June 8, 2022

Walking the Edge of Everyday with Sandra Bargman

Walking the Edge of Everyday with Sandra Bargman

In today’s episode, we meet Sandra Bargman, an interfaith ordained minister, spiritual counselor, and leadership coach, where we explore what it means to walk “The Edge of Everyday.” The conversation is raw and real and delves into what it means to be spiritual.

 

Show Highlights:

The difference between being religious and being spiritual

Creating your own spiritual practice

Being in relationships - the number 1 spiritual practice and how they provide opportunities to “know thyself.”

Unity Consciousness - understanding we are all interconnected and why this is important

About Our guest Sandra Bargman

Sandra Bargman is an interfaith ordained minister, spiritual counselor, leadership coach, actor, voice-over artist, singer and creator, and host of Talk Radio’s The Edge of Every Day, where she explores with her guests the edges we all face and grapple with in our challenging times.

 

How to connect with Sandra Bargman

Website: www.SandraBargman.com

Email: revsandrabargman@gmail.com

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandrabargman/

 

Weekly Podcast - The Edge of Everyday:

talkradio.nyc/shows/the-edge-of-everyday

YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkZ1FE8OR10

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TBvAOLnSu9U


About Your Host:

I’m your host, Anita Adams, an award-winning leader and the founder of Joyful Inspired Living, an organization dedicated to teaching people how to access their highest most authentic self so they can find clarity and create a life of purpose, passion, and joy. In addition to hosting the Joyful Journey Podcast, I offer retreats, both live and online, and private coaching programs to further guide my clients on their journey to their highest self.

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Transcript
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Hey, joyful journey your journey to Adams here your host of the

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joyful journey podcast and today I am thrilled to introduce you

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to my guests Sandra bargeman. Sandra is a kickass straight

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shooter, multi talented human being. She's an interfaith

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ordained minister, spiritual counselor, leadership coat

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actor, voiceover artist, singer, and creator and host of talk

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radio's the edge of every day, where she explores with her

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guests, the edges we all face and grapple with in our

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challenging times. Sandra understands that life isn't

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black or white, but rather it's where these two meet where we

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find the most creativity, chaos, and ultimately understanding.

Anita Adams:

Sandra, welcome. Thank you so much for joining me today. Oh,

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hello, Anita,

Sandra Bargman:

thank you so much for having me. Hello to all

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of your listeners.

Anita Adams:

You know, I have to tell you, when we first met, I

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just I felt this like instant connection. And if I could be so

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vulnerable to say even love like I just like I loved you

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instantly. I felt like we were old souls reason. United like

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Where have you been?

Sandra Bargman:

Right? Exactly.

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And comfortable and beautiful. And you held space

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for me. And we just like, wow, it was amazing. And it kind of

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made me wonder. Could we have met in a past life? Do you end

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Do you believe

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in? Totally. Oh, my gosh, yes. Full on believe in

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that. Yeah.

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Yeah, totally. And I am aware of well, as much as I

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could be aware of, you know, there, there are certain things

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we can never know for sure. But I'm on board with it. And I feel

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as though I do know some of the past ones.

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But I think it's so cool. I just I left that our

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first meeting and going wow, like I just I felt like I was

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seen and understood by this woman I just met. And I loved

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it. I love that feeling. And I made a gift. Maybe that's your

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gift that you give to everyone. You know, and I wouldn't be

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surprised if that's what you do. Because you're so you're so deep

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and open and vulnerable yourself. And this is who I am

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with the F bomb I

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love it. I love everything was

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no preciousness in that conversation. And I discovered

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this great voice with you. I feel like some character was

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coming through, like truck driver mouth was coming through.

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And it was so much fun.

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It was just raw and real, which is so indeed,

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so which is the edge of every everything.

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That's awesome. So I am curious, and I'd love to

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hear again. I mean, I heard it before, but I want to hear it

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again. so my listeners can understand you and where you

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come from your background. And, you know, let's tell us about

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your journey and how you got to be doing what you're doing

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today.

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Oh my gosh, well, I guess I could start with one of

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my favorite stories that I that I didn't even mentioned in the

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edge of every day the solo show that the podcast is based upon.

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But and this is a true story that my mother told me that at I

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was three or four years old apparently and marched into the

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kitchen and literally said to her with my hands on my hips.

