In this episode, Lisa Brewer, Doctor of Metaphysics & Divinity, CEO for Heart of Inspiration, shares her brilliance in stepping out of our 3D world, and stepping into a world of energies, that we can’t see, feel, taste, touch smell, but allow us to be in flow by surrendering into our purpose, letting go of control and in doing so finding more joy and happiness in our daily lives. She shares how she discovered her purpose, and in realizing that, how she started doing things differently. She started choosing to prioritize her health, and her health improved, she started choosing to wake up joyful and happy each day and her days were joyful and happy. We get to do the things we want to do, we get to be the things we want to be, it all comes down to choice. If you are struggling with this in your life, reach out to Lisa for inspiration to change you and the life you are living, because you can! She has, and now she helps others do exactly that and you can too!
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Melissa Deally:Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call podcast. I
Melissa Deally:am Melissa Delia, your host and very excited to bring to you
Melissa Deally:today. A new friend of mine, Lisa Brewer. Welcome, Lisa.
Lisa Brewer:Well, thank you for having me what Thank you for
Lisa Brewer:having me. I'm super excited about this.
Melissa Deally:Me too. It's so perfect that I've recently met
Melissa Deally:you and your work is in the field of inspiration and this
Melissa Deally:month is my focus is on inspiration. And it just turns
Melissa Deally:out that April has five Saturdays, and I needed an extra
Melissa Deally:show. And you popped into my life. How amazing is that? So I
Melissa Deally:just want to introduce you to the audience. Lisa is a doctor
Melissa Deally:of metaphysics and divinity CEO of heart and heart of
Melissa Deally:inspiration and founder of the practical lightworker program
Melissa Deally:and YouTube creator of her channel heart of inspiration.
Melissa Deally:Lisa teaches Lightworkers that making a difference can be
Melissa Deally:rewarding both empathically as well as financially. I love
Melissa Deally:that. So yes, you popped into my life for a reason. And you were
Melissa Deally:gonna say something a moment ago about that. So I'm gonna let you
Melissa Deally:share that and share your story. How did you come to be a doctor
Melissa Deally:of metaphysics and focusing on inspiration in the way that you
Melissa Deally:do?
Unknown:Yeah, thank you, I was just going to say that the
Unknown:universe always conspires, right and make sure that we get to
Unknown:meet the wonderful beings that were meant to at the absolute
Unknown:right time, you know, if you practice being in that flow, and
Unknown:that's a huge part of my story is being in the flow, right? So
Melissa Deally:I'm very definitely working on practicing
Melissa Deally:now and surrendering into and I love it when I do when I
Melissa Deally:surrender into it, the answers come the resources show up the
Melissa Deally:people are there.
Unknown:And yes, and, and it's interesting, because at first
Unknown:when we do surrender to the flow, so we could just let's
Unknown:just go here, when we surrender to the flow, what happens at
Unknown:first is, we naturally feel a little bit nervous, right?
Unknown:Because we are kind of our third dimensional selves, our third
Unknown:dimensional brain and ego is kind of is releasing
Unknown:relinquishing control to an energetic, whatever soup if you
Unknown:will, that it can't see taste, touch or feel or hear, right.
Unknown:And so when we do that, we don't really recognize that we're
Unknown:actually surrendering ourselves not to some external force, but
Unknown:to ourselves, we're actually just kind of allowing our spirit
Unknown:or our Higher Self that is eternal, has been here from the
Unknown:beginning of time to be here to the end, because you can't, you
Unknown:know, you can't destroy or create energy. And so that
Unknown:energetic essence is what's having a human experience. So
Unknown:really, it's our own humanity that's having this experience
Unknown:that we just kind of say, Okay, I'm not going to actually
Unknown:control everything. I'm gonna allow the eternal energy,
Unknown:wisdom, love, light, beauty, all of those things. What's of my
Unknown:highest good to actually move me into the right direction. So
Unknown:scary at first because you're like, Well, I don't know where
Unknown:that's coming from. I've got to make it right. I've got to like,
Unknown:get in here and do or something.
Melissa Deally:Especially if you have all that dialogue of
Melissa Deally:doo doo doo and you got to work hard for success and all of you
Melissa Deally:know I have a lot of that going on. And I'll admit, I'm a little
Melissa Deally:bit of a control freak. And so, you know, learning to let go is
Melissa Deally:you're right. It's scary. And it's hard. Yes. But it's
Melissa Deally:rewarding to.
Unknown:Absolutely. And in letting go, what the coolest
Unknown:thing is, is I've recognized as I actually gain more control.
Unknown:And let me explain that to you. So, because I don't feel on a
Unknown:consistent basis that I have to make things happen, right,
Unknown:because I was told the same things that you were told. And
Unknown:you know, and it's been Mike growing up, right, it was
Unknown:always, for me, being a melanated woman, young woman at
Unknown:the time child, that I had to work twice as hard to get half
Unknown:as much. So you know, because I had all these strikes against
Unknown:me, I'm female, I'm a melanin in my skin, right? You know, all
Unknown:these things. These are strikes, and heaven forbid, actually had
Unknown:children, I didn't stay married to the person I had children
Unknown:with when I'm single parent strikes, right? didn't finish
Unknown:college. Because, you know, the original College, Northwestern
Unknown:University, studying about chemistry didn't finish that,
Unknown:because I got pregnant my senior year and ran out of financial
Unknown:aid all at the same time, strike, there's all these things
Unknown:that I was told that I should not be able to ever have been
Unknown:successful in corporate America, be a minister, and ordained
Unknown:minister in the nondenominational church go all
Unknown:around the country raised three kids climb the corporate ladder,
Unknown:you know, but I also though, had all of these entrepreneurs had
Unknown:these entrepreneurial failures, I started to gain a ton of
Unknown:weight, I started to not eat very healthy, didn't have very
Unknown:healthy habits, no time for exercise, no time to eat good,
Unknown:no time to do this. No time to do that. And then my body, you
Unknown:know, develop high blood pressure, diet, pre diabetic,
Unknown:like all of these other things, and that even of itself, even
Unknown:gaining the weight, then there's a strike against you in
Unknown:corporate America, right? Because you're not a certain
Unknown:size, right there. Are there all of these biases that exist?
