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Hey welcome to sheet coaches coaches, I'm your
Candy Motzek:host Kandi motsek. And I'm going to help you find the clarity,
Candy Motzek:confidence and courage to become the coach that you are meant to
Candy Motzek:be. If you're a new coach, or if you've always wanted to be a
Candy Motzek:life coach, then this is the place for you. We're going to
Candy Motzek:talk all about mindset and strategies and how to because
Candy Motzek:step by step only works when you have the clarity, courage and
Candy Motzek:confidence to take action. Let's get started.
Candy Motzek:Hello, everyone, and welcome to this episode of she coaches
Candy Motzek:coaches. Today is a special episode. It is packed jam packed
Candy Motzek:with four different guests. Yes, four people, each of them
Candy Motzek:completely unique, each of them with a completely different
Candy Motzek:business. Now, these are all interviews that I did on the one
Candy Motzek:day event called PATA palooza. I met so many interesting people,
Candy Motzek:I learned so much, and it was refreshing, invigorating.
Candy Motzek:There's nothing like getting together with a bunch of heart
Candy Motzek:centered entrepreneurs and having great conversations. So
Candy Motzek:here are four different people. Each of them, they get a brief
Candy Motzek:introduction, we talk a little bit about their business and
Candy Motzek:their approach, and then we wrap it up. Now if you look at the
Candy Motzek:Episode notes, you are going to see each of those people, the
Candy Motzek:ways of getting a hold of them, the ways of finding out more
Candy Motzek:about what they do. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I
Candy Motzek:did creating it. And welcome to this episode of she coaches
Candy Motzek:coaches, I am so pleased to welcome a guest today. I'm going
Candy Motzek:to tell you a little bit about her. Now, here's the fun thing.
Candy Motzek:This is one of this series of interviews that I'm doing part
Candy Motzek:of a one day event called PATA palooza. And I have met some of
Candy Motzek:the most amazing heart centered entrepreneurs, and this woman is
Candy Motzek:no exception. So let me tell you a little bit about her. Her name
Candy Motzek:is Diane Alexander. She is a voice teacher, a confidence
Candy Motzek:Catalyst, and energy codes certified master trainer, Best
Candy Motzek:Selling Author, she has just done everything. She's got such
Candy Motzek:a wealth of knowledge. And let me read this to you. She
Candy Motzek:empowers speakers, presenters and coaches to freely
Candy Motzek:communicate their heartfelt message with confidence and
Candy Motzek:authenticity. Diane, I'm so glad you're here.
Diane Alexander:I am delighted to be here to Kennedy, I think
Diane Alexander:we have a lot of things in common. And it's my great
Diane Alexander:pleasure and actually joy to be able to assist people to do
Diane Alexander:things that they didn't think that they could do. And when
Diane Alexander:they do it, their eyes get so big their hearts up and up. I
Diane Alexander:mean, that's like heaven for me.
Candy Motzek:Yeah, yeah, I hear you. So I know you showed me
Candy Motzek:already. Just as before we started recording that you've
Candy Motzek:got your singing bowls here. So tell me about them. Tell me
Candy Motzek:about what you do how you work with people. Just I want to know
Candy Motzek:what all Oh,
Diane Alexander:boy. Well, let's see, where shall we start?
Diane Alexander:I know where we'll start. Let's start with the confidence piece.
Diane Alexander:I like to go when right where the people get stuck the most,
Diane Alexander:which is if you're getting ready to have an interview or a
Diane Alexander:conversation that's a little scary, where you're getting
Diane Alexander:ready to put your toe on the stage. And things are a little
Diane Alexander:bit nervous about it. Something takes over sometimes from the
Diane Alexander:stage fright, which is the fight flight and fright response and
Diane Alexander:your neck tightens up and your chest goes down and the energy
Diane Alexander:goes to your lips so that you can either run away as fast as
Diane Alexander:you can, or put up your nukes, or hi please don't see me one or
Diane Alexander:the other. None of them are going to help you get your job
Diane Alexander:done. That's true. But there's a couple of little hacks that we
Diane Alexander:can do to in that moment. Turn it around so you can only you
Diane Alexander:only have to deal with that for a moment. So first, let's prove
Diane Alexander:this to yourself. Time new neck you know your neck goes up into
Diane Alexander:your head as tight as you can really get a tight knot. Try and
Diane Alexander:inhale. It's really hard. Now do the opposite. Bobble your head,
Diane Alexander:like those little bobble dolls people put on their dashboards.
Diane Alexander:Yeah, with the hip bubbling put your hands on your belly and
Diane Alexander:inhale through your nose. Notice it's way easier to get a deep
Diane Alexander:breath. And when you have loosened the joint you've
Diane Alexander:started to unlock The fight and flight response. So the trapdoor
Diane Alexander:that shut you into a mute emergency mode now opens back up
Diane Alexander:to creativity and connection. And when you breathe through
Diane Alexander:your nose down into your belly, that activates the
Diane Alexander:parasympathetic nervous system, which brings you back grounded,
Diane Alexander:brings you back to the place of oh, here I am. I'm back. There
Diane Alexander:are two other tools that I think I'm going to jump to one you
Diane Alexander:asked about, because it's one of my favorites. Okay. Quartz
Diane Alexander:crystal has long been used in electronics for decades, because
Diane Alexander:it has such an even vibration that can depend on it for
Diane Alexander:signals. We are also crystal in mostly water, it's crystal. And
Diane Alexander:when we have a day where something's gone wrong or
Diane Alexander:doesn't feel right, or our vibrations are a little wonky,
Diane Alexander:they want to be even they want to be home. So when it's very
Diane Alexander:much like when you go into a room and someone said a terrific
Diane Alexander:mood, you want to go over there because they make you feel
Diane Alexander:better. Or if somebody comes in is grumpy, you kind of don't
Diane Alexander:think I want to go over there. But we feel it and in the same
Diane Alexander:way that when we're a little bit off, we want to go toward
Diane Alexander:normalcy. These beautiful crystal balls have the ability
Diane Alexander:to bring us back to even so I'd like to give you an experience
Diane Alexander:of them. earphones are good if you're on Zoom. But just notice
Diane Alexander:in your body what you're feeling right now. Is there anything
Diane Alexander:tight? Is there anything lumpy? Is there anything spacey just
Diane Alexander:notice where it is? And then this your journey? No right now
Diane Alexander:are on notice. Does this make a difference to center? Do you not
Diane Alexander:center? Does it irritate you? Does it calm you? Where do you
Diane Alexander:feel in your body? Sorry
Candy Motzek:the last little end of the sound lovely.
