Ask An Expert: Your Guided Health Journey with Melissa Deally-Ep: 093

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Hey welcome to sheet coaches coaches, I'm your

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host, Kandi motsek. And I'm going to help you find the

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clarity, confidence and courage to become the coach that you are

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meant to be. If you're a new coach, or if you've always

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wanted to be a life coach, then this is the place for you. We're

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going to talk all about mindset and strategies and how to

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because step by step only works when you have the clarity,

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courage and confidence to take action. Let's get started.

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Hi, everyone, and welcome to this episode of she coaches

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coaches. Today, I have got a special guest episode, I'm using

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these Ask the Expert episodes to bring all kinds of different

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perspectives to you, and windows into different types of

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coaching. And really just from this, this place of if you could

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see what some of the other people are doing in the coaching

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and more integrated areas, it might open possibilities up for

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you. So let me introduce you to my guest. Her name is Melissa.

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And she worked in corporate. You guys know this thing, right?

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This corporate world shows up in a lot of these episodes. She was

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in corporate for 24 years, until as she says, One day a big fish

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bought the little fish. And here's the more important part.

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And then she was given one hour to clear out her desk, and no

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word of thanks, like big clunk there. So this led Melissa on a

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journey to reinvent herself. And seven years later, she is an

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integrative health practitioner, and registered health coach.

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She's dedicated to helping her clients discover the root cause

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of their health issues, and truly heal. But it wasn't always

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that way. Now Melissa's business is 100%, virtual, she works with

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the entire English speaking world. And she uses a two prong

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approach. Let me just read this to you because it's fascinating.

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And then I'm going to let her dive in and tell us more about

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it. She helps you to discover your toxic load and lower it.

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And also to discover your body's imbalances and support it with

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natural supplements and herbs. So the body can come back into

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balance, at which point it will heal itself. And this is done

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through the use of functional medicine lab tests that are

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mailed to your home. She's a very, very interesting

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professional. And I really wanted you to hear her message.

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Melissa, welcome. Glad you're here today.

Melissa Deally: 00:02:47

Thank you so much for having me candy. I'm

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excited to be here and have this conversation with you. So tell

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me,

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it's such a fascinating bio. Tell me a

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little bit more about the journey. I would love to hear

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more about it.

Melissa Deally: 00:03:01

Thank you candy. And when I go back to that

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moment in time, which was such a momentous shift in my life of

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being let go after 24 years. I knew three things in that moment

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as I was clearing out my desk, that I wasn't ever going to work

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for someone else again, that whatever I did next had to be of

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more benefit to humanity and the planet. And that three, I had no

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idea what I was going to do next. But I was open to being

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guided and guided I was later that year, I stumbled upon a

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company that specialized in brain health supplementation.

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And I thought, well, that's interesting, because I use my

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brain 24/7 And no one's ever told me that I could be doing

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more for my brain. And I knew there was near epidemic rates of

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Alzheimer's and dementia over here. But I also knew that I had

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a grandmother, who was 99 at the time, still living at home by

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herself fully caring for herself fully cognitively functioning.

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So I thought, well, I want to be on her path. And I wondered

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though, okay, I have good genes, but is that enough in today's

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world, and it got me thinking about her life. She was born in

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little Christchurch, New Zealand in 1916, before World War Two in

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the advent of all our toxins we have today and growing all their

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own food on the property. And I was actually raised in Tokyo,

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Japan, in the 1970s during the height of manufacturing plants

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spilling out toxins. We've all seen those photos of

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manufacturing plants spewing toxins out into the atmosphere.

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So I realized right there that I was behind the eight ball

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relative to my grandmother because I was going to be way

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more toxic. And so I thought well, I want to do more for my

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brain is the starting point and I jumped in started learning

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about the brain and learning about toxicity toxic load on our

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body and how that it was impacting our health and for

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about four months later, my oldest daughter got a concussion

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in her first grade 12 soccer game of the season. And she had

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just started using this brain supplement and was on the way to

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soccer game saying it was really helping her focus during class

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in the afternoon, I started going to all of her appointments

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with her, because a I had started building relationships

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with a physiotherapist because of this nutrition for the brain.

