Sept. 25, 2023

Julie Ferman: The Cupid’s Coach | DFS 261

Julie Ferman: The Cupid’s Coach | DFS 261
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Season 1

Get all the inside secrets and tools you need to help you develop your intuitive and leadership skills so you are on the path to the highest level of success with ease. Julie Ferman has been in the matchmaking arena for over 33 years! She has fantastic stories and guidance, including building relationships after the match!.

In this episode you will learn:


  • Guidance to navigate the dating market
  • You must show 3 things - respect, appreciation and receptivity  
  • Men and women are different and engage and show up differently 


Learn more and keep in touch with Julie Ferman:


https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/cupids-coach-with-julie-ferman/id1451684205

www.julieferman.com


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Listen in as Jennifer Takagi, founder of Takagi Consulting, 5X time Amazon.Com Best Selling-Author, Certified Soul Care Coach, Certified Jack Canfield Success Principle Trainer, Certified Professional Behavioral Analyst and Facilitator of the DISC Behavioral Profiles, Certified Change Style Indicator Facilitator, Law of Attraction Practitioner, and Certified Coaching Specialist - leadership entrepreneur, speaker and trainer, shares the lessons she’s learned along the way.  Each episode is designed to give you the tools, ideas, and inspiration to lead with integrity. Humor is a big part of Jennifer’s life, so expect a few puns and possibly some sarcasm.  Tune in for a motivational guest, a story or tips to take you even closer to that success you’ve been coveting.  Please share the episodes that inspired you the most and be sure to leave a comment.  


Official Website: http://www.takagiconsulting.com

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Wishing you the best,

Jennifer Takagi

Speaker, Trainer, Author, Catalyst for Healing


PS: We would love to hear from you! For questions, coaching, or to book interviews, please email my team at Jennifer@takagiconsulting.com

Transcript
Jennifer Takagi:

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

Jennifer Takagi:

host Jennifer Takagi and I'm so excitable because today is PATA

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Palooza, de. And I get to meet all kinds of amazing people that

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I may or may not have connected with for any reason in the past.

Jennifer Takagi:

And that is still true because we have the opportunity to visit

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with Julie Furman and Julie's podcast is that Cupid's coach. I

Jennifer Takagi:

love that I love that title. And I love the whole idea of

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matchmaking because I haven't always made the best choices in

Jennifer Takagi:

my life, and I might have benefited from some help.

Jennifer Takagi:

Welcome to the show, Julie.

Julie Ferman:

Thank you, Jennifer. It's really good to be

Julie Ferman:

here.

Jennifer Takagi:

So tell me a little bit. How did you get on

Jennifer Takagi:

this path? Are you an actual matchmaker?

Julie Ferman:

I am, I'm an actual matchmaker and dating

Julie Ferman:

coach. I've been doing this for 33 years since 1990, since I met

Julie Ferman:

my own husband through a proactive dating process. So

Julie Ferman:

first, I had to get real frustrated with dating and

Julie Ferman:

puzzled as to why it wasn't going my way. And then I hired a

Julie Ferman:

coach who was actually a good friend of mine, who said I had

Julie Ferman:

to have skin in the game. He he said I had to pay for him to

Julie Ferman:

take me under his wing. And he did. And he gave me weekly

Julie Ferman:

assignments over the phone from Boston. I was living in Kansas

Julie Ferman:

City at the time. And I do so much homework. And he really

Julie Ferman:

helped me with the inside part that my blind spots, you know,

Julie Ferman:

my big long list of criteria. That was ridiculous. He made me

Julie Ferman:

focus on the top three, you know, instead of 23, right? And

Julie Ferman:

then we put together an action strategy, and I did everything

Julie Ferman:

you could possibly imagine to meet the right guy. I wasn't

Julie Ferman:

sure I was going to be able to have kids. I've had surgery at

Julie Ferman:

27, leaving me with half of one ovary. So I was like tick tock,

Julie Ferman:

right. I was the girl who really wanted marriage and family to

Julie Ferman:

happen. So I placed personal ads in the newspaper, we couldn't do

Julie Ferman:

online dating back then we didn't even have the internet.