Melissa Deally:And how many people listening are relating to
Melissa Deally:this right now? Right? It's not like you're the only one and yet
Melissa Deally:it is a strike against, you know, all of these things are
Melissa Deally:strikes against so many people. And the reality is, is that some
Melissa Deally:of those strikes trigger, you know, the responses, and the
Melissa Deally:actions taken by you, which lead to the next strike and the next
Melissa Deally:strike. Right, in this messed up judgemental world that we live
Melissa Deally:in. Yeah, yeah. Which is still a wonderful world. But we, you
Melissa Deally:know, when we come from that place of love, and curiosity and
Melissa Deally:inspiration, as opposed to judgment, that's when it can be
Melissa Deally:a wonderful work.
Unknown:Absolutely. But you have to do that for yourself
Unknown:first before you can do with anybody else. Yeah, that was the
Unknown:thing that I that if I was kind of like, the theme, right? Is at
Unknown:some point, I had to learn how to have compassion for myself
Unknown:first, I had a ton of compassion for everybody else. A ton gave
Unknown:gave gave gave gave to corporations, to people to
Unknown:children as to that all that. But I didn't have any compassion
Unknown:for me. Right. So all the stress I was putting myself under some
Unknown:of it was like, normal, okay, we got to put food on the table,
Unknown:keep a roof over our head, you know, being a single parent.
Unknown:Yeah, okay, I get that. But really, it because I didn't
Unknown:truly love myself. And I didn't have a good passion on myself,
Unknown:that showed itself in over eating and making bad choices
Unknown:not doing these things. Because on all honesty, I didn't feel
Unknown:like I deserved any of that. I didn't deserve to have this
Unknown:life, whatever this life was, the body then was experiencing
Unknown:all of that. And when we put ourselves under so much stress,
Unknown:you know, we're going to hang on to write the visceral fats and
Unknown:we're going to, you know, we're gonna go to the comfort that
Unknown:quote unquote, comfort foods, you know, before we choose to
Unknown:eat in a healthy manner, because our brain hasn't like kind of
Unknown:turned all the rest of that garbage off and said, You know
Unknown:what a salad can kind of be a comfort food, like, actually now
Unknown:I'm like, Oh, let me just go make a salad. That feels real
Unknown:good right now, but I just switched my whole thing rather
Unknown:than that piece of chocolate cake to. Oh, that sounds pretty
Unknown:good. You know what I'm saying? And just become that
Unknown:compassionate person oneself and really feel like I deserved to
Unknown:live?
Melissa Deally:Yeah, yeah. So there's a lot of personal growth
Melissa Deally:in there a lot of mindset shifts that are happening through that
Melissa Deally:process as well as even potentially tapping into the
Melissa Deally:unconscious mind to release some of what has been deeply stored
Melissa Deally:in there from those formative years of zero to seven.
Unknown:And that then has been put upon and put upon letting
Unknown:you know when I think of the layers of the programming that
Unknown:we receive, not just from zero to seven, but from seven to 70
Unknown:and 70 into whatever right. It's so multilayer it's just line
Unknown:upon line, precept upon precept, that we have to make that some
Unknown:point we make a conscious decision. Hopefully, to say,
Unknown:this does not need to be this way, I do not need to live my
Unknown:life this way. And a lot of times what will happen is, you
Unknown:know, some people will go on a weight loss journey or a health,
Unknown:a healthy living journey, and not even realize that the true
Unknown:journey is the spiritual journey that is happening, right? That's
Unknown:where you get to the core of everything is by going through
Unknown:the spiritual journey. In our world, we will call it the dark
Unknown:night of the soul, right? We go through this, like, oh my god,
Unknown:right. But we've got to do that to root out all of these
Unknown:programs and the energies and emotions. And the guilt that we
Unknown:hold on to that doesn't belong to us. The shame, that doesn't
Unknown:belong to us. I mean, women we were that we imagined men to
Unknown:write, we were that around our belly, I learned that belly fat
Unknown:was because I was holding on to I was holding on to like this
Unknown:guilt and the shame. And this was a protection device. So
Unknown:people wouldn't come close, right? That's like, that's
Unknown:crazy. To me, it was absolute craziness to me. But it's so
Unknown:true. is so true. And then as I began to be willing to shed that
Unknown:protection, get into the flow, it's kind of all goes back,
Unknown:right? Get into the flow and release the need to control
Unknown:because the more I try to control every person and every
Unknown:energy, and every ounce of my life, the more out of control,
Unknown:freaking god, I did not get the results I wanted, right, because
Unknown:I was actually pushing away the very thing that I wanted, which
Unknown:was just to live in peace and love and harmony and neutrality
Unknown:itself. So it started moving in slow, and I'm like, okay, then
Unknown:the little things happen. I was listening to one of your
Unknown:podcasts, and you were talking about admiring the sunrise and
Unknown:how we would never use your wake, right for the sunrise. I'm
Unknown:listening to you describe, sitting on that dock, right? And
Unknown:watching the sun come up, what a beautiful and amazing moment in
Unknown:time, and what a beautiful energy to make yourself a part
Unknown:of him to be in concert with, without having to think about
Unknown:anything else. Just gonna watch the sunrise and the dawn of a
Unknown:new day, that now I get to do all these new wonderful things.
