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Join me for a real-life coaching demonstration with my client Melissa. We talk about creativity and passion projects and how to bring more of them out into the world.
This is a common challenge creatives face. We have so many amazing and brilliant ideas and then they get stuck in draft. We talk about how to get the right ideas out into the world and how to manage our UFOs (unfinished objects)
Endnote: Check out the result of this coaching. Two days after this coaching session Melissa published her journal, The Narrator Planner 2022 and she is now a published author
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Candy Motzek:Hello, friends, and welcome to this episode of she coaches
Candy Motzek:coaches, I've got another real life coaching demonstration for
Candy Motzek:you. It is with one of my favorite clients, Melissa. Now,
Candy Motzek:I know you guys are gonna say candy, you say all of your
Candy Motzek:clients are favorites. And they are. They're all my favorites in
Candy Motzek:different ways. Melissa specifically, is a creative
Candy Motzek:genius. And what you're going to hear in this coaching is what so
Candy Motzek:many of us creatives struggle with. We have so many brilliant
Candy Motzek:ideas. But which ones do we make real? Which ones do we put out
Candy Motzek:in the world? And which ones are just ideas to keep that divine
Candy Motzek:inspiration pump flowing. I hope you enjoy it as much as I
Candy Motzek:enjoyed coaching her. So what's changed since the last time we
Candy Motzek:met? What do you want to talk about today?
Melissa Morgan:Huh? Wow, I'm so good question. I thought I had
Melissa Morgan:it. Um So last night, I was going a little crazy. And this
Melissa Morgan:kind of ties into what we've talked about in the past, with
Melissa Morgan:my desire to go 5 million different directions. Because
Melissa Morgan:once I get an idea in my head, I'm like a dog with a bone. And
Melissa Morgan:I started to work on this project last night. And I just
Melissa Morgan:felt so much passion for it, that like I didn't go to bed
Melissa Morgan:until almost midnight. And then I started to ignore my work that
Melissa Morgan:I had to get into this morning because I was still working on
Melissa Morgan:that project. And finally, I just kind of gave up and decided
Melissa Morgan:to outsource some of it. Because I didn't know how to finish off
Melissa Morgan:the rest of it. But yeah, I feel like if I don't. The problem is
Melissa Morgan:I feel like if I don't finish it right away, I'm going to lose
Melissa Morgan:the the excited feeling I have for it, and just give it up. And
Melissa Morgan:then I'll be disappointed in myself.
Candy Motzek:And okay, yeah, so you have an idea. You get super
Candy Motzek:passionate about
Melissa Morgan:it super, like can't sleep, because I'm so
Melissa Morgan:excited about it.
Candy Motzek:You dive in, you start you put other things to
Candy Motzek:the side. And at this point, the reason that you do that is
Candy Motzek:because you think that the emotion of the satisfaction of
Candy Motzek:that new passion project could never be captured tomorrow.
Melissa Morgan:And it's it's so frustrating because like, I have
Melissa Morgan:so many things like that, where I I get so excited. And then I
Melissa Morgan:started and I I realized in doing it that it's not coming as
Melissa Morgan:naturally as I had hoped. And so I start slowing down on it, I
Melissa Morgan:lose my excitement, and then it goes away. But then a week
Melissa Morgan:later, I'll think about and I'm like, I should finish that.
Candy Motzek:Where's the switch? Where does the switch
Candy Motzek:happen? You have the excitement and you kind of rising This is
Candy Motzek:great. We're gonna do this, this is good. You get started. And
Candy Motzek:then something happens and then it starts is kind of like
Candy Motzek:puncture a balloon with a pin right? And then what happens
Candy Motzek:there? Is it common like is it a thought or?
Melissa Morgan:I think it's that. Okay, so I'll give you
Melissa Morgan:specifics. So I came on With this project that I could self
Melissa Morgan:publish, so I went on. And it's something super simple. And I
Melissa Morgan:think that's part of the problem. So it's something super
Melissa Morgan:simple that I came up with, that would help my community. And one
Melissa Morgan:of my careers, in my, in my narration career, I thought of
Melissa Morgan:like a really exciting tool that would really, really super help
Melissa Morgan:my community. And maybe I can make a little money off of it,
Melissa Morgan:too. So I thought, Okay, I'm going to self publish it, it's
Melissa Morgan:going to rock, I did the templates, I get to the website
Melissa Morgan:to upload everything. And I realize, Oh, my God, this is
Melissa Morgan:going to take so much more research than I thought. And it
Melissa Morgan:I think that's when the balloon pops because I, I get so excited
Melissa Morgan:because I and this is see, even when talking about it, I
Melissa Morgan:realized how silly it is. Knowing how to upload something
Melissa Morgan:on KDP or whatever, anything technical. Why do I expect
Melissa Morgan:that's just going to come naturally?
Candy Motzek:Right? Yeah.