Julie Ferman:

And I put together lots of events. I put a profile together

Julie Ferman:

about myself with photos and I had it copied at Kinkos a

Julie Ferman:

million times. And I sent it out to everybody I knew five copies

Julie Ferman:

with a cover letter. This was Who do you know who wants to

Julie Ferman:

meet this girl? I was really working it. And I got

Julie Ferman:

transferred with the company I was working with to St. Louis,

Julie Ferman:

where I was from. And I was sitting there the first few

Julie Ferman:

weeks of being back where I was from, at this Ethiopian

Julie Ferman:

restaurant, sitting by myself eating food with my hands,

Julie Ferman:

feeling like the World's Greatest Loser. And I'm watching

Julie Ferman:

looking at the personal ads and I thought too late. You can't

Julie Ferman:

put a personal ad in the St. Louis. Newspaper. You corrupt

Julie Ferman:

here. What if your history teacher sees it? What if your

Julie Ferman:

boyfriend sees it and puts the word out that Julie's doing

Julie Ferman:

personal ad? She must be a total loser, right? So I saw in that

Julie Ferman:

publication ads for dating services, and I thought, okay, I

Julie Ferman:

rip the page out I ran home. I called all three of them. Two of

Julie Ferman:

them were blind date matchmaking companies, and I'd had enough

Julie Ferman:

surprises with online dating. I didn't really want to have a

Julie Ferman:

whole bunch of new surprises and pay a lot of money for it. So

Julie Ferman:

the other agency, maybe you remember the name of it. Where

Julie Ferman:

do you live? Jennifer?

Jennifer Takagi:

I'm in Oklahoma City and I lived in Kansas City

Jennifer Takagi:

in the late 80s. So

Julie Ferman:

how come we weren't playing together? That's

Julie Ferman:

when I was there.

Jennifer Takagi:

I was sitting home alone myself.

Julie Ferman:

I worked for my father's Ramada Inn there. And

Julie Ferman:

then when he died, I ended up with Ritz Carlton returned the

Julie Ferman:

Alameda Plaza Hotel into this big, beautiful Ritz Carlton. So

Julie Ferman:

that's why I needed help. Because I was working 8090 hours

Julie Ferman:

a week it was just sick. So I saw that there were ads for

Julie Ferman:

great expectations, which was a video dating service. And later

Julie Ferman:

Well, I'll tell you the how it happened. I go in there. And the

Julie Ferman:

guy who did the interview with me and talked me into joining

Julie Ferman:

the guy who took my 14 150 bucks, sign me up at his agency,

Julie Ferman:

that's my husband. So

Jennifer Takagi:

got the pick of the litter so to speak, he

Jennifer Takagi:

wasn't

Julie Ferman:

allowed to ask his members out. He wasn't supposed

Julie Ferman:

to it was a protocol thing. And so what happened was I finally

Julie Ferman:

got my photos done and my videos done. And then you could finally

Julie Ferman:

just access the books. So I'd sit down and look through all

Julie Ferman:

the books. They had just opened their doors, Jennifer, there

Julie Ferman:

weren't very many people. So I'm thinking oh my gosh, was this

Julie Ferman:

just a huge mistake? Did I just waste $1,450? And I thought,

Julie Ferman:

Well, I'm gonna have a good relationship with these people.

Julie Ferman:

No matter what. So I knocked on this guy's door and I joked with

Julie Ferman:

him, I said, Hey, I looked in the G book under Gil and I

Julie Ferman:

didn't see you. What's the story with you pal? And he said, Well,

Julie Ferman:

I'm not supposed to ask out my members. And they said, Well,

Julie Ferman:

what would you do if one of your members asked you out? And he

Julie Ferman:

said, If she was cute, I probably go. I said, Come on,

Julie Ferman:

let's go have a beer. And five weeks later, we got engaged. And

Julie Ferman:

five months later, we got married. And two months later,

Julie Ferman:

we got pregnant with the kid who's turning 32 Tomorrow, and

Julie Ferman:

the other one followed two years later. So I married into the

Julie Ferman:

dating industry and worked for my husband for seven or eight

Julie Ferman:

years. There were a lot of things I liked about it. A lot

Julie Ferman:

of things I didn't. Have you ever been part of a dating

Julie Ferman:

agency before? Jennifer?

