Know Your Starting Point! | Ep 85

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Welcome back to another episode of The don't wait for your wake up call podcast. And as you know, this month has been talking about personal growth. That is the theme and I have another fabulous guest for you here. Chad Netland. And he is the author of The be better book. And we're gonna dive into his journey and how he came to writing that book. So welcome, Chad. I'm so excited to have this conversation with you.

Thank you so much. It's it's actually the book on being better. The book on being better the book on being better. Somebody asked me one time they said, so what are you going to name the book? Or would you write the book about I says, Well, it's the book on being better. And you're like, Yeah, would you name it? I'm like, No, it's the book on being better. And they're like, Well, how are people going to find that? I was like, Well, anytime they're looking up a book on being better, it should show up on the search engine. Like that'll never work. I'm like, look it up.

And there you go. That

was right there.

That's that's the great acronym Bob. So people can remember it book on being better. So I apologize. I got the name wrong.

No, that's it's just that much more fun.

They'll tell us, how did it come? How did you come to be? You're a fun guy. You tell stories. We got your little name, their assimilation story framework, you teach you coach through stories. So share your story.

Absolutely. My story is is varied. It's got highs and darks and lows and ups and downs and everything in between. And ultimately, yeah, that's what makes the average everyday person normal. Is we all go through these struggles. The question is how to how do we assign meaning to those things in our lives. And I started with what a lot of people don't have two parents who absolutely loved me. They just cherished all three of us with just three boys. That was the youngest of three. And we had varied interests, I if you would find me in one or two places, I would be in a hole climbing in something. Or if I was really lost, you would find me at the very top of the tree with the skinniest branch waving in the wind. And I literally would climb until I heard the branches start to strip to break. But I love being outdoors. I love to explore and to see new things and to gain different perspectives. I found out that I have like 90 Different yards when I was a kid, because the yard was completely different depending on what I was sitting on. It was a whole different world. And with an imagination like mine, I could see castles and cowboys and Indians and you know, in all of the things a kid could see, but I got to see it based on where I was and how I perceived the world based on my circumstance. And then I had another brother and he liked to borrow things that weren't his in the neighborhood. And then he would carved his initials in windowsills. So we were immediately loved in our neighborhood as a child. And then my oldest brother he liked he liked to fire. Me he liked to burn things like people's barns and sheds. And so we had parents that loved me, in communities that hated us. Because of my brothers. I used to go to things and my teachers referred to me as brother of a thief during roll roll call. Oh, he wouldn't even address me by name. Small communities, you know, they can be very loving and they can also be very brutal. Mm hmm. And I learned that it was better to not connect with people, because then I wouldn't be hurt when we moved and we moved a lot. No, my dad was not in the military. But he would he would move to another state for a three cent raise. Right It was something to it was it was more And he always wanted to be able to give us more and he wanted to love us more and show us more. And in so doing ministry, for my parents seemed like it took precedent over us to serve their children. Now, as I look older now, and I've looked at why they did the things they did, and I fully support their decisions now, but as a child, I felt neglected. I felt unloved, uncared for, I was second to everything else. And it got me to really start looking at things deeply. When I hit junior high, I started, you know, like every young man does in junior high, I started studying psychology and economics. Because everybody does that. Right? And, well, you know, with my parents, it's not like I had a love life on the side it was school and home, you want to play play with your dog in the backyard? You don't go run with the pack, right? And it got me really interested in how the mind works, the psychology behind it, why do we do the things we do more important to me as Why are my parents doing what they're doing? It's like, I love them dearly. Why do I feel so unloved? And it wasn't a fault of my parents. It was a learned behavior that my parents had. They loved me in the way that they knew how in the best way that they could based on what they knew.

