. And you are that we are all bad. And I like to express it as we are one strand of human DNA in the physical strand of infinite unity. And if you look at a DNA strand, for anything, whether it's whether it's a leaf for a dog or human being, that strand is an infinite loop. And that is the energy that connects us. Animals are way more connected plants are way more connected. Any of the seagoing creatures are way more connected than we are, because they don't filter that away with mental conditioning.

Techniques to think is probably because they don't have the ego of for the protectors that we all have, that we have our ego that we the ego was created to protect us that the lion or the dinosaur will not eat us. And that's the beginning of that. But we are part of the society and the programming that we we all have. He was to not believe in us universals. That's a good approach.

Yes. And that that was also a lot of conditioning from man's misconceptions. In the early days of humanity as to how we express the beingness of God, I always say you're either a human being or a human doing, when you're being you're, you're knowing your connection to all that is you are growing your connection to all that is you flow with the connection of all that is, and ultimately, when you know and you grow, and you flow, your light, your energy, what you need to give and express to the world is also what you shine a light for to bring back to you. So you're like like an energetic lighthouse. And you're sending out this beam, to keep people safe and away from the rocks, which are also sending out this beam that brings everything that is necessary for your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual well being. And the way in which you connect to that and connect the dots is the degree of success you will have. I know a lot of people get caught up in what's my purpose, I don't know what my purpose is. And I say your purpose is to be if you be connected, being on task, whatever that is for you. In all of the elements that dimensions mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, you will bring to you the experiences you will bring to you the dialogue you will bring to you. Or you will be guided to all of the experiences that you need to manifest your specific light in the universe. You you are you know you can be mbmb or you can do and do and do when you be you bring light and you you receive light. When you do and do and do you usually end up with just a bunch of doo doo. It's not very comfortable. It's generally challenges and things that you would rather not experience and yet most of those are still necessary. I also guide my clients if you're going to eliminate one negative word, one negative action word in your life that has incredible power to diminish. It's the word but think about it in any language, whatever but is when somebody says Oh, I love that you do this but you it's immediately the energy goes down. You can just feel drained from you because you know that whatever is coming is going to be either advice you don't want to hear or advice you need to hear but don't want to action and it shifts the energy and the power it's like an ultimate negative rocking thing. So I always advise my clients and friends, if you can just eliminate but and it's really hard to do because it's insidious in our language, we, we use it so much, and we use it as a deflector. So if we think of, I really hear what you're saying, however, I'd like to know more about XYZ. Or I really, like what you're thinking, and I want to know more, kind of, and yet, however, or simply stop, don't say, but and then just say, I also think, or I also feel, and if you can express from a feeling rather than a thought, have the thought that you have, and then express from the feeling that that thought brings you the energy that it has. Does that make sense?

Yes, because we are human beings, we are programmed to feel lesser or use the word bots. And that's why we continue doing it until we actually become aware of our thoughts and emotions, right that we don't limit ourselves with the bots because yes, is dropper of energy is using that word.

Yes, absolutely. I can't. Can't is another one. So I guess one of the first lessons that that I'll that I learned and that I teach is the power of your work. The power of your dialogue has, you know, a huge creative force in all elements of your life. And for you to put your super cape on and be the power of your being, you have to be aware of your language, and how that affects what you're putting out and what you're bringing back to you.

That is to protect me also with what you were saying about doing with decoherence. I had been in many Sundance's and I've been with Native Americans, and something that I learned from them, they told me never trust a double tongue. And I'll be kidding me not understood what they were saying. But now I do the difference. Basically, it is someone that say they're gonna do something, and they don't do much. And that coherence part is not matching up musically on us. What happened with that?

Well, when you're, if I understood you correctly, when they are saying one thing and doing another, there is a disconnect, there is no space in the field, it's like you plug in the electric cord, and you're gonna vacuum right, and you turn the vacuum on and nothing happens. Well, if you plug into the energy of not completing what you in all integrity said you were going to do and you make or and or you make excuses about it, rather than just say, I am sorry, I did not complete I will now make amends and do that. If you can, if you can make amends, you can recover the energy. If you don't make amends, and you just let it drop. It's a flop. Everything is going to be down. You know Debbie Downer energy taking you out and down. And you can't recover from that. It leaves a little, a little scar on your soul. A little. Yeah,

And more because you stopped trusting yourself.

