Navigating the Digital Maze for LGBTQ+ Parental Guidance

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Today we are going to have a brief discussion about finding accurate information online, and how to develop a discerning eye for misinformation. This is a topic I realized that we could have a really intense discussion about and I do welcome any thoughts and questions you have. But for the purposes of this episode, I just want to share a few strategies you can use to help you on your quest for information. There's nothing worse than being derailed by misinformation and then following it down a rabbit hole. It can be a huge time suck and not the way most of us want to use our time. So follow along, take some notes and let me know if there's a thread you'd like me to follow in another episode.

Learning to be a savvy researcher was one of the great lessons I've learned on our journey we had so With so many questions, as you well know, when Connor first came out, and as one would get answered, two more would pop up. We all know that there is a ridiculous amount of misinformation out there on all topics. And if I had to guess LGBTQ topics would be near the top. So how do we hone our discernment? How do we figure out what is true and what is not true? After all of these years, I've come up with a few strategies that help and that's what I want to share with you today. Visualize credibility as a compass, and your north, or your North Star, as reliable and accurate information. Evaluating the authority of a website. Considering domain trustworthiness and scrutinizing the expertise of authors are pivotal steps and anchoring this trust. It's essential to discern truthfulness by cross referencing facts, and employing credibility checkers, ultimately creating a fortress of verified knowledge. Now, I know this takes extra time to do these things, everything that I'm going to be recommending to you today takes an extra step or two extra steps. But in the end, it's worth it. So think about that, as you're like, I really just, I just want to know something and I'm just going to go with it, right? Think about taking at least that one extra step or taking a moment, and just listening to that voice inside of you. That is never wrong. That will tell you, maybe you should look, maybe you should check one more thing. Or two more things, or this is, this is good. This is good for now. When we leverage the wisdom of peer reviewed journals, or peer reviewed articles, and the insights from expert interviews, it significantly enhances this solidity of online research findings. We must remain aware of biases and seek a balanced perspective from various sources.

So let's explore some of these strategies that will build your ability or bolster your ability to determine the trustworthiness of online content. It will fortify your search strategies and steer your research journey from doubt to trust. So the first strategy is about understanding the sources of authority. Evaluating Sources of authority isn't just about checking credentials. It's about ensuring the information stands on a solid foundation of expertise, and trustworthiness. Here's how to delve deeper and confirm the authority of your sources. The first thing is expertise assessment, look for information about the author's expertise, such as their degrees, their academic degrees, their professional affiliations, their life experiences, verify the author's role as the original content creator. For original research, it should appear in peer reviewed journals. The next one is the publishers reputation. Assess the publishers credibility by considering their mission and whether they present content through a specific lens. So you can do this by going to a publishers website, and reading about them. Typically, there is you know, there's the about us page or paragraph or something their mission that will give you an idea of who they are, and perhaps even the type of materials that they publish and put out into the world. Look at what else they have published while you were there. And where it has been published. So meaning, look to see if it is a book like a nonfiction book, or is it an academic book, it could be a mix of book, online material, digital courses, that type of thing. So take a look at that, and then recognize the publishers role in establishing the sources of authority, especially when the author details are scarce. So what is the publisher done to help create or create information about the author? The next one is domain and design scrutiny. Check the word websites domain is it.com.edu.gov.org. This will help you gauge the sources initial credibility and then evaluate the professionalism of the website's design as an indicator of resource seriousness, is it does it seem like it was just slapped up there? Is there any type of design to the website, these are things that you know, you can just with a few minutes with your eye, you will know.

The next is comprehensive credibility checks. I love a good acronym to help me remember things and these two do not disappoint. The first is to apply the CRAP test, si r a p, Currency, Relevance, Authority, Accuracy and purpose to each of the sources, as well as the SMART Check. And this isn't the typical smart that we're often use use to for creating SMART goals. For instance, this one is for newspapers sources, and this focuses on source motive, authority review, and the two source test. So again, these are two really, really important ones, write them down the CRAP test, Currency, Relevance, Authority, Accuracy and purpose, as well as the SMART Check, which is source, motive, authority review, and the to source test, and then engage in lateral reading, meaning exploring fact checking sites and more information about the author and the site. By considering these factors, you'll be better equipped to discern the credibility of online content, ensuring you covered the bases of authority and reliability. Remember that authority is constructed and contextual. It evolves over time and must be considered from multiple angles. Keep these checkpoints handy as you continue to gather information. Number two is assessing the accuracy of content. And searching for truth online, it is crucial to assess the accuracy of content meticulously. Here are a couple strategies to help with this. The first is verification through multiplicity. So what does that mean? It's a lot of awesome sounding words, well, it means cross referencing information with multiple reliable sources to confirm the veracity or the truth. Validate claims using esteemed fact checking websites like PolitiFact and Snopes. I've a really, really good article that I found linked in the blog version of this episode that gives really good context and background on the accuracy of fact checking websites because I know that's something that does get thrown around a lot that we've heard so much more about in reference to in the past few years. And I thought this article is super helpful and understanding why certain ones were used in different instances. So go ahead and hop on over to the website and check out the blog version of this which is much more detailed, and you can read this article as well.

