Celebrate each step! | DFS 341

Jennifer, welcome to Destin for success.

I'm your host, Jennifer Takagi, and in this episode, I really

want to focus on success and celebrating those wins. We often

are told you're being braggadocious. You shouldn't do

that. Oh, look at her like she's talking all about herself. But

in reality, we have to celebrate those wins. And as we celebrate

wins, as we take a minute to like, bring it all in and feel

it deep in our bones, we want more of it. We want a lot more

of it. Have you ever watched a little toddler? Well, actually,

before toddler, have you watched a little kid crawl across the

room? They are so excited, like they made it to the other side.

Then they grab hold of the coffee table, they pull

themselves up, and they're smiling, and they're excited,

and mom and dad are excited, and everybody's clapping, and look

at you, little one, you did it. You did it. You crawled across

the room and pulled yourself up. And then the little guy, little

gal, starts taking little baby steps, like shuffling around

that coffee table. And then they make it to the couch, and they

go down the Can you see it? Do you see the picture as a little

kid going around the coffee table? Everybody applauds.

Everybody is happy, especially if it's a first child, like

first children get it all by the time they get to the last my mom

said the saddest day of her life was when I came walking into the

living room. I had crawled out of my crib, and she was like, I

knew I never had another moment's rest. And she didn't

like she totally didn't. That's reality, but we celebrate that,

and we applaud those kids and as little ones, we learn. The more

we are celebrated, the more we do. We do the thing even more,

we get better, and then we learn how to play the little games,

and we make this song right, and everybody applauds. And then one

day, in the blink of an eye, you're like a teenager, and

you're like that 12, 1314, year old, and you come home and

you're so excited, and you're jumping up and down and you're

showing your parents how great you are, or maybe you hit a home

run at baseball or softball, but you did something you were

really proud of, and you were so excited, and your parents are

like, don't Be a bragger. Don't be braggadocious. Nobody likes

that. You're coming across as really uppity, like you're

better than everybody else. You're holier than now you need

to tap that down, tame that down just a little bit like nobody

likes that. So you do so you learn how to do that, and you

start backing off a little bit and a little bit more and a

little bit more, until you forget to celebrate your own

lens. And then you don't celebrate, then you start

comparing yourself to everyone else I love in Jack Canfield

training on the success principles. He really hammers

home the idea that if you have a group of people together, and

you start talking about your wins, your successes over life,

you could have a broad age range in that group. You could have

people who are just starting their careers in their early

20s, and you could have people in their 50s, 60s, or even 70s

that are like transitioning out of their careers. And how do

you, how do you celebrate successes and wins with that

broad gamut of ages? It's really simple. You pick a decade and

talk about the wins within that decade. So it could be, you say,

what are your wins from eight to 18? Or you could make it a

little smaller and say, like 15 to 18, because that's often like

high school type ages, and then everybody has an even playing

field. You're not comparing somebody who's had 30 years in

the workforce to somebody who's had four or five years in the

workforce, so he's like, celebrate those wins, celebrate

those successes. It's critical. We need to do that. The more we

push it away, the more we deny it, the less we're willing to

step into big challenges. We're just always looking for the next

thing and the next thing, but we don't celebrate what we have,

and often we don't get that next thing. We hit assembling block,

and we're like, Man, I'm a loser. I can't do that. Look at

this. It failed. Well, did it really fail? Are you a failure?

Like that? Idea may not have worked out like you thought. Uh,

but that doesn't make you a failure. You're a success.

You've been succeeding for years. Two of my biggest

successes when I was little, yep, learning how to tie my

shoes. I could not go to kindergarten if I didn't know

how to tie my shoes. They didn't have velcro shoes. Back then,

you had to learn how to tie your laces. I learned how to tie my

shoe. It was a big deal. I like told everybody in the family,

I'm the youngest Sephora, but my sisters and brother, they were

very accommodating and celebrating that I could not tie

my shoes. I could tie my shoes. My next really big one that I

remember is in second grade. I learned how to tell time. If

you've been with me a while, you've heard that story before,

but they would say, Oh, we're leaving in 10 minutes. Be ready.

I didn't know what 10 minutes was. Do I have time to play

Barbies for a while longer, or do I need to put them up right

now? Like, what's what's 10 minutes? It freaked me out. I

hated it. I learned how to tell time in second grade, not just

digital, analog. I didn't even know what digital was. It wasn't

even created back in the day. So I could tell time when I'm doing

some tech work and something doesn't work. I don't say I suck

at Tech. I say, oh, I can tell time. I bet I can figure this

out. I bet YouTube has a video on that. I bet I can go to the

chat. I have a go high level account, and there's a chat, and

I can go on that chat, and I can ask them questions, and they

help me. Someone said recently, oh, Jennifer, I met somebody who

can help you with tech. And I told him, you're not good at

tech and you really need help. And I went, why would you tell

somebody that I'm good at Tech? Sometimes, if it doesn't make

sense, I struggle. But what everybody struggles, except for

the person who put that little program together, celebrate your

wins, feel your wins and make a list of them. Like, I challenge

you right now. Like, take a minute. Do it in your phone. You

don't you don't have to find piece paper. Make a list of all

your wins. What have you done that you're really proud of, and

you may not have taken a moment to celebrate you just moved on.

Don't just move on. Celebrate it. If you didn't celebrate it

when it happened, celebrate it now. Think about how good you

felt when you accomplished that. Start feeling those feelings,

those emotions, that that thrill of the victory, and let it build

up a little bit a little bit, and take a deep breath and hold

it in and feel that excitement, that thrill that you did what

you set out to do, celebrate all the wins, both big and small,

they will help you in so many different areas of your life.

You are destined for success, and even more success than

you've even imagined. I'm your host, Jennifer Takagi, and I

look forward to connecting with you soon. You.