Kathy McAfee is an executive coach, mentor and multiple book author - known as America's Marketing Motivator. She has built a huge network of clients over 17 years in business, through her purpose-driven work and creating real relationships. Today, Kathy’s work is aimed at helping women and people of color to be culturally aware, be competent, and overcome barriers to leadership.
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Cathy, Hello everyone, and welcome to this
week's episode of the relationships rule podcast. My
guest this week is Kathy McAfee, and I am so excited to talk to
Kathy, and I'll explain why when I have introduced her, because
she is a dynamo in a field that is very near and dear to my
heart. She is an executive coach, a mentor and author, and
is known as America's marketing motivator. She launched her
company 17 years ago and built a robust client base through
relationships, referrals and purpose driven work, and today,
she works with organizations to prepare for the future by
building more diverse leadership pipelines and with professionals
who want to seat at the at the leadership table. Her signature
work is the fearless leader program, an eight week group
mentoring experience designed to help women and people of color
overcome barriers to leadership. She teaches them how to leverage
their connections courage and confidence to build more
successful businesses, careers and futures. And I think that's
a piece of work that I really want to dig into in a bit,
because I think it's got such relevance. And Kathy is the
author of several books, including one that caught my
attention called networking ahead. So first of all, Kathy,
welcome, welcome. Welcome to the show. Thank
you, Janice, so great to be here with you and
your listeners. Thank
you so much. And I have to just share with my
audience that Kathy and I actually connected on LinkedIn a
few years ago, but nothing of any relevance, like we didn't
really, I don't think have a conversation, per se, I don't
know, you know, we're always prone to saying yes to people
and not really doing much with it. And and I had followed Cathy
in her in fact, I found some in my in my files of your
newsletter, because it was all about networking, and I was
teaching networking, and so I loved what I heard. I must have
heard you speak somewhere, and that's when we connected. And
just recently, I've been doing a campaign to reconnect with
connections on LinkedIn, which is such an important piece that
even I don't do as a networker often enough. And through that
reconnection with Kathy on LinkedIn, we actually have had a
conversation, and here we are today, and that's what I love,
that reconnecting with people is so important. So the first thing
I want to ask you, though, is about your your take on
networking in the sense that you have a quote that I love more
than anything, networking is more than an event or activity,
it's a strategy for a successful life. And that, I think, was the
basis of that book, and I want you to speak to that, because I
couldn't agree more,
that has been a key message. In fact, it's
almost been a quote to me. I have said it so many times to so
many groups, and I believe it so wholeheartedly. And I think one
of the reasons that people dislike networking is because of
those weird feelings that we get inside ourselves when we're at
events talking to strangers small talk. Why am I here? And
that's how we think of networking, as this awkward
experience at an event, and we don't like to do the activity,
but if you raise it up to its strategic purpose, it is so much
more than that. It is a strategy, much like we have
strategies to grow our business, to advance our careers, be
essential how we're going to build the thing that we care
about. So if you look at networking in a higher platform
and start to treat it like a true business strategy, then all
that weirdness just goes away. It's like, let's get on with
this building of the network and these relationships.
Yes, and I think, and I may have gotten this from
you, I don't know, but when I was looking at teaching, and I
did, I taught networking courses to people in the Chamber of
Commerce, locally and and business, small business owners.
And I always used to say, you know, when you the work starts
before you go to the event, right? So what are the things
you need to do when you get there? And that's part of the
strategy, right? And I always said there are five people you
need to meet in an event. And I don't know what your thoughts
are in this, but for me, it was the host, the speaker, the the
the registration person, because they could point you in the
right direction. And then two hubs, I called them people who
know everybody, and so if you can connect with those people,
that's, you know, you're nodding your head. My audience can't see
that. So tell me your thoughts on whether you say I love
it. I love it. You know, I'm a student of
networking. I just learned something really important to
like. I used to tell my my folks, that. They just need to
kind of create a low benchmark. If you're going to go to an
event, come away with the least three have three meaningful
conversations and three connections that you can follow
up on. You do not have to follow up and meet every single person
at that event that would be overwhelming and impossible. I
do love Janice, how you've kind of targeted who those key people
are, and you're right. The host, absolutely, the guest speaker,
yes, and so many times as a guest speaker, people don't,
they don't, but the ones that do, they get our attention. And
speakers are an interesting group of thought leaders that I
think would be really good to have in your professional
network. Yeah.