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I'm here on a mission

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you had a knowing I had a

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knowing and I all my life from that time on I have I

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was always a performer I mean I popped out of the womb, acting

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and singing and and and telling stories and and dancing around

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but I was also really connected to the outdoors. I was a tomboy

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and was pretty comfortable outside by myself walking

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through the woods and taking bike rides off into, you know,

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deserted places. And I was also very aware of my my spiritual

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questing, of course, I wouldn't have thought of it like that it

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was just an awareness of the veil, it was an awareness of

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energy, you know, I was the kid in the corner the the empath in

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the corner that had had the antenna and could read the

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energy of the room. And when I was little, I could see things

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i. So those three things have been very prevalent in my life

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forever. Since the beginning, the thing that probably I

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received the most attention for and upliftment in my family was

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with my performing, and I did my first play, when I was six years

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old, I played the violin, my dad played the violin, you know, I

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sang in the choirs and, and I just continued that. And

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fortunately, my parents always put me in. We were always in

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education, education systems and communities that had really high

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end arts and performance programs. So not necessarily

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always great sports. We had, okay, football team, but we had

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a kick ass band marching band. So, you know, like, my high

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school was recording albums kind of thing. It was a little like,

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over the top insane. So, so acting and singing and voice

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over work that out of the gate became the first career because

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that was, and I think, if I'm honest, it was also I was very

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connected to my mom, very psychically connected and very,

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in all the good ways and bad ways of that. I think there was

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a bit of living out her dream and her living vicariously

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through me, which is not to say that I had no interest in this

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at all. Of course, I'd love doing it too. But

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they really encouraged it. Oh,

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they totally did. I was happily Fortunately, one of

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those kids were, you know, and maybe it was because I was

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female. My dad was on board with it. Maybe it was because, you

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know, he, I don't want to be he was a wonderful dad. But maybe

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it was because he saw my mom was so into it. He was a very

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supportive dad, they were both very supportive. But anyway, so

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that's why that first came out. And then, you know, my spiritual

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life was very active through all of that, but it really, I

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stepped into that a little bit more when I'm briefly moved out

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of the city, with my then boyfriend now husband of 30

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years. And then And then, you know, it just all started

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merging and morphing, and I kept collecting more threads, as I

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like to think of it into the tapestry and wearing more hats

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and throwing more balls up in the air like a crazy person.

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What was there? Was there a turning point at any any

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time along the way where you're like, you know, I've read this

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is where the direction I really want to go and I really want to

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develop my spirituality or I really want to teach people or

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be a leader in the spiritual realm. Totally. Absolutely.

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What's that that story? Swell,

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it kind of happened over and over throughout my

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performing life. For instance, I'm when I briefly moved out of

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the city and moved in with my boyfriend at the time now

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husband, he's a scientist, and he lived on a nature preserve

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the 3000 acre nature preserve and this big haired, big

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earring, big shooed city girl moved in and said, You know, I'm

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going to check out regional theater up there and and, you

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know, when I start pulling out all my hair, and it's on the

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ground, and I'm ready to go back to New York City, we'll we'll

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cross that bridge together when we get there. But what I didn't

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anticipate was that I mean, I literally lived in the woods in

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the capital district area of upstate New York in the woods to

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three hours north of New York City in the woods with no

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nightlights in a cabin with a composting toilet, and that we

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go right and I thrived. I that I really got in touch with that

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tomboy part of me that outdoor connected priestess energy and

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that was one turning point and I connected with I started getting

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the equity contracts in theater productions. So there was a an

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element of mentoring and teaching within that. I was

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always exploring my spiritual life and Then around the time I,

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I was on tour with Cinderella, starring Eartha Kitt as the

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fairy godmother. And a friend of mine in the, in the show was

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life coaching, as well, life coaching was just coming on the

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scene. And she said, you know, this is a great fit for you,

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you, you would love doing this and you'd be great at it. And I

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was really opening up much more fully to my service side. And,

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and if I will say a bit of boredom with the business of

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show, which is not to say it's a boring business, but it was just

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my growth at the time. And I circled in and out of that

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probably, you know, through throughout my entire career. But

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anyway, so I checked coaching, and and I attend conferences,

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and I get clients and, and do little training. And it's not

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quite the right fit for me. And I didn't 100% understand why.

