Gratitude Activation EP12

Hello, my friends and welcome. You're listening to soul inspired decisions, podcast for ordinary moms living extraordinary lives. My intention with this podcast is to teach, motivate and inspire by sharing stories, tools and strategies to help you unlock your greatest fears, annoying habits and old stories and make a move towards the things that have been on your heart. If you have been a little lost, or in a funk, and want to reconnect with your purpose, your passion and feel empowered again, then this is the best place for you to be hanging out. My name is Carrie liplay. And I'm an ordinary mom making extraordinary decisions. This is me putting one foot in front of the other, moving towards my next goal, and hoping to inspire you along the way. Let's get started. Welcome, everyone, and I am so happy you're here. Thank you for being here. Thank you for choosing to be here. I am extremely busy. As many of you are right now over the summer holidays, we've been doing things like capping B Shea's semesters coming up, gardening, mowing the lawn kids can spinning, visiting with friends and family because we can and it can get a little exhausting and all the things that we wanted to do and that we should accomplish the summer and slowly get put on the back burner because our kids lives take over. And my husband's gone most of the summer, he fights forest fire. So I do all these things pretty much on my own. And so the one thing that come up for me is that the laundry is kind of been put on the back burner it gets done. But it also just stays in the baskets. And I just let it go. And I give myself permission to let something go. Because it gets too overwhelming right now. And I don't need all the things. So I want to talk to you today about letting some things go and having a gratitude activation start with you today. And acknowledging that there are conversations that are coming up with women that you can let things go and be okay with where you are right now and get back to those things later. So, of course, the laundry will get folded eventually. But it's not. It's not my priority, I got other things to do. Why this comes up right now is even though we're having such a great time, some women and I've talked to in the last seven days, many, but there are about four or five who are in trend right now that they can't see outside of. And so in each conversation, I have brought up the idea of gratitude, starting small, and moving yourself forward in those moments that you do have going on in your life that are really truly great. So sometimes our lives can be so busy that they're a blur. And with being summer right now, and it seems like it just truly moves so fast. And we want to be there with our kids and do things with them that we we just put everything else aside. And then we end up with negative stories, negative thoughts, negative conversations, and that can be the friends that you keep in the conversations that you have, but you are ultimately doing that. So raising your vibration and understanding that you can be grateful and not talk about those things all the time, just puts it in a neutral level. And if that's where you need to be right now then that's, that's okay. But understand that you recognizing your stories, their blessings, even in the really good times, but also even in the really hard times of your life. And if things are coming up, and you've identified things that really need to change and are bothering you just understand that that's part of your story. And if you can identify them and understand that you need to grow and want to grow, and you're challenging yourself to be open to conversations and opportunities you will grow. And part of that is the healing around things. And when healing happens, all different opportunities arise. And what's so powerful is that in one conversation one evening, a woman was so negatively focused on one aspect of her life. And we just said simply to open her horizons in different aspects of that piece. And she messaged this week saying, Oh my gosh, like this. This came forward to me and I looked into it and it had changed. It's changed and she was so happy but if she never would have looked into it, it would have stayed the same. She would have created the same story but but just taking one little chance of looking into something and working on Something that she has been bothered by, it created change.