The next is to use technical checks for trustworthiness, meaning inspect for typographical errors, which indicate the lack of professionalism test for broken links, and check the site's uptime, the how fast to uploads, pictures, those types of things. And then here's a big one, conduct reverse image searches to trace the origin of online images. This will ensure that they are not misrepresented. This is a really really important one to do, especially as AI gets bigger and bigger. The next one is content, maintenance and standards. Establish a clear set of standards for source credibility, including format styles and citation requirements. Check that they regularly update content to maintain its relevance and accuracy over time. And then finally use tools such as Grammarly or Copyscape. For grammar for plagiarism, and those type of things. And really the biggest thing and I cannot say this enough, your biggest strategy is always always going to be to use your critical thinking skills, do not assume anything, and ensure that opinions are supported by solid evidence. And this really kind of puts us into our number three, which is analyzing the objectivity and the bias. This is where those critical thinking skills will really, really come in handy. Analyzing the objectivity and the bias of what you are reading. Objectivity is the bedrock of credible research, representing facts unaffected by personal feelings, or opinions. I'm just going to say that one more time, because I think this is really, really, really important. Objectivity is the bedrock of credible research, representing facts unaffected by personal feelings or opinions. Now, before I go any further, I just want to say that I know a lot of what I enjoy reading, and a lot of times I'll do you know, a percentage of my, what I'm reading online, when I'm trying to find an answer, are pieces that are opinion pieces, or have bias or opinion in them, right? I bring that up, because I think it's necessary to have a mix of both. And really, what I'm talking about today is the other not the opinion pieces, but the the strict research the objective pieces of information that are out there, that that we are looking for. So I just wanted to kind of throw that in there right now while we're discussing them. And to give you a couple of tips on how to discern the neutrality of content, or you know, the objectivity. So the first is to look at the purpose and the goals, assess the contents purpose, and the author's goals, try to figure out what they are, Is there information isn't meant to just inform? Is it meant to persuade you one way or another? Understand the difference between an opinion piece and a peer reviewed academic article, and understand that there is a huge spectrum? And between those two huge spectrum of information that you will find and between those two, and then consider the intended audience? Who is the information aimed at aimed toward and why. Next, you want to consider the author's background? Consider their affiliations, consider their expertise, any groups that they may be representing or associated with or working with? Do they have any kind of particular agenda? And then take a look at the language that's used? Is it language that is really emotional? Or is it neutral? Is it really academic and the type of wording that is used? Or is it more conversational and colloquial, and then check the depth of that information provided? A well researched article will support its claims with facts and data. So keep that in mind as you are online or in books, reading and researching.

When you are looking at a sources purpose and objectivity specifically, consider the abstract or the summary or table of contents to understand the scope of content. Check for any institutional affiliations that could influence this perspective. And then note the domain extension for instance.edu domains often indicate educational institutions which may present information more neutrally. And then finally, to effectively evaluate bias take a look at any rhetorical fallacies and check if credible resources or sources back these claims. Be wary of content framing and selective facts reporting acknowledge personal biases that could color the evaluation process. research using multiple sources to find consistency and counteract confirmation bias. I am going to say this one one more time, because it's really, really, really important. I know that as we research and the type of research that I do, a lot of it has to do with LGBTQ topics and LGBTQ issues. And it is so easy to fall into looking up information that confirms what I already believe, right? What I already think it's important to push yourself outside of that comfort outside of that zone of knowledge, your zone of genius, I guess, to see, look at everything that is out there, right and look at multiple sources to see what's being said. Even if and it may be even, especially if it's different than what you believe or different than what you think this is an important practice a good practice, as difficult as it may be, to help you really hone your skills. By applying these analytical lenses, you can sift through content with a balanced view, you can separate fact from opinion and gain a clearer understanding of the information landscape. Remember that we all have biases, this is not a judgment call, it is a statement of fact, these biases affect how we receive information and how we put it back out into the world. This is a topic that we will explore and another blog post and in another episode, podcast episode, but for the time being, it is worth remembering this as you hone your information gathering skills. Number four is utilizing advanced search strategies.

So what are those actual tools that you can use as you gather information online that will save you time or help you find more information in one search or better information in one search, because it can be incredibly overwhelming and time consuming. So here are some of the ones that I use most often. The first batch are to help organize and synthesize information, using analysis, your critical eye and then synthesizing, compare and contrast varying perspectives and findings. Look for gaps, inconsistencies, contradictions, and then integrate diverse information to form a comprehensive understanding. This will really help you find that broad landscape active or use advanced search tools and techniques, search engines, use Google Scholar. If you're looking for medical specific information, use PubMed, there are search and just powerful search engines. One of that I don't think it's only I know it's used a lot that we don't often remember to reference it is YouTube as an incredible search engine for information. You search filters, apply filters for dates for language, and this will really help you hone in on precise results. combine keywords with the words and OR, or NOT to expand or narrow your search. And then use quotation marks for exact phrases and the Asterix the star for a truncation. Use Google Analytics hot jar or survey monkey to gauge content impact. Stick to specific keywords related to your topic. This will help you be consistent over time. Employ hashtags and keywords on platforms like X, even Instagram for the latest insights LinkedIn, oh my goodness, really any of these social media platforms where hashtags are really useful. And then keep track of your sources and tools, and whatever tracking whether it's Google Sheets, Google Docs, a Word doc, your notes app, any of these things will help you track what you're doing. By weaving these strategies into your research fabric, you will be able to craft a tapestry of credible and relevant information. Awareness and practice of these methods help you not only refine your critical thinking skills and discernment, but more broadly, grow as a human being. Before we wrap up today, I want to remind you all about my book launch team. If you love what I do, and would like to help me get this book into as many hands as possible, and in return, receive some really cool perks, click on the link in the show notes, or email me at h h at chrysalis mama.com to let me know that you are interested. As a member of the book launch team, you will become part of my mission of transforming the conversation around loving raising and empowering LGBTQ people with unique solutions for parents and families, organizations and global outreach. Many More details will be available through the book launch team communications, so if you're interested, make sure you click on that link. Or you email me. Until next time, Big hugs, and lots of love.

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