So I always remember another important
thing, and maybe you could speak to this, because when people,
small business owners, are becoming they get the
opportunity to speak in front of a group as well, and perhaps,
and when they go this happened to me with it with somebody that
I know, and and she was very good at what she did, but when
she got up in front of the room, she was definitely going outside
of her comfort zone. And and good for her for doing that, but
she would sort of wait in the background till it was time for
everyone to sit down and then for her to speak. And I would
say to her, go and work the audience before you get up
there, because then you can involve them from those mini
conversations that you've had. But you see, for somebody who's
not comfortable with it, she probably wouldn't have been able
to do that anyway,
right? Brilliant, brilliant advice. When we speak
it in groups, we want to be of service to the audience, as
opposed to me, me, me, I look at me. I'm the expert. You know,
you want to connect with your audience. It's another form of
connection, one to many, but it really is always one to one. So
by by, if you will, working the room or just introducing
yourself and and finding out who's in the room before the
event. Couple things happen. You get out of your own head and you
stop worrying about your presentation anxiety. It's not
going to help you anyway, so it warms you up as well as gives
you a sense of who's in the room. And some of those you
know, conversations that you have before you speak can be the
ones that come up and talk to you afterwards, because now they
want you to succeed, right? So great, great advice. And yes, we
all need to do that. There's so much anxiety with what am I
going to say? How am I going to introduce myself? We stop
listening, we stop learning, and we're no longer curious about
other people. We're just worried about ourself. Yeah, that is a
recipe for disaster. So I love your focus on curiosity. Janice,
I think it is kind of a part of the DNA relationship building.
It is, it is totally, I can't help myself,
actually. And sometimes it can be, you know, you ask too many
questions. Janice, you know, but it is who I am. So. So what
would you say, then, is the path to a more fearless networking
approach, or to being that fearless networker?
I love it, and I love that you said path exactly
what it is. It's like a road. It's a journey. And as I was
thinking about this idea, the book Who Moved My Cheese, oh
yes, yes, classic book, if you haven't read it, it's a short
book. It's a parable. It's fantastic for anyone who needs
to get out of their own way. And so the storyline are literally
about these little mice and these little people, and they're
in a maze, right? And they're stuck in what they think is
their comfort zone. They're hiding in a corner with a maze,
and they're afraid to go out. They're afraid to go on the
path, for fear of, I don't know, danger, right? Meaning, ah,
people are scary, and so in networking, we can just kind of
hide away. And think of the pandemic. When we all got locked
down, we literally kind of had an excuse to kind of be by
ourselves and hide and yet even that, the path became virtual
networking, and we had to intentionally reach out to
people, and actually became quite easy. Er, less timeless,
money and global, you know, global possibilities of reaching
out intentionally, to keep those networks alive, to reconnect, to
meet new people, to get curious about people. But just like
those little mice in the book, you got to leave your little
corner. You have to be courageous and take that step
onto that path and the next step and the next step and the next
step, and before you know it, you're really having a good time
in the maze and you're enjoying your networking practice.
Yeah, that's that's good advice. That's
great. I've forgotten about that book, actually, that was a long
time ago. Um. So I know I'm going to say, I want to talk
one, one more question around this networking piece and that
that would be really around some of the mistakes that business
owners make when networking, and it happens a lot. So What? What?
What do you see as the biggest mistakes? My
first and foremost mistake that I see over and over
is just too transactional, or just too much in a hurry to
yeah, get my card, buy my stuff, do this for me, there's no
relationship building. It's just purely it's the deal, right? And
I always you know, when we take the time to build the
relationship. There'll be so many deals in the future, you
know, you'll be giddy so you can't rush to a transaction,
because then you're just selling the relationship short. That's
the first mistake. I think the second one is that we ignore our
current network. Yeah, we chase shiny objects and new people.