Unknown:It's a new adventure, but you put yourself in that flow in
Unknown:that adventure, and didn't worry about what else was going to
Unknown:happen for the rest of the day. I thought was that just to like,
Unknown:wake up and not and enjoy this? To start my day? How
Unknown:inspirational is that? You kidding me? Just doing those
Unknown:things, then open things open so much more up for us.
Melissa Deally:Yeah. Yeah. And you're right. And that that was
Melissa Deally:an amazing experience. And I'm grateful to my daughter for kind
Melissa Deally:of bully me into being willing to get up early enough to
Melissa Deally:experience because it was pretty early. We didn't want to miss
Melissa Deally:any of the sunrise. So we had to get up when it was still pitch
Melissa Deally:black right so that we could then see those light colors
Melissa Deally:start to come across the sky. And and it is it's it's the dawn
Melissa Deally:of a new day where it doesn't matter what's happened before?
Melissa Deally:No, this is a clean slate. We can start fresh. Yes. And it
Melissa Deally:happens every 24 hours. And Mother Nature is always there
Melissa Deally:doing its thing, despite what we as humanity are doing, right. I
Melissa Deally:mean, we only have to look at the last two years and the
Melissa Deally:craziness in the world from the perspective of what we humans
Melissa Deally:have had to deal with. But everything in nature has
Melissa Deally:remained unchanged. Although they've had The benefits of us
Melissa Deally:slowing down a little bit in the world getting a little bit
Melissa Deally:cleaner. Absolutely. But they just keep doing their thing.
Unknown:Absolutely. And then if you think about that, and
Unknown:internalize it and bring it into the esoteric, right, every day,
Unknown:your son or your solar plexus, every day your son dawns, every
Unknown:day, it dawns. It's a new dawn. So when you allow your son to
Unknown:rise up over the horizon, and you allow your light to be
Unknown:turned on, and your power, then to be emanated from you, every
Unknown:day is a brand new adventure, every single day. So what are
Unknown:you going to do today with today, and not worry about what
Unknown:happened yesterday, because that's dead and gone already. By
Unknown:the time you're any of the listeners right now, by the time
Unknown:you're listening to this, by the time you process, the words that
Unknown:have just exited my mouth. It's that time has already passed.
Unknown:It's already in the past. So we're actually when we say we're
Unknown:being like mindful and present. We're actually living in a
Unknown:perpetual time loop of President past president past, yes, the
Unknown:key is to get out of that time loop and allow the flow of the
Unknown:future, to allow your consciousness to be in the flow
Unknown:of the future. So that it inspires, and it molds and it
Unknown:shapes every moment as you become aware of it in the
Unknown:present. And then alters your past. So that's the place to get
Unknown:to. Yeah, yeah,
Melissa Deally:I love that. And so tell, tell me more tell me,
Melissa Deally:like, how does one get to that or tell me more about the
Melissa Deally:courses that you offer, if that's what gets you there. But
Melissa Deally:I'm just intrigued to know more about the practice of getting to
Melissa Deally:that place.
Unknown:Well, getting to that place is all about learning to
Unknown:live in neutrality and learning to live in your higher self.
Unknown:Some people might be familiar with the hermetic, seven
Unknown:hermetic principles. And, you know, we find these principles
Unknown:actually in in different religious texts and things of
Unknown:that nature as well. But it's really learning that you are a
Unknown:energetic or spiritual being having a human experience, it's
Unknown:not the other way around. So for me, and every given moment in
Unknown:time, I have surrendered to the flow. So I just know that
Unknown:whatever I am experiencing in this moment, has been ordained,
Unknown:right? And is of my highest good, and that my energetic
Unknown:being, is guiding it in concert with creator with God with
Unknown:source, whatever name you wish to associate, however, the
Unknown:universe or God has revealed itself to you. So that that
Unknown:conversation is always going on. Right? So I talk a lot about
Unknown:that on my YouTube channel, heart of inspiration. And on my
Unknown:Instagram, which is at heart of ANSP. We do a lot. I haven't
Unknown:quite cracked the tic tac code. Maybe I'll get on there for the
Unknown:young folks at some point. But so those two my main two places,
Unknown:right, and my website, we put out a weekly newsletter, we
Unknown:talked about that kind of stuff, harder inspiration, dotnet. But
Unknown:what I do is I help Lightworkers or people that are of light,
Unknown:people that wish to be transformational. Coaches,
Unknown:healers, teachers, mentors, that they want to put their stamp on
Unknown:humanity. Right, right. Yup. This is who I am. And yup, this
Unknown:is why I want to do with my life. And maybe you're wanting
Unknown:to become part of the great resignation and actually be an
Unknown:entrepreneur. Like, like I am, right and, and like many others
Unknown:of us. So I help you do that I happen to step into your
Unknown:purpose, I help you gain the esoteric tools, if that's your
Unknown:what you'd like to do gain esoteric tools to live in your
Unknown:purpose, and then also create an actual business. That's what's
Unknown:called the practical lightworker. So it's not just a
Unknown:hobby, right? It is, who you speak it to what what
Unknown:transformation, like I take you through every bit, every bit of
Unknown:it, so that you can have a solid foundation to have a thriving,
Unknown:create a thriving six figure business. So that's what I do.
