DW180: The #1 Difference Between Those Who Are Successful and Those Who Aren't with Diane Rolston

If you're looking at others and thinking, how have

they had that success? And why haven't I had the same success?

Or how do I elevate the success I've had even more? Then you're

gonna want to listen to this episode where I talk about the

number one difference between those who are successful, and

those who aren't.

You're listening to the Dynamic Women podcast. Each

week, you'll be inspired by our global community of women.

They'll share with you tools and stories to help you be dynamic

in every area of life. Here's your host award winning coach

and the CEO and founder of Dynamic Women, Diane Rolston.

Hello, lovely dynamic women and welcome to the

dynamic women podcast. I am Diane Rolston, your host, I'm

going to be talking today about the number one difference

between those who are successful and those who aren't. I have had

many people over the years. And this is not a brag, because I do

this to others too. I ask them how have you been successful?

How have you been able to do the things that you've done? How

have you been able to reach certain goals? These are the

questions that I get asked, these are the questions I ask

others, my colleagues, clients. And it's smart to ask this type

of question, right? But why did we do it? We asked because we

want an easier way a simpler way. And today I'm going to talk

about that number one difference between those who are successful

and those who aren't. And I have to state that there are so so

many factors based on who the person is, based on what their

business or career or industry is, based on the steps they

take, the mentoring they have, the coaching they have, the

programs they buy all that stuff. So what is the one piece

that can go kind of across the board with all successful

people? What is one thing that no matter who you are, where you

are, you can do? Because there is one major difference between

those who are successful and those who aren't. I'm going to

tell you first the story that brought this kind of one word to

me. And I'm going to share today with you what that is, and give

you some suggestions on how to do it yourself. So that sounds

good. Does that sound fair? Awesome. So here we go. Let's

jump in.

I'm going to share with you first just a story. I am part of

a mastermind. I've heard of different groups, different

coaches. With this particular coach, I've been with him for

five years, I go to a mastermind three times a year with all the

other coaching clients, right. And I see clients come and

clients go, and I've been a staple being there all this

time. And what I've seen is that people come and they, you know,

they learn all this fabulous material. And then we go back

into our own worlds and our own businesses. And then we come

back and we learn more incredible material. And people

were noticing that I was getting ahead, people were noticing that

I was having really great success with what this coach was

telling me. So I'm gonna pause there for a moment. Also, as I

was growing up, people would say to me, Wow, Diane, like how have

you been able to have the success you've had? How have you

been able to be the captain of this team? Or the president of

that or win this award? How have you been able to do the specific

things in your business? So I've been asked How have you been

able to have a successful coaching practice, while also

like having two young children and being pregnant for some of

that time? And also being asked, How have you been able to

publish books? How have you been able to be consistent with your

podcast? How have you been able to launch new programs and

continue to launch new programs? ]

Now, on the practical side, I have probably given numerous

answers very specific to each of these things. And again, I'm not

saying all these things to brag by any means. I'm just saying

them to prove my point. Okay, so let's go back to new members

coming into this coaching community and asking me like,

how have you Diane had so so much success with this coach's

program, and it all comes down to one single word, I'm going to

give you the first letter and I'm going to see if you can

figure it out. The first letter is I, the I that is the solution

to this because I had to really think about it what is something

that anyone could do, no matter who you are, what industry what

position you are in, like are you start up, are you in growth

stage, no matter what it is, and you know what the I is?

Implement. Implementation. You see when I would learn a

technique I very quickly write down how I would do it and

prepare to do it. Either I'd send it off to my team, or I'd

do it myself. And so when I show up at the next mastermind, I had

another book done, or I had my broke speaker brochure done, or

I had put into place, a specific sales tactic that I used when I

offered from stage.

Now, you may say, well, Diane you have a team? Yeah, well, not

everything I had my team do. But the key thing is, implementation

is the things that helped me get forward. Like I just did the

work. I don't know how many times my friend Michelle and I

would show up at these masterminds, where we would just

learn something, and Michelle and I would show up and we had

implemented it and other people hadn't. And that's okay. And

there's no judgment there. But they would come to me and say,

Oh, have you had so much success? I just did what I was

told. It's kind of like if, like, we all know what to do to

be healthy. We all know what to do around probably exercise and

nutrition. But are you implementing it? We all know

what we're supposed to do to have a more positive mindset to

be more in tune with ourselves. But are we doing it? We all

know, I have a good night's sleep? But are we going to bed

early? Are we actually implementing what we have

learned? And I don't know how many times I've given a talk.

And it's not like what I'm saying some of the time is stuff

you've already heard. And people go oh, yeah, I know that. Oh, I

teach that. I know that. But are you actually implementing it?

