Episode Summary – HONORING MEMORIAL DAY AND HOW WE DEAL WITH DEATH, GRIEF AND LOSS. In Episode 81 of the Shining Brightly Podcast Show (links in the comments), please meet Jason Harris, who is a Celebrant. What is that? He presides over funeral services and families that are grieving to bring warmth. blessings, laughter and joy to the support the family and honor the memory of the deceased. Come listen, download, share and review this very relevant show as we visit the cycle of life!
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Jason Harris is an esteemed celebrant and visionary founder of Mourning Into Dancing. With his groundbreaking book, Good Grief: Celebrate Your Life, he has revolutionized the landscape of funeral services, infusing them with a unique blend of laughter and warmth that resonates deeply with families. Through his role as a trusted advisor to funeral directors, Jason addresses prevalent issues such as the decline in prearranged funeral planning and the prevalence of mediocre funerals, offering invaluable solutions to prevent burnout and enhance family healing and funeral experiences.
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Howard Brown is a best-selling author, award-winning international speaker, Silicon Valley entrepreneur, interfaith peacemaker, and a two-time stage IV cancer survivor. He is also a sought-after speaker and consultant for corporate businesses, nonprofits, congregations, and community groups. Howard has co-founded two social networks that were the first to connect religious communities around the world. He is a nationally known patient advocate and “cancer whisperer” to many families. Howard, his wife Lisa, and daughter Emily currently reside in Michigan, and his happy place is on the basketball court.
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Hello, it's Howard Brown, Mr. Shining Brightly. I got a great
show for you. Today we are going to go and learn. We are going to
learn about grief because it is part of the cycle of life. And I
have Jason Harris here. Cool new guy just met Jason Welcome. How
are you?
I'm doing great. I'm so happy about being here.
Oh so good. I'm glad to hear you. We're, we're
gonna motivate, educate, and inspire. But we're gonna teach
some people today and I'm really happy that you're here. Let me
let me tell you, Jason is an impressive guy. So let me tell
you a little bit about him. So Jason Harris is an esteemed
celebrant, you're gonna learn how to celebrate is and a
visionary founder of mourning into dancing. With his
groundbreaking book, Good grief, celebrate your life. He's
revelate revolutionise the landscape of funeral service,
infusing them with a unique blend of laughter and warmth
that resonates deeply with families. Through his role as a
trusted adviser to funeral directors, Jason addresses
prevalent issues such as the decline in pre arranged funeral
planning, and the prevalence of mediocre funerals, and offering
invaluable solutions to prevent burnout, enhance family healing,
and the funeral experience. It's just really, really important
because I have to tell you, this resonates with me, and why I
wanted Jason on the show is that I work in the cancer business. I
am a patient advocate and a patient expert. And
unfortunately, in colorectal cancer, Jason, this is going to
be astonishing 152 or 3000. Diagnosis this year, the number
one killer for men under 50. number one killer for women,
breast cancer is still the number one for women under 50.
That means 100,000 People are going to be in treatment. Why?
Because 1/3 53,000 people in the US will die from colorectal
cancer this year. That means there will be grief and loss and
mourning and weighing, you know, seeing you know how to put your
life back together again, when you lose a family, a friend, a
co worker. So we're going to talk about that. But before I do
that, tell me some we may not know about you.
Well, ah, I have five kids. And when my second
child was being born, right before she was delivered, the
nurse midwife turned to me and she said would you like to catch
and I panicked? And I said no. And so I didn't. But then I
thought that would have been so cool. And so the next daughter I
had that was born we made it a part of the plan and I can
literally tell my daughter I brought you enter this world I
got to cut the cord on all of them but to literally deliver my
child Emily was a true blessing to me was awesome. So
my daughter is also Emily okay, my one and I
cut the cord and I watched her come into this world but I was
not the catcher I was right there though. Right? They're the
action right but had the box seat for sure. Wow. It's just a
beautiful thing. That's that now we're talking about now bring
someone into this world and life. Give me a little
background. Tell me Tell Tell Tell my audience and listeners
about about you and how you got into this line of work.