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But also because she didn't have the cognitive ability to go and

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then come home and tell me what they'd said she should be doing

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so I could, you know, help support her during the week

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between her appointments. And so I continued my learning about

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the brain. Two months after that, my second daughter got a

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concussion, I was driving to Vancouver, and I got a phone

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call from the high schools asking me to go pick her up

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because she had a suspected concussion from grade eight gym

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class. In that moment, I literally looked out my

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windshield across the ocean up at the heavens, and when really,

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this is how you show me my path. Stop taking out my children. So

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now I have two very different concussions in the household,

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great nutrition for the brain and started going to both sets

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of appointments. And that was kind of the birth of your guided

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health journey, because I realized what other people do

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that don't have a mom that is conveniently not working right

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now. Everything happens for us, right? Yes, yeah. to guide their

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healing journey.

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And it just means me think about it makes me think

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about concussion management, and how that is such an ongoing

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issue. So many developments in that area. I'm really interested

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in how you had the supplementation, along with the

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management. And then thankfully, of course, that you are able to

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put the time and the energy into supporting your daughter's

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recovery. So yeah, continue. Just I just wanted to kind of

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chime in there. I'm like the voice of the listener in your

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ears.

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No problem at all. And so yes, I continued

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learning as I continued guiding my daughters and supporting

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them. And we live in a small town. So people knew our story

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and started calling me and saying, Oh, my husband has got a

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concussion. What do I do I have an employee with a concussion.

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What do I do? My child has a concussion, what do I do? And I

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was invited around that same time to work at a holistic

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clinic that was opening to support to the many people with

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concussions. I live in Whistler, BC downhill ski resort in the

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winter, a downhill biking resort in the summer, right, lots of

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concussions, and lots of experts. But nobody was bringing

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the nutritional piece to it that I had, as well as, luckily for

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all of the other practitioners, they hadn't actually had

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concussions. And so what I was hearing from people is they

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really loved working with me, because I truly knew what they

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were going through. And I had that empathy. And I wasn't just

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telling them go do this. I was explaining why they needed to be

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doing things and how it might feel and how they needed to be

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listening to their bodies, et cetera, et cetera. They just

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felt more supported. And so the next thing that kind of threw a

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spanner in my works and got me onto the right path was it I

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couldn't actually work at that clinic until I had insurance,

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liability insurance, which I couldn't get because no

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insurance company would touch me because I had no education. I

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simply had experience and my own research and knowledge, which is

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education, but it wasn't a certified education. Oh, yeah,

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yeah. Right. So at this point, I decided, okay, I should become a

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life coach, which had been floating around in the back of

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my head ever since I've been let go. But it hadn't landed. But I

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thought, okay, now's the time, I need to do this. And I contact a

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friend who is a life coach and a very successful life coach, I

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said, Where did you do your training? I'd like to do a life

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coaching course where you did yours. And he just said to me,

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you don't want to be a life coach. You need to be a health

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coach. And I went, Wow, what's that? Like? I never heard the

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term before. But again, it was just another like complete

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download gift from the universe, right? It landed immediately,

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which is why the life coaching had never landed since I've been

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let go, because in this time, a good 18 months is fast. And so I

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started Googling health coaching courses, found one that I

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absolutely loved. And literally within 10 days, I'd started with

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their next cohort. And from there, I never looked back like

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I knew I'd landed I knew I'd found my purpose, my passion,

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and I couldn't get enough of it. And again, over the course of

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two years, because I did several levels of it. I did my life

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coaching but I just didn't have the same passion for it, but it

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was included as an add on course so I went ahead and did it. They

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then introduced me to the integrative health practitioner

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organization. And when I saw the work of Dr. Steven Cooper, all

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and The ability to run functional medicine lab test to

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see what is going on inside the body, and where those imbalances

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are, and how we can support the body and coming back into

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balance. And it will heal itself because that's what it's

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designed to do. That's when I knew that's the path I want to

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go down. Because people need to see that, right, we don't see

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what's going on inside our body, we don't see the toxins inside.

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We don't realize when we're living in a state of chronic

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stress, we're burning through our vitamins and minerals and

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becoming depleted. We don't realize when our gut is in

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dysbiosis, or, you know, that's another word of saying out of

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balance, or you might have bacterial overgrowth, yeast

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overgrowth, all of these things that can happen for so many

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reasons in today's world, when we get in that state, our body

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can't heal. When we create the environment for it to heal, when

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we know what's going on, it will heal very, very quickly. And

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that's what I love about our body. And so that was my

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journey,

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just a sec, there's so there's a couple of

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things here that I want people to really notice is that along

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the way, and it's not that it always has to be this way. But

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your experience, and especially how you described it so

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eloquently is that there were sort of milestones or critical

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events that happened, critical questions that were answered.