Yes, trust is a huge thing. When we I always say that we're and I feel very strongly that we're either operating from the modality in the mind map of chaos and incoherence, or we're in calm and coherence. And so, to go from zero to clarity, and get from chaos and incoherence to common coherence, you have to notice it. First, you have to notice what you're doing, or have it gently pointed out to you. So the first thing that happens is that you are in judgment. Whenever you are in chaos and incoherence about a person place or thing. You're in judgment. It's not about self awareness or soul awareness. It's about judging a person place or thing whenever you judge, as opposed to finding value in the experience, whatever it is good, bad or indifferent. You can't create calm and coherence from a place of judgment. So the first thing to notice is that you're there that you're in chaos in coherence. The second thing to notice is that you're judging a person, place, thing or event. The third thing to notice is that that's always ego based. It's always in the I call it monkey mind or the monkey mind. Now, you have to make a move, you have to take an action. So the first thing is to notice where you are, when you notice where you are, you can look at the situation and say, what is the value? What is the lesson. And the minute you find value or lesson with the person, place or situation, you immediately go from chaos, to calm, the minute you go to calm, you're in coherence, the flow is there. Now you've got a way to move through the situation without judgment, you can connect heart to heart and deal with it from that perspective. And if you're running around like a monkey mind, trying to blame it on somebody or shaming, chaos. And incoherence come from four things, in my experience, blame, shame, guilt, or fear. If you are judging something, or someone or a situation, you're in a state of blame, shame, guilt, or fear, or all of the above, and that perpetuates the minute you have those emotions, it's a wheel going around. And it's hard to get off because you're justifying and you're finding excuses, and you're blaming other people, or you're fearful of what's going to happen. So when you go over to the other side, onto the heart map, you are finding valuation for yourself. And whatever it is, the minute you move to value, you change the dynamic of the energy, right? Then you're in flow, then you can create soulful solutions for the person, place or situation. When you do that, that repeats. Now your knowing, going growing, and everything is turning out better, whatever better is for you. I also think that there's a people always say, Well, what if I don't like this person, place or situation? Again, that's a judgment. So we have a Get Out of Jail Free card. There's a lot of times that we don't feel the love for a person, place or situation we've been wounded, we're feeling wounded, or we're feeling shut down or shut out or whatever the wound is. There's always a wound. And that is always now in the blame game. Because I've been wounded. So this person is is not right, for me is evil or whatever. No, no, no. That's when you have grace. Grace is a higher energy than love. Love is all there is. But sometimes we can't feel that sometimes we feel we can't act from that. But if we bring in grace, grace allows us to do in a moment of fear, shame, blame or guilt, what we couldn't do. And it allows us to do it with love. And now you have love and grace holding hands. And you can get through anything. And if you're wise enough to call in your angels and your guides and ask for help from your friends or family, whatever you need. In that manner that's in the highest good of all concern, you're going to achieve a much better higher energy result than you would by playing the shame blame guilt fear game.

I totally agree. And I'm gonna go back to the to the ego. Because this is a big one that many of my clients they asked me, How do I get rid of my and then what I tell them is you can get rid of every part of us tech cutting your head, you've got an in your hand. So it is a very important process help us in the process of ascension. The ego is very important.

Absolutely. You know, your ego your mind map is got one job, one job only it's to keep you safe. So anything that your ego judges, to not be safe for you is going to sow review in a direct of energy that is counterproductive and not the epitome of love. And yet, if we operate from the heart map, we join I say we create sacred soul self when we join our ego map with our heart map and we operate with those two holding hands like a beautiful heart. And then you can create the solutions for whatever the situation is or you can celebrate from the joy Whatever is the this is a GPS, the mind is a GPS here, you make your heart, the decision maker, your heart is where you decide what to do, then you send the message to the GPS saying, here, this is what I've decided to do. Now you draw the map of how to get me there, because the ego is really good at making maps and making plans. And following through if it has a clear direction, the direction has to come from our heart centered sacred soul self.

