May 15, 2024

BE CONFLICT FREE With Amy Armstrong

BE CONFLICT FREE With Amy Armstrong

Episode Summary – FROM THE COURTROOM TO THE BOARDROOM TO THE BEDROOM – FAMILY AND BUSINESS RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE CHALLENGING TO US ALL, In Episode 79 of the Shining Brightly Podcast Show (links in the comments) titled “Be Conflict Free” meet my dear friend Amy Armstrong who is pioneer in the practice of Conflict Resolution for Families and a high profile Director of at the Center for Coaching Development for the International Coaching Federation. Amy shares hard lessons learned of divorce after 25 years of marriage and helps lift people and families back up after divorce, politics, power-struggles and co-parenting issues for court involved families. Come listen, download, share and review this meaningful show as she helps families get “UNTANGLED”

Mentioned Resources – 


About the guest – Amy Armstrong is a pioneer in bringing innovative conflict resolution practices to the arena of family law and beyond. As Co-founder of The Center for Family Resolution (CFR) in Columbus, Ohio, Amy has established a hub for specialized trauma-informed interventions addressing diverse needs in families, businesses, schools, and communities. CFR professional coaches, under Amy's training and guidance, navigate complex situations such as divorce, politics, power-struggles, and co-parenting issues for court-involved families. Notable presentations include "The Paradox of Power” and “Trauma-Informed Approaches to Conflict Resolution” as well as frequent talks for the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts and The Ohio Supreme court. Amy's commitment to conflict resolution is also exemplified through her partnership with My-Robin, a social-emotional learning company supporting professionals and families in the New York City Public Schools. Since 2020, Amy has served as the Director of Education at The Center for Coach Development, preparing professionals to earn credentials with the International Coaching Federation and excel in their chosen fields.

About the Host:

Howard Brown is a best-selling author, award-winning international speaker, Silicon Valley entrepreneur, interfaith peacemaker, and a two-time stage IV cancer survivor. He is also a sought-after speaker and consultant for corporate businesses, nonprofits, congregations, and community groups. Howard has co-founded two social networks that were the first to connect religious communities around the world. He is a nationally known patient advocate and “cancer whisperer” to many families. Howard, his wife Lisa, and daughter Emily currently reside in Michigan, and his happy place is on the basketball court.

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Transcript
Howard Brown:

Hello, it's Howard Brown. It's the Shining Brightly



Howard Brown:

Show. I have some of the most spectacular guests and today is



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it's just unbelievable. My good friend Amy Armstrong is here. I



Howard Brown:

Amy, how are you? I showered I'm very well and just really



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thrilled to be here. I have to tell you that I met Amy in New



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York and her energy is so contagious. Just I've really



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gotten to know her over the past year. And you're just such a



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fantastic friend and a good person and a good extremely good



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speaker and also businesswoman. So let me tell people about you



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because I need to share you. So any Armstrong is a pioneer in



Howard Brown:

bringing innovative conflict resolution practices to the



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arena of family law and beyond. You've got to actually a little



Howard Brown:

bit of a trademark right? Isn't it from the bedroom to the



Howard Brown:

boardroom to the courtroom,



Amy Armstrong:

actually exactly reversed the right rooms. But so



Amy Armstrong:

much of what I've learned has come from the courtroom. And now



Amy Armstrong:

I'm taking it to corporate boardrooms and definitely into



Amy Armstrong:

the bedroom.



Howard Brown:

I got to get it straight out



Amy Armstrong:

From the courtroom, to the boardroom to



Amy Armstrong:

the bedroom.



Howard Brown:

I love it. Oh my god, I gotta lead with that on



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social media. I just happen to love that so much. So anyways, I



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didn't mean to get off track but you are an innovator on when it



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comes to conflict resolution. With in an arena of family law



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and beyond. You're a co founder of the Centre for family



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resolution CFR in Columbus, Ohio. You've established a hub



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for specialised trauma informed interventions, addressing



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diverse needs and families, businesses, schools and



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communities. CFR is a really a network of professional coaches



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under your training and guidance. And you navigate



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complex situations such as divorce, politics, power



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struggles, co parenting issues, for court involved families, you



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have lots of cool notable presentations, the paradox of



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power trauma informed approaches to conflict resolution, and you



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do frequent talks to the association of family and



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conciliation courts and the Ohio Supreme Court. Also, one of the



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things that I love that you do is that you actually work with



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my Robin, which is the social emotional learning support for



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professionals and families and then New York City public



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schools as well. Since 2020, Amy has served as the director of



Howard Brown:

education for the Centre for Coach development, preparing



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professionals to earn credentials with the



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international coaching Federation and excel in their



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chosen field. You do a lot and you are a grandma of six and may



Howard Brown:

and you've it's just amazing. You're here. I just My first



Howard Brown:

question is, how are you shining brightly? Or what does someone



Howard Brown:

not know about you that you want to share? What are you here to



Howard Brown:

tell us?



