Change Decoded | LAYC37

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Hello again my friends!

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Welcome back to the second episode in our series about change.

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If you joined me on episode 35...

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Called, Driving Change...

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You know that I shared my Summer vacation story of getting lost on purpose...

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To try to sort out a mental mess.

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Something that I was really struggling with on a decision I

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felt I needed to make, but I wasn't fully in a place of saying...

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Yes...

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I am a 100% sure that this is the change that I need to make.

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This is the time in which I need to make it.

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I also had some fun on that podcast, as I shared with you...

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That my driving partner...

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At least part of the trip, was Kevin Costner...

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At least in my imagination he was.

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But I did also tell you that Kevin Costner likes road trips, just as much as I do.

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And I shared something cool that he's doing.

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So double back...

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If you haven't already listened to episode 35, and find out what I'm talking about.

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And also, I just take this opportunity to say if you know...

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A friend, a loved one who is also struggling right now...

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Like I was...

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With making a decision and feeling good about having reached that decision.

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Then please, share these episodes with them as well.

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You'll be doing them a really, really great service...

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And you will be lifting...

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As you climb.

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So...

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Today's topic about change...

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This is about...

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The mess, the model, the confusion, the fear...

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That often comes with making a big lifestyle change decision.

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It's scary.

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It's so scary.

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What if...

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You're making a mistake?

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What if...

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You should stay where you are?

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What if...

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You haven't thought this through properly?

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I get it, because I've been there...

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Often in my life...

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As the Transformation Maven, and a woman who is constantly reinventing...

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and proud to be still evolving in my late 60s.

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Many times, I have faced myself in the mirror thinking...

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What the F...

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Isabel...

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Are you doing?...

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Thinking about making that change?

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Wouldn't it just be easier to stay where I am right now?...

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Even though I don't like it...

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And I'm not feeling comfortable and I'm feeling...

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Suppressed and contained...

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You know, it could just be safer to stay in that little place.

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Well...

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Ultimately, I realized that's not what I want.

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And I know that as afraid as I am, of making this move to change...

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I am much more afraid of the regrets of not having taken the

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chance and acted on the change.

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I know when I talk with my besties, my Vitamin G network...

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And my clients, we all agree that making the decision and having the confidence...

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That the right decision is hard.

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It's really hard.

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And there are various processes and approaches, but...

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I've found one that I modified, and maximized, over

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the last couple of decades.

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I have created a tool which has been very helpful for me and for many of my clients.

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It's a resource that was shared with me decades ago in a business group.

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But it wasn't quite as robust or encompassing as I needed.

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So over the decades...

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I modified this and refined it to become what I call...

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the Change Decoded System.

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This is what I go to...

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It's my go-to...

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When my gut is churning, and my head is aching...

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And I know I have to make a decision...

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But my limiting beliefs...

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My monkey mind...

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All of those obstacles that are subconscious, and

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conscious, put in front of us...

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Get in the way.

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Today, in the notes...

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I'm going to include where to download this for free, so that

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you can use it for yourself.

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But even more important I felt was to explain really how to get the

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most out of using the Change Decoded System, and share a little bit about...

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How it's really helped me.

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So...

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Buckle up!...

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We're going to talk about change!

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You will be able to follow along if you're just on audio with this...

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But also, if you have an opportunity to go ahead and download it...

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Then you'll actually see the pages I'm talking about.

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It's simple...

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But it's elegant and it's very effective.

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It's only four pages.

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And...

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If you're like me...

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Sometimes 4 isn't quite enough space...

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Then just grab your journal, or any other piece of paper, and continue

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to download all of what we're going to pull from you using this tool.

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The first thing we need to do is decide what are we decoding?

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What is the change that you are contemplating?

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Frame that in a single clear sentence.

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Don't try to solve all of the world's problems...

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Or plan your entire life at once.

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But let's pick one significant area...

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The change that you think...

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And you've been thinking about for a while...

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But weren't quite clear on what that would mean for you.

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What is the change that you are contemplating?

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Try to get rid of the noise and the clutter...

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Of what somebody else may want.

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Because this is all about you, and only about you.

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My focus is on you.

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All right...

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So when you have written that sentence down...

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Read it out loud...

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Get it really clear...

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Cemented in your brain.

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And then...