And it can be, I was so proud of her for just opening up to the possibility. When we take the pressure off ourselves, we can step back and see a bigger picture. And sometimes it's really hard to do that, because all we see is what is going wrong. And that is a pattern. And that is a habit. And we need to be grateful in the moments that we receive. You want to be there for your family, and you want to have good experiences naturally, we all truly deeply want that. And we get sidetracked by our stories. And by conversations, and the things and the thoughts that go on in our head. We want family and friends and co workers to have great times and we want to be around them. And we want to have good vibes and be around people who have goodbyes. And those good vibes will rub off you if you are open to receiving. So if you are open to receiving, please tell yourself right now in this moment in your head, I am open to receiving I am ready for something different. And this is where it all starts is just a little shift. The greatest thing I've ever heard is we are all looking around for whatever is wrong. When we focus on fear and anger of the thing that is not going right. That's what we see more of that's always available to be stressed or worried about what's wrong is always available. So guess what, though, that's also true. If you are looking for what's right. The moment you allow yourself to release fear released out let go of negative self talk is the moment it all starts to change. And in that one instance, from the time she said it, it was five days later that a piece in her life change. And you could just feel her vibrations had just gone up. And that's what we ultimately want we The more we raise our vibration, the more we raise our energy, we attract more good things into our life. And I just said just take a look at that moment. Have you allowed yourself to receive or conversations from other women and take it in even though you were hesitant and you you had your walls up, you could totally tell. But she allowed to receive it and she in return received something really good out of it. So that's you just think about what I'm saying and how you can let down your guard let down your wall receive information to bring in some sort of gratitude into your life, it will naturally happen. Gratitude is the key if you're not on the right track now that's okay. You are exactly right where you need to be. And summer is truly super busy. I can tell you through research and talking to women and clients. And my own experience, when I simply got sick of my own stories is when I googled how to start a gratitude practice. And that was three years ago. And my husband was we were having a conversation about what I wanted to do next what I wanted to pursue next, even though I want to be a stay at home mom, I wanted to be here for them. And for when he came home, I still wanted more. But I was just tired of my stories and my negative thoughts around what I was creating. And he brought that to my attention in a kind way. And it was up to me to do the work because he's not going to do it for me, right. So if you believe deeply, that you can do better, you will. And once you understand you can do better and that it's an effort. And it's takes time and practice, then you allow yourself to be worthy enough to receive new information and to start new practices. We can let them let go of any shame around what we put on ourselves as women. And that's all different for each and every one of us, or in our daily lives as moms. We don't truly want to be 90 years old, sitting in our chairs looking back at our life and saying Oh man, I could have or I should have. Most people will try not try. Because it's really hard to improve. It's really hard to make an effort. We can't say we want to be healthier, but don't want to do all the things we can't say we want to get out of debt but not do all the things to move in those directions. I want to heal and move forward. We don't want to do the work surrounding our old habits and patterns. We truly need to acknowledge our stories, be grateful for our experiences in the times in life that have brought us to the point where we are acknowledged where we are

and where we want to go and that's where that's where the shift starts in those Moments of activating what's next to come and opportunities will soon pop up on Instagram, you'll see a post that you may have never received before, you will hear someone's maybe your mom or your sister telling you something that they've been telling you for years, you just weren't ready to hear it. Because the moment you decide you're ready to receive information, and ready to hear, and change is the moment you will start to hear what other people are saying. So finding time with new practices with exercising or eating habits, healing, gratitude, finding new groups of friends who are empowering you, those are all big life changing things. And it's not just gonna happen in one week, or in two days, it is a practice of a year, three years, five years. And we will always have drawbacks. But we need to stay on there. We need to be focused on what the end goal is of, I do want to lose some weight, I do want better eating habits and go into my 50s feeling and looking better, I do want to heal these old wounds. Because I'm tired of my stories, I do want to raise my vibrations, because I'm just tired of not being thankful for anything. And I just want to love and feel a lot light in new friends find empowering conversations that's available to us, whoever has gratitude will be given more. And if he or she will have abundance. It's because they had gratitude for abundance. Whoever does not have gratitude for health or abundance we will be taking from us. It's a revolving door. It's it's how the magical world the universe works. When we see and we are grateful for the things that we have in our life and want. It just naturally comes to us. So how do we move forward, once we identify if you're that person saying I do need to shift I do need to change. I don't have time right now I have life. And it's big right now. My kids take every moment of time, which I get because of right before. And I've been hearing that people really like you talking about what's happening in my life, right in this moment before these episodes because my wife is it's crazy with two little boys. So I am truly about to press record. And I go out tell the boys that I need 15 minutes, they have to stay outside the extended sandbox. And all of a sudden they need the umbrella up. And then you need to move the rocks and they need a popsicle. And it's only 1050 in the morning. So the sun's not out. It's not hot enough to have a popsicle, but they need all the things because I need some time. But that's how easily we can get distracted and swayed in our lives of what the thing what we need from them or what they need from us. And then we put our stuff on the back burner, but just give them pieces of what they need to be able to play peacefully. where they are. Hopefully, they're gonna start wrestling and fighting and kicking sand, who knows what they'll do. Maybe they'll end up in the garden and picking everything they shouldn't. I don't know, I'm here doing this right now. And so what I want you to understand is that being accountable in this episode is truly the most important for you right now. So I hear all the things that are going on out there that you're busy. So we're just going to do this quickly. So it gives you a sample of if you don't do gratitude practices, this is just a sample of what you can be grateful for sorry. So three things, three things you can be grateful for. If you are in a mindset that this is unfathomable for you, I just want you to start with something like I am grateful for the fact that I can breathe in the air, my lungs can receive the air. I am grateful that my car got me to work. I am grateful that I was able to shower this morning. It can be super, super simple. Also, other ideas I am grateful for my kids are going to camp today. So I'll have a couple of hours to myself. I'm grateful for my husband, or something he did for you this morning. Now if you're in a period of life where things with your husband are not great or your partner, or things are not great with work, or your career, or things are not great with your kids, please just take one little piece of your husband or your career or your kids that you do actually love about them and put that in there for one so one I'm grateful for