Diane Alexander:I know I hate to stop them. I want to stay
Diane Alexander:quiet until the very end. Do you notice any change in energy? Or?
Diane Alexander:Uh, yeah,
Candy Motzek:always. And so, you know, for the listeners, I
Candy Motzek:was sharing with Diana at the beginning of our conversation
Candy Motzek:that it's been a busy day. And I was feeling kind of spacey. And
Candy Motzek:so I would did some EFT tapping beforehand. But since then I've
Candy Motzek:talked to three more people. And so just that in that instant of
Candy Motzek:the sound of the bowl, suddenly, everything just moved back into
Candy Motzek:that whole peaceful feeling. It's amazing how fast it moves
Candy Motzek:and how fast we can change. And and I have to highlight that,
Candy Motzek:yeah, you had a little bit of a bubble, you kind of clink the
Candy Motzek:bowl and not, you know, but it's okay. It just it actually, you
Candy Motzek:know, in some ways, it's perfect, because we can see how
Candy Motzek:fast we can go into that place where we decide that we feel
Candy Motzek:good. And we can feel it resonating in our body. And we
Candy Motzek:can see how fast we can shift right? Like for us to notice
Candy Motzek:that is an amazing thing to know that we have so much more
Candy Motzek:capability than we might normally give ourselves credit
Candy Motzek:for. Ah, I love that. And I can still feel I can still feel the
Candy Motzek:sound. Oh, that's so cool. Wow. So totally how I work with
Candy Motzek:people, I want to hear all about it.
Diane Alexander:It's fun. I have all manner of things. I
Diane Alexander:work with people summer one on one summer, or I have a core
Diane Alexander:stage confidence nervous to Oregon six weeks, in which there
Diane Alexander:are things that we study, but then you have the actual
Diane Alexander:practice because it doesn't do any good in theory if you can't
Diane Alexander:actually do it. And then there's practice places where you can
Diane Alexander:work with it. And there are physical I took you through two
Diane Alexander:physical things that we do there. mental, emotional and
Diane Alexander:energetic. The sound for me goes through energetic at what if I
Diane Alexander:there's one more favorite one about shifting energy because
Diane Alexander:people don't think about it too much. But when I was a church
Diane Alexander:soloist, I was the alto, Fred was the tenor. And good Fred
Diane Alexander:would walk walk out on the pulpit where he was gonna go
Diane Alexander:sing with his big choir room floaty. You could hear a pin
Diane Alexander:drop. Everybody loved Fred. And you know, I was a fairly young
Diane Alexander:singer just in college. And I said, Fred, how do you do that?
Diane Alexander:What do you do? They just love you. And he said, I send them
Diane Alexander:all love. I look at each out of each and every one of them. And
Diane Alexander:I send them all love, and talk about pivotal things. That was
Diane Alexander:really pivotal. Because my whole life had been here, I gotta give
Diane Alexander:you what you want, I gotta give you what you want, I gotta give
Diane Alexander:you what you want. And he didn't, it wasn't here, please
Diane Alexander:like me, please like me, it was, I'm gonna send you love. I'm
Diane Alexander:gonna send you love. And it was uncanny how the minute I came
Diane Alexander:out and did that for the first time, you could feel the energy
Diane Alexander:coming back from the people in my congregation, you could just
Diane Alexander:feel that cycle of energy. And in that moment, everything
Diane Alexander:shifted. So that's another quick thing you can do when you're
Diane Alexander:nervous worrying about you send them love, even even at a
Diane Alexander:difficult conversation you're going into, they're doing the
Diane Alexander:best they can be, we're all doing the best we can. But these
Diane Alexander:short little tools that we can use, I like to start with those,
Diane Alexander:then we can work on the longer tools conference muscle, because
Diane Alexander:it's like anything, it's a skill, it's a habit. You know,
Diane Alexander:we just have so much fun, my backgrounds in theater and music
Diane Alexander:and energy. And we have just so much fun. Because the Don't you
Diane Alexander:find through play, we get a lot farther, because Oh, I'm not
Diane Alexander:good enough monster Shut up.
Candy Motzek:You know what's so neat, Diane, is that I teach a
Candy Motzek:lot about confidence too. And it's nice to hear you describe
Candy Motzek:the three F's, as well, I talk about the three F's, I actually
Candy Motzek:add a fourth, but that's not neither here nor there. But what
Candy Motzek:I think is really important is that the people who listen to
Candy Motzek:this podcast, you might have heard me talk about this. But
Candy Motzek:now you've heard it in a different way. And it's going to
Candy Motzek:impact you in a different way as well. You know, the same truths
Candy Motzek:about living in a body and how our body reacts when it
Candy Motzek:experiences something that it considers stressful or
Candy Motzek:dangerous. It's good to know that but if you don't do it,
Candy Motzek:which is just exactly what you were saying. And you don't
Candy Motzek:practice it, you don't notice the difference. And then the
Candy Motzek:second thing that just I love this these little
Candy Motzek:synchronicities that we've experienced today, I have a
Candy Motzek:secret that I share with all my one on one clients. And I tell
Candy Motzek:them that the one of the most important ways the most
Candy Motzek:important things that they can do, as they're building their
Candy Motzek:one on one practice is when they're sitting on a console
Candy Motzek:with somebody, and they just love them. They just look at
Candy Motzek:their face, and they love them, and they listen to them. And it
Candy Motzek:is like to be validated to be seen to be heard is so important
Candy Motzek:for people. And even if that person never decides to be your
Candy Motzek:client, to know that they had five minutes even of being fully
Candy Motzek:seen and loved and heard. It can change the trajectory of their
Candy Motzek:life. So I just I'm so thrilled that you shared that with us
Candy Motzek:because it was like, yes, that's exactly the kind of stuff that I
Candy Motzek:talk about. It's so cool. And your way of saying it different
Candy Motzek:than my way of saying it. And there's just there's so much
Candy Motzek:possibility for us, right. So it's been brief, but it's time
Candy Motzek:for us to draw our time to a close the people who are
Candy Motzek:listening, there's going to be people who say, Ah, this, Diane,
Candy Motzek:I have to find out more about her. How can they find out more
Candy Motzek:about you? Where can they get in touch with you? Where can they
Candy Motzek:see the kinds of things that you do?