And that's often what happens we parent the way we were parented, right? Yeah,

absolutely. And so I said, There's got to be a better way for this. And I started digging in digging deep. And I wanted to grow up and be a youth pastor. My one brother wanted to be in the military. And the other one wanted to be a truck driver. Pastor, yeah, notifier I wanted to be a youth pastor. So right out of high school, I went into the army. My brothers couldn't, they had records. I went into the Army, absolutely loved it excelled in everything that I did in the military. When I got out, I ended up starting in as a household mover. I spent years going over the road, with trucks, moving people. And eventually I ended up back where I was preaching from the pulpit and helping you. So ultimately, I got to fulfill all three of our dreams in my life. And I said, Wow, this is pretty cool. In my 20s, now what? So I took a walk, I went from Minneapolis to California. And I took a short little walk. That turned into a seven year journey where I traveled all over the US by foot, and worked in homeless camps. And my whole goal was to just bring them hope. Most people don't realize you don't end up homeless because you want to be homeless. Something happened, you end up homeless, and you end up staying homeless only when you lose hope. Right? So I got to show up and same dirty clothes, same black of belongings, same position, same place, same situation and circumstance. But I was fully joy. Right? And it made people ask, like, what is so different about you? And I said, you really want to know like, Yeah, are you sure? Yeah, man. So different about justice. Asked me tomorrow, and I turn around, walk off. Because when I learned that when you when you make people really want to know something, and then you make them pursue it, they value it when they have it. And they learn this from my grandpa. I learned this from my grandpa, smart man. He said, You know, he says your your cousins take the 22 and they go out there and they shoot all the squirrels and rabbits. He says and you just let them run off into the woods. Does, I'm going to show you how to snare a rabbit. I tell you that wrap that first rabbit that I got I brought home and I was so proud. I feel dressed it I cleaned it. We cooked it, we ate it. I was so proud of that. And that's when he reminded me, he says and see your cousin's still just let them die in the woods. This is but you found value in what you did because you had to pursue it. You had to be persistent. You had to put the work in. And I was like, wow, there is so much there. And my grandpa used to teach me all these little lessons. He was a cold. He wasn't a cold man. He didn't laugh much. He was a very stern person. But I never understood very common in that era. Yeah. I never understood the depth of the lessons that he taught me until I got older. And a lot of those lessons you'll actually find in the book on being better. And I tell story, to share those principles. Well, some of the lessons that I learned was like in the military, about finding our beginning. We did land navigation in order to find, figure out where you're going and how to get there and plot your course. There's three things that you had to know. You had to know your story. At point, you had to know your endpoint. And you had to know the terrain in between, right. And once you knew all three of those, you could plot the most effective course to get you wherever it is that you're going. lack any one of those three, and you're going to die of starvation, dehydration, or the wild, right? And I thought, how much how much more is our life just like that? Too many people say give me the framework, give me the plan. Give me a business plan. Give me an idea. Give me something to follow. Because I, I want more. And you're like, Well, what exactly is that that you want? And are like more? More money? I said, How much will 10 grand of like 10 grand a month. So another 10,000? Before you die 10k a year? What do you want, you have to get clear on that desire. And they're like, Well, I just I just need more money than I have now. And I'm like, go stand on the corner escort, you'll end up with more. You know, and they didn't understand and till something I started doing with people to impress this point, as I would tell them just like I'm going to tell your audience right now. If you come to my home,

