Intention Setting or Goal Setting? | DFS 337

Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

host, Jennifer Takagi, and in this episode goal setting, I

want to break through a few Oh, of the basic myths ideas that

come around goal setting. And this is a continuation of our

conversation that we had last week with Dominique Clifton. So

I've heard of SMART goals my whole life. You know, set the

goal. I don't know, make it real. I don't know. I don't even

know what smart goal stands for. But I remember when I first

heard about it, and it really wasn't given with enough

context, and part of it might have been that I worked for the

federal government, and I was given goals. And when I first

started my career, one of my colleagues who had already been

there 20 years or something, when I showed up, said, goals

are the responsibility of management, if you just do your

job, all the agency goals will be met. And I embraced that for

a long time. I really did, until I had a boss who told me I had

to complete my own reviews and submit them, and he would make

edits. And when I really dove into what my review said, it was

all about my involvement in these goals, and like what I had

personally done to help achieve the goals, then I started

looking at goals a little bit differently. It was what is my

responsibility? And then the supervisor, of course, holds you

accountable. There's all kinds of conversation around

accountability, and you're only accountable for yourself. Like,

I mean, you can go down a whole rabbit hole of that, and we

don't really need to do that today. But I want to talk about

goals, as far as envisioning where you want your life to be.

What do you want in your life? How do you want it to be? How do

you want to feel? I just recently read something that

just came across my feed really quickly, and it was the very

first thing you have to do to be successful is quit complaining.

Like go on a quick complaining binge. Like, what would your

life look like? What would my life look like if we quit

complaining? So my idea of goal setting is starting with,

imagine what you really want, imagine what you really want,

and what are the ramification I did have tongue surgery a few

months ago, and every now and then, it just fails me a little

bit. Imagine what you really want, and what are the benefits

of achieving that. How will your life be better? The flip side

is, what do you have to give up to get it? What do you have to

give up to get it? I know someone who made a ton of money

in their lives, and I've not talked to this person about it

directly, but I've heard a lot of comments about how this

person was not around for the family because they were off

working and traveling and doing what they wanted and needed to

do to hit their financial goals. And I again, never talked to the

family about like, how did it make them feel? How did it

impact them? But just as a person, a human being, traveling

a lot, I miss out on some things. So in order to travel

and do what I want to do, I have great experiences. I really love

it. But the flip side is sometimes I miss things,

sometimes I miss lunches, sometimes I miss birthday happy

hours with my girlfriends. Like there's always a trade off. So

when I imagine my life and what I want it to be, I also have to

figure in a little bit of what's the trade off. So when you have

your goal, for your business, for your life, for your family,

like, what is the trade off? There's often a little bit of a

trade off. Sometimes it's spectacular and monumental and

like, oh my gosh, I don't want to do that. Other times, it's

manageable. So what's the trade off? When you imagine the life

you want, if you have that really big, humongous house,

guess what comes with it, big, humongous taxes, right? Your

property taxes go up. Is it worth it? I don't know. I've

stayed in the same house for a long time because I like the

location and the property taxes. So we have choices on imagining

that life what we want it to. Like, and are there trade offs?

And what are they? Sometimes they're perfectly fine and it

doesn't even hurt. Other times, it's like, wow, no, I'm not

giving that up. I'm not giving that up. I had a rough patch in

my career you've probably heard about from time to time, and I

was asked why I didn't just leave. And yeah, I could have

left, and it probably would have been a whole lot better for my

mental health. However, I had worked a lot of years for

benefits that I wasn't willing to give up, like I wasn't going

to let the other person win. So imagine what you really want,

and then what it's going to take to get there, typically. And

it's an emotional toll, then set your intention. And your

intention is where you really say, at that gut level, the

deepest part of your soul, I intend to go after this. I

intend to go after this. This is what I want. I I'm not going to

focus on how it's going to happen right now. I'm just going

to focus on my intention. So I can't remember how many years

ago what I I will have to look at my phone to see when I first

put this in. But I wanted a new built in wall oven, because mine

has two shelves, it had past tense. It had two shelves. I

bake a lot, but because the oven was old, it worked perfectly.