That is, that is true. At the same time, something that I have encountered with the ego, it is one of our best teachers. Why? Because he's going to present in front of us exactly where we have to work with, is going to show us where we are at. Right?

Absolutely. One of the things that I love the most about your energy is it is so peaceful, it does this. It's like a flowing river. It's not chaotic, it's not waves waving around, which can be very exciting and very uplifting and, you know, give you that surge of adrenaline that you need. Sometimes that beautiful curving flow that you carry in human body, is what we all should aspire to be to be B I. I can tell that you've worked many, many, many years and studied very, very hard to embody and to know your energy and your field. And when I see you and see your aura, because I can see auras and chakras when I see your orange chakra, you are just like pink and blue and green. And then there's this, like DNase zing of orange going down the middle of you. And I just that makes me just table.

Thank you. This is a lot of personal work that we have to do. And with it is about looking at what are the things that we have to change and transform. It is that we have the map all the time in front of us, Lee, who's one of our best maps,

Absolutely, we learn more from our failures, and more from our challenges than we ever that's our textbook for living, right. Every challenge is actually a choice at the soul level that we made that we embodied that we allowed into our sphere, so that we could learn more about ourselves more about what we are to do as a soul. All of this work is an inside job. It's not about the other people and what they're doing and saying and being it's about what you are doing and saying and being in your process.

Now, how do you work with people with your clients.

Um, I have a program that I called Zero to clarity. And basically I start at the very beginning with I am that is the very first thing that we work on. And I am is something that we work on all the way through my program. It's generally a six month or one year program. When people work with me, I do individual one on one calls as well. Um, but in my coaching program, it's six months or nine months or one year because you you know, you can't birth a baby in less than nine months, unless there's, you know, problems, and you can't birth a new way of being in two weeks, you know, like people think I'm going to take a course for 10 days, and my life is gonna change, everything's gonna be okay. Well, it might be for the time that you're doing it. But unless you embody and live the stepping stones from the principles and learn the principles. So I go through a, I would toolkit for my clients that they have to learn before they learn anything else for us. And then they do that for 90 days. And then after 90 days, we reevaluate and all the way through. I'm putting in life purpose issues we're discovering, you know, life purpose and soul purpose and how the two go together. We work to move from I am to the embodiment of sacred soul self, and to work from grace, and practical also practical tools for daily living. The people that come to me are having real challenges in their life. And they need to be able to pivot powerfully maintain their center. And so I give them tools to make those pivots and handle whatever In a situation is from a place of grace and love.

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Something that I have encountered is the most simple explanations or guidance are the ones that are more true. The ones that they tell you all, but you have to do it in the middle of the night or at five o'clock in the morning. And you have to turn your head upside down and do this and do that.

Oh, I love it. I love it. I love it. So I had one client very recently a new client. And she said, I meditate for four hours, three times a week and an hour every day regardless. And I said why is that? What are you? What are you getting from that much meditation? If it's serving you, and it's raising you, and you're, you know, getting over all of your problems with it. That's great. I don't think that's happening. Because you're here. So we went through that little bit. And she said, All babies just I don't know how to meditate. And I said, Okay, go to the window. Look out the window, look at a tree and say to the tree, I see you tree. I feel you tree. I love you tree and say it from your heart. She did it took like maybe 35 seconds a minute. I said how do you feel? She said, Oh, I feel calm. Listen, it's you know, it's wonderful if you want to be a monk, and you want to spend all this time in meditation and prayer. Most people have to work most people have families, they're busy. You need to learn that meditation is not a science. It's a soul moment, where you take a moment to connect your soul to yourself and to source. And that can be looking at a tree, it can be arranging a vase of flowers, it can be cooking a meal, everything you do in one way or another is a meditation. That if you're trying to meditate, you want to enjoy it.