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And one day, you know, I was just doing some research and I

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was on a website, a coach website and also up in the

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corner on the right hand side, she had the phrase, interfaith

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minister, coach, interfaith minister and something else. And

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a light bulb went off off and I was immediately on, you know,

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researching interfaith Minister found a seminary in New York

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City, I found a few of them in New York City, and I, you know,

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check them out and interviewed with one and was signed up,

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boom, ready to go, having no idea what a minister would be?

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Or do.

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But it was, yeah, but you felt this connection to

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it all the time.

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Totally, and understood that this was the next right

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step, for me to step out of the proverbial spiritual closet and

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into a more of a leadership role. Because I knew I had the

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voice for it. I've always known that but I just didn't quite

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know, to what extent that or how that would look. Right. So good.

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So go ahead. I was gonna launch into a pretty big story about

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how I, I sunk into that. Yeah, go back to my mom. My mother was

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dying of cancer in my first year of seminary. And yeah, and she

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she asked me to be the minister at her funeral. Oh, wow. Yeah.

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So So I think of it in terms of her birthing me twice. No, like

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I had

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I had lived her dream which was also mine, it

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wasn't as it like I said, it wasn't

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I didn't bucket I loved it and continue to love it but

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but in her dying and choosing me to be her minister, there was a

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birth into that work. And after she died, I did it. I even sang

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like a crazy person. And that the complete and utter grief

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that I was consumed with was my baptism. Also my baptism by fire

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into the work

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I really really feel that

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it's beautiful Sandra. I love how your mom played such an

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integral part of an important part of who you are and your

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journey and kind of opened the door to that which is so

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special.

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Very special. Yes, she did. Thank you for letting me

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share that.

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Yeah, thank you for being so open and vulnerable

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with me ah tell me why interfaith of all the spiritual

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directions you could have gone in why interfaith Yeah

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that's a great question. Why interfaith no

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one's ever asked me that. Have I ever asked myself that? I think

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you know, if you know, I'm gonna play. I'm gonna play a little

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academic here. I think it's probably because I've been

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curious about all of it. Throughout my whole life, I

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mean, I was raised Christian. I was raised Protestant,

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Presbyterian, specifically, we my prayer Aren't smooth. They

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were from Pittsburgh and they moved us back to Pittsburgh when

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I was just before my 10th birthday. And so we went to my

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grandparents church. And I got out of organized religion, I,

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you know, I was having a hard time with organized religion

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pretty early into my teens, but I just loved being in church and

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I love the iconography. And I love the costumes, and I love

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the drama of it. And, and I love singing the music, and I was in

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the choir and but I was, and I love Jesus's message. I love the

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stories, but I was pretty on board that this was not for me.

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What part of it was not for you, because it sounds

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like you've loved the ritual.

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I love totally love the ritual and the ceremony. And,

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and, and, but I very quickly plugged into the dogma and the

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control. Okay, it's not just not for me, and that, you know,

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these stories I knew were metaphors, I was not taking

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anything, and, you know, just didn't speak to me didn't expand

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me. And I already felt like I had a relationship with Yeshua

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with Jesus, I already felt that way. So it didn't feel like I

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had to go to church for that i didn't i It was so much a part

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of who I was, I didn't have to go anywhere. Right. So intercut

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is, you know, I think, because it just the, the light bulb just

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went off. It's just the direction I went. And I loved

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and we learned all about all of the major religions, including

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the earth religions, which I was already interested in and

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curious about, and exploring and Eastern religions already

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exploring that. You know, so it was a way for me to just sink

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into this whole world, even though I knew that the organized

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religion was not was not my path. And my eclectic, it gave

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me a set of ways of, of languaging with people. And I

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think that that's another aspect of this, if you're going to step

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out in any sort of way, and you want to have some, potentially

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some courageous conversations with people, it's good to have

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the language that they relate to, you know, the the set of,

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you know, which is by no means a, as an interfaith Minister,

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you know, I'm an expert in all world religions, you know, but I

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have, I have the overall understanding and the depth

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within them and the languaging. So I can speak with people and

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from a respectful angle, perspective,

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yeah, I love that. I love what you said that the

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church didn't expand you. And I think that's so important. You

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know, we have to that's, that's, that's growth, right? That's,

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and we need to be continuingly expanding ourselves. I grew up

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in the Christian world as well. Baptist was my you know,

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upbringing. And I feel your story is very familiar to me as

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well. I didn't, I didn't find it expensive being in church. And

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it's not to say that it can't be I mean, it can be very expensive

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for all sorts of people. For me, I, I felt it, I needed something

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different. And I struggled with that for a number of years, I

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really struggled with this spiritual side of me that wanted

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to grow and evolve and not really liking the church and

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some of the things that I was seeing or experiencing. And then

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I ultimately I found my church, if you will, walking in the

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woods, you know, it's just connecting with neighboring

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Church, the green church was really cool. That's yeah. And

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I'd love I would love to learn more about other other religions

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or ways of being in the world other beliefs and expand my

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knowledge there. I'm curious like you that's really cool.

