The 100 List-Ep: 085

Welcome to she coaches coaches. I'm your host,

Kandi motsek. And I'm going to help you find the clarity,

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step by step only works when you have the clarity, courage and

confidence to take action. Let's get started. Hi, friend, and

welcome to this episode. I am so glad you're here. How are you? I

know I have zero idea where you're listening to this

episode, or even what country you're in. Whether you're at

work, cooking, dinner, or driving, or whatever you're

doing, just know that I'm thinking of you. And I'm

welcoming you while I record this message. I just looked at

the stats for my podcast, this she coaches coaches, and I found

out that I have listeners in over 86 countries. That is

amazing. And I am so grateful for you. I just got back from a

week of vacation at the beach. And no, it wasn't a warm

tropical beach. I was on the wild west coast, watching the

surf and the Eagles walking on the long sandy beach and hearing

the waves soaking up the green of the trees and the deep quiet

of the old growth forest up here in Canada. And I am vitally

aware that this land has been inhabited and stewarded for

millennia by the First Nations people. And I want to

acknowledge that with gratitude, we recognize that we live learn

and play on traditional lands. And we acknowledge and pay our

respect to the First Nations and maytee ancestors of each place

and reaffirm our relationship without one another. That is a

land acknowledgement. And given that I came back from a deeply

spiritual place of nature, I wanted to make sure that I

acknowledged the people who inhabit that land. Now, I've

called this episode, the 100 list. And it's a reflective

exercise that I often recommend for my clients. I've been

reminded lately how powerful it is. And so I wanted to share it

with you too. So here's how it works. It's not complicated,

easy to do, but it's powerful. New coaches feel so new. And

maybe you forget that you've got a lifetime of experience that

you bring to this new career. And in this forgetting, you call

yourself a newbie, or even a baby coach. And basically you

ignored, write off and dismiss all of the knowledge, all of

your experience all of your skills. And yes, it's true. You

are learning new skills, coaching skills, but you have a

lifetime of experience. So this 100 List X exercise helps you

remember. And in this remembering, you'll realize and

remind yourself that you are so much more capable than you know

that you have resources that you can bring to creating clients

and coaching that no one else can. So here's what to do. Grab

your journal and a pen, or open a Google Doc, and list at least

at least 100 Things that you have accomplished in your life

that you're proud of. For example, it might sound like

this. I graduated from high school, I got my masters, I got

a job at that great company. I've cultivated wonderful

lifelong friendships,

I learned to draw. I paid off credit card debt. I saved for a

vacation, I practice daily meditation. I qualified for a

mortgage, I coached my very first client, list everything

large and small that you're proud of look back over your

life and start writing your here's what you're probably

going to find. You'll probably list 10 or 20 items, and then

you'll get stuck. And you'll start to think Ah 100 is way too

many. There is no way I've accomplished that much. Don't

worry. This is a simple exercise, but it does take

commitment to see it through. But believe me, it's worth it.

So when you do get stuck, find a couple of small things to add to

your list. For example, I decided I was going away from my

birthday, and I did, or I cleaned out my pantry, you may

need to do this exercise over a few days. And that's okay.

Here's what I'll promise you is keep that journal close at hand.

And as you think of more things, go back to it and jot some more

onto your list. And pretty soon, you'll discover that the ideas

flow fast and furious. And you're gonna have problems

actually writing all those things that you're proud of down

on paper, I challenge you to do this 100 list. And if you get to

100, and you've got more things, you just keep adding to that

list. Now, once you're complete, sit back and read it, review the

list, soak in the feelings of pride and accomplishment. You

see what a badass you are. Look at your list. Anyone who can

accomplish as much as you is relentless, you're resourceful,

determined, and strong. Yeah, I am speaking to you. Now use

those emotions, the ones of relentless and resourceful, all

of those positive emotions, to motivate yourself to take

inspired and powerful action. As you use those emotions, it's

going to be so much easier for you to create clients that you

would love to work with. Now, one more thing, you can always

deepen your learning even further, by looking at some of

those individual line items on your list of 100. For each of

those items, you could deepen your appreciation and ask

yourself, what did I learn while doing this? How did I grow when

I was in the process? What qualities do it I cultivate? And

how does this experience set me up for success today? Here's

what I mean. If, for example, one of the items on your 100

list was I realized I was underpaid. And I lobbied for a

pay raise. So that's one of the items that's on my 100 list. So

that's why I'm using it with you. So if that's one, something

similar like that, you could ask yourself the question, what did

I learn? Well, when I realized that I was underpaid, and I

lobby for a pay raise, what did I learn? Well, maybe I learned

to stand up for yourself, or you learn to advocate for your own

needs. How did you grow, you decided that you were worth it,

you realized you had taken ownership of that salary

negotiation, or rather, you hadn't taken full ownership

right at the start. But that didn't mean that you couldn't go

back and ask. So you improved your negotiation skills. You

plan the conversation with your boss, you did your research, and

you got well prepared before you have that conversation. What

qualities Did you cultivate the qualities of determined, maybe

even the quality of relentless, perhaps the quality of listening

to both sides and pursuing a win win outcome? How did that

experience set you up for success today, you will no

longer subtle or barter on your rights. Or perhaps you're no

longer uncomfortable talking about money. So if you see how

that one line item can add so much more depth of appreciation

for who you grew to becoming. All right.

Now, let's sum up the episode. It seems simple. But I would

love to hear from you when you do this. So here's the summary

of how to go about it again, take your journal and a pen, or

open a Google Doc and write a list of at least 100 Things that

you have accomplished and that you're proud of. You don't have

to do it in one setting. You can do it over a few days, that's

just fine. But just keep going until you get at least 100. Keep

the list close to you. So you can refer to it when you start

to doubt yourself. And for extra credit. You can go deeper with

those four questions on any item on your list where the four

questions are. What did you learn while doing this? How did

you grow? What qualities Did you cultivate? How did the

experience set you up for success today? Now I want to

hear from you. Post a screenshot of this episode on Instagram and

tag me at Candy Mote sec. That's at si a NDYMOT Zed EK. And tell

me how your list is going. What did you learn about doing this

work? I want to cheer you on. And before you go, I'd love to

invite you to attend my free Monday coaching and conversation

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coach. I'll put the sign up link in the Episode Notes. And I

would love to meet you face to face in that Zoom Room. And if

you want even more help, maybe you want help about where to

start, or how to create coaching clients, and we should talk

about how we can work together. Click the link in the Episode

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