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And but so often, in your case, it was along with something that

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was difficult, you know, a daughter that was injured,

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another daughter that was injured, a loss of a job. And so

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I really want the you know, the listeners to know that, to be

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able to take that step back and get that perspective. Sometimes

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you're not going to get that perspective, looking forward. Or

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in the moment, you've had lots of water under the bridge, and

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you've taken those those events. And you could have left them as

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very difficult events, but you took them and you change them.

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You took them and you use a new perspective, you use them as a

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springboard to the next thing. And so I really want the

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listeners to think about that. What has happened in your life,

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that maybe if you had a fresh perspective, you could look at

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this as a guided place, like Melissa's website is your guided

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health journey. Where are you being guided to become the coach

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that you are meant to be? Where is your life giving you signs?

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So just wanted to interject and sort of layer that on there,

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because I think it's like, you've got such a great story.

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But we forget that it didn't happen in the five minutes that

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you explained it to us every single time you had to turn

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around and look for meaning every single time you had to

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learn around it and reframe it and get a new perspective and

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then still keep moving forward. And so I just really wanted to

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honor that.

Melissa Deally: 00:13:06

Well, thank you very much. And you're so right.

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And still today. I am reminded of this yesterday, I was doing a

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podcast interview and we were talking about the fact that

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things happen for us, not to us. So exactly as you say, when it's

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happening for us when we can put ourselves in that mindset and

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step back and say, What am I supposed to learn from this, we

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can give ourselves that space to move forward instead of feeling

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all upset that it's not working out the way we want beating

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ourselves up and kind of getting stuck in that place. Right. And

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so there was a lot of personal growth through this time, for me

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a lot of reading a lot of, you know, digging into a number of

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different books, et cetera. And right now I'm reading atomic

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habits with my book club group. And we just started it we

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literally to chapter one yesterday. And in that book,

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he's talking about how nobody is an overnight success. We think

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they are because we don't know the story of the 10 years of

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hard work that it took them before they suddenly shot to

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being famous, right? But overnight success isn't a thing.

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It's hitting, you know, atomic habits he's talking about. It's

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the it's the success comes from the habits that you build upon,

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build upon build upon and the consistency that you take with

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those habits over time. And so I totally agree with what you're

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saying that it is a journey. And a lot some of our greatest wins

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come from the difficulties that we encounter along the way,

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because they're there to teach us something. They're there to

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change my path. Health and wellness was never ever on my

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radar. In my conscious world, I should say. I went to

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university, I did a commerce degree. I went into accounting.

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I flipped out of that into sales because I spoke Japanese and it

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was the heyday of Japanese coming here and I loved it. And

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then from there Still, when I was let go health and wellness

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was not on my radar. But it was I was pointed in this direction.

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And when I got here, as I said, I couldn't believe how much I

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loved it. I knew I'd landed, I couldn't stop studying, I wanted

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to learn more and more and more. Because I finally found my path

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and purpose. And what's super interesting is I had my Akashic

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Records read at the end of December 30, December 2020. And

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those are the that's the library of your your souls library,

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right. And I learned that I'd been a healer. In all my past

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lives, I'd been a white, which I had been a wizard, I come from

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the Mary Magdalene alliances, that was super fascinating to

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me, but gave me even more clarity, because I wondered how

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can I absorb all of this information so quickly?

Candy Motzek: 00:15:48

Well, and the perfect answer to the question,

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but you would never have even asked the question. If you

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hadn't been at that part. Right? Exactly. weren't ready, you

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weren't ready for the answer? Because you don't even know the

Candy Motzek: 00:16:02

question exists. Exactly. Fascinating. Yeah. And it just

Candy Motzek: 00:16:08

makes me Well, sorry, you can see my little brain here. If

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anybody is looking at the video, you'll see my brain, I've got

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five different questions happening at one time. Let's

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just focus down a little bit more on how you work with

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people. And the purpose of this is to give that window for other

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coaches who are listening thinking, like maybe they know

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coaching is for them, but maybe they feel like they're, I don't

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know, it's kind of like when you have your your cross country

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skis and the grooves and one ski is not quite in that groove,

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like, you know, you're kind of almost there, but not quite. So

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talk more about how you work with people, because maybe

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somebody else can hear that and find that groove for themselves.

