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Lovely Vanessa grace tells her personal story on codependency. Her guru state is helping other overcome codependency but there came a time when she discovered she had her own.
It came as a little bit of a surprise that she was co-dependent! A lady that shines with self worth, and a therapist for several years before her state was revealed. https://www.lifecoachadele.com
Her reaction was not one of excitement. Rather she was defensive and felt attacked and confused. With a bruised pride, assumptions and a lot of shame and blocks flooding her system. It took her several weeks to process but soon she found herself immersed in therapy.
Her red flag was her aversion to therapy. But she learned elements of codependency that she hadn't considered. Her super nice personality soon revealed she was willing to give up her own personal time to over-help others. And that is another definition of being co-dependence.
So many people that re co-dependent are those so nice people that re always there for others. And these personality traits can be considered positive social attributes, but the sacrifice of their own personal time is the difference.
And soon a co-dependent person may feel resentful and at a future time, lash out.
A classic image is a people holding onto the end of a piece of rope. They look around for someone to take the other end of the rope. They want someone to help them. Soon the helper figures out that this other person doesn't really want to do the work at all. On the helpers side, boundaries and self worth are lacking and when they feel tired and unappreciated, resentment shows up.
The difference between healthy and co-dependent tendencies? Vanessa says it always comes back to the persons internal motivation behind why they are doing it. And the child may not be able to have this type of self awareness. If it is the parent observing their child or if they are noticing co-dependency in themselves, they must recognize that this is a pattern that is passed on to children.
If they are helping others and setting boundaries, they are less likely to be co-dependency. How else does is get installed in our children? When we unknowingly have a child emotionally processing the dynamics within their family.
Sensitive children have a higher change of being co-dependence because they feel so many emotions and they do not even recognize that these feelings are not their own.
Check into Vanessa Grace's resources to dial in a session. Or tune into another episode a New Kind of Trauma : https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/14519678
Vanessa is a life coach and healer with a kind and humorous heart. her goal is to help women create the lives they really want for themselves. She offers both 1:1 and group coaching courses that help you to truly transform from the inside. Reach out to Vanessa at www.enlightenedboddlady.com or www.soulamplified.org Direct to Vanessa@soulamplified.org
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