Not What We Had Planned

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Hi, everybody, and welcome back to another episode

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of no halos here with Jen Lang and Jane Stark. This is our

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first recorded episode in 2022. So it's kind of exciting. And

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we've called it not what we had planned because it literally has

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not been what we had planned. So don't dive into that. What what

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did you not have planned to Jane? That?

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Yeah, right. Well, as you may be able to tell from my

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voice, I have been really ill. Since December 30, I think and

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it's now what January 7, we're recording this is not what I had

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planned at all. It's not COVID It was some other slew that

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really took me out. So yeah, Jen and I were just joking about. We

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had, we did have some episode ideas mapped out and things that

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we just kind of like, man, we're not really feeling those topics

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right now. And we've been doing a lot of just kind of inward

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work and reflecting on what January, you know, has and

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listening to some of the people that we follow, and what's the

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energy of 2022. And so we're like, let's just throw it out

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and go with something that we didn't have planned. And let's

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share kind of our thoughts on what's what we feel is here for

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January, February, maybe, you know, energy and what we're

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picking up on what we've learned from the people that we follow

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and bring it to you guys. Yeah. So yeah, there's my nasal Lee.

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I'll take over on recording. I think that, uh,

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obviously, Jane, you did not plan to be ill at were as sick

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as you were. And I think, but you told me like we I think,

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hang on, let me back up here. As I riff on these words, so when I

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was boxing with you earlier this week, we sort of made the

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connection that you had had this massage at the end of the year,

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and you had set this intention to release 2021

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Did I know what I was? What I was unleashing,

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probably a few hours later, your body's like, okay,

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game on, that it's kind of led to that illness piece. And I'm

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wondering if other people who have experienced either illness

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or who had maybe has set an intention to let go of 2021 and

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then became ill, or became sicker than they might have

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been? Or maybe nothing at all happened, we just want to let

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you know that that is completely normal, and that it's not

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unusual. And that that kind of falls into that phrase, or that

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adage of like, be careful what you wish for? Or is it bad

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intention?

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Can we be really interested because my whole

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family God is whatever this virus is. But I went down much

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harder than they did. And I like, I mean, I know, most of

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us, many of us, aside from those of us who unfortunately, maybe

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contracted COVID. But aside from that, most of us haven't really

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gotten very sick in the last two years, because we've literally

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put ourselves in bubbles, right. But even prior to COVID, I've

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found like, I have really worked on my immune system. And my

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health and I felt fairly strong that even when I would get a

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cold or whatnot that, you know, I would fight it, you know, it'd

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be typical. And this was like, nothing typical. This was next,

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like next level. It feels like and I think, you know, I do

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believe kind of like some of what you said that, you know, it

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was very the timing of the massage and I've never

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specifically done this before and I sent a message to Jenna

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I'm like, you know, I'm going for this massage. It's the end

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of the year. I'm just really going to sink into, like,

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releasing everything that I don't need from 2021 and, and I

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like I set the intention. I went into the massage even when I was

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in the massage I was conscious about like, kind of like, you

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know, what was releasing from my muscles and whether like if

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emotions or thoughts or whatever him up into my head. I'm

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releasing them. And then yes, promptly started to get sick.

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Right after that, but it's it's interesting how that can happen

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and how when we set that intention and just how even

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like, again, like I say, looking at my family who didn't get they

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all like, to varying degrees, we all got, you know, got sick, but

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I just, I'm on day 10 And I'm still, you know, have maybe

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like, two hours of work in me that like, I can get up and

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function and then I'm like, Okay, leave me arrest arrest.

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So, yeah, it's like, it's, it's been a it's been a good practice

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to surrender and to look and reflect on, you know, what is

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this? Showing me without overanalyzing it? Yeah. But

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yeah, definitely not what I had planned, like, New Year's is a

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blur, I was in bed. I feel like I haven't started my new year,

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to be honest, which is, is really an interesting space to

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be into.