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Yeah. Because it's,

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it's fun because it's connected to culture. So

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there's, there's so there's so much that contributes from a

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cultural standpoint, that's really cool. You know, like the

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food and the this and that, and how does it relate to their

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society and the part of the world that they live in? It's

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just all so delicious.

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How would you define the difference between

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religious or being religious and being spiritual?

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I have not honed that I've been asked that. Before I

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haven't honed my answer. So I'm just going to riff through

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Right. I I think the difference for me is that I look, as a

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spiritual being, I look within, for my answers, and I trust my

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own inner wisdom. I don't look to someone else or a book, or a

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set of rules to dictate what's right or wrong. For me.

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That's all really quotable for a, somebody that's

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just rifting. I love that.

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Well, you know, they ask another interfaith minister,

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and there's going to be a different answer. I just I don't

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say that people who consider themselves religious don't look

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within that, I certainly want to clarify that for the listeners,

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it's for me personally. And I know many people who are hugely,

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enormously aware and conscious and growing their global

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consciousness awareness that you know, just that still love to

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attend church that they grew up in, there is a a familiarity, a

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community, an understanding and a metaphysical lifting up over

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some of the dogma that expands them, right just didn't, for me.

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Yeah, actually, thank you for presencing that

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because there have been many times actually, in my life where

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I've, I've gone to different churches, and there's one in

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Vancouver that I, in my university days that I'd like to

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go occasionally to St. John's Anglican Church. And it really

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lifted me up. Largely because the music and the people, you

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know, that I just, I was so uplifted, and I loved and it was

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very expensive. And my closest friend, she's a very spiritual,

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religious person she loves. She loves the ritual of church, like

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it's not to her that that ritual helps her connect to God.

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Yeah, no, I totally get as somebody who's very ritual, I

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mean, I crafted my one woman show the edge of every day on

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ritual. It is it's built as a ritual, I became a dean of first

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year students at the new seminary, through which the

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seminary through which I was ordained and, and oversaw the

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ritual teachings. I mean, I totally get that, that if that

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is the thing that that turns you on, and the music, you know, if

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I could find a place near where I am, I would probably go more

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often, but I just haven't been able to find that mix of things

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that really just lifted me.

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Hmm. I want to talk about spiritual practice. And

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you mentioned, I think it's somewhere on your website that

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that performing and creative expression is part of your

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spiritual practice. So what would you define? Or how would

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you define a spiritual practice?

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When I was a dean of first year students, we would

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have to talk about this in front of the class the first the first

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class, we would all introduce ourselves and talk about our

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spiritual practices and what what is what does that mean to

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us? And inevitably, the first thing that will pop out of my

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mouth was my relationship with my husband.

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Oh, that's interesting. Oh, yeah. More

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well, from the standpoint of if you've got I

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mean, talk about a place to really see your rough edges

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polished I mean, you know, Oh, my Oh my god, I have to see all

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that crap all that shit. Like why No. Oh my god. Yeah, I am. I

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am not I am completely the light. I am the light. I am the

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light. I have no darkness. I'm perfect.

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Your husband holds up the mirror.

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Yeah, bitch right here. Take a peek. You know? Ooh,

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that's so cool. It just funded here. I love that. Yeah, totally

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cool. But yeah, I mean, there's there's just no relationship is

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the number one in my opinion, the number one spiritual

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practice, how can I be in relationship and how can I? What

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mirror Am I looking at? And what is this person mirroring back to

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me? What am I disliking about them? What are they that it is

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showing me what I dislike within myself? That's certainly an

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enormous practice for me, you know, meditation, of course.

Anita Adams:

I want it sorry, it's falling off for a second.

