STRONG WOMEN SHARING HOPE With Mia Doucet

Hello, it's Howard Brown. It's the Shining Brightly

Show. Oh my goodness, I am learning so much. And I have an

amazing guest. And her name is Mia Doucet. Mia, welcome.

I'm delighted to be here, Howard, called an amazing

guest,

you are an amazing guest because you're an amazing

person. And so it's we got a great show in store, we're going

to learn lots with through media today. I'm so thrilled, let me

tell you a little bit about her, you just said is an award

winning author, and she's the founding member of the woman's

Global Alliance. Okay, we'll hear a little bit more about

that. She's a mentor to women who are successful, but

potentially unhappy. And you're an authority unresolved

emotional issues that might have rooted in their childhood. And

that's probably a lot of us, right? Not just women, but a lot

of us. You've trained in a lot of different disciplines. And

your gift is to identify and clear the subconscious codes and

patterns that keep us from living our best life. So that's

very helpful in your previous life, until some financial

failures of in 2008, you were working with automotive

engineers and technical people, and you helped secure lots of

millions of dollars with their contracts, especially in the

Asia Pacific markets. And you say that you loved being in the

boardroom with really smart people. The thrill today is

empowering really smart women to break free from hidden personal

barriers, so they can be happy and financially successful. It's

beautiful. You help lift people up. That's what this show is all

about. So I got a question before we dive in. All right.

How are you shining brightly today?

I am shining brightly. Because I have decided

that my big goal in life, my big mission is to bring hope and

inspiration to 1 million children and their parents,

through finding sponsors for my book, because the book is about

81 stories of children who've gone through every type of

trauma you can imagine. And work their way through and have a

nice day now shine brightly, Howard.

Well, you're already starting the mission is

a beautiful one. It's a big, audacious goal. But you know

what, you got to take that first step and you have already and I

think it's it's one it's, it's very noble. It's a noble

mission, and I want to support you. So take us back a little

bit. Give us some background, how did you get here at this

point now of your life?

I've always I'm going to talk about the book.

And how did I get to that point? I've always loved kids, I've

always been fascinated by them. I they see the world through a

totally different lens. And when I started my work, working with

women one on one it was it became evident very quickly that

any issues we have typically go back to childhood. So what

happened to the child? How did the child perceive it, you know,

from a very limited context, what just signals that they make

about the world that continue to operate today. And that operate

in patterns. And not just in patterns of our behaviour, but

things that happen to us in patterns. So that a woman who

for example, who sexually traumatised will often attract

sexual trauma until that clears, for example. And I just found

that fascinating that all our patterns, go back to childhood.

So that's how I got to making the decision to write the book.

Well, we're gonna dig in deeper. So I really liked

that. The, you know, as a two time stage four cancer survivor,

I actually do have a keynote talk that actually get up again,

because we all get knocked down in life, and in business, and in

relationships, and in health, in my case, and many others. And

the key which I love the fact that you call it clearing the

subconscious, and the patterns is the ability to actually and I

call it using your light to get back up again, to get yourself

back up and then using your light to help others. So I love

that people are sharing their stories with you. And, you know,

how did you go about to you know, Garner 81 stories. I mean,

that's, that's incredible. It's a lot of work and time to do

that and interview these people and, and let them tell their

story. I

started from client stories, getting their

permission and re interviewing and making sure that I was able

to get to the heart of the story very quickly. Because I didn't

want a chapter on each person you know, just A very, very

short chapter. And then sometimes they would refer to

me. But also, because I'm on LinkedIn, there was an instance

where I read the story of a woman from the USSR. And I was

captivated by what she said. So I contacted her connected with

her and asked if I could interview her. And she had just,

I'm gonna say, a delightful story, and, and painful, but

delightful story. And then she referred me to five other women

and that it just began to grow.

So you see your ad one woman or global? Yes, there

could be? Well, I'm saying

22, exactly. 23 countries, different cultures,

different religions. So there was no I had no set programme, I

had no set agenda. It whoever wanted to be interviewed, I

interviewed and, and there's no pattern in the book, you know, I

might talk about a Jehovah's Witness in one in one story and,

and Irish Catholic and another, you know,

so there's a lot of diversity. Yes,

very much so. And also societal levels. People who

had no money to people who, you know, like the daughter of an

ambassador, you know, so.