You know, it's fascinating, and it's a great
question I was I went to Bible College and Seminary I was
called a ministry when I was about 18 years old became
licenced and ordained, and I was off and running with a lot of
excitement. And I've been in youth ministry, I've led
worship, I've been an associate pastor, I've been a pastor, a
church planter, and, and all of that. And so I've and all the
years that I was the pastor of a church, it's the expectation if
one of your parishioners died, that you do the funeral, the
pastor's just expected to do the funeral if one of your church
members now fast forward about let's say about 17 years ago, I
experienced a lot of tragedy in my life, a lot of failure. And I
was actually out of ministry for a while and and I got into sales
and fast forwarding really fast into I became a really good
salesman and like, you know, Windows and Siding and home
improvement and things like that. And then I moved back to
Texas so I knew I was going to need another sales job. I was
I'm married. And I saw this ad for pre need funeral
arrangements pre need funeral insurance. And be honest with
you, Howard, my initial reaction to that was, that sounds morbid,
that doesn't sound very fun at all. And so I kind of pushed it
aside for a while, but it became, you know, probably my
better option. And so I went to hear about this premium funeral
insurance. And I was so intrigued by what it was that I
thought people would be crazy not to pre arrange their own
funeral just save so much heartache and emotional trauma
and everything for someone to have to make 100 decisions on
the worst day of their life when someone passes away. And so I
got really good at the job. And then the company I worked for
said, we'd like for you to be our East Texas market sales
manager. And so my job was to start working with about 50
Different funeral homes all across Texas. Well, word got
around that Jason also has a ministry background and can do a
pretty good funeral. And so I started being asked to speak at
funerals for families that didn't have a minister or a
church or whatever. Well, there was a brand new aspect to this.
Almost all of the funerals I was being asked to do was for
someone I didn't know. Most pastors are asked to do a
funeral for somebody they know. And so how am I going to lead a
life celebration? Because that's the way I view funerals. Our not
as some traditional, sad, sombre, morose occasion that so
many traditional funerals are, I believe that we should really
celebrate someone's life. And so I thought, How am I going to do
that? If I didn't know and I didn't want to pretend like I
knew them. So I came up with five questions. And these five
questions if I can ask as many family members as possible
brands, put the questions out the night before the service
like visitation. It's not only going to be a very personalised
eulogy and service what I never get tired of hearing. I've heard
from a dozen funeral directors, Jason, we've never heard so much
laughter coming out of our chapel than when you do services
here. And you know what, I'll take that. I loved it. The first
time, I saw a funeral director literally appear in from the
back of the chapel to see what in the world is going on in
there? Because why is everyone laughing? Why is that it is a
funeral, right? But there was laughter now there's also tears,
but you know, laughter through tears happens to be a very human
emotion.
Yeah, this, this is really interesting. One of
the things that we're talking back in the in the greenroom
before the show came on, is that you're telling me that many
folks in pastors and ministers, they get very just a small taste
of training on actually how to conduct a service, a funeral
service, which many do call a celebration of life. I'm not
sure why that is. But it's really important. I, you know,
we come at it from you know, different ways. But in the
Jewish world, the rabbi who's who's doing the service
typically, doesn't always have to be a rabbi, but they do
typically sit with the family members, and they're trying to
think about their entire developed life, their impacts
their interests, some of the things that they made mistakes
with, and you know, you can you want to talk about that. And
what we say, at least in the Jewish world is made their
memory and name before a blessing. Because you don't even
have 144 characters on a tombstone, right, we're really
going to remember them. So when we speak of someone that has
passed, we are honouring their memory, we are honouring their
name, and they want you to say their name and things like that.
So to me, one of the striking things you told me and getting
to know you is that there's relatively very little training
for that in being a pastor and a minister. But you've taken this
to a whole nother level, this is now your calling. It's really
great. Do you want to talk about the five things that you do?
Absolutely, as a matter of fact, that and that's
been so revealing for me, that not only wasn't my experience
that I had only one lecture, not one course, one lecture on
funerals, that was coupled with also doing communion and baptism
and weddings. But it was just really about protocol. And so,
but not only is there not training for how to really help
a family, celebrate the life and then follow up with them and the
aftercare, not a very important part that we'll talk about in a
moment. But people in general are not really, I mean, did you
take a course in high school about helping your grieving
friends? I mean, no one is really instructed on grief
support. And so you have the other side of this where you've
got an entire community of people that all they really know
are common cliches that you say when you find out your loved one
passes. And they'll say something like, well, at least
they're in a better place, or at least they're not suffering, or
whatever.
