Listen to this episode on how Mike Martin shares how nature and the wildlife can heal you mentally and emotionally.
About the Guest:
Mike Martin is an author and host of the podcast Project Mindfully Outdoors. He is also an avid sportsman. Who finds his soloist within the wilderness. No matter if Mike finds himself in the deer works, or a river bank the connection with Mother Nature is his driving force behind the adventure. In 2020, life handed Mike a bunch of bad medicine. It became clear that he could no longer hide from his mental health struggles. This perfect storm of life-changing events caused him to retreat back into the wilderness. In the wilderness, he could tap into the unique skill set he developed during his life. To begin to work through the depression and anxiety, that had plagued his life. By leaning into the concepts behind the North American Wildlife Conservation Model, he found inspiration to meet his own personal challenges, and rebuild his life. Once Mike learned to combine the two major ideas that make up the model, conservation, and stewardship, with finding a deeper connection with the wilderness. He found an inter power to take control of his life.
Notable work, Project Mindfully Outdoors- This is the base camp for Mike's work. This project was started back in 2020, early on in his journey. When he began working with Cervid Nation. With the goal of bringing to light a subject that had a need to be approached within the outdoor space. Through his many articles and weekly podcast, Mike has become the voice of support within the outdoor community and beyond.
Letters from camp- This is a collection of guided meditations that are intended to aid in building a personal connection with mother nature. While sharing with the listener the wisdom to unlock the power within to move their life story forward.
Links Project Mindfully Outdoors
www.projectmindfullyoutdoors.com
Project Mindfully Outdoors podcast https://projectmindfullyoutdoors.podbean.com/
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The Campfire Circle
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/projectmindfullyoutdoorspodcast
About the Host:
I am Saylor Cooper, Owner of Real Variety Radio and host of the Hope Without Sight Podcast. I am from the Houston, Texas area and am legally blind which is one of the main reasons why I am hosting this show surrounding this topic , to inspire others by letting them know that they can live their best life and reach their highest potential.
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About the Co-host:
My name is Matthew Tyler Evans and I am from the Northeast Texas area. I am blind like Saylor is and we have the same retinal condition. I decided to join Saylor‘s podcast because I have a strong interest in teaming up with him and I think together, we can inspire the world with others with disabilities.
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Hello, everybody. Welcome to another episode of
Saylor Cooper:How without sight with your host Saylor Cooper and
Tyler Evans:Tyler Evans,
Saylor Cooper:yeah. this is episode 16! Still recording in
Saylor Cooper:Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. Well, on this episode, I have the
Saylor Cooper:talented Mike Martin, who has overcome so many challenges and
Saylor Cooper:adversity himself. And his bio says, specifically says 2020,
Saylor Cooper:right, our favorite year for obvious reasons, I never want to
Saylor Cooper:repeat 2020 Again, right? No way. No, but he's overcome. He,
Saylor Cooper:he was don't move on cards in 2020. And he says, to nature,
Saylor Cooper:which I believe nature is very powerful. He was able to cope
Saylor Cooper:with his challenges. That scaling up Mike Martin, Mike,
Saylor Cooper:how you doing this evening?
Mike Martin:I'm doing great. I'm really grateful to be here.
Mike Martin:And I appreciate the opportunity to celebrate my work with you
Mike Martin:along with the journey.
Saylor Cooper:Yes, it's right, because we're on a journey
Saylor Cooper:together, because we have charged challenges ourselves. So
Saylor Cooper:give us the background, you've had mental health challenges, or
Saylor Cooper:its contents? Like so yeah,
Mike Martin:I mean, mental health, it's a scary word. Can
Mike Martin:it all run away from it, but man, we all face it in one way
Mike Martin:or another. For me, it was a lifetime of depression, and
Mike Martin:anxiety. And it's still things that I battle even to this day.
Mike Martin:But up until 2020, when I got that really horrible taste of
Mike Martin:bad medicine from nature, I hid under a mask, and was a very
Mike Martin:different person. And because of that, I was doing whatever it
Mike Martin:was I could to run away from when wound up homeless and
Mike Martin:successfully walking away from oblige suicide attempt to second
Mike Martin:divorce and everything else sitting in my truck, which was
Mike Martin:my home at the time looking in the rearview mirror, going man,
Mike Martin:st work, and I'm doing something wrong, I gotta change it. And I
Mike Martin:just happen to stumble across the podcast where they were
Mike Martin:talking about stoic philosophy, namely, a lot of the quotes that
Mike Martin:were thrown out, were left by Marcus Aurelius. And one of the
Mike Martin:triggers for that suicide venture was the word spoken to
Mike Martin:me that I had nothing to offer anybody, my wife, my kids, you
Mike Martin:know, whatever. And when I woke up, the quote that stuck to me
Mike Martin:and just smacked me in the face was, the adversity of life is
Mike Martin:nothing more than a show an opportunity to showcase who you
Mike Martin:truly are. So when I thought about that, and I realized, you
Mike Martin:know, if life ends right now, for me, that's the definition
Mike Martin:that I leave is having no worth or no value to anybody. But if I
Mike Martin:got back on my feet, then I can teach the four people that mean
Mike Martin:the most to me, my children, that not only was their father,
Mike Martin:somebody who found the worth and value within himself and the
Mike Martin:world around him, but also, I can empower them with the
Mike Martin:opportunity to face their own adversities. Yes, indeed.
Saylor Cooper:And so I'll go ahead, no, keep going, keep
Saylor Cooper:going.
Mike Martin:I was gonna say then, from there, it became this
Mike Martin:voyage through the school of stoic philosophy and diving into
Mike Martin:Mother Nature to find a whole different connection in context
Mike Martin:to how I interact with my time in the wilderness to power so
Mike Martin:you know, move forward to where I'm at now.
Saylor Cooper:Yes, nature is very powerful, because God
Saylor Cooper:that's why God created nature for a reason. Because it has.