However, I could only have one pan of cookies, one sheet with a

pie on it, like I could never do. Two things I I see on shows

where they throw in two cookie sheets full of cookies, and they

come out perfectly every time. I could not do that because it it

just was an old oven that the heat wouldn't circulate that

way. So I had a vision to have a new wall oven. The next step is

going to be to pull out my cooktop and put in a range, but

I needed this new oven, and I've been waiting a long time. I've

been thinking about it every now and then I talk about it, and

the handle on my oven door just broke off one day, just gone,

and my husband and I talked about replacing it, calling the

repair people, like, what do we do? And I burnt my arm for like,

the very last time, because navigating an oven door without

a handle is hard. I cook, I bake a lot, and that an oven is

critical to me. I finally just walked into the appliance store

and said, Hey, I'm Jennifer Takagi, I was in here. I picked

out an oven. I, you know, I don't even know if you have a

file on me. I'm not sure what size. And this woman swiveled in

her chair, opened up the file cabinet. Oh, Jennifer Takagi,

yeah, here you are, yeah. What do you want? You have all this

lined out, measured out, and was like, Oh, I just want this

single oven that goes in the wall. It took, I don't know, six

weeks probably, for it to come in and then to coordinate

schedules to have it installed. And now I have an oven, and I'm

trying to get used to the buttons and figure it out,

because it's pretty funny, but because it's very different than

my old, you know, 30, whatever, year old wall oven, but now I'm

figuring it out, but I set the intention a long time ago that I

was going to have that new wall oven, and it was going to be a

Kitchen Aid, and when I opened that door, I was going to see

that beautiful blue inside. So you have to set your intention,

and your intention needs to be fairly clear on that outcome,

which takes us back to imagine what you really want. And what I

really wanted was an oven that things would fit in my other

oven. I mean, they were the same size, they fit in the same hole,

but the insulation has changed on those walls of those wall

ovens, and I have pans that did not fit in my old oven, like you

couldn't close the door. It didn't work. So what is your

intention to have to attain to get what it is that you want set

the intention I wanted a new wall oven. You can't be caught

up on the time frame like when it's going to happen, because if

I was going to have my when it's going to happen, it would have

been five or six years ago. But this new oven is regular

convection, and it has an air fryer function. Who knew it's

all within my little wall oven? I just push a button and say, I

want to air fry. And I did yesterday for the first time, I

air fried some french fries and chicken nuggets. It was a big

moment in my life. Set your intention for what you want.

Then the hardest part for me, it may be for you, but for me, is I

get caught up in the how do.

How am I going to get that new oven? How am I going to pay for

the oven? How am I going to have them come install it, like all

the hows, where am I going to come up with the money? How am I

going to get it? But what you need to do is ask the next

question, what is the next best step I can take towards reaching

my goal? What's the next best step? If it's a financial goal,

like on accumulating, maybe your next best step is being

conscious where the money goes. How are you spending your money?

Where is your money going? So ask the question, how you have

to take action? I love, love, love, law of attraction. I think

it's so real, so tangible and amazing thing. However, however

you have to take action. The book, Think and Grow Rich. Love

that book. You don't just think and become rich. You have to

take action. What is the next best step that's going to take

me closer to fulfilling my intention and the dream that I

have for my life, for my business, for my relationships,

what is the next best step? What else can I do today to take me

one step closer, if you want a little help breaking down how

you can put your goals into my 12 minute success methodology,

or you want to talk about how you can shatter those blocks

that bondage holding you back from doing what you want to do.

Click the link, book a call. It's free. I'll give you a

little bit of you know, one on one. Support help you get moving

towards your dreams so you can fulfill your goals and live the

life of your dreams. I'm Jennifer Takagi, and I look

forward to connecting with you soon. You.