I will feed you like royalty. I will keep you well housed, well fed, and well entertained for an entire week and give you complete coaching. And wherever you are in your business for an entire week. Solid and straight. All you got to do is just come to my home, walk up to my porch, knock twice on the door, and come on in the house. You don't even have to wait for me to answer just come on in. So all you need to do is go north 13 miles. Take a right at the first tee in the road. When you hit that tee, I want you to go through town down up a hill. Immediately you'll find another road, take a left, follow up three quarters of a mile you'll see a white picket fence, go to the next driveway, take a right that's my house. So those directions, anybody who wants to come on. People go all that so exciting. And they get all worked up about this. The smart ones go 13 miles from where exactly. Without the start point, the best, most descriptive directions and plan will not get you to your destination. I mean, there's a chance, but it's one in a billion. Exactly. You'd be better off having no plan and just walking aimlessly through life. And to have a specific plan and no start. Right. So we've said well, I gotta I gotta find a way to make sure that people understand this principle that they have to have that start point Yep. And no, they're beginning in life. And it's not, you know, where are you at physically, but where are you at in your life? If it's business, where are you at in your business? If it's your relationship? Where are you at in your relationship? If it's your personal development, identify where you're at, be so brutally honest, that you would be embarrassed if you walked into the room and overheard yourself, like be so raw. Because if you're not completely honest with where you're starting, you'll never actually get anywhere solid because you'll be building on a false foundation. So, now that we have that we have to know the end game, right? Where do we want to be? Somebody says I want to lose weight. Okay, how much? I don't know. I'm just you know, I need to lose some weight. All right, well take your shoes off. Lighter, right? Yeah, we're good. Here. Don't drink an extra glass of water a day, you'll be lighter, slightly dehydrated and miserable. But you'd be lighter. You know, there's little things it's like, if you don't know what your outcome is your goal, then you can't work towards it. Once we have that, then we have to make sure this is my favorite lesson was my grandpa. Actually, he taught me a lot of lessons around the right tools. But one of my favorite is we were going to make birdhouses we do a lot of wood crafting. And to this day, we still do a lot of wood crafting in my house. But we're gonna make some good birdhouses and we went up to the woodshop garden, he says, well, I need I need holes in all of the front's of the birdhouses and he cut all the pieces ahead of time. He's like, I need holes for all the birds to come in. And he handed me this stack of boards. And he handed me a chisel. And so he's over there working on other stuff, and I'm a young kid and I'm just gouging away and I'm digging this hole. And finally I get one through and I look over at grandpa and he's just sitting there crossed, crossed arms over his lap just watching me. And I came over and I was so proud. I was like I got it, grandpa I got it all the way through. Is it big enough? He goes, that's perfect. Good job. Jeric because it was Chris, Eric and Chad. So he always just called all of us check. Good job Jerrick. And I was like, Thanks, grandpa. And he goes, we don't have time. He says hold on, and he picks up the other five he walks over to the drill press set some intervals. done five more holes done just like that. And he looked at me and he goes you can accomplish almost anything you set your mind to you if you work hard enough and long enough. But sometimes it just makes sense to ask for the right tool. And all I could think was such a jerk. And now I spend my life going. Well, it's a tool I could use to make that more effective. Right? What tools do I have at my disposal? Because that lesson changed everything about how I do life, how we do business, how I do my relationships with my wife, my kids, my parents, there's toolbox that we have. And most people never take the time to open up that toolbox and say, What skills do I have? What resources do I have that I can apply to the situation or circumstance. And because of that, most people are stuck there with a chisel and a board, never knowing how to use the right tool for the task. So when we understand that principle, and say there are tools at our disposal, and they're there, although we're not x, accessing them, I learned that I had developed an immense amount of skills in the military, in the woods, shops traveling.

But when you looked at my life, I seemed unsuccessful. And I realized that my dad would move us for three cents, and then move us a few months later, for a penny or two more, or a slight change or a better opportunity or something that had more potential. No promise, just potential or possibility. And I realized that we always moved for the potential and the possibility but we never pursued the result. Right? And then realized that as I was looking through life, I'm like, You know what, I got tired of where I was. So I walked to California. Why did I walk? Because the night before? No joke, my brother and I were sitting around smoking something we shouldn't just leave it at that. He's like, what you're going to do tomorrow? I was like, I don't know. What to California, I guess. All right. Let me know when you get there. And we sat there for another half an hour, 45 minutes or so. And I went to bed in the morning. I gotta I was tired. Worn out was a long night. Well, he told me or I told him, I was gonna go to California. In the words of my grandfather ran through my head, he says a man is only as good as his word. If you don't have that. What are you? I don't have that I'm a lie. I have no choice. But to walk to California. It wasn't a whim. I made a statement. And as a man, I had to be a man of integrity. So I walked. And I continued to walk. And I basically, I've walked all of my excuses out of my life. Once you've gone to East Coast and West Coast five times on foot, there's really nothing you look at in life and go, I don't know if I can do that. Or like, sure was easier than walking across Arizona. You know, you start thinking things like that, and all sudden, you get a different perspective. And I realized that what had to shift wasn't my situation. It wasn't my circumstance. It wasn't my resources. It wasn't my skills. It was my thinking. I had to learn to think differently. Because the way that I had been thinking was incompletely aligned in complete alignment with the way that I was raised. And like you said, we parent, how we were parented. We love how we loved, we do life, how we see others do life. And then I thought, Wait, if I call if I continue to do life, the way that my dad did life, I'm feeling exactly what my children will feel when they get my age. I'm feeling it right now. And I don't want that for them. I've got to do life different. I've got to think different. I've got to perceive things different. How do I go about doing that? And so I started studying people who they were seeing things that were successful in their life. And I don't believe success is making X amount of money per month or having this type of car, this type of house or prestige. I actually really enjoy Earl nightingale's version of success. He says it's a worthwhile, it's a pursuit of any worthwhile goal. And when I heard that, for the first time, I'm like, I am a success. I'm not trying to achieve success, I am a success, because I'm pursuing something worthwhile. Right? That's what makes me successful. And the interesting thing happened. When I started to see myself as successful, I started to succeed at things in my life. And I realized it's a decision. And if you if you take the root word of decision, it's desio, which means to cut off or sever. It's actually a Latin term used in surgery to cut off and sever like when you make a decision, you cut off all other options, and that's what must happen. So I decided that I was going to be a world changer and an impact maker. I was deciding that I was the man who was going to find the key in my life that was going to help me to achieve all the things that I set out to accomplish. And as I studied some of the greats and I studied, studied individuals, I studied cultures. And I found that there were some interesting things between cultural growth, emotional growth, and economics. A lot of them have the same principles didn't matter where you put them, they just worked. And so I started applying some of these principles in my life. Like, we all know the power of compounding effect, if you put your money in the bank, and every month, they give you compounding interests here in America, after 20 years, you'll have an extra 20 bucks.

