Ray Comeau’s Meaning Of Don’t Ever Cross The Line

Okay, everybody, welcome to another episode of hope without sight with your host SaylorCooper and Tyler Evans. Welcome to Episode 10.

Right.

And of course today well you're a part of Palooza and we have a very special getaway Cabo. way. I want to ask you this. Are you caught up yet?

That's a different question.

I know. I know. Because a lot of people, especially at the end, will be partapalooza honestly. You tired yet?

No, I'm meeting meeting interesting people is never bothering them or tiresome, never. It's a new experience. So

it has been a long day, you know, sitting in front of a computer screen, you know, at the end of January, very tired. You know, that's how I that's how I will be part of doing Kido. But, you know, it's well worth it. And it's well worth it like, Yes, sir. Oh, yes. Okay, so Okay, so let's get started. This is about good outside podcast, where me and Tyler interview people who've overcome life's challenges, and have come out on top. And our target audience is people who are at such a low point in life, and you don't see a way out. So your talk title is, don't ever cross the line. What comes to my mind is, maybe don't overdo it in life. You know, don't overdo it with your business. Well, you're so stressed out. Yeah, not what do you mean?

Yeah. Mind don't cross the line means don't do anything bad. Okay.

Yeah. Don't do anything bad. That's for sure. So, so give me give me the background of yourself. What? Are you an entrepreneur, you're

actually I for 34 years, I clean houses and offices. Okay. Then nearing retirement, I was I was given a calling to callings one to let me know that he's here, believe in me. And the other one was to write a book. So and now I'm the second five years, when you talk about the hardship of of life and doing things. When I was 50 years old, I found out that I had a ha of ADHD, attention deficit hyper disorder. With that, in trying to write a book, it's been a very long five years. And still, it's I fight I fight focusing every day. So so that's my little, you know, part of my what's happened to me in my life. At the age of 12, as I watched my mother on a Friday night, pleeded that God would take her life. And she had passed away on Friday on Sunday. I've had at 16 years old, I found that I was adopted. Okay, so there's a lot of but which was some things that they should bother you. But if you had been raised goods to the ADHD, that bothered me because it answered so many questions I had of what the problems I had in my life before then. So that why I pulled out I was listening to a talk show radio, okay. And they were talking about ADHD. And I said, Write or add. And I said, what is that? And I listened and I said, if you have six of these eight things, chances are you have ADD, and I said, eight, I said yes to almost eight of them. And I realized what happened and I pulled over. And I cried for an hour in the car, all by myself, thinking about what I just listened to, and all the answers all the problems that I had. And the answers came, boom, boom, boom, boom to me, as to what had happened to me. And two weeks later, I was tested, I found out I was I had ADHD, the hyper disorder. So you take it in stride, okay, so Tyler, you take it in stride, this like,

because honestly, I can relate. I have ADHD to some degree. And when I was diagnosed, like I had trouble like accepting it, because there's just a stigma out there that ADHD Oh, it's just one thing. It's about having bad behavior and doing In bad, terrible stuff, when it's it's not that I mean, there's different levels of it.

Yeah.

For instance, the, the ADHD that I have is sometimes staying organized, you know, from the morning, sometimes I'll get up, I'll be just, you know, fidgety. You're groggy? I just can't start a task.

Yeah,

stay on task. I just get I get sidetracked, easy. I won't complete a task and start, I started another one without completing the first one. And sometimes impulsivity, like, it's a common symptom, too. You know, I'll, I'll say stuff.

Too soon.

Oh, yeah.

Cut People off. Yeah. And, you know, I don't know about you. I mean, if you want to share, you can, but I do take medication for it. I've taken a few stimulants. I mean, as you know, most of the stimulants can, like, have other side effects, such as increased anxiety, and I take one called focalin, it's one of the best ones that I've taken. And that it, it has more of a least side effects. And I'm hoping that, but it does really helped me stay focused whenever I need to take it. And then I mean, when you when you find that you have ADHD, I mean, you were like, what, you know, you didn't know what to do you start grasping?

Oh, yeah.

I tell you, it's, it's a fear of what people are going to say. And you're, you know, that's why people need to be educated more and understand about it. And not be afraid because just like anything that can be managed and controlled.

So how many people tell you I took a pill and went away? They thought it was like an aspirin. You know, I took a pill and add add went away. No, no. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah, exactly. So you have a book? How long did it take you to write this book in?

Five years?

And what's it what's the book called? And what's it about? Tyler, I know, you're gonna have questions about it as well, because what we're trying to write about together, right?

Yeah, it's hard. It's what bad we do. Don't ever cross the line.

We are, there's a line in our life that we shouldn't cross. We shouldn't steal from somebody. Okay? We shouldn't go cross the line because the color of somebody's skin because of religion, because of indifference, because we want to, we feel bad about something. We want to sell drugs, okay? When people cross the line all the time. So drugs, okay, they need money. They want to they don't want to work, they want to be tired tomorrow. So they decide to sell drugs. How many people right lives are ruined by crossing that line? Okay, millions, millions that my book is, is a message. Okay? It needs to get out there, what? 20 years this 20 years ago, this book would have been now okay. Today, what's going on in our world? This book is needed now. You slow down, there's no slow down over the next five or 10 years? What's going on all around the world? There's human trafficking. Okay. abuse of authority, George Floyd was, was killed because of abuse of authority. The priests, okay, that overdid it and assault as a sexually assaulted so many kids abuse of authority. You know, but you don't punish God. You don't punish the whole police system. You punish the individual. Okay.

