Walt Disney once said the best way to get what you want is..

Boy have I been there. I have taken more courses and created more content than you can shake a stick at. Yet that is where it often ends. It makes for interesting conversation, but my conditioned self has so many ways of sidetracking my success.

Girls after all are supposed to be nice, (that's my conditioned self Charlotte speaking) Charlotte is afraid of being assertive, decisive, or too ambitious. Instead I should be amicable, friendly, helpful and celebrate the wins of other's. The conditioned self is the younger part of me that hasn't yet felt comfortable with success. The part that trusts me less and just wants to take the easy road. But who ever got successful by playing it small?

And then there is the other problem, what if I got so successful, what then? Would I lose control of my life again? Would I cross over into the realm of the things I don't want? This has been my past manic entrepreneurial brain, leap and leap and leap some more.

And yet my fearless self loves success, in myself and others. That self trusts me, you have done the work and the opportunity is rising on the horizon, just get out there and do it. It's time to celebrate everything about its' creation and take action.

But there she is again, Thanks for bringing that to my attention gain, Charlotte. Now hush sweet baby girl. I got this! Like my mentor and coach says, when in doubt, take action.

Calming the inner child rather than fighter her. Just like feedback, it becomes an opportunity for improvement, not perfection but improving myself. Doing it and realizing once I did it a few times, it wasn't scary at all. But like all goals the next one is on the horizon and it makes me uncomfortable too.

Another thing that works for me is verbalized my thought, by hearing my own voice, I can begin to clarify what sounds like a good plan and refine what is rugged. Like your one minute elevator speak, you got to say it many times before it flows.

Next, I try it out on other people. Start with those great supporters, the easy sell. Why else? Because every time I tell someone I am working it out and there is less chance of backing out.  Charlotte can rest easy. One way I found 

I use other people's knowing about a plan as motivation to step up and into that part of my that seeks to make a difference. Or possibly I am more afraid of what other's would think if I backed out then what excitement lies ahead.

In NLP we talk about the meta programs that are running for every decision we make. One is toward thinking verses away thinking. Towards thinkers are moving forward in excitement, anticipating a good thing. Where away thinkers are moving away from something out of fear. And there is a way we can find out these internal mechanisms. It's in the words we use.

How do we find those meta models? By asking specific questions. Ask a friend about something new they are doing. For example, if someone wants to lose weight. Are they moving towards that picture of a tight body and feeling amazing or are they moving away from the pain and possible disease associated with obesity? these are the clues and they show up in all decision making.

It becomes important to understand ourselves. Why we do the things we do. Once we open the door to awareness, of why we are the way we are, we can take the next step and empower of decisions

For example, much of what I do challenges my belief in my self and my abilities. I often find myself jumping into the deep end rather than grabbing onto a safety rope. You know the feeling of slowly stepping into to cold water? It's easier to just jump and get that uncomfortable entry point over with. Other than jumping from a perfectly good plane, I take the leap of faith in myself and my plan. I am a towards thinker when it comes to business.

And I know I am not that perfectionist, my plan might develop further on the fly, as long as I know the vision then action creates the possibility of falling into place. But I am not the person that looks at the all the little details, knowing this about myself lets me understand where my strengths are and to go big on that aspect and get the support for the "accounting"

And then there is Fear again, a big fish for us humans.

Fear coding runs deep, actually flows through our blood and brains with the briefest of fear based emotions. And the more we practice fear the better we become at fear. Like anything, to become an expert, we must do our ten thousand hours!
Are you getting me now? haha!

Yes, practicing fear makes us an expert worrier, and expert at anxiety and expert at being cautious. And fear is rampant. Fear is used to control us mentally, physically and emotionally, Fear persuades us to do the unimaginable, and it breeds itself.

Fear loves company, the more people that are fearful together the more pathogenic fear multiplies fear. And fear is generic inside our mind. Our brain doesn't recognize the difference between watching a thriller, riding on a roller coaster or being chased by a rabid dog. fear is fear and is can be dangerous to our health. In fact it is a leading factor to almost every disease on the planet, including heart disease, which kills more people than any other cause, including cancer.

The sad part is it doesn't have to be that way, and the scary stat is that majority of people that die from heart disease, die without ever knowing they were at risk or had a problem, they just die. Its like crossing an invisible line and then you in it. And this is about action too don't you think?
We know we are doing things that are not healthy or not eating healthy enough and yet habits keep that hamster wheel turning. 
There is another way, one that removes the habits without it being hard, and it's a game changer. NLP or neuro-linguistics programming is a tool that makes it fun, fast and effective to change our habits. Whether you want to move towards success or lose weight, NLP can use the neuro-plasticity of your mind and update the habits inside your mind. So you just do things differently.

So when you want to change your success, or your behavior in minutes or hours rather than years, call me.