Jennifer Takagi:

I have not. But before you tell me more. I went

Jennifer Takagi:

to Washington DC on business all the time. And I ended up on the

Jennifer Takagi:

same flight from St. Louis to Oklahoma City, week after week

Jennifer Takagi:

after week. And I got to know this gal of Southwest Airlines,

Jennifer Takagi:

and we would always move so we could sit together. She lived in

Jennifer Takagi:

St. Louis. Her friends talked her into go into a video dating

Jennifer Takagi:

site. She met a guy, she was in her late 30s. And Catholic,

Jennifer Takagi:

never been married and wanted a guy who was Catholic, never been

Jennifer Takagi:

married. His friends forced him into signing up. And the story

Jennifer Takagi:

is kind of like yours. He was in the Air Force in southwestern

Jennifer Takagi:

Oklahoma. So she would fly in once a month to see him and we

Jennifer Takagi:

would fly together. I have her name written down somewhere. I'm

Jennifer Takagi:

gonna come back to you because you can probably find her for me

Jennifer Takagi:

because I I mean, I got all of those things. Just I didn't do

Jennifer Takagi:

it through a dating app. But I have the list of criteria. Yeah,

Jennifer Takagi:

of what I wanted in a man. And I found him and I married him. We

Jennifer Takagi:

did not win the baby thing. But we got everything else. Oh, I'm

Jennifer Takagi:

so

Julie Ferman:

glad I don't have the database anymore. For my

Julie Ferman:

husband's great expectations. I might know, I might know her.

Julie Ferman:

I'm not sure I might have signed her up. I don't know. So I

Julie Ferman:

worked for him for a bunch of years. And then we moved back to

Julie Ferman:

LA where he's from. And he sold us companies. And that's when I

Julie Ferman:

started my own. So 20 years ago, I started my matchmaking company

Julie Ferman:

and dating company. And it's 36,000 people I've registered so

Julie Ferman:

far, we've counted over 1300 couples that have waltzed off

Julie Ferman:

into the sunset over 33 years. It's been quite a journey. But

Julie Ferman:

my real passion. I mean, I can't really make a match, I can't

Julie Ferman:

make a match. You know, I don't have power to do that. I can I

Julie Ferman:

think of myself as a relationship enabler. And what

Julie Ferman:

are you Right? Right? That's so funny. And, and, and here's,

Julie Ferman:

here's my sweet little like, in my next life, I'm going to be a

Julie Ferman:

genie, right, and I'm going to be able to just whip them up for

Julie Ferman:

you. But I know too much now. And so what I like to do is help

Julie Ferman:

people really do dating well. And I like to make sure that

Julie Ferman:

they have all the options open to them, depending on who they

Julie Ferman:

are, who they're looking for, where they live, what's their

Julie Ferman:

demographic, demographics are not our friend. The young guys

Julie Ferman:

are really, really struggling. There are not enough young women

Julie Ferman:

and all the men are on all of them. But they're, the young

Julie Ferman:

women are often just inundated with requests, especially if

Julie Ferman:

they're attractive. So that's just, there's no way to get an

Julie Ferman:

attractive woman to respond to you online, they're just getting

Julie Ferman:

100 messages an hour. And then us girls later in life are

Julie Ferman:

struggling because 65% Let's just say it this way. Let's see,

Julie Ferman:

there are three times as many single women as there are single

Julie Ferman:

men over the age of 65. So that's why it gets really hard.

Julie Ferman:

So I like to teach people all the ways to compensate for this.