Saylor Cooper:Nature has its agenda, to provide healing just give you
Saylor Cooper:positive energy, like the I've heard say that ocean teachers
Mike Martin:watching the show will see money funny, because
Mike Martin:when I think back to where I was, when I wear all those
Mike Martin:masks, all the stuff that I've discovered and I put into
Mike Martin:practice, I would have laughed at you
Saylor Cooper:So yeah, the I was saying the ocean, like
Saylor Cooper:teaches us patience, you know? Almost. Yeah, definitely. And
Saylor Cooper:so, I mean, wow, you're just a hero of a fact, you went through
Saylor Cooper:this in 2020 is our favorite year because it's no secret
Saylor Cooper:COVID 19, the pandemic has caused skyrocketing mental
Saylor Cooper:health problems, right?
Mike Martin:I think what COVID really managed to do was shed a
Mike Martin:light on it. Because, you know, through through the day to day,
Mike Martin:hustle and bustle, it was so easy to ignore how we feel
Mike Martin:inside and just focus on the results of the work that we're
Mike Martin:trying to get accomplished. And when we had to shut down, we
Mike Martin:didn't have that distraction. So we make sense, right? So we had
Mike Martin:to face that opportunity, head on with, you know, here's your
Mike Martin:feelings. And we all looked at it like, man, what do we do now?
Mike Martin:You know, I don't know how to process this. And, you know, to
Mike Martin:get back to the nature idea, the all these things that we face
Mike Martin:within the the world of mental health, and all the different
Mike Martin:anxieties, fears, emotions, they were all things that had they
Mike Martin:not been put inside of us, we wouldn't be here because they
Mike Martin:wouldn't have saved our ancestors. You know, for an
Mike Martin:example, anxiety, you know, the fear concept, it kept them
Mike Martin:alive, because they were aware of predators that were out
Mike Martin:there. And now in our world, we obtained Mother Nature. And
Mike Martin:there's such an imbalance, that we still have the exact same raw
Mike Martin:anxiety feeling, but it has no context anymore. So when we had
Mike Martin:to face that downtime through COVID, we didn't know how to
Mike Martin:process it, or what to do with it, how to release it. So it
Mike Martin:just bottled up. And it's become something that, you know, as a
Mike Martin:byproduct we're more aware of, and now we're looking for ways
Mike Martin:to adapt it into the world.
Saylor Cooper:Exactly. Yeah. Because we've COVID. I mean, as
Saylor Cooper:bad as it's been, honestly, I'm, I found that the lock downs were
Saylor Cooper:unnecessary. I mean, not to get too political here, but your
Saylor Cooper:governor Gretchen Whitmer, and she's locking you guys down. And
Saylor Cooper:the lock downs just don't work, you know, and my philosophy
Saylor Cooper:about COVID, is, we just have to just get out there and say, hey,
Saylor Cooper:if I get COVID, and die, for me, it was just meant it was meant
Saylor Cooper:to happen, you know, I just have to live my life, you know?
Mike Martin:Exactly. And, you know, the other buzzword that
Mike Martin:was around COVID is the fact that we were living in
Mike Martin:unprecedented times. Oh, you know, like I mentioned, with how
Mike Martin:this chapter kicked off with that dive into stoic philosophy.
Mike Martin:You know, Marcus really is being the most powerful man. You know,
Mike Martin:in his day, he faced the infinite like, and ultimately,
Mike Martin:you know, it's not that he's you came to it. But all these
Mike Martin:different things and all these different plagues that we face.
Mike Martin:They've all happened before. So we have a reference point to
Mike Martin:look back at. And, you know, you mentioned the lock downs, and
Mike Martin:stuff like that, that they did. For me, it was a quite kind of
Mike Martin:an ironic space, because that was the point when I got that
Mike Martin:taste of bad medicine. And all of a sudden, my social anxiety
Mike Martin:really flared up. Which if you've ever experienced social
Mike Martin:anxiety, you want to stay away from people. Right? So it became
Mike Martin:the perfect cover for me to not have people interact with me or
Mike Martin:asked me worse yet, when I'm in that horrible state, how you
Mike Martin:doing? And I have to come up with a response. It gave me the
Mike Martin:opportunity to really focus and turn inward, to start to find, I
Mike Martin:guess, in the connection with not only mother nature, but
Mike Martin:within myself and be able to heal and go forward. And through
Mike Martin:that. I built this practice that not only have I tamed the
Mike Martin:depression and the anxiety, but I've expanded and I've gone
Mike Martin:through and I become more of this like steward and
Mike Martin:conservationist of myself. And that's what I like to share with
Mike Martin:people. Wow,
Saylor Cooper:how exhilarating and you've had anxiety, I guess
Saylor Cooper:in depression all your life, right?
Mike Martin:Oh, yeah, I think that's something that, you know,
Mike Martin:we're kind of born with it's, yeah, we go through traumatic
Mike Martin:experiences where maybe the context changes, or all of a
Mike Martin:sudden we become aware of it. But I think they're there.
Mike Martin:They're always there. On some level. You know, for me, it was,
Mike Martin:like I said, I masked everything, man, I will hit it.
Mike Martin:Yeah, I always hit it, I always had a way to, to ignore it. And
Mike Martin:then when that moment came up, where there was nothing around
Mike Martin:that I hid underneath and called comfortable, I had to dive
Mike Martin:headfirst into it, and actually take it on. And there's a quote,
Mike Martin:by Marcus, from meditations that I really love, I think is a
Mike Martin:beautiful exploration of it, is the concept. We're one day he's
Mike Martin:sitting, talking to himself about, you know, I overcame my
Mike Martin:anxieties today, because they were within me, and I had the
Mike Martin:option to do so. And that doesn't set out like this crazy
Mike Martin:standard, where, you know, you're, the ability is inside of
Mike Martin:us. So just do it. It's a learning process.
Saylor Cooper:That sure is, yeah. And so you, you hit it,
Saylor Cooper:you, you hit it, because of that fear of shame, the stigma,
Saylor Cooper:because that's often associated with mental illness, just stigma
Saylor Cooper:out there, you know, people just aren't gonna understand.