Diane Alexander:Well, the easiest way is to email Diane D
Diane Alexander:I A N N No II alexan at Diane alexander.com, which is also my
Diane Alexander:website, Diana alexandra.com. And later if you'd like I'll
Diane Alexander:give you some links for two special gifts. And one is a PDF
Diane Alexander:of the details on doing a really radiant performance. It's five
Diane Alexander:off stage stage keys to onstage radiance. And if you follow
Diane Alexander:them, it's in the details that really make it excellence. And I
Diane Alexander:think I'll throw in a link for sound bath for your people. It's
Diane Alexander:a recording of these beautiful babies. So just put it on your
Diane Alexander:iPhone or something and when you're getting ready to go on to
Diane Alexander:speech or something you can take it loosen your neck, take your
Diane Alexander:nice deep breath and listen to your sandwich and go in center.
Diane Alexander:Sending them love of course.
Candy Motzek:Yeah. Diane, it's been amazing. I think we've only
Candy Motzek:been speaking for about 10 or 12 minutes and you should aired two
Candy Motzek:physical ways. You've given us a demonstration of the power of
Candy Motzek:healing sound and the crystal bowls. You've given us an
Candy Motzek:explanation about our fight and flight. You've covered so much
Candy Motzek:in such a short time. And I love it. So thank you so much for
Candy Motzek:joining listeners, you're going to be able to click through to
Candy Motzek:those episode notes. You'll see Diane's email and a link to her
Candy Motzek:website there as well. And also some information about how you
Candy Motzek:can access those free gifts that she's offering. Diane, thank you
Candy Motzek:so much. Again, it's been a pleasure. And I will talk to
Candy Motzek:everyone next week. Bye bye. Hi friends and welcome to Chic
Candy Motzek:coaches coaches. I am interviewing a most remarkable
Candy Motzek:woman today. This is part of the series of interviews that I'm
Candy Motzek:doing as part of PATA palooza. Now, if you guys have been
Candy Motzek:listening to my podcast for a while, you're going to have
Candy Motzek:heard some of these. We did these interviews on March the
Candy Motzek:fifth 2022. And every conversation, every interview
Candy Motzek:that I've had has been so different, and so magical, so
Candy Motzek:I'm so pleased to share them with you. Now, let me tell you
Candy Motzek:about this particular guest. Her name is Janelle Anderson, and
Candy Motzek:she is a confidence coach for women, business owners and
Candy Motzek:leaders. And she helps them to embrace their grace and their
Candy Motzek:greatness and know the immense value that they have. This is so
Candy Motzek:they can fully show up, they can stand up and speak up in
Candy Motzek:fearless confidence. She discovered a path of deep
Candy Motzek:healing and transformation in her mid 50s. And enabled her to
Candy Motzek:finally break off the shame that had held her hostage from a
Candy Motzek:deeply traumatic past. And since then, her newly released book,
Candy Motzek:take center stage, his out on Amazon. I am so looking forward
Candy Motzek:to this conversation with her. And I want her to tell us all
Candy Motzek:about the book and it looks like I need to give me just a second
Candy Motzek:here. We're just gonna leave this in because this is the kind
Candy Motzek:of interview it is it's a casual conversation. Let me tell you
Candy Motzek:this title again. So you can go to Amazon and check it out.
Candy Motzek:Okay, take center stage, be the star of your own story. And the
Candy Motzek:author is the woman that I'm introducing right now Janelle
Candy Motzek:Anderson. Hey, Janelle, I'm so pleased to have you here on the
Candy Motzek:podcast.
Janelle Anderson:Hey, candy, I am super excited to be here with
Janelle Anderson:you.
Candy Motzek:So tell me about this book, tell me what is here.
Janelle Anderson:This book was incubated. I have to say over
Janelle Anderson:about four years, it asked me for four years to write it
Janelle Anderson:basically, actually probably longer. But it took me four
Janelle Anderson:years. It is partly my story. From over my journey, I should
Janelle Anderson:say from a timid, traumatized woman who really was shut down,
Janelle Anderson:didn't realize that though, I never thought of myself as
Janelle Anderson:having been through trauma. It was just something I had done.
Janelle Anderson:And so it was all my fault. And so I'd carried around this load
Janelle Anderson:of shame for years and years, 30 years 30 plus. And when I
Janelle Anderson:finally unpacked all of that, and processed through all of it,
Janelle Anderson:I always say it was like the real me began to emerge out from
Janelle Anderson:behind, behind the curtain out onto center stage. I sat there
Janelle Anderson:one day, as I was thinking about my book, and in the middle of
Janelle Anderson:writing it and I sat there one day thinking, I feel like I'm
Janelle Anderson:taking center stage of my own life for the first time ever.
Janelle Anderson:And I was 60 Something I mean, I was by the time I wrote the
Janelle Anderson:book. So that realization was amazing. And I thought I
Janelle Anderson:actually love who I am now. And I actually know who I am. And I
Janelle Anderson:can come out on center stage, and just say here, I am not
Janelle Anderson:ashamed, unapologetic, and just really happy with who I am. So
Janelle Anderson:that journey was so powerful that I had to put it in a book.
Janelle Anderson:And when I looked back through the years of journaling, I've
Janelle Anderson:been journaling for 30 Some years through through this whole
Janelle Anderson:time in my life from the time I was in my 20s When all this
Janelle Anderson:stuff happened to in my 50s when I began to just wake up and be
Janelle Anderson:aware and I was reading through years of journaling, seeing this
Janelle Anderson:path, this journey of coming into my own and overcoming a lot
Janelle Anderson:of things that had held me back and didn't and I didn't realize
Janelle Anderson:it and coming out from behind that curtain and saying here I
Janelle Anderson:am and really loving who I am and so out of that emerged this
Janelle Anderson:what I call the star process, because I could identify phases
Janelle Anderson:that I was going through that I had gone through. And so that is
Janelle Anderson:what the book follows. It follows that journey. Each
Janelle Anderson:chapter begins with one of my journal excerpts, and a quote
Janelle Anderson:and a scripture. So it kind of sets everyone up for that
Janelle Anderson:chapter, each of those four phases is kind of lined out. And
Janelle Anderson:there's a workbook that goes with it. So anybody reading it
Janelle Anderson:can kind of they can really embark on their own journey, and
Janelle Anderson:do these exercises and begin to unveil their true selves as
Janelle Anderson:well. And by the end of it, hopefully, they're out on center
Janelle Anderson:stage of their own life as the star of their own story. So it's
Janelle Anderson:part of my story, it's part self improvement, it's part spiritual
Janelle Anderson:wisdom, it's part practical advice or guidance, all mixed
Janelle Anderson:into one.