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It's kind of like, almost, because I think because

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you've been in this sort of bubble of healing, it's

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stretching out that transition from 2021, to 2022. And, of

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course, also 21 to 2021 to 2022, is, I'm not gonna say it's

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arbitrary, because we've decided to run our lives by this

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calendar. But there's so many other energetics involved that

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are coming for us, I if you if you if you live your life by the

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new moon, the new moon was January 2. And if you follow the

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Chinese calendar, the new moon, the Chinese, the Lunar New Year,

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actually begins January 31, February 1, with the next new

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moon. So I think there's this as we sort of move into January and

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not over planning. There's also something that Dan and I talked

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about was, we don't have an annual plan set up yet, I've and

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I have no desire to put things into a 12 month framework at

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this point in time, I have ideas and, you know, things I'd like

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to see roll out over the next few months. But even when we

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were planning this, you know, this our podcast a couple of

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days ago, we were talking like, I don't want to plan anything

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more than a quarter at a time. So taking a look at January,

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European March and go, these are the things we'd like to talk

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about, but not assigning them a specific date, like this is

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going to be episode 47. This is going to be episode 48. Because,

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as we have learned, all learned from the past two years, it's

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you know, when people were setting their intentions two

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years ago, Nick,

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no would have no way plan

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before a pandemic. So there is that, you know, I think

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there was a meme running around that said, you know, wherever

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you were in January 2020, wherever you saw yourself in

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December 2020, was not nobody saw. Yeah, like what happened?

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Yeah. And so I think that that's taught us to be more flexible

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and more maneuverable in our outlook, but also less

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structured, like, it's just this goes hand in hand, be more

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flexible and be less structured. So this is kind of what we're

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taking moving forward. And I think that's kind of a primary,

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I'm gonna say a primary message for all of our listeners, is how

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can you be even more flexible, and less structured and still

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see yourself moving towards, I'm not gonna use the word goals,

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because I don't like it's overused, but moving towards a

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place where you really want to be. So absolutely set an

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intention. However, Lego, letting go of the house, be more

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flexible, and allowing a different let me apply structure

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to something, we are applying a way that we expect or want it to

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roll out. So if you take away that structure, and those

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assumptions, then you leave it more possible, like more

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infinitely possible. There are more infinitely possible ways

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that that intention can come to you.

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Yeah, and I think, you know, I mean, I'm really glad we

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had started talking about this back in December, you and I, we

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had done a bit of planning. But we didn't, again, we didn't set

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firm things. And that's actually really helping me right now,

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like I was sharing with you earlier that the old me would

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have struggled with this illness more in the sense that like, I

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just don't have capacity to do what I can what I normally would

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be able to do, and I'm kind of really in this full surrender

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space to it, partly because I literally have to because my

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body's just not there and I need to focus on my health. But my

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mind would have been stressing me I would have been anxious, I

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would have, you know, felt more like, like I'm not going getting

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stuff done. And like, this just isn't happening. And I'm really

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in this space of like, okay, so the universe is showing me right

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now that I need to really move into 2022 at a slower pace, and

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I'm gonna trust that. Um, and you know, but had we are had,

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you know, had I set these big goals for January, I would be

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much more in that space of like, Oh, my God, like, this is not in

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my plan. And, you know, and so really being able to roll with

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that a little bit. And it's interesting, you and I both

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listen to somebody that we follow Lee Harris, who's an

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intuitive guide, he often or not, often he does monthly

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energy updates. And so Jen and I had both listened to his January

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update. And it's right in line with kind of what's going on

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talked a lot about the energy of kind of January, February,

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feeding, especially January being about inward and going

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inward and like down and slowing down. And that yeah, like, well,

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yes, this is typically a time that by capitalistic social

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norms. We're all like, hey, time to bake those resolutions and

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get to the gym and get those big projects launched and do this

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and do that 30 Day Challenge. Yeah, come out of the gates

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running. And he was sharing that kind of what he's getting is

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that, like, this year, that's a hard know, that, you know, we

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really need to be inward, we need to be reflecting, we need

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to be going still letting go getting Yes, that was another

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big theme. That's what I'm taking from this, like,

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Whatever, I'm shedding like, a huge layer of myself with this

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illness. And just allowing that to be okay.