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On the page in front of you, there are two tables, and I want you to brain-dump...

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Free flow...

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Allow what you don't even know, is in your subconscious, to come out on the paper...

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Without editing, without punctuation, without concern for penmanship.

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Remember, this is only for you.

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No one else sees it.

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No one else is going to judge it.

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Please...

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Do your best not to judge yourself.

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Everything you can possibly dump...

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To ask and answer these 2 questions...

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What is the best thing that could happen if I do it?

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Keeping in mind what you wrote down for...

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What is the change you are contemplating?

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I now want you to answer...

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What's the best thing that could happen if you do it?

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Again...

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Just let it flow.

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And no matter how sublime or ridiculous or far-fetched...

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Or unnerving any of the answers are...

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Put them down there...

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Write every single thing that comes to you.

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And when you think you can't think of anything else...

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That would be the best thing that could happen to you if you do make

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the change you're contemplating...

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Then I want you to switch to the other side of the page,

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and free flow, brain dump...

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Let it all pour out...

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What is the worst thing that could happen if you do do it?

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What's the worst thing that could happen?...

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If you do the change that you're contemplating.

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I, don't put any governors on this.

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Let it flow.

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Sublime...

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Ridiculous...

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Crazy...

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Impossible...

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At this moment in your thinking...

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Whatever resistance that you are feeling...

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About...

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What could be the worst thing about the change you're contemplating?...

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And dump that all out there.

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Now depending on how far you are in this process of evaluating

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or decoding your change.

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You may need to journal for a couple of days.

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You may need to write 5 items...

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Or you might write 2.

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You may come up with 105, for the best and worst things that can happen...

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But just let it flow.

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Okay.

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Now my recommendation is that you get up...

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Walk around a little bit, go get a coffee, get a glass of wine...

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Kind of just go...

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Just shake up your brain for a little bit...

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Because we're going to move to the second page of the system.

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And again, keeping in mind the question and the answer to...

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What is the change you are contemplating?

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I want you to again...

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Thought download, brain dump, let it all come out...

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Unfiltered...

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Unmasked...

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Uncensored...

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And answer the question first...

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What is the best thing that could happen if you do not do it?

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Got that?

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Be clear.

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This is the opposite of the first part of the exercise.

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What is the best thing that could happen if you do not make that change?

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After you've emptied your psyche out onto the paper...

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Then I would like you to shift your thinking around...

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What is the worst thing that could happen, if you do not do?...

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You do not make the change you're contemplating.

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Again, don't judge, don't limit, don't sensor yourself.

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I'm pretty sure that you will experience, like I usually do...

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Some big surprises.

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You may not have been aware of what was hiding back there in your thoughts.

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that's a good thing, because getting it all out...

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Removes the conflict that you're having...

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Removes a lot of confusion...

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Certainly reduces stress, and it allows you to release all of the energy around

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things that you're holding onto...

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That no longer serves you.

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Now...

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At this stage of the process, the Change Decoded System...

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I want you to stand up, stretch, jump dance, sing...

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Whatever you need to do...

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I want you to give your brain a little space here for processing, and

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now you will answer this question.

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Very important question.

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What choice serves the future you desire?

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Maybe you already know, because you've been processing as

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you've been journaling...

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But if it's not immediately evident for you...

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Then take a highlighter...

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And go back through the brain dumps that you did in the 4 categories, and

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look for the things that jump out...

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That resonate to you, and think about why...

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Why is that triggering a feeling in you, an emotion in you?

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There's a clue...

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Trust me.

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There's lots of cues and clues, in how we are reacting to our own answers.

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And now, taking a little time, try to summarize what is the choice

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that serves the future you desire.

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I should have given you a heads up at the beginning of this to say before

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you start the Change Decoded System...

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Make sure you clear the deck...

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Be in a private space...

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Have a box of tissues and lots of your favorite beverage.

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And allow yourself the time and space, to dedicate to this.

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Don't have other people coming in to your space and interrupting the flow.

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Don't be concerned about anybody else listening in or being over your shoulder.

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Let the emotions flow.

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Try to do this all in one sitting.

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If you cannot...

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If there are physical reasons you cannot.

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Or emotionally, this is too much in one go...

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Then make sure you come back to complete the next 2 stages very quickly.

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I want it all to stay fresh for you...