Julie Ferman:

And so one of my programs that I talk about a lot and I love to

Julie Ferman:

do it for audiences large and small, is navigating the

Julie Ferman:

romantic marketplace, but then also developing our social

Julie Ferman:

magnetism, the art of social magnetism, so we can meet those

Julie Ferman:

people on those airplanes. And we know what to say in front of

Julie Ferman:

the cantaloupes at the grocery store. And why wait in line at

Julie Ferman:

the Department of Motor Vehicles without making a friend with the

Julie Ferman:

person in front of you and behind you. So I teach people

Julie Ferman:

how to do all of this. When you see somebody out there in the

Julie Ferman:

world, you have a nice conversation. I want everybody

Julie Ferman:

to have a calling card so you can say hey, nice to find you.

Julie Ferman:

Here's here's how to find me and those calling cards with women.

Julie Ferman:

I suggest that nothing on that card be Google double. Right.

Julie Ferman:

But guys are asking us they are begging me to beg women to turn

Julie Ferman:

the cab light on because since the me to thing happened which

Julie Ferman:

needed to happen. look really good men who have respect for us

Julie Ferman:

and don't want us to feel preyed on On, they're not initiating

Julie Ferman:

like they used to. So that's why my phone is ringing more. And

Julie Ferman:

I'm getting more registrations from men now because they feel

Julie Ferman:

like they can't just walk up and talk to a woman anymore. It's

Julie Ferman:

really, really, that piece of it is has backfired. So I'm trying

Julie Ferman:

to do my part to pick up the slack. So, yeah, that's been

Julie Ferman:

really fun. So I'm based in Los Angeles, and then we bought a

Julie Ferman:

home in Santa Fe, New Mexico. That's where I am today, I spend

Julie Ferman:

the summers in Santa Fe. So I have a whole other community of

Julie Ferman:

people here in Santa Fe. So there's there's no shortage of

Julie Ferman:

great people. There's something that women don't know, though,

Julie Ferman:

that causes that causes us to be frustrated in dating. Do you

Julie Ferman:

want to know what it is that we don't know?

Jennifer Takagi:

I would love to. All right. Here's

Julie Ferman:

it's not really great news. But we have to work

Julie Ferman:

with it. Because I'm not a dreamer. I'm a realist. So I

Julie Ferman:

asked every woman this question, I've interviewed over 50,000

Julie Ferman:

people and 30 something years, I'll say, Have you ever met a

Julie Ferman:

guy? Well, let me ask you, Jennifer, have you ever met a

Julie Ferman:

guy that you weren't particularly attracted to?

Julie Ferman:

Initially, visually, but then you got to know him? And before

Julie Ferman:

you know it, he became adorable and even dateable? Is that ever

Julie Ferman:

happened for you? Probably 85% of women have given me a yes

Julie Ferman:

response to that question. We have a superpower. It's the

Julie Ferman:

ability to look inside a human being and measure up character

Julie Ferman:

values, shared passions, we have the ability to see more, it's

Julie Ferman:

our powers of perception. Man, on the other hand, I've asked

Julie Ferman:

you know, 1000s, and 1000s and 1000s of men, what percentage of

Julie Ferman:

men would you say have the ability to develop attraction

Julie Ferman:

over time?

Jennifer Takagi:

Oh, I'm gonna say much less.

Julie Ferman:

Yes, right is really bad. It's like less than

Julie Ferman:

5%. So what that helps me understand is that it's not that

Julie Ferman:

they're superficial and shallow. They literally have equipment

Julie Ferman:

that needs to function in order for babies to be born on the

Julie Ferman:

planet in the species to survive. Its basic instinct. And

Julie Ferman:

this is the longest we've ever lived, right? If it was back in

Julie Ferman:

the 1850s, you and I would have been six feet under by now we

Julie Ferman:

wouldn't be out there dating in our 60s or even thinking about

Julie Ferman:

it. So it's a different world is changing. And women are flexible

Julie Ferman:

and adaptable. It's one of our superpowers. So what we need to

Julie Ferman:

do is shift just like the other piece of the puzzle that's so

Julie Ferman:

important. You've probably heard women say, Oh, I'm really

Julie Ferman:

successful, and I have a lot of money. And so I intimidate men.