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Yeah, I, I love how you summarize that, we'll post

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the link to his energy update in our show notes. And he's just

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one of several people that we both follow or look to for, you

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know, generalized guidance. I don't necessarily listen every

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month, but I just don't feel like it was like, Oh, this feels

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like really good. And one of the things where I've been going, I

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mean, I have a daily spiritual practice that I where I go

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inward, and I, you know, what I'm asking being asked to do now

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is actually go more deeply inward in that spiritual

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practice. So not just drawing my cards and writing a few

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thoughts. You know, for example, today, it was like, sit down

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with a journal, go through this process, and call into these

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concepts. And I think by going inward more often, and in a more

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intentional way, we can actually get to those answers a little

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bit faster than if we just do the surface pieces. So you know,

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how that's reflecting in my real practical world is okay, I'm

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cleaning up my computer harddrive. I'm getting rid of

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documents, files and folders from the past, gosh, like 15 to

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20 years that I used to hang on to these documents, because I

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used to be an admin and I needed multiple copies. And I eat, I

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was in document control. And I worked in the Music Library at

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McGill. So I was always about keeping things organized. And

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now I'm looking back and I'm like, I can go in, I've already

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archive some folders onto an external hard drive. But now I

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want to go back into my current hard drive and go, where am I

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hanging onto information that is no longer relevant? And where am

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I hanging on to that PDF that I downloaded five years ago, when

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I was first starting my business that is no longer relevant,

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because the landscape has changed so much. Well, that is

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the shedding.

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And I was just gonna say, in doing that, it feels so

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much like, I really get the strong feeling that that is like

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an old version of you, that's just ready to just go right.

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Like when you were sharing how, you know, that's who I was in

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2008. Because that was my world. That was my part of my work and

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all the things it's like, and that's not who you are in 2022.

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And so completely letting that that part of you. Like, go,

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Yeah,

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it's so interesting. And actually, as you were

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talking just reminded me So earlier this week, I had a

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little bit of like a, I wouldn't say a meltdown. But I had a bit

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of a moment where my husband and I were having a conversation

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around money, but it was also there were some other things

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coming up for me too. And part of this is part of the shedding

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pieces. So I'm preparing music for a recital in March. So in

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two months, I'm singing some music by a German 19th century

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composer named Josephine Lange. And as I was preparing this

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music, I you know, and choosing the songs to prepare. I was

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being reminded of who I was 10 years ago, 12 years ago when I

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was in university finishing up my master's his degree, and the

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methods and ways that I learned that music. And I realized I had

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this moment earlier this week, after that first moment that I

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had been approaching the process as how I used to be, rather than

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integrating that process into all the knowledge and the

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spiritual and intuitive self of that person who I am now. So

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when I actually went and rehearse the music on Wednesday,

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it was fun. And I had a great time. And I could feel that I

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could feel much more a strong sense of the composer and the

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poetry and the music, much more than I did when I was in

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university. And I realized again, too, that this is new

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music to me. And that for the past 10 years, I've been singing

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music that I learned 10 years ago. So yeah, and I've learned a

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few pieces since then. But going into this music and going into

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this German poetry is such a gift now, because I'm like, Oh,

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I can approach it, I can see it with who I am today, rather than

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who I was when I finished my master's degree 10 years ago.

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Yeah, which is, yeah, and that's a great point, right?

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Like it's shedding the layers, but it doesn't mean that you

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have to completely let go all of the things right, what parts of

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that and those experiences do we want to bring forward into into

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that next space? I'm curious, just going back a little bit for

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a sec to this kind of space, we're in this energy, this kind

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of slowing down and going inwards, you've shared a little

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bit about how that's playing out for you in terms of some of the

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cleanup and the purging. You know, it's, it's interesting to

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look to it, that that energy, and you and I, and how it's

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playing out very differently for us, right? And because, you

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know, I can't remember who we're talking to the other day, but we

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were on a call. And again, I was like, showing up in my not so

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great form. And, you know, it's like, yeah, I've been kind of in

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bed for five days and hunker down. And, and Jen was kind of

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like, I feel great. Like, you know, like, you've got that you

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do have that energy of the new year where you're feeling really

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good, you're feeling really rested and replenished. So do

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you feel that urge to like, kind of get out there and be more

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gung ho? Or are you still kind of? How was that landing for

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you?