But you know, the compounding in its truest form says it increases, and then we multiply your increase, right. And every time we do it, we multiply the increase. So a 10%. Compounding is different than a 10% increase each month. If you put $100 in the bank, and you get a 10% increase on your investment, that means the first month you have $110, your second month, you have $120. But with compounding, you have $100, then you have $110, then you have $121, then you have $123 or $33. So it starts to compound and grow. And I says, Well, if that's true, how many other areas in our life is this applicable? Because I've seen some crossover. And one example of a compounding interest and how we grow physically in our bodies is I had I had a good friend. He was about nine inches shorter than me. And he came in at about 370 pounds. And he says, Man, I gotta I gotta do something, I gotta get stronger. I got to lose some weight. And I said, well just start with a pushup. You push up, he said, I can barely get up. And I said, Well, I didn't say get on the floor. I says just every day after you get up, stand in your doorway, turn sideways, put your hand on the door, will lower yourself down and push yourself back up. I said, just do that once a day. He's uh, that's it. What good is that gonna do? I says do it for 10 days, and you tell me. I wasn't trying to help him get stronger or lose weight. I was trying to teach him the power of creating a positive habit of making the effort. Six days later, he calls me up. He's all excited. You think he was a kid that just found the secret key to Charlie Willy Wonka's chocolate factory. He was like, Yeah, dude, I gotta share this with you. And I'm like, What's up? He's like, Dude, you wouldn't believe it? Like, what? Because I did, too. And you did what to? Like, I'm like, What are you talking to me? Like, No, I did two push ups. Within a month, he had done six push ups on the wall. Now a lot of people are probably not really grasping this. But when you can barely move on your own strength. And you're able to do a specific exercise six times in a row, which is something you've never done before. This is huge for him. It was such a massive change in his life. How did you know that was going to happen? And I just smiled and I looked at my sister and I didn't. I says I can never guarantee someone else's outcome. I can just guarantee that I can give you a tool. And it says And that's the tool that I used to run 20 miles. He goes, Well, how'd you do? 20 miles. I says I got up in the morning. I ran as far as I could. And then I collapsed in the ditch. He goes, you went 20 miles and collapsed. I was like, No, I went about an eighth of a mile. Because I hadn't run for years. This isn't the next morning I got up and I ran as far as I could. And I did that every day, day after day after day. And one day I had made it up to about 14 miles and I got up and I told myself I says I will not hit the ditch. Because what happened nice is I finished 20 miles that day. Is it how long you've been doing that? I suppose I ran 20 miles that day. That was it. Now I run when I want to run because I showed myself that I can. But that all came with that compounding. I wasn't starting from square one. You'd never start at square one. Once you've taken a step you can never go back to not having that step and I was like awesome. That's a principle. I applied it in my health. I applied it my fitness my mental wealth. My in mental health, my mental and mental wealth, yeah,

rain is an asset after all.