And, I mean, that's a classic. Even in new business
development, we think that new prospects are the path to
success when it's really active clients, inactive clients and
existing prospects, which are people that know us and we know
them, but we haven't done business. That's that's the land
of opportunity, not chasing strangers, so ignoring your
current network that you have built over years. Big mistake,
big mistake that small business owners and professionals do. And
then the last one, I would say, is just inconsistency, a lousy,
lousy follow up. And I don't mean to be judgmental, because
I'm right there with you. It's well, we're distracted. Our
network grows. How do we keep up with it? But consistent follow
up and pre work, as you also mentioned, essential to making
you really an all star relationship builder, follow up
is the key, and you get to decide what your follow up plan
is. Create something that works for you, that you can replicate.
That's easy. Have 123, follow ups, and you don't have to
invent it every time. I
think that that that's so valuable, because
those three things are so important. They're so simple.
You know, don't be so transactional. Think about the
relationship, building it first, because that will bring you more
fruit in in the long term, and ignoring your current network, I
have found over the last year in particular, starting to
reconnect with people, as I mentioned in LinkedIn, has been
huge. I have gone back to people that you know, have said, Oh my
goodness, it's been so long. Hey, now's the time I'd like to
look at this. And so they come to me with the prospect of work,
and it's like, oh my goodness, where was I? Forget the timing
is everything, and it's their timing. So if you're not going
back and checking once in a while, then the timing will
never you'll never be in front of them at the right time. And I
always use a phrase that came from a company that's near and
dear to both our hearts, I think, and it's to stay
connected and be remembered. And so if you stay connected, and
you're in front of them, particularly with a tangible
touch every once in a while, as opposed to an email that gets
lost in the rush. Then, then you'll be remembered and and so
I think follow up and again, yeah, I'm just as guilty as the
next person in not being consistent, but we need to go
ahead. Well
building, I know exactly what you that origin of
the the inspiration you were just talking about, because I
happen to be receive a beautiful, send out card from
you. Very personal, lovely, and it's on my desk right now. But
one of their key philosophies is to act on your promptings. So if
you think of someone, don't file it away, put it on the to do
list, like, pick up the phone, reach out, uh, text them, let
them know you're thinking about them. It doesn't have to be a
big meeting, right? It's just I was thinking about you, and I'm
reaching out in whatever form it takes, exactly, exactly your
promptings. Otherwise that thought comes, it goes, and then
three years later, you're like, Gee, whatever happened to
Janice? You know, I thought about her a couple years ago.
Exactly. That is more of a serendipity in the moment,
mindfulness, networking strategy, and you can't do it
all day long. Otherwise you'd be distracted. You know, 24/7 but
they're meaningful. They are meaningful distractions because
they're relationships that you care about.
And I actually like to when I'm training on on
the the card sending piece, I always say, who needs to hear
from me today, you know, and it's either at the beginning of
your day or the end of. Day, because you've either had all of
these conversations during the day, maybe you need to respond
with one of those, or maybe just somebody comes into your mind.
Something made you think of that person. So having the tool and
the trigger to be able to just make it happen right then
quickly is what you need to do. Act on those bondings. Love it.