Unknown:It's called the practical lightworker. And I'm, go to my
Unknown:website. I'd love to chat with you. It's wonderful. I love it.
Melissa Deally:I love it too. And I think it's such a needed
Melissa Deally:service right now because so many people are really heart
Melissa Deally:centered and they're wanting to give and serve more people, et
Melissa Deally:cetera, et cetera, but they're finding it hard to make money.
Melissa Deally:Look at that, right? Absolutely. And so having people be able to
Melissa Deally:bring the two together. And very often it's, you know, again,
Melissa Deally:coming back to those blocks from our younger years that are
Melissa Deally:getting in the way, right. And I was just doing some tapping this
Melissa Deally:morning on this very subject, right. And because I'm working
Melissa Deally:on it myself for myself, too, and it was just, you know, part
Melissa Deally:of it is that realization that it's, it's okay to make money
Melissa Deally:serving others, because when you make that money, then we'll a
Melissa Deally:it's a sign that you're serving more people, and be you can do
Melissa Deally:more with the money that you're making.
Unknown:Absolutely. Right. And it's not about the money. I
Unknown:think that's what people need to like, we it's an energy
Unknown:exchange. And so this is what I teach as well. And you know,
Unknown:there's a, there's a fabulous transformation that happens in
Unknown:Sox as we work together, and really step into your purpose.
Unknown:Because my mantra is to give permission to your purpose to
Unknown:provide for your person.
Melissa Deally:I like that.
Unknown:And so at some point, I had to get permission, right?
Unknown:And so that's what we did it help others. But when you grow
Unknown:so much, you want to my inner child healing, and you went
Unknown:about that, is that get in there because a lot of that has to
Unknown:surrounds money. I mean, even in, in any religious text you
Unknown:read, anytime the prophet or the teacher came to town, did they
Unknown:just let them come to town and not feed them not clothed them
Unknown:that give them money for their trip on their way? That they did
Unknown:not bring them something as a gift or a token of their
Unknown:appreciation? Of course they did. It's just now the token of
Unknown:our appreciate appreciation rather than a goat or a fine
Unknown:linen, or some some frankincense or myrrh other oil is in the
Unknown:form of money. Yeah, it's no different
Melissa Deally:as you say, it's the exchange. Exactly. It is.
Unknown:Absolutely is. Yeah.
Melissa Deally:So I'd love to go back and have you share a
Melissa Deally:little bit of your story and how you came into this work and how
Melissa Deally:your own spiritual growth has impacted your health and well
Melissa Deally:being.
Unknown:Awesome. So you don't have a long sordid tale here.
Unknown:But what I can tell you is so I'm the mother of a single
Unknown:mother of three wonderful adult children, two daughters, one
Unknown:son, and the grandmother of two beautiful granddaughters. My
Unknown:eldest granddaughter is going to be eight this year. I've been an
Unknown:ordained Christian minister. I've been in corporate America,
Unknown:all these great things and wonderful things, right.
Unknown:However, I lost my father when I was 40 years old. He was only
Unknown:65, almost 66. At the time, he died of a in a diabetic coma. He
Unknown:had battled diabetes, he was adult onset diabetes, he never
Unknown:would eat right Dad never would like he just refused. So he
Unknown:could have actually type one, nipped it in the bud and didn't.
Unknown:And then ended up insulin dependent. And eventually that,
Unknown:you know, that took him and my mother has his Crohn's disease
Unknown:is that Crohn's disease for as long as I can remember. And so I
Unknown:lost that at 40. And then short not too long after that. My son
Unknown:and his girlfriend at the time, were pregnant with my eldest
Unknown:granddaughter, and I was almost 300 pounds. I was severely I
Unknown:really, really bad high blood pressure. And I was pre diabetic
Unknown:high cholesterol. And I was so she'll be so I'm 33. So I was
Unknown:like, 4546. So it's been five years after dad passed. And I
Unknown:realized that if I didn't change, I wasn't going to be
Unknown:able to see my grandma, my granddaughter. Become a woman.
Unknown:Like I didn't know how long I was gonna live. Right? And that
Unknown:shook me into changing my lifestyle. You know, over the
Unknown:years, I've lost probably I'd lost at that point. 85 pounds,
Unknown:probably put a few more pounds back on, you know, her I'm 53.
Unknown:Now, so that's that battles a little tougher. But during that
Unknown:time of weight loss and transformation, and then as when
Unknown:she was born, I realized this, I'm holding her. I'm like, This
Unknown:is my legacy. You know, your children. Yeah, either. But your
Unknown:grandbabies are really your legacy. And I said, I'm going to
Unknown:teach you everything that I wished I had known. Great. Your
Unknown:father was little right. And that really catapulted me into
Unknown:this inner child work. And this inner child discovery and this
Unknown:spiritual discovery outside of whatever religious norms and
Unknown:everything else and to finally get into a place where I
Unknown:actually loved myself. Because yeah, your kids love you. But I
Unknown:don't know if your grandkids but the grandbabies love you in a
Unknown:whole new way. You literally can do no wrong, you are a saint.