Melissa Morgan:Um, so because when they're not like, matching
Melissa Morgan:vibrations, like I have this idea, and I do it, and I have
Melissa Morgan:the templates, and I'm gonna be like, yes. And that I get to
Melissa Morgan:that point no, like, no.
Candy Motzek:Talk about the matching vibrations? Is it that
Candy Motzek:you move from the from the place of imagination and vision to the
Candy Motzek:3d world where now I have to push the button and it's going
Candy Motzek:to be real? Or is it something about the mechanics of a system?
Candy Motzek:That kind of squishes that creativity?
Melissa Morgan:Yeah, I think it's the mechanics of it.
Melissa Morgan:Because, as far as I'm concerned, like, I can't wait to
Melissa Morgan:get it out into the world, I don't really have any kind of
Melissa Morgan:imposter syndrome about that. It's just the the technical
Melissa Morgan:side, it doesn't match my passion. Like, I think I'm gonna
Melissa Morgan:get on there and go click, click, click, click, click. It's
Melissa Morgan:out in the world. And in
Candy Motzek:just a second here, so but you know this, you
Candy Motzek:know that you have that arc. And more and more interestingly, is
Candy Motzek:that this idea that if I have this idea, and it's a great
Candy Motzek:idea, it will only be a great idea, if I do it right now, it
Candy Motzek:won't be a great idea tomorrow. What's the deal with that? Like,
Candy Motzek:how does that not serve you? Well,
Melissa Morgan:I mean, it doesn't serve me because I have
Melissa Morgan:all of these unfinished projects that I once felt super excited
Melissa Morgan:about. And now they're just sitting there. And it doesn't
Melissa Morgan:serve me because it, it feeds into my narrative that if I
Melissa Morgan:don't get it done now, it won't be good.
Candy Motzek:Or this. There it is. Yeah. And then. So do you
Candy Motzek:notice what happens here? Sorry, I can't look at you while I'm
Candy Motzek:doing this. You have the idea. You make a start? It gets hard,
Candy Motzek:you lose interest, you don't quite complete it. And then it
Candy Motzek:goes on to that pile of unfinished objects. And all of
Candy Motzek:those unfinished objects. I mean, there might be two or
Candy Motzek:three or five, it doesn't matter, right? All of those
Candy Motzek:unfinished objects are amazing ideas that never make it out
Candy Motzek:into the world.
Unknown:Mm hmm. So that piece,
Candy Motzek:the place where maybe like you said, you could
Candy Motzek:use some help completing them, maybe that's something where you
Candy Motzek:learn to rely on somebody else to say, Listen, I'm the idea,
Candy Motzek:visionary person here. I need somebody to help me make that
Candy Motzek:part real. Or maybe there's something else about piling
Candy Motzek:another unfinished object on an already brilliant pile of stuff.
Candy Motzek:Like if just one of those things got done. How would you feel?
Melissa Morgan:Oh, that'd be amazing. Yeah. And especially
Melissa Morgan:this because it's, it's not like a whole book. Like it's a very
Melissa Morgan:simple project, but I know it could be a huge help. And no, it
Melissa Morgan:I think it it could even start the the domino effect because I
Melissa Morgan:think, you know, like, we've talked a little bit about
Melissa Morgan:publishing and all that and I think the hardest thing to do is
Melissa Morgan:to just get that first thing done. I mean, They're all
Melissa Morgan:challenging in their own ways. But I think once you've done the
Melissa Morgan:thing, it's just that much easier to get it done again.
Unknown:And,
Melissa Morgan:yeah, because I just I, I have so much
Melissa Morgan:admiration for people who publish things like anything,
Melissa Morgan:you know, they they have the drive, and creativity, and
Melissa Morgan:something inside of them that says, I am putting this out into
Melissa Morgan:the world.
Candy Motzek:Like Eisen, I'm just gonna interrupt you right
Candy Motzek:there. Because somehow you're saying that you're not that
Candy Motzek:person. Somehow that you're saying that I have the great
Candy Motzek:idea that it doesn't get done, then that means I am not one of
Candy Motzek:those people that has that drive and determination. And I don't
Candy Motzek:think that's true. If you've got a pile of unfinished stuff, can
Candy Motzek:you give yourself the gift of just completing one? Too much?
Melissa Morgan:I mean, I know if I could get over this hump
Melissa Morgan:of, of, you know, dealing with this technical stuff, if I could
Melissa Morgan:get over that hump,
Unknown:I think I could. Um, and,
Melissa Morgan:yeah, I think maybe I just overwhelm myself
Melissa Morgan:with thinking or would have, like, in terms of, of writing a
Melissa Morgan:book. I think when I think of a book, it's like, 200 300 pages.
