Do it your own way! Define your idea of success | DFS 259

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi and today I want to talk about dreams and

insights. So I think many times dreams can be the insights of

your deepest desires. So dreams can be like a daydream, like

your mind is kind of drifts off. A dream can actually happen in

the middle of the night. Like you wake up in the middle of the

night, I woke up in the middle of the night, which I'm a

sleeper if you don't know me personally, let me just give you

some insights. I'm a sleeper I tell you good night, and I'm

asleep. Like there's no, no waiting around. No, continuing

the conversation. If I say good night, I'm done. So one night, I

kept waking up, like it started like at two or three in the

morning. And I just kept waking up. And it'd be like, Oh, I've

got to go back to sleep. I have a busy day tomorrow, and I wake

up or I just barely Doze and be awake again. And finally, it was

like five in the morning. And I thought, okay, okay. So I got up

and I got a pad and a pin. And I started writing down every

single thought that was going through my mind. Well, I really

believe that was one of my spirit guides, letting me know,

the next thing I needed to be working on. Because I pretty

much took everything I wrote down at five in the morning, and

incorporated it into something else. It was content. I don't

remember at this moment, what it was, but it I turned it into

something. So that dream was waking me up because I needed to

put it on paper. So I'd be able to do something with it later.

Sometimes we have those dreams, and we have the answer to

everything. And then we wake up and it's over. It's over a

doubt. And we have no idea what the dream was. So I encourage

you, if you have a dream in the middle of the night, part of me

that you go ahead and get up and write it down, write down what

it was. And then you can deal with it later, you can figure

out how it fits in or if it does. One of the first points I

really want to make is that our dreams are our own. I've used

this story before, but I think it's worth repeating if you

haven't heard it before. I remember as a little kid laying

in the grass, looking at the clouds with my older sister. And

I'd say oh my gosh, look, there's an elephant. And she'd

say where and I point and say over there. And she's looking

and her perspective is a few feet different than mine. Right?

We're laying on the grass, can you see it? We're laying on the

grass, and she's a few feet away. And I'm saying look at

that elephant. Well, number one, she's three feet away. So her

perspective is different. Number two, I'm in Oklahoma and guess

what the wind comes sweeping across the plane, the wind is

going to the cloud formations are changing. Just in a

nanosecond, they're a little different, a little different, a

little different. So by the time she even focuses in on the

proper area where I'm looking, it's already shifted, it's

already morphed. And I tell you this, because sometimes we share

our dreams with people. And they don't get it. They don't get it

because it's not their dream. It's yours. You're looking at

the cloud and seeing the image and they can't see it. So I urge

you to reduce your frustration with people not being

supportive. I urge you to share your dreams with other

visionaries. With visionaries who can say oh, yeah, that

sounds great. We just need somebody to listen to us. We

don't need them to tell us how to do it.

We don't need the problem solved. We just need to be able

to share the information.

The next key piece is you don't have to know how. Now I'm just

going to be honest, because you know, I lie to you all the time.

Just kidding. I don't really he don't have to know how it's

gonna happen. You just have to know that that's what you want.

And opportunities will begin to present themselves Sometimes

you're gonna have to Google it, you're gonna have to google how

do I bake that cake. And you have to get a recipe and then

you have to follow it. Some things are simple that the

little how the little, the little internal intermediate

steps, the baby steps, you can Google that. I love Google. It's

like my best friend, I think we're besties. Now. So some of

the how you can find out but sometimes your vision, your

dream is so big, that you absolutely cannot figure out how

to get there. Well, you don't need to know how to get to the

finish line, you just need to know how to start. Ask yourself

the question before you go to bed. If I were to accomplish

this, or make this happen, what would my first step be? And then

go to sleep and your subconscious is so brilliant.

That I bet you're gonna wake up in the morning with an idea on a

first step, a person to call a person to email a person to

text. Maybe you were asking the wrong question. I'm listening to

a book right now. And I was shocked to find out that when I

go online and do research with my ideal client, who do I want

to play with? Who do I want to serve? That I actually need to

be asking a different question that I've been asking? I'm not

getting clarity. And it's because I haven't been asking

the right question. So several options. You can read books, I

love audiobooks, because I can do other things. At the same

time. You can read a book, listen to a book, you can do

research, you can sit down and write five different ways to ask

the same question that brings it to a different place. I do Body

Code, energy work with people. And I had a client and she kept

making the same statement. And I kept trying to rephrase it into

a question. And she kept making the same statement where she

would ask a question, but it wasn't a workable, usable

question. And finally, I said, Okay, you just need to let that

go. And let me do this differently. And let me ask it

this way. And she goes, Wow, I love when you call me out. And I

said, Well, we weren't going to get anywhere. Like at some

point, we had to get this call moving, right, we had to be

doing what we needed to do. So don't focus so much on the big

house. Focus on the little piece, the little piece, what

can I do? How can I step forward? one little step at a

time. But you do need to be laser focused? What is the one

thing that you could either expand in your life or contract

in your life that would make the biggest difference? What would

make the biggest difference? Again, I do Body Code and

Emotion Code work on people. And I have a short little 15 minute

session, why don't have time to explain it all and do the work.

So I created a video of somebody opts in and buys a 15 minute

session, then they get a video and it says, Hey, it'd be really

great if you watch this video first. And then we can make the

absolute most of our 15 minutes together. And in that video, I

ask the client to decide before we start, what is the one thing

that they want or need more of, or less of to make the biggest

difference in their life and focus on that. I had a client

with pretty severe eczema. And I can't remember I'm gonna have to

go back through my notes. We either did four or five calls

and every call was like, Okay, are you ready to hit eczema? And

she was like, No, it's a little better. We don't really need to.

And I was like, Nope, we're sticking with it till it's gone.

And she'd go, okay, okay. We kept going through it come to

find out she had been exposed to a toxin that was used to clean

eggs years ago. And they found out people were getting rashes

from them, and they quit using that chemical. Well, she'd had

eczema like her whole life. It took us multiple sessions to get

to the point that we got to the root cause your subconscious

wants to keep you safe. It only wants to release what it can

release without re harming you. So sometimes you have to go

really deep to get to that final answer. But you have to be laser

focused. First several calls, she said, I don't want to do

them anymore. I want to do something else. And as her coach

and mentor and friend, I had to say, No, we're not doing that.

We're sticking to this. You have to be laser focused. What is the

one thing that would make the biggest difference in your life?

Focus on that one thing when you go to bed at night, ask yourself

the question out loud in my sleep in my dream subconscious,

because you're so brilliant, revealed to me the one thing I

can do tomorrow to move me forward in this quest. You have

the answers there within you, but we're not quiet and we don't

listen. So don't be discouraged when other people don't get your

dreams. They're your dreams, not their dreams. You do not have to

know the how just yet it will be revealed. And you do need to be

laser focused on this is the thing that I want. I'm Jennifer

Takagi and I look forward to connecting with you soon