No, they'll say sorry for your loss. Yeah,
basically, the standard is sorry for your loss, right? It's
almost like saying, how's it going? Right?
But it's our vernacular when someone passes. And so both
sides really need to be educated. And that's why I'm
very passionate with mourning into dancing. But yes, the five
questions that I asked that, that I've, you know, if you get
the book, you'll see four different applications to these
five questions. And the first one is very simple at, I want to
know what did you call this person. And so someone has
passed away many times, sadly, the pastor is given an obituary
about 15 minutes before a service starts. And so they read
the obituary, sometimes badly, and they stumble over names, and
sometimes mispronounce names, but then you never hear the
name. Again, they'll preach a sermon on heaven or something
like that. And so when my grandmother, my father's mother
passed away, 25 years ago, if someone would have just read the
obituary, and talked about Mabel Lee Harris, how are they okay?
That's my grandmother's name, but I, I called her memo. And so
I want to know, a term of endearment, a familiar term a
term that, that, that's music to our ears, we love the sound of
our loved ones name. But we also love the sound that we call
them. And so I don't I mean, I go by my middle name, my actual
name is Nick, Jason Harris. But if somebody just was handed an
obituary at my funeral, and they kept, they would just assume
that everyone calls me, Nick, and everyone would be looking at
each other, like, Who's he talking about? And so that's the
first thing. And by the way, when I share the answers that I
harvest at the eulogy itself, I instruct the crowd that has
gathered, look, we're going to use our imagination and not
think of this place as a Funeral Chapel, but rather a giant
living room. And we're going to sit around with this family, and
we're going to celebrate their mother, their sister, their
whoever the person is, and we're going to celebrate that person.
And you know, that first, they're all looking like, Okay,
what does that look like? Because they're used to just
coming to a funeral setting, sadly, and sombre? And no,
there's no participation. But by the second question, which is,
if you could describe this person with only one word, what
would it be? And I'm asking for one word, I'm not asking for a
speech. And so and I've already got in my manuscript, the
answers from the family members that I've already asked. And
they might say, my mother was fun. And I might say she was
disciplined or whatever. After I read all the answers that I've
harvested, I look out at the crowd, I say, Now, what are we
leaving out, I just want you to raise your hand and shout it
out. And it's like popcorn all over the chapel. The family gets
to hear these beautiful adjectives rained down on them,
that she was amazing. She was beautiful. She was funny. She
was serving, or whatever. And then some say you feel the room
kind of relax. And some start to feel the freedom to, you know,
plant their tongue firmly in their cheek and say she was
sassy. Or she was stubborn, and people start to chuckle. And in
the room, it starts to shine brightly. It's beautiful. It
starts to light up. By the time I get to the third question,
tell me one of your favourite memories ever with this person.
And that's where the laughter begins. Because most people that
I asked that question, the favourite memory is when
something crazy happened, when something audacious happened
when something was just so bizarre. And the laughter is, is
fantastic. And I'll give you an example. The first time I
started using these questions, I asked a woman whose husband had
just passed away. And they had been married for 26 years. And I
said, What is one of your favourite memories of all with
your husband? And I was expecting her to talk about
either their honeymoon or cruise, maybe they went on or
some big elaborate story. And the very first thing that fell
out of her mouth after she looked up and smiled. I knew she
had access to great memory. She said, Well, first of all, we've
got a very steep driveway. I thought okay, and she said, I
once watched my husband ride and office chair like the one I'm
sitting in right now, out the garage door, down the driveway
and across the street just to see if he could do it. And it
took me all of seven seconds to say that story. And you got a
big smile on your face and you're chuckling and you have no
idea who this man even is. But to repeat that story. At his
life celebration in a room full of people that knew he was a hey
y'all watch this kind of guy. They were holding their sides
and they were rocking in their chair and laughing, tears coming
down their face, because they could see him doing that. And so
I love that. And then some people even have the freedom to
share a couple of other stories. And it's all very organic. And
then I wrap up the last, the last two questions are simply
give me a life lesson that you've gained, having had this
person in your life very profound answers there. Someone
might say, you know, I saved my money because of my grandmother,
you know, she was born during the Great Depression and
whatever. And, or, you know, they'll they'll share something
some way that their loved one impacted their life, change
their life, by their demonstration. And then finally,
I asked if he or she could speak to you just one more time? Yeah.