Yes, you do. Yes, you do. Justice needs to be shown when people cross the line. I mean, I understand people have power, but when they cross the line, you know, they need to be held accountable for their actions.

Yeah. But today, we compromise. We want to move the line. Oh, no, that's too it's too crowded. For me. I want to move the line. I want to be able to do what I want to do. No, no, no, no, the line is the line. That's it. There's no, there's no bending it excuses how you stop kidding. And that has done something wrong. And say, Oh, well, let's think of 10 different excuses to come up with because he's, he's number two, because he knows that he knows how to get out of it. So he's gonna there is no excuse, right? claim responsibility. All right. claim responsibility.

Yes, indeed. claim responsibility.

Yeah. So

what have you done with this book? Have you made money off of it? Have you sold? It'll be published the end of November. Oh, yeah. Please, what's the book

Don't cross the line. Know what bad we do. What bad we do. Okay. awesome, Awesome Awesome.

I have a second book coming out next year. Also, I'm not going to write that one. I'm gonna get a ghostwriter to write that one. This one was too hard. This one why we do the band? We do.

Why? And what's it what's the second one gonna be about?

Excuses compromising negative euphoria, you know, greed, anger, and how much anger we have now today. We have so much anger and we owe

so much hay in this country's Yeah, devices. I mean, we don't need that we need to be civil in this country.

It's hard. It's hard. Selling time. It's hard today. It's, we make excuses for everything. All right. We want to be rich tomorrow. We want to be rich tomorrow. I don't want to I don't want to work all my life. Okay, I want to retire tomorrow. It's we each have to do our diligence. If you come up with a good idea, and you can make money with it a lot. Fine. But don't steal don't take from somebody don't hurt somebody. don't figure out a new way of this all this stuff. Now. One. Boy, stealing from telephone, okay. Everybody's come up with different ideas to scam Okay, scamming. Sorry, scamming, everybody wants to scam somebody, they don't see the face. They just take the money. And they don't have to worry about the you know, the hurt the hurt that they're causing.

Exactly. Yes. Yeah. Yes. And it mean, you. way, you are wise beyond your years, man.

I'm 74. I know about beyond my years, like, Yeah, who knows? Oh, maybe God just waited until I had enough sense to talk about things like this. Okay, exactly.

So whether business ventures How do you have besides writing this book? And right now, nothing

this this is this is it. I'm in two other books,

business life and universe, Korea for a year. It's an anthology book, I'm gonna have a chapter in there. That's the best international best seller. Here's another one coming out. Number eight. So got a book with Ray brim. He's a big author, editor, publisher, have a book coming out with him. So trying to write as much as possible. i There's so much to write about today. It's

all you use. What have you done besides write these books? Like?

Oh, yeah, I mentioned before I cleaned houses in offices.

So you clean houses in offices for 34 years?

34 years?

Yeah. Wow. Oh, my goodness, to go from that and to be a writer. So some something has to be divine about that. The message that I got the cooling.

Wow, that's one. Wow. Calling to be a writer. So what are your goals with future after you publish these books? More more writing?

Don't let my wife know.

Let your wife know. Okay, I see. I see about

well Ray I know we're living on time. And I know I have to. I have another interview to go to in the next 10 minutes. So when we need to make this quick. Do you have any questions for me or even your Tyler? Do you have any questions for Ray?

Hmm, let's see. What inspired you to go from cleaning houses to writing?

Well, the calling the calling Tyler. Okay. I'll tell you he came down. I asked him I needed a favor. I needed a sign not to do something to buy something. And I was I needed to make a phone call at five o'clock on a Friday. And 430 In the afternoon, right there in front of me where the words leaving me was right there. I you sit back and you think about the the brushing my hair aren't my arms used to I see that that I see that. And I took me a couple of minutes. And I said, I realized I saw it. I saw that it was there. And I thanked him for five years. And that five years later, I got my second calling to write a book. And I was writing the book was one week after he retired. So he didn't wait. He he he knew I needed a time. So that's why the distance of the five years he knew I wasn't ready. So When I retired, those things I wasn't gonna do anymore. came down here to Costa Rica. And boom, he gave me this sign to write a book. And he's given me a number of signs since then. So I've been blessed in a lot of ways besides my wife

besides you, your wife, your wife in life, too. I see this. Everybody has a blessing. We all have challenges. All of us do. Like, meantime, we'll have visual challenges. legally blind.If you're looking for a gift, and we all have callings in life,

no, it comes in, he talks to you. Okay, he does talk to everybody. It's a question whether you're listening.

Well, if you don't have any more questions for me, Les, I want to close out by asking, I asked everybody on the podcast. Anybody who's struggling out there? You can't find can't see a way out. Why advice would you give to them? What is your message?

I hear the actor the black actor. After all he says if you fall down seven times, get up eight.

Always keep getting up.

Oh, yeah, that is so wise. So wise. If you fall down, get back up again. Because you will succeed you okay, that's right. All right. Yes, you will definitely. Totally succeed. Well, way. I want to thank you so much for being on the hope side podcast. Oh, are we having fun?

Yeah.

Yeah, but a pleasure for me, guys. Okay. Yeah, I want to thank you. So I want to thank Kimberly and Michelle for the tireless effort to make this all possible. And of course, Les, I want to share my Yeah, email.

So you can please send me so you can send me a books.

Okay.

We'll be in the chat.

Well, everybody, give it up for Ray Comeau. Come on, hopefully that site, Episode 10.