Even the presence of putting make, yes, you're present in that moment, not thinking something else, just focusing in, put in the makeup, washing a dish, washing that hitch, it can make a big difference because your presence will bring it all yourself to focus in one thing.

That's mindfulness, that's Hartness. That's when you bring your mind fully into your body, and you enjoy the moment that you're in. And that is being on purpose. Purpose is not about your job. Sacred soul self is not about your partner, your job, your children, your friend, your neighbor, your your telephone bill. Purpose is about being with purpose, on purpose, wherever you are, whoever you're with whatever you're doing. And from that place of purpose is the sacred moment that brings you into total coherence, and total love and that comes from love. It starts with you loving yourself.

That is the question that I receive a lot of my clients, how do I love myself? Because we're not programmed actually to love ourselves exactly the contrary, how to hate us ourselves, how to compare us with someone else how to envy, charity, but not how to love ourselves. How do you teach your students to love themselves?

I asked them to bring a baby picture of when they're a baby when they were a baby. And I say look at this picture and how does this picture of you make you feel? Do you love that baby? Do you see that that baby his, you know, an infinite light and a moment of God. And that that baby is still inside of you, you still love that baby. When did you stop loving, the adult that the baby grew into, you are a bot, you embody all of that. I defy, I defy anyone to pick up a baby and say, Oh, this is an ugly baby, I can't love. You know, it just doesn't happen. So, you know, I'm sure there's some ways in which people may feel that it doesn't mean that they're disconnected, it means that they need to reconnect. To us, that is to be a baby, and then to embody that, that inner child is always with us. And that baby is always with us. And we shove it way down into a little compartment of our heart. And we don't allow it to grow as we grow. And so we get stuck in patterns, we get stuck in ways of being that aren't the love that we are. And to release that we have to own all of what we are. I love Louise Hays mirror exercises, they are if you do nothing else, by heal yourself by Louise Hay, go get the book, get a bunch of sticky tabs, put your, your I have dozens of them all over my office, and then I have a bad feeling. I don't say oh, that's a bad feeling. I go, Hmm, interesting. And I write it on a sticky tab and I stick it on a mirror. And then some days, I have a lot of sticky tabs, some days, I have none. They're all different colors. And I thought, Oh, wow, I was feeling that you. And I usually write the time on it. And one, one or two words that why I was feeling this. And then when I am able to just look in the mirror and look at me and take these feelings and look in my own eyes into the mirror and say I felt this, am I still feeling this and I look into my eyes in the mirror. And the eyes can't lie any more than the heart can. So when you look at the heart, and you look at your eyes, and you see the beauty in you with whatever the negative feeling was that you were having earlier in the day or earlier in the week, whatever the timeline is for you, you can reconnect with that inner source and let that go. The degree to which you can let it go and be present in your own body with your own heart, looking into your own eyes is the degree to which will encompass love.

The majority of the human beings, they forgot how to do that. And every time they get into a trigger with anything, they judge themselves and they're rejected, the person that is causing that trigger, instead of actually working with that trigger.

Yes.

It is. And in the moment they stamp survey net, ask at work, they can flip it. And if they bring in the presence of ion they can observe behind what is the lesson?

Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. Triggers and patterns are two of the things that I think with my experience with my implies, triggers and patterns are the hardest things to break down and deal with, when we can see the pattern, identify the trigger, then then we can create an action plan to work with when I have that trigger, or when I see that pattern coming up, I can move to bring it to a higher level of awareness. And from that higher level of awareness. And often that higher level of it's not a far away place. If that higher level of awareness is inside of you, you just have to stop. Take a moment, acknowledge the feeling. What am I feeling? What am I aware of? And how do I go from zero to clarity? That's why I call my program zero to clarity because, you know, anytime you're in one of those negative loops, you are at zero, and you're not going to get the clarity until you identify the pattern because you were triggered. So what's the trigger? What's the pattern? And how do I get to love from here?