Unknown:All sins are forgiven, you are a saint to your grandchildren. And
Unknown:it really teaches you how to love yourself. Unconditionally.
Melissa Deally:Yeah, because that unconditional love is being
Melissa Deally:mirrored right back at you from them. Yes. And probably from
Melissa Deally:your own children when they're really, really little. But at
Melissa Deally:that point, you're just so busy trying to do everything that you
Melissa Deally:need to be doing to care for them that you're not noticing
Melissa Deally:it, you don't have the same awareness of it as you do with
Melissa Deally:your grandchild where now you've, you know, got some time
Melissa Deally:and you're not having to care for them. 24/7. And it just
Melissa Deally:shows up and mirrors right back at you.
Unknown:Because it's beautiful.
Melissa Deally:It is beautiful. And I really love what's so
Melissa Deally:beautiful is to is that in, you know, she's teaching you as much
Melissa Deally:as you're teaching her.
Unknown:Absolutely. And yes, and she's teaching me reminding
Unknown:me how to be young again. Yeah, the other thing I've found out
Unknown:through this spirituality, this like journey, and really get
Unknown:into this quantum living and just living in a space of
Unknown:neutrality without stress and strain. And all this stuff is I
Unknown:feel like I'm turning back the clock. In other words, I'm
Unknown:living a healthier lifestyle. Why? Because I want to take care
Unknown:of my body a little bit more. And I want to put less of
Unknown:certain things and energies into my being. Because you know, I
Unknown:want to remain in tune with the universe at all times and my
Unknown:higher self. And then what happens is, you get younger,
Unknown:it's kind of crazy. But like where I had osteoarthritis and
Unknown:my knees, I don't have that anymore. You eat better for
Unknown:other reasons. And now all of a sudden, all the inflammation has
Unknown:left your body and you're like, Wow, I feel pretty darn good.
Unknown:You have so much more energy. And people on a regular basis
Unknown:are like your house? No, no way. And I'm like, Yeah, and I don't
Unknown:know how it's supposed to feel that I certainly don't feel it.
Unknown:So it is made a huge difference. I mean, I'm no longer pre
Unknown:diabetic, I've perfect cholesterol, we're almost off
Unknown:all of my high blood pressure medications like I might, I am
Unknown:in probably the best house at 53. That I have been in probably
Unknown:three decades, to be honest with you.
Melissa Deally:And I love that. And I particularly love it
Melissa Deally:because that's actually the work that I do with my clients all
Melissa Deally:the time. And it's it's who I am, too, I say that as well. I'm
Melissa Deally:the same age as you are. And I, you know, I feel better than I
Melissa Deally:did 20 years ago, because in the last seven years, as I've moved
Melissa Deally:into my health and wellness journey, I've slowly taken the
Melissa Deally:baby steps to implement all the learning that I've had in how to
Melissa Deally:take better care of my body. And the desire to want to take
Melissa Deally:better care of my body and to recognize that my body is my
Melissa Deally:health, and my body is my greatest asset. And so why am I
Melissa Deally:not prioritizing it as my greatest asset? Right?
Melissa Deally:Absolutely. Instead of taking it for granted and thinking, I
Melissa Deally:don't have to worry about my health, if I get sick, I'll go
Melissa Deally:to the doctor, they'll make me better. It's not their job to
Melissa Deally:make me better. It's my job to look after this asset. Just like
Melissa Deally:I buy a house I look after the house, I take the garbage out
Melissa Deally:and I do the vacuuming and the sweeping and I you know, fix
Melissa Deally:things when they're broken. And I renovate when I need to or my
Melissa Deally:car, you know, I clean that I take it for oil changes, et
Melissa Deally:cetera, et cetera. Yeah. So when we align and we respect our
Melissa Deally:health in the same way and treat it as an assets, like our other
Melissa Deally:big assets in our life, our body is incredible, because it is
Melissa Deally:designed to self heal. And it when we create the environment
Melissa Deally:for it to heal, that's exactly what it will do. So
Melissa Deally:congratulations to you for being able to get you know, bring your
Melissa Deally:cholesterol levels down to being normal and almost off your high
Melissa Deally:blood pressure medications and you're you're gone away, et
Melissa Deally:cetera, et cetera. So amazing. It's truly amazing. Thank you
Melissa Deally:what the body can do when we step into that. So how did you
Melissa Deally:find the inspiration yourself to step into your purpose? It's
Melissa Deally:your granddaughter's part of it. Is there more to it than that or
Melissa Deally:that was she was really that was the answer. ration.