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And you will get the best results from this process.

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All right, everybody...

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Shake it off again...

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Blow your nose if you have to.

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I have shed many a tear...

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But it's been very cleansing for me every time I go through this process.

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Now I'm going to ask you...

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Based on your answer to what choice serves the future you desire?

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Answer for yourself...

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What or who, must you release to get the outcome you desire?

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When we change...

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It does require us to let go of something to have capacity.

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In episode 35, I shared with you that a big part or revelation

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that occurred for me on the road trip was that the change that I was

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contemplating, processing, could only happen if I released some things.

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I had to release some expectations and judgments, and habits,

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and even some relationships.

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I'm not saying disposing of relationships, but changing the dynamics...

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And changing my expectations of those relationships, is very important.

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And for you...

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I ask you now to think about...

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Are there WHOs in your life...

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That you need to release?...

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Or at least reallocate?...

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In terms of their priority in your life.

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So that you have the capacity to grow and to evolve.

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And to really be successful and enjoy this change.

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My friend Marg Hachey says that no one really likes change except a wet baby.

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And yeah, as you change and evolve...

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it's going to be unsettling for people around you.

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So we'll talk about that in an upcoming episode about...

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How to create positive change in your relationships as you are moving forward.

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Letting go of someone doesn't mean that you don't care about them any more...

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But really...

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You have to care for yourself first...

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Before you can give back the best of you.

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There's also the WHATs that we have to assess.

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What do you need to do differently?

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What is the way that you want to show up?...

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And must show up...

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If you want to affect this change successfully.

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Take some time and think through...

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What you're doing now?

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Where's your energy going now?

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Where are your resources going now?

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And which ones of those will no longer really be of value, as you move

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into this new chapter of your life?

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Again, No one's going to see this.

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No one's going to feel like they have been exorcised from your life.

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Only you will choose what things you're going to stop doing...

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Subscribing to, habits that you do...

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And let that...

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Again, be uncensored, free flowing...

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And out of that...

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Stand back...

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And circle the things that really resonate with you...

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That are priorities and are essential.

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And if it makes you uncomfortable...

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Take a little time to journal more about why that specific...

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Who or What...

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and changing it...

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Makes you nervous?

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The conclusion of the Change Decoded system...

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Because it brings us to a very positive place...

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I'm going to ask you to answer for yourself...

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What and Who do you now need to attract to yourself?

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What relationships do you need to cultivate?...

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Or existing ones, that you need to nurture, to make this change

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Positive, Possible, and Probable.

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Looking at the positive side of this...

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What do you need to add?

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The resources, and the relationships, and the skills that will help you

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affect that change, and be very happy that you made the decision to do it.

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I know it's a lot to take in all at once.

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But the good news is...

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With the PDF.

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You can use my process...

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Change Decoded...

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Again, and again...

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Each time something comes up...

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And I hope for you...

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Many opportunities to consider change come up, because that means that

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your life is expanding, and your opportunities are expanding, and you are

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continuing to become more of yourself.

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The best of you.

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With that...

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It means that you are able to do more for others, and you are bringing

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your superpowers, your abilities, your leadership, and your example

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as a role model to the world.

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And we all need that.

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Love to hear your feedback on how Change Decoded System worked

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for you, helped you in any way...

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That is my dream come true.

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My desire is for it to help you.

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If you're ready for the next steps in your transformation process.

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I have a fabulous tool that would be perfectly timed now for you.

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It's a fabulous confidence building tool that will help to unlock and unleash the

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potential that you have built up in you.

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That perhaps you need some reminding of what an incredible

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vault of value you have.

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That is also with my compliments to you, in the show notes...

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But easy to remember...

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It's MyEncore.ME

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So for now, to conclude our episode on change, I'll be back next week...

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As we continue to evaluate all the aspects of change.

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It is a multifaceted...

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Challenge and Opportunity for all of us...

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If we choose it to be so.

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There's a quote that says that...

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Choices, Chances and Changes, are the 3 Cs of life.

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You must make a choice to take a chance...

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Or your life will never change.

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For today, I wish you positive change and exciting change!

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Look forward to talking to you next week!

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And please, if there's someone in your life that you think this

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podcast would add value to...

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Or these tools and resources would be helpful...

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Let them know...

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Share the podcast with them.