I love it. I really love it. It is so necessary right now in this time because we're making the shift the energies are changing and and the conscious of the human being second see the expansion. There, too. Changing is not been the same worked in God in 20 years. It is a very different world and we want to focus on that. And of course, there are people that refused to do that. But they're still living in that old world. And this technique to the outer point that you were marking here in your, in your bio, this is sacred soul. And I would like to use Pandora and DAC because I obviously we know what we're talking about. But maybe some of our viewers do not understand what it is sacred soul.

Perfect soul is with you take the mind, the ego mind, and you hold hands with the heart. So we have a mind map and a heart map. And both of those maps are maps to guide our soul and to guide our physical body. The ego map is to keep our physical body and mind safe, the ego isn't really thinking about what is the soul thing, what is the heart map here. So I teach the calm principle to bring you to a place where you get your heart in your head to hold hands with each other, in whatever you're doing, they're connected, they're making a heart. And from that, you can create solutions, you can that is sacred soul self. When the ego map joins the heart map, they hold hands together, they're joined together at the heart. And you're making all of your decisions from that heart based intuition and knowledge. And once you make a decision about something, because you're connected, and you're in this sacred soul self, you can now guide your ego to make creative and inspiring and uplifting solutions to your plan your you. That's how you can pivot from nowhere to now here. That's another thing I believe very strongly. When I had my near death experiences, I was told I was shown, I was able to embody. Now you are either now here, or you're nowhere. It depends on where you break the word right? You're nowhere or you're now here, you're nowhere. And in chaos and incoherence. When you're not in the moment, it's what you said about, you know, cooking or looking in the mirror, putting your makeup on. Those are sacred moments. And it might seem silly, when you start to embody this, the more you embody it, the calmer, the more peaceful, the more connected, you are with yourself. When you are calmer, peaceful and more connected with yourself, you are then able to do that with for other people. And when you can shine from that light, you attract more of that light to you. That's that beacon, you're you get stronger in every way. your auric field expands, your chakras expand, you ground you connect. So I do a lot of orange chakra work, getting people to understand their energy to see their energy to work from that place of sacred soul self to grow and expand that energy, and also how to protect it. Because there are people out there that are not working on expanding that awareness. And they can cord to us, they can create energetic connections to us that don't serve us and actually suck the life out of us. It's like, you know, putting a vacuum into your field and going oh, here, take all that I have. There I go. You know,

That is so true. That is so true. ANd we're not we're gonna get hook. We're gonna connect to that.

Yeah, yeah. So, you know, one of the other things that I like to teach people is how to cut cords, how to cut those that and you don't want to cut every cord, because some courts are serving some courts, you know, to your family to, to the people that you love, those are serving courts. It doesn't mean that in every moment, the interactions that you're having with them are serving in your best interest. So it's being discerning about what is a serving chord and what is a non serving chord taking care and it's not rocket science. It's like, you know, you don't have to make meditation, rocket science. If you've got the time to spend hours oming on the gloaming. Great, wonderful for you go for it. If you don't have the time, take a little time to have a real soul connection. No, and surround yourself in every room with one thing. That means something meaningful to you that you can connect to in that room, whatever the person, place or situation. If you feel yourself spiraling out of control out of soul center. You can look at that one thing for one second and bring yourself back to center. Oh Right, that's what I'm about.

That is a great tip. That's a great tip. I do have my miniatures wherever on my house, and in each room without my rocks or my things that they're sacred for me. And, and my kids did since they were growing up. I said to him, don't play with my courts don't pay with my crystals. And they respect that. And they start doing the same thing. But I did not thought about what you just said, to have image room. Something that is sacred for me or important for me to take and bring me.

Yeah, and I really like to put something in every window on every window ledge shield, you won't find a bear window ledge in my house, there's always something inspiring and beautiful. Because when you look to the light, wherever the light is coming from, and there's something sacred in that light that is meaningful to you, it automatically expands your awareness in your light. So just the action of looking out the window at the thing and then out the window to see what is outside of you for just one second and connect to something. I mean, I've sat at a bus stop and connected to a bus. Oh, the bus is coming. Let me just look at the bus. Oh, wow, it's moving. So purposely, it's coming straight toward me to pick it up. I mean, you can have a meaningful moment. Like you said, cooking makeup waiting for the bus. I've had some of my most amazing conversations sitting when I was younger, not so much now at bus stops with people. So, you know, life is a bus stop. Every place you stop is a pit stop.