and it will help raise your vibrations towards them. It doesn't change a thing. It's just that you are appreciating what is and the Grateful things you have for those areas in your life and So one, two, whatever you're grateful for secondly, wherever that may come up for you, and, and three,

what's grateful for your third answer? I do always start with, I'm grateful for the home that I have that keeps us safe and warm at night, it's our place. It's our place of safety, honestly. And I, secondly, I always, always do something about my husband. Because I know that in life, whatever season you're in, that can be challenging to be grateful for your partner. So I always make it a practice so that that he is a big part of my life, he is really everything to me, even when I feel that it's crazy ness, I guess. And then same thing with my kids. Even if they're driving me nuts, I always put something about my kids something that they did their smile, their, their mannerisms, something that they talked about. And then I usually do 10 a day, I'm, quite often a lot of them are the same. But then if I have a great conversation with a mom or a lady, then I'll add that in. And I actually do it for the 24 hours, so that from the moment that I sit down, and for the past 24 hours, what are what are 10 things that I'm grateful for, that have happened in the last 24 hours. So that's how I started. And that's what I actually googled, because three years ago, because I didn't know how to start, but I knew I needed to start. And that in the moment, I remember thinking there's nothing I think I'm grateful for right now, moving forward. So when I read that you could backtrack and be like, what are you grateful for in the last 24 hours, I'm like, Oh, I'm sure that there's something I could be grateful for in the last 24 hours. And that's how I started. And that's how I continue to do it. What am I grateful for in the last 24 hours, that have happened already. And it changes quickly. And once I had done it for a month solid, so many things change, tons of things change. So right now for today, as you drive as clean house as you walk, just three things that you are grateful for right now number one is number two. And number three, so putting them in your mind raises your vibrations and creates a new flow and see how easy that was super easy. If you want to start doing this with your kids really simply while driving in your car, maybe you're doing that right now. Just ask them shout out. What are you grateful for doing today. Or same thing at supper tonight or dinner, or just before bed? What what in your day, let you up, what brought you joy, and they'll tell you but then also share that about yourself. So because they remember those key moments, they take pride in you sharing about your day. And I want to leave you with a quote by Laura, slashing her. And it is you've touched people and you know it, you've touched people, and you may never know it either way, you have something to give it is in giving to another that each of our lives becomes meaningful. So this, I believe, is so true, because we do touch people lives and we don't even know it. And there's people's lives we touch and we don't know it. And just to keep moving forward and be true to yourself. And this came about in just swimming the other night doing lakes. This lady who had never met caught me in the change room as you're done. She's like you inspired me to do two extra legs just by saying that you started out not knowing how to swim when you started. Just like that inspire me to do two extra links. So we touched people's lives and we don't even know it and help them to improve and so I'm hoping

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help you improve your gratitude practice because it will simply raise your vibrations which will raise your energy for the week, it will raise your kids vibrations. And I hope that you take the time to share your messages that you receive and identified as you're awaken to what's out there.

I am so grateful to know that this message is true to most people that they need a little bit more gratitude in their life. Thank you to my community. All you women and moms out there here as a little gratitude and love for you a shout out to you for being here today. And if you have a to do list, please add me to your list and follow me on Instagram at inspired coaching by carry where I'm pretty quiet right now. But in the fall, I'll wrap things up like I said, super busy in the summer and it's just not my priority right now to be on Instagram. So I'll pop in and out up, but I always read messages they're always coming through. And I do thank you for that. Gratitude activation is where it starts. And I hope you enjoyed this episode today and I hope you have three things that you are super grateful today. I am truly grateful