Stepping into the new you | DFS 282

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi. And today I want to continue the

conversation from last week with Glenda Elaine, about going from

pressure to pleasure and stepping into the divine

feminine. And for some people, you're gonna go, I totally get

that. I know what that means other people are going wait, how

do I apply that to me. And I want to dive into that a little

bit today. I've titled today's episode, stepping in to the new

you. And this is all with dealing with change. Most of the

time, we don't have to throw out the baby with the bathwater to

change who we are and how we show up. I had someone asked me

one time, what does that mean, throw out the baby with the

bathwater? Well, back in the day, when everybody shared one

big tub of water once a week, once a month, whatever it was,

they would start with the oldest going down to the youngest being

bathed, at least that's my understanding of it. By the time

you got to the baby, the water was dark and dirty. You had

washed the baby. And if the baby slipped out of your hands and

you dumped the bathwater, you could dump the baby with the

bathwater. So that same is don't dump the baby with the bathwater

is let's get rid of what's not working. And let's look at what

is working. Hang on to the baby. That's the good part. Right?

Okay, I hope you're with me, I hope you're following this.

Okay. So you have a good life, things are going well. But you

have this little feeling inside this this little nudge this

little unease and it's like, I want more, I want to do more, I

want to be more, I want to have a bigger impact. Impact is a

huge thing. I was at a conference recently, and a

gentleman said I want to reach I think it was 100 million people.

And I sat there and I thought holy crap, like I can't reach

100 million people, limiting beliefs, right self talk, I

don't know how to do it. Therefore I can't do it. Not

true people I'm just saying. So he went on to explain. If I

provide great value, and I impact one life, then that

person's changed behavior perception attitude is going to

affect say 10 more. And those 10 are all going to affect 10 more

and 10 more intent more until you get to that 100 million

people mark. And I'm not the math person in this equation, if

you've been following me for a while, that's a constant theme.

I'm not the math person in this equation. But what isn't

working, what's keeping you from stepping into the new you. You

don't have to wipe away everything. You don't have to

start with a clean slate. I've often heard people refer to it

as you just have to burn the whole house down and start over.

Well, I'm not really a firm believer of that. But I am a

firm believer in identifying what's not working, and then

finding a way to implement something that is working. So

what is not working for you? This is all about you. It's not

about me, it's all about you. What's not working well for you.

Do you have the respect of your colleagues, whether it's within

an office setting or within the entrepreneurial space, whatever

your space is? Do you have the respect of others? If the answer

is yes, but I want more. Okay, great. There's a place to start

for change. If it's No, I don't think so. I don't even think

people know me, then that might be what you need to change your

visibility. People being able to see you know what your message

is being heard. I believe it's Kimberly crow that says if

you're not being seen, you're being overlooked. Or if you're

not being heard, you're being overlooked. It all goes

together. So what's not working? Are you not having the reach

that you want? Are you not having the impact? At one of

renumber shards, ultra events recently, he said I'm in the

business of personal development. And the person he

was talking to said why? And Brendan said, well, the more

important question is Why aren't you Like I believe we are put on

this earth to do better and be better every day. When I teach

leadership development classes, I had a woman one time in tears,

and at the break came up to me and said, I'm the worst manager

ever. Like, I can't do this, I should have been fired. And I

was like, Oh my gosh, no, that's not it at all. You have the

opportunity to do better tomorrow. We can't always erase

the past, or even make up for it. But what we can do is start

doing the right thing today. So what's not working? If it's in

your personal life? Is it your finances? Are you overspending?

Are you clicking yes to every single advertisement that pops

up on your feed? Sometimes we're we're just blowing our wealth,

our money, our abundance, willy nilly, by not really paying

attention to what it is? Take a pause, take a breath. Is that

really what you want? Is that really what you need? Maybe

that's a change you need to make. I remember years ago, I

had just gotten my first corporate job. And I didn't

really have corporate clothes, because I had been a college

student. And I went with my sister every other week when I

got paid to target. And I bought a new outfit, because Target is

what I could afford. And I got a new outfit every other week. But

what started happening is, I would buy the new outfit, and

then I would buy other things for my apartment. I didn't have

to have them. I didn't need him. And the next thing I knew, I had

been working for months, and I had nothing saved up. If

somebody had said you want to go on a weekend trip, I would have

had to say no, why? Because I was spending all my money. I

wasn't saving it. I'm not really into you have to save every

single dime and hold on to it and hoard it. But I do think you

have to be responsible. You have to be responsible and very

judicious with your funds. So my very first thing as a big girl

with my big girl panties on, was to quit going to target with my

sister. She called she was like, Hey, you want to go to Target? I

was like, Nope, it's gonna kill me. But I'm staying home, I'm

not gonna go to Target. That was not working for me. I wanted to

save a little money. I wanted to have financial freedom. You hear

people say that the love of money is the root of all evil.