Amy Armstrong:

Yeah, I'll actually answer both at the same



Amy Armstrong:

time.



Howard Brown:

Oh, okay. Double.



Amy Armstrong:

Yeah, so what people don't know about me,



Amy Armstrong:

Howard, is that my shining brightly used to be fake. And



Amy Armstrong:

it's raw and real now. And so that's how I'm shining brightly



Amy Armstrong:

is I'm real. And I did not know how to be real. Howard, I'm not



Amy Armstrong:

exaggerating, 45 years before I stepped into the arena of real.



Howard Brown:

Wow, you know, no one's ever answered that



Howard Brown:

question like that, to me. And I only know you as authentic real.



Howard Brown:

And I don't know the other Amy, So why don't we go back and



Howard Brown:

share a little bit of your background? Because I actually I



Howard Brown:

don't even know that.



Amy Armstrong:

Well, I love to share it because my power



Amy Armstrong:

literally came from my story. And how are you did meet me at a



Amy Armstrong:

very real time when I had stepped in to my authentic



Amy Armstrong:

professional and personal journey, but I did it wrong for



Amy Armstrong:

so long. I was this kind, caring, nice nurturing person,



Amy Armstrong:

right? And really believed in my heart of hearts, that to be a



Amy Armstrong:

good person, it meant to always think about the other guy always



Amy Armstrong:

do what would help other people to feel good. And I just



Amy Armstrong:

completely bypassed my own sense of what was right or true or



Amy Armstrong:

important to me. So you know, it can be a little bit of a cliche,



Amy Armstrong:

you know, to put yourself first or take care of yourself first.



Amy Armstrong:

But I never bought into that because I thought it meant I was



Amy Armstrong:

putting others second. And what I have come to find out Howard



Amy Armstrong:

is there is no separation. What's good for us is good for



Amy Armstrong:

the other and what's good for the other is good for So, once



Amy Armstrong:

we're authentic,



Howard Brown:

wow,



Amy Armstrong:

kind of a myth bust. So to choose whether we're



Amy Armstrong:

first or their first,



Howard Brown:

yeah, so I know now I actually understand why



Howard Brown:

we're so aligned. And we have so much appreciation for each other



Howard Brown:

because my wife, you know, said to me, when she met me that, you



Howard Brown:

know, Howard, you always give the shirt off your back, and you



Howard Brown:

even iron it too. And then you're left without a shirt. So



Howard Brown:

I know I'm now understanding, the older AMY now is that you



Howard Brown:

become so giving of others is that you neglect yourself. And



Howard Brown:

take me through more of your story there the backyard.



Amy Armstrong:

Sure, so I took care of an alcoholic mom through



Amy Armstrong:

my high school years. And just felt like it was my job to help



Amy Armstrong:

bring her comfort. And I wasn't able to do that. So I always



Amy Armstrong:

felt really down, that I wasn't able to really help her fix



Amy Armstrong:

herself. And then I had a real dependency on my older sister,



Amy Armstrong:

and then on my husband, and I put really my own decision



Amy Armstrong:

making on hold and just follow the rules follow the direction



Amy Armstrong:

that these folks that I perceived were wiser than I am



Amy Armstrong:

just really followed what I thought they wanted me to do, or



Amy Armstrong:

advised me to do. And Howard, I've come such a long way with



Amy Armstrong:

this because as a coach, I've stepped into this model of



Amy Armstrong:

really teaching people through my coaching, to only follow what



Amy Armstrong:

is true for them. We just can't make decisions from the outside.



Amy Armstrong:

Right, we get information from the outside, but then we check



Amy Armstrong:

in with ourselves to see how that information is landing



Amy Armstrong:

before we make a decision. And I just never knew about that step.