Candy Motzek:Amazing, that sounds so cool. And I liked that
Candy Motzek:there's a workbook to go through there. If you can see the wall
Candy Motzek:behind me, you can just see some of the journals that I've been
Candy Motzek:writing in, I go through about one of them once a month. So, so
Candy Motzek:amazing to think that you've been journaling for so many
Candy Motzek:years, and that, like, you know that your true self, your higher
Candy Motzek:self, was actually writing this book all along. And, you know,
Candy Motzek:putting those little breadcrumbs in place that you can take all
Candy Motzek:of this knowledge that you've gained and create such amazing
Candy Motzek:work about event. Can you tell us a little bit about the STAR
Candy Motzek:method that you mentioned?
Janelle Anderson:Sure. So S stands for stir up your soul.
Janelle Anderson:And at the beginning of my I call it my waking up, I was in
Janelle Anderson:my mid 50s, when I was really jarred awake. Because I
Janelle Anderson:realized, holy cow 57 years just went by really fast. And I'm not
Janelle Anderson:happy, I feel stuck. I'm not fulfilled, what am I going to
Janelle Anderson:do? I need to do something. Now. It was this urgency. And it's
Janelle Anderson:like, you know, when you're in a deep sleep, and your alarm goes
Janelle Anderson:off, and you're like, just like, awake, and you're trying to
Janelle Anderson:figure out where you are. That's what it felt like. And that set
Janelle Anderson:me on this path. I decided in that moment, I'm going to find
Janelle Anderson:out what it is. I am meant to do for the rest of my life. And I'm
Janelle Anderson:going to pursue it I'm not going to let anything stop me or get
Janelle Anderson:in my way. So when I began down that journey, I, the other part
Janelle Anderson:of the stirring up your soul is saying yes. And I discovered
Janelle Anderson:that I had been saying no to myself a lot. And so I began to
Janelle Anderson:say yes, instead, yes, I'm going to pursue this yes, I'm going to
Janelle Anderson:not settle anymore. And so then you're awake in the stirring up
Janelle Anderson:of your soul. And you're starting to look at your life
Janelle Anderson:and ask yourself those questions like, Who am I? And what am I
Janelle Anderson:doing with my life? And where am I and what's happened to bring
Janelle Anderson:me here, all those questions. And you began to really dig into
Janelle Anderson:that. And for me, it brought me to the tee, which is tell
Janelle Anderson:yourself the truth. So as I began to, like really look at
Janelle Anderson:these things, that's when I realized, there's a lot in me
Janelle Anderson:that's hidden away, stuffed away that I haven't dealt with that
Janelle Anderson:I've tried to forget ever happened, but it's still
Janelle Anderson:actually getting in my way. It's making me feel not very
Janelle Anderson:confident. It's really affected my sense of self worth. And I
Janelle Anderson:have avoided looking at all that stuff, because it's unpleasant.
Janelle Anderson:And I really don't want to talk about it and look at it, but I
Janelle Anderson:actually need to. And it was the best decision I ever made. So I
Janelle Anderson:began to go through a process of just getting some counseling and
Janelle Anderson:inner healing work. And just going back to the past that I
Janelle Anderson:had tried to avoid unpacking it, talking about it. And seeing for
Janelle Anderson:the first time that the shame that I had been carrying all
Janelle Anderson:these years was really based on untruths, not truth, that there
Janelle Anderson:was something wrong with me. And that's why I was drugged and
Janelle Anderson:raped by some guy in college. And that's why I was trafficked
Janelle Anderson:by my boyfriend, and all the other things that happened
Janelle Anderson:because somehow I was defective. That had been a lie rooted in my
Janelle Anderson:heart. So during this phase, I began to uproot a lot of those
Janelle Anderson:lies and I began to challenge them and really begin to see the
Janelle Anderson:truth for the first time ever, because I never thought I had
Janelle Anderson:been raped. I thought it was my fault. I never thought of myself
Janelle Anderson:as having been trafficked. I thought it was my fault. And
Janelle Anderson:when that when I began to see all those things and just
Janelle Anderson:literally lay on the floor and weep over that young woman
Janelle Anderson:myself, whose youth had been basically stolen instead of
Janelle Anderson:being ashamed of her, I began to embrace her with compassion. And
Janelle Anderson:I began to see that even though it was hard, what I had gone
Janelle Anderson:through was really hard it, it shaped me. And there were some
Janelle Anderson:really good things I could take out of that it had strengthened
Janelle Anderson:me and made me who I was. And I could take that and build on it.
Janelle Anderson:And so that's a part of the truth telling, too. And there's
Janelle Anderson:a whole chapter on forgiveness. Forgiveness is huge, and letting
Janelle Anderson:go and really realizing that when you don't forgive you are
Janelle Anderson:being held and attached to that event. And So forgiveness is for
Janelle Anderson:you. So I went through all of that. And then, when I did that,
Janelle Anderson:I began to realize that I was stepping up and speaking up in
Janelle Anderson:places I never would have before I was coming out from behind the
Janelle Anderson:curtain, I was like, feeling confident. And that's the A, and
Janelle Anderson:that is like acceptance, you begin to accept who you are, for
Janelle Anderson:all of you, all of you owning your story was huge for me.
Janelle Anderson:I remember that being a huge realization that oh, that did
Janelle Anderson:happen, and I need to own it. And so I've tried to ignore it.
Janelle Anderson:And once I did, it began this process of really embracing
Janelle Anderson:myself and loving who I am. And then that leads you into action.
Janelle Anderson:So that's the second part of the A is action activation, I began
Janelle Anderson:to do things, I began to take steps and try things and take a
Janelle Anderson:chance and go for my dreams. Whereas before I never did. And
Janelle Anderson:then that leads into the R, which is this full flow, it
Janelle Anderson:stands for release the river, we have this river of our true
Janelle Anderson:selves that flows, you know, you think of flow and power. And
Janelle Anderson:Rivers, they, they carve out a path and they affect the
Janelle Anderson:environment. And they bring life and there's this powerful flow.
Janelle Anderson:And that's how it feels. Now that I'm in this place, it's
Janelle Anderson:released its flow. It's the power of me being me. And so
Janelle Anderson:that is the start process.
Candy Motzek:Easy. Janelle. I love that.
Janelle Anderson:I do so cool. Yeah, it's all along, you know,
Janelle Anderson:in that workbook, there are different things that I have in
Janelle Anderson:there, and they're very self reflective. It's not something
Janelle Anderson:you can rush through. It's meant for you to sit with it, and
Janelle Anderson:meditate and spend some time. It's not like, oh, well, I'm
Janelle Anderson:just gonna check off these boxes.