So, I mean, this is a it's a really cool

collection, because, you know, you have different themes,

right? And different stories that people are sharing. Are

there any like things that just, I mean, there was a lot of pain,

what you're telling me, people started to share a lot of pain,

and, and there were people pass the pain or they're in the pain

still, or was part of the journeys.

They had to have been past the pain, okay for me

to interview them. So because these are strong women, these

are women who lived through the pain. Most of them had years of

therapy, but lived through the pain and made a success of their

life. So to CEO, many are engineers, medical doctors, CFO

is a woman owners of their own small business. various levels

of success in different professions, but they had to

have, they had to consider themselves successful, to find a

place in my book.

Excellent. And the lessons were they're all unique

themes, or were their themes, abuse or alcoholic parents are

divorced and things like that. There must have been right.

All of the above and more abandonment. The death of a

parent, one stories about the death of a grandparent so all

sorts of grief, abuse, betrayal, abandonment. Anything you can

imagine sexual trauma, sexual abuse.

Yeah, I It's strong. And now some of some of

these women are now moms themselves, right? Yes. And say

most, most are moms themselves. Okay. Have they broken? That?

That that pass pattern? Hopefully? Or are they still

kind of dealing with that with their own children? Did you not

get into that?

Yeah, that's, that's interesting. Some of them feel

that they're still dealing with it. You probably know about

intergenerational trauma, right? So so that can go deep and can

show up again, and can affect the relationship with a child or

can affect the child's perception of the parent.

No, I understand. And that I will tell you that

one of the things that being a dad with a daughter, and through

my cancer, you know, I'm on the firing lines, not knowing if I'm

going to live or die with stage four colon cancer. And quite

frankly, even though we're trying to do a really good job

at raising our daughter, she she told us when things got a little

better for us and cleared a little bit for me and we weren't

so under the gun that no one was asking about her and how she was

doing and she felt ignored even though we were trying not to but

she was like they always say How's your dad, How's your dad

doing? How's your dad doing? And they she did from that

standpoint, feel that and she revealed that to us and we're

now addressing and dealing with that and and have been in but

it's an important thing. When you feel the world's coming on

done, you know something falls through the cracks and it that

fell through the cracks. I mean, we were doing everything we

could, but yeah,

very much. So I mean, it's just one story that

highlights what a difficult job it is to be a parent.

It's probably the hardest job,

I think, the hardest job. And you had one child,

right? So person has three children. There are other

stories in the book too, about bullying. I didn't mention that

earlier. And also about the male child being treated differently,

or at least, so the child perceives that her brother is

being treated differently. And and child have very little

context, we'll make a decision that affects the rest of his his

or her life.

All of that is true, because I, I'm the I'm a

twin. I'm the younger twin by five minutes, but I was treated

differently. For sure. That

is 100%. Interesting. And is it a twin

brother or a twin?

I have a twin sister.

I felt that she was treated better than you. No,

no, no, no, just differently, not better, not

better. differently. Yeah, definitely a little

boys in blue. And our little girls in pink, don't

we. And we know that mothers talk differently to their girl

babies than to their boy babies,

also, and I had a little bit more leniency as

being the boy and the girl. And, you know, it just worked out

that way. And now I tell my big sister who is five minutes

older, she also saved my life through a bone marrow

transplant. So we are very close. But she, she doesn't want

to be the older one. Now. I have five minutes. And then I do I do

notice that especially if you're the My sister has three

children, she has an older one and two twins, my twin has

twins, girl boy twins, and the girl is older than the boy. But

I do notice that and people middle child, you know, also

youngest child, you know, the oldest child of a big family. So

I didn't you know, I never really thought about it that

deeply. But it definitely affects your, your growing up

and your decision making. Very important.

And the patterns, you know, you I'm sure you'd

agree with me we get a certain age. And we realise that our

patterns in life are totally different from other people's.

The things keep happening to us, you know, that don't happen to

other people. And that they'll goes back to I think beliefs

that we took on at a very early age when we had no context we

had no life experience. No. Well,

I will tell you this that role models and

mentors matter. Because in the first chapter of my book and

shining brightly, my great grandmother, her name is Bobby

Bertha Buddha, she came to this country as an Orthodox Jewish

woman, she lived to 101 This woman lived but she didn't live

with telephones and television, she lived with, you know, the

hardship of life and then coming here as like a 17 year old. And

as an Orthodox Jewish woman, she drilled into us that we could

choose to be kind, choose to be giving, choose to be healing,

choose to be grateful, and choose not to hate. That's

Chapter One of my book. And that was a beautiful gift. Because I

carried that with me through my entire life and my twin sister

have and, and she also, she said a little thing in our family,

when we find money, you know, you find a penny, pick it up,

you find $1. She said to all of us, and this is our family wide,

we don't have a big family. That money goes is not your money.

