Still Loving My Selfie, Love Thy Selfie Remastered | LAYC32

Will you be my Valentine?

It's February, traditionally the month that we think about hearts

and flowers, and candy, and dates, and a little romance...

Spending a little more time loving on the people that are important in our lives.

I think that we should be loving on ourselves every month.

That's why one of my mottos is Love Thy Selfie.

Just as a reminder...

Particularly for many women...

Certainly I earned that badge...

I am often much more critical of myself than anybody else could ever be.

I'm not good enough.

I'm not young enough.

I'm not slim enough.

I'm not, not, not,

Always this drive to...

Be better THAN...

Instead of going...

This is ME...

And this is wonderful.

I Do Love My Selfie.

It's such an awkward thing at first to say...

To myself...

I was raised with that sort of of attitude of...

Don't be vain.

Don't be looking for compliments..

Always be very humble and meek.

And you know, if you think too much of yourself, well you're really just...

Heading for trouble.

That you should always only be thinking about other people.

And as a woman...

You should put yourself last.

you should always, kind of be...

Demure, or at least not...

Practicing any form of self admiration or self appreciation.

Unfortunately, that's changing a lot.

But of course, the other side of the coin can be...

That now, today, with our social environment...

Where we are being exposed to filtered and altered photographs

of everybody's A life...

But it becomes even more of a challenge to go...

Oh my...

This is me...

Without my makeup, on a bad hair day, on a day when I'm feeling

less than the Superwoman...

That I want to be, or that I need to be...

For myself, and for others.

In a conversation with a friend of mine, not long ago.

She's said something that's just stuck with me...

We were talking about...

At our age...

We're both in our sixties plus...

How to feel desirable and sexy and passionate...

The disappointment in changing, and evolving relationships over time.

Where some of that passion is lost, or we just don't feel sexy

enough to deserve that passion.

Her statement was...

If I don't turn me on?...

Who can?!!

That struck a chord with me, and made me think more about that...

That...

Yes, as a woman, I'm 66 years old now.

I don't know where you are in this spectrum of evolution as a woman...

But...

Can you look at yourself?...

and say...

Hey babe, you turn me on.

And when you do...

Really, really say that with conviction.

How does that change your attitude?...

Your feeling, your posture, your smile, your sparkle, your tingle

in all those great feminine places?

Has society pegged us wrong?

Do we stop being romantic or sexy or just wanting physical affection when,

after menopause, or in our sixties.

I'm a grandmother who's a live, warm blooded woman.

I want not only to be admired for who I am authentically, but to

admire myself, for who I truly am.

When I wonder about how you feel about this, and...

What are the ways that we can appreciate ourselves?

To continue to build ourselves up so that we feel great...

And we set examples for people around us.

Know the old adage...

of mama's not happy, nobody's happy?

I think that applies to how we feel.

Absolutely.

It does apply to how we feel about ourselves and how that radiates

around us and affects other people.

There's the energy, the vibes that are flowing...

When you do feel positive about yourself.

As a woman aging through childbearing years and menopause, and divorce

and business challenges, and growth.

The loss of loved ones, dear friends and parents...

It isn't always sunshine and lollipops..Is it?...

But...

Then you add on to that...

As we get a little older...

And hair is growing where we don't want it to...

And isn't growing, we wish it would more.

Our bodies letting us down, changing and morphing in shape.

Hormones are coming and going.

Staying up late means staying up past 9:00 PM, and our energy levels can be lower,

and our habits, and our willpower...

They have different priorities.

Let's just say that.

Does that mean...

That we aren't any less vibrant?...

and desirable?...

To ourselves, and for ourselves?

I think not.

It's a matter of changing our perspective and realizing that the societal norms

of the curly blue haired grandma...

The cardigan sweater and the sensible shoes are not relevant anymore.

Unless we choose that is who we are, and that's what we love about ourselves.

Instead...

We have options.

We're evolutionary women...

We can rewrite those standards.

And in fact, we're writing what I call Her-story.

What does it mean now, in 2021 and beyond...

To be a woman?

In the 3rd stage of her life?

What do you do?...

How do you show up?...

In those 50, 40, 30, 20, more years that you will live vibrantly and energetic?

What are the ways that you identify with this new you?...

This next you...

How do you leverage that to influence your life, your own autonomy and satisfaction.

How do you influence others, and be a mentor or role

model, for those around you?

With all of that lifetime of accumulated tacit knowledge, feminine wisdom,

experience, strengths and skills.

What will you do?...

To help others, as you Lift As You Climb, and have an impact that is significant...

and is the legacy that you create!

Very interested to hear what your thoughts are about...

Do you turn yourself on?

If you don't...