Love it. So your work right now has shifted. And I love this. I
love this. I mean, it's all around people and networking and
becoming to leverage those connections and teach people how
to do that through your program that you're doing now, the
fearless leader program. And I'd love you to share with my
audience what that's about, because not only are you doing
the leadership piece, but you're bringing in an important piece
right now, which is about forgot the word I was going to use,
but, but bringing in people of color and people who are and
women who are being underserved in a lot of ways, to
Yes. So when I first launched the fearless
leader program in 2020 it had to go all virtual, because that's
the way we were going to do business for the foreseeable
future. And so, you know, I started to develop this
leadership development program where we amass leadership skill,
we increase our courage, we bolster our confidence, and we
we get our businesses and careers back on track. And as I
kept doing cohort group of 10 and 12 people at a time, I
started to realize a who, who is coming to the table to do the
work and the value that they held inside of them. And so I
get really excited about working with professional women and
people of color. And again, the the collision, or between what
was going on in the pandemic and racial injustice, and, you know,
the near demise of democracy, all the things that were
happening in the world, it kind of just woke me up to say, I
have an opportunity to merge my work with my personal mission,
and it took a bit of courage, I'll tell you down is to
actually say, instead of I work with people, Hey, anybody, I'll
work with you. To I focus on working with women and people of
color to help them get a seat at the leadership table. And to do
that, we have to overcome some barriers, a lot of external
barriers. Yes, we can't do much about those right now ourselves,
but we can work our internal barriers, things like fear and
the imposter syndrome and skills that haven't been developed, and
networks that are not developed, and positioning that's that
hasn't been attended to. So, so there's so much as individuals,
we can do to get out of our own way and to overcome barriers,
and we gotta, we gotta work on that. So to me, the fearless
leader program is that self awareness piece, that self
reflection piece, that personal development a leadership
development piece that we all need, not just when we're
starting our careers and not just when we're at middle
management, it's throughout your life. It's like networking. And
by the way, Janice, we do study networking. We call it building
productive relationships. It's in week three of the eight week
program, and absolutely paramount to a leader, because a
leader cannot create success by him or herself. They need
people, and you have to have productive relationships, warm
and optimally functioning inside the workplace and in the
community and across the globe. Networking. That's what it is.
It's bringing people together, exchanging ideas, creating
opportunities, collaborating. That's what a fearless leader
needs to do, which means you've got to get out there and build
those relationships. So the
thing that comes to my mind, though, when you
speak of and yes, I think it does, you're niching down the
market, but it's also being brave to say who those people
are, because there's so much. There can be triggers around
that, in in people. And what was I going to say? Oh, that when
you're working with women of color, people of is it just
women?
I would say, right now the statistics are, I'm
getting about 95% women, absolutely. I have always loved
working with men, and they are absolutely anyone, anyone is
welcome to come join this program, so long as they'll do
the work and and honor the about the rules and boundaries of how
we respect each other. Alright. So cool.
Okay. So what I was thinking, though, is I
remember back to I was doing some work at local junior
college at the time here around networking, and I was asked to
come into this, this professor's class. That was a very. Diverse.
It was about diversity and inclusion. I think the class of
the day, I don't think it was called that back then, but and
we were doing networking, and like in person networking, and
we put them in groups, and we walked around the room and we
talked about things. And it was really interesting, because I
did not walk in those people's shoes, and I did not come as an
adult to another country that was completely strange and so
forth. And in this case, I know it's not quite the same, but
there is some of that in the sense that how do you like? My
eyes were opened when I watched a networking group and the women
were standing back because they were supposed to be behind any
men that were in the in the room based on their culture and what
they had learned and, and they were Middle Eastern and, and it
was just, this is not how it works here. So how do you
approach that? So do you get what I'm getting at here? I
do, I do, and I lovely. And that's one of the
benefits of intentionally building an inclusive and
diverse and, dare I say, global network. You get to learn about
the world. You become cross culturally aware and competent,
and you're going to see these cultural differences. And rather
than just looking at the lens of in America, we do it this way.