What would she say to you now? And oh, my gosh, that's, that's
a very emotive question. And that's where the waterworks
usually come on. But all of it, the family feels completely
embraced not only in memory, but in the essence of who their
loved one is. And, and it's a celebration.
I really appreciate that. And I will, you
know, obviously, there's way more detail in your book, and
we'll talk about that too. But in chapter one of my book, it's
the lessons I learned from my immigrant grandmother, Bobby
Bertha bhootish. And she came from Lithuania could have been
Ukraine could it was Russia. She's called it Rashi. And she
spoke seven languages. But I remember as a little kid, she
talked to us about kindness, choosing to be kind choosing to
be giving, choosing to be healing, choosing to be
grateful, and choosing not to hate. And that's the first
chapter of my book, I just gave away the first chapter in my
book, and that's powerful. And, and the one thing that our whole
family does, I'll just share this, because it relates to what
you're saying is that, she said that found money, I'm talking,
finding a penny finding $1, finding $20 bills is not your
money, it's God's money. And we put these in what are called
Jewish piggy banks called sadaqa boxes. And we as a family still
do this today. We do this we take that we put the found money
in and it goes to someone in need. It's a beautiful,
beautiful story that she basically that that was her law,
rule of law that's called sadaqa, or the justice of
giving. And it just is ingrained in our whole family. And so when
that story was told, everybody was going, yep. Oh, yeah. And
you did it. And then you told her, You did it. And it was
really a blessing. So I resonated with those, those
questions as well. And I think that, you know, you're trying
to, you know, there's no right or wrong, but you can still
grieve you can cry, you can feel emotional, right? You're not
taking away any of that. But you are bringing some some some
information and important the life's journey together and
people are there are some really funny and crazy stuff that's
happened. So it's good to appreciate that acknowledge that
as well. And is it is this what you would call part of the
healing process this right there?
Yes, I would. But there's another aspect that I
really want your listeners to grab hold off. And that is the
truth that the family gets the most support when they feel it
the least. And that is at the funeral service that we kind of
have the whole Grief Support System flipped on its head. And
that is, you know, so everyone comes to the funeral, they'll
take off work, they'll make arrangements so they can be
there for this family who's grieving. But the truth of the
matter is the family at that time, they're in denial. They're
in that stage of grief, where they're just sitting there
through blank stares trying to especially if it's an unexpected
death. If they have a loved one that was killed in a car
accident, they just would everything was fine a week ago,
and now they're gone. They're sitting there in this surreal
fog just trying to think am I gonna wake up this has got to be
a bad dream. Meanwhile, everyone's coming up to them
saying I'm so sorry for your loss. They're hugging them and
things. And, and so most families feel abandoned after
the funeral. Because for maybe a few days after the funeral,
people bring casseroles or they'll make phone calls or
whatever else. But even then the grief support tends to be over
the top cliche. And, and so but after a couple of weeks, all of
it dies off. And that is about the time that the reality is
setting in. And that's when they need you the most. And so a
couple of things I would encourage your listeners with is
something I started about five years ago is a tangible reminder
to stay on the journey with the family. And so I started making
these match boxes, they look like this. And I can get a 10
pack from Walmart for 97 cents. And there's a label on one side
that is a picture of a loved one that had passed away. This lady
passed just a year ago this month. And on the back are some
things that represent the As that she loves. But it's just a
personal tangible reminder, what I do when I get up the end of
the service is I'll say, on behalf of this family, I want to
thank everyone for being here. But I'm going to tell you
something you may or may not know, they don't really know
that you're here today. That's why the funeral home gives them
a book with all of your signatures in it. So they can go
back and say, Oh, wow, I didn't remember her being here. Wow,
they came all the way from Louisiana, or whatever. But they
don't know you're here today, it's in a couple of weeks that
the reality is going to set in the first tsunami of grief is
going to just knock them off their feet. And that's when
you're going to be back to work. So please take one of these
match boxes on, put it in your kitchen junk drawer, because I
know you've got one. Some of you have three. And I want you to
keep it in there. And this is what's going to happen
throughout the year while this family is going through all
these firsts. First birthday, Sunday is Mother's Day. By the
way, if you know anyone who's lost a loved one this year,
remember that this may be their first Mother's Day without mom
without the grandmother, without a son or daughter. But besides
that, every holiday every Thanksgiving, every whatever.