Yes, absolutely. And everything that I started to apply this to, I started to see this massive growth and this curve wasn't an angle, it was a root. All sudden, it would just start to take it up, like all of a sudden, you'd hit a certain point, you're like, Dude, this is easy. Now I can just make it happen. And that was exciting to me. And then somebody introduced me to the Pareto Principle, which is the 8010, or the 8020, the 9010, the 99. One, you know, everybody wants to create their own thing to make it new. And really is Pareto principle was never about a percent and 20%. He says, there's a disparity a difference in percentage versus outcome. That's it, right. And as he studied, he found that this disparity, this formula was that there is a very small portion of producers who controlled the majority of an outcome. And then he started to study deeper, and then other people jumped on the bandwagon and said, How many other areas does this work in and about, there was an insurance company, they went from the individual locations all the way to the top of this entire nationwide Corporation here in America. And they took the top 20% of the earners. And they found out that the top 20% of each of these individual pods, right, created about 80% of the revenue that was coming in, right, so they took that top 20%. And they did the math, and they found that the top 20% of those people control 80% of the income that was brought in as a whole. And they did this all the way up till they only had 20 people. They had zeroed it down that far. And out of the 20 people that were at the very top of the top of the top of the top. Only chortle brought home 96% Of all the revenue generated. Wow. And when you start applying this, and you're saying, You know what, if a very small portion of my activities are responsible for 80% of the outcome, and I focus on the 20% of the lowest quality activity 80% of the results in my life will be negative. It's not focused on the top 20 And get 80%. It's like what 20% Are you focused on? Because that will control what is the 80% of results that you experience. So I learned through this, it's like, you know, I don't want to focus on the first 20%. And when I get done, go on to the next. And this is I'm going to focus on that first 20%. And then I'm going to do that first 20% Again, and again and again, until the day is over. Well, that worked for a while until I realized that if I just do the the one thing. If today I could accomplish only one thing. And it would make the greatest advance in my business. What one thing must I do today, and absolutely nothing else existed until that point. And I found that I could do it within the first three to four hours of my day. And then I figured out how to get it done in the first two hours of my day. Now, I usually have a full eight hour workday done before most people get up and start. I have the whole day to choose to do whatever I want to do, whether it be working with clients, whether it be like today, I just took five hours off and we went, we went grocery shopping. No, just got to go hang out with the kids and play in the little cart and throw stuff in and just spend time with my family because I realized instead of spending eight hours, I could spend a couple hours in the morning, do the thing that's going to move the needle the most of my business and then do what's really important, which is love my children in a way that I never felt loved myself, right? Because I have to change their story. See, the beauty of story is when we tell a story, and our story becomes their story, that our lessons become their lessons, our beliefs become their beliefs. So if I just redo the story that I live, my children will be me. But if I change the story, I changed our outcome. And that's the power that we have, especially as parents and I never leave that out because that's huge.

Yeah, absolutely.

And then I started to realize that everything I was doing, it affected other people. And I started thinking about a ripple because I'm a water guy. I love being in the water. I love camping. I love hiking, boating, and I realized if I take a rock and I throw it in a pool it's different than if I Take the rock and throw it in the bank of a creek, or throw it at the bank, it's going to make a dent, it's going to make a deep impact, it's going to make a difference for about 15 minutes in the water is going to shift and it's just going to go away. But on the other hand, if I take a rock and I throw it in the middle of the pool, that one walk that ripple, that wave will touch every grain of sand on the bank, all the way around the entire pond. And I thought, wow, that's our life, because we're in a pool of human beings. Everything that I say has a direct impact on everyone around me. And that will not be unchanged, you can not come in contact with me and walk away unchanged, because I will be a stimulus in your life. You know, that was my decision, I will be an impact maker I will change lives for the better. I will give people the tools and the resources and the perspective, I will help them change their story. And as a result, I realized it is simple concept. I call it the one to a million. And this one to a million literally means before I die, I will talk to 1000 people that I have not yet met. And there's a good chance that every single one of them will talk to 1000 people before they die. And that means that every single conversation that I have, I will be impacting at least 1 million lives with every single conversation. It made me become extremely intentional about what I chose to say, where I chose to show up what podcast I chose to say yes to which ones I say no to. Because I know every decision I make every word I say is going to impact millions of people. Because I'm going to teach my kids how to move forward and they're going to carry those same messages. They're just going to do it more powerfully than I did. Because they're going to learn what I learned throughout my life at the beginning of theirs.

Right? They get it all that much younger. Yeah, yeah.