Yes, exactly. You suddenly understand kind of the backstory
and the social conditioning and values that other cultures have,
and you become actually, there's a potential that you could
become more diplomatic by having an inclusive, diverse global
network. So a couple years ago, I realized Janice that my
professional network looked exactly like me, all women, all
white women, all hard driving professional type a women. And
that was really fun and energizing, but it was, it was
too like, it's almost like a financial portfolio. I had too
much stock in one thing, and it could blow up. So I
intentionally set a strategy. There's that word again,
strategy to diversify my network, and I was keen to get
to know people that were not like me. And I was very keen to
get to know African American and Caribbean American people, women
and men. And interestingly, I also have always wanted to learn
more about the experience of indigenous people and Native
Americans, and I expressed that to you. I had a small learning
with a group called dig deep that was part of a big Mother's
Day movement fundraiser, and I loved the work they do bringing
fresh water and indoor plumbing to the 2 million families in
America who do not have indoor plumbing. Hello, this is
happening in our country, and majority of them were on on
nations and tribal land, and Native Americans without access
to clean running water, without indoor plumbing. So that was
kind of like an awakening. So I became curious, and so I
expressed that to you, and boom, you think of someone in your
network that you recently met, and you said you should meet
Valerie. This is how it works, folks. This is how the acting of
the promptings. You facilitated an introduction on LinkedIn, and
because you were bringing us together, there was now more
reason for us to act on that introduction. It was not as it
was a warm introduction from Janice. And so then Valerie and
I connected on LinkedIn. We exchanged a couple messages, we
set up a virtual coffee chat, and boom, we're on the telephone
with each other, getting to know each other, building that
relationship. And you know, within 30 minutes our call did
go on, because we were really enjoying our conversation. I
realized she was a fearless leader, and I started to
appreciate what she was doing with her work, and I offered her
a scholarship to the fearless leader program,
which is so amazing. And
then, of course, I had to tell you, because I
wanted you to know the power and value that you added to two
other people's lives, and then thereby the people in their
lives. So when you really let relationships rule in your life,
and you become a fearless networker, you're going to feel
this, this power that you have to bring people and opportunity
together and, and that's some of the thrill that you get. You get
payoff just from that feeling,
you know, because it was so cool and, and
actually, that brings up a point of when you are truly one who
connects people and wants to be that person. It's more than just
being a networker. It is being a connector. That when you start
talking to somebody new, you're thinking, how can I best who can
I introduce them to? How can I best serve them? What would be
that's what I was doing in that conversation with you. And it
just she came up because I was so impressed with the. Work that
she was doing when I met her, and actually, I'm glad that we
that it came back up, because the person that introduced me to
her, I'm going to be speaking to next week, and it's all it goes
around. Yeah? It's
a circle of life. Yeah, you know, just your your
ability to connect people and do what you do now, it looks so
effortless and natural, but you've been working on it for
years. It's your practice. It's also your superpower. You
know, I have to say right now my mom is watching
because I really learned it from my mom. My mom was the she had
no idea, but she was the, the best networker in the world. And
my mom was so cared about people so much that when she went on
vacation, she didn't send us postcards. She sent them to the
butcher and the fishmonger, and honestly, just people that she
made them smile when she went in their store. So she wasn't going
to be there for a while, she'd send them a postcard. Who
did that? Your mom. Your mom the fearless
networker. Yeah, and amazing. What a great role model. And
that's also as business owners and leaders, we have opportunity
be like your mom to role model what relationship building
should look like in the 21st century, and what it can look
like and how again, it's we don't have to be totally
selfless, because when we build relationships, we also benefit.
We can ask for what we need. Other people are more likely to
help us because the relationship has been formed. So we do
benefit. It's mutually beneficial, but we have, we do
have to give first, and to be of a giving, helping mindset, and
to make sure also that we know what it is we need, so that we
can express it clearly. Because I often say to clients, people
can't read their your mind. They don't know what it is you look
like. You have it all together. They don't know that you're
really trying to develop and you're looking for a partner
that will help you with this technology. Hey, I I know
someone. People. Know people. And so back to that
transactional thing. Yeah, when we transact, I look at you, you
look at me, and we try to see how many dollar signs we can
exchange. Yeah, what you want to do is you want to look at the
network behind the person, because that's where, dare I
say, the real money is. That's where the opportunity is. So if
I build a trusting relationship with you and I take care of you
and care about you, I'm more willing to lend my social
capital to you, right? And you're more willing to open up
your social capital, AKA your network, to me. So behind every
person, no matter what their circumstance, unemployed in
transition, file for bankruptcy, going through divorce, whatever
kind of the Oh, poor them, they have a network, and they're a
human being, and they're worthy of our time and curiosity and
and we can all help each other. So that's that's kind of the
magic and the the humanity in networking.