Melissa Morgan:But, I mean, for instance, I went to the bookstore the other
Melissa Morgan:day, and I was looking through all the different styles of
Melissa Morgan:books that are out there, like there are endless, like, books
Melissa Morgan:about this size, that are illustrated, and adorable. And,
Melissa Morgan:you know, they don't have like, a massive amount of written
Melissa Morgan:content, but they're amazing little books to have. And I'm
Melissa Morgan:like, maybe I need to reconsider my, my thought of what a book
Melissa Morgan:is, it doesn't have to be like 300 pages of written word. Maybe
Melissa Morgan:it could be, like a, like a journal style or illustration,
Candy Motzek:is that what is that? What's going to be
Candy Motzek:satisfying? Or is this another sort of hot track?
Melissa Morgan:Um, I think either one would be just as
Melissa Morgan:satisfying. Maybe even more so. With illustrations, because that
Melissa Morgan:would marry so much of my, you know, like, creative life into,
Melissa Morgan:into it.
Candy Motzek:So listen, I'm going to challenge you to not
Candy Motzek:create a new project. And I think there is something here.
Candy Motzek:And I've probably shared this with you in the past, you know
Candy Motzek:that I have my journals, right. And every month, I start with
Candy Motzek:one of these journals. And then at the back of my journals, I
Candy Motzek:always have, here's my random great ideas, ideas that I would
Candy Motzek:love to work on. And I capture it in there. So I know that I've
Candy Motzek:kind of honored that creative thought. And then I don't forget
Candy Motzek:it. Because a lot of times and like you said, you kind of come
Candy Motzek:back is like that is a great idea. Like it comes back to you.
Candy Motzek:But I would love to challenge you just to complete the one
Candy Motzek:project. And the one that you started use already said, hey,
Candy Motzek:it's not that big of a deal. It's only a little technical
Candy Motzek:hump. What resources do you have available to you in your
Candy Motzek:community? Like that somebody you could ask for help. And then
Candy Motzek:you could just be like, off to the races and call that one
Candy Motzek:done. And then you can go on to maybe I want to publish 100
Candy Motzek:Really cool illustrated fun books, but start with the one.
Candy Motzek:So what's the one resource? The one piece of help? The one thing
Candy Motzek:that you can do to make this one project complete? Yeah,
Melissa Morgan:it's it's just finding someone to help me get
Melissa Morgan:through the the technical side, whether that's on a like, like a
Melissa Morgan:virtual assistant kind of a website or even someone in my
Melissa Morgan:community.
Candy Motzek:Yeah. So what's your first step for today?
Melissa Morgan:I'm looking up who could help me with that?
Candy Motzek:Yeah. Okay. And you're gonna circle back with
Candy Motzek:me, and let me know.
Melissa Morgan:Yes. I will, and I will. And I will show you the
Melissa Morgan:final project.
Candy Motzek:Yes. Will that be satisfying? Well, that sort of.
Candy Motzek:It's not just satisfying. It's like, does it kind of complete
Candy Motzek:that need of finding that passion and really bringing it
Candy Motzek:home? That's this piece that is seems important.
Melissa Morgan:Yeah, it is important because it will, it
Melissa Morgan:will say, like, you can finish things. And you can also do
Melissa Morgan:something that helps other people. And how cool is that?
Melissa Morgan:And that, that would open up a whole world of who else can I
Melissa Morgan:help? Ooh, what else can I do? That might get me into trouble
Melissa Morgan:in the future? Because that's
Candy Motzek:okay. We care about the one right now. Do one
Candy Motzek:at a time. And once you get one done, then you can decide if you
Candy Motzek:want to do another or not. Like, no matter what, for the rest of
Candy Motzek:your life, you're going to have a bazillion creative genius
Candy Motzek:ideas. Like that's kind of a given, right? Yeah, you get to
Candy Motzek:choose, which are the ones that you're actually going to make
Candy Motzek:come into this world and which are just going to be, I don't
Candy Motzek:know, just kind of like fun ideas just to play like play in
Candy Motzek:your head. Some of that's just fine, too. Right. Okay. So
Candy Motzek:that's it for the little coaching. How was that for you?
Candy Motzek:So thanks for joining us listening to that real life
Candy Motzek:coaching. And I know it was a bit of an abrupt end, our
Candy Motzek:conversation went on a little bit longer. But what I really
Candy Motzek:wanted you to know is that two days later, I got an email from
Candy Motzek:Melissa, she had published that journal that she had designed.
Candy Motzek:From this coaching, she took her brilliant idea that was already
Candy Motzek:there and started and it didn't take her long to now become a
Candy Motzek:self published author is one more creative endeavor that she
Candy Motzek:has succeeded at. I am so proud of you, Melissa, for taking that
Candy Motzek:idea and making it a reality. Now, I am going to share the
Candy Motzek:link to her narrator's journal in the show notes. You guys
Candy Motzek:should check it out. It's pretty amazing. I gotta say. So thanks
Candy Motzek:again for joining me in this episode of she coaches, coaches.
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