Candy Motzek:Right? Yeah. And I think that that's the thing with
Candy Motzek:our personal work, you know, we've all got different things
Candy Motzek:that we need to work through. But we're our society is so
Candy Motzek:like, hustle action oriented. And so we think that then we
Candy Motzek:should, you know, like you said, check the boxes hustled through
Candy Motzek:all this and be done with that. And, you know, like, wipe our
Candy Motzek:hands of it. But that's not how we clear and how we turn into
Candy Motzek:turn into ourselves, like turn inward into ourselves, and then
Candy Motzek:grow from there. So thank you for sharing that with us. This
Candy Motzek:amazing. So I wonder if I have any other questions for you
Candy Motzek:before we wrap up today? You know, I have no more questions.
Candy Motzek:I just feel so complete with how you described your star method.
Candy Motzek:And I know your book is amazing, and the workbook is gonna be
Candy Motzek:just the best thing to go with it as well. It has been such a
Candy Motzek:pleasure meeting with you. So anyone who is interested in
Candy Motzek:connecting with Janelle, Janelle, how can they get in
Candy Motzek:touch with you? Of course, they could go and get your book, but
Candy Motzek:how else can they get more into your world?
Janelle Anderson:Well, they can visit my website which is
Janelle Anderson:emerging life coaching.com And they can always email me Janelle
Janelle Anderson:at emerging life. coaching.com.
Candy Motzek:That's amazing. So listeners, it's in the Episode
Candy Motzek:Notes, you can just click through, you can click right
Candy Motzek:through to her website. You could go and have a look at her
Candy Motzek:book. And just if this spoke to you, and you just know that
Candy Motzek:she's the kind of woman that you'd like to get to know a
Candy Motzek:little bit more, I highly encourage you to click through
Candy Motzek:and get to know her get into her world. Thank you so much for
Candy Motzek:joining me Janelle. It's been such a pleasure. I have an
Candy Motzek:interesting guest Her name is Mary Sloane. And I met her at
Candy Motzek:that amazing one day event called PATA palooza. Now, let me
Candy Motzek:tell you a little bit about Mary before we dive in. Mary is and
Candy Motzek:honestly she is a spark of light. I seen her at a couple of
Candy Motzek:events and I just she's the kind of person that just catches your
Candy Motzek:eye. She is a passionate speaker about how and why authors and
Candy Motzek:speakers and coaches need to become influencers in their
Candy Motzek:space. It allows them to naturally charge more make a
Candy Motzek:bigger difference as people listen to them differently, and
Candy Motzek:then actually follow along with them. Mary interviews people on
Candy Motzek:a live show that airs on Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn,
Candy Motzek:and is ultimately posted to her podcast called the inspirational
Candy Motzek:influencer news, people making a difference. She is an
Candy Motzek:inspiration to other aging folks. And it comes naturally to
Candy Motzek:her. She's a senior, but she's not slowing down, not even a
Candy Motzek:little. And she is constantly giving, helping and generously
Candy Motzek:supporting others. She's essentially affectionately known
Candy Motzek:as the techie grandma, and she inspires others to step out of
Candy Motzek:their comfort zone and reach for their lofty goals, not stay in
Candy Motzek:that old comfort zone. Mary, welcome. I'm so pleased to see
Candy Motzek:you here. Tell me more about what you do.
Mary Sloane:Well, I loved the idea of being the techy grandma,
Mary Sloane:when somebody said that I'm like, watch, because, of course,
Mary Sloane:I'm challenged by tech just like everybody else. But I will go
Mary Sloane:conquer it, because Tech has to be at my whim, not at somebody
Mary Sloane:else's, because that's how I can make a difference. And I, I'm
Mary Sloane:here on earth to make a difference, you know, not just
Mary Sloane:to kind of live. And I think that's really important. And
Mary Sloane:that's what I want to offer to other people, too, is the fact
Mary Sloane:that he doesn't matter. It's just a number, and I'm not. So I
Mary Sloane:am however I am. And if I can run circles around people, 10
Mary Sloane:years younger, 15 years younger, that's okay, by me. I work at
Mary Sloane:it. I mean, there's things you have to do, you have to stay
Mary Sloane:active, you have to stay connected, you have to stay up
Mary Sloane:on what's going on in the world, what's new, what's exciting. And
Mary Sloane:that's where I get my juice. And I think that that really can
Mary Sloane:help other people. Because they, when they realize what a
Mary Sloane:difference they really can make by daring to be an influencer.
Mary Sloane:So really, when you get out there, and you're willing to say
Mary Sloane:who you are, do what you do, make sure people actually
Mary Sloane:understand what it is that you do, and how you can help them
Mary Sloane:and you come across as really committed to helping them, then
Mary Sloane:all of a sudden, the world opens up. And, you know, I really like
Mary Sloane:to help people. I often say to people, well, when I sit in a
Mary Sloane:Zoom meeting, and don't we all live on Zoom. I have press logos
Mary Sloane:around me when I don't when I'm not on camera. So that
Mary Sloane:immediately tells people she's different. I love to show people
Mary Sloane:how they can have that difference making immediately,
Mary Sloane:and how that can follow through with them and make them stand
Mary Sloane:out in a crowd.
Candy Motzek:I've got a question about influencer, just
Candy Motzek:the word influencer? How would you define it?
Mary Sloane:I would define influencer as someone making a
Mary Sloane:difference in the world. And it's not a social media
Mary Sloane:influencer. As far as I'm concerned. That's a bad rap on
Mary Sloane:the word influencer. Because they have an audience that may
Mary Sloane:follow them or may not follow them. You go through what I
Mary Sloane:think are the bad parts of social media, where you garner a
Mary Sloane:following, not real connections. And I think the connection is
Mary Sloane:what's really important. And influencers, in my opinion,
Mary Sloane:really value the connections, they want people to like them by
Mary Sloane:being helpful, and being a system to others. And when
Mary Sloane:that's your modus operandi, the world gets easier because people
Mary Sloane:come to me.
Candy Motzek:Yeah, and I think that that's really interesting,
Candy Motzek:right? This. So this definition is, is different than a lot of
Candy Motzek:the common terms in online business. And this idea of
Candy Motzek:making an impact serving people going out to help people and
Candy Motzek:then creating a business because of the relationship and the
Candy Motzek:connections that you're making. And so, you know, when when you
Candy Motzek:said this piece about well, then if you've only got 200 followers
Candy Motzek:on LinkedIn, who's going to believe you but actually if you
Candy Motzek:could influence like, actually connect and support 200 people,
Candy Motzek:that's more than enough. What do you think?
Mary Sloane:Well, it's true, that's more than enough. But it
Mary Sloane:comes with a lot of people will reach out Want to connect with
Mary Sloane:you? And they do have something that they'd like to sell you.