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So I'd love this idea. Being in relationship is the number one

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spiritual practice. And I can see how a romantic relationship

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is, can be key to that, but it doesn't have to be romantic. No,

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and but long term. That's a lot. So any long term relation

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relationship typically

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was for me to stay in a long term relationship and to

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keep having to look in that mirror and deepening into with

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the understood that that is not easy. No. And, you know, which

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is why, which is not to say staying in a long term

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relationship is the way to go. It's just what has occurred for

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me.

Anita Adams:

And there's, we're a lot of the learning for our

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individual selves happens is in the relationships.

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Yeah, but I mean, you know, I can I can look at my

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friendships, I can look at any relationship, I mean, long term

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or short term. And you know, who's pissing me off? And why is

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that? Right? And,

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and people, people will trigger you. Yeah, always

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gonna be triggered by people. And then you can take an

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opportunity to look at that trigger, and understand yourself

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better.

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Yeah. Why is that? Why am I pissed off at this? And

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they have no clue, you know? Or, you know, as if they came to me,

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Well, I'm gonna fucking piss her off. You know, and, and so why

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is that? What is that? What is that edge? In me? That's all of

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a sudden, how can I? How can I reframe that? How what? What

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light? Can I shed on that? If How can I get vulnerable and

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truthful around that?

Anita Adams:

But do you see that every relationship that comes

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into our life is an opportunity then to go deeper within

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ourselves?

Unknown:

Well, I don't know that everyone, every single

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relationship is but you know, by somebody,

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I guess, right? I mean, I guess. I guess you could say that. I

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don't know that, you know,

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my neighbor down the street with whom I've said five words. Or,

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you know, it's necessarily that's a hard one to answer. You

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know, I don't know, I certainly I think the ones that inspire. I

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think the overall answer is yes. But if I dig a little deep more

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deeply, of course, not everybody but but the ones that I'm having

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more of a juice with? Absolutely. Whether it's a work

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person, I work with a person that I know peripherally,

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somebody that I'm involved with a little more closely, certainly

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a family member. I mean, there's no greater. There's no greater

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teachers than your family, like, Oh, my God. You're a very

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powerful teacher for me. Whether I want it

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or not, or not. Alright, well, carry on, I'd cut

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you off in talking about spiritual practices, and, oh,

Unknown:

no. Hey, I do meditation. I read I journal. I,

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I try. I do your point. I'm green church. You I live in the

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Catskill Mountains, which is where I'm tuning in from, you

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know, spending time in nature, getting my feet on the ground

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feeling the energy beings, you know, certainly a haven during

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COVID Those are all my practices in trying, just trying to stay

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open and stay aware of what's afoot. Another spiritual

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practice for me and Veer is very closely related to the edge of

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every day is this is as you as you've gathered, I am not a

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precious person. I am I am not that kind of spiritual person. I

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I really like the rough edges. I really like walking them and I

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really see life that way. And so a lot of people say to a lot of

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what some of my former students would say this kind of thing

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too. I you know, I just don't listen to the news. I don't pay

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attention to politics because I'm spiritual. Like what every

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you know, you don't pay attention to it because if it

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frightens you, that's okay. But it's not because your spirit

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every thing on this planet created by humans is spiritual.

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So how can I, personally stay involved in what is happening on

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this planet and aware of the news without being consumed by

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it, so that I can also hold my vision, my light filled vision

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of what it is I want to create in the world who it is, I want

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to be in the world, the kind of place that I know we are moving

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towards. So how do I walk that edge? How do I stay aware of an

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active and uplifting and shining a light into these darker places

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without being co opted by that still maintaining that vision of

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light and growth and consciousness and unity and

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oneness? That's the edge that I want to walk?

Anita Adams:

That's a brilliant question. And what's what's the

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answer? How do you walk that edge?

Unknown:

Well, I think it's probably different for everyone.

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For me, you know, how successful am I today? Am I like completely

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consumed in my political Twitter feed and wanting to just melt

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down and give up? No. Well, maybe some days. But how do I

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reconnect them to my hope? How do I reconnect them to my hope,

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that active energetic hope that moves me forward, that

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reconnects me to my strength that reconnects me to my taking

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action? In a light filled positive way?