Jen Lang: 00:17:24

Yeah, that's an interesting question. I don't

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feel like I need to pull back at all. Nor do I feel like I need

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to accelerate in the sense of like, make things happen faster.

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But what I am feeling and I think this is reflected in the

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word that came forward for me for this year, his presence. And

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as in being present, both with myself and for our community,

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for our listeners, that presence piece is, is more expansive. So

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having a more expansive presence in however that rolls out both

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for the inward work and for power that is in our current

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physical reality. And so, you know, to bring it back to your

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question. It's not so much the, there is an inward expansive

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presence, that is asking to asking for attention. Right. And

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it's, I think I refer to it earlier in the new year is like

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exploring a release right early, late in last year, was exploring

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the inner verse, As expansively as the outer verse.

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I love that. And that sums up actually a bit of what

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Lee was talking about today, too, right? It's yeah, that

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January is all about the slowing down the inner verse to use your

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term and the energy and that February's energy is a little

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bit more outward, external, like, that's the time to start

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showing up again, and to be out there. So that's, yeah, that's

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really interesting. And it's, it's interesting to like, as

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we're talking as reflecting to on how, for me, I felt, I felt a

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lot of this energy in December, not so much the inner energy,

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but the preparation, like, you know, like you were sharing that

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you're in a lot of this purging, there was so much purging energy

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for me, in sort of those middle two weeks of December,

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especially where it was like, I'm gonna, like, I need to dig

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into my finances, I need to, you know, I've got my, like, I've

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actually finally done my year end, pretty much at year end,

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I'll be honest, I'm one of those that like, waits till the bitter

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end to file my taxes every year and it was so nice to be like,

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No, I'm just gonna, like do this now and get this done so and

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know that I can start the new year with that clarity. Yeah.

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And, you know, among a number of other things that that was kind

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of, it was a little bit for me, it was a little bit more in the

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doing Energy and it felt really good. Now I'm like that all came

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to a screeching halt kind of over the holidays with the

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illness, but now I'm kind of in this surrender of okay, well, I

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know that that stuff's there, and that I just need to, you

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know, I just need to sit with all of this, I just need to be.

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And I think, you know, I get the sense. We know, we're in a very

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tumultuous time right now, I think we've talked about this a

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little bit on the podcast before that, you know, it seems looking

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ahead. And what you and I sort of tap into, it's gonna be a

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bumpy ride for a little bit here still, like, yeah, you know,

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there

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is gonna be an acceleration. And there is an

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expansion. But I feel like this time, if we base some of that on

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what Lee Harris has shared it this time is about exploring

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that inner verse, feeling into what, what you can let go of and

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leave behind, and what stays and what becomes carried forward

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into this new aspects of self that then can be expanded and

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shown to the world.

Unknown: 00:21:06

Yeah, and I think one of those and what I'm being

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really called to, and have had show up a number of times for me

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recently, his self care and self care is that yeah, he did, too,

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didn't he? Like self care is not a luxury, not a luxury. It's not

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traditional? No, like we and we need to increase it a lot right

Unknown: 00:21:31

now. And I think that goes hand in hand with this message of

Unknown: 00:21:36

going inward. It's truly about like, nourishing the self and

Unknown: 00:21:40

connecting with our inner self. So again, we're Yes, the baths

Unknown: 00:21:45

and yes, the exercise and things like that, but even more so

Unknown: 00:21:49

that, you know, what do you need to do to reduce your stress?

Unknown: 00:21:53

What do you need to you know, what do you need to look at that

Unknown: 00:21:56

you're not looking at? What do you say you need to say no to,

Jen Lang: 00:22:01

you know, all the way all the stuff we've talked about

Jen Lang: 00:22:03

with terms of following the energy. So I've noticed myself,

Jen Lang: 00:22:07

it's like, when do I feel like I want to push through on the

Jen Lang: 00:22:09

screen time? And when is my body going, Hey, take a break, go sit

Jen Lang: 00:22:13

in your reading chair, and just read a book for a few minutes,

Jen Lang: 00:22:16

or just sit there for seven minutes with your eyes closed?