Mary Sloane:Fair enough. That's it's a business platform. And they're
Mary Sloane:not really open all the time to something else. That doesn't
Mary Sloane:mean that I can't be friends with them. It doesn't mean I
Mary Sloane:can't connect with them. I made CS muddy, I can refer them to,
Mary Sloane:which is the whole purpose of LinkedIn in some respects is,
Mary Sloane:who are you? And how can I help you and who can I refer you to.
Mary Sloane:But there's a lot of fear around LinkedIn, I find in that people
Mary Sloane:expect to be sold to. And so there's that what you have to
Mary Sloane:overcome. And a lot of people that I connect with aren't
Mary Sloane:necessarily my ideal target audience. I'll see if I can help
Mary Sloane:them if I can great, if not their connection, and it adds to
Mary Sloane:their credibility.
Candy Motzek:Yeah, so a lot of the listeners that listen to
Candy Motzek:this program, are successful in their life, and now they're
Candy Motzek:transitioning into adding maybe a side business as a coach, or
Candy Motzek:maybe they're going to move into being a full time coach,
Candy Motzek:specifically with LinkedIn, and using your approach of
Candy Motzek:influence, what would you suggest are the first steps for
Candy Motzek:them to take?
Mary Sloane:Well, first of all, as a marketer, because that's my
Mary Sloane:background, and I've been marketing online for quite a
Mary Sloane:while, is message Market Match, you have to know who you are
Mary Sloane:speaking to. And you have to know what you are offering to
Mary Sloane:them. Because everybody that I talked to who's relatively new
Mary Sloane:to this whole world of online marketing, etc, goes, but I can
Mary Sloane:help everybody. And that's what we think. But people can't hear
Mary Sloane:that. Because if you have a message, and you go out there, I
Mary Sloane:can help everybody. And people don't know whether you can
Mary Sloane:really help them, there's a kind of disbelief about you can help
Mary Sloane:everybody you don't know me well enough is is the to know whether
Mary Sloane:or not you can help me. Whereas if I say, I help, you know,
Mary Sloane:coaches, authors, speakers, now they know who I'm talking to.
Mary Sloane:And especially when I add change makers, because I'm not helping
Mary Sloane:just everybody, I'm looking for people who really want to stand
Mary Sloane:out in the world, want to help make the world a better place.
Mary Sloane:And so that, of course, helps me find the right audience.
Candy Motzek:So knowing who you want to help, what exactly are
Candy Motzek:the kinds of things that you can help them with, and then using a
Candy Motzek:very clear message to make that connection so that they can
Candy Motzek:actually start creating that relationship, the beginning of a
Candy Motzek:building a little bit of trust, to create a further
Candy Motzek:relationship? Yeah, yeah. Oh, I hear you. Wow, we've covered a
Candy Motzek:lot. I really appreciate the time that you've spent, and I
Candy Motzek:know that my listeners are going to get a lot out of it. Because
Candy Motzek:so many of them are professionals, they definitely
Candy Motzek:have presence on LinkedIn. And so your guidance is really going
Candy Motzek:to be helpful. So people who have heard Mary, and if they
Candy Motzek:want to find out a little bit more about you, what is the best
Candy Motzek:way for them to get in touch? What is the best way to find out
Candy Motzek:more about you?
Mary Sloane:Sure. So it's linkedin.com forward slash i n
Mary Sloane:forward slash marry dash k dash Sloan. And that spelled s as in
Mary Sloane:Sam, L O A. N as in Nancy, E. And lots of times, swans now
Mary Sloane:become a first name and doesn't have any on it. But mine's a
Mary Sloane:last name and it has an E on it. Okay, awesome. Well,
Candy Motzek:very, thank you. This has been great. It was so
Candy Motzek:nice to meet you. And I know that there's lots of people that
Candy Motzek:could really use this these thoughts about creating
Candy Motzek:relationships to be influencing and be an influencer. And
Candy Motzek:specifically on LinkedIn. Thanks again for your time. And welcome
Candy Motzek:to she coaches coaches. So let me tell you a little bit about
Candy Motzek:Steve, Steve and I have just met like, five minutes ago, were
Candy Motzek:taking part in a really interesting event called PATA
Candy Motzek:palooza. And here is some of what you need to know about him.
Candy Motzek:So he is a Canadian, as EMI and he is an award winning global
Candy Motzek:speaker and he's been doing this for over 30 years. He trains and
Candy Motzek:mentor Here's executives, thought leaders and professional
Candy Motzek:speakers around the world. He's got all kinds of accolades and
Candy Motzek:letters behind his name. And you'll see them when you look at
Candy Motzek:the Episode notes. But I'm not going to tell you those now. I
Candy Motzek:think the most interesting thing is that he travels the world, or
Candy Motzek:at least he did before COVID. And together with his wife,
Candy Motzek:Jane, he travels the world they speak, they train, they mentor,
Candy Motzek:and they help those people that they connect with. And of
Candy Motzek:course, the people that that impacts through the spoken word.
Candy Motzek:So welcome. I'm so pleased that you're here. Tell me about the
Candy Motzek:kinds of things that you do.
Steve Lowell:Sure. So as you said, my wife, Jane and I were
Steve Lowell:traveling around the world, now we do it virtually. And we work
Steve Lowell:with a number of different groups. But primarily, here's
Steve Lowell:what we do is, you know, there's so many experts in this world
Steve Lowell:and coaches are a big part of this, you know, this candy is, a
Steve Lowell:lot of these coaches, they've got these great stories, this is
Steve Lowell:some of the reasons why they come into coaching, they got
Steve Lowell:great stories, and they got great experience, and they got
Steve Lowell:great wisdom, and they want to take all of these things. And
Steve Lowell:what they want to do is help people with what they've
Steve Lowell:learned. And they'll do that through podcasts and through
Steve Lowell:writing books and through speaking. And so what I do is I
Steve Lowell:help them craft a message because a lot of them really
Steve Lowell:have this massive story. And it needs to be condensed into a
Steve Lowell:message that is digestible through all the different
Steve Lowell:formats in which we share our messages. And so the primary
Steve Lowell:thing that I do is I help experts, coaches, teachers,
Steve Lowell:authors, entrepreneurs, help them craft the message that they
Steve Lowell:need to be received by their audience in a way that the
Steve Lowell:audience can receive it. So a lot of my clients have big
Steve Lowell:stories, big, catastrophic events that may have happened in
Steve Lowell:their lives, and they don't know how to craft and deliver those
Steve Lowell:stories. So my job is to help them learn to craft those
Steve Lowell:messages, position the audience so that the audience can receive
Steve Lowell:those messages well, and then deliver those, those messages.