Mike Martin:You're absolutely correct. And that's what got me
Mike Martin:into this whole project, my we outdoors, thing that I did, was
Mike Martin:the fact that I'm, you know, through, obviously, through the
Mike Martin:hunting that I do, I hooked up with a group called the Serbian
Mike Martin:nation. And part of their part of the requirements was having a
Mike Martin:social media presence. And I figured, you know, everybody
Mike Martin:else does the how tos or check out what I'm doing type videos
Mike Martin:and whatnot, I wanted to get into that stigma. I wanted to
Mike Martin:make it okay, within the outdoor space, because nobody, nobody
Mike Martin:really addresses it in a way that makes it safe to say, Hey,
Mike Martin:I'm having a horrible day, I feel, you know, this low, and
Mike Martin:I'm ready to walk through that forever door. And they just deal
Mike Martin:with it on their own silently, whatever the outcome may be.
Mike Martin:That's where I was at. I wanted to do something about it. And
Mike Martin:I've done just that, you know, I reached into the community and
Mike Martin:said, Hey, let me be the support and, and it's mind blowing, the
Mike Martin:number of people that have actually embraced and reached
Mike Martin:out that I've had the opportunity to not only
Mike Martin:celebrate where they're at, in the moment, or where they've
Mike Martin:gone since then. But I also got to be that acre of support. And
Mike Martin:I think that that is one of the key examples of what makes a
Mike Martin:circle, or tribe or community is that free flowing energy. And so
Saylor Cooper:what you're saying is you're making the
Saylor Cooper:world a better place by letting people know hey, you're not
Saylor Cooper:alone, you're supporting and all that and I want to focus more on
Saylor Cooper:nature. You said nature's mainly helped you heal within yourself
Saylor Cooper:in what way? So like, what you go to the forest? Would you
Saylor Cooper:would you just go outside and feel the wind? Like what? How
Saylor Cooper:did you go
Mike Martin:about that? I'm an avid sportsman. So any free time
Mike Martin:that I have, whatever is in season, you'll find me out doing
Mike Martin:it hunting, fishing, camping, hiking, whatever I can get out
Mike Martin:and do. So those were the staples. And it kind of takes a
Mike Martin:little bit of a left turn there because when I committed to
Mike Martin:actually walking a healing journey, I got into talk there.
Mike Martin:And one day, in the course of one of the sessions, I was asked
Mike Martin:how I sleep, which means sleep our friends, it was a horrible
Mike Martin:experience. You had insomnia. Right? So the therapist
Mike Martin:suggested meditation And at that point, you know, just as the
Mike Martin:stereotypical thing, I laughed it off. I was like, yeah,
Mike Martin:that's, that's dumb. You know, that's not for me. And I got out
Mike Martin:of that session, I grabbed my crossbow, I went out back, and I
Mike Martin:started shooting. And something clicked. Because I realized,
Mike Martin:hey, in order to shoot, I'm focusing on my breathing. I'm
Mike Martin:also slowing my thoughts. Well guess what the two main aspects
Mike Martin:of meditation are? Breath, and slow process of thoughts.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, that's wherever you go, there you go.
Mike Martin:And when that happened, when I put two, two
Mike Martin:together, the next time that I was out, I believe this was
Mike Martin:summertime. So that's probably how efficient I thought about
Mike Martin:the skill set that I learned has as an outdoorsman, and realize
Mike Martin:that man, through those simple skills that you learn out there,
Mike Martin:you can really unlock so much in life, that helps you to progress
Mike Martin:along these healing journeys, but also, you know, moving
Mike Martin:forward toward any goal that you're trying to achieve, be
Mike Martin:strong, you know, progressing, progressing through, and getting
Mike Martin:a promotion at work, or, you know, any any aspect of life.
Mike Martin:Yeah. And from there, it kind of became a, this connection with
Mike Martin:Mother Nature that grew into this, like spiritual aspect. And
Mike Martin:I realized that, you know, as much as we use the blanket
Mike Martin:statement of mental health or mental illness, it becomes more
Mike Martin:of a internal thing where we get caught in the cycle of self
Mike Martin:suffering. We like to tell ourselves stories, that hurt.
Mike Martin:Yeah, like to tell ourselves stories that hold us back, that
Mike Martin:reinforce the limiting beliefs. But, you know, especially on a
Mike Martin:hunting trip, you're out there and you're sitting. And you're
Mike Martin:just, you're watching you're observing. You see nature, and
Mike Martin:its natural patterns, you see the way the animals engage with
Mike Martin:their surroundings, the way that the breeze moves through the
Mike Martin:trees, if it rains, you feel the rain. And all of these things
Mike Martin:happen without a story attached to them. Right, exactly. And I
Mike Martin:learned that if you were able to just shift your thought process
Mike Martin:a little bit, to more of a neutral level, you could do the
Mike Martin:same exact thing. And in this time of year, you know, it's,
Mike Martin:it's, it's the deer rut right now. So deer hunting is a big in
Mike Martin:Michigan, right, that's what I'm actively actually I just tagged
Mike Martin:out yesterday. So my season's over with, but I think to go
Mike Martin:even further with it. The deer is a great example of this.
Mike Martin:Because in the human mind, we tell ourselves the story that we
Mike Martin:live with inside these limiting beliefs, that we can't do much
Mike Martin:of anything outside of the box. And a deer, there's their
Mike Martin:position in the world is one of knack of being an actual prey.
Mike Martin:So there's predators all around, right. And yet, they move
Mike Martin:through the day through the world in such a graceful and
Mike Martin:carefree kind of way. Not because they're naive, and they
Mike Martin:don't know that they're on the dinner menu. It's because they
Mike Martin:have confidence within themselves to how they'll react
Mike Martin:and respond is so cool. And, you know, when he was being a
Mike Martin:hunter, you're obviously trained to not to scare the deer away.