Jen Lang: 00:22:18

Yeah, that that's an aspect of self care that people don't

Jen Lang: 00:22:21

really talk about, but that's almost doubling that it's like,

Jen Lang: 00:22:24

almost Okay, well, I'm going to set my silent meditation time

Jen Lang: 00:22:27

now to 14 minutes instead of seven minutes. And it's, I

Jen Lang: 00:22:33

think, that self care piece, it's not a luxury, it's a non

Jen Lang: 00:22:40

negotiable is what he called it. It's non negotiable. And so what

Jen Lang: 00:22:43

do you have to do in your life? To prioritize one aspect of self

Jen Lang: 00:22:49

care? One simple step?

Unknown: 00:22:52

Yeah. And I mean, exactly right. And it comes

Unknown: 00:22:55

down. And I think we all know right now health is, is so

Unknown: 00:22:59

forefront and there's multiple levels and facets of health that

Unknown: 00:23:03

we can, you know, that we're talking about here, but, you

Unknown: 00:23:06

know, it plays into that too, like, we need to be mentally

Unknown: 00:23:10

strong, we need to be physically strong. And self care is the way

Unknown: 00:23:14

we do that. Right? We we know this, I know, it's not you know,

Unknown: 00:23:18

we're not sharing anything, any big new revelation here, but

Unknown: 00:23:22

it's, it seems to, I find, like, it's that gentle reminder again

Unknown: 00:23:26

and again. And, you know, that's again, that's what I feel like

Unknown: 00:23:30

I'm getting right now, like health and self care, I need to

Unknown: 00:23:34

look after myself. Right now, you know,

Jen Lang: 00:23:38

what a great example you're setting for your kids by

Jen Lang: 00:23:42

prioritizing yourself care. And I like without going into

Jen Lang: 00:23:45

details. You know, you felt a lot of pressure this week from

Jen Lang: 00:23:49

one of your kids. And you held a firm boundary and basically was

Jen Lang: 00:23:56

like, Absolutely not. And you know, my answer is no, and I you

Jen Lang: 00:24:02

know, Sony I am not a human parent. I have two dog parents

Jen Lang: 00:24:07

like boundaries, except for dogs to like, my dog is getting old

Jen Lang: 00:24:10

and she's like asking to go out early in the morning. I was

Jen Lang: 00:24:13

like, you can wait 10 minutes because I know you can that she

Jen Lang: 00:24:16

just wants to go out and sniff or sniffer the raccoons, we're

Jen Lang: 00:24:18

in the yard or something like that. I'm like, no, no, no, no,

Jen Lang: 00:24:20

no, like, you know, you don't want to that. Exactly. And so

Jen Lang: 00:24:25

it's I mean obviously that's a such a minor small example.

Jen Lang: 00:24:28

However, it's still a boundary is self care. Yeah. So if you

Jen Lang: 00:24:33

didn't have to hear that before, and you didn't make that

Jen Lang: 00:24:35

connection until now, putting a boundary in place either in your

Jen Lang: 00:24:39

workplace or in the home or with yourself or with your loved ones

Jen Lang: 00:24:43

a boundary is self care.

Unknown: 00:24:45

So yeah, no, definitely yeah, it's been it's been

Unknown: 00:24:48

tricky, right? Like, you know, getting getting sick with

Unknown: 00:24:52

something that's not COVID When COVID is rampant has been also

Unknown: 00:24:55

been a real. The term I want to use them on To put explicit on

Unknown: 00:25:00

this episode now is mine shock. Because you know it everywhere I

Unknown: 00:25:06

turn people are, you know, getting sick with COVID. And now

Unknown: 00:25:11

I'm kind of sat here and going, Kay, my immune system has just

Unknown: 00:25:14

taken a huge hit. And COVID is out there everywhere. And I

Unknown: 00:25:19

can't afford to get to, you know, to get hit again right

Unknown: 00:25:24

now, I shouldn't say that I'm going to take that back, I will

Unknown: 00:25:26

be okay. My belief is that I would be okay. I do not want to

Unknown: 00:25:30

get hit twice like that. And so I've had to put, like Jen was

Unknown: 00:25:35

sharing a lot more boundaries in at home recently to kind of say,

Unknown: 00:25:38

Hey, I'm not comfortable with that right now. Like, you know,

Unknown: 00:25:43

that might have been something that yeah, two weeks ago, you

Unknown: 00:25:46

know, I know that, like, you know, you would expect it two

Unknown: 00:25:50

weeks ago, I would have said yes to that. But right now, the

Unknown: 00:25:53

information has changed or having that boundary because I

Unknown: 00:25:55

literally had to just sit down and be like, listen, like my

Unknown: 00:25:58

health is my number one priority. And right now I'm

Unknown: 00:26:01

going to do everything I can to protect that. So yeah,

Unknown: 00:26:06

boundaries, that by all means, are, are definitely self care.