Melissa Deally: 00:16:57

I love that analogy, being a cross country

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skier. So I know exactly what you're talking about. My entry

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program with every single person I work with, is my detox

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program, which I offer as a group program or a one to one

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program, but they must do a detox. And the reason for that

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is that if we're going to be running labs, and we're going to

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be discovering those deficiencies, and we're going to

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be putting in healing protocols, et cetera, et cetera, I want

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those healing protocols to be effective, I want them to get to

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the cells that need them. And if we've got a whole bunch of toxic

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mush inside our body that we do have, we just don't see it. The

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effectiveness of the healing protocol is much, much less, I

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liken it to the image of an overflowing garbage bin in a

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city park, we've all seen that it's overflowing, you come along

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and you put a healthy apple on top. Where does that Apple land

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on the ground next to the garbage bin, it does not go down

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inside where we want it to go. And that's the same even if we

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start putting healthy stuff into our body, it's not getting to

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the cells that need it. But when we clear our detox pathways,

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then everything can get to the cells that need it, and people

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get results. And even in my detox, which is a 21 day detox,

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people get results inside those three weeks. And here's the

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thing that I found really powerful that other coaches can

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figure out for their own business. The detox price point

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is a pretty low range price point, when you look at the

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value people get out of it. But what it does is many people come

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to me and they're hesitant about detoxes, they've maybe got

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health issues going on and they're struggling to get

Melissa Deally: 00:18:36

answers. You don't know if I can really help them because so many

Melissa Deally: 00:18:39

other people haven't. But in three weeks, their

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transformation begins. And they start to believe that they're on

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the right track. And when they believe they're on the right

Melissa Deally: 00:18:52

track. And they then that's when their healing can truly start

Melissa Deally: 00:18:56

happening. Right. So in three weeks, people will notice their

Melissa Deally: 00:18:59

inflammation goes down. So aches and pains go away, they might

Melissa Deally: 00:19:02

start sleeping better, they might have less brain fog, more

Melissa Deally: 00:19:05

mental clarity, there's so many benefits to a detox and each

Melissa Deally: 00:19:09

person has their own results that you know, kind of all

Melissa Deally: 00:19:12

overlap into about 10 different common benefits, right? Even

Melissa Deally: 00:19:17

just one benefit. And they're like, Oh wow, there's something

Melissa Deally: 00:19:21

to this, I've finally found the person that can help me. And so

Melissa Deally: 00:19:25

that's powerful for building that relationship, and then

Melissa Deally: 00:19:28

building them into further work with me, whether that be lab

Melissa Deally: 00:19:32

tests, you know, one to one coaching, etc. Another group

Melissa Deally: 00:19:36

program, whatever that is, because they now know that their

Melissa Deally: 00:19:41

body truly can heal itself. It is what it was designed to do.

Melissa Deally: 00:19:45

We're just not taught that through our education system. We

Melissa Deally: 00:19:49

think you know, many of us think that I get sick, I go to the

Melissa Deally: 00:19:52

doctor, they give me a pill they make me better. But the reality

Melissa Deally: 00:19:55

is, that's a lot of pressure to put on our doctors. They don't

Melissa Deally: 00:19:58

make you better They're trying to help them do the best they

Melissa Deally: 00:20:01

can, the system is pretty broken, you know, seven minute

Melissa Deally: 00:20:04

appointments, 15 minute appointments, they don't get to

Melissa Deally: 00:20:07

know your whole health history at cetera, et cetera. But it

Melissa Deally: 00:20:10

ultimately it's you that's responsible for your health. And

Melissa Deally: 00:20:15

when you find a doctor or somebody that you can work in

Melissa Deally: 00:20:18

partnership with, that's when you can get the results that you

Melissa Deally: 00:20:23

want. And so that's what I offer somebody to work in partnership

Melissa Deally: 00:20:26

with me, and I guide them, because the other piece that's

Melissa Deally: 00:20:29

really important is the body doesn't heal in a stress state.

Melissa Deally: 00:20:33

So if you're trying to figure it all out on your own, you're

Melissa Deally: 00:20:37

still in that stress state. And you're not sure if you're doing

Melissa Deally: 00:20:39

it right, then you might be going to Dr. Google. And that's

Melissa Deally: 00:20:42

not the best place either, because anybody can self

Melissa Deally: 00:20:46

diagnose themselves.