I think that the piece around that though, that I
still hold close to me is I, well, let me put it this way,
sometimes when you go to networking events, online,
offline, whatever, someone will immediately want to network you
with someone that they've just met but they don't really know
them, okay? And that's fine. They're trying to do you a favor
and so forth. You're looking for, you know, a house cleaner
or whatever. And they just met one, and they but if i i have a
really good, let's use that as an example, if I have a really
good house cleaner, and, you know, they're like gold. So you
don't really like to give them away to just anybody, right? But
you wouldn't connect them with somebody, just anybody you
right? You have, you protect your network to make sure that
the connection is a good one. So you don't just connect people.
You connect people when it makes sense, and you value both sides
that you have to ask first before you connect them.
Yes, yes, yeah, getting that permission. And
with certain people, that's really important. Others don't
mind. Yes, kind of receptive. But every time you lend your
social capital, you make introductions, you are putting
at risk your reputation Exactly. You're like a banker, right?
You're giving loans out. Don't do it willy nilly. You got to
qualify. I hate to use it like a banking term, but you know, you
qualify that person. You make sure that's a good fit, and then
then you put it together, yeah, but you do have to be careful,
yeah, right, yeah.
No, that's, that's, I just wanted to be
clear on that, because I feel that you know, when you're
connecting people, the person like that you said that you're
lending out, that's your social capital you have. Protect that
and respect it enough that it's going to not waste that person's
time, so to speak. I mean, they're not guaranteed, but, but
still, it has to be a good fit, and I always like to do that. So
Kathy, you've written a quite a few books, and I'm curious, is
there another one in your future?
There is another one? I'm so glad you asked,
motivating me. So I've written four I've two under my name, and
two that are co authored. So I've written networking ahead,
stop global boring, a presentation skills book, and
then in a collaborative projects, I've written
sharpening your point with my strategic partner and friend,
Lisa Wallace, and I wrote defining you with my business
coach, Mark LeBlanc and my publisher, Henry DeVries. And
it's that has been a very successful book. And I love,
actually, I've come to love the collaborative book, writing, co
authoring experience, because guess what? Get to work with
someone, build a relationship and learn something from someone
else. It's so cool. So we are working on a new project. The
title of the book, it's about fearless leadership. But the
title of the book is The fearless leader, how smart women
overcome barriers to leadership. Nice and my co author, I'm
really excited to work with her. Her name is Rosemary Pato, she's
actually business consultant, works with large companies and
executive teams, and she's actually just releasing her
first book, so this will be her right on the heels of that
second book. So we are I've been working on this for, actually,
for a year and a half. And you know how some things go right?
We got these big ideas, big projects, and then they just
kind of start to sit and get stale, and we become afraid and
we don't know what to do. And so even a fearless leader can fall
victim to fear of rejection and failure. So it's been really
help reaching out to my network to find a really good co author
to be my, my buddy, my accountability buddy. And then
by doing that, I mean that kind of experience, bringing
something, you know, creating something together, you're
always going to be bonded. So so that book's going to come out.
We we're going to really fast track the manuscript this
quarter, the fourth quarter should be out in early to mid
2023 and again, I'll be connected with my signature
work, the fearless leader program.
They have to come back when your new book, Oh, I'd
love
to, I'd love to. I'd love to. I just noticed
on your on your speaker sheet, that two things
that stuck out for me. One, that you are survivor, if I may say,
of ovarian cancer. Yay, yay. That's a huge one, and that's
not a very pretty thing to go through. I have one of my best
friends did is also an ovarian cancer survivor, and the
statistics aren't great, so I that's just amazing, and things
are still good in that. I don't know how long ago that was,
but 11 years, 11 years survived. That's what
There you go.