Steve Lowell:And my clientele has gone from, you know, aspiring speakers to
Steve Lowell:award winning national, international professional
Steve Lowell:speakers and everything sort of in between. But it's sort of the
Steve Lowell:messaging that really is where we focus on my wife, Jane is a
Steve Lowell:mindset coach, she's known around the world as the seven
Steve Lowell:figure mindset mentor. So she helps people develop the mindset
Steve Lowell:and the belief system that they need to stand in front of an
Steve Lowell:audience live or virtual, and actually release what's inside
Steve Lowell:of them that they may have been holding back their whole lives.
Candy Motzek:Wow, that's amazing. I love that. What an
Candy Motzek:amazing partnership you have with your wife. So considering
Candy Motzek:that most of the people who listen to this podcast are
Candy Motzek:coaches, they're relatively new coaches, but they have
Candy Motzek:experienced being successful individuals in their own right,
Candy Motzek:what would be the first place that you would have them? Look,
Steve Lowell:the first thing that I would have them do is
Steve Lowell:look at how they're explaining what they do and who they are.
Steve Lowell:Because there are some patterns that I see in not just coaches,
Steve Lowell:a lot of entrepreneurs, but particularly coaches. And so
Steve Lowell:I'll ask them questions like, you know, if there were 10 of
Steve Lowell:you standing against the wall, why would I pick you? And there
Steve Lowell:are certain answers that come up all the time. And there are
Steve Lowell:answers like this, well, I've got a certain amount of
Steve Lowell:experience, or I've got certain amount of education, or I've
Steve Lowell:been there myself, you know, I have the experience that my
Steve Lowell:clients have, I give great customer service. And those are
Steve Lowell:very standard answers of differentiation. And the first
Steve Lowell:thing I help them to do is understand that those are not
Steve Lowell:differentiators. They might be selling features. But every
Steve Lowell:other coach on the planet that they speak to is going to give
Steve Lowell:some version of that same answer. So then they usually go
Steve Lowell:to their story, they'll say, Well, nobody has my story. And
Steve Lowell:and help them to understand that's true. Nobody has your
Steve Lowell:story. But most of the other coaches have a story. And so
Steve Lowell:they're claiming a story, which makes everybody kind of sound
Steve Lowell:the same. So I try and shift their belief systems around
Steve Lowell:differentiating themselves, and then help them understand that
Steve Lowell:there's a different way to differentiate without using the
Steve Lowell:same, you know, sales techniques, or the same sales
Steve Lowell:processes as everybody else. So that's the first thing. Because
Steve Lowell:if I don't give them that understanding first, then the
Steve Lowell:messaging usually sounds the same as everybody else's. So the
Steve Lowell:messaging has to be profoundly different from everybody else's,
Steve Lowell:what I tell them is, you know, you don't have to be different
Steve Lowell:from anybody else. You're a life coach, you don't have to be
Steve Lowell:different from any other life coach, but you do have to appear
Steve Lowell:to be different in order to stand out. So my job is to help
Steve Lowell:them appear to be different. So the first thing that has to
Steve Lowell:happen is they need to wrap their mind around that concept.
Candy Motzek:So appearing to be different. You know, and when I
Candy Motzek:think of coaches, you know, coaches, it's kind of an odd
Candy Motzek:name, coaching skills. Now there's an important thing. But
Candy Motzek:being a coach is sort of a weird, generic amorphous thing.
Candy Motzek:It is. So that's really interesting. So to look at
Candy Motzek:somebody's story, and then realize that getting hooked into
Candy Motzek:the story may not be the most effective way of approaching
Candy Motzek:that new client or approaching that new relationship. So what's
Candy Motzek:next? What would you do next with somebody Yeah,
Steve Lowell:so let me give you an example of where this would
Steve Lowell:go. And then I'll explain what we would do next after that. So
Steve Lowell:I'll give you this example that I use with audiences all over
Steve Lowell:the world and only take a minute. So what I do is I'll ask
Steve Lowell:an audience, I'll say, put up your hand, if you or somebody
Steve Lowell:you know, is in the market for a tennis instructor, you know,
Steve Lowell:say, put up your hand, and nobody's hand ever goes up. And
Steve Lowell:then I will say, you know, there's 100 people here, let's
Steve Lowell:say, I'm gonna say that 30 of you are either in the market for
Steve Lowell:a tennis instructor right now, or you know, somebody who is,
Steve Lowell:and then they're kind of thinking, well, how are you
Steve Lowell:going to show that? You know, so? So I say, let me tell you
Steve Lowell:about this guy named Brian, Brian came to me about 17 years
Steve Lowell:ago, he said, Steve, I'm, you know, I'm having a hard time
Steve Lowell:getting the business. I'm meeting the people, I'm talking
Steve Lowell:to them. I'm collecting the business cards going all in
Steve Lowell:meetings, I'm doing all these things. I'm not getting the
Steve Lowell:business I need. I said, Well, Brian, what do you do, he said,
Steve Lowell:I'm a tennis instructor. And we see what the market is for
Steve Lowell:tennis instructors and coaches do this very same thing. So we
Steve Lowell:taught Brian, this principle about you don't have to be
Steve Lowell:different, but you do after you appear to be different. And we
Steve Lowell:tell them that you appear to be different by changing the way
Steve Lowell:you think about your market, and changing the way you speak about
Steve Lowell:yourself. So if you saw Brian today, he would say something
Steve Lowell:like this, you said, Brian, what do you do, he would say
Steve Lowell:something like, Well, you know how sometimes kids have all this
Steve Lowell:energy, and they get, you know, they're bouncing off the walls,
Steve Lowell:and the parents get so frustrated, because they have no
Steve Lowell:idea what to do with these energetic kids, you'd say, well,
Steve Lowell:what I do is I take kids of any age, I bring them on a tennis
Steve Lowell:court. And I absolutely exhaust them. And then I hand it back to
Steve Lowell:their parents. I asked the audience, I put up your hand, if
Steve Lowell:you know somebody who might be in the market for a tennis
Steve Lowell:instructor, and all of a sudden, everybody else everybody's hands
Steve Lowell:go up. So the point and it happens every single time all
Steve Lowell:over the world. And so the point about this is, is when you
Steve Lowell:change the way you think about what your market needs as a
Steve Lowell:coach, and you change the way you respond to that market, in
Steve Lowell:terms of how you speak about yourself, just changing the way
Steve Lowell:you think changing the way you think can literally mean the
Steve Lowell:difference between I'm not interested and tell me more. And
Steve Lowell:so this is the concept of understanding that all of the
Steve Lowell:differentiators that we think separate us from everybody else
Steve Lowell:really make us sound and look exactly the same as everybody
Steve Lowell:else. So once we get that understanding, the next step is
Steve Lowell:to start working on how they think about their market. And
Steve Lowell:there's a whole process about that. But here, here's the sort
Steve Lowell:of the crux of it is this is we need to understand that your
Steve Lowell:market is not looking for, for a coach of any kind, your market
Steve Lowell:is looking for something else, they're looking for a desired
Steve Lowell:outcome. And oftentimes, they don't even know what that
Steve Lowell:desired outcome is. And so there's this process I use
Steve Lowell:called Deep Thought strategy. And what what we need to do is,
Steve Lowell:we need to demonstrate a unique understanding of our clients or
Steve Lowell:our markets condition, from a perspective they have never
Steve Lowell:before. And so we start looking for that. So how can I
Steve Lowell:demonstrate how get in front of an audience or a group or a
Steve Lowell:prospect, and demonstrate that I have a unique understanding of
Steve Lowell:your world of your condition, from a perspective you have
Steve Lowell:never considered before and so that you can make you go, you
Steve Lowell:know, I've never actually thought of it like that before.