Mike Martin:But when they notice you, they smell you or they see your
Mike Martin:movement. They first they'll stand up and they'll gauge
Mike Martin:what's going on. And then when they feel threatened, they take
Mike Martin:off, or they charge head out whatever the case may be. And,
Mike Martin:you know, when you're going through anxiety, for example, it
Mike Martin:feels like that life and death decision like what they have to
Mike Martin:make. But yeah, in our world, it's not, you know, we're not
Mike Martin:going to die or get injured, usually out of what we're afraid
Mike Martin:of doing. But it's the fact that we don't trust ourselves. Now,
Mike Martin:we second guess everything we tie into that negative
Mike Martin:storyline. And if we could channel our vision to look
Mike Martin:through the eyes of a deer that is indeed based on life or
Mike Martin:death, and yet they succeed by running away. Then what to say
Mike Martin:we can't do.
Saylor Cooper:Exactly. We should never second guess
Saylor Cooper:ourselves kind of looking put Do you have to that?
Tyler Evans:Well, I would say
Mike Martin:that for me.
Tyler Evans:My trust is in the Lord Jesus Christ. That's what I
Tyler Evans:believe. And that ultimately, whether we live or die, we can
Tyler Evans:live confidently knowing that he has us in His hands. And that
Tyler Evans:one day is going to call us home to be with Him forever. For
Tyler Evans:those who believe
Saylor Cooper:the way you said it was even so gentle there,
Saylor Cooper:happy Tyler.
Mike Martin:That see, though, I want to I want to make a point
Mike Martin:about that, though. Because what you just said, Tyler, is this
Mike Martin:concept of relinquishing? You know, you've relinquished
Mike Martin:yourself to that belief, and that's the process of your
Mike Martin:circle.
Tyler Evans:Yeah, exactly. Exactly. Just like you have a
Tyler Evans:circle, you have a circle that you have, you have a circle of
Tyler Evans:guys and gals, like a community of people, everyone has a
Tyler Evans:community of people somewhere in life, you know, basically, it's,
Tyler Evans:it's, it's really unique, and that you can have great
Tyler Evans:relationships with people with even differing beliefs, and you,
Tyler Evans:and you can still agree to disagree, and that's okay.
Saylor Cooper:You're correct. Yeah. But then you
Tyler Evans:can also have a group of people who share your
Tyler Evans:common belief with you the same belief.
Mike Martin:You know, what I mean. And that brings to mind a
Mike Martin:quote from Seneca, about people that surround yourself is, it's
Mike Martin:your job as people come in and out of your story, to constantly
Mike Martin:be the judge, the jury, and the executioner. You, you know, you
Mike Martin:explore that relationship, and see what it is that you're
Mike Martin:intended to learn and gain on an emotional level from it. And
Mike Martin:then you assess and become the jury about whether or not it's
Mike Martin:achieving the bullet points that are hoping to continue your
Mike Martin:story in a positive, healthy manner. And then, you know, it
Mike Martin:boils down to being the execution. You right, cut the
Mike Martin:cord, and I think that's something that is really become
Mike Martin:a kind of the ending point of COVID is really becoming more
Mike Martin:aware of that concept.
Saylor Cooper:Exactly. Yeah.
Tyler Evans:Well, you know, I truly, you know, I truly believe
Tyler Evans:that Coronavirus, was not as bad as they said it would be sure it
Tyler Evans:was bad. Sure it was deadly for some. But it was not nearly as
Tyler Evans:bad as people said it wasn't the plague. It wasn't like the
Tyler Evans:Spanish flu, which killed what was it? 500 million people,
Tyler Evans:something like that. It was a lot of people were dead. It
Tyler Evans:wasn't the worst of the worst of all diseases. And yet people
Tyler Evans:wanted us to believe Oh, it's just this horrible disease, you
Tyler Evans:gotta be locked up. Gotta be this gotta be that. You know
Tyler Evans:what I mean? And because I feel that because of that the mental
Tyler Evans:health of this country has declined. Did you know I
Tyler Evans:actually heard not too long ago, that math scores have decreased
Tyler Evans:in this country. Math, like, it's math scores, not like
Tyler Evans:scores. Oh, like scores in math, science, and, you know, other
Tyler Evans:disciplines have decreased. Why? Because people are being taught
Tyler Evans:things they shouldn't be taught in school. Even children are
Tyler Evans:being subjected to certain things that we're not going to
Tyler Evans:go in here. It's very explicit. Now. We'll just leave it at
Tyler Evans:that. And they're not being taught education. They're being
Tyler Evans:taught indoctrination and stuff. Yeah, that's one reason and
Tyler Evans:another reason is because of the light deaths. But yeah, that's
Tyler Evans:what I believe.
Saylor Cooper:And I believe don't work. No, no, they don't
Saylor Cooper:work. They never have never will know. But we're gonna move on
Saylor Cooper:from that they have so yeah, nature's really helped you. I
Saylor Cooper:mean, I you I've heard say, you know, I'm magazine magazine is
Saylor Cooper:affected to some degree, but you know, some as you know,
Saylor Cooper:medication can have side effects and a lot of times that natural
Saylor Cooper:remedies can even be battle, you know?
Mike Martin:Well, yeah, I've just covered it's definitely
Mike Martin:that more holistic kind of way. Because I think the the best way
Mike Martin:to break this down is even with whatever your mental health
Mike Martin:barriers can be, and that's what they're they're they're
Mike Martin:obstacles. Along your journey, and exactly one of the most
Mike Martin:important things to take away is the fact that you don't run from
Mike Martin:the obstacle. You don't sit and wait for it to go away. You walk
Mike Martin:head on into it, the obstacle becomes the way. And you know, I
Mike Martin:think it really boils down to do you remember as kids those,
Mike Martin:choose your own adventure reading books? Yeah. That is
Mike Martin:exactly the boots that we're all in is, we're here on this earth,
Mike Martin:inside of our circle of life. And the journey is ours to
Mike Martin:create, you know, it's what you do with each moment, into the
Mike Martin:next and into the next, that ultimately becomes the
Mike Martin:sentences, the paragraphs, and the pages of the book of your
Mike Martin:life story. Nobody else. Nobody else. And, you know, the rest of
Mike Martin:the outside world is there to add to the vocabulary. But it's
Mike Martin:your job to filter. What words actually go on that page.