Jennifer Takagi:

If you heard that. I have heard that a lot.

Jennifer Takagi:

Yeah,

Julie Ferman:

you stop them in their tracks, right then in

Julie Ferman:

there, Jennifer, and say, first off, stop bitching, called

Julie Ferman:

Julie. But secondly, what you say to them is, men are never

Julie Ferman:

intimidated by a woman. They might be put off, by the way,

Julie Ferman:

she's being about all of her strengths. But I'm, every time I

Julie Ferman:

asked that question to a man that like, I never get

Julie Ferman:

intimidated, I just, they're just annoying, because they're

Julie Ferman:

bragging all the time, where they will let me finish a

Julie Ferman:

sentence and she has to one up me, if he doesn't want to come

Julie Ferman:

home to competition, the guy wants to come home to what he

Julie Ferman:

calls a soft place to land. So it's not that we can't be strong

Julie Ferman:

and powerful, we got to get really good at the toggle

Julie Ferman:

switch, which is, you know, what happens when I finally shut down

Julie Ferman:

this computer. And I know I'm gonna need to morph myself into

Julie Ferman:

a woman to be a partner to my husband. And I'm going to need

Julie Ferman:

to make myself available to everybody else in the world that

Julie Ferman:

I've been ignoring for the last eight hours. So there's

Julie Ferman:

transition time. And we need to get good at it. And I've got

Julie Ferman:

women that I've trained who are trial attorneys like real tough,

Julie Ferman:

powerful women in the marketplace. And then they got a

Julie Ferman:

date that night. So I trained them in like, what to bring in

Julie Ferman:

your little bag, change your underwear, put on your little,

Julie Ferman:

your little boost da or whatever you got to do. Turn yourself

Julie Ferman:

into a woman before you go on that date and be present for the

Julie Ferman:

guy because what does a man need more than anything? This is why

Julie Ferman:

it's not working. For so many professional people. What men

Julie Ferman:

need more than anything is respect, appreciation and

Julie Ferman:

receptivity. They don't want to come home to an argument. So we

Julie Ferman:

need to practice bringing respect, appreciation, honor to

Julie Ferman:

the men in our world, and then they just show up a lot better

Julie Ferman:

than if we treat them as adversaries or competitors. Does

Julie Ferman:

that make sense?

Jennifer Takagi:

It does and we have different skills and

Jennifer Takagi:

different skill sets and so we need to hone ours which are

Jennifer Takagi:

typically different than theirs.

Julie Ferman:

Yep. And women you know, we we speak more words

Julie Ferman:

than they do. We do you know what my husband says? He says,

Julie Ferman:

generally speaking women are generally speaking. I wonder if

Julie Ferman:

more podcast hosts are women than men are wonder,

Jennifer Takagi:

though. What is the isn't Gary Smalley maybe I

Jennifer Takagi:

want to draw a blank. But my husband and I, when we first got

Jennifer Takagi:

married, we were at this thing through church, and it was a

Jennifer Takagi:

marriage enrichment communication thing. And he

Jennifer Takagi:

said, Men have about 25,000 words a day. So when they get

Jennifer Takagi:

home from work, they've pretty much used up all their words.