So that aspect is what I taught. So many people over and over again is a, you know, know your start point, know your end game, plan a route, make sure you have the right tools, and then be consistent, consistently show up, consistently apply the effort in all areas of your life. And you'll find that that compounds over and over again, it is that compounds, it intensifies. And that intensifies the ripple, you'll realize that you're no longer a ripple maker, you're the one who makes waves and rides it into oblivion. Because it's you create something that other people can actually just hijack and join you in. And then you do that powerfully in a positive way. And I started doing that in my life. And I've helped people out of addiction, you know, working with people coming out of addiction. And we do that through through paddles, I guess we're on a podcast. So showing them what what help. But we used to take old reclaimed lumber, and we would make paddles. And we sold the paddles, they were decorative paddles all the way up to I've got an eight foot over here. But we would show them at the beginning we were like, you know, people say this is an old dead throwing up piece of wood. And we want to get rid of it. Because they say it has no value. But you know, with with a pattern, you know framework. And I'd sit here and I'd be drawn up that stencil on there, right, there's a little bit of work trimming away the things that don't need to be there. That'd be cutting off the excess, a little bit of shape and a little bit here. And over the course of about seven minutes, I talk them through this process of me making these little panels. And I don't know, I don't have a short one next to me. We make these paddles. And by the time we got to the end, we'd have this freshly dipped in lacquered paddle hanging up. That was just a beautiful work of art. And they're like, oh my gosh, wow, that's that's beautiful. I can't believe you did it that fast. And I said, Well, I've done 1000s of them. I know the pattern. I know the process. It says but here's the beautiful thing. If I have the pattern, if I have the process, if I have the tools, if I have somebody standing next to me with the knowledge, do you think you could make that paddle in time? And you're like, Well, yeah, absolutely, I suppose but you know, isn't it society who said that you as a drug user, and addict, although you're trying to change your life, they said that you should be locked up thrown away and have no value. I says but with the right framework of somebody who cares about you, who's willing to show you what doesn't need to be there, show you where to focus things to polish things to let go. You too can walk back out into the world with an immense amount of value that people will cherish to welcome into their homes. And not one single person did I ever walked through that process. We're full grown men didn't have the other end men cry because they realize that somebody cared. And then we taught them these principles that that I had in the book, you know, it's like, you know, showing up and being consistent doing the work and how compounds. And of course, when you understand the compounding principle, you're not looking for that quick result, you're knowing that every single thing that you're doing is working towards your goal, your outcome. And so it's not to that point, it makes the weight worth it. Do you understand the value of not being there yet? Exactly. And I used to tell somebody ISIS, compounding interest is like you're compounding effect is like having money in the bank, this is the moment you get to the end, and pull your money out. The value stops growing. So enjoy the process. Because the longer you're in it, the more valuable valuable it will be for you in the long run. And so people weren't quick to try and rush through the program to get to the other end, you get a certificate or something. They're like, Can Can we stay longer? And we'd always tell them, it's like, Hey, if you complete the program, and you maintain being sober and clean, you're always welcome to come back here and help us mentor others through the program. And they're like he, you trust me to do that? Because I Why wouldn't I? You're not the same person that walked into this program? Why would I treat you like the same person? And again, water works, you know, right. But where there was the change that happened. And I started to do this over and over through life, and I realized that our resources are inside of us. And I'm not saying everybody has everything they need to succeed. They don't. We have to learn. Yes, but we have everything inside of us to learn that information. Right. As Brian Tracy said, he says, if it's knowable, it's learnable. If is learnable, it's doable. And if it's doable for you, it's doable for me.

And I live by that principle, there's nothing that's unattainable for anybody, unless they choose to not take action on it. And that was probably my biggest takeaway for people is, if you want, if you want something in your life, write it down and be clear. If you want to have more peace in your life, write it down. Because you'll never find joy and success until you find peace. Write down what that looks like. Right? Where the end goal is exactly what it looks like. What does it feel like? What does it smell like? Tastes like everything. And then write down exactly where you are right now. What does it feel like smell like tastes like everything. That's it cool. Now, create a map, what things must happen to get to that next point? And the easiest thing is not to say I'm here and I need to go there. what path do I need to take? The easiest way to do it is say, and I need to go there who lives there? And then go ask them, what got you to here? What was the last thing that you had to overcome to be in this position today? And they'll tell you the last obstacle that they had to overcome, because they like sharing that that victory story? Oh, man, that's awesome. So really had to be a better communicator. So what was keeping you from being a better communicator? And how did you overcome that, and you start walking that process backwards, guaranteed, every time you always end with you. Eventually, somebody will hit that point and say, This is where you are, this is where I was. And you say, Can you help me get over that? Now you've got a perfect path that will get you right to where you'll be based on a proven experience by people who have already overcome those obstacles. It's impossible to not succeeding that if you continue to move forward, and continue to rely on those who've gone before you. And I would probably encourage everybody just to say, spend the time. People want the solution, but they never want to identify the situation first. Spend the time true.

It's so too everyone's in such a rush. Yeah.

You've got the rest of your life. Yeah, take your time. Yeah. Because success is in the pursuit, the attainment.