Tyler Evans:Amen. Amen.
Tyler Evans:You know, you just reminded me of something. Tomorrow is a very
Tyler Evans:somber day for me, because two years ago, I lost my mom
Tyler Evans:tomorrow. And here's what's inspiring about her. She,
Tyler Evans:through her life, literally told me, I can do anything I want. No
Tyler Evans:matter if I'm blind, no matter what. And same with this
Tyler Evans:gentleman up here, sailor who his mom told his mom told him,
Tyler Evans:You can do anything you want through her examples through
Tyler Evans:what she did for her for him, and fought for him. And the same
Tyler Evans:way she fought for me. So like, from the time I was born to the
Tyler Evans:time, I was about, I don't know, eight, give or take and even
Tyler Evans:beyond, she fought for me to be mainstreamed in education, to
Tyler Evans:where I can be in normal classes like everyone else. And sometime
Tyler Evans:after he gets back, he and I are going to do a special show about
Tyler Evans:her. Because we've we've made a decision that we want to do a
Tyler Evans:special show about her every single year. Because that's you
Tyler Evans:know, it's important to just tell the world hey, our story.
Tyler Evans:Yeah, the world. How even through death. There's still
Tyler Evans:inspiration, there's still a legacy that's going to be left
Tyler Evans:behind and mom left a legacy for me. Yeah. And I know, I know for
Tyler Evans:a fact that his mom, whenever she's gone, it's gonna leave a
Tyler Evans:legacy for him as well.
Saylor Cooper:That's right. Yeah, it's your mom's right.
Tyler Evans:Yeah, absolutely.
Mike Martin:Yes, definitely.
Tyler Evans:And you know, another thing she told me, I
Tyler Evans:don't want y'all to grieve, like are dead. Like, I don't want you
Tyler Evans:all to be sad and gloomy and just depressed when I'm gone.
Tyler Evans:And we weren't. We were sad. Sure. That it was for a moment.
Tyler Evans:And we're going to be a little sad, of course, but she didn't
Tyler Evans:want us to suffer like she did. She literally got sick whenever
Tyler Evans:her mom had, like pneumonia sick. It was like, man, and she
Tyler Evans:was like, I don't want y'all to do that. Yeah. And she wanted to
Tyler Evans:be cremated. So we fulfilled two parts of her will cremation. And
Tyler Evans:the fact that we weren't super sad when she was gone. We
Tyler Evans:weren't grieving. Like it was nothing. But anyway. Yeah.
Saylor Cooper:Let's go back. So you said you've been divorced
Saylor Cooper:twice? Right. Absolutely. You know, and that was caused by
Saylor Cooper:your mental health struggles to, but
Mike Martin:that was that was a combination of the mental health
Mike Martin:struggles and just not not knowing myself or finding out
Mike Martin:realizing, actually that my worth and my value come from
Mike Martin:within? Yeah. Yeah. No, go ahead.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, yeah, cuz I know, some people divorce is not
Saylor Cooper:good. But at the same time, you should never stay in a marriage
Saylor Cooper:if it's unhealthy and you're not unhappy. I mean, I mean, not to
Saylor Cooper:demonstrate that you're weak or anything, but we had another
Saylor Cooper:guest on the show who had very similar mental health struggles
Saylor Cooper:and, you know, I mean, know her marriage wasn't blissful that
Saylor Cooper:you know, she, she survived it. And that So, basically, your
Saylor Cooper:your horses will cause by not knowing yourself, like you know
Saylor Cooper:yourself now,
Mike Martin:you know, I say it that way, because I don't
Mike Martin:believe that had I known myself then like I do now that I ever
Mike Martin:would have been in those positions. That's not to say
Mike Martin:that they were the absolute wrong decisions because they
Mike Martin:were clearly the ones that nature had laid out for me. And
Mike Martin:there was a few monumental blessings that came out of them.
Mike Martin:But then again, the adversities of going through the situations,
Mike Martin:was also a part of the medicine that I needed in order to get
Mike Martin:where I am today. So I don't look back, as you know, it was
Mike Martin:unfortunate that that was that that chapter happened, or the
Mike Martin:outcome was this, it was actually very fortunate. Because
Mike Martin:without that, I never would have had to embrace the suck of the
Mike Martin:situation, and reach down and find the grit in the resolve to
Mike Martin:grind through the adversity, and discover the steward in the
Mike Martin:conservation is of myself that is truly there.
Saylor Cooper:I get yet it taught you lessons that you
Saylor Cooper:didn't know before. And going forward, would you remain again,
Saylor Cooper:are you completely contained?
Mike Martin:You know, it's so funny, the timing of this
Mike Martin:conversation in that question. Because, like I mentioned, there
Mike Martin:was some blessings out of that I've got some amazing children,
Mike Martin:which means I have to deal with, you know, ex wives and mothers.
Mike Martin:And yesterday, actually just had a conversation with the second
Mike Martin:one, which was the catalyst for all of this, you know, all of
Mike Martin:the really dark adversities that I've gone through. And the fact
Mike Martin:that, you know, kind of got a little bit personal in the
Mike Martin:conversation, and I admitted based on my face to face, but I
Mike Martin:admitted, no, in this conversation that I'm happy and
Mike Martin:content with my simple little way of life in a way that it
Mike Martin:ain't changing or nothing. So I would say, Absolutely not. And
Mike Martin:that's not saying that slams door shut. I'm just saying at
Mike Martin:this point, I don't see that being an opportunity, because
Mike Martin:I'm so focused on yourself. Not necessarily just on myself, but
Mike Martin:I'm focused on what's within my vision right now,
Saylor Cooper:your vision is to stay on the right track. And so
Saylor Cooper:your second wife, even though you're divorced, she never knew
Saylor Cooper:your, like your sequence and your dark.