Unknown:I think the next biggest thing was when my second
Unknown:marriage broke up near I thought I had the life perfect life in
Unknown:my late 40s, right. And then my second marriage, completely
Unknown:exploited and imploded. And all in the same 30 days, to break
Unknown:up, move him out. And then I was downsized from my corporate job
Unknown:at the time because I stood up for someone in my organization
Unknown:that was being bullied. And so all of a sudden, in 30 days, my
Unknown:perfect life was in shambles. And I couldn't find solace in
Unknown:anything that I had ever found it in before it was all fake and
Unknown:phony to me. And finally, as I finally said, Well, what do you
Unknown:want to do lease? What do you want to do with your life. And I
Unknown:didn't even know at first fully what that meant. All I knew is I
Unknown:wanted to help other people find themselves love themselves and
Unknown:not get into toxic relationships over and over in any toxic
Unknown:romantic, or, or career or friendship, or familial. Like, I
Unknown:recognize that there was toxicity that littered my whole
Unknown:landscape. And I kept choosing and kept getting in these
Unknown:situations, the pattern that we keep repeating, yes. And my
Unknown:desire, my need my absolute, like, I've got to get out of
Unknown:this, get off this hamster wheel, right. And live life is
Unknown:what propelled me into starting to find my purpose. And so
Unknown:that's when I started the YouTube channel. And then I
Unknown:started working with women in different ways. And men, some
Unknown:men as well, but that were like going on this path, right? of
Unknown:toxic, toxic, toxic and just like suffering all this stuff,
Unknown:right. And I was I needed to help them out of their trauma.
Unknown:That's how I started. And then it over three years, four years
Unknown:now, it's become my life, and it's become everything that it
Unknown:is now, and I'm really able to be in it. But yeah, take that
Unknown:first step, this is going in flow, take that first step,
Unknown:because you don't know what it's going to evolve to. Mm hmm. And
Unknown:I
Melissa Deally:love that the sharing in that story there
Melissa Deally:because I actually just bought Darren Hardy's journal, living
Melissa Deally:your best year. And I bought it because I'm reading the book,
Melissa Deally:atomic habits. And, you know, I have my to do list books like
Melissa Deally:this one here for those watching on video. But I haven't really
Melissa Deally:sat down and deeply contemplated what I want my year to look
Melissa Deally:like, you know, I kind of just pull it off the top of my head
Melissa Deally:in my rush, rush, rush, go world, right? And I thought, no,
Melissa Deally:I need to sit down and do this. And so I love this book, because
Melissa Deally:it actually takes you through eight steps in designing your
Melissa Deally:year. And one of the things that he said was when he was talking
Melissa Deally:about relationship and family is that your spouse really meet can
Melissa Deally:meet 80% of your needs, right? But we focus on the 20% that
Melissa Deally:they don't meet. And then we might leave that relationship
Melissa Deally:and go to another relationship where initially it might feel
Melissa Deally:better because they're meeting the 20% that weren't being met
Melissa Deally:before, but still only another 60%. So there's still going to
Melissa Deally:be a 20% gap, right? And the reality is, is that it's us that
Melissa Deally:have to change, not the other person. But so often, we spend
Melissa Deally:all of our time and energy focusing on what's wrong and how
Melissa Deally:the other person has to change. Yeah. And we do, and then we're
Melissa Deally:not able to move forward. Because we're not growing, we're
Melissa Deally:blaming, we're not taking responsibility. Absolutely. And
Melissa Deally:so it's just a really interesting way that he put that
Melissa Deally:because I've never seen that stat before if 80%
Unknown:Yeah, I haven't either. It's interesting, though,
Unknown:because I look at relationships a little bit differently. I
Unknown:don't feel that your partner should meet a need of yours at
Unknown:all.
Unknown:No, interesting. Yeah,
Unknown:I feel like relationships should it's really it's not 5050 or
Unknown:8020 or 6040. It's 100 100. And if you can come into it or grow
Unknown:while you're in it. Yeah. To a point where you recognize that
Unknown:what we perceive as a need, typically, I find is an area of
Unknown:unhealed energetic trauma. Right? Right. And so we somehow
Unknown:feel like we need someone to fill that gap when that's really
Unknown:That's really where we're at. To me, this is Lisa. So I come into
Unknown:it, like, let's get you as whole as we can. So that I can present
Unknown:myself then as here. I'm not looking to you to make me happy.
Unknown:I mean, right now, because happiness is my choice. Yes,
Unknown:definitely. Just like happiness is yours. I can't make you be
Unknown:happy. Right? Like that song says, I can't make you love me
Unknown:if you don't, great. I can't make your heartbeat something
Unknown:that it won't. Right. So they can't make you that feel that
Unknown:either. So I come to it in a sense of, I would say for me, if
Unknown:I was going to get at 20 There's probably 80% of stuff that I can
Unknown:like, I'm cool with like, it's no problem. And there's probably
Unknown:that 20% That grades on my last earthly nerve. And I gotta
Unknown:decide whether I'm just gonna like be like, Okay, that's, you
Unknown:know, we got 80 Over here. We're cool. Yeah. But yeah, there's
Unknown:more that we need to do within ourselves. Absolutely, I would
Unknown:rather be wanted than needed.
Melissa Deally:If you're enjoying my content, and someone
Melissa Deally:that wants to step into being proactive in your health and
Melissa Deally:learning more, I would love to invite you to join my membership
Melissa Deally:community, there's a link in the show notes for only 1999 a
Melissa Deally:month, you get access to all of my content. And there's a lot as
Melissa Deally:well as weekly calls that you can come and get your health
Melissa Deally:questions answered. It's truly priceless. I'd love to see you
Melissa Deally:join the community, check out the link in the show notes. Yes,
Melissa Deally:I totally agree with I totally agree with that approach. And
Melissa Deally:what you're saying there as well. And I think there's some
Melissa Deally:form of fusion between the two. And definitely while you've said
Melissa Deally:it there. But really what it comes down to is taking
Melissa Deally:responsibility ourselves, yes, for our own happiness, for our
Melissa Deally:choice as to how we view the world and how we asked who the
Melissa Deally:other people in our world, it's out. There, we choose to focus
Melissa Deally:on the negative or two instead, which could only be 20%, or
Melissa Deally:focus on the 80%. That is super positive.