Amy Armstrong:

So I tried to do what I was, you know, what a good daughter would



Amy Armstrong:

do for my mom, I tried to do what a good wife would do with



Amy Armstrong:

my husband. And it was such a disappointment. It was a heart



Amy Armstrong:

ache, after a heart ache after a heart ache. Because I wasn't



Amy Armstrong:

there, I was completely abandoning myself and had no



Amy Armstrong:

idea why I had all this pain in my body.



Howard Brown:

Yeah, interesting. Now, you, you took care of your



Howard Brown:

mom, alcoholic mom, you had some sisters, and but you did get



Howard Brown:

married.



Amy Armstrong:

I did, I got married to the to the person I



Amy Armstrong:

felt secure with him. I didn't feel like myself per se, because



Amy Armstrong:

I didn't really know what that meant. But I did have a sense of



Amy Armstrong:

security. And that was a real attraction for me. But Howard,



Amy Armstrong:

after 25 years of marriage, you know, we could not have bombed



Amy Armstrong:

in a more scandalous, dramatic, just awful way our kids were



Amy Armstrong:

thrown under the bus. You know, both my reputation and my



Amy Armstrong:

husband's reputation were thrown under the bus, you know, we had



Amy Armstrong:

been this, you know, upstanding couple in our community. And



Amy Armstrong:

when our marriage fell apart, it was ugly and embarrassing. And I



Amy Armstrong:

was really humiliated. And Howard this. This sounds like



Amy Armstrong:

I'm being dramatic. But it's true, I really thought I was



Amy Armstrong:

going to die. Because my identity was so wrapped up in



Amy Armstrong:

this other person that I did not know there was something left or



Amy Armstrong:

would be something left after the marriage ended. And so my



Amy Armstrong:

big aha, which I'm still enjoying, literally, it's my



Amy Armstrong:

light today. That helps me shine today is recognising that people



Amy Armstrong:

are going to come and go, I get to enjoy lots of people in my



Amy Armstrong:

life, but there's only one me. And if I don't know me and check



Amy Armstrong:

in with me and have amazing conversations with me, that's



Amy Armstrong:

where the problem is. So I'm very, very thankful that the



Amy Armstrong:

turn of events included some really amazing support people



Amy Armstrong:

that helped me start to tell the truth. I literally had a friend



Amy Armstrong:

Howard, that was so courageous, because she could point out some



Amy Armstrong:

of the ways that I was incongruent, right, she would



Amy Armstrong:

listen to how I felt. And then she would watch what I did. And



Amy Armstrong:

she would say, Amy, those two don't go together. And she



Amy Armstrong:

basically called me out in a loving way. I had no idea what



Amy Armstrong:

she was talking about at first but eventually learned, oh,



Amy Armstrong:

yeah, I need to be true. And find a way to say what I have to



Amy Armstrong:

say that's true. That's still in keeping with my values. And



Amy Armstrong:

that's literally what I do today as a coach is I help people



Amy Armstrong:

identify what's important to them, what their beliefs are



Amy Armstrong:

what's true for them. I'm and then make sure that they're



Amy Armstrong:

congruent with their values.



Howard Brown:

I love that because it goes directly as I've



Howard Brown:

written in shining brightly about, we all get knocked down



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in life. So much harder. Listen, I don't wish anyone to get to



Howard Brown:

stage four cancer diagnosis ever. But I know I can't control



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that. I don't believe that you ever want and wish anyone to get



Howard Brown:

divorced. But that's just not it's living in a fantasy land.



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But we all have to get back up again. And use that light, okay,



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come from darkness to light, use that light to lift up ourselves



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and lift up others, which is my mantra every day to tell us how



Howard Brown:

you got back up again.



Amy Armstrong:

Yeah. Well, may I ask you, in order to answer that



Amy Armstrong:

question, even when people have cancer diagnoses, there are



Amy Armstrong:

options. And they have to choose what's right for them. And



Amy Armstrong:

everyone chooses their own way of handling, cancer, divorce,



Amy Armstrong:

whatever comes their way. And we're all learning to expand our



Amy Armstrong:

comfort zones. And finding the right next step, the right



Amy Armstrong:

treatment, the right support people is key to in really



Amy Armstrong:

recognising how to read our own needs and beliefs and and check



Amy Armstrong:

in with our whole body to see what's going to be right for us.