Mike Martin:Turn all those, though, those were clear. And I
Mike Martin:say it was the darkest aspects of the adversity, because all of
Mike Martin:that stuff was used as tools to make the situation worse, it's
Mike Martin:kind of pushed me deeper in the ground. But I feel like when
Mike Martin:those things happen, you know, it's kind of I've learned, you
Mike Martin:still get the choice of how you're going to respond or what
Mike Martin:you're going to do with it. You know, I'm helping a friend
Mike Martin:through the same kind of situation now, where they're
Mike Martin:going through one of those brutal, messy kind of divorces.
Mike Martin:And they're getting a lot of those, I guess, mind games and
Mike Martin:stuff. And, you know, I keep reminding this person that it's
Mike Martin:about what you do, it doesn't matter what the stimuli is. It's
Mike Martin:about what you think what you see and how you choose to
Mike Martin:respond. That's all it's within your power. And no matter what
Mike Martin:the situation is, that's the only part that we have any
Mike Martin:control over is how we respond to it. Yeah, it can suck and we
Mike Martin:can admit, hey, that that hurts. It's horrible. But at the same
Mike Martin:token, you've got to take the opportunity to give yourself the
Mike Martin:grace, the time and the space to not only feel it, but work
Mike Martin:through it because you don't want to carry these things.
Saylor Cooper:No, no, you don't. You don't want you don't
Saylor Cooper:want to carry that stuff on your shoulders or inside because it
Saylor Cooper:just feels that fills up and in. It gets worse in the end.
Mike Martin:Yeah, so make sense. By Yeah,
Saylor Cooper:yeah, I'm a subject of marriage like,
Saylor Cooper:knowing Tyler never married we've never had cool before.
Tyler Evans:Now the closest I've had to a girlfriend is
Tyler Evans:taking a girl to homecoming when I was a junior.
Saylor Cooper:And you know that it was nice. Yeah
Tyler Evans:She was really sweet. Her name was Megan, I had
Tyler Evans:a crush on
Saylor Cooper:what did what what advice? Would you give?
Saylor Cooper:Like? Should we think about marriage or just content where
Saylor Cooper:we are now?
Mike Martin:You know, I think that's a very personal kind of
Mike Martin:kind of answer. Because you know, everybody's situation is
Mike Martin:different. But I think that the underlining thing to really,
Mike Martin:truly consider is taking the time to look internally, turn
Mike Martin:inside and make sure that, you know, you're not finding your
Mike Martin:value based on the relationship that you're in, make sure that
Mike Martin:you're projecting that value from within. Because that's
Mike Martin:ultimately, I think that's one of the biggest things that I've
Mike Martin:learned through this entire journey is, you know, the value,
Mike Martin:the worth, that we perceive that we have, has to be internally
Mike Martin:because it is inside of us. Yes, it is.
Tyler Evans:Exactly. So you're basically saying here, if you're
Tyler Evans:not happy, single, you're not going to be happy, you're not
Tyler Evans:going to be happy married. You're right. Yeah, I mean, it's
Tyler Evans:true, like you have to be happy single first. And then there are
Tyler Evans:even some people who aren't meant to be married. And that's
Tyler Evans:okay.
Saylor Cooper:Because I'm a happy single I just don't like
Saylor Cooper:being alone for an excessive amount of time, which is
Saylor Cooper:understandable, you know,
Tyler Evans:yeah, I'm kind of the same way I like to be around
Tyler Evans:people, I like to do stuff, I don't like to just be at home
Tyler Evans:forever, just do nothing. I'll do I like to be at home
Tyler Evans:sometimes, and relax. And there are days where I don't want to
Tyler Evans:go in. But a lot of times, I love to be
Mike Martin:out, you know, it's funny, because this conversation
Mike Martin:now brings up like the idea that I struggled with, for a long
Mike Martin:time about my time in the woods, because when you go out there,
Mike Martin:you seek isolation. And, you know, years back before this
Mike Martin:whole chapter started, I can't say that I truly enjoyed that
Mike Martin:isolation, I won't say that I probably was more distracted and
Mike Martin:fearful of the idea of similar alone. And over the past few
Mike Martin:years, and trying to really uncover myself, it's now truly
Mike Martin:the sanctuary that it should be, that the isolation of sitting in
Mike Martin:a tree stand by yourself, should get you. And I think that it's a
Mike Martin:model that, you know, takes time to get there, a lot of us go
Mike Martin:out, and we do whatever it is that we do alone. But we're not
Mike Martin:truly fully present. Because we're kind of afraid of
Mike Martin:ourselves. And if you take time to, you know, ultimately ask
Mike Martin:yourself hard questions. answer truthfully. And, you know, just
Mike Martin:explore what's inside, we become more stable, and we become a
Mike Martin:hole. And that's the point where the idea of a relationship
Mike Martin:becomes one that you can walk through and really contribute
Mike Martin:and give something.
Saylor Cooper:Exactly,
Tyler Evans:exactly. So basically, you're saying, Be
Tyler Evans:alone sometimes meditate,
Saylor Cooper:exactly.
Tyler Evans:Be be feared. And, you know, I like being alone
Tyler Evans:sometimes. So sounds Remorse, of course, hey, I want to I want to
Tyler Evans:be by myself, so I can do whatever I want. You might make
Tyler Evans:a meal, like in the microwave or whatever,
Saylor Cooper:in time. And sometimes in a marriage, I guess
Saylor Cooper:it's okay to, for a spouse to stab a blank every now and then
Saylor Cooper:like that. Why? Just to girlfriends, you know, and so
Saylor Cooper:and so
Tyler Evans:many friends. Yeah.
Mike Martin:I think the idea of being alone, or even loneliness
Mike Martin:isn't one that we should be afraid of. No, no, no, I'm
Tyler Evans:not afraid of being alone. It's just I don't like to
Tyler Evans:be isolated. If you get my drift. Right, for a long period
Tyler Evans:of time.
Saylor Cooper:Me too. Me. Same here. As I said, same here, you
Saylor Cooper:know, yeah,
Tyler Evans:I'm not afraid to be alone at all. I mean, I like
Tyler Evans:being alone sometimes.