But if throughout the year, you just go to like birthday
candles, or a dinner candle or a fire in the fireplace, or a
barbecue, pit or whatever. Or if you're just going for that pair
of scissors or roll the tape and you roll that junk drawer out.
And you see her looking up at you. You don't need these to
remember her. We're all gonna remember her, or reach out to
her daughter, reach out to her son reach out to her brother to
her husband to whoever in the family. And I want you to say,
remember those matchboxes, the weird bald guy gave us at your
grandmother's funeral. I don't remember his name, we thought
he'd never shut up. But we just use those matches today. And I
just want you to know, we sure miss her. And you have no idea
what that means to get a random phone call out of nowhere to
say, you're not alone. We're on the journey with you. And that's
one of the most important things you can do. Don't tell somebody
just call me if you need anything, they're not going to
do that. Don't call somebody two weeks after death and say How
are you doing? Nobody wants to answer that question. It's not
a, but if you just want to say, you know, nobody made barbecue
ribs like your dad, and I give anything to have some of those
ribs again, I assure missing and I know you do, too. I'm thinking
about you praying for you, or whatever, stay on the journey.
Sorry for the long monologue there.
No, but it's the match book, it's a great thing
because you can light a candle and then pass it on and tell
them you know, God, I thought about your mom, your dad, your
sister, your brother, your friend, your coworker. And this
is what reminded me of that special that is that is really
honouring their memory and their name. So I love it. It's really,
really important. I just, it's really important. So a couple of
the key takeaways that you spoke really quickly. And I and people
will we'll talk about the book in a second. But it's really
important some of that planning. I mean, one of that is a really
important job and important point about making some of those
arrangements and your wishes known. And even for you know,
I'm going through a loss with my mother in law now and there's
just no was no will. Her wishes were not known. And so we're
making assumptions. We're doing what we feel is best and right,
you know, to honour her and then to her memory and also handle
her estate and things like that. So it's very interesting. The
other thing is, is that you're right, you're in the moment and
you're Nam. And it's not until like a few weeks later that
you're you know, you got to get back to work and back to your
life. And that's when you're really trying to process and
heal. So really excellent points. I appreciate that.
Let's, let's talk about your book for a second. Good grief,
celebrate your life. And you've you tell us about how it there
it is you're holding it up beautiful. And available, I'm
sure on Amazon and tell us a little bit about how you got the
book put together. Well,
when this since these five questions began, it's
just a way for me to write a meaningful eulogy for someone I
didn't know. The next application for it took me by
surprise and it happened very organically. I was flying
somewhere. I was unmarried at the time single for about five
years. And so it was everywhere I went I was by myself. And so
if you're sitting next to me on the aeroplane, I am that guy
that is going to talk to you. And before we ever pull away
from the gate and we have already asked you Are you coming
or going are you visiting friends or family? What do you
do? And when they reciprocate and saying okay, this guy's not
going to shut up until I talk to him. Almost everyone that I tell
All that I am a certified celebrant, that's a fancy word
for a guy that speaks at funerals, but it's my passion.
And I love helping people with grief support. Nine out of 10
people, as soon as I tell them that immediately say, Wow, where
were you two years ago, when my mother died, they will tell me
about someone that they'd lost. And the first time that
happened, the thing that naturally fell out of my mouth
was Do you mind if I asked you a few questions about your mother?
And I've never had anybody say, No, I don't want to talk about
her. They brought her up. And so I began asking the five
questions. And this perfect stranger who I didn't know, just
20 minutes ago, is opening up to me about their loved one. And
we're laughing together. And by that fifth question, we're both
crying together. And that's real as genuine. And I get text
messages. Howard, sometimes three hours after we land, from
someone saying, You have no idea how much I needed that. Now I
tell you that story. Because the first time that happened, I
thought, wow, I kind of have something here. I know that I
had these questions for writing a eulogy. But what just happened
back there was so organic and so beautiful, and so meaningful.
Isn't that a much better way? To respond to someone who says I
lost my mother two years ago? Then Oh, sorry for your loss?