It's God's money, it goes to charity. And so we still do it.

When we find money. It goes into what's called a Jewish piggy

bank or sadaqa box. And it is given to those lovely Hauer

Yeah, it really is.

I know so you can carry what I'm trying to do is

also offset some of the pain is that there are some really big

legacy lessons that we carry forward that are very positive

that shape us, then we also get some of the bad stuff as well.

Yes, I would say a lot of the women who were in my

book did not have that kind of legacy.

Sure. Well, and that affects our decision making

and and who you put in your inner circle, right? I mean,

again, there's you know, if you grew up on the streets, and

didn't have any role modelling and didn't have a Bobby Bertha

bhootish you know, you're making decisions that you're trying to

just, you know, keep your head above water, and sometimes you

hang out with the wrong people. Now, I've done that too. We all

we all do it. We're human right. We are. I have to say we are all

just a work in progress. We have to give ourselves a little bit

of grace, but it can get you in trouble. And I call that trouble

walking in darkness. And there are big lessons from there. You

just can't stay there. too long. And I hope some of these women,

somebody, I mean, I've heard stories, you know, there are

women that have had sexual abuse, and they have carried it

with them for years and years and years of not telling their

story. And I've had a podcast guest that held it for 44 years.

And so I can't it just imaginable. And again, I have to

tell you having cancer twice that was 26 years apart. One was

analogue. There were no computers, cell phones, and now

you know, 2016 and on for colon cancer. I don't know how that

trauma is affecting me long term. But I still have to deal

with it. You know, I just came through a very difficult seven

years. Okay, and it's how I'm choosing to move forward.

Absolutely. And I have empowered myself, emotionally, physically,

financially, and in relationships to move forward.

And I gotta tell you, it's not super easy. It's not super easy,

some days, but most days, it's really a pleasure to get up and

try to use my light to help others. But

it's a discipline, constant choosing, isn't it,

Howard?

Yeah, it's all about that. It's

really well, how I'm going to be

I know it. Any other themes or stories you'd

like to share that you kind of took you did this big research

project? It's amazing. It was

a big research project. Yeah. Yeah. You want me

to share a story, I mentioned that one of the first people I

interviewed was a woman from the USSR. So I'll tell you her

story. This is one of 81 stories. All right. She has a

twin sister, identical twin, and their father leaves the mother

and them when they are six months old. So she grows up

without her father. And in the day in the USSR, if you were a

single parent, you put your child into a school like, you

know, even in early infancy, you had to go out and work. So your

child had to be placed. And they were in that school setting for

the entire week. So when the children pre K, the father

contacts the school and says he really loves them, and he wants

to come and see them. And so they sit at the end, I should

tell you that one of the things I love about the book is that

each story is illustrated with a drawing. So this is the episode

as seen from the child's eyes. So you've got this scene. And in

a really in a setting that is not child friendly. You've got

these beds, you've got other kids sleeping, and these two

little girls are three or four years old, sitting on the edge

of the bed, waiting for their father. And in the story. They

wait 13 years to see their father. And you know, without

telling you a few of the other things that happened, they go to

university. And then Canada has opened the country to educated

women. And so they want to go to Canada. But you need the

permission of both parents. So they get the permission from the

mother and the father. Now that's going to be a more

difficult thing. He shows up, they're 18 years old, he shows

up, and he signs knowing that he's going to lose his job.

Because he's with the KGB. Wow. And the last the last sentence

in her story is, and that's the last time I saw my father, I

titled the story. That is how you love me. Wow.

And I your illustrations are remarkable. So

I mean, it's really cool added that feature into this story. So

well. Thank you for sharing that. That's fascinating. It's a

good tease into the book. Let's now move a little bit into how

you're coaching and how you're helping women and then then

we'll talk about how to help, you know, reach 1 million

children and families. Yeah.