It's yeah, it's all about the journey. And then also, celebrating every step of the way, as well. Right, not just leaving the celebration to the very end where you think you're getting to that goal that you think you want, because I guarantee the goal that you have started the journey isn't going to stay the same. No change as you go, right. So if your celebration is only around that original goal, you may never get there so you never get to celebrate Well, that's pretty demotivating. Right? Celebrate the little steps along the way. And you're focused on that. Then it's that's hugely motivating because who doesn't love a celebration? Right now?

I think you need to celebrate it like you celebrate your birthday. Nobody is in a hurry to be dead. Yes, nobody likes their birthday because it makes them feel old. But everybody wants to celebrate it every attainment happens, like celebrate the steps along the way and stop focusing on the end. Know the end. Yes, like that the stoics would say I'm, I'm a, I'm a fatty. It's just literally to love your fate, love the mortality that you have. Because when you accept and understand that someday your body will stop functioning, you start to value and celebrate every day that you have. A lot of people say that's such a dark statement, you know, love your mortality. And it's like no, to love your mortality is to understand the value of our life.

I agree. 100%

I'm far from stoic. I'm more of a comedian with a great perspective. But But I understand those things. I've seen a lot of death in my time, whether it be from the military's time that I was over the road, you know, I've seen death paths I've, I've held my own child and my arms, as they, you know, don't for life. It changes. But it changes our perspective on things to when situations happen, it can crush you, or it can empower you. I wrote a book that will never be published. It's called his death, my rally call. When my son died at 10 months of age, I realized that he had done more to accomplish my life's work than I had my entire life. And he did it in 10 months, right? And I was like, It's time to wake up and be impactful in the world. And never a day goes by that I don't say, Okay, I have a purpose and a mission today. I will reach x amount of people today, where I won't go to bed. My son was able to do it, and he was 10 months. I can do it. And it's setting those standards for yourself. And I'm not going to tell everybody my number. My number is probably insane to most people. To me, it's lunch, and then I'm done. But it's a matter of just learning what's important to you setting a plan, putting it in action, and then not giving up make that decision cut off all other options. Yes, Bernal, right. Yeah, yeah, there's, there's not this oh, well, I've got a backup plan. Okay, so that's your first pick. But you just don't want to tell anybody. That's a backup plan. That's your first pick. You just know, nobody will agree with it. So you make this alternate plan that you're really not going to do because you have your backup plan. But it sounds better, and therefore you'll feel accepted. So just make a plan, stick to it and move. And if something doesn't go right is the issue about a backup plan, no shift, readjust and keep going. That's a decision. So there's difference between a decision and a desire. Desire says I want a decision says it's mine, I'm gonna go get it. That's what will change everything when you're moving forward in your life is that decision to take that action. And when you do that, life will change. Be careful, it will change be prepared for it.

I love all that you've shared here today. And it's you're such a great speaker and such a great storyteller that I've literally let you just go and share. And it's been wonderful. And such a beautiful wrap up to the three podcasts on this theme that have come before you because I know you haven't heard them yet. And yet, you just tied it all together so beautifully. So thank you, thank you for that. And just all the wisdom that has come through your life experiences through the stories from your grandpa, you know, teaching you and then how you've brought that together in the book on being better. And you know, some of which you've shared here today, most of which you've shared here today. In such an easy way for people to understand.

And the key to complexity is simplicity, be exactly every complex problem in your life as a very simple solution. Just break it down.

Exactly. And so I know that you were also very generous in sharing this book as well. So I would love for you to share how people can get ahold of that. We'll put that in the show notes too. And I do recommend people read it, but not only read it to actually take action because at the end of each chapter or even in some chapters partway through, you ask people to stop the recording, because it's an audio book or an ebook, right to stop and do what you've asked them to do. And then come back and keep going. And what you get out of the book and the value of the book is only going to be as good as you following those steps.

There's there's a simple loop and I think everybody could visualize this just for a second and imagine a circle with Three points on it, and it goes clockwise. And the first one says action action, the more we do something, the more will become competent. Competency will rise when we take action. And when we have more competency, we'll gain more confidence. And the more confident we come, the more likely we are to continue to take more action. This is the competency competency loop. Right. And so that's why I always want to tell people start with action, the smallest action, do one pushup talking to one person for 20 seconds today, smile and start a conversation with the person into register. But it's always about taking one piece of consistent action, and it will actually make you want to do more. Yes.