Jennifer Takagi:

When women come into the world, they have like 50,000 words a

Jennifer Takagi:

day. So when they get home, they I mean, when when they get home

Jennifer Takagi:

and everybody gets together, they have way more words. And if

Jennifer Takagi:

a woman works from home, or is a stay at home, mom working the

Jennifer Takagi:

house at home, and hasn't talked to anybody all day, now she has

Jennifer Takagi:

a minimum of you know, 45,000. And it's just like a whole

Jennifer Takagi:

cluster. So my husband drove me and one of my girlfriends from

Jennifer Takagi:

college to a lake where we both had little places. And she and I

Jennifer Takagi:

hadn't been alone together in a long time. We're both married,

Jennifer Takagi:

we're busy. We don't have time. Two hours in the car, I'm in the

Jennifer Takagi:

backseat, she's in the front. He's driving. She and I talked

Jennifer Takagi:

the whole way. We've dropped her off. And as we're backing out of

Jennifer Takagi:

the driveway to go to our house, I just stayed in the backseat,

Jennifer Takagi:

my husband looked over his shoulder to back out and he

Jennifer Takagi:

says, Okay, I can only hear 25,000 words a day. And you all

Jennifer Takagi:

just superseded that I need to not hear one word for a solid

Jennifer Takagi:

app.

Julie Ferman:

God love him. That is so funny. It's absolutely

Julie Ferman:

true. You know, I wanted to tell you that last weekend, two

Julie Ferman:

weekends ago, I was in Oklahoma City, another time where we

Julie Ferman:

could have played together. But we didn't know each other yet.

Julie Ferman:

So we didn't. My sister and I met there because she's in St.

Julie Ferman:

Louis. I'm in Santa Fe smack dab in the middle of Oklahoma City,

Julie Ferman:

we both drove seven and a half hours to get there. Because why?

Julie Ferman:

Because our dogs needed to meet. We had so much fun. So I've got

Julie Ferman:

a great, I've got a great little mashup that we did from go into

Julie Ferman:

cookies, the karaoke place. If you've been to karaoke it

Julie Ferman:

cookies, it's a great little place. We had a great time. So

Julie Ferman:

Oh, there's one more thing I wanted to share about that

Julie Ferman:

business of you know, when the guy comes home from work, okay,

Julie Ferman:

from wherever he's been, he needs a little transition time

Julie Ferman:

Mr. FURMAN goes into the smallest room in the house with

Julie Ferman:

a crossword puzzle. And he hangs out there and I hear a few

Julie Ferman:

flushes. And then I know he's done and ready to engage. That's

Julie Ferman:

where he does his thing. But it's just hilarious. When we

Julie Ferman:

need to talk to our guy, because we've been cooped up or pent up

Julie Ferman:

or something we need to share. We have to let the guy know if

Julie Ferman:

you supposed to fix it if he's supposed to fix the problem, or

Julie Ferman:

just hold the trash can. Because sometimes we don't really want

Julie Ferman:

anybody to fix it. We just need somebody to hear how awful this

Julie Ferman:

thing was. And so then we have to remember to say, Hey, honey,

Julie Ferman:

I guess something I want to share with you. The good news is

Julie Ferman:

you're not in trouble. Other good news is you don't have to

Julie Ferman:

fix it. But was you just hold the trashcan for like five

Julie Ferman:

minutes. So I can just tell you about the thing that happened.

Julie Ferman:

And then he knows he's free. He's safe. You don't have to try

Julie Ferman:

to figure out all this. Can you imagine how annoying it is for

Julie Ferman:

men to hear the voices of us girls, given that we talk so

Julie Ferman:

much more than they do? And I feel bad for them?

Jennifer Takagi:

Well, you know, as as, as a friend of mine would

Jennifer Takagi:

say to have all this, that's your price. Like ya have to

Jennifer Takagi:

listen right?

Julie Ferman:

In order to get all this right. Yeah, I'm

Julie Ferman:

bringing this to the party. Dude, you are all this?