Amy Armstrong:

And so I literally started doing that that was my get up. That's



Amy Armstrong:

my get up muscle. Right, is checking in and saying, Oh, let



Amy Armstrong:

me think about that for a minute. What do I do want to do



Amy Armstrong:

this evening? Who do I want to spend my time with? Who do I



Amy Armstrong:

want to invest in or be business partner with? And so I've had



Amy Armstrong:

lots of very dear special people in my life and to be able to



Amy Armstrong:

recognise that I'm choosing how I want to lean in, in every



Amy Armstrong:

situation in every relationship. That's the getup is making



Amy Armstrong:

choices that are intentional, that are clear, we're not just,



Amy Armstrong:

you know, bleeping because something sort of sounds right,



Amy Armstrong:

right. We're making clear, informed decisions. And that's



Amy Armstrong:

where our confidence comes from. When people know that they're



Amy Armstrong:

making a decision based on clarity and a calm body and



Amy Armstrong:

letting that confidence bubble up, we can feel really good



Amy Armstrong:

about whatever needs to happen next in our life.



Howard Brown:

Yeah, I this is what we tell, you know, folks



Howard Brown:

that have been knocked down. Okay. And this is what I do on



Howard Brown:

my survivorship coaching practice, as well as that we



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don't want you to isolate. We want you to actually be selfish



Howard Brown:

in your time of need. And we want you to find a happy place.



Howard Brown:

We want you to go focus on others by lifting up others the



Howard Brown:

endorphins, we want you to be have the mental toughness and



Howard Brown:

the discipline to weed out the negativity, the boundary



Howard Brown:

breakers, the people that are not aligned with what you're



Howard Brown:

doing. And so if you can follow those small steps, you can



Howard Brown:

actually get back up again. So it's really, really good. And go



Howard Brown:

ahead.



Amy Armstrong:

Well, I wanted to share my formula for boundaries.



Amy Armstrong:

Because my one of my sort of signature concepts Howard is I



Amy Armstrong:

noticed what was true for me was that I had trouble setting



Amy Armstrong:

boundaries, because it felt distancing. It felt like I was



Amy Armstrong:

pushing people away, and it was cold and prickly. And I knew



Amy Armstrong:

that wasn't really me because I love being connected and kind



Amy Armstrong:

and close to people. And so even when someone's really done us



Amy Armstrong:

wrong, or or mistreated us in some way, we can set boundaries



Amy Armstrong:

that are about us. I call it pro me, not anti you. So we set a



Amy Armstrong:

boundary on what we are willing and able to do. We're not



Amy Armstrong:

telling others what they can do or should do or can't do. So a



Amy Armstrong:

simple one, let's say my son asked me, he says, Mom, I need a



Amy Armstrong:

ride home from work. I need you to pick me up at 530. Well, and



Amy Armstrong:

I'm making this up. If I don't get off work till 530. I might



Amy Armstrong:

say, Oh, great. I'd love to pick you up. I can be there by six



Amy Armstrong:

o'clock. That's a boundary. That's a no to 530. And



Amy Armstrong:

absolutely, I'd love to support you and be there to pick you up.



Amy Armstrong:

And here's the time I can be there. So if someone asks us,



Amy Armstrong:

maybe they need support, and we just don't feel willing or able



Amy Armstrong:

to do exactly what they're asking, make an offer. say



Amy Armstrong:

here's what I can do. And that feels good to both people. It's



Amy Armstrong:

a boundary that can still leave us feeling very connected.



Howard Brown:

I think that's great. I love it. The Pro me for



Howard Brown:

your boundaries, it's great. I want to get into something



Howard Brown:

because conflict resolution in relationships, in business in



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life, okay, it's part of people being able to maybe not as



Howard Brown:

effectively communicate, collaborate and connect. It's



Howard Brown:

just sort of what we are we are we get to disagreement. And



Howard Brown:

sometimes it's understood, and sometimes it's not tell me, you



Howard Brown:

know, you, you now, this has become your expertise, and



Howard Brown:

especially with families, you know, in sensitive time. So take



Howard Brown:

take me through conflict resolution, and sure how you



Howard Brown:

help people?