Steve Lowell:And that's how you differentiate without spending all this time
Steve Lowell:and money on on branding, you know, like James Mellon check
Steve Lowell:was saying on a program, you were you and I have been on, you
Steve Lowell:know, don't spend lots of money on branding to stand out. But
Steve Lowell:the messaging is mission critical. And so that's kind of
Steve Lowell:where we go with all of this.
Candy Motzek:So what I'm hearing is, and correct me where
Candy Motzek:I'm wrong. Is that thinking about your client, your
Candy Motzek:potential client, what's really going on for them, like what's
Candy Motzek:really bugging them? And then So in your example of the tenants
Candy Motzek:tennis instructor, we're not talking to the kids, we're not
Candy Motzek:talking to the teenagers, you're talking to the parents who are
Candy Motzek:experiencing a challenge. That is a common everyday challenge.
Candy Motzek:Like, you know, most people who have children, that is one of
Candy Motzek:the things is they got a lot of energy, and we want them to grow
Candy Motzek:up healthy and strong. And talking to their challenge as
Candy Motzek:opposed to setting the here's the, the, the fill in the box
Candy Motzek:problem that I solve, talk to the emotional challenge, as
Candy Motzek:opposed to saying, I'm a tennis instructor. Do you want tennis,
Candy Motzek:when really what the challenge is, is they want their children
Candy Motzek:to be healthy and strong and to burn the energy so that they can
Candy Motzek:enjoy the relationship or they help their kids grow. Is that
Candy Motzek:what I'm hearing?
Steve Lowell:You're very, very close.
Candy Motzek:I mean, you're 100% Correct. Yes. Well, but and
Candy Motzek:I want to hear where the differences that's
Steve Lowell:okay. It's not a yes, but it's a yes. And I got
Steve Lowell:it. Okay. Yes. And is this Yes, you do all those things, and you
Steve Lowell:need to be able to tie that problem into your solution in a
Steve Lowell:way that makes them go. I've never, I've never put those two
Steve Lowell:together before audits. Okay. See, and so this is a thing
Steve Lowell:about Brian, the tennis instructor and And I mean,
Steve Lowell:that's just, you know, that's a simple example of the whole
Steve Lowell:thing. But it kind of makes the point doesn't it? And, and so
Steve Lowell:it's, it's about, I've never considered what you do as a
Steve Lowell:solution to this problem.
Candy Motzek:And that creates enough of a question in the
Candy Motzek:person's mind to sit up and take notice. Right?
Steve Lowell:Right. And they go, I've never thought lovely
Steve Lowell:out of that connection before. And so that's dumb. And that's
Steve Lowell:what I call demonstrating your unique understanding of their
Steve Lowell:condition, from a perspective they have never considered
Steve Lowell:before.
Candy Motzek:Super. Gosh, Steve, that's been so so
Candy Motzek:helpful. And we don't have a lot of time. So we're going to wrap
Candy Motzek:it up now. What do I want to ask you? Yeah. First, I will put
Candy Motzek:your website in the Episode Notes. So for any of the
Candy Motzek:listeners who are listening, you can find out more about Steve
Candy Motzek:there. But let's just finish up what one tip would you offer,
Candy Motzek:just in the last minute for that person? That's just like, just
Candy Motzek:give me one tip, what do I do? Where do I start?
Steve Lowell:I would start by thinking differently about your
Steve Lowell:target market, your prospects. And instead of thinking about
Steve Lowell:the problems you solve, as a coach, start thinking about the
Steve Lowell:problems they're experiencing, that they might not associate
Steve Lowell:with what you do. Think deeper, beyond the immediate results of
Steve Lowell:your skills, the immediate results of what you do, and what
Steve Lowell:are the deeper life implications of what you do. And talk to
Steve Lowell:those, instead of the obvious problems that you solve. That
Steve Lowell:will be the first
Candy Motzek:thing that is so helpful. Thank you. I really
Candy Motzek:appreciate your gift of information and the help that
Candy Motzek:you've offered to my listeners. And I've learned stuff, too. I
Candy Motzek:really appreciate that. Thank you very much. Is there anything
Candy Motzek:that you'd like to share with the audience before we wrap
Steve Lowell:up? Well, just that, you know, candy, I've seen
Steve Lowell:your podcast, I've listened to some of your podcasts. I love
Steve Lowell:the work that you're doing. And I want to praise and recognize
Steve Lowell:you for your contribution, a contribution to to our
Steve Lowell:collective community as coaches and speakers and authors and
Steve Lowell:consultants, and congratulate you on bringing so many people
Steve Lowell:to share their wisdom on your podcast.
Candy Motzek:Thank you so much. All right. Okay, listeners, that
Candy Motzek:was amazing. Go check out Steve's website. Find out more
Candy Motzek:about this, you're going to learn so much by getting into
Candy Motzek:his world. Thanks again. And we'll talk to you next week.
Candy Motzek:Wasn't that an interesting episode for different
Candy Motzek:individuals for complete completely different businesses
Candy Motzek:for completely unique skill sets and gifts. I'm so glad you
Candy Motzek:joined me for this episode. And as I said, if any of those
Candy Motzek:people really speak to you, if they really resonate with you,
Candy Motzek:check out the Episode notes. I've got all of their
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