Candy Motzek: 00:20:48

be sick with anything. I actually vice your

Candy Motzek: 00:20:52

med student problems.

Melissa Deally: 00:20:54

Yeah, exactly. So I ask people to stay away

Melissa Deally: 00:20:57

from Dr. Google. But that's what happens when you don't have

Melissa Deally: 00:21:00

support. When you have support, when you have someone that can

Melissa Deally: 00:21:04

show you what's going on inside your body. And this is what we

Melissa Deally: 00:21:08

need to do about it. You just need to trust in the process,

Melissa Deally: 00:21:12

you start getting the results, your trust builds your belief

Melissa Deally: 00:21:14

builds, and guess what you heal. And it's incredibly powerful,

Melissa Deally: 00:21:18

our bodies designed to heal, and our body imbalanced, doesn't get

Melissa Deally: 00:21:22

sick, doesn't harbor illness, and doesn't hold on to excess

Melissa Deally: 00:21:26

weight. The problem is, is that our lifestyle today has uh, so

Melissa Deally: 00:21:32

far out of balance, the body's to deplete to come back. And

Melissa Deally: 00:21:36

we're out of balance because of high stress, poor sleep, poor

Melissa Deally: 00:21:40

nutrition.

Candy Motzek: 00:21:40

So there's a number of parallels here, and

Candy Motzek: 00:21:45

the parts that I have heard and, you know, so from a, an

Candy Motzek: 00:21:50

educational standpoint, for the listeners to understand this way

Candy Motzek: 00:21:54

of looking at their body and creating a partnership to own

Candy Motzek: 00:21:57

their health and their recovery is very important. And at the

Candy Motzek: 00:22:01

same time for new coaches thinking about can I become a

Candy Motzek: 00:22:06

coach, is this something that I can do, whether it's a health

Candy Motzek: 00:22:10

coach, or a relationship coach, or a life coach of any type,

Candy Motzek: 00:22:13

some of the key points that you've said are, people are a

Candy Motzek: 00:22:18

little bit nervous coming in, the easiest way for them to gain

Candy Motzek: 00:22:22

trust in both themselves and in their coach is to help them get

Candy Motzek: 00:22:26

results quickly. And not just results that the coach shows

Candy Motzek: 00:22:30

them, but results that they feel themselves the change in their

Candy Motzek: 00:22:35

life, the benefit in their life. And then one of the other things

Candy Motzek: 00:22:40

that I work strongly with is belief. You know, when you

Candy Motzek: 00:22:43

believe that it's working, and you start to trust, the past is

Candy Motzek: 00:22:48

so much easier, because you're not dealing with all that

Candy Motzek: 00:22:51

resistance. So what you've described is partnership, which

Candy Motzek: 00:22:55

is massive, not trying to do it all on your own, again, massive,

Candy Motzek: 00:22:59

who wants to do everything on their own, it's a lonely, hard

Candy Motzek: 00:23:02

journey, not just for your body's health in your life, but

Candy Motzek: 00:23:06

for your emotional health and for your spiritual health as

Candy Motzek: 00:23:09

well. So a quick result, helping your client to know they're

Candy Motzek: 00:23:15

getting that result, building that trust, allowing that trust

Candy Motzek: 00:23:19

to build organically because of the expertise that you bring to

Candy Motzek: 00:23:22

them. That is the secret for having an impact on your clients

Candy Motzek: 00:23:29

lives. And when we help our clients, we can't help but be

Candy Motzek: 00:23:33

successful in all that outer and all the other ways as well. But

Candy Motzek: 00:23:38

it starts with trust, and belief, and partnership and

Candy Motzek: 00:23:43

connection. Right? What do you think

Melissa Deally: 00:23:46

you've said that so beautifully, I couldn't have

Melissa Deally: 00:23:48

said it better myself?

Candy Motzek: 00:23:50

Well, I just said what you said, but in different

Candy Motzek: 00:23:52

words,

Melissa Deally: 00:23:54

more succinctly. So I love that. And then the

Melissa Deally: 00:24:00

piece that I like to add to that, too, is that we're always

Melissa Deally: 00:24:04

working on ourselves. So in order for us to hold that space

Melissa Deally: 00:24:09

for our clients, we need to make sure we are supported as well.

