The Saboteur with Jackie Meek

“You need to build the muscles in order to strengthen your sage so that it's there ready with a bit of a louder voice than the saboteur voice.”

–Jackie Meek

What if your mind served you … instead of working against you? I’m really excited to talk with Jackie Meek about getting off the roller coaster of “the mom juggle.” Our brain OFTEN defaults to the negative, but we can learn to choose how to respond (or not respond) to things.

We talk about the saboteurs of our brain, including the pleaser saboteur. While it can help us stay safe, we can overdo “people pleasing.” When you start to feel resentful that nobody else is helping. When you say yes when you mean no and you've overcommitted, that’s the saboteur pushing you to do things that are not in your best interest under the guise of keeping us safe.

In addition to saboteurs, we have sages in our brain. Jackie shows us how to up our positive quotient or the amount of time that you are using your sage muscles as opposed to your saboteur muscles in the brain.

We talk about: 

• What happens when we put our expectations on other people
• Focusing on your five senses and a secret tool for dealing with triggers to press pause before you respond
• Building your sage muscles throughout the day, so that voice is louder than your saboteurs
• Asking the question: What would my wiser elder self do? 
• Essential maintenance, or how we really take care of ourselves
• Sharing the language of the sage and the saboteur with our families

ABOUT JACKIE

Jackie Meek helps frazzled mums to confidently boss the mum juggle. She set up her business, Future Path Life Coaching in 2016 and equips mums to reduce the emotional roller coaster, minimise negative chatter and worry less. She has a passion to come alongside mums, having a difficult birthing story having experienced giving birth extremely prematurely, loss of a baby, postpartum psychosis and post natal depression. Jackie offers 1:1 coaching as well as a group coaching programme, The Mum Boardroom, an oasis for busy mums to focus on challenges in a supportive and inspiring environment. She also facilitates a 6 week online Positive Mental Fitness Bootcamp equipping mums to build their mental fitness so they can face life's challenges resourcefully.

EPISODE LINKS

Find Jackie:

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackiemeek/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/futurepathlifecoaching
• Website: https://www.futurepathlifecoaching.co.uk/

Mentioned Links:

• https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

DOABLE CHANGES FROM THE EPISODE

• NOTICE EXPECTATIONS. Where are you often triggered? We discuss the example of dinner. Maybe it’s that or bedtime or how when you do something fun with your kids and they don’t behave the way you want them to. Think through what expectations you are putting on the situation. What happens if you pay attention to those expectations and shift them?
• TUNE INTO ONE OF YOUR SENSES. Next time you are triggered, tune into one of your senses. One way to do this is to rub your finger and thumb together firmly. This takes your attention away from your saboteur brain and choose how you want to respond.
• CONSULT YOUR WISER ELDER SELF. Ask your wiser, elder self what she would do in a certain situation. This takes you out of the moment and allows you a different perspective so you can choose your response.