Amy Armstrong:

Sure. So it takes two to tangle, right, if you're



Amy Armstrong:

gonna have a tangle, both people have to be invested in the



Amy Armstrong:

tangle. And it takes one person to resolve the conflict, because



Amy Armstrong:

it's only a conflict if there's stress and tension and



Amy Armstrong:

frustration, and hurt. So a fun story with this is my husband



Amy Armstrong:

and I are from different sides of the political aisle. And when



Amy Armstrong:

the political season started heating up for this for this



Amy Armstrong:

year, you know, he said, he said to me, can we kind of make a



Amy Armstrong:

deal not to talk about politics? And I said, No, I actually think



Amy Armstrong:

it's really engaging to talk about politics. But I will



Amy Armstrong:

promise you, I won't fuss about it. Right? So I can guarantee



Amy Armstrong:

with him that if there's anything that feels like stress



Amy Armstrong:

or tension, we're going to back off. But it's interesting to



Amy Armstrong:

engage with, with someone that I respect that I care about, that



Amy Armstrong:

has differences of opinion on certain issues, not everything,



Amy Armstrong:

but to be able to know that I can actually support him as a



Amy Armstrong:

person without agreeing with him. And we can engage in a



Amy Armstrong:

conversation, because we have a commitment to not arguing about



Amy Armstrong:

it. And so it's that sense that there is a big difference



Amy Armstrong:

between a disagreement and a conflict. A conflict is when



Amy Armstrong:

we're trying to control the actions or thoughts of another



Amy Armstrong:

person. And as long as we can check ourselves in recognise,



Amy Armstrong:

remember, I don't need to control this person, I can



Amy Armstrong:

control myself, I can choose how and when to engage, communicate,



Amy Armstrong:

be with another professional present, some people never agree



Amy Armstrong:

to start having conversations without a professional, or at



Amy Armstrong:

least some third party to support them. That's fine.



Amy Armstrong:

That's their choice. And other people that I work with, even



Amy Armstrong:

after domestic violence, even after really high stakes,



Amy Armstrong:

conflicts over money, time, health care, the children, etc.



Amy Armstrong:

They're able to learn to take care of themselves well enough



Amy Armstrong:

that they can re engage with that other person.



Howard Brown:

I love it that it does take two to tango. And



Howard Brown:

disagreements are okay. But when it gets nasty, that's, that's no



Howard Brown:

fun. It's really no fun and it's worked.



Amy Armstrong:

Well, we have a country that is highly



Amy Armstrong:

individualistic. And we tend to feel better about ourselves when



Amy Armstrong:

we're with people that think like we do. And I challenge



Amy Armstrong:

myself, you everyone listening to notice what it does for you



Amy Armstrong:

when someone agrees with you. And recognise that you can get



Amy Armstrong:

that need met for confidence and security and trust in yourself



Amy Armstrong:

without needing someone else to agree with you.



Howard Brown:

I agree. Well, they're gonna find out more



Howard Brown:

about you through the show notes and on social media and click



Howard Brown:

and contact you and bring you in as a speaker and as an expert as



Howard Brown:

well. But I want one more thing that brings joy to your life



Howard Brown:

that I know because you light up when you talk about how that you



Howard Brown:

actually get credentials for coaching development. Tell us a



Howard Brown:

little bit about how you do that.



Amy Armstrong:

Yes, so I actually started this company to



Amy Armstrong:

help other professionals get their international coaching



Amy Armstrong:

Federation accreditation. And I did it because so many people



Amy Armstrong:

admired how I could support people to be in situations where



Amy Armstrong:

there were disagreements without trying to impose and interfere



Amy Armstrong:

and, and sort of insist that someone else does things your



Amy Armstrong:

way. And that's what we learn in ICF coaching is that we can



Amy Armstrong:

really suspend our own judgments, and listen to and



Amy Armstrong:

support another person, it's actually not that easy. It's,



Amy Armstrong:

it's a little bit of work, because, you know, intelligent



Amy Armstrong:

people have opinions. And it's very easy to try to impose



Amy Armstrong:

those, even in very well meaning ways, it's very easy to impose



Amy Armstrong:

those on other people. And so I started this company, to help



Amy Armstrong:

train other people who are really wanting to be that level



Amy Armstrong:

of present and effective with other people in their life,



Amy Armstrong:

whether it's, you know, becoming a professional coach, or being



Amy Armstrong:

better at their job, no matter what they're doing, or just



Amy Armstrong:

being more effective in all their relationships.