Melissa Deally: 00:24:14

And so I have a couple of different coaches. I have a

Melissa Deally: 00:24:18

mentor and I have a business coach. And I've built a tribe of

Melissa Deally: 00:24:23

people around me that believe in me, which further helps me

Melissa Deally: 00:24:28

believe in myself because we all have good days and bad days,

Melissa Deally: 00:24:31

right? And when our belief dips, I've got those people to go back

Melissa Deally: 00:24:35

to to remind me that I too need to trust in the process. And I

Melissa Deally: 00:24:42

recently did another whole week of training, which was

Melissa Deally: 00:24:45

absolutely phenomenal. It was super intense. And my Word of

Melissa Deally: 00:24:48

the Week was surrender. That just came through to me loud and

Melissa Deally: 00:24:52

clear and stop trying to make it hard. It doesn't have to be

Melissa Deally: 00:24:55

hard. You can let it be easy. So you In letting it be easy that

Melissa Deally: 00:25:01

is surrendering for me. Right. And this training was NLP and

Melissa Deally: 00:25:07

then timeline therapy and hypnotherapy. So more modalities

Melissa Deally: 00:25:10

to be working with clients on their emotional and their mental

Melissa Deally: 00:25:14

beings, as in addition to the work that I do on their physical

Melissa Deally: 00:25:18

being in order to give them that really well rounded support and

Melissa Deally: 00:25:22

their healing journey. But in order for me to do that, I still

Melissa Deally: 00:25:25

have to look after me, I have to walk my talk. I, you know, I

Melissa Deally: 00:25:30

make sure I get my physical exercise in every single day, I

Melissa Deally: 00:25:33

recently bought a mirror, which I totally love so that I can do

Melissa Deally: 00:25:36

it anytime at home. I have changed the way I eat over the

Melissa Deally: 00:25:40

last seven years, because I have so many AHA eyes when I came out

Melissa Deally: 00:25:43

of the corporate world and into health coaching going, how come?

Melissa Deally: 00:25:46

I didn't know that? Why didn't someone tell me that? How is it

Melissa Deally: 00:25:50

that I'm 40 plus years old, and I don't even know this. And then

Melissa Deally: 00:25:54

I realized, because I was so busy being a mom and a wife and

Melissa Deally: 00:25:57

and working in the corporate world, I just didn't have time

Melissa Deally: 00:26:00

to learn it. And oh, wow, that probably means there's millions

Melissa Deally: 00:26:03

of other people out there that don't know, that I could share

Melissa Deally: 00:26:05

this with in bite sized pieces. And through the programs that I

Melissa Deally: 00:26:09

create, which is why I come back to education. Because I'm so

Melissa Deally: 00:26:14

passionate about all that I learned and sharing that with

Melissa Deally: 00:26:17

others that don't have time to go back to school for three plus

Melissa Deally: 00:26:21

years that I did

Candy Motzek: 00:26:22

a great resource you are for other people, right?

Candy Motzek: 00:26:25

Like, it's like they can you can be there Google?

Melissa Deally: 00:26:29

Yes. Integrity.

Candy Motzek: 00:26:33

I'm thinking about that. And the other end, that's

Candy Motzek: 00:26:36

kind of interesting to

Melissa Deally: 00:26:37

add in there very quickly. I'm the first to

Melissa Deally: 00:26:39

say, I don't know everything, it's impossible for anybody to

Melissa Deally: 00:26:42

know everything.

Candy Motzek: 00:26:44

Everything either.

Melissa Deally: 00:26:46

I now have this amazing network of other healers

Melissa Deally: 00:26:50

and doctors that I can tap into. So when people ask me questions,

Melissa Deally: 00:26:53

and I don't know the answer, I'll say, You know what? I don't

Melissa Deally: 00:26:56

know the answer to that. But let me find out and get back to you.

Melissa Deally: 00:27:00

And then I learned in the process as well.