Unknown: 00:26:09

And I think, you know, just taking another look at like,

Unknown: 00:26:13

yes, there's getting healthy from a, you know, I'm sick, got

Unknown: 00:26:16

a virus thing. And then there's just, there's our overall health

Unknown: 00:26:19

as well, our mental health, like, you know, is a big one

Unknown: 00:26:22

that plays into all of this, too. And so what do we need to

Unknown: 00:26:26

do? Because I mean, we're all at the end of our ropes, you know,

Unknown: 00:26:30

right. And so that's what

Jen Lang: 00:26:31

2021 was in EPS, particularly in our province of

Jen Lang: 00:26:35

British Columbia, there was was quite a year tumultuous year,

Jen Lang: 00:26:38

climate wise with extreme heat, and then flooding, and then snow

Jen Lang: 00:26:43

and cold temperatures. And there's deep freezing. There's a

Jen Lang: 00:26:47

lot of variables flying around right now. And so I think,

Jen Lang: 00:26:53

ultimately, I think the message of this is, be prepared for

Jen Lang: 00:26:56

things that you haven't, you know, necessarily accounted for.

Jen Lang: 00:27:02

And that might be something as simple as like putting an

Jen Lang: 00:27:05

earthquake kit together and emergency kit together. But also

Jen Lang: 00:27:08

for your own health. It might be like, where do you need to stock

Jen Lang: 00:27:11

up on self care? Whether it's, you know, essential oils, or

Jen Lang: 00:27:17

like Tylenol, cold and flu? Where do you need to stock up on

Jen Lang: 00:27:19

those items in your house? So that if you do get sick, you

Jen Lang: 00:27:23

don't have to go anywhere? That's of preparation to

Unknown: 00:27:27

and what boundaries you need to put in pen. Do you need

Unknown: 00:27:29

to wear do you need to carve out more time for yourself? Yeah,

Jen Lang: 00:27:32

exactly.

Unknown: 00:27:33

Yeah, I mean, I think the overall message we're kind

Unknown: 00:27:35

of know in here is that it's gonna continue to be a bit of a

Unknown: 00:27:38

bumpy time for the next. I don't know, we're not we're not

Unknown: 00:27:41

psychics, we can't predict for how long but it feels like for

Unknown: 00:27:44

the next little bit. I keep getting interesting, like from

Unknown: 00:27:48

intuitive guides and people we follow in that realm, but also

Unknown: 00:27:53

just conversations in the more like 3d world around

Unknown: 00:27:57

conversations that are happening at government levels and things

Unknown: 00:28:00

like that, that it sounds to me and just tapping in and feeling

Unknown: 00:28:04

in for myself that spring. You know, we're gonna start to feel

Unknown: 00:28:09

like we can take a breath. I really strongly feel that I

Unknown: 00:28:14

don't know, again, like I can't predict, but that's definitely

Unknown: 00:28:17

the feeling I'm getting. And then it's kind of between now

Unknown: 00:28:20

and you know, spring that is just,

Jen Lang: 00:28:24

I think we have we absolutely have the collective

Jen Lang: 00:28:27

ability to rise above where we are right now. And to, if you

Jen Lang: 00:28:33

want to call in that perspective now and calling that feeling

Jen Lang: 00:28:38

that's a great fit, what do you call it an intention setting,

Jen Lang: 00:28:41

whatever you want to call them? That feeling of like, what a

Jen Lang: 00:28:43

breath of fresh air? above what we have just experienced feel

Jen Lang: 00:28:48

like for you, and how does it feel and then cultivate that

Jen Lang: 00:28:51

feeling? What other activities cultivate that feeling? I think

Jen Lang: 00:28:53

it's probably a really practical tip while it's so how would a

Jen Lang: 00:28:57

breath of fresh air in the spring where restrictions are

Jen Lang: 00:29:01

lifted, you don't have to wear a mask anymore. Imagine that,

Unknown: 00:29:06

that feel into that, step into that meal.