Exactly. And I 100% agree with that we often will hear you know, start before you're ready. Right. And that's, that's really what you're saying there is take that action, you don't have to wait to be competent. First. Take the action. First. The action brings the competence, the competence brings the confidence. And you're in that positive cycle. Yeah. So yeah, please share how people can get hold of the book, and how they might get ahold of you. If they want to work with you in any way, shape, or form, whether it's through your story framework, your coaching, etc, etc. How can people get ahold of me,

I feel I'm a little bit different than a lot of coaches, I'm extremely accessible and extremely picky. To work with me, there's two qualifications in this order, I have to like you.

Fair enough.

I don't like you, I don't want to spend time with you. And I spend a lot of time with the people I work with. And the secondly is I have to believe without a doubt that I can get you to help you or equip you, for you to get the results that you need. Those things two things line up, then we can talk about coaching. But I tell people, everybody, the easiest way is Chad netland.com not going to send you to a website, not going to make you watch a video, I'm not going to make you sign up for my email list yet. Yet, it's real simple. Go to Calendly book a call. Because if you're interested in getting to know me, I will give you at least 15 minutes to half an hour of my time. And we will just talk and we'll find out if I can serve you. Maybe you could serve me I don't know, I'm smart enough to know I still need help in a lot of areas. That's the greatest thing I learned is the most brilliant minds in the world realize they don't know everything. And I thought, Well, if that's the case, I must be brilliant. Because there's a lot I don't write, and I really act with me or get a job, right? Because if you want to know anything about me, or what it is that I do, just book a call with me and talk to me. I'm a very approachable person, I will make you laugh, I might make you cry, I guarantee will change your life.

Absolutely. And you just today, you've changed people's lives just through this podcast, as you said, reaching out to 1000 who speak to 1000. And you're absolutely right in terms of you can't possibly know everything. And this is always a journey, which is why I wanted to focus on this theme this month. And it's been part of the learning that I've had on my journey because there was a time where I felt I would get to an endpoint in my learning. And then I realized no, there was never an endpoint, there's always something more, right. And that's what makes it interesting. And that's what brings amazing people into your life as you continue on this journey and surround yourself with people that are on the same journey. So thank you so so much for your time today, your wisdom, your sharing, and the shownotes have the list, the link to get the book so people can go ahead and download that there. And then I always ask two questions of my guests before I wrap the show. And so the first one is What does don't wait for your wakeup call mean to you.

I thought about a lot about that because you mentioned you were going to ask that. And really, I think about my son Jonathan, when he passed away and writing that book, his death my really call. That was my wake up call. And I look back and I said if if I understood that I understood that 15 years prior how much more of an impact could I have made? How many more lives could I have saved Saved working with the homeless, only people that I pulled pulled out of the ditch and put them back in a home again. How could it? How would my life look different for my wife and my children now? And that is pretty good now. But what what would it look like different I mean, who knows we might be in another country doing the same thing, but served a whole different nation at this point. Not waiting, is going to be the greatest investment of your life. Just do it now. Not equipped, do it now. I learned a long time ago, if you start, the resources will show up. The resources will show up. And if we had another two hours, I could tell you an amazing journey that show that part. But do it now. What it means to not wait means you're not wasting the opportunity that you have. Every moment that you're not living your life to the fullest. It's you taking the best and greatest potential of your life and flushing it down the toilet. Because they'll never get back. So true. So I listen to commodity. It's a measuring stick. And you can't go backwards.

Well said, and that ties back into your action, and then competence, do it. Now take the action, you don't have to be ready, but recognize your value and who you are what you have to offer, and just get started. So thank you very profound love, love, love it. And my last question is simply Is there any other message that you would like to leave the audience with to motivate them to, as we've just said, to get started today, step into their purpose.

I want to tell you, like I normally sign off. Remember that there is beauty. There is grace. And there is greatness within you today. Now go on leash it into the world. They're waiting.

Thank you. I love that. Very, very profound. So thank you so much for gifting us with your time, your wisdom, your brilliance, Chad, this has been super fun interview. And I really appreciate you making the time for this and for the audience. And thank you to all of my listeners for joining us here today and share this episode with anybody that you think may benefit from it. And quite frankly, I think that means everyone. So get out there and share it. Remember, have 1000 conversations, send it out there into the world, create that ripple effect. And have a wonderful rest of your day, wherever you are, whatever you're doing, and just get started. Thank you