I'm choosing to coach executive women and women

who own their own business. I've had a lot of corporate

experience prior to choosing this line of work. So it's kind

of a natural market for me. And what I'm identifying and I saw

this in myself too, is that when you're in business for yourself,

you can feel isolated. You can feel like you're doing it all

along. And and I also saw women who were very I have clients,

very successful in their work financially successful but not

happy, not joyful, not shining brightly. So and so when they

come to me, they almost always say, they've tried everything

and not had any results. And so that's what that's my market

because that's, that's I like to work at what everybody else is

considered impossible. Because once you get to the subconscious

level, I shouldn't use the word magic, magical. But it feels

almost magical, that you can change things because you got to

the root. You know, the problem with most talk therapy, which

come with most psychotherapy is you're talking about the problem

and talking about the problem and talking. But you're not

getting to the heart of it, you're not you're not resolving

anything. And all that does is drive it deeper into the

subconscious. Right. So, so that's my work.

I love it. I love it. Now, tell us, you know, you

stated that you shine brightly by your goal to help a million

children in their families. How do we help you do that?

Well, I'm looking for sponsors, I'm looking for

people in communities that deal with families, for example, that

deal with disadvantaged children. And I will provide

books in great number of it to to pass on to people who would

get something out of it. So I think very often of when people

are disadvantaged, you know, whether the parents or their

children, they maybe don't realise that there's a way out.

And I think it would be inspiring to read stories, about

81 kids who made it, you know, is

and, you know, you hear about orphans, and you hear

about the hardship that they went through, and it's a great

learning experience. And I'll tell you what you're doing, by

helping these these children is one, you're giving them a path

forward. And there's these four very important letters, H O, P.

E, you're providing hope. And I, that's the last chapter of my

book is sharing hope you're sharing hope. And so sharing

hope, because I share hope with with everyone but also,

especially with cancer patients in treatment of cancer patients

in trying to rebuild their lives and survivorship. And that hope

is the fuel that is needed to be able to get out of bed some

days, and to forge forward. And so it's so important. So we are

super aligned in giving people that hope that can help them,

you know, take that next step forward. And I love that this

has been really cool. And it's just just a tease on you and

your work. So people will will definitely contact you for more,

but I want you to put on your sunglasses, you got some cool

shades. Glasses, or sunglasses. Oh man, this is This is

Hollywood. From Hollywood here with us today. Anyways, this is

now the time of the show called The Shining, brightly spotlight.

And we're the reason we're wearing sunglasses, because it's

shining so brightly on you, I'd love for you to tell people how

to get in touch with you the best way and then also you have

a little bit of a free gift manifesto to share so

and then. So the best way to get in touch with me

is through my website. And my website is just my name. So Mia

doucet.com That's all you need to know. And for the manifesto

me just that.com/manifesto and that will get that to you.

Excellent as people should take advantage and

click on that, then I'll have that in the show notes and all

the social media and all that as well. All right, your share, I

always end my show with inspiration. Give me what you

got. Okay,

so this is this reflects a bit on what we what

we talked about earlier, the quickest and least painful way

to change conditioning at the subconscious level is to book is

based on neuroscience, right? Doesn't take years of therapy to

get happy. You just have to get into the root cause of what is

causing the discontent. And you can do that through the theta

level. If you know anything about brainwave technology. If

you if you get in at a certain level of the brain and the

brainwaves, you can reach right into the other person's

subconscious. It's just a gift to have been able to discover

that and then to have received some some training in it. So So

that's mine.

Let's clear that path and get that inspiration.

So well. We'll take off the sunglasses if you want to. And

you don't have to commute And keep in mind. And so this has

been the shining brightly show. And I want to just give some

shout outs to some folks that have gotten me and support me

all the time. My publisher friend Ed publishing, read the

spirit.com, which is a weekly on Mondays that shares, faith and

inspiration as well. And I blog in that very frequently. And

then my podcast team at amplify you, you, you helped me shine

brightly, so well. And you can get in touch with me on shining

brightly.com. And if you want to learn more about my book and

some other collaborative books that I'm in, all that

information is there. If you'd like me to hire me to make your

event shine to speak, or facilitate or workshop or a

panel, glad to consider it, reach me on the website as well.

And then lastly, this podcast is is fed to my website every week,

and you can get to all my shows and look at some back shows as

well. And there's amazing inventory of topics to choose

from. And then lastly, my advocacy, what I care about and

I care about entrepreneurship, mentorship, leadership, cancer

and the interfaith world. And so come join me in that and well

let's get inspirational and motivate educate everyone

together. So with that we can choose to shine brightly for

ourselves and for others in our communities and neighbourhoods

to make the world a better place. Mia Doucet thank you for

shining brightly with us today.

Thank you, Howard. It's been a gift. Excellent.

Thank you