Mike Martin:That yeah, that that little bit of advice comes
Mike Martin:from someone that went from that way. Life to a life that is got
Mike Martin:a lot of isolation, self chosen. So, right? Well,
Tyler Evans:you know, I've actually learned that isolation
Tyler Evans:is not healthy, long term, not long, it is in moderation to a
Tyler Evans:point like you'd like, like we've alluded to before, take
Tyler Evans:some time to be alone, take some time to rest and recoup and get
Tyler Evans:back on track, that's fine. But making it a habit teuer you're
Tyler Evans:always isolated, never around people never interact with
Tyler Evans:people never do nothing. That's not healthy.
Mike Martin:And that's with my show, that's something that I
Mike Martin:started, I actually set my feet to the fire with pretty early
Mike Martin:on. Because I, I was in that extreme isolation thing. Mostly
Mike Martin:due to that social anxiety we talked about earlier. And
Mike Martin:started bringing people on to the show and doing interview
Mike Martin:episodes and, you know, really documenting in making it okay
Mike Martin:for people to say, hey, step by step, I can work out of this.
Mike Martin:Exactly.
Saylor Cooper:It's out. Gonna ask you next, I know you have a
Saylor Cooper:podcast too. And by the way, one reason will you employ by
Saylor Cooper:artists. In fact, me and Tyler, we just met with Michelle, we're
Saylor Cooper:developing a plan on how to do some affiliate marketing and
Saylor Cooper:monetize a podcast and maybe, Mike, Mike, you want to do that
Saylor Cooper:as well. That's why you're part of the podcast guests connection
Saylor Cooper:Facebook group. So about Yeah, what's your podcast about? You
Saylor Cooper:know, maybe we can figure out how to, like offer some premium
Saylor Cooper:content for each other. So yeah, go ahead.
Mike Martin:So my podcast is called Project mindfully
Mike Martin:outdoors. You can find it anywhere you can get a podcast.
Mike Martin:And I also call it the camping healing. Because exactly what
Mike Martin:it's all about going into the outdoors, and finding something
Mike Martin:to bring back with us. Like I mentioned earlier, the outdoors
Mike Martin:offers this unique skill set, that when you tap into it, you
Mike Martin:unlock things within you, abilities that you never would
Mike Martin:find in the real world. And in the real world that in no
Mike Martin:context, you'd be afraid to utilize. But this whole backpack
Mike Martin:of skills that utilize outside in the wilderness, when you
Mike Martin:bring it back into the real world, it makes a life a little
Mike Martin:bit easier to navigate.
Saylor Cooper:That's what it's all about. There you go.
Tyler Evans:And another thing we were talking to Michelle
Tyler Evans:about is using Patreon. Now, I wasn't sure if you use it, but
Tyler Evans:we're thinking about it in the future. For I actually
Mike Martin:just launched one because about a month ago, I
Mike Martin:launched my first season of guided meditations, which is
Mike Martin:called Letters camp. And when I released by Patreon, I not only
Mike Martin:started uploading all the videos and everything like that. But I
Mike Martin:included all all of the meditations off the letters from
Mike Martin:campus a special free gift with it. Yeah.
Tyler Evans:And you know, it's really, you know, it's really
Tyler Evans:amazing to me. Like, when you podcasts, when you create
Tyler Evans:podcasts, try and turn all that you don't even need a former
Tyler Evans:education or formal education. Oh, you really don't know. And
Tyler Evans:what's amazing to me is like, people have this idea. You have
Tyler Evans:to go to college, you have to get more education. To do this.
Tyler Evans:No, you don't know, is such a lie. That is a myth. And not
Tyler Evans:only that, not only that, you are a prime example, prime
Tyler Evans:example, Mike, about how you create content about nature and
Tyler Evans:how you can, you know, make a living doing stuff like that,
Tyler Evans:and through affiliate marketing and all that. And Allah and I've
Tyler Evans:actually heard the expression, it's not who you know, or it's
Tyler Evans:not what you know, it's who you know,
Saylor Cooper:right? Exam suck. Yes. It's you Gata, it's who you
Saylor Cooper:know. Yes,
Mike Martin:exactly. And, you know, it's funny, because you
Mike Martin:mentioned about how I'm the prime example of that is,
Mike Martin:throughout the course of this progression, I've become kind of
Mike Martin:this healing guide. And along the journey, it wasn't something
Mike Martin:that I never, like, I never thought that I'd be doing any of
Mike Martin:this stuff. I never asked for it. And ultimately, the Since
Mike Martin:we're nature is brought. So we never actually know where we're
Mike Martin:going to end up, you can go and study something and put all the
Mike Martin:nuts and bolts for one adventure and hit a rock or a gust of wind
Mike Martin:and you end up somewhere else. It's just where nature isn't.
Mike Martin:It's the ability to adapt to it. And
Saylor Cooper:exactly
Mike Martin:on what's around you. Right? And then you got to,
Mike Martin:you got to not be afraid of what you don't know.
Tyler Evans:In other words, you're basically saying faith,
Tyler Evans:right? In other words, it's about having faith in yourself,
Tyler Evans:faith in God, whatever you whatever you believe,
Mike Martin:is exactly that it's having faith within
Mike Martin:choosing the adventure. And when you start walking those new
Mike Martin:blazing those new paths, you embrace it.
Tyler Evans:In other words, you're basically saying here
Tyler Evans:Life is an adventure, have faith in it, have faith in yourself
Tyler Evans:and have
Mike Martin:faith in life. And, you know, I think something that
Mike Martin:got overlooked there is not only have faith in it, and the
Mike Martin:willingness to go through and do it, but celebrate, celebrate,
Mike Martin:enjoy it. That's right. Enjoy. Whatever it is you're doing,
Mike Martin:this is what nature prescribed specifically for you. And make
Mike Martin:it your own. You know, that you love, your passion and your
Mike Martin:your, your soul into it, and then celebrate. Right, well,
Saylor Cooper:yeah, you go, there you go. So I do you have
Saylor Cooper:anything else to show? Should we wrap it up?