Howard Brown:

That's awesome. It's really exciting. We were



Howard Brown:

talking in the green room, and I shared with you that I was



Howard Brown:

actually, we had a diplomatic internet interface Seder the



Howard Brown:

other night. And I started my presentation by just looking in



Howard Brown:

all of the room and of how we gathered, because the world is a



Howard Brown:

difficult place right now. And people have very definitive, you



Howard Brown:

know, opinions. And I actually call it hate, there's, there's



Howard Brown:

people are choosing to be hateful through their words and



Howard Brown:

through their action. And I just saw in the room when I had



Howard Brown:

diplomats from 11 different countries, and had Muslim,



Howard Brown:

Hindu, Christian, Catholic and other and Jewish leaders all



Howard Brown:

together, okay, for a common purpose. And I, that's the



Howard Brown:

remarkable work that that we can do and can be capable of. And I



Howard Brown:

actually have a discussion resource guide about interfaith



Howard Brown:

relations. But I know that I was sharing that with you. And I



Howard Brown:

just, I tried to put it to use the things that I learned from



Howard Brown:

a&e and the things that you teach. So it's, I am the student



Howard Brown:

a little bit as well. So I just it's important, okay, to be



Howard Brown:

authentic and intentional, but it's also important to be



Howard Brown:

truthful, and I go back to what you first said, is being true to



Howard Brown:

yourself. And that that is the big takeaway for me today. So I



Howard Brown:

appreciate that. Can we do the shining, brightly spotlight? Do



Howard Brown:

you have some sunglasses for me?



Amy Armstrong:

Absolutely.



Howard Brown:

Okay, let's put them on. Alright. We are



Howard Brown:

shining, the brightest shining, the shining, brightly spotlight



Howard Brown:

on you. Okay. Amy Armstrong, tell people how they can get in



Howard Brown:

touch with you. And then share a little inspiration with me.



Amy Armstrong:

Sure, I have a personal LinkedIn page that is



Amy Armstrong:

Amy Armstrong, coach. I do lots of conflict videos on Tiktok



Amy Armstrong:

under Amy Armstrong conflict free. And I'd love for folks to



Amy Armstrong:

check out my website at the Centre for family



Amy Armstrong:

resolution.com.



Howard Brown:

And I heard you might have a special gift



Howard Brown:

coming.



Amy Armstrong:

I sure do. Oh, gosh. So I love this gift,



Amy Armstrong:

Howard, because people love quizzes, right? We've all had



Amy Armstrong:

plenty of experience with conflict. And this quiz helps



Amy Armstrong:

you really identify where you're coming from with conflict, a



Amy Armstrong:

little bit of what you're afraid of, and what's going to really



Amy Armstrong:

help you bring out your best in times of conflict.



Howard Brown:

Excellent. So we'll put the links to that quiz



Howard Brown:

all over the place. So that's a nice gift for you. So thank you.



Howard Brown:

All right, I'm going to take off my glasses because I want to



Howard Brown:

hear you can take yours off if you want. And let's share with



Howard Brown:

me some inspiration and then kick it over to me and I'll



Howard Brown:

close off the show.



Amy Armstrong:

Sure, Howard.



Amy Armstrong:

Everyone wants to tell the truth. And it takes courage. So



Amy Armstrong:

my inspiration today is find one person that you can make eye



Amy Armstrong:

contact, lean in just a little bit and say something that makes



Amy Armstrong:

you a little bit afraid. Have the courage to expand your



Amy Armstrong:

comfort zone and try it out. Be kind be gentle, and be truthful.



Howard Brown:

Wow. Wow, sage wisdom. Thank you for that



Howard Brown:

inspiration. I really appreciate it. Well, this has been an



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amazing episode. I want to give thanks a little bit some of the



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people that got me here so my publishing house rented



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publishing read this spirit.com That's my weekly blog, and also



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the podcast group that is just as amazing, which is amplify you



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network. As you can reach me at shiningbrightly.com It has the



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book it as how to actually look and bring me on for a speaking



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event to make your event shine. It also has this podcast, but



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more importantly it has my advocacy of what I try to do in



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the cancer world what I do in the mentorship and entrepreneur,



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entrepreneurship world and also in the interfaith world. And so



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that's really what helps define me. And remember, if we shine



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brightly just a little bit each day for ourselves. For others in



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our neighbourhoods, communities, the world will become a better



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place.