And the other thing that stuck out for me, I
know these are smaller things in the big in the big scheme of
being an economics graduate from Stanford University, okay, but
what I noticed was second degree black belt in Taekwondo. That's
right, little on me, five foot four and a good
day, yes, and that's a network too, I mean. And when I learned
about Taekwondo, I went because we moved to a new community, and
my husband was going to enroll, and he said, Look, you can come
with me, or you can stay at home. It's your choice. So I
kind of went, alright, I want to stay in a home. I'll go with
you. And I met so many wonderful, lifelong friends. But
the interesting connection between a martial art and
networking, okay, martial art always, always, I know it's a
way of life. That's why they call it Taekwondo, judo. The do
means way of life, and so you live your life, not that you're
you're not running around beating people up. It's self
defense, but it's, it's a, it's a philosophy of living about
respect and patience and and modesty. Had to work on that
myself. But networking is a way of life, right? It's something
we we not just go and say, Done tech, yeah, we live our lives in
this relationship, building philosophy so it and not, not to
mention taekwondo also helped me overcome my physical fear. And
so in terms of the fearless leader, it's, you know, I can be
a big scaredy cat, but now that I have 12 years of training, I
at least, kind of maybe know how how to respond. Should that
situation ever arise. So we all have to work on our different
forms of courage, for sure, for sure. Well,
this, this is like we could go on forever.
There's so much I can learn from you. As well as we move forward,
I think that Well, let me ask you this before I go to my last
question, do you find now with this work that you're doing,
that you are looking at or looking for independent, small
business owner people to be to bring into the fearless
Leadership Program, or is it? Is it corporate still? Is it bigger
companies?
It's a diverse range. I do have corporate
employees where their company pairs, pays their tuition, and
they're looking at that person to develop them and have them
grow into leadership. I also have independent consultants,
small business owners that need that that work on themselves so
that they can grow and build their business. And I have
nonprofits and people that are starting movements. And what's
what's so cool is when you have a, what's called a cohort
learning experience that you're learning along people who are
not from your same company, right? They don't walk in your
shoes. You have such an opportunity to grow and expand
and that group mentoring aspect. I'm not just the only one
teaching, right? Everyone is teaching because everyone has
experience right, different place, yeah, so I will say we
have had the age range for the fearless leader so far. My
youngest fearless leader is 17, and was and wrote, actually, a
business plan to launch her career as she went into college
and just she's someone to watch out for. And then to date.
Quote, my oldest, my most seasoned is 68 probably almost
near 70 now, and she lost her job during the pandemic and
started her own podcast.
Love it.
She's like, Yeah, she's a rock star, and she's
learning all those things. So she's not done yet, and and
everyone in between. So I can't tell you the exact level of
leadership experience. We all need to work on ourselves. We
all have a fearless leader inside. We're all called upon to
overcome some hardship, some roadblock. We all have a dream.
We all need help. So this program we work with, you know
who's willing to do the work. Who comes What's your dream?
What are you building? What's in your way? And let's work
together to overcome those barriers and roadblocks and get
you building momentum on your business and career.
That's amazing. And so one last question for
you, Kathy and I will also have all of your information about
your program, your website and your LinkedIn. I will put on the
show notes so people can find you if they're interested in the
signature program. There is a website, the fearless
leader.com, and just, what would you say? What? What's your final
piece of advice to my audience? And you know, what would you
like to leave us with?
Awesome well, I would say today is the perfect
day to renew your networking practice and commitment. So
start networking now, today and never stop. Never stop. Make
networking a way of life. Make networking and relationship
building a core strategy to build your business, to build
your career and to build your life, you just, you have to
overcome that fear if you still, still gets in the way. Do it
anyway, afraid. Just build relationships and listen to
Janice's podcast every time they come out, because you're going
to learn tips and and new ideas to really make this part of your
successful life.
You're the best. Thank you so much, and thank you
so much to my audience again for being here. We couldn't do it
without you. And remember to stay connected and be
remembered. You.
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