Unknown:And that's empowering in your entire life of choice
Unknown:chosen to listen to the statistics, and the this and the
Unknown:that and the narrative that the world wants to put out here
Unknown:about me, as a melanated. Woman, I could have chosen that, as a
Unknown:single mother could have chosen that could have chosen to do
Unknown:that for my kids or whatever. But I chose a long time ago not
Unknown:to, and I absolutely, now vehemently refuse to. So when
Unknown:people come to me about certain situations that are happening in
Unknown:the world. I hear it. But that's not my life. I make a conscious
Unknown:decision every moment of every day, that that's not my life.
Unknown:And that's not my experience. Now something comes in that's
Unknown:looks similar to what that other world is I'm now you're not part
Unknown:of my story. So I can approach it from a place of neutrality
Unknown:and power, because you I'm not allowing myself to devolve into
Unknown:the fear. Right. And the control. Yeah, we can choose
Unknown:this life. Yes. And I wish we would more often like this a
Unknown:fabulous way to live.
Melissa Deally:It is a fabulous way to live. And I really I wish
Melissa Deally:this was taught more through our school system. Absolutely.
Melissa Deally:Honestly, you know, I'm stepping into all of this personal growth
Melissa Deally:and learning and figuring out who I am and my purpose and my
Melissa Deally:passion and understanding that yes, this is what I was put here
Melissa Deally:on this earth to do. But in my 40s and 50s. I know, how much
Melissa Deally:nicer would it have been to you know, have been figuring this
Melissa Deally:out when I was 10?
Unknown:Absolutely. But isn't it beautiful that we now get to
Unknown:teach the younger generation that's raising the 10 year old?
Unknown:Exactly. It's why it's okay to let them dream. It really be all
Unknown:right. You know, and let them just explore. Yeah, that's
Unknown:wonderful.
Melissa Deally:And it's okay to have mindfulness in the
Melissa Deally:classroom. And yeah, so beneficial. And, you know, there
Melissa Deally:was a time here where yoga couldn't be taught in our
Melissa Deally:schools because it had religious connotations. And that has now
Melissa Deally:changed, which I'm very grateful for. And at the time I was
Melissa Deally:laying, okay, let's call it stretching. Yeah, right. Right.
Melissa Deally:So we're definitely moving in the right direction. And there's
Melissa Deally:so much more awareness around all of this and so your message
Melissa Deally:is getting out in the message of others, but maybe share with the
Melissa Deally:audience how living in purpose has really helped you overall,
Melissa Deally:move forward.
Unknown:It is renewed not only just my faith in humanity, but
Unknown:most importantly, my faith and self. I wake up every day,
Unknown:knowing that today, I'm going to impact hundreds of people's
Unknown:lives every day. And I'm excited to find a new way to do it. I'm
Unknown:excited to like meet new people, and help them in their purpose.
Unknown:I don't feel like I'm in competition with anyone, because
Unknown:I'm not, I'm living my own purpose. So that has just given
Unknown:me such an energy and such as stability. And you know, my
Unknown:light just shines, because I'm like, like God, because what I
Unknown:get to do today, and then when I see the results from the people
Unknown:that I've worked with, and helped, and all the healers and
Unknown:the teachers, and I mean, I've got like, you know, I've had
Unknown:like, medical, like doctors and nurse practitioners and
Unknown:counselors, all kinds of people come in, like, Hey, could you
Unknown:help me do this? I want to do this in a real, authentic,
Unknown:holistic way. And the impact they're having. So the you don't
Unknown:think that your purpose while maybe it's just to do this isn't
Unknown:isn't? Lisa? Maybe I'm not meant meant to have a huge tribe? I
Unknown:don't know. Maybe you're not. But guess what? The people that
Unknown:you do touch, and that you do impact that has an exponential
Unknown:effect on the entire world,
Melissa Deally:like the domino effect, or the ripple.
Melissa Deally:Absolutely. And you may never know what that is. And yet, it
Melissa Deally:is happening. Yes.
Unknown:Yeah. So that's how it's just giving me I feel like
Unknown:a new lease on life. Like I literally feel like, my son came
Unknown:to me other days like, Mom, they're saying that people are
Unknown:living to 150. I'm like, Yeah, I guess I'll be one of those
Unknown:people.
Melissa Deally:I'll be there with you. I've always said I'm
Melissa Deally:going over 100.
Unknown:Why do we have to die? Anyway, that's a whole nother
Unknown:show.
Melissa Deally:Exactly, exactly. But I love what you've
Melissa Deally:said there and to the audience to have them here that yes, you
Melissa Deally:can wake up every day, excited, and passionate about why you're
Melissa Deally:here, what you're doing, and the ability to help others. And if
Melissa Deally:you're not there yet, then work with someone who can help you
Melissa Deally:get there, because we are given one life. And I heard someone
Melissa Deally:say about I don't know, seven years ago when I really took it
Melissa Deally:to heart that we are placed on this earth to serve others, to
Melissa Deally:find our passion or purpose and to never stop learning. And when
Melissa Deally:we have those three, we truly are fulfilled. And we can wake
Melissa Deally:up and choose to be happy every single day as you do as I do.