Anita Adams:

Yes. How? Well, I mean, you know, we all have to

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ask that question, or, yeah, gotcha. Well,

Unknown:

I just, I think it's just my willpower, you know,

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okay, today, I'm not gonna get on Twitter. Today, I'm just

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gonna fill myself up, I'm gonna go out and hug some trees. I'm

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going to have a fantastic conversation with a friend. I'm

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going to call up someone who needs me and uplift them. I'm

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going to remind myself of the goodness of life.

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being really intentional. Yeah.

Unknown:

And I'm going to sit down, I'm going to meditate. And

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I'm going to, you know, listen to beautiful music, music and

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feel that feel that sparkle. I'm going to connect to my guides,

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I'm going to reconnect, and to that alignment with the higher

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that's within me and without, and, you know, it's a constant.

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Yeah. And I guess I'm, I'm thinking it's the first

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step. If if there were to be steps in this process, it would

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be to understand what it is that does lift you up, know thyself.

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I think I saw that on your website, too. That's your

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mantra. Isn't it? Know thy says, Know

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thyself that is at the heart center of everything? I

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do. Yes. The Walking Venn diagram. Yeah, no. And it's, and

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I think, for everyone they've got that's the spiritual

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journey. That's the spiritual journey is knowing that oh, what

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is it? Well, but but in addition to that, you will only get to

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know thyself, if you are willing to ask those questions. What

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does uplift me? Yeah. What is my understanding of getting

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clear on that?

Unknown:

How do I walk that edge? Let me try this.

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Let me try this. I think that's an important thing,

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too. It's let me try this and figuring it out. You don't have

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to have the answers all the time. No such

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thing is the answer. This is what cracks me up is

Unknown:

that well, this is the way I meditate. That's the best way.

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Yeah, yeah. You know, I, I am guilty of that.

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Actually, I'm saying telling people that their way into their

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higher self is, is to walk into the forest. Well, well, that has

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worked for me, but it's not necessarily everybody's way into

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their highest self.

Unknown:

Well, and certainly not for people who are afraid of

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nature, and there are people who are afraid of nature. Yeah, for

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for many different reasons.

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Of course, yeah. But it's, it's a bit of a trap,

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I think you can fall into when you find something that really

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works for you is to say, this is

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the way and I think that's the definition of guru of

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cult guru. Ultimately, I mean, you know, expand that by a

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trillion times, you know, but, but that, that is a trap for all

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of us is to think, you know, I love what I love, and I'm

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connected to what I'm connected to, but I have to all and, you

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know, as we started out with I believe in reincarnation. I

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mean, honestly, I'm not really going to know for sure I've had

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a million experiences. I've met a million people. I've talked to

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psychics and this person and that person and blah, blah,

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blah. At the end of the day, I'm not going to know Oh, until I'm

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gone. Really? Gonna really know. Unless, of course, you know, I

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become an avatar while I'm on Planet Earth. You know, I

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haven't given up on that. And Anita. Good.

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And yes, the quest in trying to understand that

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exactly. Really citing that curiosity piece that you

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mentioned earlier. And quite frankly,

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why would I be on the planet? If I had those answers?

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You know, who wants to get up to the top of the mountain and sit

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for it? I might as well go. I'm here in a body to experience

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this stuff.

Unknown:

Yeah. The Good, the Bad, the Ugly. Yeah. That's why we

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incarnated

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we incarnated? Well, I believe, for this very party we're in

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right now this crossroads on the planet?

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And do you do you believe you are here and I am

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here at this specific time for a very specific reason.

Unknown:

I think I, I will speak for myself is because that's all

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I can do. I believe that yes. I incarnated for the specific time

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on the planet. And I believe that I came in, which is why I

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have, you know, I talk about dreams, there was never a dream

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that I had that, like, be a movie star. There was never that

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kind of dream. For me, it was always about a meaningful life.

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Didn't you know, I didn't dream about marrying and having a

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family, I don't have a family. Well, I do have a family, I have

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my my husband and my cat. But but, you know, it wasn't like

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these big huge dreams about those specifics. What I wanted

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was to be present to my life, and to keep creating and having

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wonderful experiences and keep growing and remaining curious.

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And I can see now at this age of six, zero, that the reason is

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because I was pulling threads into this tapestry. And for this

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time, this time of transition, this time of ascension, this

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time of global consciousness and unity. I feel that profoundly.