Jen Lang: 00:29:10

And then what other activities provide an expensive

Jen Lang: 00:29:13

feeling for you. So whether it's like listening to your favorite

Jen Lang: 00:29:17

music, or maybe it's a favorite smell or favorite scent, or

Jen Lang: 00:29:21

maybe it's walking out in nature and going into like going to the

Jen Lang: 00:29:26

ocean and looking at the expansiveness of the ocean or

Jen Lang: 00:29:29

the expansiveness of the prairies if you're inland. Yeah.

Jen Lang: 00:29:32

So how can you cultivate those feelings and be more prepared

Jen Lang: 00:29:39

for the good as well as the as well as the less good friend?

Jen Lang: 00:29:44

What do you have on it?

Unknown: 00:29:45

Yeah, I guess right. And to circle back to kind of

Unknown: 00:29:48

just close it up with what we opened with. What do you need to

Unknown: 00:29:50

let go off? Yeah, I think we're still in this space of letting

Unknown: 00:29:53

go and that's what feels like sort of the alignment of

Unknown: 00:29:57

January. It feels different this year. Like, you know, I think I

Unknown: 00:30:01

agree, I'll be honest, this January feels different than a

Unknown: 00:30:04

lot of past January's. And this feels like we're still in this

Unknown: 00:30:08

collective shedding. We're still in this what do we need to let

Unknown: 00:30:11

go of? And, you know, that's it's interesting because we

Unknown: 00:30:17

launched our 321 countdown offer just at the very end of 2021.

Unknown: 00:30:22

And that was originally going to be a limited time offer. Yeah.

Unknown: 00:30:25

And that that offer is all about, it's three sessions with

Unknown: 00:30:30

Jen and I, and where we go into that healing, you know, that

Unknown: 00:30:36

okay, what needs to be let go of what can we go in and sort of

Unknown: 00:30:41

identify and heal and remove to help you get that little bit

Unknown: 00:30:45

closer? And because of where that energy is, and what we felt

Unknown: 00:30:50

into? And like Jen said, we plan kind of by quarter now. We're

Unknown: 00:30:54

like, let's just keep that running. Yeah, because we're

Unknown: 00:30:56

getting uptake on it. You know, people are wanting it, people

Unknown: 00:31:00

are needing it. And so, you know, if you interesting

Jen Lang: 00:31:03

as a listener are feeling like you want a bit of a

Jen Lang: 00:31:06

support. This is one way you can work with us. And this 321

Jen Lang: 00:31:10

countdown offer is that three sessions in a four week period.

Jen Lang: 00:31:14

It's short, it's sweet. There's definitely results in

Jen Lang: 00:31:17

transformations, you're feeling a bit lost, and you kind of

Jen Lang: 00:31:20

don't know what to shed or how to shed it.

Unknown: 00:31:22

Yeah, this is a really, we can really help powerful.

Unknown: 00:31:25

Yeah, I'm,

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I'm totally proud to say that Jane and I are a

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powerful team together. And, you know, where real, real look real

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are so ready to support any of you in this next stage of growth

Jen Lang: 00:31:40

and expansion. And the inward inner verse exploratory work.

Jen Lang: 00:31:46

Yeah, I think on that note, we can round some things up. So you

Jen Lang: 00:31:50

got some practical steps. If you are feelings stuck in that

Jen Lang: 00:31:54

sense, you're not alone. If you have been grounded by illness

Jen Lang: 00:31:58

for the past few weeks, a lot alone. If you were feeling

Jen Lang: 00:32:02

upbeat and ready for the year like me, you are not alone. They

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always have these different perspectives. As always, we'd

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love to hear from you. Please do follow us on our social channels

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So without further ado, much love for 2020 to

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health and happiness, health

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good stuff. All right, we'll stop. We'll see you next week on

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