Candy Motzek: 00:27:02

Wonderful. Yeah. There's, when you were talking

Candy Motzek: 00:27:06

about your network of people that are around you, it makes me

Candy Motzek: 00:27:12

It reminds me of the difference between this kind of business

Candy Motzek: 00:27:17

and what draws a lot of my clients to this kind of

Candy Motzek: 00:27:20

businesses that corporate often is stuck with a lot of

Candy Motzek: 00:27:24

dashboards and KPIs and measurements and

Candy Motzek: 00:27:26

competitiveness, and doing more with less, which is such a

Candy Motzek: 00:27:32

different approach than these types of businesses. The

Candy Motzek: 00:27:36

businesses have coaching, and integrative health, and this

Candy Motzek: 00:27:40

where we have collaboration, and we get the synchronicity, and we

Candy Motzek: 00:27:47

get the the, the result that is exponentially so much bigger,

Candy Motzek: 00:27:53

from what each person could do on their own. And that is

Candy Motzek: 00:27:56

something that I notice, not everywhere, of course, but has

Candy Motzek: 00:28:01

been slowly lacking and much of corporate. And I think that's

Candy Motzek: 00:28:04

one of the reasons there are so many people who want to do

Candy Motzek: 00:28:07

something different. Because they have that they know there's

Candy Motzek: 00:28:11

something more maybe they can't put their finger on it. And I'm

Candy Motzek: 00:28:14

hoping that you know, hearing your story, they can get that

Candy Motzek: 00:28:18

thought of, oh, there is something more here for me it is

Candy Motzek: 00:28:23

possible. And it can be even more than just me. It can be

Candy Motzek: 00:28:30

myself, my contribution, my clients and all the people that

Candy Motzek: 00:28:33

I gather around, who are resources and supportive. What

Candy Motzek: 00:28:38

do you think?

Melissa Deally: 00:28:39

And the ripple effect of that is powerful. And

Melissa Deally: 00:28:41

you may never know it. But you know what's happening, right? I

Melissa Deally: 00:28:44

just had an email from a woman in Australia yesterday who said,

Melissa Deally: 00:28:47

I just discovered your podcast, and oh my god, I love it. I

Melissa Deally: 00:28:50

can't wait for more episodes. Like how random is that? Right?