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So I don't know that, you know, other people who have configured

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out why they've incarnated if they want to believe in that,

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you know, they might feel as though they wanted to reconnect

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with this human being or they wanted to do whatever. That's

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why I feel that I have I've gotten a lot more ahead of me a

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lot of things to say, I more stage work to do more singing to

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do more, a lot of things to do. But I feel very present to the

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crossroads of humanity, if crossroads that we are

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experiencing on planet with in our humanity at this time right

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now in 2022.

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And for you, it's all pointing towards that unity

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consciousness to increase or raise that unity consciousness.

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Can you can you just talk a little bit about that elaborate

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explain what Unity Consciousness is?

Unknown:

Well, I think it's the interconnectedness it is that

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that we are all interconnected. I don't, I don't, I'm not gonna

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say we're all one. Because I think that that can be confusing

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sometimes.

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Why not? Or why are we not all one I kind of liked

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that expression. We I

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just only it's simply because I've encountered people

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who have been confused by that. So I've tried to figure out a

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way to make we are all one. We are more palatable for someone

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who can't, doesn't quite make the leap to we are all one that

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we're all interconnected. As one. You know, it's hard for

Unknown:

somebody like that. I like that clarity. Yeah. To think of

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somebody on the other side of the planet. I'm one with that

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person, you know, you and I might go, oh, yeah, we're all

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one and we're one with a planet or one with all the beings. But

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if I think of it more in quantum or scientific or that I mean,

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even ecosystems, if I love that vision of an ecosystem of of how

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the ecosystem is all interconnected. And we are

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really seeing this as we see the interconnectedness and the

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ecosystems and climate crisis show up. You know, one piece of

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the puzzle breaks down and the entire ecosystem begins to die

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out, or to falter or to become sick. So if we, if we're

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thinking of human beings and planet earth, and the was

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insects and those bees, and the trees and the stars, and the

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whales, and all of these things is having an interest that we're

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all here serving each other. And that like a baseball team, I

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can't have a successful baseball team without a good catcher. And

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you know, all of this has to come together in support of the

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whole of the One is how I love

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how you describe that. And there's the I can

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visualize it, I can see it and you're giving a lot of clarity

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to that. That phrase unity consciousness. Thank you. So

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what is one thing that each of us can do right now in our lives

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to move us or move the dial on that awakening of this unity

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consciousness? Is there one thing, anything we can do?

Unknown:

One thing, have a conversation and courageous

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conversation with somebody that you would prefer not to.

Unknown:

Hmm. Interesting. So that's that idea.

Unknown:

I don't want to talk to you. I don't want with you.

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Right? Is that that idea of that? We are the same.

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We are interconnected.

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We are interconnected. We are into not

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drilling

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me. The people I've spoken with to say same is can

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can be potentially confusing it. Okay. Right. That we have more

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in common than not right. And we are all interconnected.

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So maybe go forward with those conversations. From a

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place of curiosity to find how we might be more interconnected.

Unknown:

Amen. That's it.

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I like that. Ah, Sandra, you are awesome.

Unknown:

You are awesome. Love these conversations. I totally

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woman. I can't wait to come for a joyful retreat. Living

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retreat.

Unknown:

Oh, I would love that. I would love love. Love that guy. Very

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cool. And before we wrap up

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this show that's like LOVE YOU DID tell our audience a little

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bit more about your Europe show. Every day, every day? Yeah, just

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give us a rundown and how we can connect with you there cool.

Unknown:

Well, the edge of every day, how much time do I have? Whatever

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you want? Okay, well, then, the edge of every day is based on my

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solo show of the same name. And which I created in 2014. And it

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had I structured it like, I called it a cabo ritual. It was

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a little bit cabaret, it was a little bit Performance Art

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Theater. And it was completely structured like a ritual. And

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this wonderful edge of everyday kind of hybrid, pushing the

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boundaries of all of them. And it sprang out of what was very

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alive. For me personally, at the time, I was really noticing an

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increase in the polarization, the 3d polarization and the

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political polarization. And it was also alive. Within

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internally, I was noticing these places where my belief systems

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were inconsistent. Where, you know, there were paradoxes

Unknown:

internally, and that was kind of exciting to me. And my, my

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husband told me about theirs called the edge effect, where

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one ecosystem or thumbs up edges up with another one, and it's

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right in that middle point where there's the greatest diversity,

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and the greatest creation and chaos and boundary pushing. And

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so, so that I did that show, and then I recorded that show, and

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there's a live recording and then and through the years, it