Mike Martin:You know, what, I think we have covered such a
Mike Martin:wide diverse. Oh, yeah. Yeah, some of this even caught me off
Mike Martin:guard, which was really fun and really cool. But I this week,
Mike Martin:one thing that I would like to leave your listeners with, and
Mike Martin:it's actually something that I put together recently and shared
Mike Martin:on my website, Project mind via outdoors.com. And it talks about
Mike Martin:my one of my spirit ends, which is the goose because, you know,
Mike Martin:when we see a goose, it looks rather on imposing, right. And,
Mike Martin:you know, we kind of take it for granted, we see a fly over head
Mike Martin:in the morning, see him down in the parks or along the river.
Mike Martin:But we never really, truly considered the qualities of the
Mike Martin:goose. Because they, if we were if we did, there's so much that
Mike Martin:they can not only show us to help us grow, but also reminders
Mike Martin:with the of what's inside of us. Right and green and blue, that
Mike Martin:is their migration pattern. When they migrate south for the
Mike Martin:winter, think about how hard and long of a journey that is. You
Mike Martin:know, not only is it stressfully, or physically
Mike Martin:stressful, but you've got to worry about hunters across the
Mike Martin:flyway, other creditors and whatnot. And when a goose goes
Mike Martin:down, and gets hurt, there's many goofs out of the box that
Mike Martin:will stay with them, they stop right there. And when they when
Mike Martin:that goose that gets hurt, is tended to and returns to light,
Mike Martin:that's when they go back to their goal. So they put their
Mike Martin:goals on hold, because there's a need for someone within their
Mike Martin:circle as to me and I think that and you know, the need, or the
Mike Martin:goal is still there. Once that member of the flock is tended to
Mike Martin:they get right back off and they achieved their goal. And I think
Mike Martin:humans, all of us as a tribe would do so much better just by
Mike Martin:bearing that in mind.
Saylor Cooper:That's why we will all use so much balance for
Saylor Cooper:sure. Yeah. As our some sellers them do analogies there now. A
Saylor Cooper:final few questions. I want to ask you, your mental health now
Saylor Cooper:it's stable. I mean, surely you still have no hard days, but
Saylor Cooper:it's stable as compared to where it was.
Mike Martin:Battle. There's definitely like, Yeah, there's
Mike Martin:definitely ups and downs, but it's definitely you know, I've
Mike Martin:learned to discard a lot of it and be able to control it
Mike Martin:because it's within me inspired exactly
Saylor Cooper:what have
Mike Martin:accepted it. Wow. Well,
Saylor Cooper:if you have nothing else to cover,
Unknown:please.
Saylor Cooper:The question I asked all the guests to close
Saylor Cooper:out. What advice do you give would total? I've said it enough
Saylor Cooper:you asking take away.
Tyler Evans:Okay. What advice would you give our listeners who
Tyler Evans:are struggling in life who don't know where to go? discouraged?
Tyler Evans:Thank you. Thank you, Phil, just who basically feel discouraged?
Tyler Evans:Yeah, who
Mike Martin:feel discouraged? First of all, slow down, because
Mike Martin:you're probably running too hard down. Yeah, exactly. And,
Mike Martin:secondly, allow yourself the grace to understand that,
Mike Martin:whatever it is, it's discouraging you right now is
Mike Martin:only here in this moment. When you exam, you stand back up, and
Mike Martin:you take the next couple of steps along your path. You're
Mike Martin:handing that discouragement over to death. It's no longer with
Mike Martin:you. Right? Right. Once a moment is lived, it's gone. It's not
Mike Martin:coming back. So therefore, those next steps forward, give you an
Mike Martin:opportunity to start a new and to define what they're going to
Mike Martin:look like for you.
Saylor Cooper:And you go, a guy that passes the pass to focus
Saylor Cooper:focused on the now it's correct.
Tyler Evans:Now we can learn we can learn from the past. Sure.
Tyler Evans:Yes, I can learn valuable lessons from but we don't do all
Tyler Evans:that. Exactly. So there you go. Oh, thank you. Thank you so much
Tyler Evans:for allowing us to interview tonight.
Saylor Cooper:Thank you so much for being on the show. And also
Saylor Cooper:I want to advertise part of affiliate marketing, right? Yes.
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Saylor Cooper:heard of it. It's an amazing, incredible event. And the next
Saylor Cooper:one is in January, we're 100 podcasters. Get together and
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Saylor Cooper:interview on up to five different podcasts like this
Saylor Cooper:one. You don't want to miss it, right? Tyler's January 17. And
Saylor Cooper:next one, right?
Tyler Evans:That's right. It happens to be the day after MLK
Tyler Evans:Day. Martin Luther King Day.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, yes. The day after MLK Day. And if you
Saylor Cooper:want I can put the link in the chat now. Or I can even send it
Saylor Cooper:to you in an email. Yeah, just
Mike Martin:shoot everything to me in the email, and I'll get
Mike Martin:back with you on every bit of it.
Saylor Cooper:All right. So yeah, yeah. Awesome. So yes,
Saylor Cooper:I've I've enjoyed having you
Mike Martin:on. Help without sight. All brothers, this has
Mike Martin:been a amazing conversation. I've loved it. It's been. It's
Mike Martin:been a pleasure to be able to celebrate our work together.
Mike Martin:Absolutely. And
Tyler Evans:once we sign up with Patreon, you'd be able to
Tyler Evans:possibly, if you want it, you can probably be an affiliate
Tyler Evans:potentially. Who knows?
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, she sure can. Yeah, yeah.
Tyler Evans:We would love to have you as an affiliate.
Saylor Cooper:Yeah, it
Mike Martin:would be great. I would definitely love to do more
Mike Martin:work with you.
Tyler Evans:All right. Sounds good. Yeah. Well, well, for
Tyler Evans:Thanksgiving. You too.
Saylor Cooper:Exactly. You have a wonderful Thanksgiving to
Saylor Cooper:everybody. Give it up for Mike Martin on Hope Without Sight
Saylor Cooper:Episode 16. Peace out everybody. Bye bye. All right.