Melissa Deally: 00:28:55

I had no idea there were people listening in Australia. And

Melissa Deally: 00:28:58

maybe I don't know, very much. I really appreciate that. And

Melissa Deally: 00:29:03

would you mind writing a review so that more Australians can

Melissa Deally: 00:29:06

find it because your review will show up in Australia? It doesn't

Melissa Deally: 00:29:09

show up in Canada, right? So there is this massive ripple

Melissa Deally: 00:29:13

effect. And it's interesting because again, I was having a

Melissa Deally: 00:29:16

it's actually my LinkedIn post today I was talking about the

Melissa Deally: 00:29:19

movie dark waters, which I just watched this weekend after a

Melissa Deally: 00:29:22

client who had done my detox, told me about it and said, Now I

Melissa Deally: 00:29:27

understand why you're so passionate about helping people

Melissa Deally: 00:29:29

detox. It's about corporate knowingly poisoning water supply

Melissa Deally: 00:29:34

in West Virginia. And choosing to keep doing that because

Melissa Deally: 00:29:39

dollars talk. Right? Yeah, similar to the Erin Brockovich

Melissa Deally: 00:29:44

movie, et cetera, et cetera. Yeah, and that unfortunately, as

Melissa Deally: 00:29:48

I was thinking about it, corporate is so driven by making

Melissa Deally: 00:29:51

more money. It's all about making more money doing more

Melissa Deally: 00:29:54

with less you. We're gonna pay you a salary for 40 hours but we

Melissa Deally: 00:29:58

expect you to work 60 hours data Gotta right. And we get caught

Melissa Deally: 00:30:02

in this hamster wheel. And honestly, it's not fulfilling

Melissa Deally: 00:30:06

right now, how can you live in a place of joy, when you're just

Melissa Deally: 00:30:11

on this hamster wheel trying to survive still look after your

Melissa Deally: 00:30:15

family still put dinner on the table. And it's not even

Melissa Deally: 00:30:18

fulfilling. And I loved my job. But I am so much more fulfilled

Melissa Deally: 00:30:24

now in what I do, because just seeing the transformation in my

Melissa Deally: 00:30:28

clients and seeing them regain their health gives me so much

Melissa Deally: 00:30:31

joy,

Candy Motzek: 00:30:32

so much more to life. Right. And it's not and

Candy Motzek: 00:30:35

this isn't to disk corporate, it just has to, it has to sort of

Candy Motzek: 00:30:41

shine a light on an element that is present in some areas. And

Candy Motzek: 00:30:49

the more that we kind of shine that light on it, the more we

Candy Motzek: 00:30:53

realize the parts that don't work for us. And it doesn't mean

Candy Motzek: 00:30:57

that everybody who looks at something like that and goes,

Candy Motzek: 00:31:00

Oh, I don't like that doesn't mean they have to leave

Candy Motzek: 00:31:03

corporate, it means that maybe their maybe their path is in the

Candy Motzek: 00:31:07

changing

Melissa Deally: 00:31:08

of that status quo. Absolutely. And there are

Melissa Deally: 00:31:11

absolutely companies that are changing. I do sense a big shift

Melissa Deally: 00:31:14

in the world today a shift in the way people want their health

Melissa Deally: 00:31:17

care, but also a shift in the way people want their corporate

Melissa Deally: 00:31:21

work experience to be. And there are some amazing companies that

Melissa Deally: 00:31:25

are absolutely putting employees first and figuring out how can

Melissa Deally: 00:31:28

we make this better for people, you know, and realizing that if

Melissa Deally: 00:31:32

people work, you know, a three day work week and get four days

Melissa Deally: 00:31:37

off that ultimately, they're more productive in those three

Melissa Deally: 00:31:39

days, knowing that they're gonna get it all done in those three

Melissa Deally: 00:31:42

days, and they're not wasting time talking at the watercooler

Melissa Deally: 00:31:45

or looking at their phone or whatever, because they're just

Melissa Deally: 00:31:47

gonna get it done in three days, and then they get their four

Melissa Deally: 00:31:49

days off. There's amazing results from that. So there's

Melissa Deally: 00:31:52

definitely a shift that is happening. And like you said, if

Melissa Deally: 00:31:56

you're in it, you can be the driver of that change for your

Melissa Deally: 00:32:00

company.

Candy Motzek: 00:32:01

Right. Wow. Well, we covered a lot. We did. Yeah.

Candy Motzek: 00:32:08

Absolutely great having you. People find out more about you.

Candy Motzek: 00:32:13

What, what do you suggest Share, share the ways they can find out

Candy Motzek: 00:32:17

more about you?

Melissa Deally: 00:32:18

Well, the best way is my website, your guided

Melissa Deally: 00:32:21

health journey.com. I'm also on LinkedIn as Melissa daily and I

Melissa Deally: 00:32:24

post regularly there I do one minute little health hack videos

Melissa Deally: 00:32:28

three times a week, people can check out. I am on Facebook as

Melissa Deally: 00:32:32

Melissa, Delia as well. And the other thing that I'll do is I'll

Melissa Deally: 00:32:35

send you a link to my discover your toxic load quiz, which

Melissa Deally: 00:32:39

people can do to just take the quiz, find out how toxic EMI

Melissa Deally: 00:32:43

it's a bit of an aha for people where they might go, Yeah, I

Melissa Deally: 00:32:46

have that symptom. And I have that. And I have that. And I

Melissa Deally: 00:32:49

have that. And I just thought those were all aging, or I just

Melissa Deally: 00:32:52

thought they were seasonal allergies, or I just thought

Melissa Deally: 00:32:54

they were my genetics, not really realizing they could do

Melissa Deally: 00:32:57

something about it. And so you do the quiz, you get your

Melissa Deally: 00:33:00

answer. And if your score is high, guess what? nearly

Melissa Deally: 00:33:03

everyone's scores are high. But the great news is, is we can

Melissa Deally: 00:33:06

bring it down, and better to bring it down now, then wait

Melissa Deally: 00:33:10

another 10 years until that high score has started to trigger

Melissa Deally: 00:33:14

health issues. So that's a free gift I'll send to you for your

Melissa Deally: 00:33:18

clients. And once they do that quiz, they actually get invited

Melissa Deally: 00:33:22

into a complimentary call with me to discuss their results and

Melissa Deally: 00:33:26

what their health goals might be.

Candy Motzek: 00:33:28

Oh, that's wonderful. And I'll put all

Candy Motzek: 00:33:30

these links in the show notes. So anybody who's listening, I

Candy Motzek: 00:33:33

would highly encourage you to reach out to Melissa, go and get

Candy Motzek: 00:33:36

to be part of her world. Find out what your toxic load is and

Candy Motzek: 00:33:40

learn more about how to have the most amazing, vital life that

Candy Motzek: 00:33:47

you can have. Thanks again so much. All right, everyone, we'll

Candy Motzek: 00:33:50

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