So there's a huge difference between knowing something and

implementing something. Being taught something and

implementing something? That's the difference between those who

have been successful? And those who haven't? Is, is this just a

wonderful idea on paper? Or is this actually something that you

are putting into your business or your life? Now I get that

everything you were taught should not be implemented?

Either it's not right for your business or your life, or you're

focusing on other pieces. Therefore, you have to kind of

put the stuff on the backburner. So if I go back to the health

thing, if you are wanting to be healthier, it's maybe not wise

that tomorrow you implement a healthy eating plan, a fitness

plan, a sleep plan to reach out to all the different doctors and

to like, do all of this stuff, because you still want to have

balance in your life. But which piece can you implement?

So this is kind of getting into the suggestions now of what do

you do in order to implement. So if it is something that you want

to do? And in these cases, people will come and say, Oh, my

gosh, you finished your book? And I say, how, how did your

book go? And they say, Oh, I've not done it yet. And I'm like,

Oh, I thought you said that you wanted it launched before the

end of the year? Yeah. But yeah, I didn't do it. So if you want

to implement first decide, what do I want to implement? Which

things do I want to implement? What do I want to have success?

In? What results do I want to have? Then? You got to come up

with a plan of how you're going to actually do it? And is it you

doing it? Or is it someone else doing it, if you want someone

else to do it, hire someone else to do it. If that seems

overwhelming, then call me I'll have my virtual assistants

implemented for you. But the key thing is, you have to take some

steps, you have to move forward towards getting it done. And you

have two choices, you can implement it very quickly and

all at once, or you can take your time. So you can lock

yourself in a room and write that book over the course of you

know, next few weeks and do it every day. Or you could do every

day 1000 words and be done in a year, or be done in so many

months, right? You have different options to how you

implement. But the key thing is just getting it going. And a lot

of that is around making that commitment to having it done. So

I don't want to get into like the whole goal setting stuff, I

really want to just bring it back to implementation. So if

you're like and reflect right now on your life and ask

yourself, what are the things that I want to do or I want to

have happened? And do I have an implementation plan for those?

Maybe you don't? Maybe that's why you haven't had the success.

Maybe that's why you haven't reached some of your goals is

that you're just not implementing what you want. And

a lot of that comes down to is it it really is it a SMART goal?

Is it a live goal? Is it something that you like right in

front of you that you're being reminded of 98% of people don't

implement? And that's the funny thing. And there's so many

reasons why people don't implement. I'm not going to go

into all of them, but it's a choice. It is such a choice. And

so now when new groups of clients come in to this coach's

program, and they say how have you had success? And I said, the

key thing is implement. Implement what he tells you. And

I say that to my clients too. Implement. But the difference is

that when I'm working with a client, we set up what are you

committing to, there's accountability, there is maybe

support and how to do it. And there's a due date. So if you

don't currently have that with your coach, get that into place.

Because it's all good. And well, to have all these amazing ideas

come your way. But if you are not going to, like set up the

accountability and know when you're going to do it, and how

you're going to do it, and what the due date is, there is a

very, very high chance, and even a chance guarantee that you're

not going to achieve it. So I asked you today, what is it that

you need to implement in your life? And what is it that you

need to implement in your business. So I'll give you an

example of something that I'm implementing in my life, one of

the things I need to implement in my life is a better bed

night, like nighttime routine for bed, so that I actually go

to bed at a decent time. And I've been wanting to do this for

a long time, I've been reading the 5am Club and want to move

myself to getting up at that time. And so this is one example

of something to implement, to put into place. And then on the

business side, what I'm really implementing is a lot of systems

and processes in my business. Because I don't want to have to

be the major, I don't want to be so valuable to my business that

I can't step away from it when it's necessary. So let me know,

what are some things that you need to implement in your life,

trust me, they are going to make you so much more successful. And

I don't mean successful in like tons of money or successful in

the way of promotions and everything that can come. But

successful Justin, like you look at your life, and you go, Wow,

I'm so proud of myself, I feel satisfied. And what I've been

able to do. That is really the true testament of success. If

you do want someone to help you implement, we can have a

conversation about that I do have a team of virtual

assistants in the Philippines. They are skilled, they are

hardworking, they're vetted already by me, they're trained.

They have a lot of systems and processes from me. So if you

want to know more about that, just reach out. Okay, I'm going

to wrap up here. If you have thoughts on maybe where you're

struggling to implement, let me know. And I could do another,

another talk on different areas of life to implement in

different areas of business to implement in. And otherwise, I'm

wishing you an amazing day and go implement one thing. One

thing, right, don't take the fuel and the time that you've

invested to listen to this in vain. Like go implement one

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