Jennifer Takagi:

Well, and I think that it is, it's just an

Jennifer Takagi:

awesome, like whole way to do it. And I have a girlfriend and

Jennifer Takagi:

years ago, she's been I've been married 31 years, she's been

Jennifer Takagi:

married. I don't know more than that. 3738. But she said, you

Jennifer Takagi:

know, the thing is, I have to start the conversation. I just

Jennifer Takagi:

want you to hear what I said, or what I have to say, and I don't

Jennifer Takagi:

want you to fix anything. And I had a problem buying tires a

Jennifer Takagi:

couple of weeks ago. And I said, I'm going to tell you what

Jennifer Takagi:

happened. I don't want you to react. I'm going to offer a

Jennifer Takagi:

possible couple of possible solutions. And then we can talk

Jennifer Takagi:

about the solutions but I don't want you to interrupt me and the

Jennifer Takagi:

whole story of all the things I did wrong. I just like let's get

Jennifer Takagi:

here and I have to give him belt Akagi you get a couple of bonus

Jennifer Takagi:

points for that because he was like okay, and then we came to a

Jennifer Takagi:

solution and it all worked out but you know you Do you have to

Jennifer Takagi:

draw the lines? Because they're hunters? Yeah. And they want to

Jennifer Takagi:

fix the problem. They want to hunt for that solution. And then

Jennifer Takagi:

if they provide it and you don't accept it, then you've got

Jennifer Takagi:

another conversation that they have you

Julie Ferman:

studied with my buddy, Allison Armstrong? No.

Julie Ferman:

Oh, because the way you speak, it's as if you've studied with

Julie Ferman:

her, you've learned a lot of this stuff. You've been very

Julie Ferman:

growth oriented. It's no surprise. You're a great host.

Julie Ferman:

Yeah, you've done a lot of studying and no wonder that

Julie Ferman:

you're married for 31 years. Congratulations.

Jennifer Takagi:

Thank you. Yeah. Ideally, this has just

Jennifer Takagi:

been awesome. So we'll drop all the pertinent stuff in the show

Jennifer Takagi:

notes. But is there something particular special you want to

Jennifer Takagi:

give away, you want to have them be able to get ahold of you or

Jennifer Takagi:

find out more about your coaching programs,

Julie Ferman:

what's most important is that they register

Julie Ferman:

with me so I can find them when I'm searching. I do a lot of

Julie Ferman:

free introductions, because I am 63 years old right now. And I

Julie Ferman:

don't know how long I'm going to be doing this. So I want to make

Julie Ferman:

all the introductions I can. So I do a lot of myths of mitzvah

Julie Ferman:

matches, which is a Jewish term, my husband's Jewish. It's a term

Julie Ferman:

for a good deed of blessing. So if somebody's registered with me

Julie Ferman:

in Oklahoma City, I'm not going to try to get them to hire me

Julie Ferman:

for matchmaking. I'm gonna run to my database, and I'm gonna

Julie Ferman:

look and see who I have. And if there's somebody great, I'm just

Julie Ferman:

gonna go ahead and make the match.

Jennifer Takagi:

Yeah, oh my gosh, that is amazing.

Julie Ferman:

Yeah, the matchmakers are really mad at me

Julie Ferman:

for doing it. And I don't care. I've been doing this for 33

Julie Ferman:

years, I get to pick how I operate.

Jennifer Takagi:

A woman after my virtual cocktails, Sue,

Julie Ferman:

telling me he had cookies in Oklahoma City. Hey,

Julie Ferman:

let's

Jennifer Takagi:

do that. I'm going to LA every month, the

Jennifer Takagi:

first of the month for the rest of the year. So maybe we can

Jennifer Takagi:

hook up there. So. So how do we find you?

Julie Ferman:

It's real easy. It's my name, Julie furman.com.

Julie Ferman:

So ju li e f e r m a n.com. And I have the Cupids. Coach

Julie Ferman:

podcast. And it is all the stories, all the tips. I don't

Julie Ferman:

have to make up anything. These people out there in the world.

Julie Ferman:

Give me all the content I would ever need to share with people

Julie Ferman:

good stuff and bad stuff. It's hilarious. Laugh Out Loud, funny

Julie Ferman:

stories.

Jennifer Takagi:

I can only it's been such a pleasure to visit

Jennifer Takagi:

with you, Jennifer,

Julie Ferman:

your adult. Good job. You're awesome at this.

Jennifer Takagi:

Thank you so much. I'm Jonathan Kagi and I

Jennifer Takagi:

look forward to connecting with you soon.