Unknown:

became my platform, I really came to understand that it was

Unknown:

how I looked at life. Your eye ending mean thyself, yeah,

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knowing thyself, it was a ritual for me to create it. And, and

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the more I grasp that, and then I became, I started calling

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myself an edge Walker, and that I I understood that I was hybrid

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in all of these things in my life, and then you know, the

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pandemic and all the work that I had lined up when poof and and I

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And, you know, I fell into great sadness about that. And you

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know, I had to become very present to what was being

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requested in all of this isolation and this internal work

Unknown:

and this, this call forward from mother earth about coming into

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community in new ways. This call forward into letting things go

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for that that which was before COVID is no longer and that

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which is to be created is not here yet. So we're in this

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liminal space of what's going on how do we what's what are we

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creating? Who do we need to be? What do we need to let go? Of

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what you know what doesn't serve us? Our systems don't serve us

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here on the planet collectively, what doesn't serve me

Unknown:

internally, were all of these things. So I finally got

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connected to that and, and then I got this, I, you know,

Unknown:

podcasting. People were doing it. Everyone was paying

Unknown:

attention to podcasts. And I thought, now we need another

Unknown:

podcast or like, we need a whole, don't we? And no, thank

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you now, and and then I was having a conversation with

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friends. And they gave me the same advice that I would have

Unknown:

given them, you know, that you're going to connect with who

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you're going to connect with. And of course, as you well know,

Unknown:

and yet it was also a way for me to hide. So set that down.

Anita Adams:

Oh, sorry. How was it a way for you to hide?

Unknown:

I don't forward with my voice.

Anita Adams:

Oh, I see. By not doing it. It was like, Okay,

Unknown:

I had this impulse. But then I went, I have no food.

Unknown:

Yeah. Oh, I'm gonna retreat back and hide. Yeah. Whereas No, go

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forward with that voice. Now is the crossroads. Now is the time.

Unknown:

And I did it not thinking about you know, just boom, I'm

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throwing the spaghetti on the wall. I'm going to try and I

Unknown:

loved it. Yes. Date of conversations. Now is the let's

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explore our rough edges. And, and it just sink more into this

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being my platform. And and boom, here we are.

Anita Adams:

That's brilliant. How long have you been doing it?

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Wasn't it?

Unknown:

It's really, it was October of last year.

Anita Adams:

Okay. Our paths are so similar with that, like, I

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know, I launched my podcast in December 2021. Just before

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Christmas, and I was really resistant to it. At first, you

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know, like it was I had that, you know, it's yours to do. It's

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time to do it. It's time you know, that that message that was

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coming to me loud and clear. I'm like, no, no.

Unknown:

I'm no, I didn't want to step out my power. Yeah,

Anita Adams:

it just it was it was uncomfortable. And now you

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know, like, yeah, sure, still uncomfortable a lot of times,

Anita Adams:

and I love it. I absolutely love it and how I'm growing and

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connecting with amazing people like yourself, like we wouldn't

Anita Adams:

have connected if it wasn't for this opportunity. And I feel

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like I'm finding my people and and hopefully agree wincing to

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expand that that group of people that are interested in that

Anita Adams:

unity consciousness, that higher consciousness that need for us

Anita Adams:

as a species to evolve. And that's what this is about. This

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is this is about knowing thyself, so we can evolve. And I

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love these kinds of conversations. So totally,

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totally, totally. So cool. Well, Sandra, thank you so much. So if

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people want to to connect with you, I'll get all the

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information. I think I already have all the information. We'll

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include that in the show notes. But is there one place that you

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would like,

Unknown:

best place is probably my website, Sandra bargeman.com.

Unknown:

And you know, I'm ubiquitous on on social media, I'm on all of

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the platforms and you it's understand or bargeman No, II

Unknown:

and you can find I'm at Talk Radio dot NYC for my podcast.

Unknown:

Yeah, I have a YouTube channel, Sandra, Amazon.

Anita Adams:

places for people to find you. All right. Well,

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we'll make sure that's all included in the show notes. So

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notes. Awesome. Thank you. Thank you. So my oh my

Unknown:

god, woman. Thank you so much for having me. It is

Unknown:

just a joy to be in your presence. You're so glad we

Unknown:

found each other.

Anita Adams:

Me too. Me too. All right, joyful. journeyers. Thank

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you so much for tuning in with us today. And well. We'll catch

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