So when you're open to receive the message, you're gonna see all the synchronicities, pointing to different ways. So any stranger become become your angel. Which,

Yes. You know, I've told this story a few times. But when I was young and working in a bank, downtown Calgary in Alberta, there was a gentleman that had lost his legs. He was a war veteran. He had no legs, and he was on a board that he pushed himself around on. And that man sold magazines for a homeless shelter for shelter. And that was how he made his money selling magazines and pencils, that man had nothing that we would consider to be serving. And yet that man was the happiest, most connected, most genuine soul I ever met. And, you know, people would gravitate to this energy and whether they bought his pencils and books, it didn't matter. He would, they would leave things with him. And he ended up with all these little bags of food. And he would give it all away. By the end of the day, he would have given away everything that he was given. And when I said to him, Why do you give it all away, and he said, I keep what I need. And that's all that I need. And I've never forgotten that I keep what I need. And that's all that I need.

That is so true human beings, we we confuse how much it is enough.

I know I know and stuff. It's not about our stuff. It's not about what we have. It's not about where we live. It's not about what we do for a living or how much money is in our bank account. It's about how much we're showing up as a force of light and positivity in the world. How much love we can give out in the face of something that may not be coming back to us as love. As long as we stand in our love. That is that is the glory. That is the meaning. And that is all you'll find on the other side. When when I died the first time, and I went over and I came back. All I found was love. There wasn't a big, big, I don't remember much about that one, except that I was in the light, and that I was in this incredible space of love. And I was told over and over again. That's all there is. We are love. You are Love. That's all there is. And I woke up in the recovery room of that hospital. And I was babbling away to everybody that would listen to me with this idiotic goofy grin on my face. That's all there is is love. It's only love. That's all there is. And that stayed with me for months and months and months and little bits more would drop in. And then I realized that I'd had this out of body experience. The next time I had it, I met my father on the other side. I met other family members on the other side. I spoke with angels and 12 entities that I've Call the Guardians. And they gave me specific directions for my life. And they told me that I wasn't done yet and that I was going back. And there were all kinds of experiences around that. The third time, I actually knew where I was knew what I was doing. And I didn't want to come back. And they said, no, no, this is just a pit stop for you to pick up some more Joyce juice and take it back. And so, you know, I kind of feel like, I've had so many opportunities to die, and three times that I actually did. And another time when they were doing heart tests on me, and they actually stopped my heart. And I was awake. Like, I mean, it was an actual test where I was in a table in a room, the doctors were behind the shield, and they put a pacemaker up into my heart, and they stopped it three times, and started it again. And in every one of those mini stops, between the stop and the restart, there was a space where I was in that field of infinite unity, and I could feel myself held and protected there. And I was doing just what you were doing on a smiling away. And it's really weird when you're when you're counting down the seconds. And your heart is not beating. And you know, it's not beating and your mind is still thinking, you're thinking, wow, my mind is still thinking even though my heart is stopped, if my heart is stopped, and how can I feel all of this and yet you are feeling it. So you are not your heart, you are not your mind, you are that space of infinite unity. That is love.

Very interesting. Just to feel when your heart stops,

Yes. So again, your heart in your human body is a vessel for your soul. Your soul is in the heart, your heart is in the body, the body is on the table, the heart stops, does the soul stop? No. Does the mind stop? No, your mind your soul are one thing with two dimensional directions. The mind is directed towards Earth, the soul is directed towards whatever you call this heaven. And together, they they work together and apart, they still work. Only your body dies. The essence of you what is your mind and your soul is one thing we separate them we as human beings. So the mind is one thing and the soul is another? No. If they are not join if you don't intentionally keep your mind and together as sacred soul self, yeah, they can be a part and life is going to be chaos. Or you can bring them together and you can live from sacred center. And that is eternal. And I know you do a lot of Akashic Record work in that and I'm sure you've worked with, with your clients to bring them experiences from past lives. I've only had I'd love to do that with you sometime. I've only had a couple of experiences and they were transcended. I'm sure yours would be amazing.