How about them cowboys, and I'm going to change the subject,
because I'm suddenly very uncomfortable with your grief.
And I don't want to say anything that might make you cry. Because
you do that, you got nothing. You let them talk about their
loved one. And you've got healing happening. And it's
amazing. And then the more I thought about that, I thought
there's other applications to these questions. And I would
love to tell your listeners about it right now. But I don't
want to spoil it. But that's why it happened to be just about the
the eve of my 51st birthday, it was on Valentine's Day 2020. We
all remember what was happening on February of 2020, we were all
told to shelter in place, and we couldn't go anywhere. And so I
looked down on my little dog and I said, Chewy, I'm gonna write a
book. And he looked back up at me and he said, Okay, and so
since I didn't have anywhere else to go, I was unmarried. And
since I had my dogs permission, I began writing just as fast as
I could think of each chapter. And within about six weeks, I
had the book written. And so I was sharing different chapters,
as I was writing them to people that I knew had lost a loved one
that year. And I just asked, I'd love to get your feedback on
some of this. And one of them was a widow, that had just lost
her husband. And I actually kept her endorsement in the book. And
I won't read it to you right now. But I had other people
telling me after the book was written, I've read books about
grief before, but I've never read anything quite like this.
Because it's not going to sound like a textbook, it's going to
sound exactly like you and I are talking right now. And I wrote
it in the vernacular of a conversation with a reader. In
fact, if you read this book, the books dedicated to you. This the
book is dedicated to the reader and, and in the memory of any
person that you have lost. And so it's dedicated to you and
your loved one. So I had a great time writing the book, my
favourite chapter is about the lessons from a hobbit a grief
dog in a box of matches. And so you've already heard about the
box of matches, you'll just have to read about the Hobbit and The
grief dog.
Yeah, it's a good tease. It's a great tease. Well,
this is really important. I think this is why I brought you
on is that we you know, I've never met a celebrant, I maybe I
have but they were in the form of a pastor or rabbi or a
minister or were just a friend. But I appreciate that this is
important. It's part of life. And we the living need to carry
on, you know, in that memory, so I'm gonna ask you to put on your
sunglasses. Put on your sunglasses, because this is the
shining brightly spotlight, Jason Harris, tell people how
they can get a hold of you. And then leave us with a little bit
of inspiration. And I'll kick it back to me to close out the
show. That
sounds fantastic. And yes, and you won't believe
the domain name that was available to me when I created
my website is called Speaker json.com And my passion I love
to do public speaking I'd love any opportunity to do a keynote
at your any kind of convention or anything like that. So
speaker json.com There's a link in that website that will take
you to the book. The book is also available on Audible as
read by the author. And so you can find it there. And and so,
and then of course, I believe that he's going to show in the
show notes how you can get in touch with me on social media
Facebook link Then, and things like that.
Absolutely. So hit me up with some inspiration to
close out the show.
Well, it's so important, I said, the most
important thing you can do for anybody is just to stay on the
journey. If you ever wondered what to say, when you wrap your
arms around, someone who's lost a loved one is to get close to
their ear and simply say, you're not alone. Don't say anything to
cliches. Don't say anything that starts with at least, and let
them know that you're going to stay with them on the journey.
Because grief is a journey, grief never goes away. It's as
unique as our fingerprints. So you can never say to someone, I
know how you feel. Because you don't, you just need to let them
know that you're there, and that they're not alone. And you're
going to stay with them on the journey. So it's so important to
do that.
I love it. Healing is happening. Thank you, Jason.
So this has been a very informative show. And maybe not
what people expected. But you can check out you know, me at
shining brightly.com I want to give thanks to my publishing
house furnish publishing, also read the spirit.com and the
people from amplify you my podcasts team that makes me
great and look great and sound great every week. So thank you.
And at shining brightly.com You can learn about me as a speaker
me as an author and me as a podcaster. But also more
importantly, my advocacy in the cancer world the
entrepreneurship and mentorship world and in the interfaith
world, which is very, very important to me. So remember, if
you choose to keep shining brightly, just a little bit each
day for yourself first and then go lift up others, the world
will be better place. Jason Harris celebrant thank you for
being there. And I really enjoyed this show. Thank you.
Thank you so much
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