Melissa Deally:But for that person who's still, you know, maybe in that place of
Melissa Deally:wondering, what is my purpose? What message do you have for
Melissa Deally:them?
Unknown:It might be counterintuitive to everything
Unknown:else that we've said today, I find that we did we the first
Unknown:inkling of what our purpose is, is what has been the pain that
Unknown:we have come through and overcome and healed. Mm hmm.
Unknown:Right. So the pain of growing up in a household for me, that was
Unknown:filled with domestic violence and all kinds of things, right.
Unknown:And fear and control that began to lead me and then as an adult,
Unknown:having toxic relationships, that began to lead me to my purpose
Unknown:of helping women who've come out of abusive toxic relationships.
Unknown:Right. So and then that just helped. And then and then it
Unknown:just evolved and it just grew. But usually the first step is
Unknown:what's the pain that you yourself have come through, and
Unknown:that you have begun to heal? Right? That's where you can
Unknown:start finding your purpose.
Melissa Deally:And it's so true. And that's how I found
Melissa Deally:mine it it was watching my girls go through their concussions and
Melissa Deally:supporting them through their concussions just after I'd been
Melissa Deally:let go and two concussions at the same time in the same
Melissa Deally:household. Like when does that happen? Right when I got the
Melissa Deally:phone call, two months after the first one about the second one
Melissa Deally:from grade eight gym class. I was literally like, wow, really?
Melissa Deally:This is how you show me my path. Stop taking out my children.
Unknown:Well, hopefully it's not that dramatic.
Melissa Deally:Well, exactly. But again, it was that, you
Melissa Deally:know, it's like what did I go through in through that process?
Melissa Deally:I went through realizing there was a gap in the market in the
Melissa Deally:medical market or model, I should say, of people need to be
Melissa Deally:supported on that healing journey. It's not enough just to
Melissa Deally:go to a practitioner, listen to what they have to say, and then
Melissa Deally:see them in a week or two weeks, especially with concussion,
Melissa Deally:because they didn't have the cognitive ability to come home
Melissa Deally:and tell me what they've been told I was already forgotten. I
Melissa Deally:was going to their appointments with them. So I heard the
Melissa Deally:information, so I could then support them between the
Melissa Deally:appointments and then realizing what other people do. Right? All
Melissa Deally:of that is what led me into my journey to becoming a health
Melissa Deally:coach, and then an integrative health practitioner, etc. As I,
Melissa Deally:you know, watched and went through this with my kids. And
Melissa Deally:that was the learning that I needed to have in order to step
Melissa Deally:into my purpose. Wow, in this world, and my second career, and
Melissa Deally:so yeah, so for anyone listening, what's going on in
Melissa Deally:your world? What are the lessons that you are being taught? What
Melissa Deally:are the challenges that you're facing that you when you come
Melissa Deally:out the other side, you will have the lesson with that 2020
Melissa Deally:vision. And then that is what your purpose is likely going to
Melissa Deally:be as you then share that with others. And help them through
Melissa Deally:what you've just been through? Because you know exactly where
Melissa Deally:they're at. And you know how to guide them through? Absolutely.
Melissa Deally:So yeah, well, thank you so, so much for your time. Today. This
Melissa Deally:has been a really fun interview. And I love to ask all of my
Melissa Deally:guests What does don't wait for your wake up call mean to you.
Unknown:Don't wait for your wake up call means to me hmm.
Unknown:Don't put it don't don't put off because of what your parents or
Unknown:society or the media, social media, whatever, your external
Unknown:world. Do not wait until it's a crisis moment for you have to
Unknown:either live or die, basically, for you to choose. I choose
Unknown:life. Choose life today. You don't have to live it the same
Unknown:way you're living it right now. Choose life today. That's what
Unknown:that means to me.
Melissa Deally:I love that. And so if anybody wants to reach out
Melissa Deally:to you, at what I know, you've mentioned earlier, a couple of
Melissa Deally:your social media sites, but please just let everyone know
Melissa Deally:the best way to reach out to you.
Unknown:Yeah, so probably the best way to reach out to me or
Unknown:to get in contact is to go to heart of inspiration.net. And
Unknown:you can sign up for my free newsletter, which is like chock
Unknown:full of like, blogs and information and tells you I went
Unknown:I'm going to be on YouTube at heart of inspiration. And what's
Unknown:coming up on Instagram and got podcasts. There's a lot going
Unknown:on. Okay, so I got a lot. I'm everywhere, right?
Melissa Deally:And what is one last tip that you would like to
Melissa Deally:leave the audience with so that they can step into their best
Melissa Deally:version of themselves? Starting today, whatever that might look
Melissa Deally:like for them.
Unknown:Yep. So something that I learned from Mel Robbins
Unknown:actually make when you get that thought that inspirational
Unknown:thought that drops in, you have five seconds 54321 Before your
Unknown:mind takes over and says you can't do it. So when you get
Unknown:that inspirational thought, I want you to move. Don't wait.
Unknown:Just move.
Melissa Deally:I love that. I love that wonderful tip. So
Melissa Deally:thank you so so much for joining me here today. Lisa, I really
Melissa Deally:appreciate your time and wishing you and the audience a fabulous
Melissa Deally:week. Thank you to everyone for listening. And we will see you
Melissa Deally:back here next time.
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