Yes, I've been, I just find out that I've been doing it all my life since I was a kid. I use us for the files. I'm learning how to close them now. Because I leave the Kashuk records open. Because I did not know I was doing it. And I knew I was doing it when I do galactic but the was of this planet. I mean doing it since ever. You search for the files.

Born with it.

Yes.

Yeah. And that's that's another thing that I think a lot of people really don't look at what their spiritual gifts are. Because we all have spiritual gifts that we come in with. We come in with a a human lesson in how to learn how to be we come in to do so we learn how to be and once we learn how to be than we learn how to join when we learn how to join, we can become more because our soul is just like the infant human body growing our soul comes here to have this experience so it can grow.

We have to also everybody has to remember that we don't have to be afraid or we don't have to hide anymore. No time already pass. So we don't have to be afraid of our own gifts of our own magic.

Absolutely. shine your light. That's what you came here to do. You and You came here to shine brightly. Don't dumb down your life. Don't dumb down your light. It's there for a reason. If you chose it, you chose to come into this lifetime, you chose to have these experiences, good, bad or indifferent. Everything we do and say, is from a choice that we make. And if you don't like what you're doing, make better choices.

You have the permission to change in whatever you want.

Yes. The only person that can stop you, is you. And I get a lot of people say, Well, what about people that die in horrible accidents or children that die? You know, at birth, I was dealing with this yesterday with a, a woman who had lost a child in childbirth. And she said, I don't understand, I would never choose this, I did not choose this. And I said, Yes, you did. You agreed to be a vessel, for that soul, that is that child that agreed to come in and depart in this way. Your lesson your life is to grow through the experience and find something meaningful in it for you, so that you can move from this place of grief to this place of gratitude. Because from all grief, the only way to get out of grief is with gratitude. For the experience, and going to gratitude brings you to grace, bringing you to grace, brings you back to love bringing you to love brings you back to grace and that infinite loop. You know, we have really, really sad things, you know, I've lost two children and had two others, I've lost a grandson tragically, at birth, it's painful, it's gutting, you are feeling like you're having your whole soul ripped out of you, when you experience something like that. And, and it feels like for a moment that your soul is apart. And you say how can I? How can I justify this, and as soon as you justify your judgment. So it is what it is in the experience is for a purpose. And as tragic as it is. And something you would never willingly knowingly choose. Yet, it happens. So it has happened for a reason. And it is up to you to be the Explorer and to find the reason what is the lesson what is the peace in this tragedy in this grief, and this pain that I can hold on to where is the light in this? Well, the light and losing our little grandson is at that particular time in our family life. Everybody was living quite far apart and, and quite disconnected. And we were all really wrapped up in our jobs and everything else. And that brought our family, you know, weddings and weddings and funerals bring everybody back, right? Whether you love them or not, you're in the same room with them. When it's an experience like that, and it's tragic and there's no what you can think of as a meaningful reason. That's the biggest time to go into your heart. And the biggest time and the biggest opportunity to find the space for love when you're feeling no love

That is beautiful words. And that is so true. Thank you.

Thank you.

Do you have something else that you would like to do before we close out?

Oh yes, if anybody like to contact me it's very simple. www.Donnafairhurst.com donna FAIRH spell my own name f a i r h u r s t and when you go to that takes you to my website you can pick up my fairing and manifesting prayer and an opportunity if you so desire for a 30 minute clarity session.

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Thank you so much.

It was truly my pleasure to have you.

Oh, it's a joy! You have such a such a heart. I love you.

Thank you. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. And thank you everybody for listening. And thank you for being so talk me this video actually help you. He was her review, give us her like and share it. It may help someone else too. Thank you so much for being so tough and I will see you in the next. This is Monica Ramirez, Warrior of Love. Thank you.