And it is because when the love of money is at the end of all

else, and you mark out every other thing in your life except

making money and hoarding money, then that's a problem. But if

you're being financially responsible, and you're picking

and choosing carefully with where you spend your money, and

how you save your money, I think that's a good thing. And we

should do that. I always have had a savings account. I opened

my first thing is account in first grade, I went to my dad, I

was born this way people I was just born this way. I went to my

dad and I said hey, I want to go to the Village Bank and open a

bank account. And he was like, All right, we'll go Saturday

morning and Saturday morning, we went and opened my first little

bank account. I always had a savings account. It may not have

much in it, but I have one. So identify what's not working well

for you. What is keeping you from reaching your goals? Do you

have habits? Do you need to go to bed a little bit earlier? Do

you need to turn off your phone before you go to bed and just

have it set on? Do Not Disturb and only for your alarm to go

off? Do you need to quit watching TV at night. Some

people say I can't sleep and I have to sleep with the TV on bla

bla bla bla. I like to sleep in the peace the quiet in the dark.

Sometimes we just don't give our brains a chance to shut down. So

what's not working?

Then identify what's working relatively well. Years ago, I

had a marketing person who charged no less than $20,000 a

month to run your marketing. Should I have heard her? I don't

know. Maybe maybe not. But I got a little offended because she

said to a group of us. I'm sure your marketing is horrible

because every single thing is not on brand. It's not on brand

colors. Everything's not perfect. And in my own sassiness

my response was pick everybody in this group go to their

Facebook business page. And I promise I have a post at Every

single day, for the last year, and I have my brand on every

graph, every graphic on there, and every graphic I have posted

is something I would say. I don't post anything I don't say

and I wouldn't say, and that's better than nothing, which is

what everybody else had. So what's working for me what's

working for me as you did an amazing platform called Tassie

ta SSI. Yes, I have an affiliate link, if you want to holler at

me, but I can go in there and I can grab the graphics, the

memes, that means something to me. I can slap my logo on it.

And then I can write the the piece you know, that has the

text above your graphic so that it automatically posts my

graphics and information go kitty. Cat drove me crazy in

here. Sorry about that. So that for me is working relatively

well. Now, if somebody came in and audit it, they might make

some suggestions that I could do and would do. Maybe I need to be

a little bit more careful. And I need to take those graphics and

edit the colors a little bit so that there's more of a

consistency of colors, that might be a good thing to do. I

don't know, what else is working for me? I drop a podcast every

single Monday, every single Monday since September of 2018.

I've dropped a podcast episode. Have you got them all? Have you

left a review? Have you subscribed to my channel? So you

know, when I drop a new one? Those things are working well.

How can I do more of that and capitalize on the podcasts that

I've already done? I could repurpose the material. I can

repurpose it into blogs. I can pull several themes over

multiple years and bring them together and make a collection

so that you can listen to a series. That all make sense. So

that's working and working well. identify what's working, and do

more of it. improve on it. I believe it's in Strength

Finders, and they talk about capitalizing on your strengths,

versus trying to build up what you're terrible at. And I think

in organizations that can help to let people do what they do

really well. let that happen. So I urge you to take a little bit

of time and consider what is not working well in your life. What

is something you can do to improve that? And I mean, a

little step Have you heard lately, I have a book out 12

minutes to success reach your goals and 12 minute increments.

If something's not working well, is there something you can start

doing in little bitty 12 minute increments? Then bring that up

and make it better? What's working relatively well? How can

you do more of that. If you can batch your work together to keep

your brain on task for one thing, and do multiple things

like that in a day, you can get a whole lot more done. And even

with working with my 12 minute increment process. If you need

to do more blogs, spend 12 minutes working on a blog and

then 12 minutes on another and another and another and just

keep doing them. You'll end up getting them done in way faster

than 12 minutes. Figure out what it is to do that you're doing

relatively well and do more of that. Find people to help you. I

had a call with a friend just last night. And she said you

know I'm not very good at asking people for help. I said oh my

gosh, me neither. Ask for help reach out to the people who can

help you. You would be amazed at how many people are willing to

take the time to talk to you and help you. I'm Jennifer Takagi

with Akagi consulting and I look forward to connecting with you

soon